Ali Albarghouthi – This is Love #21 Love Others as You Love Yourself

Ali Albarghouthi
AI: Summary © The speakers emphasize the importance of being satisfied with one's social media presence and maintaining healthy relationships with family members. They stress the need for people to be mindful of the environment and not partner with a witness. The pandemic has impacted the media industry, including the shift from physical to virtual media and the number of media outlets reaching out to inform people. The speakers emphasize the need for people to be mindful of their behavior and acknowledge the negative consequences of social media.
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Slow and hungry low salatu salam ala Rasulillah. While early he was so happy he was salam.

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Allahumma alumna million fauna and fan of Mr. Olympia nos IDNA Illman or Bella al Amin. Aloma in Isla de Chirico. Ashok Rika was in a bad attic

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was Allah azza wa jal are hamara Amin to make us of those who seek what he loves.

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And that we love what he loves. Subhanahu wa Taala and we stay away from what he hates. We ask Allah azza wa jal to make our endeavors and efforts beneficial and blessed. May Allah azza wa jal bless this gathering and future gathering as an MC that for his sake subhanho wa taala. And allow us to say and speak sincerely and say what is beneficial and to absorb what benefits us be in the Lucha xojo. So we as we mentioned last week, that today we start the third section. And the third section was about loving creation. So the first one I bought, it was about loving Allah Subhana Allah to Allah then was about the loving of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. Then the third was about

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loving creation, and this is the first Hadith

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in that section. And as the first Hadith in this section, it is one of the most important one it's foundational, right foundational, because as you will see that, as you will see,

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that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as we've seen another Hadith he ties Eman to love and love to Iman and one this be so

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embedded in our minds and embedded on our hearts that when you think about Iman, you think about love,

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they almost become synonymous and you'll see in this hadith that they are really synonymous. So other headaches before testified to this fact. And this hadith testifies to this fact. And it's as something that is incredibly important when it comes to human human relationship, in particular, between the believers. So the Hadith here is where the prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam said whether the Neff CBD healer you mean what how to comb your hair belly or three Hema, your hipbone enough see him in Al hiree. And this love that belongs to

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Ghana a little bit more comprehensive.

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But the statement of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam here is, he swears in the beginning he says I swear by the one who has my soul in his hand. One of you does not have Iman until the love for the for the brother what they love for themselves.

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The good that they love for themselves. That's one narration and then the narration does not have Meenal Haiti. Now the narration says until the love for the brother with the love for themselves.

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the Prophet daddy is Salatu was Salam started this hadith, emphatically asserting it by what swearing by Allah azza wa jal

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without anyone asking him to swear.

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And the reason is to emphasize so that the listener understands how important what follows is

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by when you want to really stress something and no one had asked you to swear me they believe you. Metal Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam wants you to understand how significant it is that do you follow? What I'm going to tell you? Do you understand what I'm going to tell you so we're lucky enough CBD and again, it's not just simply you Allah He by the one who has my soul in his hand to emphasize complete submission to Allah. And that someone who swears like this will never lie against Allah as though to never add anything to it. He's most observant of Allah subhanho wa Taala because you understand my soul in his in his hand. If I say something to upset him, Allah could punish me

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immediately I'm under his total control. So do you believe me when I'm gonna say the following? We say yes. What is it that you will not have Iman until you love for your brother with your love for yourself? Or until your love for your brother the good

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that you love for yourself?

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So before we can explain or unpack this hadith

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let's understand a couple of things being the law as origin.

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If we love someone, we must love what they love. And we talked about this before, that it's natural. And it's even natural that if you love someone, you will tend to hate what upsets them or at least you stay away from it.

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So if we love Allah subhana who were to Allah because what is this love of creation based on? If you love Allah

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And you understand that Allah azza wa jal created all of this.

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Allah azza wa jal loves certain things, certain people certain acts, then you will naturally will start loving those people and those acts and those things that Allah has Zota loves you have to me the love of Allah azza wa jal is sincere and it's strong, it has to extend. So, we must love what Allah subhanho wa Taala loved.

