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Assim Al-Hakeem

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Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem gives an inspiring talk on how to handle the trials, tests and blessings that Allah has put upon each and everyone of us.

November 16, 2016 @ Al-Khaadem AKYMEDIA

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Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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our topic for today in sha Allah is something that we all

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know about. But

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we need from time to time to be reminded. And it's an important topic because it deals with our life. It is about the essence of our existence. As I said before, and I always repeat this, Muslims are unlike any other religion

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because they know where they came from. They know where they're going. They know why they were created. If you ask anyone who's not a Muslim, the majority of them don't have a purpose for living.

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Muslims have.

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If you look at other religions, when you have a problem and you are unable to solve it, sometimes a bullet might be the answer.

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Or a drink of poison or throwing yourself from a high place. Rarely, you will find a Muslim doing this. Is it because we love to live?

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It might be no one says no Al Hamdulillah I don't want to live anyone who doesn't want to live Give me your wallet.

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I love to live but we have a vision and the mission. We know where we came from. And we hope inshallah, that we know we are where we are going to. Therefore, our topic is about what life

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is really about what is life.

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Allah azza wa jal described life in a very simple idea

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that we Muslims, recite the surah before we go to bed, inshallah, I hope we do that. What is that Surah Surah mulk. Allah says in the second ayah, Allah the halaqa and Mota will hire Leah Beluga calm, ie X and Y am Allah, it is he who created death and life so that he would test you which of you is or which of you is best in deeds.

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Therefore, this tells me why Allah had created me

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why to be tested? So what we are at the moment in is a test. Is it multiple

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answers, multiple question answers? Is it yes, no answers? Is it essay type answers, it is all type of tests.

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And everything that you go through is a test from Allah azza wa jal.

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However, when we talk about testing, and these are the lemons that came in the title, I had to Google it and make our research lemons happen and I was lemons.

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Sometimes you are given titles for a lecture. You don't know if you are a grocery man, or a farmer, or selling meat, what is this? lemons happen? So have dilla then I had to come up with a conclusion that they're talking about testing and calamities that we all have to go through. So when whenever Muslims talk about testing, what do you think of

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example,

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wars,

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death,

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poverty,

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disease,

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marriage.

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See, all what I have been hearing is negative.

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And this is not the case in Islam.

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Because by this standard, Allah azza wa jal loves the Swedes,

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Swedish, Swedish Swedish people, Mashallah they have excellent weather, unlike Kuala Lumpur, people put things very hot.

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They have excellent wealth and welfare and everything. So by your standards, Allah is not testing

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They're having fun. But this is not the case. Allah azzawajal says in the Quran

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we shall make a trial of you with evil, poverty, disease, wars, famine, and with good

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when a below can be Sheree? Well Heidi fitna and to us you will return. Allah says, so Allah tests you, not only with what you dislike, but also with what you like Abdullah have an adverse the cousin of the Prophet Allah saucer interprets this ayah he says, Allah says that we test you with prosperity, and hardship with health and illness with wealth and poverty, with Hillel and with how long with obedience and worship and with sins, and we test you with guidance and misguidance.

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So every single person on earth is being tested at the moment. Even the president, even the king, even the richest person on earth, yes, this is a test because the end result is what will you be labeled as succeeding or failing? So Allah azza wa jal test us with everything.

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However, no one on earth says, I'd like a lot to test me. I'd like a lot to test me with poverty and illness and hardship. I don't want to live to test me with wealth and with high position and a good job. Nobody says this. Because the end result of tests are two things. And this is what will pay him may Allah have mercy on his soul mate, a man when he wrote a book, very beautiful book, I think it's translated it's called the to soldering with a healer to shake it in the arsenal or the supply of those who are patient and the provision of those who are grateful Eman is divided into two halves have is patience. And the other half is showing your gratitude and thanks to Allah. When do you have

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patience, when there is a calamity? When do you have gratitude? When you have provision and gifts from Allah azza wa jal? So we all like to have the second part, give us what we want, and we will show our gratitude better for us, then you test us with poverty, illness, and hardship and you will find this patient inshallah we will be also patient and showing our gratitude.

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Now, why is Allah azza wa jal testing us?

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This question is very problematic.

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The question of why a lot of the Muslims have it.

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But some of them may have it to object.

