Bilal Assad – Measuring Success

Bilal Assad
AI: Summary © The success of Islam is emphasized, including achieving goals and learning about one's religion, personal responsibility, and focusing on emotional intelligence. Personal growth and deeds are emphasized, and measuring success and giving charity are emphasized. The importance of staying healthy and reading and learning to stay motivated is emphasized, and the need for routine care and personalized care for one's health is emphasized. The host suggests using the Internet for personal growth and a recommendation is made to read and learn to stay motivated.
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Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah Welcome brothers and sisters, tonight Insha Allah, I want to talk to you about measuring success. We're going to go through defining what success is, what is the Islamic perspective? What does Islam say about how to develop success in our life? What are the measures, and what are the advices. So this evening in sha Allah, I'm going to give you a brief fundamental to them or like 1234, and I'm going to divide them each category into four, four by four by four like that for different topics, and under them four different fundamentals and rules. Now, I'm not going to mention everything about success. But I think the things that are most

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important on top of the list that experts have counted. Now brothers and sisters, before I begin in sha Allah, I've actually compiled a good, nice list of rules and fundamentals about how each and every one of us as Muslims can be successful in this life and in the hereafter. Wallahi they are amazing advices that I gathered from experts all around the world, but I made sure that they are also scholars in Islam, and they are experts in the other fields, three of the main ones that are used, so that you know that the credibility is there. And the qualification is there in sha Allah because I myself had to learn more and I attended PDS in these sessions I attended, I attended many,

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many PDS in my life, which means personal development and workshops and courses. I did psychology myself and we studied management and a little bit of organizational skills and law, a little bit of business. But these are there are three main experts and scholars that I took a lot of information from, and inshallah tonight I'll share it with you. The first one is Dr. Yasser al Husseini. He's a new person out there on social media. He's a scholar and author in human development, and a psychotherapist. That's one. The second was Professor theoretical Habib, who is also psychiatrists, consultant and the Secretary of the Federation of Arab psychiatrist. The reason I chose Arab is

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because you'll understand when I talk about the mindset of Muslims in the world, and I know we're not all Arabs, but since the Quran is an Arabic and Islam came in the Arabic language from the Arabic prophets, Allah Salam along the ways, we learned some Arabic culture and some mindsets that I need to address at the moment, which I think some of them may stand in the way of our success over time, and I will explain Inshallah, and the third one who is the most important, he is Dr. thorlux, way down who is an author and an expert in management business. He's a business entrepreneur, an educator and historian, and he's also chemical engineer who was listed among the 500 most

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influential Muslims in 2022. You may not agree with all of his ideas and his opinions, but definitely in the area of management skills and building yourself and success. hate these three people are amazing, amazing, Masha, Allah. So here it goes. First of all, brothers and sisters, before we can talk about measuring success, we need to know what is success. Everybody gives a different definition of it. And the majority of people these days without religion without Islam, for example, without a religion or faith of some sort, especially Islam, people usually talk about success in what what do you think? What's the first thing that comes to your mind? Money, money is

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the first thing everybody measures their success based on how much money they get. And subhanAllah this is quite the opposite money even in the non western world. You don't even have to be a Muslim to understand this or a follower over faith, to know that that is a ridiculous golden, ridiculous objective.

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Money even by the people who have all the money, they'll tell you money is not the goal. How many of them made money and they lost their family, they lost their parents, they lost their children. They lost the love and the connection they ended up in homes by themselves dying alone with nobody around them, their hearts were cold, and everything is still just money, and then they leave it all behind that someone else inherited. The Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam said, Oh, the son of Adam, if you give him or her a valley of gold valley between two mountains filled with gold, he or she will take it and then would wish for another valley of gold. The second one, they'll take he'll take a

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second and a third one he'd want and when he reaches a third, he'll set a fourth goal they want to a fourth value of gold. Why just for the sake of because it's fun, make more goals reach them but money and gold and then the promises are seldom said. And in the end, nothing fills the children of Adams mouth except soil. He goes into this little hole in the ground, which is a grave wrapped up in this very cheap material while his body decays and takes nothing of that wealth behind him except everybody takes it and fights over it. Subhanallah families divide over inheritance and the money doesn't follow him or her Subhanallah brothers and sisters money therefore is not the goal. And when

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we look at life, some people they go for something a little bit more meaningful. They go for family for example, they say my purpose in life is a bit more meaningful. And that is my children, my spouse, my family

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A to give to leave a legacy behind to giving charity and to help develop this world, I want to contribute on a leave something behind, you know, just enjoying life by giving. And by seeing other people happy and creating a peaceful or working towards creating a good world for everyone before I die. Now that's a really noble meaningful thing to do actually. And we Muslims that handle I'm going to talk about that it is very heavy in our religion is probably the core of our religion of Islam, or these things, however, we still have a problem. And then what if you make only what is in this world, no matter how meaningful it is, your object and your success, and that's how you measure it.

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At the end of the day, what's still going to happen? What's the ultimate thing that we cannot escape? Death? In the end, you're still going to die. And if you think about it too much, your brain will start playing mind games on you. They'll say, what's the point of doing anything good anyway, since I'm going to die, it's like our children, when they say to their parents, why should I vacuum the carpet mum? Why should I help dad mow the lawn? It's going to grow anyway. Why should we clean up the house is going to get dirty anyway, why should I do my bed? It's going I'm going to sleep back into it anyway. What's the point of showering, I'm going to get dirty anyway. So this mindset

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is a terrible, terrible mindset is what the shaitan wants you to be a Muslim that should never ever be like that. But in reality, we're still going to die, you're still going to leave your family behind, you're still going to leave your contributions behind your legacy you won't get to live to enjoy and to see it you'll just turn into soil, no feelings, nothing the same way before you came into this world you become non existent. So what is the purpose? And what is the point? Well, brothers and sisters, there is also three other questions that will always stay there too. And that is, where did we come from? Why are we here? And where are we going from here? We do have a purpose

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here. And as a Muslim, we know that we came from Allah, Allah put us here, okay, what does Allah want from us by putting us here? Why not putting us in the hereafter immediately? Why does just chuck it over that chuck us over there since he knows we're going to paradise and hellfire? Well, obviously, Allah subhanho wa Taala has honored on it the human being Allah subhanaw. Taala wants us to experience and to fulfill and to live through what connects us to him. He's 99 names. For example, Allah is the Most Merciful. Allah wants us to experience mercy. Allah wants us to give mercy and to receive mercy. Allah is loving and caring and compassionate and forgiving. Allah wants

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to forgive us and we forgive others and receive forgiveness. Allah Subhana Allah wants to manifest His creation and the beauty on Earth and through us, the beauty comes out, almost mantra wants us to contribute and to provide and to leave legacies and to help others and to have a network of relationships and families. So we can experience this amazing beauty which Allah subhanaw taala wants to give us, and to connect us to him, but it didn't leave us like that he gave us guidance, we have a huge purpose. The fact that you are breathing right now brothers and sisters, the fact that you are breathing right now means that you are an ultimate purpose in this life. Each and every one

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of you, every individual, this child over here, you you you meet every one of us if you are breathing, then know that Allah subhanaw taala still has a purpose for you. You have a purpose in this world that it would not happen without your existence. And the purpose Insha Allah, you have choice to it as well. Your purpose, every one of us has a different purpose in life. But ultimately, there is one ultimate goal. So I'm going to start like this by saying brothers and sisters. Success in a nutshell means this. It means to have goals and achieve those goals.

