Priorities In Life

Bilal Assad

Channel: Bilal Assad

Episode Notes

This talk/lecture was delivered at the Zayed bin Mohammed Gathering, Al Khawaneej, Dubai, UAE on January 6, 2017.

Sheikh Bilal discusses the importance of life, its responsibilities and focuses upon what the priorities should be in life. He asks us to look at the reasons for our behaviour, and to look at whether we have a public personality, and a different one in private – in an attempt to understand what our priorities in life should be.

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So they fall flat on their face. And these are the first people which with Hellfire will be ignited. Brothers and sisters in Islam.

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The first and foremost priority for us is to look at our own connection and relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala. Before we look at the relationship between us and anyone else,

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you know, every time we fly, we go overseas, something which never ceases to amaze me, is the announcement which the flight attendant does. You know what they say to you, they say, in the unlikely event of an accident, oxygen masks will fall from above you.

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And then they say to you, please fix or fixate the mask on yourself before attending to others. And I thought about that statement. I thought so panela Why do we have to put the mask on ourselves before attending to others? So if my child was four years old, or seven years old is next enough to put the mask on myself? That sounds pretty selfish, doesn't it? But then I thought about it. If you can't breathe, and you only have about a minute or less, how are you supposed to help the others breathe? How will you help your children breathe? How will you help other people who are gasping for air, especially the children who are not able to place the mask on themselves? So I thought so canon

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law, the A which is what Allah? Allah tells us in the Quran, yeah. levena Amano. Oh, you who believe it's amazing that Allah subhana wa Taala is addressing those who believe he's not addressing those who don't believe, as though the ones who believe are the ones who can help others who don't believe you need to breathe first vote. Oh, you who believe? Yeah, you're a lesbian woman? Oh,

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hell,

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no.

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Oh, you who believe.

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Save yourself.

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He didn't say save your family, save your neighbor, save your friend, save the world. He didn't say that.

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Said save yourself, save the animals. Save yourself in the first degree, then Allah said or earlier.

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And then your family from hellfire. And then your family from how far in the Arabic language. When you put a statement like this, then you look at the context. Whatever is mentioned first is considered to be in priority to what comes later. So I lost my dad, I said, save yourself and your family means save yourself first. And after you've looked after yourself, then comes next in line your family because you are responsible for your family responsible for your wife, you're responsible for your children, the wife is responsible also for her duty towards her husband, and then towards her children. You'll be responsible for them.

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Because your children in your family is part of your work. But if you are not right, then your family is not going to be right and you will be questioned on the day of judgement about yourself and then in the second degree about your family and one verse in the Quran which will lie shit sends also shivers down our spine is the is the one in sort of have a certain level of loss. pantalla finally said he a woman may appear rude and mean he, on the day of judgment, each person will run away from their own brother. Why brother? Why did our last pantalla say brother first, because it is considered that the brother is the main support. When you say in Arabic your brother, we consider

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the brothers to be the support on the day. There is no support from your brother, what he will be and from their mother and their father, because they're the providers. There's no provider for you on the Day of Judgment, luckily, was a bet he weapony and their friend or their spouse and their children, especially the sons because the sons are also considered to be a support, there is no support for you licola limit a minimum neoma

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ni, each person on that day will have a matter and affair which they have to be dealing with. And they're too busy for anyone else. Brothers and sisters in Islam.

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If your self is not right, then everything else is not right. And then if your family is not right, you see your children will be running away from you. Your spouse will be running away from you, your friends, your brothers, all of them will disperse You know why?

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Because Allah subhanaw taala is going to ask you about your responsibilities. Your own children, you don't want to see them on the Day of Judgment, your spouse, you don't want to see her or him on the Day of Judgment. Because after questioning you and your actions alone question you about your family. So what do you do? You run away from them so panela in this world, we run away to them

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On the day of judgment, we run away from them.

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So my brothers and sisters in Islam, our number one priority is our self. And secondly, our family.

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Now there's something which we neglect. In fact, the majority of people neglect,

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you know, to survive in happiness, everybody is after happiness.

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We look into the world today. And we find there is this article which I read a study which I read a few months ago, which appeared in the American Journal of Psychiatry.

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And what it said is an interesting study, the American Journal of Psychiatry, it said that the highest rates of suicide, stay with me, the highest rate of suicide exists in people who do not attach themselves to religion, that unbelieving God.

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So the highest rates of suicide are either atheists or agnostics, or people who are not really attached to the religion, we're talking even about, you know, Christians, Hindus, Muslims, but they're not really attached to their religion, as though they are atheist or agnostic. And the lowest rates of suicide actually exists in people who do believe in God, and people who are attached to their religion, so panela because there is hope. When a person attached then attaches themselves to Allah, to God, to their Creator, to their religion, they know that this life has a purpose beyond just the materialistic world.

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So people who don't actually believe in Allah, they have nothing else to live for. So what do they live for? Let me ask you a question.

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If a non Muslim came up to any one of us Muslims right now, and asked us the question, why are you a Muslim? Why are you a Muslim?

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The common answer would be something like this. And I've asked this question to many of my students, why are you a Muslim?

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They will say, I don't know because I was born a Muslim. Well, what does that mean? You were born a Muslim?

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common answers are? Well, because I'm raised in a Muslim family.

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Is that really why you're Muslim, because you were raised in a Muslim family? Well, then if that's the case, any person can be on the right track, then because a Christian will say I was raised a Christian, I was raised in Anglican, I was raised the Catholic, a Jew can say, You know what? Well, Jews then will be in the Thais degree because in their faith, if you don't have the bloodline of a Jew, then really, you know, you're not really superior.

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So then we can say that the Jews really are superior, if it just comes to the matter of being raised upon a religion that your family is on or being born into the bloodline of a particular religious family. If that's what it takes, then everybody's going to heaven. Nobody's going to help if everybody's on the right track. It's not your fault.

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I was raised as a Muslim, I was born into a Muslim family, I was raised in a Muslim country.

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No.

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Because you know what the problem is there, we find that a person who doesn't know why they're Muslim, they will look for happiness somewhere else, because they actually don't know their identity.

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You know, I've seen in many instances, young people, they rebel against their own parents, you know why?

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They move away from the dean. And I've seen two types of people. There's something interesting fact, I don't know if you've observed that before. We're back in Australia, we observe this. I've noticed that some young people when they belong to a Muslim family, or religious family, but don't exactly know why they are Muslim.