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If he tells us that He loves something,

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and we love Him, then we have to love it.

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And if he tells us that he is behind something, he did something,

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then we are behind it.

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So, when we understand that Allah azza wa jal created all of this world,

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out of love.

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And if you go back way back, we explained why that's the case. That as Samoa toward

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the heavens and the earth,

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right, rain, cold, heat all of that Allah azza wa jal wanted it to happen the way that he intended. It's happening exactly as he wishes. Subhan Allah to Allah, and it happens because Allah azza wa jal loves it to happen and to be in that state. So when you understand that Allah has Zota loves His creation, and Allah azza wa jal loves the believers and Allah azza wa jal loves that people be guided, then all of these things will be beloved to you. You cannot detach yourself if you truly love Allah, from what Allah loves. And from pursuing what Allah subhanho wa Taala loves and making it a reality in life, and also in the next life. It has to be and your love or your compassion will

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even extend to the sinners, to those who disobey Allah azza wa jal, so I said, compassion, to understand to underline the fact that you're not going to approve of their sin, approve of their disobedience, because when you look at it from that angle, they're upsetting Allah azza wa jal, and they're going against his commands. But you couldn't look at it from another angle, that this is part of Allah's creation. And he did not create them to be tormented in hellfire. He did not create them so that the shaytaan should have power over them, that they are most unfortunate when they go against Allah subhanho wa taala. When you look at it from that angle, you will start have sorrow and

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pity and compassion for them. And that will be the motivation for you to make Dawa and to try to save them and make dua for them.

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So call the Bible Psalm 18. And as soon as it's reported in January alumi will Hickam some of the pious from the self have said alone Maha Betula he and others will be no Rila he will author for Allah Allah Maha Silla, he he says the people who love Allah subhanho wa Taala they view they see with the light of Allah subhanho wa Taala and they have compassion over the people of sin. Maka to Amala home water for him they hate what they do but they can't feel sorry for them. They feel compassion for them leaves you know humble my wily unfairly him watch for what I've done him in a not. So he says they have compassion for them. They feel sorry for them because they want to remove

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them with admonition with advice from what they are doing. And they fear for them that they be tormented in hellfire, that the bodies that these bodies that cannot handle hellfire. They fear for them that they should be tormented in hellfire. So they are motivated by compassion, by even we can say love

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to look at those who disobey Allah azza wa jal and they say I want to save them. They shouldn't be in hellfire. They shouldn't be a IVIG victims of the shaytaan they shouldn't be let to themselves into their own whispers into their own weaknesses. I want to save them. So yes, they are upsetting to Allah azza wa jal, and that is something that upsets you.

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But at the same time, does it benefit you if they spent

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eternity? Or an hour or a month in hellfire?

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Or does it help you if you could save them?

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Save them them comes out of compassion. Saving them comes out of caring for Allah's creation, saving them comes out of loving Allah's creation and wanting the best for it so even environmentally,

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You should care for Allah's creation. Because Allah azza wa jal has created this water pure

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as graded the land fertile and pure

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And he wants it to continue to be beneficial to humanity. Would you pollute it? Would you damage it?

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Think about it Allah azza wa jal loves it to be like that. loves that people will drink pure water, eat healthy food. Would you go and contaminate it because if you do this, you'd be going against the will of Allah azza wa jal and you would not be operating based on love,

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but disregard to other people around you and disregard for the creation of Allah azza wa jal, even the care of animals, Allah Zota did He create animals to be tormented and punished and mistreated?

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Right? And he There was once

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the Sahaba

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and on a trip of theirs, they camped and they found a nest and they found in the nest, some Chiclets, some small birds, baby birds.

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And so they took them.

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And so the mother came and it was flying around the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam.

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So he said, man, for Jah, the viola dia, he says, Who has caused distress to this bird and took her children. They see we did oh prophet of Allah says return the children. That baby bird stir. Right? So you're not supposed as a human being, but more so as a believer, more so as a person who loves Allah azza wa jal to cause damage to the creation of Allah azza wa jal, an act against the commands of Allah and the intent of him subhanho wa taala. So here, there is a precious precedence, there is a justification for you to look at the sinner in two ways. On the one hand, you disobeyed Allah azza wa jal, and that is heinous, an awful stop, you're causing much harm to yourself and people around

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you. But at the same time, there also needs to be the other look, the look of compassion, and the look of care for Allah's creation.