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That's the meaning of success in a nutshell. The closer you get to the goals, the greater success you have achieved. Does that make sense?

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Does that make sense? All right. But the problem now is what kind of goals not just any goals. People have all sorts of goals in life. Some of them are meaningless goals. Some of them are harmful, terrible evil goals. If I have a goal to go and rob a particular store,

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and I achieved that goal, that is success, but it's a good success or bad success. Bad success. If I intend to go and bash that person and go and get my revenge and then i i get that person and leave a family who is saddened and grieved over them because of my my anger and my revenge. I have succeeded in my goal, but is it a good goal? Is it a good success? No. Allah says in the Quran, to be careful about people when you are doing your work and reaching your goal. Not everything is good success. Some things are just gone and will not benefit you whatsoever. Allah says oil Helen on a being open being outside in

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whom you're seeing

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Nelson, in Surah Al Kahf, Allah subhanaw taala says, Shall I tell you about those who are the biggest losers in their efforts and work? They are the ones who have drawn a path in this life towards the wrong end. While they thought that that what they were doing was actually good, but it was a destruction. So how do we know? Well, brothers and sisters, and Muslim has two goals, you must have two ultimate goals. The one of them? Well, two goals. The first one is the ultimate permanent goal. The ultimate permanent goal, a goal that is permanent, and everlasting. A goal that in mathematics, if you multiplied it by any number,

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that number turns into zero. Anyone know mathematics here?

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All right. If there is something, it's this something that's infinite.

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You know, infinite means never ending. There is no end to it.

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And you multiply it by any number you wish.

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Any number you wish, an infinite infinity times any number. Do you know what it equals?

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It equals zero.

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infinity times any number equals zero.

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sorry, divided is divided by equals zero.

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Now it's multiplication.

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Just because you're a lawyer.

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Yeah. Is it divided or multiplied?

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Someone google it.

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Come on google it.

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Any number is zero. Okay, all right.

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Okay, so we'll go by brother foot meters. Words, I think I trust him. He's got a higher degree than me. So we'll go infinity divided by any number equals zero. Anyone Googled it?

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No, you got the point. Let's move on.

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In my last talk, I said accept your mistakes. So if I'm mistaken, humbled I'm very happy that my brother he corrected me, brother and sisters, let's move on. So the point is, the hereafter which is paradise is infinite has never has is never ending. And this world is finite.

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Everything in this universe is finite, it comes to an end this is an established fact.

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What is this world measured to the hereafter that is infinite? Absolutely nothing. So who of us will work for something and make it our ultimate goal when it will end? And rounded up to zero in the end? Nothing. So everyone says Our ultimate goal is what our ultimate goal as Allah says in the Quran, is to enter paradise and to be saved from hellfire as simple as that. Allah says in the Quran go low enough sin

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what in

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a phone call me oh man, okay.

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Fair man

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as we're meant to do near

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in Surah Al Imran one, five. Allah says, Everyone shall taste if

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and only on the Day of Resurrection shall you be paid your wages in full, and whoever is removed away from the fire and admitted to Paradise, he indeed is successful. He indeed is successful. The life of this world is only the enjoyment of deception, that deceiving thing.

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That is the ultimate success. That is the ultimate and permanent goal. So now, we've set ourselves up to talk about the second type of goal and that is the temporary,

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the temporary and minimal goals in life. You cannot reach the ultimate goal. If you don't know how to set your goals here too.

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You have this this earth according to Islam, according to the Quran. This world is like a farming land. It is where you plant your seeds and whatever grows from what you plant, you will reap it and take it

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in the hereafter.

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you plant

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in the Hereafter, you receive.

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Does that make sense?

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Let's move on.

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A lot of people say well what do I What should I make for Allah to make me into paradise ultimately and to save me from the fire? Well brothers, sisters, a man came to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said Ya rasool Allah, Allah, the Prophet peace be upon him said to one man,

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what do you say in your prayers and supplications? And the man said, Yeah, Rasul Allah, I say the shahada at the showerhead, which means I say to hear if it's in prayer, or I testify the shahada in my diet first for my son, Allah had agenda. Then I ask Allah for Paradise. What Oh, there'll be him in a no. And I seek his refuge from the fire. Mo Allah Hema or Cynodon Veneta koala Dan Dennett Mo has it said, O Messenger of Allah forgive me.

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I swear by Allah, I cannot make it eloquent like your Yoda link, and why others Yoda link.

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So he starts to hum and your voice goes up and down as you hum your DUA. The Prophet sallallahu sallam said, How Allah and then we both yodel around just that. So if you don't know any other dua it's enough to say, Oh Allah, allow me to enter Paradise, grant me paradise and save me from the fire, all the dark everything that you do in your life, every dollar that you've ever made every intention, every goal, for a Muslim is all about that end to goals, to be saved from the fire, and to enter paradise. Whoever is saved in the fire into Paradise has truly succeeded. Alright, brothers and sisters, let us look at the life goals now. Muslim must have life goals.

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Get rid of this mentality that I see a lot of our young brothers and sisters or even older ones, the Muslims, where we think we can just sit on the border just like that. pray five times a day.

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Faster a month of Ramadan.

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Pay off zakat go to Hajj,

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get married, and for some men marry many women up to four

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and have children teaching the Quran and that's it.

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Brothers and sisters that is only a very small part we're going to talk about well how does a Muslim live their life and set their goals? And you're going to be amazed at how the Sunnah teaches us.

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The Prophet sallallahu wasallam also said and the Hadith in Bukhari, he said if the final hour comes, if the final hour comes while you have a shoot of plant in your hands, and it is possible to plant it before the hour comes, then plant it.

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Allah do you guys know what this hadith means?

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For the sisters, we can't just read Hadith and out of the Quran on surface level we need to go deeper. We need to analyze me to think harder. Ask questions. What is the prophet of Allah Selim saying if the last hour you heard the last day was coming you have a shooter playing? What's the point of planting a plant when the winds going to end? Let's also SLM is telling us your purpose in life is not the outcome. That's Allah's business, Allah Samantha does that you

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Allah looks at your efforts. And what?

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Two things, efforts and intentions

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in mL mL vignette, all actions abide

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by intentions. Okay, let me let me ask you a question.

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If I entered a room,

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and I saw a cup

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that had

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some liquid in it,

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and I wanted to drink wine,

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and in that cup was what looked like wine.

