Ali Hammuda – Change of Heart Series #11 – Patience

Ali Hammuda
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the negative impact of instant guesting on society, including weight, diet, and health. They also discuss the concept of patient patience, which is the ability to restrain one's mind and body. The speakers also touch on the importance of patient satisfaction, the concept of a culture of fear, and the importance of patient behavior in achieving success. The segment provides examples of conditions for patients with anxiety, hesitation, and loss of their parents. They end with a promise to share more stories and start a new chapter in the story.
AI: Transcript ©
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In the very late 1960s, there was a researcher from Stanford University by the name of Walter Mischel.

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And what he did in his long term study

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was that he brought together marshmallows.

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And he presented them to a group of very hungry four year olds.

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And he said to them that you've got two options. Option number one, you eat it now.

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And you don't get a second marshmallow. Option number two, you delay the desire to gobble it up. And when I come back, I promise you two marshmallows.

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So he walked out of the room, and he began to observe and it's amazing because it's on YouTube. And you can see the outcome is quite funny. So some of those children couldn't bear the, the desire and they gobbled up the marshmallow there. And then other children turned their back on the marshmallow, they couldn't bear looking at it. Other Other kids started to talk to themselves. Others were singing to themselves to distract themselves from this, this temptation. There are some children who are even seeing licking circles around the marshmallow in the hope of you know, tapping into the marshmallow accidentally along the way, see the areas.

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And then what he did was that he came back to those children after 14 years. So how old are they now? They are, they're 18 years old.

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And he began to study them. And he found that the children who gobbled up the marshmallow there and then and were not able to delay instant gratification, their patience was minimal. He found that these children were defined by restlessness.

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They were anxious,

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they were a lot more prone to jealousy. Their coping mechanisms were weak. They didn't do that. Well, in school, they had quite high body mass index.

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And they were quite unreliable.

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And then they found that the other children who are able to delay that gratification, ie, they were a little bit more patient, their parents and teachers described them as being reliable, assertive, focused, composed, connected, their grades in school were better. And they had a lower body mass index.

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Now, fast forward

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onto the 21st century. It's our times today, and you see that the instant gratification system has become the norm in the lives of most of us.

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And we don't know what life looks like without it. Think about it, especially this generation that I see in front of me.

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I mean, have you ever heard of someone writing a letter and waiting months to get a response from his lover, his friend, his parent, we know of emails, we know of text messages, we know of instant response, you post something on socials there, and then you get a response, you need a book, you don't have to make your way to the library anymore. Online at your fingertips, all of the information is there.

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You're hungry, you don't need to buy ingredients, you don't need to saute anything in the pan, click of a button, just eat Deliveroo

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you've even got Now Amazon 2022. This year, they're investing in drone technology because they are saying that customers are too impatient for next day deliveries are talking about same day delivery.

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we are looking at a generation that's going to suffer in the future as patients is crippled in the lives of the 21st century man and woman.

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So when you put all of this together,

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right, you put the fact that Walter Michelle, in his study showed you what instant gratification can do and what it says about the child.

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And then you add that with what instant gratification has become today it's oozed into every part of our society, we demand instant response and we demand instant removal of pain.

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No pain can remain the threshold has gone so low. And then you add to that a third factor which is how we were created. How were we created?

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Holy God Insano

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mean agile Man was created in haste. What can an insane I do that man by his nature is hasty. When you put those three things together, you begin to see a very worrying trend.

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People who don't know how to be patient, and people who are definitely going to struggle later on in life. So it is key from time

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Time to bring up topics like this Sauber. Patience. What do we know about Sapa?

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In terms of its meaning,

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from a linguistic perspective the scholars they say that a sub originally it means l Hubzu. To restrain something, to retain it, to limit it from movement. That is what Sabra means linguistically. The Arabs. They say you couldn't lumen sabara che and forgot the Hadassah who? Everyone who exposes suburb to something, it means that you have restrained it. You expose somebody to something it means you have limited it. You've binded it

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from a technical perspective, ie what is the subject that we are talking about religiously? Here's the definition and then you measure yourself against it to know whether you are a patient or an impatient person. A man with no claim he said that a Sabra is as follows. He said a Subaru who are HUBZone FC analgesia

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were absolutely sunny and he Tasha ki Wahab sold jewelry Hey, Annie Tisch wish. He said Sabra patience is to restrain your soul from impatience

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and to restrain your mouth from complaining and to restrain your limbs from sins.

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So so that is something you do in your heart. You're composed, you don't rush for things to happen when they are supposed to happen when they are not supposed to happen. Number two patients is with your words.

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You don't complain of Allah to people. And number three patients is with your limbs, you carry out the obligations and you limit them you bind them you restrain them from haram. All of that is covered by patients. Patients therefore covers every aspect of life.

