30 Qualities of the Righteous

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Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah and now brothers and sisters, we go into our topic for tonight in sha Allah Allah Allah, the 30 Quick characteristics which make a person a righteous person.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala talks in the Quran about three things, three main themes when it addresses people. The Quran always repeats in different statements, the first thing, the belief in Allah and the unseen which he has revealed to us.

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And he continues subhanho wa Taala repeating these same verses and themes over and over again. Allah His angels the last hour, the Day of Judgment, Jana, Paradise and hellfire all of this unseen and we see it in the beginning chapter after Surah Al Fatiha in Surah Al Baqarah Alif

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the first five verses of Surah Baqarah. Allah says and if Lam him this is that is the true book. In all truth. There is no doubt in its versus another meaning there is no doubt about it. It is the true book the True Word of Allah and there is no ambiguity or doubt or contradiction within it. Who the little Mata clean this Quran is a guide for those who fear Allah and have God consciousness. This Quran is not for people who do not have God consciousness. It is not for people whose heart is not ready to accept or people with preconceived notions when they read the Quran, ready to fight it. The Quran is for the heart that is open, that is ready to read it without any prejudice and see what

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it does for them and analyze it without any bias lilmar clean those whose hearts are truly conscious God conscious or for those who want the truth.

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Who then Minamata clean Allah Alladhina you may know your claim on a solid, those who performed their Salah. So worship, worship Allah subhanaw taala to connect with Allah, you cannot connect with Allah without believing in Allah, the unseen

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and they and they give their charity and arms and they believe in the hereafter. The hereafter is an unseen Why is a Muslim believe in the hereafter? Because everything that happens here and we do we are going to be questioned about in the hereafter.

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Why is that important? You see, you can have a government, you can have laws.

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And that would keep certain people in place, the criminal will think twice, and this punishment and consequences. The domestic violence can be reported. The violence outside or with the neighbors or in the streets can be reported theft can be reported.

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Any kind of crime can be reported. But what if there is no government? What if there is no laws? What if there is chaos? What if there is war, what if there's, and how, and if a person can get away with it? Will laws make any difference? A person can do things in private in secret. But when you believe in the hereafter that there is a day that Allah will hold you to account. And Allah tells us further in many other verses that he will look inside your heart and He knows what is in your inner mind and heart better than you. And all the secrets will be revealed and all the witnesses will come and you believe in that what happens to you. It doesn't matter in public or in private, you become

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the same. You're always monitoring that Allah is watching you whether the law is there or not there whether there are people seeing you or not seeing you. And so believing in the hereafter and the unseen is what the Quran talks about. You cannot be righteous without believing in that. The second thing that Quran talks about is the practice of worship, worshiping Allah. So number one, the six pillars of Eman the Six Pillars of faith to believe in Allah, His angels, His messengers, his books, is revelations, the hereafter and in Qatar, and in that same verse in Surah Al Baqarah Allah says this book confirms

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The books that were before the revelations that will be fought the original Torah, the original injeel that was sent upon Moses and Jesus peace be upon them both. And the Quran also says those who believe in this Quran, the word of Allah and in those that were revealed before, so Muslims believe in the original books that were sent down from Allah to Moses, Jesus, Dawood, Ibrahim Ali Salam, all the other prophets

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the five pillars of Islam are the practices every Muslim must practice the five pillars, five daily Salah five daily prayers, pleasure, Lahore, Arthur Maghrib, Russia, you cannot be righteous unless all four or five are practiced.

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The five have to be your food and drink brothers and sisters.

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Now I've given a talk about solid in the past, and I went for several series, you can review and share lots on YouTube and insha Allah one day we'll talk in detail about solid because that deserves a lecture on its own. Why do Muslims pray? What's the purpose of it? Why does it have to be five, you can review it Inshallah, because I want to go to the 30 characteristics that we want to focus on today.

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But brothers and sisters Yasaka learn about what has occurred is your hash. once in your lifetime, if you are able to fasting Ramadan, of course, and the shahada, or the shahada attain living up to your testimony that there is only one God worthy of worship Mohamed Salah Salem is his last and final messenger. These are the foundations now I want you to imagine with me, a beautiful palace, a nice house that has the most expensive jewelry and gems in it. It sparkles. Everybody that looks at it, it glitters.

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But what's the purpose of having this amazingly beautifully built Palace, all of its walls and all of its technology that you see in it and most advanced beauty. If the foundation the block that it's built on, is weak? What is the purpose? What is the value of a house like that, if it's foundations that it was built on, is weak, what's going to happen if it doesn't take into consideration the soil, the environment, earthquakes, all that stuff, if the engineering is weak, the architecture is weak of this foundation, what's going to happen to this house to this beautiful palace. It's going to eventually what fall so to be righteous. The foundation is your belief system, without your

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proper Arcada without your proper belief system and Allah subhanaw taala and what he has told us of the unseen it cannot have a strong foundation. Number two, your acts of worship. Think of your acts of worship as five pillars that are standing that now will hold the rest of the beauty of the house, the decorations, the beautiful cosmetics that makes you shine.

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So, let's go into the beauty that makes the Muslim a righteous person and while your foundation is strong, insha Allah God.

