Daood Butt – Al Adab Al Mufrad – EP02

Daood Butt
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of being a Manager and the need for parents to be. They stress the need for parents to be considerate and safe, avoiding major sins and sin, and speaking up when facing a sinful situation. They also mention the use of Pranks and language to make fun of others and the importance of forgiveness and respect for others.
AI: Transcript ©
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My brothers and sisters in Islam,

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please excuse me for coming slightly late

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teaching a few different massages and normally just go to the mustard website just to make sure if the saw that timing was changed or not. And it actually showed on the website for less than the fact that it was at 745

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So that's a glitch in the system and proof why we should not depend on technology in somebody.

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So today, we're going to continue in Charlotte, North Carolina. And I noticed that some of our youth that are normally here and not here, and hopefully those that are out there playing basketball can come inside and listen a little bit to what we're going to be talking about. Because we're talking about parents shabat being dutiful, towards the parents, we left off last week, we were talking or discussing the responsibility upon us to be dutiful, towards our mother. And today we're going to begin with being dutiful, towards one's father. And again, for those of you that want to follow along that have a smartphone or a tablet with internet of some sort, you can just go to the website,

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su nnh.com cigna.com, forward slash at the ad A B and for those that are waiting for the book, The brother is going to give me the final details on Sunday evening in sha Allah Allah and then we'll see how we can get those books here in Shama.

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So we're at chapter three, Heidi's number five,

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chapter three, which is dutifulness. to one's father the profits, sorry, about the long run, he says that someone asked the Prophet somebody He will send them

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towards whom should I be dutiful? And then he said, Your mother, then he asked again, towards whom should I be dutiful? He said, Your mother, He then asked then towards whom he said your mother some longer and he was send them three times right. And he was asked then towards whom and then the Prophet somebody who was sent them responded, your father.

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Anyone has a

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school in Canada.

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So the profits on the loan, he will send them in this Hadeeth we noticed that he mentioned your father, after he after.

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After seeing your mother, your mother, your mother three times. Then he mentions your father, in the Hadees that we took last week the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said four times right your father after the fourth, sorry, after mentioning your mother four times, in this particular narration, which is an authentic narration by a memorable body, he says your mother, your mother, your mother three times and then your father. Here we learned the importance of being kind hearted and respectful towards our father. Now we know very well the importance of the mother. The mother carries the child. The mother, you know, goes through a lot of pain, a lot of agony, a lot of

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difficulty. The mother she's looking after the children. In most cases, she's at home cooking, cleaning, taking care of them and tending to every single need of the child. Whereas the father, he's at work, he comes home and usually he's you know, too tired and knocks out on the sofa or something of that sort. So the father, how much respect should we have for the Father, and this is where the Prophet sallallahu wasallam emphasizes the father immediately after the mother. So after a loss of cannibal Adana, being dutiful towards Allah, and after being dutiful, towards the Prophet sallallahu wasallam then after that comes the mother and immediately after the mother comes the

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father, so out of all the people on the face of the earth, the fourth most

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I shouldn't say person but after Allah subhana wa tada and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, then comes your mother and then your father. Now this is a very important point to focus on. A lot of sons when they get older, especially in the teenage years, they feel as though they now will butt heads with their father, right? Because it's a clash, or a competition for power in the house. And you'll notice that some youth when they you know, become 16 1718 years old, especially the boys, they now will argue and fight back with the Father with the mother. They're very soft and lenient, but with the Father, they're very tough and rigid. And this is because we share the same nature,

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right? We share the same nature we are individuals of the same gender and we think alike.

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We are naturally inclined towards being in charge. Right? And this is why you'll see teenage boys starting to take charge in the house, hopefully, right hopefully, and we're not seeing the opposite where, you know, they're just letting everything go. So they're taking charge or taking responsibility in a positive way. Right. And this is what we hope for. And we noticed that our time that a lot of our teenage boys have this issue that they cannot cooperate with the Father, to the extent that some

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teenage boys will not even speak to their father after you know, a certain age, they completely stopped talking to them. I know some teenage boys who stopped speaking to their parents, and now they're in their 30s, sorry, stop to stop speaking to their father, and now are in their 40s or 30s, mid 30s, nearing 40. And so Canada for 15 years, not speaking to the Father. Why? Because he thinks his way is better than his father's way. Right? actually know someone who lives in the UK, who still lives in his parents house, who's married and has a child, but doesn't speak to his father because he thinks his way is better than his father's way. And prefers his rules over his parents rules, yet