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As soon as their relationship with their family goes wrong, like a dysfunctional family, you'll find that they actually detach themselves from Islam. And they start to resort to going with gangs. And groups of people who have a particular identity that is far away from Islam, they wear certain jackets, they put on certain, sometimes tattoos of certain sorts, they resort to things like drugs, they go to places where they can be identified and have a name. Some of them resort to even and I'm going to say this word, extremist views, not because they want our last panel to be pleased with them, but because they want to be known, they want to have an identity a place in this world. So

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they rebelled against their own family, because they never knew why they were actually Muslims. And I put some of this responsibility on the parents themselves. When you teach your children teach them number one, why they are Muslim. When your child asks you the question, Who am I and why am I Muslim? Why do I

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I have to pray. It's not enough just to say them. Well, your you have to pray because you're a Muslim. And then we punish them for not praying, but we don't reward them for when they do good acts,

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brothers or sisters, you know, there is this saying, we complain that our children don't obey us. But they never fail to imitate us. They imitate you. So when you are angry at your son or daughter for not praying, what they learn from you is not prayer. They learn from you anger, they learn from you that religion is by force, when the sister when the girl grows up to wear her hijab, and she doesn't understand why she's wearing a hijab. And they find that the community forces that upon her, or because she has to fit to the norms of the society, without us explaining to them what the meaning of hijab is, what the meaning of KMR is, we then explain to them that it has a huge history

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in the civilization of humanity since the beginning of time, then all they think of is buggy. No, I have to wear it because of cultural reasons. And time and time again, I find young people especially living in the West, and I don't think here in the Emirates, we are safe from that, because although Emirates is a beautiful, wonderful Muslim country, and we have so many Muslim families and communities and Hamdulillah, you know, I get jealous that my children can be raised. In a society like this. I would have loved that sub panel on the one just just to sort of go off topic a little bit. I visited Dubai last year, and my daughter who was eight years old at the time, I asked her I

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went to Amara that time and I said to her, what would you like as a gift? What do you want as a present? And she was with her mother here in Dubai visiting. She said I went to Ibiza. Can you get me Ibiza? Now to you this is probably very normal. You know, it's our baby. Right? Every woman was I bet every girl was I bet it's very normal. But for me, this was the best gift. Because he said back in Australia, the West, no one was a bear hug. But they do wear a bear. But that's the last thing on their mind. They see their friends wearing shorts, they see their friends, you know wearing clips in their hair and doing their fashionable hair when she sits in abeyance because she's affected by the

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community that's around her. Now that's really good and excellent. But when she went back, she's affected by the other community. So I had to plant the seed inside of her. What's her job? Who wears hijab? What is his job for what does it mean? And in my son, what does prayer mean? And so on and so forth. If they don't understand that, then they're going to detach themselves. I've seen it time and time again. As soon as they reach, they become teenagers. They rebel against their family, their own parents, they can't wait to be free, as they say. And so they have two identities, one outside the home, and one inside the home.

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In the olden days, when they told us if we did something wrong, and our parents said to us go to your room, it was a punishment, what am I going to do in the room among four walls. Today, when you tell your children go to your room, it's like paradise for them. Just give them the iPad,

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given their phone, forget about the computers don't even want computers anymore, or TVs just give them the iPad in their phone.

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And it's as if they are listening living in Las Vegas, in Los Angeles, in the heart of New York, they can go they can go to the Bahamas, they can go to Hawaii, they can go to the darkest, deepest places of the world, which you cannot imagine. And the parents, they don't understand what's actually happening through social media.

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Brothers and sisters in Islam. It is so important and vital this time more than any other time to plant the seed of understanding of our religion. If you don't know how to then seek advice from other people who have experience in educating young people.

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Otherwise they will rebel. I've also seen the opposite happen. Stay with me. I've seen children who rebelled from their parents when their religious because they felt that they were forced into the religion. And there's also the opposite that happens. I've seen non religious children

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in non religious families go the other way. They become religious, but not because they found light in Islam, but only because they didn't like their parents ways anymore. So they rebel. They rebel.

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These people don't find happiness. rebelling means to go against a norm to go against something that you don't like. So you go in the opposite direction. We see it between couples when people get married. And their intention is not sincere to Allah subhana wa Taala their priorities are mixed up. And I was having a chat before with one of my brothers. And in Australia. I do marriages I saw nice marriages a lot. And this is what we see all the time.

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When a boy and a girl get married, a young man and woman you find that they love

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have each other a lot. Well, at least in the beginning, but as time goes on six months later, they get used to their marriage and then all the faults and the habits, they start to come out. And it becomes ordinary.

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You find that a girl, for example, a wife becomes religious because she loves her husband.

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Or a man who wants to marry this religious girl, you find that he starts going to the masjid because her father likes a religious man for his daughter.

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So suddenly, you find him in the message of the law appearing as if he's religious.

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They become married. And if something goes wrong in their marriage,

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they rebelled. So for example, if the wife loved her husband, and he was religious, and then he disappointed her, they separate and you find her hijab starts to decrease, you find that she starts going towards things that don't remind her about her husband.

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And if religion reminds her about her husband, then she doesn't do religion anymore. If the man who married a woman was because of her religion, and then his love for her decreases, unfortunately, also find that his love for his religion also decreases.

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What am I saying?

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I'm saying that, if the heart is not right, then it doesn't matter what you do with your actions that will never be accepted by Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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And this is called the Ria, one of the worst diseases that exists among the Muslims themselves. And one of the greatest promises that the shaitan made to Allah subhanho wa Taala is that he said, la cordon Allah homestyle erotica, Mr. creme, I will sit a waiting for them on your straight path, meaning I'm going to look for this a lot, I'm going to look for their fast thing, their charity, and I'm going to be waiting whispering in their ear telling them do that action just to please people or look at that person who looked at you giving charity look at that person, he he or she looked at you making your selection. msgid look at that person, he looked at you wearing a hijab increase it make

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it better to impress them, you will not receive the reward from Allah subhanaw taala if it's done for other than Allah subhanaw taala. And truly, you find that if your intention wasn't right from the beginning, as time goes on, and the loss of power to Allah brings the hardship upon you, you find yourself actually reversing very easily. And this is the meaning of the verse what Allah smart Allah says in Surah, Hajj, or meenan, CMA abodo, la Allah how

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on with me, and among people are those who worship a law on the edge, like the edge of a cliff.

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When good happens to them, they stay put their content, but when they are afflicted with some kind of trial or a hardship, they fall down forward flat on their face, they have lost this world and the hereafter.

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Time and time again.

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We see people who look religious on the outside, but unfortunately, their goal is materialism, wealth,

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their car, their homes, their houses, their dwellings, their work to be promoted in their career, a wife or a husband, maybe their goal is popularity. For example, their goal is fame. The goal is to have a good time in life, having a good time, materialism after materialism. And when we watch the celebrities in the world who look happy on the outside, but miserable on the inside. We find that suicidal rates are so high with them. drug addictions are so high with them. We all know this. Why? Because when you are after something that is temporary, then your happiness is also temporary. So why do they go on drugs and alcohol in order to forget

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to forget the misery and unhappiness that exists in the world.