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love is incomplete without Iman.

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An email is incomplete without love.

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So contemplate those two sentences. Iman, is incomplete without love. That's what the hadith is telling us.

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And we're gonna come to that. But what I want to say is that love itself is incomplete without Iman.

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Why so? Because love if you think about it is not on its own. A virtuous force on its own is not a force for good.

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Neither is neither it is a force for evil.

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It's what

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neutral based on what you do with it.

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Now of course in popular culture, love is what

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an absolute good if you love then that breaks all barriers. Follow it follow what you desire, follow what you love, love justifies what you love.

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But at the same time, if you look at it objectively,

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okay? Is love always good?

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No, obviously not. So you know about crimes of passion.

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When someone loves someone so much that they end up what harming them or even killing them.

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That's love, right? And then somebody may come and argue and say no, no, no, I That's not love really that precept that is possessiveness, that is selfishness. Love is not selfish, love is not this love is not that is this. This is the way that huge you are choosing to define love. But love in itself, can lead you astray to the anger of Allah azza wa jal to commit a crime. Allah as Buddha said, in the ayah, that we talked about before, will mean a Nassima yet definitely don't mean do any law here he and your buena whom could have been, there are those who will take besides Allah azza wa jal rivals that they love as they love Allah. So Allah called it word love.

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That's Allah is definition they love, but they love what rivals and idols and they associate them with Allah azza wa jal. So is this a permissible beneficial love? We know

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so we love them without a guide

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could be destructive. What Eman does is that it protects love from misdirection and exaggeration from loving the wrong thing, or rather loving the right thing the wrong way.

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These are

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Different right? You could love the wrong thing.

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So a man comes and tells you don't you can't love this. It's haram look the other way.

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Or a man comes and tells you Yeah, you loving the right thing. But the wrong way, that is way too much. Way too little. You can express it this way you can feel about it that way. So ima needs to correct love. So Allah azza wa jal, the prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam, tell us what to love what not to love and how much we love and also Eman what it does, how it helps and benefits our love is that it elevates it.

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Because on your own and on my own we love for our own sake. Typically, I love what helps me what benefits me what agrees with me, right? So my love is limited to what to me.

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Or if you want to be philosophical, you could be philosophical. But the problem with philosophy it is very abstract and theoretical. It fails to connect with your heart or or the masses. That's why philosophy and the philosophers it remains an academic project. It doesn't really produce something in reality.

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But what Iman does is that it elevates love it makes it a religious duty, a mission

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because the hadith is telling you what you're not gonna have Iman until you love right? Until you love for your brother what you love for yourself. So it's asking you to do what if you want a man you need to have what?

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Love right. So here the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam is making it a religious mission for you to love.

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So this is how Iman elevates love. But making it an obligation on every person, not just simply to love what suits you what agrees with you, your own selfish desires. Know now Your love is based on someone who is much higher than you, which is Allah azza wa jal who directs it and tells you love this love that expand the circle of love, beyond your own immediate interest and gratification.

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So you would love someone who have you've never seen in your life you will never see in your life, who will never help you will never benefit you but you will love that person for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala that's an elevation of love with that circle expands until it covers the entire globe.

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And people who have lived in the past.

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We don't know about who's going to live in the future. So people who lived in the past and people who are living today. So one Hadith on the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam is kind of how it is a religious duty, it just reinforces what we were talking about. He said Alia Salatu was Salam in Muslim and Muslim women and Mao Rafi sit. He says a Muslim was another Muslim sit as act six acts of righteousness or a kindness or piety that when you meet him you say Salaam.