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he still lives in his parents home. Right? Which doesn't make sense. When you think of it, why are you still living at home, if you you know, you're married, you have a child, why still live there. If you want your own rules, you want your own place, you want to live by the, you know, the laws that you legislate for your own home, that's your domain and move out, get your own place, right. And this is not what we're encouraging our teenage, you know, youth to do not at all we're in we're emphasizing the importance of being obedient and dutiful, towards our parents. So the Prophet son alone, I think you ascend the mentions after the mother comes to the Father. He provides for us

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financially, in most cases, right. He takes care of your mother as well, hopefully, in most cases as well. He's also one who looks after you in terms of safety, when there's something that comes up, he will take care of you, he will rush you to the hospital when you get sick, right. And he will look after almost every single aspect and in terms of finances and security in your life. And he should also look after more. This is a mistake that most of us as fathers make is that we don't emphasize or we don't focus enough on the education of our children. We leave that up to the mother we're always too busy right? As though the mother is busy. But May Allah subhana wa tada guide us and make

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it easy for us in that sense. Let's look at the next head. These

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are the longer hand said

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a man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and asked what do you command me to do? He replied, be dutiful towards your mother. Then he asked him the same question again and he replied, be dutiful towards your mother. He repeated it yet again. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam replied, be dutiful, towards your mother. He repeated the question a fourth time, and the reply was be dutiful towards your mother. Again, we see it here four times. And then he put the question a fifth time and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Be dutiful, towards your parents to tie this in, with being dutiful, towards our parents, even at times when they are

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possibly oppressing us or doing some sort of injustice towards us. A mountable hottie follows this up with the next Hadeeth the chapter on being dutiful, towards the parents, even if they treat you unjustly. Right, even if they're treating you in the wrong way. Let's go through this and then we'll discuss them and

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even our best said, any Muslim who has Muslim parents and is dutiful to both of them seeking almost pleasure, Allah will open to gates agenda for him. For any person who is a Muslim,

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who has Muslim parents, so you are Muslim, your parents are Muslim, and you're dutiful, towards your parents, both of them, then two gates of gender are open for you. Those gates of genda are specifically assigned to the dutifulness towards one's parents. So if you listen to your parents you fulfill what they tell you to do and ask you to do is time for homework, you do your homework, right? It's time to play, they let you play. It's time for video games. If you allow them with video games, then you make sure you give them the right games, right? And so on and so forth. And so make sure that you listen to what your parents have to say. And parents, we need to also be a little bit

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more soft on our children. Sometimes Sometimes we're too harsh on them, especially when they get a little older. We start to dictate everything do this don't do that. No, yes, no. Yes. And there's no such thing as Okay. All right. They asked us for something okay. You give into it. No, it's either

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This way or the highway, right? And so it's important for us to remember as parents, that our children, they have a door to Agenda through us. Right? we flip it around here, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, or even our bass actually is saying, This is not really a statement of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he says that the two gates of gender are open for you, if your parents are Muslim, and you are Muslim. Now he's talking about giving advice to the children. But what about giving advice to the parents? Shouldn't we focus on helping our children to get to gender, and not just be so rigid on them, and make them be perfect for this world, but forget about

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training them for the hereafter. We want them to do their homework, we want them to fulfill all of the requirements for their school, we want them to make sure they attend karate class, or whatever it is that they do soccer, football, cricket, basketball, hockey, whatever sports, we want them to be the best. And we focus so much on the dunya. They've got to achieve the best of this world. And that's great. But at the same time, remember that we hold one key as the as the mother or the father, each one holds one key for agenda towards those children.

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Are we actually helping them to get to gentlemen? That's the question, what are we doing to facilitate the entrance agenda upon our children. And so when our children are being bossed around by us, remember that you can either make them be nice and gentle towards you by being nice and gentle with them. Or

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you can be extremely harsh with them, they will in return probably be as harsh or even more harsh with you. And then the doors of gentleness shut upon them. And as we continue reading, Allah will open to gates agenda for the person who is listening and their parents are Muslim and still alive.

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And of course, you have to be dutiful towards them. If there's only one parent than one gate will be opened. So as soon as one parent passes away, one of those gates is closed,

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you now have only one shot

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That's it.