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And the issue of objecting goes against Islam.

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What do you mean? Sure, yeah, no, we should not ask no ask.

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Asking, increases your knowledge.

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clarifies your misconceptions.

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gets your email even higher.

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Allah tells us in Surah Al Baqarah.

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Abraham said, peace be upon him. Show me how you

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resurrect the debt. Allah says, Don't you believe? No, I believe but so that I would elevate my Eman. So if you ask to elevate your Eman, no problem. Go ahead ask ask me as I say and ask anyone

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because this is beneficial for both of us. But the problem is that the Muslims nowadays are asking to object not to submit.

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And this is why we get people going out of the fold of Islam. Why does Allah do this?

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Are you asking to No, no, this is not fair. Masha Allah give you a Shahada again,

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Jefferson, he would be here to accept and give you the articles of faith articles of Pillars of Islam, the whole nine yards.

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But this is not logical. So Panama, is it logic? is Islam. Now logical.

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How is it law

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Islam is the religion of submission.

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You have 80% of Islam you're convinced of no shape I have 99% of Islam convinced off of the Quran. Yes, no problem Howdy. But this 1%? I'm not very happy with. Yeah, he put the 1% with a 99.

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Because if you believe in 99% helaas, what is there more for you? But it is not logical. Not everything in Islam is logical

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in the sense that my logic can understand, it is logical in the sense that it has a wisdom. It is from the wise, Allah azza wa jal, it is from the all knowledgeable, but you may not find the wisdom behind it.

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Your son loves you so much, that he's willing to follow you blindly correct? Do this, okay, Daddy, don't do this, I will obey. But when he's in agony because of his appendix, and you take him to the surgeon, and the surgeon decides to do the procedure, and operate upon him, he brings his knives in the butcher stuff he has. And the child is looking at him with a yellow grin on his face, because he's putting the mask of course, but the child can see.

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And he looks at his father, father, what is this? And the father says, trust me, he's gonna cut me open. This is illogical.

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This is a very small example.

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Not everything that we see is logical. But we believe this is our conviction. So when you ask, why is Allah testing me? If this question is to increase your email, you have no problem. I will answer you inshallah. But if it is to object, then you have to answer it yourself elsewhere, because your Islam is under questioning. I don't know if you're a real Muslim or not. This is Islam submission.

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First of all, this

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there are a number of answers but throughout the lecture we will get to know

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a beauty law or testing

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is raising your status, nearer to Allah, increasing your good deeds, erasing your bad deeds.

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The Prophet Allah just says in the Quran, woman, cassava come Mimosa, Padma cassava ad coma, one coffee and whatever of misfortune befalls you. It is because of what your hands have earned. And he pardons much Subhan Allah, whatever happens to us, I'm going out to the hotel, I'm driving, I get an accident.

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Why did this accident happen because of my sins, but bearing in mind that Allah is pardoning a lot. So this is the tip of an iceberg that Allah is

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punishing me with it's a possibility. If I have no sense at all, which is

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believable, this it can only happen to the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, he is the one who's sinless,

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even to the profit Alice was and this is what to elevate his status more and more to add to his agenda, and reward more and more. And this is why there is no one

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on Earth. No, not even on heavens. There is no one on earth or in the heavens, who is more rewarded than the Prophet alayhi salatu salam This is why so many people say share on our burning on here of eight. I'd like to slaughter a sheep for the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, they may korumburra or how'd you say? I'd like to make a camera to the Prophet eyes. Are you crazy?

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You should Yes, I love him so much. I want to give him Okay, whatever you do, he's credited.

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So whatever any Muslim when you pray to rock as now, Allah azza wa jal would credit the Prophet ashram for the reward of these two workers, though you did not intend it. Why? Because he's the one who taught it to you. When you recite the Quran, he is accredited when you say Subhana Allah, Allah Allah. So there is no point of producing such an innovation. This is beta. Automatically everything is credited and transferred to his account, sal Allahu Allahu alayhi wa sallam. The Prophet told us that no Miss Fortune or disease.

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befalls a Muslim, no worry, no grief, no harm, no distress, not even a thorn that predicts him that there is the believer. But Allah will expiate for some of his sins because of that, Chapin Allah. This means that we should love to have tests from Allah because it erases our sins. But

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this is not the case.

