Seven Arrows For Capturing Hearts
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The salallaks in Islam are essential, including capturing people's hearts and showing respect. Being mindful of one's actions, listening to others' words and actions, and being gentle with people. The negative impact of social media on people's mental health and well-being, including racism and fear, is emphasized. Work towards one's own mental health and avoiding negative behavior is also emphasized.AI Generated Transcript ©
Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala de Menil at milania lm and batha hula hula mattone alameen Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi h nine. All praise is due to Allah. And may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon our beloved prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the pianovers who follow his footsteps to follow His guidance to follow his Sunnah his way until the last day.
Prospective brothers and sisters in Islam salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
Today inshallah Medina's lecture is entitled seven arrows to capturing hearts seven arrows to capturing the hearts of others. Now,
Allah subhana wa tada Allah in the Quran says, woman accendo Colin manda Illa Allah He will amin assign the Han were Pilar in many million Muslim in
what what's better is there in speech man as a new Poland. Woman as a new Poland. Poland is speech. Manda Illa Allah then the speech of calling others to Allah, calling others to the religion of Allah subhanho wa Taala to the teachings of Allah subhanho wa Taala and that of his prophets
women accendo Colin min manda ilahi why Mila finally Ha. It's not sufficient that you only
invite people with your words, but that you also invite with your actions that you yourself translate the theory that you learn and the theory that you are calling to into a reality into a happy woman accendo colon Minh manda in AlLahi wa rahmatullah. We're Amina. I'm an I'm sorry, why Mila Sonia and the one who does righteous deeds, I'm a silent is a righteous
Well, I mean I find it
worthwhile in any minute muslimeen and the one who says I am from amongst the Muslims, I am from amongst the Muslims. So calling people and inviting people to Allah subhanho wa Taala is the best speech that a Muslim can engage in.
However, there are strategies, there are ways there are techniques in doing dour and inviting people to the way of Allah subhana wa ala and his Deen.
That one is not done haphazardly, if it's not done in a disorganized way.
And the best example for us to learn how to give Dawa is of course none other than prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam
now prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his Dawa was for a span of 23 years. He became a prophet at the age of 40. He died at the age of 63. In 23 years of calling people to Islam of cold calling people to Allah subhanho wa Taala. He captured the hearts of many, many 1000s of people when he stood on the mountain of artifacts, when he stood on jabiru artifacts during the farewell pilgrimage, giving the farewell sermon to whatever
he had in front of him over 100,000 Muslims over 100,000 Muslims through 23 years of Dawa. So we need to ask ourselves what other techniques that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam applied? How did he win over the hearts of people? How can we penetrate the hearts of people? You see, when you capture people's hearts, there's a lot of there's a lot to gain.
When you capture people's hearts.
What happens is it earns you respect and in return you'll be happier. So also there are when you capture somebody's heart. They are ready now to listen to you. They are ready to listen to you. However, if their heart is put off you anything you say may not be registered because they had and this is the heart as you know is really the main organ of the body, both spiritually and fit
Basically, so this is why we need to be able to penetrate hearts and the minds and captivate people. So, your skills of dealing your skills of dealing with others, determine how they will deal with you. How you deal with someone determines how they are going to reciprocate, how they are going to deal with you.
Now, again,
I encourage you to read about the seerah of the Prophet salallahu idea he was selling the biography of Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. There are many books that have been written about the spirit of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam, one of the most comprehensive books and a prize winner. A Prize winner is a book that is called a raw SQL must tune
the sealed nichter by an mobarak Puri, so this author, he did a fantastic job writing about the biography of Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
He has a watered down version of this book, which is called when the moon split, because of the sealed neck that could be quite challenging, especially in the first few chapters to read. But he has another book. And that is when the moon split. Now again, there are many, many books about the Sierra, the biography of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
Now, so it is encouraged to read about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, and to learn about how he managed to capture and win over the hearts of people. Now there isn't another book that I want to mention, in passing. And this is a book
that is called the 100, a ranking of the most influential persons in history. And the author of this book, his name is Michael Hart, Michael Hart. Now Michael Hall is a non Muslim. And in 1978, he compiled the book, this book, this publication, and he listed 100, of the most influential people of history.
And this author, Michael,
he earned a PhD in astrophysics. And he also holds graduate degrees in physics and astronomy, and computer science as well as a law degree.
He was a research scientist at NASA, before leaving to be a professor of physics at a university in Texas. So, this man is not your average, you know, Joe Blow, as they say.
He wrote,
and he listed the 100 Most Influential People in history. And in this list, he included the likes of Jesus, he sallallahu sallam, and he placed a set in the 100. He placed he placed him. Third, he also had
Sir Isaac Newton, he placed him second, he had
the Gautama Buddha, Confucius, Albert Einstein, he had all these people that he considered to be very influential
of all these people. One of them was Mohammed, our beloved Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu, alayhi wasallam. And which number was Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam? You guessed he was number one. He was the most he listed him as the number one most influential persons of history alone.
Listen to what he said. I've just taken a snippet. And he says, My choice of Mohamed Swaziland to lead the list of the world's most influential persons may surprise some readers and may be questioned by others.
But he was the only man in history who was supremely successful on both the religious and secular levels.
Mohammed Salim, when you look at his biography, he was successful. He was amazing. He was a pioneer when it came to many, many areas. Whether he was we look at the process of selling as a father, as a husband, as a friend. As a leader. He was amazing in every
position that he held.
So,
Mohammed Swaziland really is the best place to start to look at his example, His way known as the Sunnah, to see how he captured the hearts of people. Now normally when a person dies, that's it, you know, it's there aren't really they're the remnants of a person that used to be alive after his death in the heart
will diminish, will, will fade away sooner or later.
They become when a person dies, that's it, his name is pretty much dead.
But what's interesting about the Prophet Mohammed saw Selim, although his physical being is dead, he's he has died and his deceased sallallahu alayhi wasallam. However, he remains to be alive in the hearts of so many people. He's alive in our hearts. We continue to remember him in the way we talk in the way we pray and the way they perform Hajj in the way we do so many things in our lives. We It is as if he is still alive amongst us in the way that we mimic him. There is no there is probably nobody in recorded history that has the by a detailed biography, as has the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam so much so that they counted the number of gray hairs that he had in his
beat, how he, how he did things, he used his right hand for this he use his left hand for this he he entered with his right foot and he left with his left foot he combed his hair starting from the right hand side, he drank in three sips he spent a lot how he The man is going to the toilet. So many details about this man sallallahu alayhi wa sallam known as Mohammed bin Abdullah alayhi salatu wa sallam.