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divorce rates are so high among the celebrities. Why? Because they after just their desires and enjoyment. When you get used to something up there was new and it becomes old and yellow. Right? You want something new again. And when you keep getting something new and you get bored of it, you keep getting something new and you get bored of it.

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You run out of new things. So then you resort to intoxications. Only to forget that you live in this world.

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But when your goal is something which is eternal, and gender is eternal,

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then the goal never runs out.

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What do you think people become unhappy? What do you think people commit suicide, as we said,

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Because whatever they are after has run out. So be careful, my brothers and sisters, and the only person who can answer this question is you sit down by yourself, and question yourself, what is really your goal? And I'm going to give you some signs about how to know what pathway you are on.

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Number one, do you judge yourself before others? Now, here's a really good one, you ready to hear it?

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There's something we call the comfort zone. You know what a comfort zone is. It's where you yourself feel comfortable, you feel comfortable to do the things that you want to do.

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And usually, it's in places where nobody can watch you. Nobody can see you. If you're married, you hide away from your wife, for example, she can't see what you're doing, or your husband, you hide away from your children. If you're a child, you hide away from your parents, for example, you hide away from religious people, maybe that's not what you want. Right? In your comfort zone. Comfort Zone can also mean you're around the people who want the same thing you want.

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In your comfort zone, in your private comfort zone. What kind of a person are you?

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What are the things that you normally do?

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What are the things that you listen to?

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What are the things that you like looking at?

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I know some young people, maybe even older people, you put them in their comfort zone, and you give them a screen to look at, and the internet.

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And it makes you sick, if you were to see what they are looking at,

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who they are talking to what kinds of activities they're doing.

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As an educator, a teacher, and the student council as well. Young people at the age of 1415 and 16, even 17

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boys and girls, how often they approach me talking about their secret affairs, what they do in private, but they are too afraid to talk to their parents about

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that's who they really are. who you really are is what you're doing secret.

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Because you know the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when he was talking to his companions, and he said about the majority of his oma, the Muslims, the majority of the members of his oma will end up in Hellfire not because of common things that everyone else does, not because of major sins, such as alcohol and Xena. But he said when they were alone, in secret in their comfort zone.

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Either Hello Bhima Harry Miller, when they are alone in private, with the things which are Lost Planet Allah has forbidden into hakuho. They penetrate the forbidden boundaries.

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They look at things which they don't would not suppose to look at. They begin to talk and say things which they are not supposed to. They chat with people whom they don't even know who they're chatting with across the world behind usernames about things which serve their desires. They listen to things which I lost, my dad has forbidden them to listen to, because that's what they desire. And the majority of people from the oma have a solid waste on the law and it was stolen. What will enter Hellfire because of what they do in private, which no one else knows. You know why? It's not because of doing that sin. Some of them are minus things. In fact, the majority of them are minus things.

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Allah subhanaw taala does not put people from the ummah. So as I said, I'm in the fire, because of merely just the things that you see, when you are alone in your comfort zone. That's who you really are. It's who you really are. And that's the reason why members of the oma of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam may end up being tortured or punishment punished not because of the actual acts which they are doing. Because Allah spent ALLAH is forgiving is merciful. But it's because that's what defines who you really are in your identity.

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That's who you really are.

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Now, let's look at the opposite effect.

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There are people who you see them smiling in front of you. They're in the masjid, they're cheerful, and you think so panela they've got no problems at all.

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But when they are alone,

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between them and Allah subhanho wa Taala

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they make although

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they pray to cows to Allah subhana wa Taala they spend long in their salad, and they smile turns into tears. They're crying, when they're alone with a loss of power with either.

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These are the mean whose true identity is really the love of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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They cannot wait to get home. After their long day,

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their spouse goes to sleep, their children go to sleep. And they want their own private time to do what

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just to connect with a loss of Hanna who went on to cry to him to complain to him to talk to him. So panna cotta on

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the spine of a person whose true identity is that and their priority is our last panel dialer, you will find that whether they are in need, or not in need, when they are in trouble or not in trouble. They just love to talk to a loss of Hannah who were alone, they make drama when they are in need. And they make drama when they are not in need. Because a lot of us have forgotten. That is not just about when you need something from a loss.

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You should not be a person who only turns to a law when they need something. Or when they are in strife when they are in hardships. And what min makes no difference. Whose priority is alone. They turn to a low when they're happy. And when they're sad when they're in need. And when they're not. You know why? Because they truly love Allah Spano with God.

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Hands up if you've ever fallen in love with someone.

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Now I think every person who's married here should have their hand up. You should be in love with your wife or your husband. Right? There you go. We have one brother here. I was hoping for everybody to put their hand up, except for the young ones who are not married yet. So everyone who's married, put your hand up, have you fallen in love with someone good. That's the way you fall in love. Now, some of our men here thinking I'm a gentleman and I don't put my hand up to show my wife. I love her. This is something which I'd like to reserve. But I saw the lace on the low and he was selling them was asked one time, who do you love the most? Who do you love the most? And what did he say?

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I should have a loved one? Was he ashamed to say to sahabas? I love Ayesha the most.

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And he had the strength of 30 men, right?

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So my men, he said about her, her father Abercrombie alone, and so on and so forth. Now honestly, the person who loved the most was really a detail of the law and have that in the lifetime of those who survived. In his time when he was asked that question. He said, I shot there's no problem in a man saying I love my wife, you should love your your wife, and the wife should love her husband. Now, those of you who said that you love your wife, and those of you who said you love your husband, I'm presuming that you've been married for a few years now. Okay, we're talking to the people who have been married, you know, 10 years and above.

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I'm sure your love has become very ordinary, and you become used to it right? So let's take back take you back about 10 years ago when you first met your spouse. How was your love? Then? You know, when you were engaged?

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What did you do?

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Your beloved was always on your mind right? When you go to sleep you dream about them. When you wake up, the first one you mentioned is them after saying a shadow La ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasul Allah

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had big, heavy

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Fulani hammer, in my mind, that becomes your daily Vicar almost.

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So when you love that person so much, they're always on your mind. You want to call them you want to speak to them. When you're at school, you're doing your exam, right? And you can't help but suddenly write your beloved's name accidentally think what am I doing right?

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You see them everywhere you go. You don't really need them. Because you feel an attachment to them a love. You find yourself wanting to talk to them. You find yourself remembering them. So you start making thicker, but you're thicker is the loved one.

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On a different note. Imagine you've gone overseas.

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Who do you start remembering?

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You remember the loved ones.

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When you're in pain, who do you remember? You remember your loved ones.

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The more you are distant from your loved ones the more you remember them, not because you need them, but because you love them.

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Allah should be the most beloved to you more than anyone else.

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And if you love anyone more than Allah subhanho wa Taala

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Listen carefully. If

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Do you love anyone more than Allah subhanho wa Taala

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then I would say that you are at risk of one day, becoming harmful to yourself.

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You may be at risk of one day becoming suicidal. And I'm not joking.