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Allah says in the Quran in surah Toluca, for example, of an extra gems mineral mineral him in the man who I mean all Sliney her decon at Lindholm Jen to an inferior WC Newsela Holly Dina fee Hala Guna.

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Allah says in surah Al Kahf, verse 108, Chapter 18, verse 108, indeed those who believe and do good will have the gardens of Paradise as an accommodation where they will be forever, never desiring anywhere else. That is our ultimate goal. My dear brothers and sisters, the ultimate goal the ultimate reward from Allah is a promise of this great paradise. After you die, the day of judgment comes and then to paradise or hellfire, Allah spent Allah protect us from the fire. And I want every Muslim to listen to this, please. Whenever you recite the Quran, brothers and sisters, I see that some Muslims every time they pass a verse of the Quran that talks for example, about the punishment

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or hellfire. What do they automatically think? Do they think that it could be me? Or do they think oh, those gopher they're gonna copper. That's how we think it's not for me.

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Brothers and sisters, it's not healthy to think that way. Insha Allah, it's not for you. But always be weary of Allah's punishment. That's called the hope to fear. What does fear do for you? Fear can be looked at very negative or positive. But a Muslim looks at fear as a positive thing. Why? Without fear, a person will just do anything without concern whatsoever.

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Any for example, that's why they have laws to make the criminal fear the consequence in order to stop the criminal in order to stop

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that husband, for example, from mistreating his wife, to stop that wife from mistreating her husband from stopping the children mistreating their parents, the parents from restraint mistreating their children, the neighbors from mistreating each other, and so on and so forth. If there is nothing in the mind that tells us but there has to be some kind of fear or consequence, people do whatever they want. That's the nature of humans. So fear is one way of keeping us on the right track and a believer looks like this. Whenever I see an opportunity to do something haram, I remember the fire and I say our the villa him in a shaytaan regime, and so it helps me to swerve away. If it doesn't

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make me swerve away. At least afterwards, I have a sense of guilt in which it turns me to repentance, says the art of forgive for what I have done, and then start again and again and again. But at least you're always monitoring yourself. Also Salah Salem whenever he used to recite any verse about Johanna Hellfire Day of Judgment, the punishment of Allah in His solid he would stop. Often he would cry, and he would say Allahu measurand emunah now Rasul Allah Allah will send them is to say, Allah whom as you didn't even know oh Allah save me from the fire rasool Allah the best of all creation saying a long as you didn't even and another little sauce Allah La Silla Mr. Say that

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all the messengers and prophets, Jesus Moses, Ibrahim, yeah Ali Sam Zachary. You know how they set them all of them. Yahoo. Bala is Salam, all the prophets and messengers of Allah used to say Allahumma COVID-19. And now, yo, Ibrahim Ali Salam is to say Yo, mela Yun, fowl Merlin willowbend own Hillerman at Allah have you convinced Salim Oh, Allah save me from the day that is true, that is torturous and fearful on a day where no children and no wealth and no power can benefit except to ever arrives with a pure and the righteous heart. That's what Ibrahim Ali Salam is to say. Then when we recite the verses in the Quran about paradise, what do Muslims often do?

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Yeah, that's mine. That's where I'm going. I love you Allah, I'm going there. That's beautiful. It's always good to have this hope. Insha Allah and in fact, whenever you recite the verses of Jana Rasul Allah, Salah Musa encourage us to ask tremendously for it, and not just oh Allah give me Jana, he used to say, if you ask Allah for Paradise said, Who who will fit a dose, ask him for the highest plates of gender. Don't say to yourself, I don't deserve it, I'm way behind know that asking for the highest. And that's a psychology, it also works at school. He comes to teaching skills. Now, when a student is 11, or 12, wants to get an ATAR score or a high score in their exams, and they placed

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their benchmark at 60. They're most likely going to get 60 or below, it's less likely to get above it because they've set their benchmark you say at most likely at or below, you sit at a 100 Most likely you're going to get close to there inshallah. But of course you need to put in the effort. But it all starts with the mindset. So it was also as I said, asked for the highest. Therefore now we got to and don't ever say to yourself, I'm guaranteed paradise. Listen to what the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam also said, He wants that with his companions and said,

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Laird, Hola, Ginetta Don't be Amelie.

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Nobody will enter Paradise, only because of their good deeds. Because we always think you've got to do more good deeds, as if it's like you got to get a certain amount that qualifies you to enter Paradise, it doesn't work that way. Sometimes a person can do little deeds, but they're consistent. And now to make them go to Paradise, sometimes the person can do a small thing, but to Allah, it's big. And sometimes you can do a big date, but to Allah, it's very small, like the person who shows off like the person who did it. Not with neglect, like a person who does it just to react to try and get other people to be impressed this person's actions will go, you could be praying next to a

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person in the front row of solid, the exact same salad on the outside, you look amazing. On the inside, however, one has got minimal rewards, the other one has tremendous rewards. One is in it and concentrating while the other one is off with the fairies. So brothers and sisters, there is always a difference in good deeds. So they said the art he said no one will enter paradise just because of their good deeds meaning paradise cannot be bought nothing of good deeds can equal paradise. That's how amazing paradise is. No one will enter because of their good deeds meaning Allah will not bring your good deeds and say okay, that's what will buy you in paradise. You can't even buy a pebble in

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paradise, even if you worshiped Allah for 1000 years with the best of days because one pebble in Jannah is some pebbles in Jannah are like no I has ever seen and no and there are things that nobody has ever heard and there are things known Hart has ever even imagined. Ross also SLM is to say, a palms worth or the length of a bow and arrow in Paris.