So, again, let us read the Sierra Let us read the biography of Muhammad SAW Salah Let's share the Syrah with our children so that they can also mimic and follow in his example. Now, there have been many books written
about how to make people like you there was one book how with this very title, how to make people like you this is written by bluesmen okay. And what is interesting about these books that I have
had a look through some in passing some in a bit more detail is so Pamela you will always find elements of the sinner elements of the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad wa sallam within these contemporary books. So books that are written any some many years after the death of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
now,
so let's try inshallah huhtala. I want to share with you only seven I want to share with you seven ways seven arrows
that aim and land directly on the heart. And there are sure fire arrows
that to win people's hearts over inshallah hoteller why seven? Will seven is one of those numbers that Islam promotes, you know, it's an odd number. And Allah subhanaw taala is one it's an odd number almost pantalla is one.
If we look at similarities, five if we look at the five pillars of Islam, if we look at Subhanallah
this odd number, the odd number in Islam is favored. Okay. And the number seven is also one that is often repeated seven times around the Kaaba seven times between Safa and Marwa the seven heavens okay.
So, it is one of those numbers that is mentioned. So today inshallah I just want to share with you seven, seven errors in sha Allah, Allah to Allah and there are many many ways of capturing people's hearts and minds and making them like you and making them listen to you and making them respect you. But inshallah hota Allah, if you can remember these seven, then this will be inshallah of great benefit to you and it is said that, you know, if you for example, 70 something seven items or seven pieces of information is quite easy to recall. You know, one study shows that if you had several items, if you had if you covered,
say 20 items, if you had 20 items in front of you and you covered them with a cloth, and then you and then you uncovered them and gave a person you know, so many seconds to recall as many of them and then cover them they'll be able to recall about seven easily. So
This is probably one of the reasons why I chose seven. Maybe also because of the time that that allows us inshallah hotellet. Let's go to number one, the first arrow.
The first arrow is having a strong connection with Allah Subhana hutan.
The stronger your connection is with Allah azza wa jal, the stronger your connection will be with other people.
And this is something that we read in a hadith found in Sahih Bukhari in this Hadith, the prophet of Allah wanting he was Selim, he said, either a habibollah with the island
netta jabril. In Allah tala you hit bufalin. And for hibou. Of
that, if Allah subhanho wa Taala he loves a servant of his, he calls jabril jabril is the great Angel Gabriel. He calls Jubilee. And he says, I love so and so.
Allah says, I love such and such, therefore love him for your Hippo who jabril gibreel loves him gibreel loves a person
for you know the Family Center. And then jabril calls out to the inhabitants to the angels who are in the heavens, this summer, in the law, how you hit bufalin and boo, Allah loves such and such. Allah subhanho wa Taala loves such and such. So love him. So love him for you hibou and the center and so the inhabitants of the center of the heavens I also love him and he mentioned now Allah loves you God loves you. The all the angels love you.
For you though love will cupola fill out and then
and then there is acceptance is established for him on the earth. acceptance is established for him on the earth. We're either Ababa. Now the opposite Allah Subhana Allah says we're either Abdullah Abdullah and Daya gibreel. If Allah hate somebody,
if Allah abhors somebody, he calls out to jabril he says in the obrigado foolin I hate who I abhor such and such. For a believer who said hate him for your blue jabril Sergey Brin hates him from my unity if you're early summer, when he calls out to the inhabitants of the heaven in aloha up to falana for Abu abu allah hates such and such so hate him.
For you to who and to summer summer tuba Hola. Hola, Baba after summer. And so the inhabitants of the summer of the heavens hate him. And there is hatred also for him,
established in the in the inhabitants of the heavens. So we learn from this Hadith, that when people when people are attracted to someone, this someone may well be one person who Allah subhanho wa Taala is pleased with, for Allah subhanho wa Taala loves. So this is why we need to have a strong connection with Allah subhanho wa Taala. So that already people are ready to, to accept what we say, and to like us and to respect us. So this strong connection with our Creator, with Allah with God Almighty, how does it happen? It happens by obeying His commands, by keeping away from the prohibitions, the limits that he has set. And in one Hadith, it's a hadith could see, it's a hadith
could see, whereby Allah whereby God Almighty, He says in the Hadith, he says, My servant draws not need to meet with anything more loved by me than the religious duties that I have enjoined upon him. So you cannot get close to Allah subhanho wa Taala by any way, except by the ways that he has enjoined upon us such as what such as the solar, such as the zakka, such as the hedge, anything that he has enjoined. If we fulfill those duties, these are the most beloved of duties to Allah subhanho wa Taala, the fall of the wedge of those things which our last panel with the island he mandated and he made obligatory, this is what Allah our Creator wants from us and He will love us and he goes on
and
He says, and my servant continues to donate to me with supererogatory in other words, the extra work so that I shall love him. So now Allah, Allah loves those duties that are obligatory and a person continues to draw nearer to Allah can continues to draw need to God Almighty through the optional actions through the sun. So you want to you want to draw nearer to us power dialer. Then you start to follow this when you start to do those, those additional things you know the sun never before fidget spinner before and after the horn, Aftermath ribbon after a shower and night prayers and fasting Mondays and Thursdays and Amara and giving sadaqa. You see by doing those actions, you are
drawing nearer to Allah subhana wa tada
and what happens when Allah Subhanallah loves you? And what happens when you draw nearer to Allah, the Almighty Allah subhanho wa Taala says, in this very Hadith, this hadith could see, he says, and when I love him, I am his hearing with which he he's with Allah loves you, you hear beautiful things. And he's seeing which he with which he sees and his hand with which he strikes and his foot with which he walks. And when he asks, when he asked something of me, I would surely give it to him. And we're here and we're here to ask me for refuge, I would surely grant him it. How are these things going to happen by doing the things that Allah subhana wa tada loves, by drawing nearer to
Allah subhana wa Tada. So, my dear brothers and sisters, in Islam, the hearts of others, the hearts of people, are between the fingers of Allah.
Allah subhanho wa Taala is the one who changes hearts. Allah is the one who changes the hearts of people. So therefore, we have to understand if we have a strong connection with Allah, and we ask Allah azza wa jal, he can change the decision of someone towards you, or the attitude of somebody towards you.