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Why?

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Because anything or anyone you love more than Allah

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will when they leave you.

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You don't own your spouse, you don't own your children. You don't own your wealth. You don't even own yourself.

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My evidence

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when you were born, you were born crying. You didn't want to come out into this world. You said Take me back inside.

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But you had to come out because you don't own yourself. You don't control yourself. And when you come to die,

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you can't give yourself another minute to live. Why? Because you don't own yourself.

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If a sickness befalls you, you can't take it away from you. Because you don't own yourself.

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You can prevent this from the people you love, but you can't because you don't own them. You don't own anything. You and I don't own anything or even ourselves.

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We all belong to a loss of planet what I learned from him we came into him We shall return. So if your love is for something that is temporary, then remember what Abu Bakr radi Allahu anhu said at the time of the death of our beloved Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam What happened? Amaro there lo han who stood up and he held his sword saying anyone who says that Allah has died I will strike is Nick

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I don't believe that he died

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earlier the Allahu anhu he became dumbfounded couldn't talk anymore. Another for Herbie he fell to the ground couldn't walk anymore another one's dead if it's true then our law make me blind so I might not see anyone but also law after this another instead our life it's true take my life because I don't want to live another minute.

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After that, it should I truly love those little lights on them. It was hilarious. But what did your loved one who's saying? He turned around and said to the people McKenna Yeah, Buddha, Mohammed and Ferdinand, Mohammed and god man met, whoever used to worship Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, then Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam has died, is gone. woman can a Buddha law in the law.

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But whoever loves the law and worship Allah, then Allah is everlasting, you will never die.

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Imagine if a worker Delano did not come out and remind the people that your love is first and foremost to Allah, which explains why Allah subhanho wa Taala did not leave his profits to live forever. Because people will probably end up worshipping them instead of Allah, their love for them, which would supersede Allah subhanaw taala as love knowing that they will leave us forgetting that they came from Allah, that these prophets you will not love them. If it wasn't for las pantallas love

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turning back to Allah Subhana what the highlight is the lesson because Allah is everlasting, he will never die. And we remember Ibrahim Allah, his son, when he looked up into the sky, and he saw the stars. He said, you know, everyone chose a star to worship and he saw the moon. He said, This is my God. But when they came, the moon went, and he said, No, no, no, no, my lord doesn't leave me. I don't like those who leave me then he saw the sun. And he said, Oh, the sun. This is bigger and brighter. This is my God. But when night came, the sun went away. And he brought money. Selim said, What, my God Allah leaves me none and I don't want to God that leaves me obviously is teaching the

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people something that if you worship Allah, if you worship materialistic things, they're going to leave you nothing lasts. Then he said, Allah is forever. He never leaves me alone with me wherever I go.

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And when you die returned back to him.

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So ultimate Love is a loss. apana What odd? Because when that thing leaves you then you will become suicidal. I remember back in. You call it elementary school here we call it high school. Is that right? Ferris Elementary. Elementary is the high school or secondary schooling. I remember when I was in form two or year eight of my schooling. We used to walk to school, and there was this bridge that we crossed. It was above a river. One day we're walking to school and back in Australia, and there was a dead body, a dead body in the river.

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This man had jumped off the bridge and killed himself. The ambulance came and

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you know as children we asked a lot of question How did he die? What did he die for? You know what happened?

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He had left a note, obviously the non Muslim

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that didn't know what his purpose was. The note said that his longtime girlfriend left him for another man. So he had no reason to live anymore.

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So he killed himself. He couldn't bear the pain. So Panama.

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So Panama,

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he worshiped

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his girlfriend. And his whole life was for his girlfriend. So when his girlfriend left him, he took his life.

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You remember that actor?

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What's his name? Robin Williams. Remember Robin Williams? Anyone heard of Robin Williams? That comedian? Yes. Robin Williams, famous actor from America, very famous actor. He committed suicide about two years ago, all this? He has all the wealth of the world. You always see him cheerful, laughing, joking. But he went from divorce to divorce. I mean, finally he hanged himself and killed himself no reason to live.

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Why?

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Because obviously the love of Allah subhanaw taala was not there. The purpose? Which is Allah was not there. So my brothers and sisters in Islam, what kind of a person? Are you in your comfort zone? And what is your true goal?

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How is your prayer?

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Does your life revolve around your prayer? Or does your prayer revolve around your busy life? For example, if you're a businessman, or you run a shop or something like that at work,

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and the time for it then comes along. It's over, pray or pray.

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Have you tried to work out a way so that you can move away and do your soul out and then return back to your work? Or have you struggled with that all your life, but managed to get your work right?

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And I can't go on. without mentioning that little poster which keeps coming into my brain. I once saw this poster entering the message one time, this poster had a picture of a young boy, it's probably about 18 years old. And in that picture, it shows him asleep in bed. And his parents are waking him up for solid pressure.

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And he's so annoyed saying fear alarm and fear alone Let me go to sleep. I've got to give myself sleep. You know, I've got work. But it's time for project.

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And then about nine o'clock he missed the alarm clock. And he's got him in the other picture saying to his parents fear Allah furillo Why didn't you wake me up on time now I'm going to be late for work. But he didn't ask them to fear alone not waking up professional. Now obviously, it's just a cartoon figure. But then I wonder how many of us are in that situation? How many of us feel so annoyed when we are woken up for fudger

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but we don't feel annoyed when we are woken up for our work

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we probably get up very tired we probably stayed up watching the soccer game last night. But when it comes to work, we will not miss it ever. So panela go to the cemetery to the graveyard and there was all the lies the lies and and did tell us Allah in the coordinator commands era to recover lF s rW have to the crew computer. Behold everyone, before I forbids you from visiting the graves. Now, I order you to visit the graves for their remind you of the hereafter. So let's see what does visiting the grave do to you.

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You go to see a grave of a person, any person.

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And I want you to imagine this.

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If that person were to come out of his grave or her grave right now,

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what would they say to you?

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It really hits you when you go and watch that grave, especially if it's a family member.

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It's difficult, but it gives you a slap on the face.

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What would that person say?

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In fact, imagine you are the one in that grave.

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And you have to look at your life in reverse. So right now you are here. This is your life right now. I mean a low alum tomorrow you and I maybe did

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probably have another week, maybe another month, maybe another year, maybe another 10 years, a low alum, maybe another few hours, a low alum. None of us here can guarantee to leave this gathering and make it home alive. Isn't that correct? Not trying to scare you, but that's the reality at any time.

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So how about this idea instead of thinking forwards in our life

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Let's try and sit down and think backwards in reverse.

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Imagine that you are now dead.

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What matters the most?

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Seriously, think about it. What will matter the most, if right now? You are dying, or you're dead.

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Now let's think about all the things that matter to us really.