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advice at length of a bow and arrow in Perry put a bow and arrow on the floor this week on the floor of paradise. He said, a length of a bow and arrow in paradise whatever's under that bow that sin bow, Hey, you don't mean a duniya one mafia, it is far better than the entire earth and everything that is in it, all the buildings and all luxuries or everything in it, one bow so a good good deeds for 1000 years will not equal that however he says it Allah Yetta Madani Allahu

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Allahu Rama minha he said, I only enter Paradise, if Allah has favor and mercy reaches me. So our good deeds is to please Allah subhanaw taala to rise and when you say pleasing Allah, Allah because Allah needs it to please Allah, Allah is pleased when he sees you become better. When he sees you become better, that's why he put the laws for you. He wants to see you rise, he took pride in you when he told the angels I'm creating a vise gerrant on earth in Niger an awful lot of the Khalifa. It's like for example, Yanni well Allah in methanol, Allah, Allah to Allah belong the Best of examples. You are loving mother, your loving Father, your loving mother, and your loving Father, if

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you're a still a child, they may punish you for doing the wrong. But is that because they want to know if they're good loving parents? Or is it in order to help you grow up a better person, because as they let you go, you'll become spoiled, something will go wrong with you. A mother, a loving mother, for example, will punish you in the right way. And a loving father will punish you in a wise way. Of course in a way that is discipline and will help you become a better person, not destroy and cause your trauma. I'm not talking about those types of parents. But a loving one truly would love to see you grow. Isn't that correct? So

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Allah Subhana Allah wants you to see your growth and he is pleased with you, your parents are pleased with when you see you doing better and you will suffer a little bit but through suffering comes good things as well. So brothers and sisters, Allah Subhana Allah Allah loves to see you grow. And also saw Selim said only with Allah's mercy and favor, do we enter paradise and our good deeds, please Allah subhanaw taala and our good deeds, Allah multiplies them, because of His mercy and because of his favor. So it means that he brings that good deed that you've done on the day of judgment. And Allah will say, I have multiplied it over and over and over and over and over until it

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equals paradise. Even though you've done a small deed, that one solid that you did, Allah will count for you on a day of judgment, like the entire earth, and that will be worth so much in paradise that Allah multiplies your good deeds you can give $1 in charity, and Allah will multiply over and over and over again. An example of that is in subtle Hadith where Allah says, for example, Mandela the Korean law Helcom, Dawn has failed or

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Jerome Karim, who is there among you who would like to give Allah a goodly loan and Allah will repay it back to you with interest and will multiply it for you over and over and over again. That one thing you put Allah will multiply this is how, what it means what I suppose as Adam said, no, no one will enter Paradise because their good deeds they said not even New Era Salah he said Not even I accept if Allah is favor, and mercy is upon me. So ask Allah for his for his favor and His mercy and for Allah to accept your good deeds. So a Muslim lives between hope and fear all the time in life the balanced not this one more than the other. Some people a little bit more hope some people work a

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little bit more with fear, but a little bit of this a little bit of that according to what measures and works best for you. There may come times when you're not you don't need fear a person has passed away in your family and you're going through great grief Now's not the time for fear now's the time for mercy and hope. So you listen and read more about mercy and hope at times are in luxury and you've forgotten yourself. It's a bit bit of time for fear. And that's how Allah Samantha and made the Quran has has spoken the Quran, a balanced way for the human being. Now let's go in sha Allah through the 30 things. Number one brother sister Rasul Allahu alayhi wa sallam said in ameba is

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Toyota minimum number is Toyota mimma masal they had a clerk

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I have as a matter of fact I have been sent

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in order to perfect your good character.

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In another Hadith makarim, Allah cluck the best of character, and one that I read that I narrated was masala Hala masala and McCurry mela halacha. Two different meanings. McCarrick means the best of masala means, the type of character that is correct and good meaning some people will think that certain character is good. But Allah says no, not that character. I'm going to fix it. This is the character which is good. So Messiah that means to fix the understanding of the people's perception of what is good and bad, what is righteous and what is not what is good character and what is not. Some people might think good character is to go when your cousin calls you. He's having a fight with

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someone and you don't care whose fault it is, you know, it's your cousin's fault. And you say, Yeah, because it's my cousin. That's my kid.

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Character my mom and dad taught me to be a thug in a good way to back up my cousin and let's go bash the other guy even if he's a victim to you, that might be good character. Yeah, I am loyal. I am loyal to that person. They boil in a good way in a bad way in right or in wrong in justice or injustice. So Allah says, No, it was also as I said, I have as a matter of fact, I've been sent to correct and to perfect the right character. Do you understand? If your character is right everything is right inshallah you got a character with Allah. And that is the belief system. Don't go making up your own belief system because that is a blasphemy against Allah you are being disrespectful to

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Allah. Don't go worshipping other idols and making up your own type of worship other than the way Allah taught you. Otherwise that is blasphemous to Allah your character is bad with Allah Subhanallah died. And now we come to the character with people. Number one.