So we need to remember inshallah, who dialer to maintain that strong connection with a loss of power dialer. And this is the strongest error of winning people's hearts, to straight stay connected with Allah subhanho wa Taala. And to be sincere, to have a plus to have you Plus, you see what you have that sincerity, and you do those actions for the sake of Allah, then this is what enters the hearts. Because as the saying goes,
what, what emanates, what comes out from the heart, penetrates the heart, and what comes out of the mouth, doesn't go past the ears. So when you speak words from the heart, and you do something from your heart, it will enter the hearts. But if you just saying it's just words, it's not from your heart, there's no real sincerity, then it doesn't penetrate, what happens it goes through one ear and out the next doesn't get digested and into the heart. It's very important, this notion, this element of class of sincerity, very important in Islam, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in an urban yet that actions are based upon intentions. And the more Yani, the stronger your
intention, and the stronger your sincerity, the better the product, the better, the better inshallah huhtala the fruit will be. So we'll move on and shallow data to the second powerful, another very powerful and magnetic way of capturing hearts. The second arrow is
a smile. The second arrow is the smile. You might be thinking, well, really, that's an error. Is that really powerful stuff? Well, guess what it is. Okay, if you think about the people that you look up to, or people that you have listened to, they're not people who are frowning and all the time and always pessimistic and always, you know, they have a smile on their face. And the smile is very, very strong. And it is something you know, Subhanallah one saying goes, a smile is a curve that sets many things straight. That sets many things straight. And when we talk about smiling, yes, you could include it. What's included here is to have a bit of a sense of humor. The prophet SAW
Selim, he had a sense of humor, and we see the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
possessing a sense of humor in many different situations, okay. Now, of course, it's not about excessive laughter. This is something that is in Islam. Islam is always about moderation. So if we think about laughter, laughter should be lying.
like salt is the ultimate said, like salt, salt in food if there's too much salt it corrupts it. If there's too little salt, there's no flavor. Likewise, the human being the human being, he shouldn't be laughing excessively, because excessive laughter kills off the heart. And you should not be too dry and too firm all the time and too rigid. Hmm. There is no, no
complacency or when I say complacency, I'm not talking about being complacent when it comes to the teachings of Islam, but just in your attitude in the way you deal with people. So, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
He said, to pursue McAfee, what he asked he casada he said, when we think about Southern charity sadaqa isn't limited to just the change or the dollars or the notes that you have in your pocket, or in your bank account, okay, or that you have hidden away. silica is also when you smile in the face of your brother or your sister in Islam. This is a form of silica. So when you are shortchanged, and you can give the materialistic for the cup, the sadhaka of wealth for the sake of all they can always a smile in your brother in your sister's face. This is a charitable deed in Islam, it is a saga and it gives off a positive, you know, an optimistic signal. And
also we find, for example of the Lionel hateth.
He tells us about the prophesize lm of the love that had if he describes the process lm and he says that he has never seen someone smile at the others face, as the Prophet Muhammad SAW Salah needs to do, he spoke about how the process was always, you know, had a smile on his face. This is the way of the Prophet Mohammed cisilion any even in the face of an enemy.
And in one Hadees process lm said will lie in Lenovo Shafi will do he acquirement wakulla una de la know whom he said, we smile. He said, we smile in the face of some people over our hearts may be cursing them.
Here they were at enmity with us. They are speaking about us attacking us. He will still display a smile. He will still display a smile once the loved one
mentions. A man can't she says A man came to visit us. He says A man came to visit us
and to my surprise what's the proper size tell him he saw him. When the process lm saw him. He said oh they're ill mannered men. There is that ill mannered men. But when the proper size but the prophet SAW Selim, when he sat with him, he changed the process. Alan, he will come the man who warmly he was smiling. And then when he left
I saw the love on her she asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam about what had surprised her and how the posts I sell him he considered him this meant to be a bad man and how he talked to him in such a warm way. And he said
he said to her Yeah, Isha Mehta, I hit tahini fashion. It actually said to her, when have you known me to be ill mannered? When have you known me to be ill met a Muslim is not one who has bad manners. You know, the professor psyllium said in birth to the autumn Mima macadam on a flat that I have been commissioned, that I have been sent to perfect, good moral character. So this is how the Muslim is. And
he said in the short run ESEA in the La humanzee, Latin that the ones who have the worst position the worst degrees in the sight of Allah subhanaw taala on the Day of Judgment, yo PMS mentor, aka Vanessa Lika, Akashi. The worst of people are those, those people that people flee from that people flee from him, because of his bad conduct, because of his bad treatment towards others. On the day of judgment, this person will have a very bad position. So if those people who you know those ones who they repulse others people just flee away from them,
they will be in like the worst position on the Day of Judgment. It's very important to always be simple to always be easy going with the people in Sharla. Therefore, mistreatment of others and causing others to desert you weren't a terrible position on
The dove judgment. And so the prophet SAW Selim he commanded a saying we're best Shirou when a when a funeral best Shirou. Bushra means glad tidings and it's used in number n. Bushra Boucher is a glad tiny 10 feet is to repulse people turn them away. The process that I'm here is saying best Shirou when that when a few give glad tidings give good words, but do not turn away people
from you. So move on to inshallah hotel to the next arrow to the next skill that it's important to employ in capturing people's hearts is to be a good listener, is to be a good listener. Listen, Allah Subhana Allah has given us two ears, and one mouth, so we can listen twice as much as we talk. We can listen twice as much as we talk. And it What this means is about listening patiently. Sometimes, you know, we get some people they get very, they're not patient and they just want to interrupt and Well, you know what happened this week? Have you been?
One No One moment, you know? Just wait, listen, wait, be patient. So not to interrupt not to interrupt the speaker and the prophesies tell him once he listened to your loved one her and she's mentioning a very long story. The long as the hadith of oma Zahra, the Hadith about when 11 women sat around, and each one is mentioning the positive, the good and the bad of her husbands. Okay. And he said, and he said there actually is mentioned the whole story, each woman and what she mentioned about about her husband, he sat there and he never interrupted her. And this is how we've been the process. Ellen is a very good listener, very good listener.
APA, APA is one of the tabea in one of the tab you're in and he's one of the companions that successes, he tells us about how he
how he behaves concerning this merit of good listening. And he says, Listen to what he says. He says, when someone speaks to me, I listen to him as if it is the first time I have heard this subject.
Often I have heard it before that person was even born.