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So I go to drink it with the intention that I want to drink wine, and then I find out it's apple juice

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Am I sinned

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I am sinned.

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I lost both worlds.

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Number one, I didn't get the wine. And number two, I got sinned. What are the other

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actions of our intentions? But the other way around? I go in I thought it was apple juice ended up being wine. I drank and I got stuck for Allah. Do I get sinned? No, it's not the outcome. It's my effort and intention.

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I did my best to find out. But it didn't work. I made a mistake. I made a mistake.

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mistake. One of the first things that I see Muslims it deters them away from success are these little things.

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They stop themselves and start to get OCDs over things that Islam has made easy, an easy way out. They start not being able to forgive themselves for months and years. Why did I do that? How could I do that? Yeah, it's okay. Islam isn't Allah did not bring the Quran and Islam to make life difficult on you. Allah says

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yeah, man Zelina Aliko Quran analytische Ka, ba We have not sent this Quran upon you O Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, in order to make life miserable for you.

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Not so that you can reach misery.

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While majha La La confit Dinniman Harrahs. Allah did not make in this religion, hardship upon you. We make it hard. So brothers and sisters, in Malama vignette actions of buying tensions. Now I'm going to talk about the first

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to being successful.

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And then a second pathway that complements this one, two pathways I'm going to talk to you about you can choose one or the other. Or you can blend between the two.

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As I told you, these are studies by 1000s of experts and scholars both in the Islamic world and non Muslim world.

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So the first pathway I want to talk about is called Building your productivity. A Muslim has to be productive, my dear brothers and sisters, Muslim has to be what?

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Remember the Hadith we mentioned? A couple of weeks ago we said el momento Coway. You hide them in a moment of life.

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To believers, one is strong one is weak. The strong believer is better than the weak believer. And we talked about strong Amen, strong resilience, strong willpower. We talked about what makes you a strong character. We talked about resources, we talked about finances, we talked about strength and health and so on.

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And we also said men,

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as Ross also said, I'm also said,

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in Allahu hipbelt, the era Milla Milla nuit. At Khan youth clean, Allah loves a servant, that when he or she decides to do something, a good project, masters, you don't stop halfway, continue to the end, even if you fail along the way. Continue.

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Remember when we mentioned in the Hadith, in the seed of the promise of ourselves, and whenever we're going to code, you remember that battle of code. And this is something Muslims do when they study the Sierra, don't focus on the battles but rather focus on what how the Prophet SAW Selim was teaching his companions during all these events, the human side, the wisdom side, the leadership side, the development side, what is he teaching them, it's not about the sword. It's not about the battle. It's about everything in between. Would you imagine sometimes battles will be happening in our schools or our senators discussing and teaching his companions, how to make them how to make

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will do what breaks the will do all these things.

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It's constant learning. So he was the armor, he wore the armor, and the companions had

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exerted energy and sort of put pressure on the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in a innocent way that you had a soul Allah, let's go out we think we should go out and face them russelsheim say we should stay in Medina. And then when he saw the majority rule, he went inside and wore his armor when he came out, the Companions felt regret and they felt sorry, they felt that they may have put pressure on the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and they regret and so the Rasul Allah forgive us, we may have compromised and made you feel a little bit uncomfortable. So we'll go with what you said. And he said, a Prophet when he, when he wears the armor does not take it off. Meaning as Allah says, for

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either as Emperor felucca, Allah, Allah, once you make a decision and you're determined, then keep going. Don't stop. And now

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the building and being productive is four parts. I'm gonna talk about four parts. The first part is to be successful

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in building yourself, to be successful in building

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yourself, to develop yourself

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to develop yourself. There are four things number one,

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number one, I want the young people to listen to this first one, how do you make yourself developed, stronger, better, more productive for yourself? And for others, number one,

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take responsibility men take responsibility, meaning you're able to respond to your actions. You take them.

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Admit when you make them

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Take, if you if you did it right and hamdulillah if you did it wrong, take responsibility.

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There are no excuses brothers and sisters, avoid excuses, no blame, don't put the blame on anything or any one or any event

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or on any flimsy excuse, or are you ready to hit this one, then put the blame on supernatural occurrences, you know, supernatural occurrences are

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making up a belief or a myth of some supernatural nature. And saying, it's because of that.

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There is a book,

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comedic book.

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It's called the 365 excuses for being late to work.

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You can put up for anything else 365 excuse for being late to school 350 566 excuses to being late to home. Anything else. It's all comedy. It's all jokes. And it makes fun of people who make excuses. And it gives you 365 different excuses to say to your boss and to other people why you were late.

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Things like, you're trying a new juice blender. And he wasn't charged very well. And you were trying to work out the instructions and made you late to work.

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You blame it on, you're having a nice dream. And you just thought I'll sleep another five minutes, five minutes became 10 minutes, sorry, or blame it on the wife or the kids or on something like that.

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Take responsibility. All it requires is you to better manage yourself. That's all there is. I remember once used to be late to work for a little while. And my

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my, my colleagues said to me something very simple. And it worked. I said, I'm sorry, I'm 10 minutes late.

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And he said to me just wake up 10 minutes earlier.

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scratch my head and go. He's right.

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Wake up 10 minutes earlier.

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Is that 10 minutes that precious to get that much sleep in?

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Some of us if we don't get that 10 minutes, we're gonna work it out. Somehow in the day, I've got to make up the 10 minutes I got to sleep somewhere. No, no, no, no, you make the decision if you want to be energetic and energized or not. And laziness is a decision to

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energy is a decision. Laziness is decision. Okay, I know that sometimes you're very tired and you're sick. That's a different story. Anyway, brothers and sisters, no excuses for a believer.

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Take responsibility. Sometimes a student comes up or the parent, you have an interview with them. I'm a teacher, as you know. And sometimes a student says, Why did you fail me? Sir?

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I didn't fail. Your parents says, Why did the school fail my son, my daughter. This is the school's fault. Teachers fault.

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Law. We don't fail anybody. Your child failed. They didn't put in what is needed.

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Don't put blame on others.

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And don't think when I was attacking, just take responsibility and see what you can do better.

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Don't take because that's going to drag on in the rest of your life. And Muslims should not be like that.

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Another thing I'm Muslim does is

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they start to blame family they start playing the world for their problems. I'm oppressed, I'm vulnerable. It's my parents, my family's toxic, my teachers fault etc.

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Brothers and sisters, there's no need to say that trust me turn it around and look at yourself and say what can I do? And do it. Do something better don't run away from it.

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Sometimes we get upset with someone or cut them off, block them, block them because they're toxic that everybody says that

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you can solve a problem. He can't solve it you can minimize a problem.

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Don't just cut it all off. We have a famous statement among the scholars mela kulula Trakula Rokoko. If you can't take it all, don't leave it all.

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Keep some string. I'll give you an example.