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Now, before I say that I suppose SLM said, whatever I commanded you with, do as much as you can of it. And whatever I forbid you stay away from it. forbid you have any of the major sins. As for the minor sins, everyone falls into them. And the good deeds, wipe away the bad deeds. Listen to my topic about major sins and minor sins. It's on YouTube for a detailed discussion about it in sha Allah.

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Number one Brothers Sisters is a very obvious one, the first virtuous character make your righteous sincerity in intentions. Nothing in this world that you do, which you seek Allah's pleasure from will be accepted if your intentions are hypocritical.

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For example,

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I come to make solid prayer. And I do it for another reason. The reason is to impress that uncle, because I want to marry his daughter.

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I've never been to the masjid maybe, I don't usually pray but I'll pray because I want to impress him to think unrighteous to marry his daughter. You have to do it for the sake of Allah. Otherwise, there'll be caught out. Wallah, a person a sister might say, he's so good looking that man. I've heard so many good things about him. But I've started I've still got to fix up some of my religious habits. So she puts on a show for him. And later on after marriage goes back to the way she was. Now I'm not picking on her or him I'm picking on both happens to the men and the women, all of us. We're all the same. Any action that is supposed to be for Allah if you don't do it for Allah subhanho wa

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Taala then it becomes habit a man sorta like the dust in the wind.

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The Prophet peace be upon him said actions are but by intention, and every man shall have only that which he intended. So he Buhari. Also in Sahih, Bukhari and Muslim Rasulullah sallallahu sallam said

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to his companions, do you know who will be the first with which Hellfire will be ignited? They said Allah and His Messenger know best. He said, The first will be a scholar of Islam.

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Ilm.

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Allah will ask why did you learn the knowledge? He said the era he'll say era by learn to teach the people for your sake and to guide the people for your sake. Allah will say to him, You are lying. And the angels will say, Yes, you are lying.

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And then Allah will say you only did it so that people can call you a knowledgeable man.

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Today you have nothing you have already received your reward which you intended. The second man or the second woman, the second person will be a person who is a who died

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in on the battlefield. He says you're Rob. He says What did you do with your body you say I died for your sake. I am a martyr I died protecting and defending the innocent and the oppressed and for your sake and for your deed. And Allah will say you lie. The angels will say you lie and then Allah will see you and they did it so that people can say what a courageous brave man he was and you wanted statues and to be remembered in the books you have received that already? The third person is the one who gave him charity, all his life or her life. Same thing will happen. What did you do with the wealth I gave you He will say I gave it your for your sake he will say you are lying. The angels

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will say you are lying. And Allah will say you only gave it so people can see what a generous person he is. Or she is.

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It also said there will be the first in which Hellfire will be ignited with because they have nothing left your intentions are all gone. So brothers and sisters intention is the most important thing. Now worldly matters like you have a nice car you have a nice watch you have a nice clothing you have a nice

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whatever you have a nice phone a nice person nice hat.

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And I sunglasses and you like to impress people with it. That's not considered an act of worship so it's not shirk or anything like that. And there's nothing wrong with it. Impressing people is nice, because that's why people like to dress sometimes I like to dress nice to impress people. And when they told me you look good, I feel good about myself. That's not a problem in Islam. By the way, this is a misconception. The misconception is when you do it, only for the people and if you don't receive the praise, you get angry, you get upset, you start thinking Allah has

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betrayed me, I It's not fair. So the reaction, the reaction is the problem. And also when you think that you're better than others when it starts affecting your heart, and you start to think you are better than other people with arrogance. This is when showing off becomes a problem. And that's not even called showing off when you just do it sincerely because you like people to say it's nice, nothing wrong with that. But you intend well for other people. This is how you remedy it. Number two, purifying the tongue.

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Listen, young people purifying the tongue

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and the private pup. The Prophet peace be upon him said whoever can guarantee the chastity of what is between his two jaws been Lea

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forgave his two jaws, jaw bones, and what is between his two legs, his tongue and his private parts? I guarantee paradise for him the Hadith in Bukhari 6474. What does that mean? It means that after you believed in Allah and you're doing it acts of worship, then all that's left is to monitor your tongue and monitor your chastity, your sexuality, use it in the halal, don't use it in the Haram.

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That's what it means means avoid Zina, avoid adultery and fornication and try your best to limit or to stay away from the footsteps towards it. Of course, the footsteps towards the start minor, then they get bigger and bigger as you get closer. But keep it lower. I know that young people saying to me, brother, come on, man. It's everywhere.

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They say lower your gaze this day and age. Lowering your gaze is worse. I have to look up because it's so much harder on the nudity around.

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You know, one time I came out of my house in my car, I'm driving down. And this bus, it's a two way and this bus is about to take off. Now I saw on that bus from a distance right at the bigs, a huge billboard

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of a woman not dressed appropriately. And I said the art of brr brr bypass.

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And then the bus went in front of me and I couldn't overtake the bus. Now if I look straight, I'm looking at how long if I overtake cars are coming, I might have an accident. If I look away, I'm going to hit into the bus What am I going to do?

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hamdulillah What do you do? It's one of those looks where it's forgiving. Insha Allah. That's all what do you do? So Islam?