So when somebody is speaking to you, you know some people yeah, I've heard that before. I've heard that.
etiquette etiquette really, is to listen, listen, like someone wants to share something with you. Sometimes it's a young voice, especially with children. You've heard Have you heard it, maybe you've heard so much, you probably heard maybe 99% of what a child maybe has to tell you, maybe. But
a good technique is to listen, because that really acknowledges that you're respecting that person. You are listening, you are respecting that person. And that's what I'm talking about. We're talking about respect, respect, you know, when you respect others, okay, they will respect you. So listen to what they have to say, when they are finished. You know, you know, he even said to them, you know, I've heard that before, you know, that was sort of maybe disappoint them a little bit. They might ask you have you heard So yeah, I have you know, I've heard you know, something to that effect. What I have heard that actually been mentioned before that no need to lie. Okay. But this is a very
powerful way of capturing people's hearts. And the prophet SAW Selim would be a good listener, even to disbelieving critics. Imagine you have somebody in front of you, who's a disbeliever and is criticizing you and maybe criticizing your dour. So people say look, you know, I don't have to listen to this. You know,
you know what you have said and you know, no thank you very much. to you is your your religion and to me is my religion. lacantina camellia Dean, you know, that's it. Listen, I would do it. The prophet SAW Selim once.
We have an incident with one of our Sahaba His name is Imran even Hussein in Milan, even Hussein, his father,
his father, the father of Milan.
He went to the prophesized Selim, as did many to try to persuade the prophet SAW Selim from spreading his tent to try and persuade him to stop spreading Islam. In many cases, of course, I sell him I said, you know, you are this uniting us, you are letting our forefathers down, you know, come on, you know enough of this, calling people to, you know, this new religion of yours. So one of these people is the father of amrhein rabbinical saying, and he says the same, the same words, and the prophet SAW Selim. He's listed
See him calmly until he finished his criticism until he finished all the criticism as finished. And then the prophet SAW Selim system Have you finished? Are you are you done? Are you finished? up? What am Ron, he still talks to him in a respectful way? He says yes, he says, then answer my questions. Because Okay, I'm listening. I'm Ron, how many gods Do you wish you remember? They were mushriks. They were polysius. How many guys do you wish he was? I wish you've seven.
He says I wish him six on earth. And one in the heavens. Remember the mushriks the polytheists. They used to acknowledge allies though agenda associated a partner with Allah subhanaw taala.
Okay. And this is this is the this is the this is the major crime. This is the major sin associated partners with Allah subhanaw taala.
So, it's upon a lot. What's interesting to note also about this response, that how he said, I wish if six on earth, and one above the heavens, which shows us that even some of the mystics acknowledged Allah azzawajal is above his creation, Eliza is above his creation, which is the correct belief of Addison.
Not to say that Allah subhanaw taala has no place, as some may say, it doesn't have a place Let's control is above is above his creation, in a manner which fits his majesty.
So the problem is I sell him he says to him, which one of them do you feel in love the most? Which out of the seven? Which one do you love the most? He says, of course, the one in the heavens, mean the one above the heavens.
And in all politeness the process Adam says to him,
if you were to accept Islam, I will teach you two phrases that you could benefit from immensely. If you to embrace this, then I'm going to teach you something, there'll be a great benefit to you.
And so for saying, he accepts Islam, he becomes a Muslim.
And on the spot, he asked him to teach him the two phrases. What are these two phrases? These two beautiful, two beautiful words or phrases that you can say? Especially during a challenging time in your life?
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our law Yeah, Allah Allahu, Allah, him newcity inspire me with guidance. inspire me with guidance. I need to be guided here Give me inspiration to the right path to the right way to the right decision. Allah him and him near rusty, worked in a short run FC and Queenie and protect me from the evil of my own self. or protect me from my own evil. I love him and him. It was Kenny Sharon FC. Because sometimes we make decisions that are bad for us. So it's always about seeking that divine intervention. Yes, we perform istikhara one of the ways of divine intervention is istikhara is the hora prayer. Pray to the gods apart from and after the tour. Oh God, you said to do I just found a
custom Muslim. I think it's about page 70 fortress of the Muslim. Okay, as a Muslim, we should always be turning back to Allah subhanho wa Taala always asking Allah azza wa jal for his guidance and for his help and for his inspiration for his mode to motivate us to do that, which is pleasing to Him to make the right decisions. Always, inshallah huhtala. So again, how wonderful is the way in which the prophet SAW Selim, he's dealing with people, he listens to people, he didn't interrupt him. And so panela look at the positive outcome. Let's move on to the fourth arrow in shallow Thailand. The fourth arrow to capturing the hearts is
sincerely caring for your brother and sister in Islam, showing that you sincerely care
in a really shown that you can not just this superficial talk. But you really look at a person and you really, you empathize, that you put yourself in a position that you sympathize that you feel with them. This is the way of a Muslim. This is the way of really you feel with them, you talk to them with again, going back to that notion of sincerity of a class.
The more you care, the more you care about others, the more people will care about you.
The more you show care and you show compassion, and you show love and you show sincerity. Okay, the stronger that connection that you can build with others, then others will reciprocate. That's just the basic formula of how it works.
asylum he would make everyone feel that a problem was in fact his own problems and that his worry was his own worry.
That's how we feel that's how we act remember the Muslims as a publicized sell them in one Howdy.
Muslims are like one body
gave an analogy, a comparison that all of us were like one human body, the human body. If one part of the body is ill is sick is injured. The rest of the body feels as though it's injured. And
so for example, you might have a headache.
Okay, and you and someone asks you let's go for a jog. Let's go for a walk after a really bad headache Well, what's the headache got to deal with your legs is a connection, there is a relationship because once you were ill, your whole body is you feel that you hope it is done. Likewise, the Muslims are like this when one Muslim is suffering when one Muslim is feeling down and out and we know about the state of that Muslim and we should also feel with that Muslim we empathize with that Muslim Muslim is never happy is never content at the losses and the misfortunes and the calamities of other Muslims we feel and then we start and this feeling in shallow Tyler triggers us
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Okay, helping those Muslims out inshallah who Thailand. So, one day the prophet SAW Selim imagine this. He's giving a cookbook. He's on the on the pulpit on the minbar. He's giving a sermon and a bedwin. Often a bit one who's not living amongst, you know, the community of the Muslims he comes in to see the prophet SAW Selim to ask him a question to learn
and oppose. I send him on the minbar and he system. I want to ask you some questions. There wasn't the right mannerisms. It wasn't the etiquette to bring down the prophet SAW Selim from the member. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
He didn't he didn't it didn't any refuse him.
He came down, and he answers the questions that he wants. And he goes back up to the member and he delivers his son.
Very simple. The prophesized Hello, hi was Elon. he respected everybody that he came across, and he would listen to them. And he's their problems were his problems also. So this is another arrow to consider inshallah hota. Allah caring, for others being compassionate, being merciful, and understanding of other people's problems. The fifth magnetic way in shallow Tyler, or the fifth arrow is displaying assertive and positive behavior, displaying an assertive and positive attitude.
