Treating the sadness, anxiety, and weariness of the heart

Ali Albarghouthi

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in Alhamdulillah Hina muda who want to stay you know when it's still futile when oh the villa he mean surely and fusina are see TR Marlena, me yeah he la HuFa la medulla Wilma usually Fela ha de la y shadow Allah EDA in LA Allahu Allahu la sharika one no Mohammed and Abdullah who also do sallallahu alayhi wa aalihi wa sahbihi wa salam, a MOBA in the Hyrule Hadith he Kitab Allah He to either well here on the head, you Mohammed in sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was Sharon OMO Remo had the third to her will coulomb ohada 13 vida que la vida it nada Allahu Allah, Allah that infinite.

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It is clear that one of the greatest Nemos that Allah could give a person is netmeds when Shira is sada.

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And that word insha Allah has southern Arabic means for the heart to expand, to be big to be open, so it's comfortable.

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So it can receive adversities and react to them in a noble,

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pleasing way.

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It can receive the truth and accept it and see falsehood and reject it.

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And Allah azza wa jal counts that as a blessing that he gave to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam when he said Allah Mishra halacha saw the rock did we not expand your heart for you? And again, expanding your heart is what making it comfortable filling it with iman with relief.

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And Musa alayhis salam before his mission to Pharaoh understood very well the importance of having such a heart so he said in the famous rubbish era, Lisa three. Yola expand my heart for me, because he knows very well and every prophet and the Messenger of Allah know very well that they cannot carry out any mission from Allah azza wa jal and face the tyranny and rejection of the disbelievers without having a heart that can tolerate all of that and be patient with it.

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And in fact, a Nemo of Allah azza wa jal for any human being is for the heart to be open so it and can accept Islam,

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from a unity law, who idea who he Ashraf's of the holy Islam, if Allah who wants to guide someone, he opens his heart to Islam. So you accept it, you like it, you want to practice it. And if there is difficulty with that obligation, you will endure it you will accept it.

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When my unit you live in La Jolla, JAL Satara, who the year can ha Raja and if Allah wants to misguide a person, he had jolly he makes his heart tight and constricted. So that there is no place for the truth in it, falsehood will find the place, but there is no place where the truth in it, he will hear it and reject it and run away from it. So it's an AMA from Allah azza wa jal.

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And of course, facing life's adversity could constrict and tighten your heart. And you could experience periods that could be short and long of distress and pain, anxiety, et cetera, et cetera, where the heart feels very tight, and you feel very sad and very depressed, whether you know the reason or not. And so in this hook, but we want to look at simple things that we can do to remove the restrictions, the tightness of the heart, and acquire a more expanding heart, a more comfortable heart.

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So the first thing to remember is that whenever you are facing tightness in your heart, tightness in your chest, you're sad, you're depressed, whatever it is that you're feeling. The first thing that God you want to run back to is the remembrance of Allah azza wa jal and

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one of the easiest things to do,

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just to move your tongue

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And to remember Allah azza wa jal

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and to move your tongue and ask Allah subhanho wa Taala for relief. And you find that the prophets of Allah Allah hemos Salatu was Salam.

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Whenever they faced hardship, what did they do? They immediately would go back to Allah azza wa jal and supplication. La ilaha illa Anta Subhana QCCA in new countrymen, Allah demean Yunus Allah He Salam said it, when he was in the belly of the whale, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that whenever you face hardship, you say that so whatever your hardship is, La ilaha illa Allah subhana get in new consuming of Bali mean and you also resort to is still far a stock fear Allah has stuck fear Allah has stuck fear Allah, because one of the things that we should know is that

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whenever we do something wrong, it leaves a stain.

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There's a stain on the heart. And there was a stain on the soul and have too many of those stains and they bring you down.

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You become to experience the discomfort, the sadness, the anxiety that the shaytaan brings. Now how do you clean your heart and soul

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immediately with this differ?

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A stuck federal law has stuck federal law has stuck federal law and you keep doing it not just 10 times or 20 times as many times as possible in a sitting 100 times as it were the prophets Allah Allahu Allah who was ill himself in a single setting, he would do it 100 times in the morning I had to die in the middle of the day 100 times before you go to bed. But to keep saying is too far, especially if you are experiencing that constriction in your heart, stuff your Allah stockfeed Allah stuff your Allah. And the more that you say, the better you that you will feel especially if your mind is attune with your tongue. Both of them are saying a stuck federal law. And if you're in a

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state where your mind cannot be controlled, but you can control your tongue, begin with the tongue alone, because your tongue if you consistently say a stuff for Allah will bring your mind back to Allah has xojo

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and you add to that

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Salah and cinema upon the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam especially on a day like this Friday

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and there is a Hadith word obey you have new capital the Allah who I know he came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he said All prophets of Allah, I have a special deal that I made.