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Someone asked me if my child decides to leave Islam. I've asked this question a lot from many different people. Should we cut them off and just block them off? Never see them ever again. I said at least one of you if all of you block them off one of you keep a little here between you and him. Just keep some communication. You might think what Catherine apostate say no. Some people are really misguided. They just don't know they're confused and I've had many people who left Islam and came back and hamdulillah just about three weeks ago, up in other side of the town here we had a 1718 year old came in says I want to renew my Shahada left Islam for two years decided I made a mistake.

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Don't know

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To judge people and say hello, stay out of the picture. No Hala salon did not leave his son to the last breath until the wave came and took him while he's proud that he's still trying.

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So there's a difference. What I'm saying brothers and sisters is this that don't just cut off everything, because you're going to find to bigger problems. Now, one important thing I want to say, Remember how I said some people they blame on supernatural events. Their life decisions are connected so heavily on their dreams. They make their dreams like it's caught and sent down from heaven.

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Like it's a rule or a command Are they connected

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let's say jinns

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maybe aren't maybe I'm possessed.

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If that doesn't work, maybe someone's done magic on me.

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And that doesn't work. Everyone results to the classical one. Someone's given me the AI

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why does it my car work? Well, my cousin been working for a while I've been going to the mechanic several times never happened before maybe there's an AI chef can you please come and read on my cards, get some water and splashed all over the car and

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some people I say will lay in my house I don't know I've been

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feeling a bit down lately and things are going wrong. My light bulb doesn't work and the other day flooded, flooded it

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it What's the word for flickered? And all that stuff. Please read on my house brothers and sisters. Let me tell you something.

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The eye on a person does not show that way. To have magic done on your to have a gin or to have sorcery is a very, very, very small chance. I'm talking about 0.01% chance. So

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the likelihood of it is very, very, very, very small. And I don't even say the word possession there's no such thing as called possession. There's in the Quran says mass, like a connection. But there is no definition for it among the scholars. There's different opinions.

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The point that I want to make out of this runs is whether it's you know, there or not. The majority of us are not possessed. There's no magic done on us. There's no eye on you.

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Because why do I only hear from the Muslims all the time? It's like nobody else gets possessed the Muslims no eyes or happens except to Muslims dreams. I know I gave one talk about dreams the other day and people took a like it was Quranic a I had 1000s of people holding on to everything they saw in their dream as if it was Quran. Yeah, we have the Quran with us. Why did Allah bring us the Quran and the prophets, Allah Salam, if it's all based on dreams, and that's it. Dreams are just a little tiny feeling of something, but we don't have a measure to interpret it for your brother and sisters. Nobody, only the prophets can really interpret it. Instead of us also I said lamb said, Talk to

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someone who you trust and love and, and loves you and for wisdom. And if it's a dream that makes you feel good, because usually the way you interpret the dreams, the way you're gonna live it out. It's a psychological thing. There's a lot of psychology and it runs sisters. And sometimes there are good dreams from Allah Subhana Allah but you know, some people they say, Oh, I saw a lot in my dream. I've heard this said to me several times, a guy who's wearing a turban and a beard. And I don't know when we said Subhanallah and this is the shaitan coming to you and making you to appear that way to teach you the wrong way. Some people manipulate others and so I just I saw Allah 1000 times and I

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saw the Prophet this many times everybody goes Allah is a saint. And then he makes himself a prophet himself, everybody and then takes the money from them and starts manipulating people, brothers, sisters, be careful. This is not how the scholars and the prophets taught us. So number one, brothers and sisters, don't let these things deter you from your success. Stop holding on to supernatural things. Sometimes it's out of our mind. Sometimes people want to get married.

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And let's say the parent doesn't want that spouse for them doesn't want that person doesn't like that guy doesn't like that girl. So they come and use religion. They go and make us the heart of the mother and father and accompany her say daughter, son, Wallah we saw in our dreams. This person is killing people in the neighborhood. While oh sorry now dreams this person has got a farm of of marijuana is selling it to people and drugs stay away from him. It's because you don't want him.

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Some people they use this as this is a la Jara Jara.

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So brothers, sisters, this deters stop thinking about this stuff keep going forward in sha Allah.

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Only that the I for example, align or Huck was was awesome said is true, the evil eye, but in all of the 23 years of the theater of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and about 30 years of the lives of the whole 53 years. The historian the scholars of Sierra and history the Muslim scholars of Sierra have only mentioned two or three incidents of the evil eye.

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With us, it's happening 100 times a day.

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Everyone sisters, don't hold on to this. Keep going brothers and sisters and move forward and Muslim doesn't let these things hold them back. If you fail, try again. But when you try again try a different way. Einstein used to say if you try something the same way do not expect a different result. You're always going to get the same results. I tried things a different way. I think it was Edison who invented the light bulb Am I right? Take away the controversial but I think the one who invented the light bulb Edison he said, I learnt 260 ways of how a light bulb will not work.

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Do you know what that means? It means before he succeeded. He had 20 260 mistakes. So he said I can teach you 260 ways the light bulb will not work until he found a way so Muslim will fail and try again and try again. The believers failed in the Battle of Abode. And Allah says

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let us Cebu sha Allah Campbell who are hiring locum, don't assume that as bad for you, it is good for you. So goodness does come out of it. Okay, we'll move on to the sick one. Now go a bit faster. The second thing of developing yourself is brother and sisters. Be authentic to yourself. Be honest with yourself. Be authentic to yourself. Be honest with yourself. Don't make flimsy excuses. Don't go around and say oh, because of this. Be honest. And what do you do with that? I mentioned that last time.

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Sit down,

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get a piece of paper or a book. Some people need a book

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and write down all the faults and shortcomings that you can identify in yourself.

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Now these speakers, they talked about the same thing, and I went and tried it the other day.

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And I counted 5353 problems in me.

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Do you think I looked at as low self esteem or that I'm a failure or a loser? No. I looked at it to see okay, good. These are the areas I can improve on. Is there anyone who is perfect? No. The moment I accepted my imperfection Allah my self esteem shot through the roof.

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I don't care if you find the fault in me. I really found that before you and I own it.

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The one kid you know, sometimes students say you're like this or you're like this. Yeah.

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What my bald head? Yeah, I've got a bald head. hamdulillah

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someone says to you, look at you, you look like this. 100 I do look like that. Allah made me like that. Yeah, I know. What do you what do you know? So what the point is brother and sisters if you have failures, remember one time playing soccer with my friends. When I was back in primary school, and secondary school, I was really bad at soccer. There might be the goalkeeper.