So it's about here also, watering people's morale. One of the biggest problems that we have amongst people, especially the younger ones, is that the morale might not be high, the skills are there. They have the skills, they have the know how they have the knowledge, but nobody's really giving them that encouragement. Nobody's giving them that motivation. It's very important that we continue to motivate, to inspire, to say yes, your strongest to second level and you're doing a good job, well done. This is positive reinforcement, this type of behavior can really lift the morale and when the morale is lifted.
Okay, what happens people want to do more. And Islam teaches us to say just a level higher and is Akela. halen did not taking things for granted. We don't take other people's services, and people's contributions for granted. We acknowledge the good, we acknowledged the higher there is in that person. So when someone is facing facing a challenging moment, or episode in their life, give them positive words. That's what they need. When someone for example, you know, has heard about has lost somebody, somebody has died in their family. It's not the time right now to set the saying, you know, you know, oh, sorry for you and give you a really sad story and start to cry with them. They
don't need that. They only go with me now positive. They need you to pick them up to pick up their spirits they are down. They need to be lifted up. They need the spirits to be high. So this is where you have to come in and say things like this is the father of Allah. Allah subhanho wa Taala he gives a lot of Allah He takes he takes a lot of proud Allah is the all wise he is the one he knows
what he has done this maybe you hate this right now you lost your misfortune is hard to that you're going through but maybe there is good in it for you. I lost the panel with either says I said and Takahashi and O'Hara Lacan you may dislike something but it is good for you I said unto him bush and masala come you might like something but it's actually bad for you will love We are number one to net Allah Allah knows and you do not know now he's back to give them positive words remember stem talks about sub samples about patience is them talks about when you know being patient that is the first instance of the shot. This is how we are we have positive positive words and we'll lay this
person one they'll come back and they'll remember those words and they'll remember the impact that you have on them. Okay, positive always be positive. When people are putting themselves down. You don't put them down also you raise their spirits do you think? Do you think that was a habit living in the desert? living in the desert? How do you think they were able to lead and rule the Muslim world? How do you think they were able to conquer a conquered and they spread Islam? Do you think they had low morale? You think they had low self esteem? No. That is their head the prophet SAW Selim he watered them around, watered them are watering it, feeding it cultivating it. Okay, so
that's what we're doing in Sharla hotel. We are building up this so that they can move forward. You cannot move forward if you're weak. If you feel I'm not worthy, I can't do it. Now we need to be positive inshallah we'll tailor quick incident incident and a quick example related to this bullet point.
One of the one of the Sahaba His name is Zaha Eben, how long is that here a bit how long? He's a bad one. Again, a bad one. And he wasn't a very attractive man. He would come to Medina visit the province. I said let me say bring with him. Sometimes a gift to the prophet SAW Selim. He would bring him some maybe cottage cheese or some butter. And likewise, when the post I send them, he saw him he would prepare a gift for him like dates when he was about to leave the city and one day There he comes to Medina and he doesn't find the proper sauce. So he goes to the marketplace to sell to do some business to do some Teacher Teacher.
And so the province are selling he he's about Zaheer that he's come and he goes to the marketplace to find him. He goes to find this Zuhair bit when it comes to see the profit. So I sell him
So, now the problems are selling he wins. He goes looking for him and he sees him and you know, sweat is pouring out of him
on his face and in a being a bit one and having traveled you know, his his clothing and very dusty. The profits are selling creeps up from behind him and he grabs him now he doesn't know who's behind him. And they say, you know, let me go let me go Who are you? You know, and he's trying to get you know, free from the you know, set me set free and if any finds out it's a prophet Mohammed Sasa he relaxes. You know, well you know, the process healing is hugging me in a look at this the burqa, so he relaxes. And then the prophet SAW Selim, he wants to make a joke. He wants to joke. And then he's Yeah, and he's saying who will buy this slave who will buy this slave? You know, what's it like sell
him, you know? And then say here, he's got low, low self esteem.
He He says, He says you will find me unmarketable. A messenger of Allah. No one wants to buy me who's going to buy me out of Salalah Now listen to how he waters the morale. And he says, but you are not unmarketable to Allah.
You might think that you're unmarketable to these people that no one looks at you that you think that you are nothing but to Allah, you are something
you are a Muslim.
Allah subhanaw taala loves people like you see, even like these words, we can apply their principle to almost all of us, they applicable to every Muslim. So even words like that you are any system you are a very, you are very precious to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So he waters the morale.
So when people do go through training times, perhaps you can memorize a few phrases, a few hadiths, a few hats that you share, because all of us at one point or another are going to go through or come into contact with a person who's going through a hard time. What if you got prepared for this person? You're going to sit there and cry have a sock and have a week with them? Is that going to bring about anything positive? No. So you can memorize a few phrases, you can put them in your you know, in your on your computer, you can put them in your SMS, you can SMS them to yourself and then forward them when a calamity strikes. I want to share a few of them with you that I have collected.
One of them is
no one can go back and change
A bad beginning.
But anyone can start now and create a successful ending.
You like that one? I'll give you another one.
If a problem can be solved, no need to worry about it. If a problem can be solved, no need to worry about it. If it can't, then what's the use in worrying?
You see how you're looking at things from both perspectives.
Another one, every successful person has a painful story.
Every painful story has a successful ending in June was a pain and weight for success. Mostly one and even Tamia him on Long Island. He can he gives one as well. He mentioned he says trials and tribulations. I like feeling the heat and the cold trials that you go through in life like the hot and the cold weather. When one knows that they cannot be avoided. He will not feel anger at the onset nor distress. Now when it becomes a hot day you get really angry. It's a hot day you can't do anything about it. How long? It's hot colors. It's cold. Okay, this is the same thing with trials and tribulations. When they come, they come they're going Some are going to be better than others.
And this is when we start to practice all the teachings of Islam inshallah hota Island
number six six arrow in shallow tell as we come to the end of these arrows in inshallah huhtala, captivating, spellbinding winning people's hearts over is Be gentle, gentleness, be gentle two words, or one word gentleman's.