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Islam, I'm not saying it's deliberate, but what can you do? So I'm saying that there are situations Allah knows. It's not in your hands. And if you do fall into some type of haram like that brother and sisters, don't let it linger. Don't tell people about it. Unless you need help, some advice. But ask Allah to forgive you again and again. Michael, don't pray to Allah cause always wash yourself as much as you can until Allah subhanaw taala assist you in leaving that haram

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Rasul Allah Selim also said Do you know what his backbiting it is to say something about your brother that he would dislike and say Muslim Now you all know what backbiting means in Islam to say something about your brother or sister in their absence which they dislike you to say usually the people that dislike and say it means bad things, negative things. So two conditions they're absent they're not here number two saying it that is negative saying negative things about them some products some people said what if is your friend and doesn't care? I say even then avoid it because he might care.

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You don't know that. And if you do, go and ask that friend forgiveness if he's a good friend, and you think he doesn't care just say look, I said that I'm sorry man. I was just joking. So yeah, it's alright buddy.

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And if it's somebody that would cause a bigger problem if you went and told them, then make dua for them and go back to that group and say, Hey guys, look, I take it back. If you posted anything deleted, make up something for insha Allah and we'll take care of your gossip. Obviously backbiting can be minor or major the minor ones can go away the major ones are a big problem because you can ruin someone's life number three, to be a righteous person kindness and gentleness also are seldom said kindness is a mark of faith and whoever is not kind has no faith the hadith is is a Muslim, but it's also I said I'm also said anything you apply gentleness, kindness and care to it. It beautifies

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it and anything you take it out of it makes it ugly and ruins it. One time, the group of neighbors of the Prophet Salah Salem who happened to be Jews, they were from bunny

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coryza and Benin nodded at the time of the Prophet Allah Salim. They heard about the Prophet peace be upon him teaching the Muslims are salam Wa alaykum. They also have the word shalom, which still means peace. And they knew that the rose ourselves dua is accepted by Allah. They knew deep inside. This is the story that we know from our Sierra from our Hadith. So what happened one day is that they started to say to the believers, Assam wily calm, they would hide the L sound A salaam salaam means peace. If you take the LOA and you just say Assam it means poison and death.

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So they used to say to the believers at one point a semi leikam and the muscles reply while equal must sell em with good intentions. So when the prophets Allah Sal and found this out, he wanted to teach them so we said, if they say if they greet you say why leikam And upon you and I think some Muslims they misinterpreted that thinking that you're not allowed to say salam or Aleikum to any non Muslim that is incorrect because Allah says in the Quran were either a utopia hatin

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than what anyone know the rest

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for how you

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beat us and I mean her Oh,

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I would adore her just like Hello Hi Ron. If you are greeted with any kind of greeting a good greeting, then give that greeting Oh my God, then give that greeting

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give that greeting in a better way or just return it in the same way.

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So let's also say why they come because there was saying Assam one day they came around and they said yeah, Mohamed Assam Malik

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he said to them why they come? I shadow the Allah and his wife was there she didn't hear the prophets Allah Selim say why they come she screamed at them

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said upon you upon you is this and she said big words are so so I said I'm said to her be Rifki Yeah, hi. Aisha riff, with kerja Isha with care. That's the Hadith. Any thing you apply care or kindness or gentleness in a beautifies what was the care that he was talking about? Meaning ah Isha, don't lose your own character. What does it mean with care mean think Allah Did you not hear what I said? I said while a comb. I took care in how I reply without losing myself respect and upon you meaning if you said to me, death upon you, if you said to me, poisoned upon you, if it was really peaceful, a Salah then also salam upon you, you don't need to go off. Just maintain your discipline

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and your dignity. That's what it means risk, kindness, gentleness, care.

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Also between husband and wife with your children, and also as I've said, in Allahu Hebraica, Phil Ohmori kuliah Allah loves gentleness, care, and kindness in all matters. See this table here in front of me. Treat it with care, your mobile phone, treat it with care, your body, your clothing, your head, your eyes, your children, your pets, insects that you see

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an animal that you know you don't like or anything or or a an insect that you if you're able to take that spider out with care then do so if you can. If you can't hurt insha Allah it's not a sin, but you try your best to take care of everything, in anything that you do. That's what a Muslim does.

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Number four, respecting your elders, the Prophet peace be upon him said he who he is not one of us, who does not have mercy upon your young ones. And respect

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of our elders. hadith is internetting. Number five, honesty, honesty leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise, the prophesy said and said this is a Behati. Honestly, brothers and sisters is not just merely saying the truth, it's also acting in honesty. An example of a few examples of acting and honesty other than just speaking is as follows. When you sign a contract, say for an employment, or to do a job if you're, if that's what you do a tradie or something like that, or you have a service for someone,

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then you fulfill what you promised them what you signed to and what you said.