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When a person is tested from Allah, this is a sign that Allah loves him.

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But does this mean that we should ask Allah for testing? No. It is totally prohibited for you to say, Oh Allah test me Come on test me. Bang. Oh my God, this me Forgive me a kill me.

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Don't think that you're man enough?

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This is the thing of hamdulillah we're not men enough? No, don't think even that you are

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woman enough? In the sense that don't think that you can tolerate or challenge Allah by this session. No, not one of the worshipers. He was like a monk in Islam. He was one spraying. He prays like six hours a day a night. So he's saying, Oh Allah test me and you will see the result. So Allah tested him by not being able to urinate. It's an illness where you can not urinate, nothing goes. So he used to feel the pain in his bladder, and he's unable to urinate. And he goes into streets meets children playing football. It said, Pray for your lying uncle. Pray for your lying uncle. I was lying when I said Oh Allah test me. You will see me patient, I'm unable to tolerate this. So do not

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challenge Allah azza wa jal.

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The Prophet said la Salatu was Salam. The greatness of the reward comes with the severity of the trial. And when Allah loves people, he tests them. So whatever happens to you as a believer in this life, it is a test. Not only that, it is good for you.

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How can that be? How can tests be good for you, when we can see it harming us, causing us this stress, depressing us, causing us a lot of calamity? How can testing be good for you? First of all, who's better?

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The prophets or us?

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The prophets, have they been tested by Allah azza wa jal. Now, let's not talk about the prophets we are not prophets. Let's talk about us. Each one of us here,

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who does not have testing or a calamity or a problem from from Allah Raise your hands.

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Your Allah we are living in hardship. Each one has a problem. Either you have debts

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or you lost a job or your child is not as obedient as you wish.

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or your spouse is not as you hoped, he or she would be

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or you have problems with work, or you have problems with solitude.

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as so many Muslims complain

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and this is very funny with the Muslims.

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True Muslims praise a large origin. Say what Alhamdulillah the word Alhamdulillah when it comes from the heart, it makes darkness light. It makes you the happiest person on earth. Nowadays, ask any Muslim around you. How are you my friend? Is it

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this is sufficient.

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Yet he does not stop there. He says the wife is nagging.

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My son is always fighting and failing school. My daughter went ran away with her boyfriend. My neighbors always put trash in my on my front porch. And my other neighbor parks his car under my tree in my shade.

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My boss doesn't like me. He never gave me a raise for five years and he gave a raise to a co worker who

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Doesn't work hard. I'm diabetic, I have heavy, high blood pressure, high cholesterol levels.

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And I am feeling very low because I have so much that's on me. But Alhamdulillah

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after all of this is in hamdulillah

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it shows you that there is no content. And this person doesn't know why Allah created him. He's like, a camel. someone pulls him by the rope, takes him left takes him right. He doesn't know he just follows wherever people take them, you, my friend, are not alone.

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All those on Earth are suffering in a certain fashion and manner. Even the prophets of Allah azza wa jal, let's begin from the first Adam,

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whom Allah azza wa jal created with his hands.

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There's a lot of hands.

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I am shocked but this is not the time to express my shock by those who say no, no doesn't have a hand. It's mentioned in the Quran in so many places in the Sunnah said no, no, no, this is not hand this is ability. This is his power.

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sounds logical but I have a problem. When allies our gel ordered Satan to prostrate and he did not prostrate. Allah told him, why didn't you prostrate to what I created with my two hands?

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Satan should have answered and said I, You created me with your two hands as well. But he didn't. Why? Because Allah did not create Satan with his two hands. Allah created only certain things with his two hands and the rest were created by confi akun B and it was.

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So Allah created Adam, with his two hands allocated the highest level of fair dose with his two hands, Allah planted the

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the trees on certain trees with his two hands, Allah who wrote the tablets of Moses with his hand.

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And there is an issue of dispute whether Allah created the throne with his hands or by the word can be, and so on. So let's not go into this because then people will sleep.

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Let us look at Adam, Adam peace be upon him. Allah created him with his two hands or did the angel so prostrate to him, but he sent

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he

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made the mistake.

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How did the law test him?

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Allah tested him and us by descending him from the heavens to the earth.