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What is life obligation, prohibition, cada decrees of Allah there's anything

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is anything outside of these three categories.

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And patients covers them all.

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They say patience is several idle more to be patient towards the commandments of Allah Subhana Allah Maha or to be patient towards the prohibitions of Allah. Number three or subdural Malcador patients towards the decrease of Allah, gender Jannatul that may affect you in your life. So Saba is an umbrella term that covers every aspect of human experience. This is a subject from a linguistic perspective and a technical perspective.

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Also, for those who want to compare Saudi against shock or gratitude patients versus gratitude, wherever you find patients you will usually find the topic of gratitude and where you see gratitude patients will follow.

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And even in the Quran, they are paired up a lot in the field and Nicola is equally so bearish. There are signs in this for every patient grateful person, they come side by side a lot. So there is this classical discussion which of the two is more virtuous patients are gratitude. So there are some of the scholars who have said

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that patience is more virtuous than gratitude and they say, I mean, it's a long discussion, I'm just summarizing it for you. They say that the Quran has spoken about patience far more than it has about gratitude. As Imam Muhammad said in 90 places in the Quran, Allah speaks about Southern

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and they also say that with gratitude, Allah has spoken about the reward as being what letting Shackleton as Eden come if you're grateful, I'll give you more. But then when he spoke about the reward for patients, what did he say? You were FASAB you're on the edge rhombi lady Hey, Sarah, they will be given their reward without measure.

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Limitless Allahu Akbar. So they say how can they be the same?

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Others of the scholars, they said no, no, they said gratitude is greater than, than patients. What was their argument?

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They say that Allah has divided humanity into two camps, the Shakir The Grateful one and the character the ungrateful one. So if they're careful, the ungrateful one is the most disliked of all people to Allah, who is the most beloved to him? The shock of the grateful one, so they say, How can you say it is?

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Patience is better. And they also say

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that with sober patients, it's a means it's our sealer. It's a means it's a stairway to something. Whereas gratitude is what

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is an end is an objective. Did you get that? So you don't search for patience in of itself.

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only search for patience as far as it will take you to a destination, which is gratitude, contentment, whatever it may be. So patience is a vehicle.

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Whereas gratitude is what? Destination. It's something that you want to achieve in of itself, or sugar.

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Then there is the third party.

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Right? These are the arbitrators.

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And they say,

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neither one of them has more virtue over the other.

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The most virtuous of the two people, the patient and the grateful is the one who has most taqwa, the one who was most conscious of Allah, that's what shareholders now entertain me. And even when I am and others have said,

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you may have someone who is poor, and he is patient, and therefore he is more virtuous in the eyes of Allah of someone who is rich and grateful. But the opposite is true. There may be someone who is rich and grateful, but he is more virtuous in Allah's eyes than someone who is poor and patient. So what is the defining factor? It's not that it's not gratitude or patience, they have no virtue in of themselves. The real virtue is in Taqwa. So the one who has most Taqwa consciousness, fear of Allah Almighty mindfulness of him, staying within his limits. This is the most virtuous of Allah, whether you call him patient or whether you call him grateful. Is this clear? In Chroma calm? And Allah He

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at Qualcomm, the most honorable one in the eyes of Allah. The most honorable one of you in the eyes of Allah is He Who has most Taqwa. Now, if you ask about the status of the topic of solder, or the status of the virtue of sub, and why is it important to mention this, although the topic seems standard, remember that the virtue of sub patients, it's not something that is publicly demonstrated, it's the opposite that's demonstrated in patients.

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I mean, patients is something that you do behind closed doors.

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It's not a virtue that will make you into a celebrity in the eyes of the people.

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Patience is something that a father does when he's reading his son that bedtime story for the third time in a row in one night. That's patients who sees that patients is in the mother who's rocking the court of her child all night who sees that supper. That's someone who prays, although he's really tired, someone who's fasting, no one knows that he's fasting, or She's fasting. That's where patience is. So no one celebrates that because you can't see it.

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Right? Who are the ones who grabbed the headlines? Who are the ones who have the most followers and socials? Not the impatient ones? The ones who are grumbling when there was a slow moving queue, the ones who were honking their car when, when there was a traffic jam, right, the ones who are demanding their food because it's cold, or it's there's their hair in it, or you know, it's taking so long or the food has come the impatient ones, they're the ones who usually grab the headlines, and that's why you got these epic films about, you know, revenge and COURAGING and might and all of it, but have you come across

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a film about patience?

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That's gonna be a bit of a snoozer, right? So it's not something that people celebrate.