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That is honesty in work, honesty, in promises to people. If you

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made a promise to someone, then you must fulfill it. You have to be honest, you have to be honest to Allah. You said I believe in your Allah. Be honest, to be honest, don't be hypocritical. If you are honest, when you got married, marriage is love, but it's also an agreement and a contract. There are rights. You have to fulfill those rights. If you divorce, you have to be honest. What is the honesty as Allah commanded you when you divorce? Don't let hatred or resentment swerve you too

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injustice. If you are honest in with your neighbor, even if your neighbor is bad to you only do what's right don't do what's wrong. Don't transgress. Wallahi even in war with the enemy be honest, what does it mean be honest, it doesn't mean they come to trickery in war from South Sudan said trickery is allowed in war, but be honest meaning the if they want peace, you also want peace if there are

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prisoners, you have to treat them in the way that Allah told you to with kindness and with care and with goodness, don't transgress and so on. So honesty is in everything brothers and sisters. Number six dealing justly. Props are seldom told us deal with people on the basis of good manners and justice. And remember that AR just recited while he remained Commissioner Ernakulum in Isla aletta do don't let your hatred of a people make you become unjust just because you hate someone or, or they've done something bad to you. Don't be unjust beating don't do more than what he was. You're right. You might say they deserve more. And if somebody slapped me, I can forgive them pardon and

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say a word or I can slap them exactly the same way. That's justice. But if I did them two slaps, that's injustice.

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Yeah, he deserves because he started that's in your head. But Allah tells you no, that's not. That's not right. Somebody lied to you. So you're gonna get him back. I'm gonna lie to them. Law lying is haram.

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But taking your right is okay. So they lied to you and took money off you, you have a right to take your money back in any means. But if there's going to cause more harm, don't do it. However, the point is, you've got to be just

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and Allah says we're in touch for who will come if you were to pardon, and pardoning will be better than do it. Number seven, smiling cheerfully. Let's also I sell them whenever they entered his home, I shenana says can have a sermon, ghanaba shall wash. He was always smiling when he entered the home. His face was cheerful when you saw him, you felt at ease. Every worry, you had every fear you had you thought it's all going to be good.

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The children used to rush to the processor because we smiley face.

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You know, a friend of mine. He has another friend who's got a seven year old daughter. So his mate calls him up and says, Hey, bro, where are you guys? Why? Because my daughter is asking me at this cafe we were she saw you she's saying? Where is that smiling man.

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She didn't remember his name or anything. She remembered his smile, was the smiling sad innocence of the child teaches us something. And that's how the Prophet sallallaahu Salam was.

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Allah some people they can't help but their face just looks always angry. But that's how they were born. What can you do, but in general, be a smiley person as much as you can.

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Number eight patience and tolerance props. Allah Salam said, the strong man is not the one who can overpower others. But the strong man is the one who can control himself when he is angry. So hey, Bihari. What's the point you got to remember here? Anger is not haram. Sometimes anger is good.

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But he said, You can troll yourself when you are angry.

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How do you do that? Well, one very quick one to do is try your best to get used to waiting 90 minutes. I bet none of you are able to do that. Nine zero ministers bro come on, people would have, I would have destroyed a lot of people in 90 minutes, say, walk away, do something 90 minutes until you get homeostasis in your body. And then you can at least try to think that's what I said. I've said whoever controls themselves and gets used to its control and cells at time of anger is a very strong person.

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We all know what problems anger have caused in families and beyond number nine, compassion to animals. I can give a whole lecture about that. Now this doesn't mean some sisters when a single they want to marry someone they say man condition of me marrying us. I gotta have a cat.

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I gotta have two cats. And oh, there's kittens this cute kittens everywhere before you know it. They've gone and committed Zina outside and they bring a lot of cats into the house

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you know what I mean? Right?

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That's what the anyway the cats what they do is

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we're not saying have him all over the place, because you're saying I'm really kind to pets. Yeah. And if there's a cat outside and it's meowing and you've got something to give it food, give it otherwise, if it's a pet for a neighbor, don't try and do that it might get upset but the point is, don't harm them. And anything anything that has life in it, if you can be gentle and kind to the Bitcoin to I think everybody understands kindness to animals in Islam.

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A man entered paradise. Because his last sin he asked the Lord to forgive him for it. Bye

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by giving a dog to drink water

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honoring the guest number 10 is a righteous character of every Muslim.

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The Prophet peace be upon him said Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day let him honor his guest Sahara Buhari.

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Of course, some guests, they come unannounced, so long as they're still outside. You're allowed not to let them in if you want. Soon as you open the door, they have to come in tell us well, that well, as soon as you're welcome them in, you have to be hospitable to them. That's what I'm trying to say.

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And hospitable to them is what you can afford from your house. Don't go overboard.

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But what you can afford with your house, the point is be hospitable. And Muslims have always been known for their hospitality, brothers and sisters, you've got a neighbor, treat them like a guest go over give them something even if they're non Muslim. Let them see how Islam teaches us to honor the guest and whoever honors their guest. There is another Hadith I forgot what it's reference, but it's an authentic hadith that a guest that you treat well and be hospitable to them when they are to leave the the the sins leave with them. So your sins of the day leave with them. Meaning that that, that not that they go to the guest, it means that the guest helps by being terrible to them. They

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YOUR SINS go out by being hospitable to your guests. Number 11. Caring for the orphans is a huge thing in Islam. Obviously, we all know this, you might go to one of the Islamic organizations and sponsor an orphan are two brothers sisters, if you can afford it. And this, of course, will be a sadaqa jariya for you an ongoing charity, even after your death. And if it can continue and you tell someone to continue and tell them listen, if you can continue with that it will be also a contribution that is ongoing inshallah. Number 12. Maintaining family ties, a lot of people have neglected this one, you gotta find a way to maintain your family ties, even the ones you can't get

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along with, even if it's a little bit some people say some of them harmless. Well, it depends what harm when I hear about the harm some people when they describe the harm, it's not really harm harm, it's the harm that you can resolve, or you can still work from a distance. But of course if it's a major harm and something like that Islam does allow you to cut off that family member if they are truly bringing serious harm to you, or your children. But generally speaking 90% of our family members, Brothers Sisters, we need to maintain our family ties, even if it's a phone call, even if it's you know, look we have something where if there's a problem, you can't solve it, minimize it.