A lot of panel with Allah in the Quran, he says, We're cool in se for SNA wakulla, nasty FirstNet which means speak to people with kind words, speak to people with kind words. So
the word Allah surpasses were kuraly ness. Nance ness means people who didn't have a co routine meaning say to the believers, he didn't say what kulu Lil muslimeen say to the Muslims, he said to people, doesn't matter whether you're a Muslim, non Muslim and white background is how you look like it doesn't matter. speak to people with kindness kind words. In one Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said
Mercury's officially in a lesson. Whenever there is there is risk and risk means gentleness. Whenever there is risk applied to something mechanical official or in something, then it beautifies it it adorns it. My piano lift coefficient a lesbian woman in New Zealand luzia men shy in women, Lucy I'm in China in China. And whenever you remove risk, whenever you remove gentleness, it disfigures it, it makes it very ugly. The situation becomes ugly, when you don't have gentleness. So it's very important. Your choice of words, your tone, your pace, a lot of this is very important in being gentle with the people inshallah hotel.
So, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was gentle, even with those who were cursing him,
even with those who were cursing him, once some Jews you know, Medina had Jews living in it and
they passed by the prophet SAW Selim and he was there with with sugar love wine and his wife.
And they said to him, they said to him, Assam Alaykum Assam mo la qu. A Sen. Sen means poison or death. This be upon you. In other words, the process seller.
It's an insult. It's an attack, a verbal one, but even the verbal attacks. Sometimes people reciprocate in such a way they'll maybe take out their fists. So what did the promise I sell them say back to them? He said, what I like him, let's say, Well, I like him. Now. Aleykum Selam Aleykum selam? No. He said what I like him and that to you.
You know, I'm back to you where I live.
Now, I saw your loved one, huh? She wasn't like that she was hot tempered. How dare they? How did I speak like in that manner, and use those words to the prophet SAW Selim. She said
She, her response was
her response was y la como San. And to you made this be upon you, well Nana to LA and the curse of Allah was nakaba la, la come and may be angry with you also.
She was
very tough, not like the process of selling was very gentle, even with his enemies, because one day look when it comes to you, this is why there's a saying that says, never love somebody too much. Because one day that person that you love may end up being your enemy. And never hate your enemy too much. Because one day your enemy may become your beloved brother, or sister in Islam, or someone that becomes close to you. If you if you hate them too much, what's going to happen when they start to become on your side, you still might have some resentment. And likewise, vice versa. So
sort of the process having said that he or she said those words. He said to take it easy. I Isha. Take it easier issue. You should be gentle, and you shouldn't curse or be harsh, don't go cursing people. So there's no need to respond to an insult with an insult. People may insult you, doesn't mean you have to insult them back. Because Allah subhanaw taala says we're coolly nasty foerstner Allah says speak to people with kind words. And an analogy that scholars have given also is the like a bee, bee like a bee, a bee, whatever it takes, whatever it absorbs, is pure. It only goes for clean things, doesn't it. So as Muslims, we should be always absorbing and digesting and taking in
that which is good that which is beneficial that which is clean, right. And whatever it gives off is what is sweet, wherever it gives us is sweet. And wherever it lands on, it doesn't break it.
This is how a Muslim is like to be taking that which is good, giving sweetness and not being aggressive, and not being aggressive.
Now, let me move on and inshallah huhtala to the last and final arrow that I wanted to share with you for today on in winning people's hearts over in shallow data and captivating these hearts is
talk about what others like to hear, not what you'd like to relate.
Talk about what others like to hear, not what you'd like to relate.
Now.
So for example, you might be into cars,
okay, and you're sitting with your wife, and you want to, you know, you want to create some a good atmosphere. And you sit down and talk to her about the rims and the muffler and the engine and the spark plugs. And, you know, what, what do you think? Do you think that's going to go anyway? No, but if you talk to her about what she likes, you're going to earn points, it's going to be happy. Likewise, when she talks to you about the things that you like, Okay, this also, people are attracted to that people become you know, this person is interested in what I have to say, or what my what I'm interested in. So talking about what people like to heat, not what you'd like to
necessarily relate is another powerful tool in winning over the people's hearts. Now, one day when the prophet SAW Selim was sitting with his wife at Isha, he wanted to converse with her. He wanted to converse with and talk with her. Now, what would be the most appropriate subject to talk about with one's wife?
Did he talk to her about the expedition of Rome? No, because she wasn't Ahmad.
Did he talk to her about weapons that are used in the battles? No, because she wasn't he's not talking to abubaker
or not talking to Holly.
There is speak to her about the poor Muslims and their needs. And you know, in a very in it, there's a lot they need a lot of money and wealth. No, you didn't talk to her about that. Because a lot of interest men have man he had money. He could talk to x men about that.
Rather, once you know what he said to her in a loving in a loving manner. He said to her, he said, I know when you are pleased with me. And when you are angry with me. I know when you are pleased and when you were angry with me. She said how's the How do you know? He says to her when you are pleased with me. You say lever up the Mohammed know by the Lord of Mohammed.
You pleased with me. You mentioned my name. But when you're angry with me, you say let one of the Abraham
you say no by the Lord of Ibrahim, still by Allah. But what she has done instead of mentioning Mohammed because she's angry, she mentioned Ibrahim
and Pamela he knows
How to talk to her who knows, what are the things to say to. And this is important when you talk to children, it's not like you're talking to the way you talk to your parents like the way to talk to your children, the way you talk to your friend is not like the way you talk to your parents or the way you talk to your teacher. It's not like the way to talk to your best friend, everybody, you talk to them according to the status to the physician to who they are, what they are doing. Because this is very, very important inshallah, to Allah to remember. So therefore, tailor your conversation, to what the addressee would like to hear, not what you would like to relate. And also, it's important
that you pace yourself at a pace. If you know someone, they talk very fast, talk very fast with him.
That's what they like, if they talk slow, you talk slow with another technique. Another technique is go with their pace, go with their tone, you probably find yourself any, the relationship would be a lot more stronger and there's a connection and it's one of the ways of capturing inshallah hotel of the hearts. So let me conclude my dear brothers and sisters in Islam
by saying that hearts are not one by force, you don't force people, okay? It's not won by money. You don't win, you don't you don't by people, okay? It's not one, by your looks, you know, I want to win their hearts by being very attractive. Cuz some people they're attractive to others are not necessarily good looking, but they just love them, they their behavior and their mannerisms that clap Okay, hearts are not won by your status, you know, I am such and such, you know,
they actually won by much less sacrifice, much less sacrifice. And as we saw very simple things that you can do, yet they are very powerful ways, in inshallah hoteller winning over the hearts and the minds inshallah hota. Allah of people in summary, number one was, the first arrow was to have a strong connection with Allah. Allah. Allah, Allah subhanaw taala review Allah, Allah, be conscious of Allah, Allah, wherever you are, number two, smile. And the post, Aslan said, You're smiling in the face of your brother or sister as a sadhaka. Number three, be a good listener. We have two ears, and one mouth. Listen twice as much as you talk. Number four, be considerate of others, be
empathetic, be sympathetic, and show that you care for them show that your prop their problem is your problem.