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And that is of course on the condition that you're still nice towards your parents. Right.

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If you make one of them angry, then Allah will not be pleased with him until that parent is pleased with him. Now this ties in with the Hadith we covered last week,

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where a parent is pleased with their child therefore Allah is pleased with that child as well. And in order to seek the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala. All we need to do is be dutiful and nice and pleasant towards our parents. Of course, we need to do the other aspects of the deen as well like, fulfill our salah and cm and so on and so forth. But the importance of being dutiful, towards our parents earns us the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala. He then continues to say even our boss was asked, even if they treat him unjustly, he responds and says, even if they treat him unjustly. Now what does it mean for a parent to treat a child unjustly and yet to still fulfill the rights of

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the parents upon the child? Who can give us an example? The parents are now treating their children? unjust. They're not doing justice towards a meeting. Let's just say I don't want to give you the example. But I think I'm going to have to, right, let's just say your parents asked you, instead of going to the masjid tonight.

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Go to the club because there's Muslims there that you can give Dawa to

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right? Go to the club, because there's Muslims there that you can give down to. So what would you do? What do your parents tell you to do? They tell you to do something that is mixed with.

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It's mixed with goodness. Doing Darrow is great. I've been married. When the here and in one car, stopping people in places where evil is happening and inviting them calling them towards goodness. So it's mixed up. You're doing goodness in a place of evil in a place where you are probably going to be very much affected and influence.

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Or you can come to the masjid and pray salata, Leticia and sit for a haircut and then go back to your parents. What's better? What do you guys think?

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What's better,

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listening to your parents. So listen to your parents, go to the club and give that one to your friends.

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Yes, okay. It's a it's a guess I would say it's a good guess. Yeah.

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Go to the masjid Okay, good. Mashallah, why?

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You would pray. But when you go to the masjid, you're not doing what your parents asked you to do.

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So what? Why did you say go to the mustard?

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You're right. You're absolutely right. You should go to the masjid and pray you're a chef. Because you can you can do a number of things here. You can go to the masjid yet. Let's hear what you have to say.

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You go to the masjid so you do okay, so you choose that option to right? Go to the mustard? Mashallah, yes?

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Right? That's actually a very good, that's a good answer. That's what I was gonna say.

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You first of all have the option of either going to one or the other. Your second option is you go to the muster, you tend to halaqa. And the clubs open very late. But the question is, should you go to the club in the first place, your parents are asking you to do something that's unjust. And here we give the example of going to a club. Right? First of all, they're asking you to do something that goes against your deed going into a place that is not good for you. So you shouldn't do that. Right? You shouldn't do it. And being dutiful towards your parents, is to not listen to them at times where they ask you to go against what is liked by a loss of cowboy dad, but not to listen to them with

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respect. So you speak to them and tell them or you say, you know what, guess what, I came to the masjid, I prayed. And I listened to the halaqa. And I learned about parents and I came home and I realized, I think I did the right thing. And I shouldn't listen to you and go to that club. Because it's dangerous. It's not good. For me, it's home, there's bad things that are happening there. People are drinking and dancing, and so on and so forth. So therefore, I came home, but I came home with the medium, Double, double, I know you like coffee. So you bring them something nice, right? You treat them with something that they're going to be happy with. And therefore you bring them some

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sort of gifts, and they realize some kind of law, this was good, this was great. You did something that they didn't really want you to do. But you followed it up with some sort of goodness. So they became happy. And we'll look at how being unjust can sometimes mean? Sorry, asking the children to do something that is unjust can sometimes means to just respect what they say, and be humble and have humility in front of them. So some of you could probably think of other examples of how parents would ask us to do things that is unjust, for example, taking a mortgage, right? Or cheating, or, you know, doing something that you shouldn't really be doing now, I know I mentioned mortgage, I was

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thinking What does he mean by that? Right? Well, you know what I mean by that, and you know what I mean by that, especially if you're in a situation where you know, you can find an alternative then you know that is that is what's better. And so if your parents asked you to do something that is disliked by a loss of Hannah who attacked it, but you feel that in order for you to be dutiful towards them, you have to do that that's wrong. You have to respect them in the nicest way. Explain it to them, go and learn about the deen to bring it back to them if you need to. Right talk to them have constant conversation with your parents and we fail to do this when we get older. Like we said

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we tend to butt heads I think my way is better they think they're always better The best thing is just don't talk everything's gonna go away if we don't talk right and that's usually not the case. The next idea is is on kind words to parents saying nice things to parents and this is a very interesting Heidi's because it touches a lot of different points.