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And I also include you in the DUA meaning Salam, Salam upon you, how much of that dua Should I give to you?

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Should I give the third? He says you can. And if you do more, it's better. He says, Should I do half of my draft for you? He says you can. And if you do more is better. He said, Should I do all of my draft for you meaning that particular two that he had at that particular part of the day? Should I give all of my dua to you? He said he then took for her Mac while you follow them book. He says then whatever is distressing, you will be taken care of and your sins will be forgiven.

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Again, whatever is distressing, you will be taken care of and Allah will forgive you a sin. So you saying sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allahumma salli wa salam ala Muhammad and saying a lot of it has that effect where Allah azza wa jal in addition to all the other blessings that Allah gives you, but in that particular part that we want to focus on today, Allah azza wa jal takes away, your distress slowly takes away your distress until you feel better. So the remembrance of Allah azza wa jal is one and do.

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And when we say do, we don't say a single

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or two times, but to continuously ask Allah azza wa jal for relief, and part of the dua of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allahumma India or the becoming an HMI will hasten to the end of the DUA your Allah I seek Your protection from him and hasn't from distress anxiety about the future and hasn't sadness about the past. So you make that dua if you're going through something at this moment, you make that your constant to Allahumma in O to becoming an HMI what hasn't. And there is another longer dua where the prophets Allah Allahu Allah He was in the morning he said, Allah humma in the abdomen no abdicate no ametek Nasi antibiotic and then he goes on as a Luca be policemen who

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are like us and maybe he enough sick then who then he goes on and touch adult Quran Arabi are called Beyond neurosurgery, Virgina, Hosni with the herba HMI and you can find that.

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Well, he is asking Allah azza wa jal he says here Allah I am your slave, son of your slave. I'm asking you by all of your names.

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that you make the Quran, the spring of my heart or the wild like water for my heart, which Allah Hosni Amin and the light for on my chest. And the removal of my anxiety and sadness is that Allah will take that away.

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And that also tells you in addition to that we should know this dua and repeated that the Quran is what the more that you read the Quran, the more that Allah has served, it will take your anxiety away. And in the beginning, when you open the most half, you'll be struggling, because in the first minute in the first five minutes, you may not feel a lot. But if you spend 20 minutes and half an hour, and you do that every day, you will see the result.

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Just like any medicine, it may take a little bit of time, but you will see the result. But we need to be consistent in reading the book of Allah azza wa jal add to this also.

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We can take that from that hadith him and Hassan

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as some of the scholars of Islam has said could call Ignacio MC be the child of today, not of yesterday or tomorrow.

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What they mean by that is that focus on today, not the sadness of the past and its regrets. And not about the anxiety of the future at what it may or may not bring.

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Focus on today and what you want to do today. So some of us are prisoners of our past. When you wake up in the morning, or you fail at something you remember all the problems of your past and you bring it to your present, as if your past dictates what are you going to be today.

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But the past is supposed to be in the past.

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Learn from it, fix whatever you can have it but then move on.

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And today is a new day. How do you know that Allah wants you to feel like that?

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It doesn't matter what happened yesterday, because today there are new obligations on you and me, right? There's a new salah, maybe I'm someone who neglected Salah in the past, but today I have a new obligation, which is a Salah and a new opportunity to repent and a new opportunity for a new opportunity for sadaqa. So when Allah gives you a day, he wants you to take advantage fully of that date, not to focus on what you did yesterday, fix, but focus on today.

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And not also to focus on what's going to happen tomorrow and worry about it. You can plan.

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But Don't be trapped by what if this doesn't happen? Or what if this other thing happens? What if the worst thing happens? And the worst thing may never happen? Or if it happens, and the shaytaan is relentless. The worst could happen. What do you say,

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in the illusory you saw in the middle of Sri usara. Whenever there is hardship, there is ease. Whenever there is hardship, there is ease and that is a promise coming to you from the Creator. It is the one who Allah has zoton who may decree that tomorrow could be for some of you difficult.

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He's also promising you that with that difficult comes ease.

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And with that difficulty comes patience that you do not possess today. But Allah will give it to you tomorrow when you need it. And tomorrow will also bring whenever you need advice for those around you, where they don't have what to tell you today. But tomorrow Allah will guide them to give you that advice.