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Is this a calamity? La ilaha illAllah Imagine if we were in heaven now. No Salah no fasting, all night long partying, you know, booze and everything's fine. Charlotte will come back it will come back and Charlotte.

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Look at

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your children, your spouse,

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we suffer with our children. I suffer with my children

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severely.

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And they acknowledge this. And they complain because there is a standard you wish that your children would raise to i have 11 of my daughter's Mashallah all memorized Quran when they fully when they were 15 years of age, a certain school by 15 they're all memorizing the Quran. But after high school.

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They're not all the same. I'm suffering.

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And it depresses me. But not to the extent that hamdulillah that they're doing you know, bad things, but they're not at the level you want them to be.

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Then I remember

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the Prophet of Allah azza wa jal know.

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He spent 950 years calling his people to Islam 950 years, what today, but what was the results on his family? his wife and his son are in hell.

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They rejected his doubt. So when I see this, maybe it's not my mistake. Maybe because definitely It was not no mistake. He's a perfect professional. That he 20 479 150 years.

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That's if he has a resume Marsha a lot of work a lot.

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It is one heck of a resume. Now, if I look at my career, I was sacked. My company was downsizing. They do not want me to work anymore. I've lost my job. Is it the end of the world? Who is your provider?

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It's not your manager. It's not your CEO. It's not the one who signs the check. Because all of them need to take a breath

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to live and they cannot provide themselves with that breath. It is a lot. So why are you worrying? Look at Moosa.

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He was on the hitlist when he was an infant.

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And Allah azza wa jal defied all norms by making him

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grow up in the house of the wannabe assassin. So instead of being murdered and killed, he was raised up in the house of Pharaoh and became almost a king.

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And then he killed the man.

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And he fled, all this palace, all this wealth, all this money, and for over 10 years, worked in a foreign country.

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So he's not in his own country, he's in a foreign land as a shepherd

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and lost everything as a very strong calamity to a person to face. But he passed it and he moved on to be one of the strong willed prophets of Allah messages of Allah. Look at use of you have calamities,

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look at use of calamity peace be upon him.

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A young child hated by his siblings, all of them. What did I do?

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Yeah, you're our Father loves you. Is it my mistake? He loves me, hate him Don't hate me. And his father was a mess, a prophet of Allah. And this is why when the Prophet said Allah is asked, was asked, who's the most honorable person? He said, I'll carry him even will carry Kareem Abdul Kareem Abdul Karim. What a lineage

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you know to have this name in your passport? Well, he was used if the son of Prophet of Allah who the son of Prophet of Allah is half the Sunnah of Prophet of Allah and messenger of Allah Ibrahim.

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Yet his siblings who share the lineage with him, took him and threw him in the well lied to their father that the wolf had attacked him and killed him.

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Then Not only that, to add pain, to insult to injury,

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he was taken by a caravan sold as a slave raised up in the house of one of the dignitaries in the room ministers of Egypt, to be seduced by a beautiful woman, a rich woman, the owner and the mysteries of the palace he was in.

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When I say this story to my students in high school, everyone says, What is this? What is this? Nobody is coming to us?

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Well, they are regretting UCF. Why didn't he do it? You've lost a chance to panela

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Look what makes the difference between a normal person and a prophet of Allah? It is a trial. If we were tested with it, we don't know what would the respond be? Most Muslim said Nah, Mashallah. I'm strong man. All of a sudden his knees are shaking.

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Never ever wish to meet the enemy. Always say Oh Allah bring me or give me apphia I do not test myself because I know I will fail. So keep me as far as possible from fitna look at Prophet Ibrahim.

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The trials we have well Ah, hey, they have nothing with Ibrahim Ibrahim reached the age of 18 years without having children.

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Complaining at all. He's asking Allah bring me children bringing the children Allah grants him to not one never give up.

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At this old age, his eldest is married. When he was an infant, Allah tells him now you have a child, go to Makkah in the middle of nowhere. Leave your wife and your child and leave

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Give me a break. I'm 80 years of age, he did not even

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blink,

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told his wife hajer Get ready. Where are we going? Get ready. And they travel all the way from Iraq to Mecca which was nothing, which was wilderness, nothing, there was nothing, not a tribe, not a plant, not water, nothing. There is there, he turned his back and went

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Ibrahim, what are you doing Ibrahim? Who are you leaving us to? And he does not even respond, does not even look back? What kind of test is this? What kind of Eman and faith he has? Then she figures out? She says, Is it Allah who Oh did you? And he said Yes, that's it. No lecture on how to be patient and how to be tolerant. Nothing. hamdulillah just Yes, she said go. Allah azza wa jal will take care of us. He will not make us any suffer.