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Based on even my Yes, he said I was with the the nudge dates that nudge these right. The whole adage the followers of Mensa in Ireland when they committed wrong actions which I which I was supposed to or I assumed that these were major sins. I then mentioned so bass Allah He mentioned this to even Norma right the son of Ramadan.

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The alarm, he inquired What are these actions? So based on I thought he did certain things that were major sins, right? And he comes to me Norma and he tells him in aroma that you know what i was wisdom and I did major sins, even aroma. He asks him He says, What are these things that you did? Right? What exactly do you consider to be a major sin? He mentions them to him in Arma. Right? He says I did such and such and then add them up.

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Even our letter he states, these are not major since these are not major since there are nine major sins He says, right? These are things that he learned from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he says there are nine major sins, and they are first associating partners with a less accountable mentality. Now all of this ties in with being dutiful, towards our parents, right? The first one he mentions is associating things with a loss of time. So when a parent asks you to associate a partner with muscle candlelit, Allah asks you to, for example, do something that you know is shipped, right? Or to, you know, let's say ask someone who is hanging on a picture on the wall, ask him for help,

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right? He's going to help you make do I ask him, he's not going to help. So if your parents asked you to do that, then that is wrong. That is not being dutiful towards your parents, and that is displeasing towards the loss of Hannibal, what's the next major sin he mentions is killing someone to kill someone is considered a major sin. We know that a loss of * with eyelid speaks about this in the Koran, woman Pantera level, Amina Mohammed and

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Dena Fie. Whoever kills a believer intentionally. their destiny is janome Connie Dena Thea, that's a believer. Allah subhanho wa Taala also mentions when a person kills another person, it's as though they've killed all of humanity.

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When a person kills another person, unjustly for no reason, they're innocent. It's as though they killed all of humanity. And this is important for us to focus on. Because today we're seeing people and we read it in the news almost every single day where a Canadian or someone from you know, Canada has left to go to Turkey to enter into Syria and so on and so forth. And to you know, fight with

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we ask Allah subhana wa tada to protect our children.

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This is something that is serious and severe. Don't think that you can just take the deen into your hands. Allah subhana wa Jalla has legislated the shediac and to kill someone innocently for absolutely no reason going into their lands, going into their homes, taking them out and just killing them. Unless paired with Allah says that this is like killing all of mankind. And it is one of the major sins

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even Arma. He then says the third thing is desertion from the army when it is advancing. Now when the Sahaba when the companions and when there's a battle, when you're in the battle lines, and you're moving forward, if you get scared and you run back, this is considered one of the major sins now we're not in jihad. We're not on the battlefield. We're sitting in the budget. We're in a part of the world where there is no battle taking place. It is not legislated upon us. No mmm around the world from understood no agenda has legislated that there's a battle taking place for us. So this doesn't apply to us right at this point in time.

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The next major sin he speaks about is slandering a chaste woman. What does this mean? This means to falsely accuse someone who is actually protecting herself, someone who has not committed any sins, but to falsely accuse her of actually doing something with a person. This is considered a major sin. And it's a problem that we see in society today. It's a problem because at times where people want to go and get married, they say, Oh, you and you know, so and so person from college, we used to see you together all the time. What did you do with each other? Right? And you're scared to, you know, you're interested in finding out the history of this person, right? Because you're scared to marry

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off your child. to her. This is wrong. We don't falsely accuse someone of doing something. If there's proof that's different. If we assume then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi. wasallam taught us that the majority of assumptions are nothing but lies. The majority of assumptions are nothing but lies as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, The next major sin that even Norma mentions is

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usury. What is usury? usury. If you go to the typical, you know, dictionary, it'll tell you to charge excessive amounts of interest.

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But in a snap, are we allowed to charge minimal amounts of interest? No. So usury itself is charging interest or charging fees that are way too

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too high, for absolutely no reason.