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And that's why our religions have handled it takes a completely different perspective on the topic of cyber, and it brings it to the forefront and it makes it a crown on the head of the believer. And I will share the status of the topic of slavery in our religion under several headings. The first of them the emphasis of the Quran on the topic of patients, it is blindingly obvious for those of you who recite this book with contemplation that slumber has a special status in the eyes of the Sharia.

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Imam Muhammad Rahim Allah Allah He said, record Allahu sobre film Qurani fi design and obey. Allah has mentioned the topic of solder in the Quran in 90 different passages.

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And look at how Allah in the book connects the topic of patients to so many different things. It's inescapable, and to keep it appetizing for those who want to live a life of patients. At times the Quran

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connects patients to the love of Allah subhana wa Tada Allah Almighty said well Allah who you have no side Siberian Allah Allah loves those who are patient. Many times people crumbled during their adversity because they feel that they are lacking love. And here Allah the mighty saying, You don't have to worry about that because if you're a patient, I will be the one who will love you one more in life could you want.

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At times the Quran links patients to the Mariya the nearness or the togetherness with Allah subhanaw taala Allah said in Allah ma siberie a

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Why is with those who are patient again, people crumbled during tough times because they feel alone, deserted, no one is supporting no one believes in me, everyone's forsaken me. Allah says you don't have to worry I am with you. Now. In the law that's number two. Number three. At times the Quran links patients with a commandment.

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Allah said, philosophy really helped me rhombic

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be patient with the Command of your Lord as an instruction. At times, the Quran connects impatience with a prohibition. Allah said, voila, token castle. Hey, Bill out. Don't be like the man of the fish Prophet Yunus. Alehissalaam even known what was the issue there it was impatience. Don't be like the man of the fish. Allah said to His Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. At times the Quran connects patients to the greatest of all acts of worship Salah Allah Almighty said was there you know the summary was salah, seek help in patience. And in Salah. pause there for a moment Look, don't see patients as a added burden in your life. An added responsibility that's causing you

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a headache. No, you are being told to see patients as your life raft, as what will help you navigate through the difficulties of world what is a fire extinguisher when there is a fire in the building? It's your lifeline. What is your raft when you're drowning? It is your lifeline. So Allah He is saying to you use patients as a lifeline. Use it as a vehicle to help you maneuver during the tough times in your life. It is what will help you Salah and patients.

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At times the Quran connects patients with your ability to see the signs of Allah around you and spot them.

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And that's why Allah says in the Quran in a fee daddy cada tiene equaliser bearing chakra mood. There are signs in this for every patient and grateful person, who are the ones who will see the science, the patient ones.

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At times the Quran connects patients to success.

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Allah said is Miru patient

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will Saburo and endure what are beautiful and stand on God. What the hula hula Allah come to fly home and be mindful of Allah so that we may be successful things It links patients to success. At times the Quran links patients suburb with a reward to incentivize patients Allah said about a people will Iike you down with the Euro home Murata in email Sabado. They will be given their reward twice, double because of their patients.

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At times the Quran connects patients to leadership in the religion. Allah said what your honor I mean home in dunya dunya be a Marine Alan sabato. What Ken will be at now you will be known, we made of them leaders, guiding by Our command when they were patient, and when they had certainty in their signs. These are the ingredients for leadership, patience, and yeah clean certainty in Allah.

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At times Allah gender Giuliana who connects patients to victory, triumph over an enemy. Allah said about the children of Israel were 10 met Kalama tropical Hetzner Allah Danny sorrow Isla de Moussa Babu. The noble word of your nod was fulfilled for the children of Israel because of their patients. At times the Quran connects patients

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to Beshara good news, Allah said, well, Bashira slavery give good news to the patients patient wants. Look at the psychology of the book of Allah gender journey. I know many times when you go to someone who's grieving who's going through a tough time in their life, the knee jerk reaction is to kind of wait for them to cry for them, to sympathize with them to say to them things like I know how you're feeling. It must be tough. You're in a dark place. God help you I wouldn't want to be in your shoes. The Quranic narrative is completely different. It flips it over onto its head. It says no, give good news to those who are suffering. Give good news to those who are patient, keep them

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smiling. In fact, the word beshear give good news has a shared route with Beshear and bc it means a smiley face a radiant face. So make the one who is suffering smile go to those who need patients, make them smile, say Congratulations, you are suffering. Therefore you have been chosen by Allah Jalla Jalla Lu who look at the psychology of the Quran and how uplifting the book of Allah is in Allah. So look at how the Quran

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gives a huge attention

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to the topic of suburb and connects it to every one of the Dawn

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means of life. This is the first thing that makes the topic of cyber so noticeably important. The Quranic attention what it links it with

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number two

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sobre patience is the greatest gift that a human being can receive from Allahu Allahu Allah Allah.