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So you see the bond that is being created, and that Allah has devoted his making it to what a religious obligation is not whether you feel like it or not. This is how Allah azza wa jal has been doing love between the believers and we're gonna be talking about salaam later on in sha Allah but when you meet him you say salaam to him and when he sneezes you say you have hammock Allah well yeah oh who either married when they are sick you visit them were Ujima who either die when you he invites you you answer that invitation.

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While your head who either to fee will follow his funeral when he dies while your hip hula hula your hip will enough see Hawaiians the Hula, hula Belhaj and he loves for him what he loves for himself, and he is sincere when he is absent or he gives him advice. He and Sahil could be he is sincere, or he gives him advice or desires the best for him in their absence.

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So even when he's not here, I wish him the best.

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But here you see how Allah subhanho wa Taala had tied you to other Muslims and to other believers with a bond that makes you obligated to love them and they are obligated to love you.

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And if that's not the case, what if I fail to do this?

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What if I fail to do this, though? You mean what does that mean that I don't have a man if this does not happen? It means that your obligatory Eman al Eman will worship is deficient.

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That it is an obligation on every individual male or female that they should love for other Muslims what they love for themselves and obligation

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for it

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because they said that the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam would not negate an Iman like that unless what you are leaving out is an obligation.

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There's a recommended station we'll come to it. But as an obligation.

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If, if you and I, we don't have this. And when we meet Allah azza wa jal, we will meet him lacking,

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we have not done what we're supposed to do.

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So that means that a person who fears Allah Who loves Allah subhanho, wa taala, they understand that I need to push myself as much as I can to fulfill that hadith. If not, then I'm missing something from my email, and then my email is weak, I need to work on my email.

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And, though the good thing also, that's a good behavioral, psychological, I guess psychological behavioral point to keep in mind is that the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam does not make this conditional upon how they react to you,

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and how they are with you. Right? So you must love for them what you love for yourself, even if they have not reached that state.

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Right, even if they have not reached that state. So you're not going to say, I'm not going to say salam to this person. Because when I see them, they never say salam first, I'm the only first person who says salah,

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no, you see salon to them first. He actually you've won, if you've done that you've gained Allah's favor and rewards from him subhanaw taala when you do this, but you don't wait until they do good for you to do good. Because if you do that, then no one does it.

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There has to be someone who's going to start. So if I don't say salam because they don't say salaam, I don't visit them, because they don't visit me. I don't ask about them when they're sick, because they don't ask about me. I don't attend their funeral because they did not attend somebody else's funeral. And I don't wish their best because they don't wish me the best. And what kind of society do you live in? And what kind of brotherhood Do you have? And what kind of Eman can we be proud of when we say we are believers? Now it's a deficient type of email, you don't have email.

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And it's also good to keep in mind

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the dichotomy that sometimes exists between rituals without kindness, social kindness, and then social kindness, or sensitivity to people or volunteerism, versus rituals, right. So somebody could, let's say, point to an extreme, somebody is great with their salah, great with their CEM great with their Quran. Terrible with people.

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That's an extreme.

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Okay, so that person is missing something. Right?

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The other the other extreme, someone who's great with people, that is they volunteer, they're activists, they champion the week, they march, they do this, and they do that. Right? So that they have this heightened awareness of Muslims suffering, heightened awareness of Muslim need of fighting for Muslim Rights and all of these things. So they're great on this level. And I'm not saying I agree with all the things I mentioned, I'm just saying that that is an example. So they do all of this, right? But when it comes to their salah,

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slacking, it comes to their cm slacking, and it's come to their hijab, slacking comes to other points of Dakhla. It's lacking. That's another extreme.

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Not until you have both none until you have the basic a battle Allah xojo The obligations fulfilled and you take that seriously. But you don't stop there. Because if you stop there, then what?

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What is the consequence of that when you meet other people?

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Right. So that there's a Hadith of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam that said, an era so the lie there is a woman who fasts during the day prays at night, but in the morning, when she wakes up, she hurts her neighbors, and she insults them and this and that, he says she's in hellfire.