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And this can also be applied to an example that I remember from the companions, the lives of the companions on the lower end home, when they sometimes would go to buy dates in the market. And they would see that some of the dates were priced a little bit too high. Or what some people would do is take fresh dates from this season, and put them on the top of the barrels or on the top of, you know, the containers that they were selling the dates with. And underneath those dates would be dates from like last year, or maybe even the year before from the previous season. And the price on it would be extremely high. And when people would inquire about it, like Oh, these are really fresh,

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fresh dates. And so you think, you know, if it's really expensive, I must be getting what I'm paying for, right? And so you buy it, and then they would realize just underneath it, these are dates from the previous season. And at times where, for example, a normative Nepali was the halifa. And he had a female, a female companion going and checking, who was doing what in the markets and making sure that someone was not cheating someone else. This also applies to users. So charging abundant amounts, and sadly, today, we see this also, we buy a package of dates, the dates on the top look good. You take the first date on off the top and right underneath it like whoa, some of that really

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small, dried up old date, right. And so charging abundant amounts for things that are not really priced at that. So for example, the new iPhones, right.

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I don't want to make it any sort of fun to on the iPhone. So we're gonna leave that one aside. Right? supply and demand, sometimes we notice that the price will go up. I remember at the beginning of winter, where the carwash price, a typical gas station was let's just say 499. For the basic carwash, all of a sudden, it's winter, everyone's cars are dirty, the price should naturally go down, because there's more people washing their cars. So the company is going to make more money, but the price goes up. Why? Because supply and demand, we know that everyone is going to be washing their cars. So let's put the price up. They're going to be forced to wash their car anyways, they're

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Washington more in winter than in summer. So hey, why not charge more, we'll make more money. That's wrong. That is wrong. We're not allowed to do that. Okay.

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The next major sin that he mentions is consuming an orphans property. Now, sometimes orphans have wealth that maybe they inherited from their families that passed away, especially the father, right? It is not permissible for us to consume anything from that orphan. Unless they give it to someone.

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If they give it to someone that's different, if you're taking it so you're looking after, let's just say a niece or a nephew of yours, who you know, their parents passed away. So now they're under your care, but you take them home, you sell it and you use that money. No. You have to maintain that and look after it for them. That is theirs. It's their property. Just because they're not mature yet doesn't mean that that is no in your custody. You can take it and use it how you want no, it's still theirs. You are responsible for maintaining it for them, when they become of the age where they can buy and sell and trade and give it to you if they want. That's a completely different story. And

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that is permissible.

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The next one heresy in the sacred mosque. So heresy in must have that how long? What is heresy. Basically, here what is mentioned, is to promotes or to encourage a belief other than the typical orthodox doctrine, which is the Shetty app, right? To believe in the loss of cottonwoods Ireland, the way that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam delivered it to us. So it's now all of a sudden someone wants to go and teach a different type of Islam inside mustard O'Hara, this is a major sin. This is a major sin. Right?

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The next point that he makes is scoffing at listeners to mock or belittle and also the scholar saying this point to make fun of another Muslim.

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Imagine that to make fun of another Muslim. What do we see on YouTube today? videos that are circulating like crazy. What are they called pranks, pranks and use love to watch them. Their friend is sleeping they go and dump a big bucket of water on top of them and scare them in the middle of the night. Where they lay a firecracker right next to their bed. Oh, you know they jump out of bed or you know they walk through the door.

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A big bucket of flour on top and as soon as they walk through a dumps on them, this is making fun of or belittling someone else. In fact, in another Hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam spoke about this, you're not allowed to make tricks or play tricks on another person. And so to belittle or make fun of another Muslim is considered and major sin.

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To not only do pranks, but to speak about them in a way where you're putting them down. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam encouraged us to maintain the level of respect than another Muslim deserves to speak about them nicely, to elevate them in status when is needed. And to talk and say goodness about others, if you have something to say, if not, Zoo remain quiet. That's what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam encouraged us to do, right? When can you will be allowed to mill acid, valuable high on out miasma.

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If you believe in the, in the Hereafter, in the Day of Judgment, and Allah subhanho wa Taala, then say something which is good, or stay quiet, don't say anything. And to make fun of another Muslim to say, Oh, you know, look at him, you know, joking around talking about others. And this is a trap that some comedians fall into, even though comedy is a very, very shady area, right. But some comedians, you know, they love to make money off, putting down other people, talking about others, putting them down.