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So don't worry about tomorrow plan. But don't worry about tomorrow because your worries could be baseless. And the shaitaan feeds it and makes you think the worst of Allah and yourself. And don't be trapped by yesterday and its failures. But say today Allah had given me an opportunity, do the best that you can do today. And for that you need to have a plan. What is it that you want to do? Go and sit idle, one of the greatest problems that allow the shaytaan to enter your brain and heart and whisper and make you sad and take you away from Allah zodion is when you don't have a plan and you sit idle.

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There's nothing in your life for that, oh dunya or the era but you just sitting

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whereas a wise person has a plan for his akhira and has a plan for his dunya today I will do 123 and four and if I finish something, I'll do another and when I finished the second thing I'll move into a third and I will not sit free without nothing to do and invite the whispers and the anxieties and the pain to enter my life no keep moving.

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And they say

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Hey Phil harati Baraka this Baraka in movement. See keep planning, if you religiously if you're inclined to do things religiously from when you finish reading the Quran, you move into Hadith from finishing the Hadith, you move into another lesson, then you take a bit of Halal entertainment, then you come back but there's always something that you're doing. If you're more inclined towards the dunya, then go to the dunya. And then study, work, plan, have hobbies, but have something to do and don't be a victim of your own whispers of your own doubts and of your own weaknesses. So you must have a plan. And for that also, you must be optimistic.

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Don't say I'll try and I will fail.

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On there is no use and trying.

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Why? Because Allah azza wa jal is there. And Allah listens to your DUA and Allah who rewards you for your effort, forget about the result. Allah rewards you for the effort.

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And Allah is there to renew your iman to renew your energy and as long as Allah is there and he can change everything, hope can never be extinguished.

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And as long as Allah can assist you, you should never feel weak.

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So again, your impressions of yourself, what you think of yourself, put that aside, and ask Allah azza wa jal to renew you as he renews every day. A whole new Holy hell that was the Pharaoh Lalibela confessed of you.

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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah Mohammed in while early he was so happy he was Salam is one of the early Muslims, he came to another and he saw it saw him sad.

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And he said, what is making you sad?

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And if you wish out, I will tell you, there's the question or is saying what is making you sad? And if you want, if you permit me, I'll tell you what is making you sad. He said, Tell me what is making me sad. He says you're worried about your kids. He says I'm surely worried about my kids and what will happen to them after my death. He said, I'll tell you something and keep it in mind in Kanto Lea de la he says if they are pleasing to Allah Awali to Allah, if they're pleasing to Allah, Allah, Allah will not abandon him.

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And if they are only displeasing to Allah meaning enemies to Allah azza wa jal, you need not worry about them.

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Well, you know, it's difficult for a parent at times to think like that. But the premise there is valid. The premise meaning that what is going to happen to my family to this and that after my death and the shaytaan will plan this counter by saying that if you leave them on the right path, don't worry about them.

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Allah azza wa jal will take care of them and they know their way to Allah.

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And if they are not,

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they're not you are not going to be more merciful to them and with them than Allah azza wa jal.

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You just do your part. And Allah Zota doesn't want you to worry about tomorrow. Well, I mean that but in fill out the Illa Allah Allah here is

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there is no living thing on this earth except Allah provides for it, you do not provide

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Allah azza wa jal is the provider.

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Now, another thing to keep in mind

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is to not look at the dunya with admiration.

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Meaning look the other way.

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Especially when you're online and social media.

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There are people who are showcasing their mansions, big homes, new cars, new food restaurants travels look the other way.

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Because the more that you look at these things, the more that you will disdain and dislike your own life, because you will see things that you don't have, and you will see things that you cannot have. Because not everybody is supposed to have everything. And when you see everything, you will wish for everything and you will regret your own life. We'll call Illuminati aka boss or a hookah Thora Mo. It says if you just don't restrain your eyes, you will be depressed because of it. So the prophets Allah Allah sent him says it has Allah may invoke. He says follow be eager. Hold on to what benefits you consider before looking at all of these things. Would looking at a mentioned benefit me with

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looking at somebody's latest travels or purchases benefit me? If you say yes

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justify that if you say no, why are you looking? Especially that it's making you sad and depressed? Look away. As you look away from the Haram catch yourself and say I'm not going to look at all of these things.

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And we also could add to this

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remembering the net most of Allah azza wa jal and not complaining so much all the time.

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There are some people whom Allah had given them Allah.