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It doesn't mean that you should stop fasting and stop praying. It means that you have in a sense and validated all the good that you're doing by all the other evil that you accumulate. And he says there's another woman or prophet of Allah, who kind of does the obligations of Salah it's not extra, and the obligations of fasting that is extra, not nothing extra. But she's nice to everybody around her. He says she's in heaven. So as to understand the importance of loving for others what you love for yourself acting like that. Right? So if you want somebody to be kind to you,

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to smile in your face to ask about you, then you have to be that person, to him and to her. So if

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You're not, then how could you expect it? How could you complain about it when you don't get it? So you have to be the person who initiates if you recognize the need, you have to be the person who initiates otherwise you will not receive it. Okay. So is it possible? So is it possible to love for others? Would we love for ourselves? Because that's the question that you have to ask, is this even possible? Because you have two things here to have that you have to keep in mind. One is, we really love ourselves, isn't it?

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Can you stop thinking about yourself?

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No, really? Can you You're always thinking about, I'm tired and weak, I need to eat, I need to sleep. We're always thinking about ourselves. And we're always thinking about our needs. So that's kind of the mighty mightiest, strongest love that we have in our lives. And if we're talking about creation, right? So that add to it, we're always competing in this dunya to get more of it, because the resources in this world are limited. And then when a position is advertised, and you apply how many positions are available anyway, he's competing with everybody else, hundreds of people might be applying for the same position. So you want it for yourself. And each person wants it for

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themselves. You want to get married. Okay, and how many eligible bachelors bachelors are available? So I mean, you want something for yourself before you want it for others. So we're always competing with very limited resources on this earth. So how is it then possible that the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam is asking us to love for others what you'd love for yourself? How is that possible? We say it begins.

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by deconstructing the world that is around you, by loving Allah has.

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That's the first step. Because if I ask you, if anyone asks me just to do it, telling me that's impossible. But if you begin with loving Allah subhanho wa taala, then everything else becomes possible because the love of Allah makes this possible. Because we said, loving them is an extension of loving Allah subhanho wa taala. So when you start to love Allah, what do you do?

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You start to engage in a battle, right? You start to read the Quran, you start to pray more, you start to make dua, you start to have more dhikr of Allah subhanaw taala what does that do?

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What does that do to you?

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It populates your time with what?

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Something else other than yourself.

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You start thinking about him

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and the next life, you start thinking about nobler character,

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better attributes other than competition, and selfishness, and the ego and envy,

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you realize that these things are wrong and caustic, destructive, because you see it in the Quran being condemned, you see it condemned in the Hadith. So you start then to rot trying to purify yourself of these things. So rather than making yourself the center,

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you start making Allah azza wa jal, the center so I'm not only going to be thinking about myself, but thinking about Allah. I can sacrifice for him. Envy.

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Then you will say to yourself, why should I be envious? If this is Allah's decree? Allah gave him right. But he knew give that to me.

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But don't I also believe that Allah is wise and generous? And that Allah azza wa jal gives what he gives, and he knows what he gives to whom He gives it.

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Should I not submit and surrender to the will of Allah has Zoda not to my own desire?

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So this Quran, this sunnah this libera disciplines the self, so that it

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releases its own

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weaknesses, focuses

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and his focus becomes Allah subhanho wa taala.

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And the dunya, the more that you do this shrinks.

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Because the Akela is more important.

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So even if you lose this, do you have something that Allah will give you either in the dunya are the next life, even if you lose all of this life, Allah has something for you that is better than all of this life. So the dunya shrinks and shrinks and shrinks. And you find Allah azza wa jal telling you if you want to compete compete for the hereafter, and he find the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa salaam telling you don't compete for the dunya so all of these restraints, all of these modifications to the way that we think and see the world around us and to how we behave.

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To make it impossible to love the dunya less

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and the half year or more, and to love your brother more and to be less focused on yourself

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nothing in the Quran nothing in the Sunnah is going to ask you to stop loving yourself.

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Because in the Hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, What? Until you love for them what you love for yourself.

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So he didn't negate the fact that you're loving things for yourself, right? He's still loving things for yourself. But he was he was saying that you also love it for them.