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And this is something that is not permissible in Islam. And the last point that he makes, which is a very important point for us, is causing one's parents to weep through disobedience. That is a major sin when your parents cry, because they're upset with you, because you did something that displeased them that went against what they wished for us, is a major sin, a major sin? Now ask yourself growing up, Has this ever happened to you? Right? Have you ever been outside playing with your bicycle? Or, you know, you went out with your friends and came back late at night? And your parents were crying, thinking, you know what, something is wrong? Maybe they're lost? Maybe they got hurt.

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Where are they? And probably at that time, there was no cell phones, right? And they're completely completely, you know, lost in their mind. Sometimes they might even call the police and report you missing, even though you've probably been gone two hours at the time, they asked you to come up, and they start to cry. Because they're sad, and they're upset.

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Because we've done something that they did not want from us. That is a major sin. Then even Obama, he says,

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Do you fear the fire? Do you want to enter paradise? So he asks a yes, by Sunnah. He says, Do you fear the fire? Do you want to enter paradise? Obviously, he says by Allah. Yes, of course. Who doesn't want to enter paradise? Who would want to go to jhana? We fear the fire. Do we want to go to Paradise? He asked, Are your parents still alive? So even erlin asks, Who are your parents still alive? I replied, My mother is he said by Allah. Right? He says by a lot. If you speak kindly to her, and you feed her, then you will definitely enter the paradise as long as you avoid the major sins. Look how beautiful it is. He mentions nine major sins. And then at the very end, he says being

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dutiful towards your parents, right is very important. If you do that, and you avoid the major sins, Paradise is for you.

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And this is the teachings of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. We learned from this Hadees the importance of keeping company of good people, people of the Sunda right people who will encourage us to learn and be better and to also teach us about the Shetty. I teach us about the oneness of Allah subhanho wa Taala. In this hadith we also learn

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that sins are not entirely the same category. So there are major sins there are minor sins. Let me ask you, a person who prays his five times a day, we know that Salah is a purification from our sins, right? You pray fudger you praise the home, whatever you did between flagellin

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is forgiven. But are the major sins forgiven are the minor sins, the minor sins, when we fast for example, on Yom olahraga or Ashu at all, is that the forgiveness of the major sins or the minor sins?

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The minor sins right? When a person goes for on the road and then he goes for another O'Meara Aveda larhonda whether Amara is forgiveness between Ramadan organized forgiveness between halogen hedges forgiveness between July and July is forgiveness so many times throughout our life at many different stages along with Anna offers us literally on a platter here take forgiveness, go for forgiveness, go for forgiveness, go for forgiveness, go for drama and drama forgiveness, go for oma and then Romanoff forgiveness, go for Hajj and Hajj forgiveness. All of these times is forgiveness for us.

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But it's forgiveness from the minor sins. What about the major sins? What do we do? The major sins requires Toba? The minor sins also could require Toba right? But so far is what is used to get rid of the the the minor sins that are on our book of deeds. So when we commit a minor sin, it's written down. When we make it so far, Allah subhana wa tada removes the minor sin and places a good deed in our book. But when we commit a big sin, we have to make Toba for that we have to make Toba for the major sense, it is important that we do that. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam emphasized it and will see it in many other instances as well. The third thing that we learned from this

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Hadeeth above and beyond all the other, you know, stuff that we touch upon one of the meanings of the expression Yes, Deus

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Yes, that's true in Arabic we see this when it is referring to a lady Yes, that's Pharaoh, one who scoffs other Muslims, one who makes fun of other Muslims. This word is it also means to burden people and to make them do a job without pain.

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To make someone do a job without pain, and the son of the prophets of Allah Allah, He will send them Sallam was to pay someone before the sweat dried up from the work that they did. So as soon as they finish.

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As soon as they finished pay them, someone tells you, you know what I'm going to give you $1,000 to clean the snow all around the masjid. As soon as they finish doing it, pay them. You don't have to pay them before that because they didn't finish the job yet. But as soon as they finish you pay them. And this goes to show us the importance of keeping our word. If you say you're going to do something, do it. So this word also means to burden other people and make them do a job for you without actually paying them. We also learn from this Hades, the permissibility of swearing or taking an oath by Allah subhanho wa Taala or With the name of Allah subhanho wa Taala without

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actually being asked to do this. So we noticed that even if he does that, in his statement, he says by a law right he says why he by a lot if you speak kindly to your mother and you feed her, then you will definitely enter Paradise as long as you avoid the major sentence. We also see in this hadith as long as one abstains from the major sins, speaking kindly to parents and feeding them is surely a means to attain admission to paradise of course with the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala

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still a little bit of time to chat a lot I know we'll take another headache.