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Then we know what has happened. The boy grew up, Ibrahim came he saw his son almost 1415 years of age. his age now is almost 100. I know how a person suffers when he does not have children. I have to get all the groceries to the third floor myself every time I buy them.

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There's no one to take them from the car with me. I will never ever asked my daughter's to come and pick the groceries. I take the trash out. I do everything physically if I had a son.

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Go take your mother. Try not to come back. Go do this do that. I would tell him to do things. Now when Ibrahim finds his son growing up becoming a man. Allah says Ibrahim take your son put him down and slaughter him.

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No questions asked trial after trial after trial. This is why Ibrahim has the one of the highest and closest

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friendship with a large surgeon. He is the holly law. So is our Prophet so Salaam Haleakala. So, again, we all have calamities we all have lemons, lemons happen. So deal with it how to do why is Allah testing me? Again, coming back to the same question Why?

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If this, again is to

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expand your Eman.

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Increase your content of what is happening you can ask among

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the things that help you tolerate and live with these trials that you're facing, is to know that Allah is the owner of everything you have doubt. Any for example, now if Allah decided that we all in this universe, humans, animals, fish, insects, plants, plants, trees, angels, jinn devils, all would perish and die. Can anyone say

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this is not fair?

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This is not logical. Can you? Can you object? No, because he's the owner. If I take money from my pocket and I start burning it, my money,

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it's not up to you to decide. It's not of your business. I burn whatever I want. I am the owner. And Allah azza wa jal is the owner of everything. So when Allah wills something, you have no reason, no justification to object he does what He wills subhanho wa Taala. But as Muslims, we have

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the firm and strong conviction that my Lord does not treat anyone unjustly or unfairly. So whatever is happening to me, this is deserved. This is for our wisdom. And Allah azza wa jal, whether you're fully Maura buka hada. Allah would never treat any one of us unfairly. There has to be a justification. And the reason

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one of the greatest causes for calamity is to erase your sins Do we have since little or a lot? We have plenty. So Allah tests us, because so many times we fail to ask Allah for forgiveness. I'm talking about myself and

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The majority of Muslims, we have sins that because we are committing them on daily basis, we don't seem to believe that they are sins anymore.

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So for me to come to Malaysia, and everywhere I go I hear music. Every where I go I hear music songs and dancing and I go to a restaurant is music. I go to the toilet there is music. What is this?

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So, after a couple of days, in the first two days, I'm hating it. In the third day I'm memorizing the song and repeating it. Oh yeah, this is a beautiful song. This is a beautiful band. So people make sense and they do not relate to them. Their hearts are dead. Of course, looking at the opposite gender is a sin. Free mixing is a sin

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transactions halaal haraam, the way you treat your parents the way you treat your spouse the way so many sins sometimes are most of the times we fail to ask Allah for forgiveness for all of them. So Allah azza wa jal, instead of delaying the punishment to the Hereafter, Allah gives us tests.

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And he gives us calamities to erase our sins, the prophet said that a salatu salam trials will continue to be false, the believing man or woman in himself in his child in his wealth, until he meets a lot with no sin on him.

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So all what your meeting Allah with a raise your sins, share, my in laws are torturing me. This is 80% of the emails I get from the sisters will law. And I get a lot of emails, I get like 150 to 250 a day.

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I have a team that handles nonconformity. They take my old answers and see if it fits.

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This Don't laugh. This is logical.

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I spent two years answering every single question.

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But imagine five to seven questions a day, what's the ruling on music?

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And you write the same answer and then five minutes the same question. Then I thought maybe it's best that I have the same manuscript pasted. So we have a team and hamdulillah May Allah reward them, they screen all the questions, and they look if it's music, the answer is the same. They paste it, they send it to me, I make sure that it fits the same question. And I okay it and it goes 80% of the sisters question. Sure. My mother in law does this and that. My sister in law comes into my room and takes my jewelry and takes my clothes. And she beats me and asks me to cook for her. Well, ah,

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this is not in your culture hamdulillah in some countries, the joint family is a must you marry a girl she has to live with your parents serve them until they die. This is not Islam. So this is volume. But bear, witness my sister, the more you are patient and tolerant, the lesser sins you have, likewise for the husband and we can go on forever with this. But this is not the time.