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And that is why Anessa ina writes in his sunnah no new authority of Abu Salah ad laudry

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that a group of the unsavoury once came to the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa Salaam and they made financial requests he gave them, they made a second request he gave them and the third and he gave them then he had nothing left to give them. And then he said to them, Listen to these words. Now Iacono nd mean hiring felon era Juancho any good that I may possess, I'm not going to withhold it from you. And then he says to them, women, your staff if you I fell in love, but whoever seeks

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to not ask favors of people, Allah will help him reach that station. Woman yesterday, you only Hila and whoever wants financial independence, tries to get it love will give him financial independence. Then he said women yet as a man, you're so beautiful Allah and whoever seeks to become patient, Allah will help him become patient. And then he said listen to this, my dear brothers and sisters,

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one or two Yeah, I had an APA and higher on what I will say I'm in a suburb and no one can be given a gift that is better and more comprehensive than the gift of patients.

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So this is number two, there is no gift that is greater than that of sub patients. Number three

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sub patients enters with you into every one of the departments of life

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in the sense that there is a different Arabic word to describe patients according to your context, what you are doing.

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Allow me to demonstrate and you will see how mighty, this virtue is in the eyes of our Sharia.

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We said that patience is about what restraint plain. So when you are restraining yourself from excessive indulgence in worldly matters, that patience has a name.

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It's called Zoda and minimalism, special name for patients. When however your restraint is from a prohibited sexual appetite, that patients also has a name. It's called what I thought, chastity. When your restraint is from Rage, that patients also has a name. It's called Henneman. Forbearance when that restraint is from

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That patients is called dude, generosity.

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When that patience or that restraint is from food and drink, that patients has a name. It's called Psalm fasting

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when that restraint is from lumping your problems on other people and not dealing with it yourself, that patience is called a moral

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when that restraint is from behaving in a cowardly manner, that patience is called shujaa courage

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so on and so forth. So there is a different name for sub patients according to what it is in life that you are doing, patients will follow you and a different name applies and the umbrella term that covers all of it is called sub patients. So you see that all of them are come at the stations of their religion can be traced back to slavery, patience, luck.

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That's number one brothers.

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This is number three, we said number one, the Quranic attention on somebody is phenomenal licking it with so many things. Number two, it's the greatest gift a man could receive. Number three, it walks with you in every one of the domains of life. Number four,

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it is a way of triumph over your oppressor an enemy.

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Now don't get me wrong, this isn't our religion saying you got to behave in a passive way. No, you got to do what you got to do and you got to plan and take your means and measures. But as you do that, you are defined by what you are defined by patients and what is the outcome. The outcome is as described by Allah. In terms of scum Hassan don't assume if good touches you or believers it harms them.

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We're interested becomes a year doing a thorough hobby ha But when evil touches you, it makes your enemies happy. Then Allah said we're in hospital but if you have suffered a patient's water, and you're mindful of Allah Now Eurocom can do homeshare

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Yeah, they're scheming is not going to harm you. In Allah Habima Yama, Guna, Mohit and Allah is encompassing of what they do.

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So whether that enemy is an all out external enemy,

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whether it's someone claiming to be a Muslim, he or she are hypocrite, a hypocrite in reality or going against the Islamic course, or whether it's a Muslim, a real Muslim, but they're causing you harm and repressing you, and being a means of injustice, realize that with Sobor they're scheming will not harm you. This is the Promise of Allah agenda.

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That's number what?

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Four, number five. Those who are patient are promised by Allah and ability

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to see his signs in the universe, and not everybody enjoys the sixth sense.

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Whether the signs of Allah are within a class like this, people defer to what extent they benefit, whether the signs of Allah are during a moment when you're reciting the Quran. People differ in that experience. Whether those signs of Allah is during your study of science or history, the signs of Allah in their their histories of nations of the past, whether the signs of Allah are in the universe and you observing the world around you when walking through a park, your ability to take as much of the signs as you can and flourish and grow because of them is hinged on your southern patients.

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Allah that is why Elijah Janella who said and I'm Tara and full category Phil Ballymena, Matilda Healy, Uriah coming.

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Have you not seen how Allah allows the ships to sail along the oceans by his favor?

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So that he may show you from his signs.

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Then Allah says, in FE Dalek, Allah is technically saadani shanku. Indeed, there are signs in this for every patient and grateful person who will see the signs, the patient ones, it makes sense by the way, it's not random.

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One who is patient is limiting his limbs from doing haram. The one who is patient is forcing herself to wear the hijab. One who is patient is forcing himself or herself to pray to carry out the obligations that then purifies your heart. And with a pure heart, you're able to see the signs of Allah and your cognition opens up to new heights. Patients allows you to see the signs of Elijah legend.