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He goes no way. If you're the gulping mean, goalkeeper means you're not, you're going to step up the game say they put his goalkeeper, and then they try to keep the ball away from you. I still failed, even with great players. And we still lost the game. They made fun of me of everything I did. I was a little kid. But I learned from that, that Subhanallah I'm not really good at soccer, I'm gonna go and get someone to teach me a little bit more. And I did. I wasn't good at basketball. And then I go man, I got a I got to share basketball games with with some students and people and I went and got my nephew to teach me. Who cares. Brothers and sisters, the thing is, you know your failures doesn't

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matter. They're not failures, they're areas for you to grow in. Number three, be a person of willpower. I find this in young people a lot.

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Will, nobody can decide for you to study. Nobody can decide for you to read, nobody can decide for you to do a course nobody can decide for you to do your bit. Nobody can decide for you to look after yourself. And to make something of yourself. You have to decide, your mother and father can put you in a room lock you up and put you in there for four hours with all the books and the textbooks and everything you need. Until you study you're not getting out of there until blah, blah, blah, until you do your studies. You might go ahead and sit there for four hours and say, well I studied. So I studied parents I studied for four hours every day. I remember one student came up to me and said

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did you study how much did you really study?

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And he goes Honestly, I was just I was just reading that like that. Didn't even read. That's not studying.

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The only person who can make a study is you. The only person who can make the money is by the will of Allah subhanaw taala and strive towards is you the only person who can learn about management is you the only person who can get up and get dressed is you. If you don't make that decision, you will not do it. It's called wishful thinking.

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So you got to be convinced

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of your goal and connect yourself to some people who are distinguished. Then just keep having the same surroundings and people that you always talk to day in day out. What are you going to learn from them?

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Change your connections, find out who is distinguished to who at the school who in my work, who in the environment who at the masjid who

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anywhere. It seems like this person has got something that normal people don't have or the ordinary people don't have. Why don't I go and have a connection with that person? Maybe I can learn something. Now on social media you have a lot of these people will call gurus, gurus in different areas, follow them, follow them and learn from them. Number four, take control of your behavior. If you want to develop yourself, take control of your

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what behavior Don't be, don't live your life as a reactionary. You just react.

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Someone gets you upset you react. Somebody provoked you, you react.

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Some people they say to me, I'm not motivated.

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I don't feel like doing it. Get out of here. Stop this.

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Stop this princess.

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If you're gonna go by motivations and feelings, you're not gonna achieve anything.

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Can you imagine that?

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Every morning, you wake up, I don't feel like waking up. Allahu Akbar. Isn't everybody thought that way. I don't feel like drinking water. You still go and drink water because your body needs it. Be disciplined. So I'm going to do it and tell yourself to be quiet. shut yourself up and say stop. Get up and do a new feel proud about yourself inshallah. Otherwise, you won't achieve it. So don't be a reactionary person. A student said to came with a broken hand one day and I said what happened? So far as my brother's fault, go, what happened? He got me angry and I punched the wall.

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It's not your brother. It's you.

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He made me swear.

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She made me like this. It's my mum. She's like just gets on my nerves. That's why I became like this. No, no, you don't inherit anger. You don't inherit bad behavior. Bad behavior is learned. You can make a decision.

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You can make a decision. I'll give you something called the 92nd rule. It's established science that once you get angry once your emotions play up, your whole body goes through a process or hormonal process, that hormonal process that goes everywhere haywire, like a storm inside of you. lasts for 90 seconds. If you can wait until all the body gets back to normal then you're able to think

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after that if you continue to be angry and emotional, it means you want to be

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you can say to yourself I don't want to be

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hands up.

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If you can promise yourself right now

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that for the next seven days, you're not gonna get angry.

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Who would like to? Okay, I'm gonna I'm going to deal with you. I promise. I promise in the next seven days

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that I will not get angry.

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I hear someone may be thinking I can hear your thing to say Brother How can you say that only Allah knows the future. How can you say that God Allah Masha file. Of course Allah knows the future. But you have a willpower. You can make a promise. See what happens? You wake up in the morning and say today I'm going to be energetic Wallahi try it say to yourself I'm going to be energetic even if you slept for four hours. Watch what happens in the day. Well, I have tried it I try all these

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they say to me how come you smile? Is it because I've made a decision this morning I'm gonna smile

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and the more you smile you smile better and other people around you smile to then you see them smile and go oh my god everybody's cheerful because you started you started a start something good was also SLM said start a good sooner.

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Now we move to the second success. It's called this and I'll move quicker now the success of relationships. Brothers, sisters, you cannot reach paradise and be saved from the fire until your relationships are right. And your relationships have to be based on halal and haram. They have to be based on what Allah Subhana Allah gave you as a duty. So here's the first thing, identify your roles. Who are you? Or your father? Or your mother? or your brother or your sister or your child a son or daughter? Are you a boss? Are you an employee? Are you a business person? Are you a leader? Are you a worker? Who are you? Are you a teacher? Are you an imam? Who are you every single one of

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you has a role in life brothers and sisters could look camera and Oklahoma Sooner riot every one of us a shepherd and everyone is responsible for their flock? Are you a neighbor?

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Are you a member of the community? Every one of you has a place identify who you are. Where is your role? Once you identify your role brothers and sisters, then number one, write it down. Write down my role is 12345 these are the places that Allah has blessed me with and I am there so

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I am a son.

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I am also a brother.

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I am also a teacher.

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I am also a neighbor.

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I am also a pet owner.

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I am also analysis, identify the roles that you have. Once you do that, the second thing you got to do is fulfill your obligation towards each role. What is your obligation towards your father, your mother, your neighbor, yourself, your friend, your spouse, your pet, your children, all of that your siblings? What does Allah say to you? And you do it in this order. Priority, you're ready for the priority and relationships. Some of you might not like it in this day and age, but I'm going to tell you straight out according to Islam, the priorities in relationships are number one, your parents, number one. Number two, your immediate family. So your wife or your husband, your children. Number

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three, your relatives. Number four, your friends in that order.

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Well, my parents come before my wife before my husband for my children. Yeah, yeah, but not the way you're thinking.

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Each one has a right. The rights of your parents are not like the rights of your children.

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But why did I put the parents first because number one, Islam put them first and number two, the reason it put them first is because as they get older,

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they get weaker.

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And you can manage it if your many siblings share the roll.

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That's another topic. But remember, your parents are easy to let go of people cut off their parents all the time. They're toxic, they're not good. Remember, I told you we can't solve it, minimize it.

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One girl said to me, my father, he's like this and like that. I said, Can you solve it? No, I can't so minimize it says I can't sit alright. Are you safe? No, I'm not saying go alright. And do you have any relatives anyone else that can be safe with your silencer. So 100 Allah, we organized the place for her. But she continued to talk to her father didn't cut him off completely reestablish the relationship get immediate and get her help. The thing is run Sisters, we never just give up and stop. Anyway, that's a long story. So parents in general, followed by immediate family, followed by relatives, then friends, and so on. Number three, take control of your actions. You take control of

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your actions, you take control of how you want to act.

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All right, you understand what that means. And number four, good manners and pure intentions.