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And for the husband, maybe this hadith fits. The Prophet said Allah is awesome. On the Day of Resurrection, people will wish that their skins had been cut with scissors in this world, when they see that he word of those who were struck with calamity

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on the Day of Judgment, the Day of Resurrection.

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The people when they see those who were tested by Allah, and the reward that they're getting, they regret it they say oh, I wish Allah in this dunya would cut my skin with scissors so I get more and more reward.

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A calamity is beneficial for a believer callus.

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They recited either cursive hamdulillah and the gene has gone Allahu Akbar.

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By now. It's a chance. When a law tests us with a calamity. It is a chance to reflect

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so many times we are heedless. We're living nine to five job in the morning after fudger I'm working out in the gym. Then I go to my job. I read newspapers. I listen to the news.

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They're not doing your job. This is 95. We have breakfast and then we have lunch, they have brunch, we talk together then nine, five o'clock. There's colors, we have to go, we go to the house, we buy groceries, we sit with the boys or with the girls and we mix with our friends, and we sleep like a log at the end of the night. So this is our daily routine. It's a vicious cycle.

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Then comes a calamity. Then comes a test from Allah. It makes the circle stop, and you reflect, hmm, wow, I was heedless. I was in hafla. I was doing so many things wrong. I have to come back to Allah you raise your hands, you show your humility to Allah azza wa jal, Allah relieves you from your crisis and from your calamity. You're a strong believer once again. So this is

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the continuous process until you die. You're heedless, then you come back.

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You sleep and you wake up. You are far away from Allah, then you come closer to Allah azza wa jal.

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One of the benefits of testing is that your true core, your true identity is revealed.

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And this is problematic. May Allah azzawajal conceal our shortcomings. Allah says in the Quran, do people think that they will be left alone because they say we believe and will not be tested?

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And we indeed tested those who were before them, and a law will certainly make it known. The truth of those who are true, and we'll certainly make it known, the falsehood of those those who are liars.

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This is one of the most scary is in the Quran.

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Allah tells us that he will not leave any one of us alone.

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Any or every one of us says I am a Muslim. I'm a believer. I'm a true follower of the Sunnah. Allah zildjian will test you. And when we are tested, we are exposed.

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This is why we always say Oh Allah don't expose our shortcomings. Alpha boy luminaria says people when they are living in peace and prosperity, they all are good practicing Muslims, aren't we? All of us look at Mashallah, hey, we are praying on time attending lectures have strong faith and Amen. The moment Allah tests us, then our identity is revealed.

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So many people, they are law abiding citizens. When they go to a shop to buy something, they stand in line. They're very polite. But when there is a calamity, then your true identity is revealed. You start to jump people. When you're driving, you don't have any problem. You have a lot of time, you will reach your destination on time. But if you're late,

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what will happen? You put on your racing helmet, your horns come out, and you become the devil driving. You don't care about anyone why because you are being tested now. Likewise, in transactions ideal in halaal money, I do not deal in haraam. If the school raise the fees for your child and you cannot afford it and someone comes and says take this as a gift.

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This is 5000 lingots a gift just signed the paper

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gift Yes, the prophet said the hairdo to have boo.

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give gifts and you will have affection and love among you. So this is sooner, okay, make it 10,000.

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When you test it, your true identity is exposed. And this is why

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the Prophet said Allah His Salatu was Salam. When Allah intends goodness, to one of his servants, he will make his punishment in this dunya

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so I'm driving and bank someone crashes into my car. It costs 3000 4000 ringgit and it's taking time I'm sad. It's my beautiful car for 75 years. Now look what had happened. I'm sad. But this erases like 10% of my sins. Then this means that Allah intends good for me, Allah loves me. The Prophet says that assume and the

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If Allah intended evil for someone, then he will delay him until the day of judgment and then punish him for his sin. And the punishment of alarm, the day of judgment is nothing compared to what we face here. So how can we

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tolerate? How can we try to live through these calamities and tests? We need help. So if I'm tested What to do? First of all, the best thing, whenever you are tested by Allah with a calamity or the trial, is to raise your hands and ask Allah for help. Show and express your humility, your poverty to Allah azza wa jal and that you are in need for him. This is a true believer always bows down to Allah azza wa jal

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arrogant and arrogant person does not do this. Well, like I know a person, Saudi.