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And all of us had been given a lot by the by the Grace of Allah azza wa jal, but when he wakes up in the morning, what he sees is everything that's wrong.

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And so they begin to complain, this is not available, this is missing, this is expensive, my health, my this, my that.

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And so they bring themselves down and they bring everybody around them down. By that constant negative look that they have. Were as if they were to count the name of Allah azza wa jal upon them. They say, I don't have this, but look at how much I have.

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Look at my health, look at my kids, look at my house, look at how much my have and if you can see it, compare yourself to someone who has less, who is really struggling, and you discover the magnitude of Allah's Nima upon you and you will say Alhamdulillah and follow the model of Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam that would ever happen. He would say what and hamdulillah even when things are displeasing he will say Alhamdulillah here at Cooley, Han Alhamdulillah for all, whatever happens Alhamdulillah for all, whatever the condition is Alhamdulillah so accustom yourself to say something bad happened Alhamdulillah Allah Kula ha not to complain, not to curse not to be angry. And don't

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again, going back to the past, don't say, if I had done this and that I could have saved this and that I could have changed the outcome.

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He said, sal Allahu Allahu wa sallam tough to Who am Allah shaytaan This will open the handiwork of the shaytaan gives them access. If you say to yourself, or you say to other people, well, that was your fault, if you had, it would have been different. And how do you know that that's the case? If Allah azza wa jal and keep this in mind,

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if Allah azza wa jal had decreed that something had happened to you, you could not have done anything else to stop it.

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You follow me? You understand this, if Allah had decreed that something bad had happened to you, and he decreed it, because it happened, you could not have done anything to stop it. So you cannot go back and blame yourself for it. Or go back and blame somebody else for with Allah azza wa jal wanted it to happen this way. You can learn from it so that you don't repeat that in the future. But the past has already been decreed and that is the will of Allah azza wa jal so do not say

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I could have fixed it, I could have prevented it. I could have I could have Allah wanted it this way. And that relieves you that turmoil inside of you that says, It's my fault. It's my fault, I could have changed that I could have done better. Allah wants it this way. And the last thing that I will say insha Allah for today and there is more that can be said is, again follow the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam were used to smile a lot.

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He used to smile a lot.

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They say about himself a lot. He will send them one of the Sahaba motto only Electabuzz some whenever he sees me, he would smile.

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And he did that. So a lot. He was hitting them despite the weight of the world on his shoulders.

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He had family. There was death in the family. He had death. I mean death of the children death in the family, he had companions also who are dying, and non believers who are after him personally and after his companions, and he was running a state.

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So the amount of pressure on him salaallah Hottie who was hitting them was severe. None of us is carrying that weight on our shoulders. It he saw a lot he was in a mood smile.

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And why should you smile because even if you don't feel like it, smile, because it's sadaqa in the face of your spouse and children, it is sadaqa you don't want to bring them down.

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Sadaqa when you do that, the face of your neighbor, it's sadaqa and it's also uplifting. When they see you smiling, then things are not as bad because you have the ability to smile. And when you smile things also don't seem as bad.

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So rather than take all the negative and complain about it, smile, and remember that this is a signal from Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam So smile and say take it easy. Whatever is happening now it doesn't last this entire day.

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India doesn't lust and if you are patient for few minutes by the will of Allah azza wa jal, you will meet smiling angels.

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And when you meet Allah azza wa jal as befitting his Majesty Subhana wa Tada Allah will smile in your face as well.

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So smile

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it's difficult but it doesn't last it's difficult but it's not as big and it's difficult but Allah azza wa jal is there call on him on Allah as a judo can eliminate any difficulty so as a lot of but Al Amin or hamara Herminia are human we are a hate ya Allah take away at our sadness our distress our anxiety whatever is ailing and painting us era al al Amin yeah Allah You're bigger than our problems. So solve our problems for us. Yeah Allah you are bigger than our problems and our distress so take that away your hamara Hamid ya Allah you are greater than our problems and stronger than us. So give us the strength that we need and give us the patients that we need and to remove our pain

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and sadness and anxiety or herbal Alameen make us of those who remember you often who read the Quran every single day and make that easy for us. Yahama Rahimi, makers of those who engage in do frequently make us of those who smile and practice the Sunnah of their messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, make use of those who focus on their present and forget about the sadness of the past and the anxiety of the future. Fill our hearts with Eman fill our hearts with your love and love of your Prophet and the love for the believers and the love for what you love. Hola. Hola Tina for dunya hacer una era de hacer una Joaquina either Banagher Aloha my yarmulke Libyan Kulu with a bit Kulu

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