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Now I'm talking to you, I'm talking to myself first. And I want you to talk to yourself. Don't think about the person next to you don't think about your your friend, or that other person who's doing this sin or that sin. Think about yourself, really, and be honest with yourself. Be honest with yourself, what really matters to you now? And then if you were did, what would really matter to you then? So for example, if what matters to me now, is how much money I've got

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on my business. If what matters to me now is my car, for example, if what matters to me now is my looks, for example.

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Or maybe my popularity,

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then if I were to die tonight, what all of this matter to me anymore?

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Obviously not?

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What's your popularity going to do for you and your grave?

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Will you take your money with you to your grave?

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Will you take your family with you to the grave?

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Will you take your work with you to the grave?

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You know the word that is risk provision, the owner told us something interesting about the word risk. A lot of us think that what you have

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is your risk. But that's not what risk means. It really means what you have used, what you have used. So for example, what's his name Bill Gates, one of the richest men in the world.

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Let's say he has a house with 300 rooms in it. But all he uses his three or four rooms of that house, then we say his risk is just the three or four rooms, or the other is not his risk, until he uses them. So if you have a lot of money, for example, your risk is what you've used. What you haven't used is not even yours. I mean, you might have it in the bank, you might have it invested. But it's not yours, until you've used it.

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So when you are in that grave,

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what's the only thing that really matters?

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What would you wish to track to change about your life?

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Number one is your deeds.

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your deeds?

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You would look back and think about that salad which you did yesterday.

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I did it too fast. Did I think about my salad properly? How fast did I read the

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hell faster? So Pandora bellhousing Have you ever thought of changing my liquor which I do in solid, I mean Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. He used to say other liquor, such as to go from producer Robin Miller.

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For example, He used to make long dry and record is to make long dry and salute. Now compare. How fast is our select these days? What are we thinking about in our select? My father told me this joke about a man

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who had who went to select in the masjid. And after the Eman finished

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a group of people said yeah, amen. Yeah, amen. We played we prayed selected, I share. He said Yes, I know. Some of them said, Well, we only did three records. Another group said no, it was four. So then they split.

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Everybody's saying a group saying three another group saying four. Yeah, and Matthew did it wrong.

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But they saw this man sitting aside and they asked him why didn't you say anything man while you're sitting on the side? They're not saying anything. It looks at them with all coolness and calmness He said, The Man prayed right for a card.

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So they asked him, How are you so sure about yourself? He said, Well, you see,

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I have four shops.

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And then the first Raka I calculated my earnings for the first shop. And the second that I call my earnings for the second shop, third Raka my earnings for the third shop and the fourth Raka my earnings for the fourth shop, he said I don't have a fish shop. So that means we must have done the forecast correctly.

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Liquor is thinking about

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based on the number of records of his salad on his worldly gains, not on a loss of God. Now I want you to compare that widow with a man I'm going to take you back to the time of the tabular in now. There was a group of at about a billion stay with me there was a group of about a turbine about turbine means the

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generation after the generation of the Sahaba his children. So this was about maybe 60.

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Sorry, the tabulating, but 60 years after the death of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. And there was a group sitting there. And they saw an old man praying, or did they see an old man praying,

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just praying in the masjid.

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His standing was very long. His record was very long. He sujood was very long.

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So once one of the February and he said to his friends,

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I don't think this man can remember how many records it is prayed.

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You know, saying so long. I don't think I'll even remember how many records is prayed, he'll forget.

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So then I said to him, Well, instead of backbiting and why don't you go up to him and give him advice?

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So the man's thinking about the number of records that

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he goes up to the man after he finished and established, he says, Yeah, he, you know, make your prayer a little bit shorter. So you can remember the number of records that you did sort of last month, and it can be pleased with you.

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So the man turns to him and says, If I can't remember how many I can't, I know that Allah subhanho wa Taala. He knows,

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so long as my intention is right. And I'm doing my best. You can live long enough sin in Lusaka. photopolymers, Hamas portato, Allah does not burden the person more than what they can bear worship Allah as much as you can.

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So then the young man, he saw that the old man had some wisdom in his words, and he asked him who he is. And guess who he ended up being. He ended up being the Sahaba, a Buddha, or the Allahu anhu.

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The young man then turned around in shame, put his head to the ground and raced up to his mates. And he says, Allah here decom, you sent me to teach one of those harbors of a sort of lifestyle it was.

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The point is, the other story I told you about the man is thinking about his worldly gains, and you remember down the road, this hobby is doing longer karate can't remember how many records, but his heart is fully attached to a lot of pain over Thailand, doesn't matter how many records you've done? Or does it matter how your attachment to a lot during the record is what matters. It is not about the quantity of your actions, but rather the quality of your actions. If you only had 100 drums, and you donated 50 theorems, but another wealthy person came along, who has, you know, 10 million dirhams, and he donated 1 million, which one is more worthy?

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Maybe both of them are equal. But the one that is more Worthy is the one whose heart is more attached to a low end they gave it

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It could be that that 50 Durham's be more valuable to Allah than the 1 million Why? Because when they gave it, they gave it out of the hat.

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There was no two year they really loved the last panel with the island and they gave it really, really hoping for las pantallas pleasure.

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Brothers and sisters in Islam. Having said this, a person whose priority is Allah subhana wa tada and His messenger will do the following.

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Any action that you do in life, any action, any action, you name it,

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your priority is to please Allah subhanaw taala in it. Hell, for example.

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you brush your teeth,

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you brush your teeth, Muslims or non Muslims brush their teeth, everybody brushes their teeth. Even the murderer brushes his teeth. The rapist may brush his teeth, the pedophile brushes his teeth, right? Everybody brushes their teeth. Here is the difference when you brush your teeth, and you are thinking

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that this is one of the Sooners of the Sooners of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that when you pray to Allah, you would like your mouth to smell nice. And you want to please Allah Subhana Allah with it. Then now brushing your teeth becomes a matter of worship, because your priority changed.

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When you bathe and have a shower and you're having a shower with a different intention that a Muslim should be clean. And that is part of the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu it was sent him to be clean. Then suddenly a normal act which anyone does for you becomes an act of worship.

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When you eat, everybody eats. In fact, some people live to eat and some people Eat to Live

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Insha Allah We are the ones who ate to live. But when you eat and you enjoy your food, and you are thinking about Allah subhanho wa Taala, while eating, that Allah has provided you this food, you say Bismillah, In the name of Allah, you say and hamdulillah. After finishing the now your act of eating becomes a burden, simply because your priorities inside changed.