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Now, if the dunya is very small, and insignificant, if you know that Allah azza wa jal created this human, he gave him Iman and Allah Allah loves this person because they have Iman and Allah loves that they will be blessed, loves that they will be free of harm, loves that they would be married loves that they would have kids love they would they have this this this would you not love it for them?

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Right or wrong? You would love all of these things for them. We say why? Because Allah subhana wa Taala loves that for them. Why should I oppose him?

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Because this is Allah's love. So you love these things for them. And you start wishing for them, what you wish for yourself. If what if you want to be happy you say I want everybody whom Allah loves to be happy. You want kids I want everybody to have kids. You want to be rich, or at least sufficient. Not in need is it I want everybody to be like that. You want to be free of trouble. I want everybody to be like that.

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So that is how you inch closer and closer towards loving for people, what you love for yourself.

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You believe that Allah subhanho wa Taala

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on whom He loves, and whom he doesn't love, the dunya is insignificant.

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But that if Allah azza wa jal takes something away from you, and He gives it to somebody else.

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Or you notice the discrepancy between what you have and what they have.

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You will say to yourself, no matter Allah azza wa jal can give me and Allah azza wa jal will reward me for my patients. I don't hate what they have. May Allah bless it for them?

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May Allah give them even more? And when you do that, you've conquered envy.

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And there is no one who is more troubled

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than the envious

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it's like a fire burning insight. Oh, is it that they have an I don't, you will always be troubled by that thought until you say I'm happy with Allah's decree.

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Let Allah give them whatever he gives to them, because I believe that when he gives it to them, He gives it because they can handle it. It works for them, but it may not work for me. But if you ask Allah azza wa jal, he'll give you something of equal value or better. And if you are patient, Allah subhanho wa Taala will give you something much, much better in the hereafter. Right?

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So you want to trust Allah subhanho wa Taala you want to go with his decree go with his with his will, and see things the way that Allah sees them, not the way that you see him.

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The way that Allah sees them something and this dunya is not worth you being angry over envious for selfish because because all of it is going to go away.

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And what is amazing here is that

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the unser

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as Allah azza wa jal tells us in the in the Quran,

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the unsorted have risen to a rank higher than that.

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And the rank of the answer is that they loved for the mohajir even

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more than they would they loved for themselves.

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Right? So it's Allah azza wa jal says, What are you doing official duty him hydrator Mima Otto. He says on the harbor no desire in their hearts for what has been given to them Oh hygiene while you through now Allah and fusi him well, how can I be him? Kasasa and they prefer them over themselves even if they were in need.

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But the answer had reached a level where they understood and they knew that the immigrants and who had your own were better than them.

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So if they were favored religiously,

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or in worldly terms, he said they had no envy towards them.

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Do you understand right even in religious terms, or they're better than you because they accepted Islam before you.

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They accept that because that is the result of some

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Mission to Allah azza wa jal and realizing Israel and not going against it. Allah destined that they would accept Islam first, Allah destined that they would have so much good in them, why would I hate them for that?

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Why would I hate someone whom Allah loves? How could I justify that? Right? How could they justify hating someone or something that Allah loves? So they say what would they have no envy in their hearts towards what Allah had given the MO hydrocodone, and they favor them over themselves, even if they were in need.

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So here, it's not like I'm gonna break the bread in half, half of you and half for me, no, all of it for you, or most of it for you. So the favor them over themselves. Now that rank favoring others over yourself is not an obligation, it's a recommended drink, but loving for them what you love for yourself is an obligation.

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now, we talked about that.

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And let me give you a few examples here.

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Some Hadith some examples of how this could happen. And when it happens, what happens right the consequence. So this is on page 255.

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So Muhammad Nawaz it was selling a donkey of his in the market.

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And so men came and asked him, he says, Yeah, Abdullah, yeah, about Abdullah he I thought, Whoa, holy, it says, oh, Abu Abdullah, would you be happy with that for me? You would you be satisfied with that for me? So he said, If I were satisfied with it, I would not sell it.

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Right. In other in other sense he's selling is this good enough for me?

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Is this good enough?

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To buy? So he's telling me if this was good enough, would I be selling it?