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when ever I tell him,

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pray to Allah, raise your hands and ask him to relieve you from your calamity. He says, I do not ask Allah in times of prosperity. Do you want me to ask him now?

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Look how shaytan plays with his head. People do not pray. When it's time for examinations and tests and interviews. They start to pray. Others refuse even to pray at that time. Why should I don't pray with him? to him when I'm on a job? Why should I pray to him when I'm out of job, then this is not fair. Shaytan makes him think that he's treating Allah like we treat our peers. If I don't ask you for something at the time of prosperity, I will not ask you and the time of need. Allah is not like this.

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Allah has billions and trillions of his creation, asking him and begging him. We don't have except a large surgeon to ask. So don't deal with a law in such arrogance.

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One of the means that would help you to go and live through your calamity is that you compare the calamity to Allah's favours and blessings upon you, which is most calamities or favors.

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People are thinking

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hmm you Allah has given a show many favors that are beyond count. Rodney Zubaydah. He's the nephew of mother Aisha, he's not a companion. He's a Tabby. But he was one of the seven great companions of Medina, the well known seven.

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Once he went to the Muslim rulers, palace to visit, he had

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seven grown up, or he sons, very handsome, very strong. And their lineage is one of the greatest of course.

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On the same night, he went in, someone gave him an evil eye to look at him, his seven martial law boys, he didn't say, Mashallah, the time and look at him. He's healthy. He's a scholar. He's the son of asthma abubaker He's the son of

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a worm. Whoa, his grandfather is abubaker.

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And on the same night, they discovered that his leg had an illness that needed to be amputated or he will die.

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So the doctor said we have to amputate it.

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So he said, Okay, do what you will.

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He said, Okay, take this intoxicant. So that you would not feel the pain. He said, No, I cannot take such things. But wait for me. I will pray to Allah make Dr. McVicker and when I'm engaged in it, do what you wish. So they left him and until he was in a state of Vicar and Salah. They came and showed his foot, no quick electrical, so it's over no 1212 it took like maybe half an hour and he didn't say anything.

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Unfortunately, at the same time, one of his sons went into the stables of the halifa and one of the horses ran him down and killed him. So when he woke up from the surgery

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They told him about what had happened to his son. He said that hamdulillah

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Oh Allah, all praise be to you. You've granted me seven children, sons, you took one and left six. You granted me four limbs, you took one and left me three.

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And he moved on, showing him expressing his patience and tolerance to Allah azza wa jal for whatever calamity befalls upon him, what will happen to us, if we lose our wallet while going out today,

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we will whine and cry and weep for a whole year.

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not losing a foot, not losing a son for just losing a wallet. But if we missed federal prayer for a whole month

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and hamdulillah nothing happens. Brush it away from your shoulder fujisaki.

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But to lose your wallet with your credit cards, halal and haram credit cards, this is a big calamity and a problem among the things that would help you to tolerate calamities and tests that you should be grateful It was not bigger

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towns that whenever a calamity strikes you, it could have been worse. So now I have a so a sore throat.

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I wake up I have a sore throat after last night's lecture. Besides I'm getting old, but

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I say Alhamdulillah it's a sore throat not an infection, my lungs. Not something that is broken. Not something that is unfixable. So I'm happy.

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Once I was in the first day of Ramadan, imagine I had the habit of taking my wife, the first day of Ramadan, to make romera and to spend one night in a hotel next to it. We live in Jeddah so Denmark is nothing. So I did this.

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First day we went to an haram to break our fast for tour for the first night. Very happy parade. Maverick went back to the hotel, I do this and the wallet is gone.

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Somebody snatched my wallet in Harlem

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on the first night of Ramadan.

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How do you feel?

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I was so frustrated and angry. But immediately and handled I thought okay, let's assess the problem. Did you pay the hotel?