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And I remember the ayah from Surah two Ibrahim, What is Allah say? Well look at the arson Musa. Tina we sent Moses with our signs. An accurate Omega mean Illuminati in a note saying to him go and bring out your community from the dark into the light.

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In Nephi Valley color it Luke who lives on burying shadow, there are signs in this for every patient and grateful person who will see the signs of Allah. The patient wants

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what else?

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The Quran does not specify a reward for patience. This is another one of its virtues that shows you it's standing in the religion as even would you say can be Rahim Allah He said kulula Hassan Atilla Ha hoo. Basil. Every good deed has a specified reward. Sometimes it's tenfold sometimes it's 700 volts. He said with the exception to with the exception to patients for inner hula hustle. There is no limit to the reward of patients because Allah said in the Quran in nama yoga for slab euro, euro home

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the patient wants will be given their reward without account without measure that

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and that is why Allah Almighty He said about fasting, what is fasting about patience?

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Allah Almighty said Kulu on led Adam Allahu in the song for in the holy well Anna, as up every one of the good deeds that you do. Allah says that will be for you. Except fasting that is for me, I will reward for it. I will reward it.

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Imagine someone who says I know a businessman or a king or somebody who has authority on the land. This person gives them their wage and this person pay them that much as for so and so. Don't pay him anything. I'm gonna take care of his reimbursement.

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You hear that? You think why don't you take care of my reimbursement as well? Right? That's mine. So Allah he's saying except fasting that is for me and I will reward for it. Why?

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Because fasting is about patients and Allah gives the reward of patients without measure.

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What else

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gives us this indication at first thing is that patience is a special virtue in our religion. There is no reward for patience except Jana.

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is the ultimate reward. And perhaps you've noticed in the Quran how many times paradise is linked to the topic of patience.

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In fact, Allah tells us what the angels will say to you and I in sha Allah, Allah, Allah Allah says Jana, what will the angel say? Well, Amanda Inca to do Hulu now lay him new coolibah Allah said angels will enter upon them from every door, what will they say? Salam Alikum Bhima Sabato,

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peace be upon you.

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Because of your patience, peace be upon you, because of your patience. According to the angels, the people of gender have made it there because of their patients. Allah Almighty said Sora to not be known in New Jersey to Homoeo, maybe Masaba who, under whom homophobia is on I have rewarded them on this day because of their patients, that they are the successful ones. And in Surah, two insane What does Allah say? What is their home be Moussa Babu? Jen attimo harira and he will reward them because of their patients, gardens and silk. And he will say to me, by the way, why gardens and silk for those who are patient, what's the link, it will Tamia he says it's very obvious. Patience is hot.

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Patients bonds patients is scorching is not easy. So Allah says We give you guidance you cooled off there.

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And then patients is cos it's rough.

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So Allah says We give you silk

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and we have rewarded them because of their patients gardens, and silk.

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Now of course, naturally, to unlock all of these bounties, these opportunities and gifts.

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We have to carry out proper solid, proper patients and that proper patients has conditions. So what are the conditions of patients?

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The first of them is Allah class. Sincerity. Meaning your patients has to be for the sake of Allah because it's true. You can be patient for other than Allah subhanaw taala that is possible. Patiently waiting for a haram business transaction to come through. He's patient, but it's not for Allah it's what he believes.

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Patiently waiting your shisha to be served to your table. Patient not complaining not going to pick up a fast enough to demand a refund. This is not for Allah.

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Patients, though, that people say you are a patient, showing off that's not for Allah, patiently waiting for how to respond to your DM.

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As patients, it's not for Allah. first condition is that the patient has to be for who when you're a bigger person that Allah said for your Lord, be patient. And he said when Lavina Sabado booty hall I want you here I'll be him and those who are patient seeking the face of the Lord, nobody else's face or acceptance. So let's condition number one patience for it to be true. It has to be for whose sake purely for Allah sake. Number two

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Adamo shack Wallah, he Elahi bad to not complain of Allah to people

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to not complain of Allah to people.

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Now focus with me here, brothers and sisters, we're talking about a condition, meaning if it's not there, the building is not there to not complain of Allah to people. I'm not talking about normal complaining when you're going through a tough time. I guess to some extent we all do that. But we very

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this is tough. I'm finding it hard. Suffering really hurts. It's been a while we do that. That's not what I'm speaking about. Although ideally, footnote Ideally, we should not complain of our problems to anyone but Allah, not even people, ideally speaking, if you can, and that's why I'm called when they Allah Almighty said the Prophet Yaqoob said for several Jimmy, I will show beautiful patients. What is the beautiful patients, the predecessors they said it means there is a patient that involves no complaining. So that's an ideal. What we are speaking about here, I eat a condition is when you don't complain of Allah to people, why is Allah doing this to me?