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In the next Hadith erwan commented on the verse of the Quran where Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah says in Surah Al Islam verse number 24 was filled lahoma Jenna has the Lima Lima, Allah subhanho wa Taala says in the Quran, lower the wing of humility to them to your parents out of mercy. He states or he comments about this verse, he says it means do not refuse them anything that they love. Remember, we said Bring your father at Tim Hortons coffee. Don't refuse them something that they love. If they ask you for something, try your best to fulfill that. go out of your way to give them what they love. Because Allah Subhana Allah Allah says in the Quran, lower your ring of mercy of

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humility upon them with mercy, right? To show them humility to go out of your way to help them and get them by them do things for them that they love. This is showing obedience towards our parents. The exemption of course to this is when our parents ask us to do something that goes against the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala or goes against the permissibility is that Allah subhanho wa Taala have set forth for us in our study on the next chapter repaying our parents and we will take one Hadith from this inshallah Tad

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repaying our parents out of the Aloma I'm said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, a child cannot repay his father unless he finds him as a slave and then buys him and sets him free.

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Now you know when the Hadees talks about, Who should we be dutiful, towards after Allah and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says your mother, your mother, your mother, and in some narrations, your mother and then your father. And, you know, people focus on Oh, you know what, we need to be so dutiful, towards our mother and the father, any house? No big deal, right?

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Do whatever until we get mature. And then you know, I'm a man now. Can't tell me what to do? No, here the prophets on the law, I think he was sent them says this is actually a statement of the Prophet sallallahu. It said, I'm not one of the companions, I will write off the alarm and says, and I'll read it again, that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, a child cannot repay his father, unless he finds him as a slave. And he then buys him and sets him free.

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Imagine that.

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How many of us would find our parents as a slave? especially in today's time, there's no way slavery as some people state doesn't exist anymore.

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Right? slavery doesn't exist and slavery of courses of different types. the slavery of Islam was completely different people ask, you know what, why is it that Islam allowed slavery when slavery is bad. And I say slavery that was allowed in Islam is not the slavery that we saw happening and taking place to the blacks recently here in North America.

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slavery in Assam was there your servant, they work for you very similar to a maid. And in fact, the son of the Prophet son alone, or the US alum, in teaching his companions, how to deal with those that were slaves of theirs was that they were the same clothing that you wear, and they eat the same food that you eat. So you know, when you cook a nice fancy meal in your home, you give that also to your slave or servant or mate.

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And when you wear your nice Armani suits, well, they would be wearing the same thing as well. That is justice citizen. Yes, they're working for you. But you're paying for those services. They're helping you and you're treating them nicely as well. So no, we're not throwing them in the back of the bus. We're not telling them they have no place in society. And let's look at the explanation of this.

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In the commentary of this Hadith,

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it's as if the slave is non existent. When a person is a slave, especially in more modern times, or outside of Islam, a slave was as though this person was non existent. If they died, no one cared. If they, you know, needed something done, or you know, go and fight that person, they would send them to fight if you die, big deal, or just buy another one. No big deal. It's as though they were non existent. Now remember,

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it's as if the slave is non existent. And that by his freedom, he comes into existence. So by setting a slave free, you now make him someone who exists in society. So purchasing that slave, you set him free, you've given him a life, technically, right? The same thing applies in the explanation of this Hadeeth. It's as though you as a child didn't exist. And your father, obviously was your mother brought you into this world and made you exist. And so for you, to repay them, you would have to bring their existence back, which is almost impossible, near impossible, we can say it is impossible, right? And this is where the profits of a lot of us, Adam teaches us the importance of

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being obedient to the Father, right, that if we were to try and repay him, we would have to literally buy him out of slavery and set him free. And that is not possible. We ask Allah Subhana was added to make it easy for us to learn from the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, as well as the statements of the companions of the lover and who were righteous, well educated individuals from none other than our beloved messengers of love.

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And we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make it easy for us to implement the son of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam in our lives. amenia open alameen wa sallahu wa salam o balconette abena Mohammed Laila Adios, adios

Weekly Halaqa – Episode 02.

Adab al Mufrad is a hadith book compiled by Imam Muhammad ibn Ismail al Bukhari. It contains 1,322 ahadith.
The book is about the manners of Prophet Muhammad SAWS.

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