Number five, be a positive person. Don't be a negative person. As human beings, we are attracted to positive people, not negative people.
Number six, be gentle. We're coolly nasty, who's gonna speak to people with kindness. And number seven, talk about what others like to hear, not what you'd like to necessarily relate. And I asked Allah subhanaw taala to give us these skills and the other skills that are required of us to inshallah hota Allah get along and to connect with other people. And a final note, I recall a book that I read, which I couldn't put them on, I really, really enjoyed reading and I want to share this book with you. Because it had many beneficial things and some of which I extracted from this book. And this is a book it's called enjoy your life. Enjoy your life. It's downloadable on the internet
from the internet, I do believe but I always prefer had a hardcover book hardcopy inshallah and the author is Dr. Mohammed after recommended reefy it's by double selling publications enjoy your life. And basically this book is about the art of interacting with people as the Jews from a study of the prophet SAW Selim life and is a product of more than 20 years of research. So inshallah hotelli will benefit from this book. And and the other books that are out there are level two Allah Allah sallallahu wasallam ubercart anabaena
shallow take on some questions inshallah. And then
yeah, for a break.
Okay. The first question is, what can we do about people who aren't gentle or kind to you? Well,
you can advise them in a gentle and kind manner. You see, sometimes we talk to people we think maybe you know, our words are not registering my job and your job is to plant the seeds to plant good seeds.
We we say what is good, who speak the truth, we plant the seeds, the seed may not grow in a day or two or a week, some you know, some plants, they take a long time to grow. Likewise, some people, it might take them a long time to change you and plant those seeds
and inshallah huhtala those, you will see the harvest inshallah of those seeds, maybe in weeks or months or even years to come. So don't give up never quit.
Very your strategy. Maybe you're not the person who's going to influence this person, maybe you need a third party, maybe you need somebody else that that person respects and that person looks up to maybe they can change them doesn't have to be you that's going to make them change. So, yes, be patient at all times. No two fingerprints are alike. We are all unique individuals, some of us lose our temper very quickly. Some of us have a very, very patient, be understanding, not everyone's going to be like you, you aren't necessarily the best person in the world. You don't necessarily have the best way in the world, okay.
All of us are unique individuals. Let us inshallah deal with each other.
with that attitude that we are all unique, we are all different. And so inshallah tada I hope this response helps you.
Is it true that Mohammed sauce lm could not read or write therefore he was chosen to spread Islam and the Quran? It is true. Muhammad wa salam was on me. He was illiterate. He could not read and he could not write.
And that's why when Jupiter came to him to get products it met and they decided besides I cannot read.
So then your product Bismillah dhikala. The HELOC was revealed so yes, Mohammed Salim couldn't read or write which makes the Quran more miraculous.
If he didn't write it.
Okay, then who did who came up with this book?
all the signs 6236 as science lead to the Creator, a lot of panels.
Yes, so it does make the Quran more weightier in its miraculous, miraculous content.
I met a Jewish
grand something, Grandpa, he said to me that the Prophet went to Jerusalem, for ideas to make a religion. He said that, that Jesus la Selim was
smart. He scared people the name of God, he lives on my street. How should I reply to him in a good intentions? Maybe refer refer him to a mental doctor, maybe.
But look, again, you know, you can say to him, you know, do you have anything to justify what you're saying? I'm very interested in seeing your justifications, please provide your evidence. There is evidence, okay, how Messiah Selim, what he went to Jerusalem, and he got his knowledge, but he has knowledge about a lot and a lot of things. The journey to Jerusalem wasn't until roughly about nine years later,
of the prophethood. So whereas the other things that he came up with, look, there's no it is not evidence, enough, again, speak with evidence, you want to see tangible proof. You want to see proof evidence, not just he said, and she said, Because speak about Allah subhanaw taala in that in that way, we need to have proof evidence.
What is Muslim obligations? If she find that Muslim is a string to a strain to another Muslim?
That's what other religions say. Okay, so yes, if a person is strange and other religion, okay, is to talk to them about Islam, Islam and to fear Allah subhanaw taala and this is the end, this is the last book of Allah and this includes the other religions and you know, you, I would advise you to the religion that person wants to go to, let's say they go to Christianity, get a Christian revert or convert lecture and give it to them and say, Look, here, listen to this, this person, he left this religion, why is he leaving this religion? Look what he says about this religion, it could be Buddhist, it could be living to Buddhism, say there are Muslim scholars have spoken about Buddhism.
Right? So he said, Okay, listen to this lecture about Buddhism, compared to Islam. So maybe you find this of us as the chef, as someone about lectures, wine books, there are books about other faiths and how Islam has rebutted and refuted those beliefs. So there are books, there are chefs, there are individuals, there are internet webs, websites. So there are different strategies you can apply, then limited to yourself only yourself. My knowledge or knowledge is limited.
Other people have other knowledge other resources inshallah you can tap into
the lF or a more and less asked me Is it okay to visit temple or church?
The something of visiting the what is it something of visiting is just to take the reason of visiting is just to take a photo
and see the inside and decoration nothing to do with performing an a bed. There's no there's no there's nothing to prohibit you from entering a church or a synagogue, you know?
But they are not the houses of I mean they are they are places of worship, you can visit them
there's not there's no harm in doing so. But taking photos I don't know about that taking photos. Why would you want to do that, you know, promoting another faith promoting something that has maybe you know, pictures and the displeasing to Allah crust and all that this is not from the spirit of Islam from the spirit of Islam to do this. The Sahaba never did this with another Sahaba doing this we don't know that they engage in this sort of behavior let us always
mimic the foot sister process salamander Sahaba
he has some things in Islam are not always black and white. It's not always okay. halal or haram. But some things
we have to look is a part of the fabric of Islam is a part of the spirit of a stand, looking at Islam holistically. A lot of things are not part of the spirit of Islam, they go against the spirit of Islam, so we keep away from those things.
If someone is doing something, an Islamic or being disobedient, can you call them a Jew or say stop doing it?
When he is right, in other words Jews who are disobedient who are disobedient Muslims? Is that correct? link? Look,
you know in Islam, Allah subhanaw taala prohibits us from calling people names. name calling in a stream is not allowed. Okay, so if somebody is doing something, anesthetic say tequila Fiala. So, your actions are resembling the actions of of a Jew. And the prophet SAW Selim has prohibited us from resembling the Christians and the Jews. Yeah, he shared with him earlier if you know, but don't go pouring fuel over the fire that pour fuel over the fire, especially someone is borderlining and things like that always be ready inshallah huhtala to win their hearts over
you know, use analogies, use examples, etc.