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So if you want to succeed in your relationships have good manners and pure intentions. Another word for it is emotional intelligence. Have you ever heard of emotional intelligence? I'm gonna tell you about emotional intelligence with relationships.

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The great, great experts talked about this they said imagine

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emotions with related in relationships like an emotional bank. What do you do in a bank? What do you do at a bank?

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What do you do at a bank? You deposit and, and withdraw. These are two things we're doing the bank with deposit and withdraw.

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Think of relationships and emotion, emotional connection with other people like a bank, where you deposit and withdraw. For example,

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in the beginning of your marriage, when you're engaged, getting to know each other in a halal way.

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You're both really lying to each other. It's all acting.

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Because the emotions are up there, you're on your best behavior.

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So forget about the emotions and all that stuff.

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Focus on what really matters.

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After all, the honeymoon and everything goes away.

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The hardest part is the first year.

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That's when you're learning about each other. That's when the conflict start to come. Oh, you're like this? Oh, I didn't know like that. Don't worry. That's okay. You're learning about each other.

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Here's a trick.

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The more you deposit of your goodness towards someone,

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the more your investment is and the stronger the relationship becomes.

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A nice word is an investment. A compliment

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time, physical support, money

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defending someone being there for them, spending time with them, appreciating them, helping them. The more you do that, the more you are depositing into the emotional bank.

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The more will be remembered in the beginning the first year because of your honeymoon. You haven't really deposited much. That's why they say in the first year about 36

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percent of marriages fail in the first year, because they're not patient with each other. And number two, they haven't deposited enough, they haven't invested enough invest them in the halal way, of course.

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What you need to avoid it was drawing too much deposit more, withdraw less stop sucking the person dry.

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That's where toxicity comes in.

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And it has to be mutual between you and the other person. Otherwise, your distance, the more you deposit, the less you withdraw. The greater the memories,

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good memories, what is relationships, it's memories. What is relationships, memories, whether it's husband and wife, parents and children, cousins, friends, at the workplace, anything anyone, even animals,

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your cat will love you more when it feels depositing more, they just show their affection in different ways.

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Anything. So it's called the emotional bank, take this as a rule in sha Allah.

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my brothers and sisters, I move to the third one. And that is you must be successful in giving and contributing, giving contributing and wealth. You can't contribute and give without wealth. So I'm going to talk about both of them. What have you contributed brother and sister, whatever you contribute to your community, to your family, to your school, to your friends, to yourself to your brothers and sisters, to your wife, to your husband, to your children, to your relatives? What have you contributed to this world? To your job to your project? What have contributed Have you contributed?

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Identify your skills and your resources? Have you done anything distinguished. One person said to me, I've got a nine to five job.

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I got a job at MCAS. I'm looking at KFC. That's good, but it's not distinguished.

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Find a contribution that is distinguished.

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Something that not the ordinary person is doing, you can find that will make a huge difference. And there are four things to talk about when it comes to contributing. Number one.

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Brothers Sisters are Muslim identifies one thing and chooses it to master it.

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You all know the saying Right? What's the saying?

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Don't be a jack of all trades, master of none.

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Don't be a jack of all trades, you'll become a master of none. Be a master of one. Everything else are called hobbies. Extras, this supplementary once you identify one thing, one area that you want to master.

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Keep going Keep going and thick and thin. I don't care if it's sunny, rainy, shiny, painful hurt, you got to get through it.

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You're gonna master it Inshallah, you got to make that decision. You want to finish your 12 Master, I'm going to get into uni, master it. You want to do that course do everything that it takes and master it. You want to go and do something else mastered. I don't care what it is. I don't care what it is the person that would disrespect is the person who has no goal, no ambition, no project. Nothing just sitting there saying

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who are you? What are you doing? What do you belong? You're a burden on everybody. And on yourself. Allah gave you the ability. Find one thing master it brothers sisters and make it your thing. Whether it's a trade, or whether it's academic, whether it's a book, whether anything, whatever in your life, master it after you've mastered it brother and sister to master it do this.

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First you need an interest, ability and an opportunity.

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Use 50% of your time to master that thing.

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And 10% of your time for everything else. So 60% of the rest of it. Do your other duties that Allah created you for.

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Identify your goals.

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Brothers Sisters, very quickly, you need to make three types of goals in life, one year goal, five year goal and a 10 year goal. These are not just throwing these numbers around these have been studied

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by 10s of 1000s of experts over time. Why don't you go what do you want to what do you want to? Why do you want to be in one year's time? Why do you want to be in five years time wanting to be in 10 years time? 10 years time big project. Number three, draft the plan. Be realistic.

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Number four, be consistent in trying even if you fail.

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Coming to money, you need money, you need finances. And I'll tell you something about money.

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Make a financial goal for one year, five years 10 years and 20 years and the golden rule of management is this. If you cannot measure it, you cannot manage it. So you can't say I want to be rich

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I want to be a millionaire

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no you can't do that you have to work towards you have to have a plan.

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Here's something that I learned from this great Muslim businessman he said

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you need to double your monthly income every three years. You have a monthly income let's say a $5,000 a month, within three years you must have $10,000 within the next three years $20,000 And so on. If you work a nine to five job not gonna be able to do it. So learn how to invest

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what talking we're in the masjid we're talking about money. Yeah. You know the 10 who were promised paradise, the Companions ashram but Sharon, seven of them were extremely wealthy

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in money and that is why they helped support Islam and Muslims and that is why they still in our minds till today even Northmet are the Alana was one of them. And he's well which he bought is still going till today benefiting in Saudi Arabia in Medina.

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Wealth and good intentions and proper intentions brings goodness

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and give charity every week or every month. I don't care how much it is give a regular charity charity has a secret to it. Let's also assume said man aka So Madam in South Africa, no wealth ever diminishes because of charity meaning your money becomes blessed. You find that it lasts longer. Inshallah. Brothers Sisters very quickly again.

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You need to be successful for your hereafter.

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What's the point?

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To be successful in life, when you throw away you're here often end up in hellfire.

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And there are four rules to it. Purify your intention, be sincere. And don't show off your good deeds don't come to the mosque because people are watching you. Don't wear

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your hijab solely because

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of showing it off. And at the same time, the opposite. Don't not pray. Don't not wear the hijab. Don't not stop haram because you don't want people to say things to do for the sake of Allah. Sincerity.

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And then do it to show off. Some people say I'm not ready. I'm not ready. You are ready.

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You're telling yourself you're not ready. Wallahi already

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one Indian actress Muslim. She said I watched the other I forgot her name. Subhan Allah very famous. She said I attended a funeral. And there was a woman who had passed away. And they shouted her with the white shroud. And then they covered her hair. And I asked why do you need to cover her hair?

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And they said Islamically women to return them back to Allah in the way that he loves them to be covered. He ordered this for women. And that's the way he would like to receive his property. And this lady, this actress famous actress, she said, it hit me.