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For how much longer do I have to experience this?

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Doesn't he know that I can't bear this that is complaining of Allah to people. And that removes the building of patience.

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And that is why in a beautiful Hadith I think some of you will hear it for the first time

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which they have been arrayed on the authority of Al Hakim,

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which is by Hakuna rates and Al Hakim in his mustard rock on the authority of Abu Huraira.

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And the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said

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that Allah Almighty said either the delay to Aberdeen mean if I try on my believing service, I test him

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felonious Cooney. Illa Awadhi he and he does not complain of me to those who visit him when he's ill

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at luck to whom in SRE, I will release him from the shackles of that illness. Well Abdel to hola Hamanaka Iran Milla me hey you are them and Chiron Minh Dami he and I will replace his ill skin with new skin and his ill blood with new blood from myostatin you Philomel then he will begin afresh ie with nos into his name.

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But what was the condition?

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What was the condition for the full recovery and what was the condition for the erasure of sins? You do not complain of Allah to those who visit you.

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That's condition number what

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to what was condition number one? Last condition number two,

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not complain of Allah to two people condition number three, what is it and you're gonna feel Amani that your patience is at the appropriate time.

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Ie your patience is when the calamity first strikes, not 10 minutes later, after you've kept up a huge fuss and you've emptied the kitchen cupboards on everyone's head right. That was when the calamity first strikes. And that was why Allah tells us about the people of * when they roast What will they say when I as a biller, God forbid they will say so on Eileen Savarna Marlon, I mean Mackey's, it is the same for us now, whether we are impatient or patient there is no escape. In other words, there is no point in us being patient now, there is no escape.

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And Allah will say to them is slow Ha, enter the Hellfire first Bureau will be patient, I will let us Bureau Oh, don't be patient, Salah en Alikum it will be the same.

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The time for patients has gone now was just burning and suffering God forbid.

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So that's condition number three that a patient has to be when the time is right.

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And that's why in the hadith of Anis when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came across a woman who was in a graveyard crying over a grave, a child of hers that she lost.

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He said to her it tequila was very, he came up from behind and he said to her, be mindful of Allah be patient.

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She said la can you go away?

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In academic to sub be mostly but you will have daddy for you. You will not touched by my affliction. You don't know what I'm going through. She didn't know. He was a prophet Muhammad Xmas. And then behind him. He didn't respond. That is what I find fascinating here, by the way, he didn't respond. It's like he acknowledged that during a time of shock and adversity. Not everyone will behave the right way. When someone's going through an initial shock, don't expect everyone to be the well behaved Muslim that you know them to be expect erratic behavior. Understand that he did that. So she spoke in this disrespectful way. He didn't say to her, I am the messenger of God. No.

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He walked away.

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And somebody came to her and said that was the prophet Muhammad.

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So she got up. She made her way to his house. The narration said phenom tagit and they're home. But we're being she found that there were no gods guarding his house.

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And she came in and she said in the last RFQ I didn't know it was, you know, what did he say? In the massage room and the somatic odor. He said patience is when the calamity first drags.

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Not now, patience is when the calamity first wakes.

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So something frustrates you annoys you something doesn't go your way, a terrible diagnosis. You pick up a huge fuss and you destroy things you break and you smash and you swear.

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And then you say, Well, I guess I've got to be patient inshallah. Now the time is gone for patients. Now what you need is Toba, to say I stuck with you a lot. And then do your best. So these are the three conditions for patients.

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To share with you, one or two stories

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of the people have patience, because it always helps, doesn't it? When you hear of the stories of those before you it helps you walk in their in their footsteps.

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Who was more patient

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than the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu it was, who suffered more than him.

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Ever every shade of every trial of life was given to him so that Allah may give him every shade and color of pleasure in Jannah.

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Think about it.

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He came into a world without a father. He was an orphan. His dad died before he could even meet him.

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Then at the age of six, he saw his mother breathe her last in the deserts of Arabia. When they came back from a trip visiting his uncle's he saw her die

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Then he was transferred over to his grandfather's care. He loved him so much at the age of eight. Two years later, his grandfather dies.

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Then he is transferred into the care of his uncle Abu Talib.

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And he loves him so much. Yet Abu Talib does not become a Muslim and he sees him dying as well but this time without Islam

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and then he sees the death of his wife Khadija, and he sees the death of his wife, Zainab Tokushima. And he buries every single one of his children, they all die during his life. Mostly as toddlers, with the exception to Fatima, and even her he was told that you should tell her

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you will be the first one to die after me. And indeed she died six months after he passed away.