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minimize it, this is the formula there's a problem you can't solve it can't be perfect. Minimize it can't do that much don't leave at all some people they say it's all or nothing it's all the way Oh you cut them off completely that's that's terrible. That's I think some people have harsh hearts like that. And remember that we have children that watch us they look at how I treat my parents they look at our treat my brothers and sisters and then when they grow up that's how they're going to treat each other. The tiniest thing I'd get upset cut off your

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lips the word for it

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I think what is it narcissistic narcissism is another one. Oh, toxic toxic that's the word. It's kind of like a trend toxic. You know, I've heard a lot of people this one is toxic. And this one is toxic or and this one calls this one toxic this one because the other one toxic, and each one is righteous. And what do I do? I say no, no, you're not toxic. They don't know you're not toxic.

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You can't solve it. Until you look into yourself and you're honest with yourself. Honesty. If I am bad to you, I should be honest about that. And this is what Allah looks at Mantova Allah, Allah, He Rafa. whoever humbles themselves for the sake of Allah, Allah will lift them of course, I've given a whole lecture three series about family, you can go back to it in sha Allah, and it's also on YouTube.

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I'll just say a few more in sha Allah, or I can say them quickly, forgiving others. Now a lot of people say forgiving, forgiving, I've given a talk about that as well. You don't have to forgive every single person. That's your right. But out of righteousness, if forgiving a person will lead to a better outcome than forgive them brothers and sisters. And if forgiving, a person will not cause more of harm, forgive them.

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Now that undeserved, but they say they're sleeping good. You're always gonna slip with this grudge in your heart. Forgive them for your own sake, leave it in, but in the past and one day, you'll see the doors opening for you in shallow tile. But don't forgive people who you know, will abuse that forgiveness. No, don't forgive those people, especially people who are known to use and abuse people's kindness. Now it has to be real. Some people make it up. Not they use and abuse my kindness, but they're really just imagining things. It's got to be real. So it's real and rational. They do really do it. You've given them chances. Then there comes a time I don't forgive you,

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meaning I'm not going to deal with you in the same way as before. And by the way, if you forgive someone, it doesn't mean you have to be exactly in the same relationship as you were before. forgiving them means that okay, but it doesn't mean it's going to be the same. I will still

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You know, interact with you in other ways, but not in this way anymore. And that's very normal.

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Number 14 is humility. Now I'll give you a very quick formula about humility. The prophets are seldom said, He who does not have mercy upon people Allah will not have mercy upon him. The hadith is in Buhari having mercy is when somebody deserves to be punished, and have taken a right of yours and deserved and punished and you're able to punish them. Instead, you let go of some of your rights and you take it easy on that person or you forgive. That's what mercy means. So if you want Allah to give you that type of mercy on the Day of Judgment, for sins that you've done for wrong, that you've done for crimes that you've done anyone Allah to just let go of it out of His mercy, then you also

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do that for people, so long as that mercy will not lead to something worse. Okay. So have mercy when things can be given mercy and when you have power over someone. And humility, by the way, doesn't mean that you walk around dangling your head and you're a humble peasant who walks around like, masha Allah. You're what we call that wish in Arabic. And as a Turkish word darvish, that V show that which means a person who has sold the world and doesn't care people can slap them out and they'll just say thank you, and they just walk away. No, no. In Islam, we don't have that. In Islam, we don't have that. And remember when I talked about honorable Hopper with Allah, I know he saw a

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young man. He's walking with his back arched and his head dangling and he's dragging his feet and his clothes are very, very, very, very simple, deliberately, all his acting like he is an ascetic he has given up on the entire world. Giving up on the world is not like that. He comes down off his camel, honorable Hapa. Delano is to have a stick with him. And he tapped him on the back of his neck. He said, lift your head up, lift your head up. Islam is not a sickness. Are you sick? You follow? Islam makes you sick. I saw another man sitting in the masjid young boys just sitting there reading Quran and praying and just avoiding the entire world. He said, Who provides this young man?

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He said his older brother says well, Allah, his older brother is better than him. Sure, that is sitting there for the community to provide him sit there begging. That's not what a Muslim is a Muslim is to be strong and Giver not a taker. Well, if you need then you take but try to build yourself up. So humility, and one beautiful formula is always try to appear brothers and sisters appear to people less than your reality.

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You're really good at something appear, humble yourself be a bit less. What you shouldn't do is try to appear above your reality.

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Don't say I've got this qualification and that qualification because you can lie to that person. Just say you can look like you're a scientist or a professor. Don't do that. Because you're going to fall flat on your face and with that, don't try to appear like you're stronger than what you know you really are. Because the moment you go to the gym and they say hey bro, this one come conference look, this guy Mohamed while he can lift 140 on the benchpress and then you're going to you stuffed yourself up you can only lift 40

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or 20 Maybe you gotta lie more so that brings another lie in another lie and another lie. So don't appear high the way appear below your reality and you'll always be okay inshallah. Last few ones Insha Allah, I'll see him quickly now a righteous person helps others helps others wherever they can. Number 16. He is moderate, not too extravagant this way. And not too miserly that way.