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Even when you enter the toilet,

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something as simple as entering the toilet, and you choose to enter the toilet with your left foot. Well, you can teach it to your two year old, a child goes into the left foot doesn't talk when they're in the toilet. And when exiting, they say oh Ferghana or Hamdulillah, abandon other Alhamdulillah to the one who has taken away the harm away from me. You remember Allah from a simple act, which is considered to us to be an act of impurity, you are rewarded, it's an act of worship. So upon the law Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam said to his companions Also, don't let a day pass to you, except that you give an act of charity, and an act of charity in Arabic. sadhaka doesn't just

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mean giving from your wealth, it means any good act, even if you bring a smile to your brother or sisters face, then it is an act of charity, or relieving someone from any hardship or pain or saying a nice word that makes someone happy or relieved, is an act of charity Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, even helping a person lift their, you know, belongings, onto their, into their vehicle onto your camera or into your vehicle into your car, or whatever it may be. And then he finally said this word, he said, even cohabitating and being intimate with your own spouse, with your wife, in your privacy is an act of sadhaka meaning an act of goodness. And then as the harvest

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said, Yeah, Allah, you know, doing something that we you know, we fulfill our desires in with our wife or our husband, we have rewards for it. He said, Yes. What if you were to do this act in Haram, wouldn't it be a sin? They said Yes, sir. Rasul Allah. He said, the fact that you chose the Hillel, instead of the Haram is an act of worship. Shift your priorities now. Some people this day and age don't even want to get married anymore. So what are they doing? They're resort to haram relationships. What is their priority? their priority is their knifes and their desires. But the fact that a person uses and goes towards marriage, even their marriage has its hardships, just so

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that they can resort to Hillel instead of her own.

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Alone, Lydia, Helen and Yvette O'Hara Marlena habagat Allah who has made the Helen pure for us and made the Haram impure just by doing that.

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Your act is now a worship. So guess what? And I finished it with this. I recall a beautiful story about one of my friends, a colleague teacher of mine.

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We were picking up his child from the kindergarten Do you have kindergarten here? You have kindergarten, childcare.

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As he was parking his car, parking his car, he hit the curb.

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The curb? And he said a staffer law.

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I looked at him and said Why are you saying his stuff for law just because he hit the curb. It's just the you know, the legal system in this country. You know, by law, you shouldn't really hit the curb. You're saying his stuff but a lot when it's just the law. Say stuff alone, you do a sin. He looked at me and said, Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, I didn't say stop a lot because I hit the curb. So then why did you say stop for a lot? He said I stopped. I said I stopped for a while because I was startled, startled, startled means. You know, I got shocked. He

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said, What do you mean? He sets the panel low, you know?

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When I was younger,

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every time I got shocked or startled,

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I would say a swear word.

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a swear word.

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He said then I thought to myself, when does being startled happen?

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It happens when something suddenly out of the ordinary happens to you. And then I thought, what if I'm crossing the road, and then someone screams out? Look out the car is coming. I look and then it runs me over.

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And I die.

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I was startled. What would be my last words then? I said if I get used to saying swear words, every time I'm startled, then my life may end on something which Allah subhanho wa Taala is not pleased with me. And my last words will not be met either. Hey, Lola. So I got myself used to saying words of remembrance. Every time I am startled. Now it's automatic. automatically comes out. Just like the way people are.

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medically swear, or they curse. You know, when parents are very angry with their children, they break a cup or a glass, they swear at them. They curse them La hawla wala quwata illa Villa back in Lebanon, the Lebanese people, those who don't fear Allah, they got so used to saying swear words and curse words, right? Like mothers and fathers, that they got scared that if they do, the curse word may reach their child. So for example, excuse me the saying there's some fathers.

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I've heard them say to their child, Allah Allah, Anak, Subhana Allah, may Allah curse you.

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So one day I said to one of these fathers, yeah, stop making land on your child.

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Did you know that your dryer may arrive at a time when your dryer is accepted? And because of your dryer your child becomes cursed? He said La hawla wala quwata illa Allah. So a month down the track.

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I saw him

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and then his son did something you know what he said? He said, Allah Allah.

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May Allah curse your father.

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I said, Why did you say that? It says so that the llama doesn't go on my child loving too much. Let it be on me. Now how?

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I said yes. Instead of saying that if you have to say the learner, at least say Elena shaitana.

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Or at least even better yet?

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C'est la stemtech. Allahu Allah subhana wa. How beautiful is that?

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So that your last words before your death automatically come out the crow law. Did you know there's a part in your brain, a little part that gets addicted. By repetitive acts is a section in your brain that we learn in science men and women have it everybody has it. It's where you get addicted to things like drugs, and very bad actions. pornography, drugs and other things. You can train that fiction in your brain by repeating actions all the time

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to get used to and addicted to something.

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We Muslims should only get addicted to good things, and you can make yourself addicted to it. That's why in Islam, we have Vicar words that occur in psychology. They tell you if you want to be confident in every day, say 100 times on confidence, on confidence, have confidence. I'm confident I'm confident. And these are non Muslims don't even know anything about Islam. They teach us liquor, and they don't even know that they're teaching us Islam.

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What did Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam teach us? He taught us to say for example, so panela this many times I stopped for a law this many times lay the law this many times sometimes we get so used to it that we don't even know what we're saying. And we think we're just saying anything, right? No. Teach your children and get yourself used to repeating certain words. Because in your brain, there's that section which is constantly getting used to it brothers and sisters.

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You get attached to it, you get addicted to it. So make yourself addicted to the things which Allah subhanho wa Taala loves, so that your end in sha Allah or be on something which Allah subhana wa Taala is pleased with not on something which is displeased with make your priorities for Allah, not for materialistic, temporary things.

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I asked Allah subhanho wa Taala to assist us and help us in training ourselves to become addicted to the things which he is pleased with. I asked a lot of pain on the island to cure our hearts and our souls. And I asked Allah subhanho wa Taala to unite us on that which pleases Him. And I ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to return us back to his religion in the way that pleases him. I ask Allah to forgive our sins and to accept this worship promise. May Allah subhanho wa Taala listen to us and mean also the law Juan and abena Mohammed while early he was so happy here Jemaine I thank you for listening brothers and sisters. And I don't know how much time we have.

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We have a little bit of time. It's very nice. I enjoy talking to the audience.

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So if you have any questions that are related to the topic,

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I will try my best inshallah to answer you. Sometimes you may have a question that's not directly related to the topic, but please try to stick to the topic if you can. Otherwise, if you have something you would like to share with us. We'll be happy to discuss it inshallah.

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Listen reward chef for this valuable lecture. Before we move on to the question and answers. We would like to share a celebration with everybody here

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We have to two people who want to announce. So it's a bit noisy.

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Okay, we have two people who want to announce their Shahada insha Allah on stage. So I think the organizers have prepared this for us

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May the May the

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we'll do it later.

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So, we will do it later inshallah, for the question and answers inshallah, but we just want to point out with the, with the audience that we want the questions to be clear, and short to have time for other questions.

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Thank you.

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I'm so excited about those who want to convert to Islam, I can't wait for him. Mashallah, that'll be the highlight of this evening.

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Do you have a microphone or something?

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Yes.

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Quality.