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I paid the hotel in advance. hamdulillah Imagine if I did not pay the hotel? I don't have money, no credit cards, no ATMs nothing? Is your car with you. My car is with me. Alhamdulillah is your wife missing? No.

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That was a calamity. But hamdulillah.

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I said,

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Let me make me among the patient and tolerant. So always look at your problem and how it would have been. If it were to be worse, then your problem would become easy. One of the scholars once had a pimple and a sore wound on his finger. So one of his students was looking at it with discus.

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So the scholar looked at him he said, Imagine

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if it was at the tip of my tongue.

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Imagine if it was at my eye. How would it have been? The student says well when he said this, this looks very beautiful and nice. Because it can be worse. So you always praise Allah azza wa jal Imagine if the calamity you're struck in was in your religion. You're a millionaire.

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You are a millionaire. What would you choose to lose your wealth and fortune or to lose your Eman And you do not pray anymore?

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People say

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that you think belie people think like this. No, ALLAH is forgiving. And maybe next year I will go and make Hajj and the following year I will repent not I'd rather have my wealth.

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Rather than lose it. A man comes and goes, this is problem. You have to this is a calamity. But now the child is healthy Mashallah. And the father does not have work on a Sunday.

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So imagine if this happened while he was at work and his wife calls him come, the child is crying and there is so many good things of Allah azza wa jal upon us, but we fail to see except the bat.

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And this is also given to the spouses, so many complaints you have against your spouse. This is not the way the Prophet told us to do. The Prophet tells us how he saw to certain if you hate something from her, look at the good and bright side, you will find so many good things. I do this usually with my wife.

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I failed to see, but Alhamdulillah seriously.

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I never complained to my wife about anything.

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Why? And she talks to me say why don't you complain about the food that is uneatable? Well, he comes sometimes cooks food, she's not gonna listen to this so hamdulillah

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she cooks food so horrible.

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I can only take two or three bites. And they say Alhamdulillah May Allah azza wa jal give you health beautiful food. She said, You're lying.

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The food is awful, it's unreadable. Why don't you complain? Why didn't you talk? I said, Listen, I never take you out to restaurants. I always travel the world and never take you in any of my trips. I never bring you jewelry. I never use good words to complement whatever you're doing, I have my own shortcomings. With what audacity? Do I come to you and complain about any single thing that you do.

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bearing with me tolerating me is the biggest blessing of Allah as origin. So I would never will lie, ever complain about the way you look about the way you cook about my children about the cleanliness of my house. Never. Because if I open the door, I will have the flood of noise on me.

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And I cannot defend myself. So I'd rather have it the way it is, among the ways and I think the time is approaching an end.

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Okay, among the things that would help you a lot, is that you look at your problem next to others problems. Now we have calamities, but by Allah is any one of us calamity is even 1% of what the Rohingya are facing in Burma

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1% of what our brothers in Syria or in Yemen, or in Iraq are facing 1% of the hunger and famine the brothers in Sudan or in Somalia are facing? What kind of calamities are we talking about my friend? My car is 2014 It's too old, everybody's driving 2017? Why am i less than my peers and my friends, I need a new car. This this these are our calamities? What is this? So when you compare Alice testing to you say Alhamdulillah I am in good hands, I'm better than millions and millions of other Muslims and

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no matter what you are facing,

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you have one of two choices,

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either to be patient and accepted.

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And you will have gender and the calamity will remain as it is.

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Or you complain and whine about it. And you have health waiting for you. And the calamity will remain as it is. So in both cases, the calamity will not change.

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Therefore, when someone asks you, how are you my brother? Don't give him the nine o'clock bulletin news.

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of this condition. There's no no

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you don't have to tell everybody that you have problems. Because this will not make the problem go away. The problem is there. But when you praise Allah azza wa jal when you thank Allah azza wa jal, you are highly rewarded in the day on the Day of Judgment, so at times of crisis, when lemons happen, deal with it, how they will Oh Allah municipality Mila Haslam masala la Salaam baalak arrabiata Selena Beto Mohammed while he was so happy as your main And may Allah azzawajal reward you all for your patience, and May Allah azza wa jal make all our trials to be beneficial and to go away and to make us live in health and prosperity.

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And to safeguard our spouses our children, our loved ones will Allahu Allah when he spoke to me he Aslam