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In his walk in his talk and everything, number 17. Speaking good.

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Okay, being silent. How many of us do that? Well, this is a disease today.

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Now a lot of people don't speak much because they're introverts but on on online, watch him go and they will hoax online.

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They go away. Sure. You look at and think, wow, her him down and never ever talked in seven years when went high school. Wow, really become something I've never they're just talking and abusing and talking and just saying all rubbish stuff. But also sell them said, say if you want to say something, say it if it's good or be silent. Save your tongue. If it's not good, don't say it. You're in doubt. Don't say it. Then just stretch through every everything the first thought that comes to you. So that's a righteous person, speak good or keep signing number 18 charity and generosity. We went through that number 19 fair business practice. I already went through that as

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well. But I'll mention a quick Hadith prophesize LM said the buyer and the seller had the option of

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canceling or confirming the bargain unless they separate. And if they spoke the truth and made clear the defects of the goods then they would be blessed in their bargain. And if they told lies and hid some defects

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or facts about what they're selling

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In their bargain would be deprived of Allah's blessings. selling a car

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you clock the case backwards.

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You say I'm selling this is genuine ethics

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but it's really all six

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these array bands

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that they actually Bay bands can't really see it's just stuff that it all is fake. So present the product as it should be clearly and it'll be blessed inshallah and don't hide defects. Number 20 justice for all. Number 21. praying for others making the art for others prophesied Salam said the supplication of a Muslim for his brother in his absence will certainly be answered. And there is an angel that responds, saying and for you the same number 22, encouraging good and forbidding evil. Now I'm going to make a separate lecture about this topic, commanding girlhood and prohibiting evil because some people man they, they make other people run away from Islam. As soon as they see the

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tiniest, wrong deed. They all want to advise that person yet. You don't have to advise everyone every time

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on on the internet. You see a system isn't just converted to Islam, she's got no hijab to try and to be better 50 People sister wear the hijab says that you should be doing that. But Kathy, you made her hate becoming a muslim. Just take it easy, not everything has to be told and as if you're gonna go to hellfire if you're unsafe. Allah says for that good enough art is the Quran remind if you know the reminder will benefit that's in sorbitol Allah for that good remind in, if nothing that is zero, if you know that reminder will benefit you won't make things worse. Most people here in Australia in the West, they don't like being told about how they dress and walk. So avoid it. Make dua for them

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and speak in a public gathering if you can talk in a way that it's indirect. Lastly, brothers and sisters,

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number 23.

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Guiding with wisdom how how convenient that was guiding with what? With wisdom. I don't swear at you because you're doing the wrong thing and forget about myself, I guide with wisdom. And one thing beautiful about this is if I'm going to guide you, and that guiding is going to cause a bigger problem than it is haram to say anything. If I know that you got a really bad temper, I know that. And I think if I tell him that he is going to swear and do things, then it's haram for me to say anything to him or her because then I've caused them to swear into a lot of answers, I've got to use another approach. So guide with wisdom. 24. Being grateful is a mark of a righteous person. Children

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be grateful to your parents,

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husband and wife be grateful to each other. Be grateful to your neighbor, be grateful to your teacher be grateful to the people who have done good for you be grateful brothers and sisters. Number 25. Emphasizing humility we said that before, no one humbles themselves except that ALLAH raises them number 26 prioritizing family and if you're about to do something good, and you can do good for this person or that person, one or the other. Let's give an example you have $100 This person is in need and that person's in need and you can only give it to one.

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Look at the one who is family. If one of them is family, then give it to the family before the friend. A family member calls you for help a friend calls you for help. They're both equal. You go to the family, Allah says in the Quran, Accra buena Oh live in maruf family and the closer ones are more worthy of your help a neighbor or a foreign neighbor, the closer neighbor, and so on.

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Lastly, 27 being patient in adversity.

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Number 28. seeking knowledge number 29 Taking care of women. Now of course women should also take care of men, especially here in Australia, man I'm when the laws are woof all over the place, then, the point of that is whether you're a man or a woman, if you have power, to hurt the other person, whether it's strength, physical, whether it's with your tongue, whether it's economic with your wealth, whether it's with your children, whether it's with the internet, like reputation, and whether it's with the law, or any other way. If you have that power brothers and sisters, then a righteous man or righteous woman takes care of that and is not unjust. In fact, they're kind and

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Allah says especially between husband and wife, well done so we'll follow by Nico never forget the favors between you that you've had.

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But also as I've said, the best of us the one best who his wife and I and the best among you to my wife as an example in terms of the and lastly number 30. Maintaining trustworthiness, the signs of a hypocrite are three the Prophet peace be upon him said when he speaks he lies when he makes a promise he breaks it and when he is entrusted, he betrays the trust. So here Buhari and similar to

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In Muslim brothers and sisters, these are 30 qualities that we can inshallah work on. Inshallah will be on YouTube you can go back and enumerate them all make that an exercise first person I see in the comments saying 12345 inshallah we'll give him a shout out. How's that?

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Alright, just gonna locate