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I think this topic was very important. And I'm glad that you talked about this today. Because I myself 90% of the Muslims that I've ever asked, Why are we created? They couldn't answer. And I think in every lecture if they just give a reminder to people that why Allah subhanaw taala rated us.

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I think,

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I think that solves a lot of problems.

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And I just wanted to ask, in your opinion, if somebody wanted to make these these priorities, what are the steps, especially for young people? What are their steps that they should take in order to reach in order? Because it just doesn't come like that? But what are the steps? Or what are the things that they should do? Or what are the things that parents can do for their children so that they can reach to that

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point that they make

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a lot of watch my alarm system?

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There are many steps towards making that your priority, but I can talk from my personal experience, if you don't mind, it's probably the best way that I can answer this question.

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Alhamdulillah, I was privileged to have parents who raised me from a very young age on Deen Alhamdulillah. And this brings me to the first step. You know, the Hadith which Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam said that every newborn is born on a natural instinct, the natural fitrah, which means that if you connect them to a last panel of data, it's easy for them to be connected. So it starts with the parents, number one. And what I would like to advise the parents to do, number one is the parents are just working on the parents first, then comes the child, because sister mentioned the parents,

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first and foremost, every parent,

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act more than what you say.

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Children are sick and tired of lecturing,

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lecturing, and rules. You know, talking about do's and don'ts do this don't do that. Trust me, as a parent and a teacher, this doesn't work. So number one, you need to be the person you would like them to be. Allah gives you your child ready, ready to digest and consume everything they see. And the law has given you your child to look at his mother and father or her mother and father as superheroes. Everything they say is true. This is deliberate. Allah created them like a clear slate. So the way you would like them to be you have to first of all be that person. For example. There's no use, there's no use.

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Telling your child not to smoke when they see you smoking, or the tell or to tell them to stay the truth when they realize that you've been the truth yourself, or to tell them to pray on time, when they've witnessed that you delay your praise yourself, and so on and so forth. Even when you do pray on time, and when you do do the right things. If you shout at them and become angry at them, then you're teaching them how to have how you're teaching them how to be angry. Remember what we said. They don't obey you. they imitate you, they imitate you. And if you look at the life of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he used to live most of his life around young people. But the

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majority of the Sahaba is we hear about the young people. We're talking about 1011 years old, 12 years old 1620. These are the sahabas around the sort of lifestyle allowed to sell them and you'll find that he didn't speak much to them. It didn't tell them things. Normally, he would smile with them. Play with

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them a joke with them, converse with them about any topic they wanted any topic they wanted. And if they go astray a little bit, he then comfortably takes them back to the right path suddenly just very easily, very like tapping them. And I'll give you an example. The Sahabi is a PhD in zaidan haritha, the law one, the formally adopted son of Rasulullah, sallAllahu sallam. zaidan haritha when he became a teenager, he reached puberty

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Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam was walking in with some sahabas. And he was with him in the market. And there was, there were women walking at a distance. So they kept looking at the women.

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And Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is talking and looking forward, but he's watching right from the corner of his eyes. So as he's talking, and without making it obvious, he just put his hand on the cheek of zaidan. Just return it back forward, like that. Then Zed would look again, and Ross was awesome, just do that, again. And we'll just do that until they passed. He did not have to lecture him. But also the Lysa Lola seldom acted the way he should be, and suddenly moved him when he finished the line or understood what the message was.

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The way you act is the way your child becomes. That's number one. That's the first step and the best step.

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Number two, parents, share with your children any topic of interest that they want to talk about.

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Well, even if it's about music, you're probably saying music, pop culture is hot on what's going on over here. Let them talk man, let them talk. Let them talk. Because if they don't talk to you, they're going to talk to someone else is going to lead them astray. Encourage them and make it easy for them to talk about sensitive topics. Because you know which other topics which make our children go astray and lose their pathway. They are the topics which we have to talk about. But we're too embarrassed, or they're taboo topics, because our culture doesn't let us and I'm going to say the word now even if some of you may cringe or don't like it, but I think the young people will like me

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for it. Talk to them about six. Sorry, it's a normal part of life. My child it was was was 10 years old, my son 1011 years old. And I remember myself, when I was at high school, elementary school. In year seven, they brought this topic this education into class, and they had to get the signatures of our parents to give us permission in those days. So my father taught me at the age of 11, all about this intimacy. I found that funny.

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But I found that easy to accept.

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When your child reaches puberty, it's too late to talk about these topics, because they're not going to listen to you. They're going to be embarrassed. They're going to listen to other people. So from a young age, talk about sensitive topics. And don't be afraid to answer their question, sister, you said it's important talk about why we are created. I'll give you an example. My daughter, when she was six years old, she asked me why do we pray?

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You got to give them a simple answer. We said because we love Allah. So yeah, why Can I just tell a lie? I love him. So then I said, Why don't you hug me then she hugged me and I said, Now say I love you said I love you. I said, which one felt better? When you said I love you, or when you hug me and said I love you said when I hugged you, it felt closer. I said now the way we hug Allah,

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please, I don't mean you know, shikaku the issue, but a child understands that that way I said the way it's like hugging the way you had me. We share our love to Allah by praying to Him just so when I do this doesn't mean I'm hugging Allah I laughed about it said not exactly, but it's like that you're loving a lot more. So you're getting closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So brother, sister, two things for the parents. Number one, act the way you would like them to be raised. Number two, Don't lecture them too much. But let them talk to you about sensitive topics, controversial topics, answer any question you want and talk about topics which interest them? Well, like even sitting down

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and watching the sports or playing a game with them on their iPad. Today I was at a school and the parent and the teachers were saying that children too much on social media. And

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you know, instead of avoiding social media, why don't we

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actually sit down with them and, you know, use social media together? Why don't we set up an account and make time for it. That way you can control that inshallah and you're teaching them how to use it. For example, you're teaching them the rights and wrongs about it. There's no secrets between you. You're teaching them to trust you will live among them. And I can't stress this. Among the most important parts of raising your children on right priorities is to create a trust and friendship between you and them. Because when they grow older, you want them to come up to you and tell you about

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About the secret sins, you want them to come and tell you about the stuff, which their friends told them, because you want to be able to teach them and direct them. So these are just some simple stuff from the parents that they can do. I know you're probably expecting me to tell you put them in quarter and score, put them in religion school, make a time for them to read the Quran. From this time to that time, make sure you turn off the TV from this time and that time, make sure that you put a security code on the internet, all this is excellent and good. Make sure that you teach them the earth garden and tell them stories about the prophets. All this is good and excellent. We all do

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that Alhamdulillah. But time and time again, I have seen that parents, they focus too much on rituals, and practices, more than talking about the reasons behind it, talking about the relationship that you have with them. When you have a strong relationship, that's upon a lot, they love to come back to you, and to talk to you, you're able to guide them. So number two, also the children, what I advise the young people to do in taking steps. Number one,

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look at what is the most important thing for you to do in your religion.