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I don't want the first day I wear my hijab my last day on this earth when I'm being washed. When are we going to be ready for Salah? When are we going to be ready to change our lives? And I'm not talking just about Asia? I'm talking about brothers as well. When are we going to be ready? To be fair to our family? When are we going to be ready to stop earning our wealth in Haram and spending it in Haram? When are we going to be ready when when

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when 60 years old? 60 years old, he decides to go

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and grow a tobacco farm business. Have you been near you're nearing your grave? Why and your life is something hard on another person. I'm going to go and wrote the system. I'm going to go and do this and then I'm going to justify it religiously somehow. One person said to me Yeah, so what if we do all this hold on? We're living in a Catholic country anyway. It's all haram so what was what what? What did you just say?

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If you're saying I live in a Catholic country, so why not do haram slightly if accepted. So you think this is hellfire? Some might as well do it might as well enjoy hellfire.

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Not get out of it.

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But then who told you just because you live in a Catholic country told you you just this is haram to live here. So long as you're able to practice your deen nobody's standing in your way. It's your decision. Don't try and make up excuses now. Just because you want to earn a little bit more wealth and money hungry with haram.

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Number two get to know a lot better. We know is 99 names. Go and study them brother and sister. Go on YouTube. Go to the great scholars don't type 99

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Names read about them get a book and read about it know Allah better, not just by names know Allah subhanaw taala better.

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Number three, get to know your Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the best leader, the best, most merciful, most compassionate in the universe, after Allah subhanho wa taala. There is a book called The Leadership Challenge by James coses and Barry

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Ponsa. And they talk about the five C's is called credibility, communication, commitment, confidence and creativity. If you want to be a leader, do those five, credibility. They said, How are you a credible person? What do people like in a leader? And they said two things. We want him to be a truth teller. And you want him or her to be trustworthy, honest and trustworthy. What was the prophet Mohammed salah, Salah of sodic al Amin, the honest and trustworthy that's a leader

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in your home and your work everywhere. Brothers and sisters Lastly, perform your worship with your heart more than you do with your body. Majority of us which is good we focus on the body. Did I do my hand right? Did I move my finger right? Did I bow exactly as it should be? An entire mine? 90% of us is about movements rather than the spirit inside our hearts. It should be the other way around 90% or so is on the heart. 10% is on the solid? Do you know why you pray the hidden message when you come to the masjid? Why do we pray to hate the masjid and we come in here.

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Why do we pray these two two cards when we come in? Why do you think we do that? Yeah. Why?

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To what?

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To greet to the masjid? Not really the masjid doesn't need greeting.

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I can say hi, Masjid Salam Alaikum Why do I pray but

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yeah, number one, it's a warm up. Number two.

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It puts you in the mindset of why you have come here.

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Why did you come here? So when you pray those two little drop cards and you focus on them, it sets you up. The problem however is when people pray the tarot cards and then after that, I don't know how long you're

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laughing their heads off and whatever.

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The economy or the economy or stuff and stuff but man Harish Allahu Akbar

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I was a bit of butter started again.

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Where's the whole show? There's nothing there man. What is that? The whole idea is to sit you so listen before you start your salad count up to 20 and just stand there and wait

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for the sisters, the Salah is about the heart more than the body.

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Those are the points that I wanted to mention. Of course, there's another pathway but we don't have time. I don't want to stress you out too much. But I'll mention very quickly just four of them really, really really quickly. The ones I haven't mentioned brothers and sisters you need to develop your mind your brain and I'm gonna give you some advice for advices number one a Muslim must read read read here Cora Bismillah Bagan lady Hanako coil coil

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in Isla echo, water book Quran Elodie I lemma below coil and lemon is man and yeah. Oh my god, this is all about your brain, all about development and the mind read.

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Plus was ALLAH Salem could not read at that time. Read means learn.

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In the Name of your Lord learn, seek Allah's help and read to please Allah Subhana Allah and to live a life that is right. Read and your Lord is the helper and the support and the generous and the honorable read again it caught up

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the one who taught with the pen he taught men that which he did not know all about knowledge.

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Experts opinion is that for adults at University and beyond should read two books per month. One book is equal to 200 pages. So if you read a book that's 400 pages, that's two books other than the textbooks and stuff 50% of these books that you read should be in your specialty. Remember I said you got to master one area reader about your mastery area always. And the miscellaneous ones. You read several other books grab a book about business about politics, about history about finances, about relationships about psychology about forgot about I've said anything brothers and sisters that make it meaningful read from it. Songs of benefits you number two a 10 P D courses personal

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development courses are many of them online.

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The general rule is 45 hours per year 45 hours per year of

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workshops, go and learn workshops that benefit you. Muslim, non Muslim doesn't matter the internet is full of it. Number three, make a list of subject areas you want to read or further your learning about per year. And ask the people for advice who know and start with the Beginner's Guide. Don't jump in the deep end. Number four, follow the gurus I said it before. Look for gurus in each area, follow them on social media, and make sure you follow the * no, it's not the ones who are teaching you bad things. Keep learning no matter what age you are, even if you are 100 years old, because scientific studies have shown a fact that once a person stops learning, no matter how old

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you are, your brain cells start to degenerate. And your age degenerates, you might say life is the hands in the hands of Allah Samantha Yes, but Allah Samantha also writes your age based on what he knows you're going to do.

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And right now you don't know what you're gonna do. So do it. Don't sit this thinking color as if you know what color is. We don't know what color is winner in the past. We don't know the future. So why are you stopping yourself? You're creating a problem here. So keep going keep learning even to the last minute of your life. Insha Allah Huhtala

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my brothers and sisters, I was going to talk about the body but I'll leave that in sha Allah.

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You want to know

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Oh, come on. Really? You don't want to know this? You don't want to know this. Okay, here we go. Develop your body. All right, here's the easy part.

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Monitor your weight.

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Told you guys is gonna it's gonna hurt some people.

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You gotta monitor

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your weight.

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All right, here we go.

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Brothers and sisters seriously? Seriously. I'm not just talking about what people tell us is from the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu sallam.

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And the Companions is to say a scholar does not have a bulging stuff. Ask them a flat stomach.

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Now I know why some of you can't get up after this class rather than system. Don't come and attack me. Don't come and attack me Brother, you know martial arts, I can't talk to you.

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And obviously, look, let me tell you something, monitor your weight for your own health if you can, as much as you can. Some people that have conditioned some people, they can't some people inherit it and that is true. But the majority of us we monitor our weight and we try our best I lost my diet looks at the intention and the effort rather than the outcome. But seriously, if you can monitor your weight, it is a healthy thing. And there is a sunnah from the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. The rule of thumb is this. I'll tell you for men what weight you should be. And for women what weight you should be as well. Now I've studied diet and nutrition for one year. Okay, so I've done a little

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bit of that and tested my BMI and everything. Here's the thing for men, a very simple formula

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to remember.

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Measure your height in centimeters.