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And then Allah gave him grandchildren as a compensation, but his enjoyment would be limited there. Because he would receive information through a revelation that they are going to die a gruesome and cruel death. So he would kiss them and sniff them and carry them on the pulpit. And he knew that these are men are going to last till their full age

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and he would see his companions corpses carpeting the battlefield that's difficult for a human being.

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And the intestines of animals would be placed on his neck as he frustrated to Allah and Fatima would come and clear it and cry and make dua against those who live this.

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An oak bobbing lobby might would suffocate the Prophet alayhi salatu salam when he was in sunnah till his almost breathe in his last

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and he and his tribe were trapped in a valley and boycotted for about three years. And many companions died because of that, and he leaves his health deteriorated fatally because of that siege. How much can man take? Then he was accused with regards to his sanity accused with regards to his mind and were accused with regards to his health. He was accused of being a madman soothsayer, Bewitched, storyteller, poet, forging stories of the people of the past.

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Fornes would be placed in his way in front of his home.

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stones would be hurled at him when going to the city of LA if on His only crime was wanting to save them from *.

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hemorrhage would be something that he would experience on numerous occasions during battles, news was conveyed that he was killed on the day of Ohio. That's how badly he bled.

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And towards the end of his life, he had to pray sat down because his feet were too tired. They couldn't carry him anymore. allihies Salatu was Salam.

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Despite all of that, what were his favorite words?

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Your Jubilee fan?

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I love optimism.

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Look, I do have to figure one out you have What have you said?

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I was subjected to fear in the path of Allah at a time when nobody else was made to be afraid.

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When I thought it was easy to figure out who you are now you that I had. And I was harmed in the path of Allah at a time when nobody else was harmed.

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While at the gala yesterday, I mean being the Yeoman vallila And I remember a time in my life when 30 Days and nights passed by, were madly Wallaby learning ammonia, Kevin, and me and Bill had no food to eat

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Illa che on Yuri able to build except what little food bill was able to smuggle for us both and that is

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the most patient of all men was Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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Then when you speak about his Sahaba, it is simply impossible to enumerate the accounts of patients. Why? Because the Sahaba to describe them in one sentence were a generation who sold their lives, their property, their souls, their family, for the cause of Allah and the support of Islam. So all of it was a story of southern but if you wanted to summarize their patients in just one sentence, I give you the words of Abdullah Hebron or Mr. Hood who depicts it so graphically, yes, so beautifully, enormous od he said.

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The very first people to make their Islam public we're seven. No one dared to do that before them. Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Neves

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Abu Bakr a Sunday.

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Amar IGNOU Yasser, his mother Sumaiya so Hey, Rowley, a Rumi Bilal Ivanova Al Baghdadi. He said they were the first seven to dare to openly declare to them polytheist Meccans we are Muslims.

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Even the Messiah who then says, As for the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and Abu Bakr Fela now whom Allah whom He called me whom Allah Almighty protected them both by way of their tribes.

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All of that harm that I described to you that the prophets I send them went through that was with their protect

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of his tribe. So what about the other, the others who had no protection, who came from noble tribes, no noble triumphs. He said as from Abu Bakr and the Prophet i Li Li salatu salam, Allah protected them through their tribes as for the other five

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that are called the human mushy raccoon, the pagans sees them, while Bazoom Abdullah Al Hadid and they clothed them with iron cladding, also Hello home fish MC. And they scored them in the Arabian Desert Sun

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phenomenon I had on in our Java home Ilana Arado. And as a result of that duress, every one of them confessed and testified to the false beliefs of the payments. It was huge torture, he said in Lebanon except one man Bill.

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harlot Allah enough Sufi law.

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We learn, he said was a man who considered his soul cheap in the path of Allah wahana Allah call me he, and indeed he was cheap in the eyes of his community.

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And so they handed him over to the children of Makkah in chains, dragging him through the valleys of NACA, and the only thing Bilal was saying was a had a Had Allah is One lives one minute associate upon everything.

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The other story I wanted to share with you this is from the tagline

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the very famous story of Ottawa Ibanez obey the Son of a Zubaydah Will r1 who was promised paradise.

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Ottawa urbanist debate he's a second generation Muslim. I'm a hadith scholar of Hadith. A historian, one of the seven famous jurists of Medina, Ottawa, a very righteous worshiper and scholar of the religion.

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And he has a fascinating story pertaining to patients.

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Although I was traveling from Medina to Damascus, this is mentioned in almost all of our books of history.

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And during the journey, he began to experience a pain in his foot.

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And by the time he had reached Damascus, he discovered that it was an Aquila, and Akela means gangrene.

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And it was so severe by the time he reached the mesh of Damascus, that his entire foot was consumed by this disease. So he entered into the gathering of unbelievable Abdul Malik, who was the Khalifa of the time.