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Most important thing, think about it and ask about it. So for example, if it's your select,

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and you're not praying much, then take sit down and say to yourself, I want to make a decision today. And a decision I want to make is that I want to pray. You know, I'm not praying anything right now. So I might say I want to pray

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the lower astral and Missouri every day for a week.

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So you start praying it for a week. Then you say now I'm going to add the pleasure and I shot with it.

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You make that decision yourself. Don't make that your parents make that decision for your teacher or anybody you make that decision because when you make a decision on your own, you feel like you own it, you own it.

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After you've done your five daily prayers, think about what's next. What's after that what's most important after that, then you say the Sooners, then take your students for the next 40 days, for example, or 30 days, practicing your sunders. Remember what we said about repetitiveness, when you repeat something always you become accustomed to it and easy to do. This is very normal, just like when you get yourself used to since and it becomes a habit, it's very hard to leave it, it's very hard to leave it. So take something and use what is the most important thing and take it, keep doing it until you get used to it, then start something else, then start something else, right, you don't

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have to take everything all at once. And that's something else you want to say to the to people who want to become Muslim today. You know, when they become Muslim insha Allah, same thing. Don't take on the whole religion all at once. take it step by step look at what's the most important thing and the most important thing right now is your salad. If I were to stress, anything, I would say to you go and learn everything you can about your salad, and don't learn about anything else for the next three months. Nothing just solid, because that's the most simple if you have your Silla with Allah, then inshallah your prayers will be right.

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If you keep doing that in Charlotte, the island, then naturally naturally you start loving the next good acts after that if you start loving yourself, and you have ownership, and you're going to start loving sadhaka you're going to start loving, and you're going to start loving Arabic, you're going to start loving, they can do that. You're going to start loving hanging around with the right people. By the way, choosing your friends is a huge aspect of prioritizing yourself.

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And when I say friends, I mean those who are your age, and some of them who are older. In the Quran, there's eight types of friends. And two of them which are very important is a friend that is your age, and someone who is really older who can guide you and tell you important directions. I've taken too long on this answer, but I thought that it was a very important question and hopefully inshallah we can have a whole lecture on that one. Thank you system.

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We have the two.

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You have to wrap it up. No, we have the people here to come and announce this

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as a good advice for them to yes

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So 100 mils so that was Salam ala rasulillah. What's your name?

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Christina, and Lynn, Christina and Lynn, we have here.

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ask you a few questions First, if you don't mind. What is your former religion?

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Christina is a Christian and born again Christian. So Pamela,

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can I ask just for myself? Which country? You're from originally? Philippines. Oh, my God, the Philippines. And I'm not surprised about the Philippines becoming Muslim. Because you know that the Philippines was originally a Muslim country. And Manila is actually a national law in the Arabic language, which means God's trust. So panelized think that

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is something which is not not unusual for Filipinos to to actually become.

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Okay, Christina and Lynn, let me stand over here next to the camera.

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Over here

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Thank you.

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So

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Christina, can we just quickly ask you if you don't mind?

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What just in one word, very simple. What What made you want to become a Muslim?

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That I

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thought it was the right way made sense to you and use it says the same thing. I'm clicking the right button. I want to save myself. So

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that's, that's a common answer that a lot of people back in Australia gives. They want to save themselves don't seek the right way.

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A lot of work.

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Whoever becomes a Muslim,

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then our Prophet sallallahu wasallam said that you It's as if you are born again. And I know that you said that you're Christian born again. But if you really want to fulfill that meaning, then Rasul Allah sallallahu wasallam said,

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a person who repents, and you are now repenting, meaning returning back to our last panel with either a person who repents or embraces Islam, it is as if they have no sin whatsoever, they are washed away. So after tonight, inshallah Allah, consider yourself truly a new person. And what we do from the ritual of becoming a Muslim, not because we're dirty, or anything like that, just to mark the importance of this new journey, we go and we made, we have a shower. And we make, although if we know how to make although, and we just if we know how to pray with pray any prayer, we can, or even just pray the way you know. So please don't be too burdened, you can get your Islam shot a little

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bit by bit. But

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you are washed away from all the sins From today onwards. And it's as if, and honestly, all of us. I mean, we're Muslim over here. And we're looking at you right now and thinking, you know, we've accumulated a lot of things along the way, even though we are Muslims ourselves. But we look at you now and think, as soon as you say this Shahada

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then you are

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pure.

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And I think we need to request from you

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to make dua for us, because your daughter will be pure inshallah, and so allows Michelle McDonald for you as well. So you ask God for something for the Muslims and for this nation. And we'll also make that for you, as well. Are we ready?

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And these are the tears of joy and happiness. They emanate from the heart.

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Some people say rebirth which means you've gone back to the way that you were born, but convert is also a proper word. So we'll start with Christina.

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We'll say it in English first, and then we'll say it in Arabic. So if you agree with these words that I'm going to say you can say after me, so you're going to say

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I'd be witness

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this one good

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that Jesus face, the son of Mary

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is the abundant

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prophet and messenger of God.

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Christina, you're a Muslim?

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Mashallah, congratulations. We'll leave it at bit after sister Linda has become Muslim as well, we'll come back to Christine.

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There is no god

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worthy of worship,

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except

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in zibra witness

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that Muhammad is the final messenger

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of Allah.

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And I bear witness that Jesus Christ,

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the standard marry,

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basically upon them both

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is the Prophet and the messenger of

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love.

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And

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then you are Muslim, you our sisters in Islam. So you know two types of sisters in humanity and our sisters in Islam. And everyone here are your brothers and sisters in Islam. So what is we love for you love for ourselves and we dislike for you what we dislike for ourselves. And we asked the last panel what I like to unite us all to drink from the hands of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, which is his promise at the fountain called Goethe on the Day of Judgment. Allah spent Allah keep you steadfast, don't forget us in your prayers duckbill

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Mashallah

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Kabir again.

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Allahu Akbar means that God is the greatest. Congratulations.

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There's a question here from the o clock. Do you have to change your name? What do you think? Would you like to change your name? Would you like to change your name?

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I'll tell you something.

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You don't have to change your name. Only if you want to. Christina is an acceptable name. And Lynn is also an acceptable name. But if you feel like you want a more Islamic name, then we are happy to call you by that name as well. So if you have a name in mind at the moment, we'll be happy to know it. If you don't take your time. And inshallah you can change your name if you wish. Okay.

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Congratulations.

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Anyone else wants to become a Muslim?

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renew us.

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on the low side for listening,

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Mr. equal.

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Thank you all. Unfortunately, we don't have much time for more questions. We would like just to call Mr. Adam otter, the manager of religious services in mosques to come up and have a token of thanks for the shape.

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Thank you all for joining and we hope you had a pleasant and beneficial time. We wish you all a nice evening and have a good night. salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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