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And takeaway 100 That's the ideal weight you should be.

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For example, if you are 180 centimeters tall men, I'm talking to men, not the women yet. If a man is 180 centimeters, take away 100 It's 80 kilos, that's your ideal healthy weight. More than that 8283 84 It'd be slightly overweight, even more than that. 90 100 then you're getting to obesity. So it's important to monitor your weight. Now for women.

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For women, it's a little bit different. It's a bit more complicated.

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Subhanallah actually not too complicated for women. Measure your height in centimeters and just take away 110

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And that is your ideal weight inshallah.

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Brothers clap clap

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don't clap in the masjid. I made a mistake. All right. So

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obviously you try your best in sha Allah. This is not a rule of Islam that you're going to go to * for if you don't do I was a biller? No, no, no. But for your own health and for your sake, your body and your health is important. Number two, let's move to number two. This is a little bit sensitive. Number two, your nutrition your food and your drink. As a rule of thumb, I'll tell you these following things. Now we have a lot of sisters here know Michelle a lot about nutrition something probably got blogs I don't know. I hope I get it right. But from what I know and from I've read and attended workshops and from uni in general

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in your diet have less

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fried food

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and easy way of remembering it is fast food so everything is fried have less of that I'm not saying don't have it at all. I'm guilty of it. Probably see me going to Hello Mac as drive thru. To hold it against me. I'm trying man

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number two

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it more grilled food rather than fried.

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less red meat. It should be no Your brothers are gonna hate this you should not have red meat more than twice a week.

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So hard isn't it twice a week we can have the white meat if you want or fish Be careful of the process chicken though too much of that can grow especially for girls too much of the of the KFC and all that stuff starts growing here on your on your face. Anyway, so that's another story.

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Have less egg yolk, so have four yolks per week for the yellow one.

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Yeah, that's that's Wallahi these are not talking on these are studies by diet dietitians and nutritionists.

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The white, the white part, not the yellow part.

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Cornbread make it easy on me. Avoid mayonnaise and the likes. The substitute for mayonnaise and the likes and sauces and all that substituted with green yogurt. Green yogurt, Greek yogurt.

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Greek yogurt is not good Greek yogurt, butter, almond sauce, hollandaise, or Hollandaise pesto tahini.

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Those Those I think are good alternatives and will have less sweets and sugar. I'm not saying don't have sugar at all you still need sugar in your body and sweets but less you know that white sugar cut it out of your life guys and very importantly the soda that Pepsi can that Coca Cola especially that V bottle Wallah brothers and sisters I see the young people that come in and out of school V bottle V bottle the Allah

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brothers and sisters V bottles are very bad. In fact they're dangerous.

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If I was a Mufti I'd say the Haram they are dangerous guys. Well, I know a few friends the age of 19. They were in the hospital because of heart problems. They used to drink V bottles before breakfast every single morning to three V bottles. And they're very addictive. They're not energy, Jane the energy drinks that released the dopamine, a blast of about 15 minutes and then you feel tired and drained. You can't study by period four and five or you can't do anything. Why? Because you've used up your dopamine instead have things that release the energy a little bit by little bit.

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So soda drinks, what makes me laugh are people who go down to MCAS. And they come out because they feel guilty, right? They go down to Mexico buy a Big Mac, a double cheeseburger, and a Diet Coke.

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I'm looking after my weight.

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Amen. All right. Number three is exercise.

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Experts say and

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that minimum minimum minimum, an average person should do about 20 to 30 minutes of exercise per day.

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And this x Oh one hour, three times a week. That's minimum I'm talking the average normal person we're talking about the gym person and all that stuff.

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And depending on your age, you can increase

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and the best exercises they said are in this order swimming is the best. Swimming is literally the best of luck even for very old people even with people who've got osteoporosis osteo arthritis or back problems Subhanallah anything to do with bones and cartilage and muscle, spinal or swimming is good you don't have to go for the whole freestyle and breaststroke but just walking in the water will help. So if you can find the Hello Please go for it.

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another one is skipping. That's the best for losing weight skipping. Grab a trampoline going through children's trampoline you feel like skipping really Masha Allah.

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And obviously they get walking, walking daily is excellent for you keep walking.

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fast walking speed walking is not that good for you. It's doesn't give you much of an effect. So walking, running is okay.

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So here's the rule. If you exercise and have less fat, you lose weight, and muscle. If you exercise and ate protein, you lose weight and gain muscle and you'll have less fat.

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If you have less fat and less exercise, you will lose weight and muscle. So brothers and sisters, these are just general rules and share a lot of social science exercise every day. All the time. It was moved even the way he walked. He would walk with long strides. And when I said speed walking it didn't speed up but he walked fast. So always heading towards a goal when you see him walking his head, his busy his long strides going towards his goals, not slouching and lazy. And lastly movement and activity. Energy brothers and sisters you decide to move you decide to have energy, you know, there's no such thing as less or longer sleep

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to sleep earlier it's better for you and even if in the day you have a little clay Lulu a siesta that's nice is from the Sunnah.

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Then the truth is there's no agreed hour of sleep for adults.

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The activity is your decision and laziness is your decision. For example, as I said before, wake up tomorrow and sha Allah tomorrow Thursday morning and say to yourself, today, I am deciding to be active and energetic. Will you try that for me tomorrow? Insha Allah. I got some of my students here from school. Will you try that first tomorrow? Okay, um, some of your coordinate. I'll be walking into the court corridor tomorrow. You 10 I'm gonna watch. I'm going to ask you did you say in the mirror today, I will be energetic and active today. So Insha Allah, make that decision and watch what happens. You can even say today, I'm going to help my mom, I'm going to help my dad today. I'm

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going to smile. today. I'm going to do good things today. I'm not going to get angry Wallahi works. My brother and sisters, that concludes my talk. I hope Insha Allah, look, it's a lot of information. But if you take as well I've said a few times take notes 100 Low still don't take notes. I should have put it here take notes. But if you've taken a few of this and shallow it's record, it's going to be on YouTube and sha Allah.

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Also on the mosques Facebook website.

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If you take one or two things from this, in sha Allah will make a huge difference in your life. You don't have to take everything I can't You can't. But take some of it in sha Allah, any of it any of it will lie in sha Allah will improve you and remember, it's not about having worldly things. You are working for your hereafter have sincerity. Know Allah subhana wa dialler remember to monitor halal from haram whatever you do think is that going to benefit me in my hereafter or not? And remember that earning money and doing things even for worldly gain is not is not bad, it's beneficial and it could be feast sebelah to help your family to help yourself to develop yourself to

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contribute all this if you don't for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala it is feasible Allah insha Allah so Muslim makes the ultimate goal Janna and to be safe from hellfire. So let us be inshallah productive, energetic motivated

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the people who develop and make goals for themselves and please Allah subhanho wa Taala in all our avenues in life melasma Allah bless you. They will Salah and Amina Muhammad was Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

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