How are we supposed to deal with the opposite gender when giving power? Well, in a female should give power to females and males should give power to males that's, that's the best form of power. Because chiffon will always be the third. However,
let's say you come across the opposite gender you're shopping, you're you know, and you start to open up a conversation with a female you're a male, and she's a female. And she says, Oh, that's an interesting cap that you're wearing. So you know, I'm Muslim. I'm Muslim. What's that? Oh, we wish you one god are you do who I've never heard of this religion? Where you can say look, I can't talk to you for a lot
you're a woman and yeah, again, you know, business talk business life. So yeah, you know my shot a lot is thought to be cute and you know
in your doubt, there is etiquette Yeah. Be businesslike still be fun. So yes, we believe in this. We believe in that. Yes. Then you want some more information?
Yes, please give me your email address or what is your you can ask for their contact details and pass them on to a payment or you can email them the link to some websites or send them submit What is your address? I'll send you some material if they comfortable nothing wrong with that. Send us in prohibit us from that, but be businesslike, that's probably the worst business like you're down. Okay, and remember that the shutdown is always a third. I mean, when we are dealing with someone who used to hang up hang around before became to extend should we cut off connections with them? Well, if they are we talking about the opposite gender and you have no business with them? That's it. No
business there's no business. You cut all connections if there's no if this is a female, you're your brother. She's a female and you've called it Islam and let's say let's say Carlos, you know finished you can then put them out if you're really interested in following her up and she's a good sister. She's a good person should be a good potential Muslim sent another sister What does have to be useful? Is many have sisters that can do the job in shallow time. Our parents always tell us when we go out at night to return by midnight because after 12pm shadow
We'll be there about
how far are they right? Well, actually, they fall by about
depending on where you are, whether it's summer or winter,
they fall by about seven, maybe five or seven hours, there is a hadith that says that when the sunsets bring your children in to the home, because this is when the show fun dispatches he comes out and he wants to create a lot of, you know, problems. So it's always good to be indoors after sunset, in colors. See, in a standard day ends when, when the sun sets, that's the base finish the nighttime enters. Okay? And that's when the shavon and his agents do all their harm and the evil around that time. So midnight, is even probably any day at the depths of the maybe they're sharp. Okay, so the deeper you go, you know, you find because, you know, people do a lot of evil at night
because people are sleeping, it's away from the eyes of the people. So, your parents have got it right inshallah. But this may be that I think I should, I should, I should make it a bit earlier even. for you guys. That's one for the parents
tell us how much minimum
something is required to get
married in Australia? salary. Okay, tell us how much minimum salary is required. Okay, so basically what sort of a salary should you have before you came in? I'm assuming it's a it's a male because usually, I mean, the female doesn't have to make any financial contribution to a marriage. You notice. When she made her money is her money, your husband's money is also her money to a certain extent.
How much salary will as long as he can afford to have shelter, pay the bills, basic food and drink and some basic clothing for her. Okay, that covers her older, that's basic, if you have so it just depends on the standard of living and you know, you could be earning you could be earning $30,000 and we'd be able to provide all that because your rent isn't so high. You don't live in an area which has very high cost of living is high. So it's very hard to say it's a very Melbourne might be cheaper than Sydney. Perth is even cheaper Adelaide could be cheaper Queensland you know what I mean? So so there's no minimum as long as you can afford to look after this woman. Okay, if you can
look after her provides for her financially then you can you should get married Don't delay if you can look after woman provide her financially
then don't delay getting married inshallah.
How do we something towards people or individuals when?
When something he always wanting to be the winner? Okay, so.
Okay, yeah. Okay. So basically have an individual right, they always want to be like the winner. They're very maybe competitive. There's nothing wrong with being competitive. But as always nothing wrong. You know, if they're in the Sahaba were competitive in giving sadaqa a, you know, a worker would give all of his work for mokuba lose his wealth. No problem in that being competitive is no problem. But don't be chauvinistic. Then be shallow. Don't be pride didn't have a lot of keep it a pride process. lm said who ever has a mustard seed of pride in his house antigen and have pride. Okay, competitiveness good competitive beat towards goodness is good.
How we put down or reduce over bad things in our life?
talk too much how we
cannot understanding this part of the question shall have I said most of it, I heard that it's good to recite a two chords he could see in the first and third such
an acid pray is the sooner
this actually contradicts the sooner the process lm
forbade us from reciting for an institute not allowed to recycle and in usage
now for end to make.
And you can use from the Quran.
But you can't actually recycle an institute. There's a hadith about this follow on.
I have a friend who is so short of the evolutionary theory that it is hard for me to get through to him that he that there is a creator who is open to hear more about Islam. What are some things I could do to mention to him? There are some books about heroin. Yeah, when you hear he has lots of books and he has a book that is called the evolution theory. I think you can even download it from the internet. So the evolution theory, or is it the darwinistic theory or Darwinism?
You can
Purchase books or go to the Islamic bookstore or go to an online bookstore and look up heroin you hear books heroin, h AR un, Harun, Yahya y ah y. And there are some books that have that have dealt with this topic, share those books with them share lectures or some lectures about this as well. Can you please repeat the dua you mentioned during the middle of the lecture and give a detailed explanation of love Matt and him Neil rusty wakeeney Siobhan FC Allahumma elohiym ne, rush de kuakini, Sharon FC our la inspire me with guidance
and protect me from the evil of my own self.
So you ask Allah to always
give you the right direction. And you ask not to protect you from any decisions that you may make. They're not befitting for you.
How to develop all the qualities you have mentioned, all the arrows, practice, start, the distance of a mile begins with a single step.
The more you practice something, you become good at it. It's a skill that you have to acquire. Some people that haven't naturally, some people need to acquire it. So therefore, any of these skills, the next time you stand in front of someone say, you know, okay, am I listening? He's talking, am I listening? Then interrupt,
compliment, be positive smile.
Speaker Don't be negative. You know, all of these things that you mentioned, and the other things that you'll read about inshallah hoteller. practice that. Be conscious. What you do you be conscious about those things several times, maybe have to do at seminars, be conscious, be conscious, until he becomes subconscious. You actually do these things. Subconsciously, Heather Allahu Allah sallallahu Sallam or Berta Islander, the BNN Mohamed