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And he said to him, I need you to see something and he showed him his leg. So the Khalifa Alwaleed he gathered his surgeons, his doctors to assess the situation. They said, this is Aloka This is gangrene, and it's a consensus needs to be amputated.

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So they brought the bizarre that's what the narration says, What is the Tsar,

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the butcher? Who else is going to amputate the leg? 1400 years ago, they brought in the butcher

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and they said to Ottawa,

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no speaker camera, we need to give you a drink of alcohol to knock you out. He said No, I will never drink something impermissible in search for wellbeing. If

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they said no sleek and malted we need to give you then something that will put you to sleep.

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He said I don't want a limb of mine to be taken away from me without me feeling the pain I want the reward to be falling.

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And as he was speaking, he saw a group of men coming into the room. He said Who are these people? They said these will be the people who will hold you down.

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He said to them insha Allah I don't think anybody will need to hold me down.

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And he began to praise Allah Subhana Allah Alhamdulillah Allah in Allah and the surgeon began

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and he took out the knife, and he began to cut through the skin, no anaesthetic, nothing, nothing to cut through the skin and to cut through the muscles to cut through the nerves to cut through the veins to he got to the bone, and he removes the knife and he brings out the sore he begins to cut through the bone until the bone until the foot is completely detached. And he has not uttered a single word or flinched.

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Then they bring a boiling vessel of oil

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to seal the wound. There's no other way to do it. And they did his leg inside of the oil and he passes out the pain is overwhelming.

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Moments later he wakes up and he finds himself wiping the sweat over his head. So grueling experience. And he opens his eyes and he sees the surgeons around him the butcher and they're carrying his foot.

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He said give me the foot please. So they gave Ottawa the foot and he kisses it.

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And he said, Emma whenever you have millennial

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I swear by the one who carried me all throughout my life on you

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Hola Hola. Moo, an email machine to be key Ilhan Omar. Never in my life did I use you to walk towards a sin.

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Then during the same journey, news was conveyed to Ottawa. They said to Him, we're we're really sorry, your younger son, who you left

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back home. He was in a nearby stable and the camel kicked him. He didn't make it, he died.

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He didn't utter a single word of discontentment

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all the way until he left Damascus. And he's now coming back to Medina. He got to an area called Ydl Cora.

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And he they heard him say the words of Prophet Musa. That's all he said. Lockard Latina, Amin Safina hada and Asaba. This journey of ours has been a difficult one. I didn't he made a DUA.

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He said, Oh Allah,

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I used to have seven children.

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You've left me now with six.

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And I used to have four limbs. And you've left me now with three

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for the inhibitor later

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for Lakota Hafeet, whether in Canada, for Canada outside. And so Oh Allah, if you've tested me in this way. And I remember that you've given me wellbeing for so many years. And if you've taken things away from me, You've left me with so much more luck.

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And I read another narration completing this one, it will help me can mentioned this in history. He says that there was a group of men who came from the tribe of ABS

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during the same time when this incident happened, and one of those men was blind. So actually the same Khalifa Ibn Abdul Malik sees the man who was blind in their midst. He says, What's your story? What happened to your eyes, he said, I was once in a valley

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tending to my property. And I looked around and I realized no one has more property and wealth than me.

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Then Subhan Allah assayed, meaning a torrent of rain came down from the valley, and it destroyed everything that night. All of my family were dead, and all of my livestock and all of my property was leveled to the ground. In one night. I was left with nothing but a camel and my youngest son.

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And I was attending to my camel trying to restrain it, but it was a stubborn camel. It ran away. I chased after the camel, and I heard my son screaming, I turned to my son and his head was inside of the mouth of a wolf.

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And he died. The wolf killed him. I turned to the camel kicked me straight in the face. And it burst both of my eyes.

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So in one night, I lost all of my money, all of my property, all of my family, and I was left nothing with a camel, but a camel and a child. And they were taken away from me as well.

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So unwell even Abdul Malik the Khalifa. He said to his people take this man to Ottawa, who's just lost his fight. Take this man to Ottawa so that he realizes that there are people who've suffered more than him alone.

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These were some of the stories of patients I wanted to share with you.

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And I wanted to also start the second part of this but I think we will stop here in the lie, Darla and the second part was about how to cultivate somebody how to cultivate patience.

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And this will we'll cover next week. And I believe this to be one of the most important sections of the entire series. So make sure you are there we're going to divide that session next week, inshallah into two parts into matters that you need to do and matters that we need to recall and remember, and I'm hopeful that if we act by this and by those points and we live by them within that data, you will see a paradigm shift in your ability to live upon a lifestyle of sober patients to Allah subhana wa salam ala Nabina Muhammad. We'll

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see you next week in Charlotte.

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