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That's the advice that comes out of a person who loves for the other what they love for themselves, because he could see yourself

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as no one was making that purchase.

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Imagine how many times have you made a purchase and you would just wished for the one that seller to be honest with you. Just tell me really tell me what's right. And what's wrong with this. I don't have to guess. But if you assume that the one who is buying if you're the seller, if the one who's buying is you. You could see yourself as them naked, be honest with them. And then you would tell them, This is what this is the flaw This is the defect this is what is wrong. This is what am I not selling at such and such a price? I'm not going to lie to you. Because this is what I would do. I what I would want if I was the buyer, and this is the command of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam

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I should love for you what I love for myself.

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So when you sell when you advertise when you give advice, you imagine yourself as the receiver of that benefit, or that merchandise. How would you react?

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It's only if you fear Allah azza wa jal and love Him and love them. Would you act? How Allah azza wa jal wants it.

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There's a Hadith of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam or he said on DOMA to help women and Nursia year to K if Allah will be him? Well, Margarita Yeah, to a to who Leakey further home Minho, he consider what you love that people will do to you, and do so to them.

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Look at what you would love people to do to you, and do that to them. And consider what you hate that they will do to you. And do not do that to them.

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Is there's something simpler than that.

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You don't want to be treated like that. You don't want people to talk to you like that. You don't want people to suspect you. You don't want people not to forgive you. You don't want people to stop visiting you. You don't want people to do whatever that thing is that you're about to do. Just switch and consider yourself to be the recipient of what you're going to do. Would you like that for yourself?

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If you say I don't think so. This is why are you doing it?

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Is there a better way? Is there a better action a better word that you could use. So if you love for them, what you love for yourself, a lot of our character will change.

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And he says so you hate something, don't do it to other people. You love something then do it to other people. As simple as that.

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And what Subhanallah you know, you see how arguments, especially on social media, I mean, I can't blame non Muslims,

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but when between Muslims, how it quickly devolves into accusations and suspicions and name calling and assigning him to a group and cursing him and doing in that dissent that how it quickly devolves so if a person has an argument with another

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Do you launch into an ad hominem attack?

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If I hate your argument, then I attack you.

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I attack where you come from, I attack your accent, I attack your color, I attack whatever, I attack you.

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Or I start throwing insults at you.

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Or guessing

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that you must have ulterior motives for this without evidence. Or, or and you see how it degenerates

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for you? Would you like someone doing that to you? If they disagree with you, they just insult you. What does that have to do with the argument anyway?

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Right, focus on the argument. Does it matter? My height, my weight, my color? Where I come from? Do your suspicions matter if you have no evidence?

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Does my country matter?

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But we Subhanallah we grew people, oh, you're from that country. You are this and you're this and you're that?

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So if you don't want to be treated like that, don't treat people like that.

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And if you want the discourse to be elevated, right, he can base it on suspicion, we can base it on doubt on whispers of the shape fun, it must be this our name calling. And so we're assigning people to a group or then you belong to that group and they have not

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declared membership in that group but you assign it to them. Oh, that is not loving from people that you love for yourself.

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Even though I bet some of the Allahu Anhu you said in you that are more watered it mean kita Binda if I would do a NASA cooler Homi Ala Moana minha alum, it bloggers says said

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the Allahu anhu, I would read an i in the book of Allah azza wa jal, and I would wish that everybody knows about it, what I know

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to where does that come from, except the love that He has for everybody that they would know the truth.

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And without seeking privilege, he's not seeking privilege or any rewards for that. I just want everybody to know this. And it's Jeffery Rahimullah are the annual, he says something similar, but he has a little bit to it. He says, What do you do and the nurses who have the lane or whatever you'd say I am and who che, I wish that people have learned this that I know. And none of that would be attributed to me.

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Because he amazing that is, because when you have knowledge, you want to be known for that knowledge, right? You want to be famous for it, you want to you want to be you want to hear that, so and so said,

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So and so wrote, so there is this

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fame, there is this power that comes with knowledge, knowledge is power.

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But when he is saying I wish that they would know all of this,

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that comes out.

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Because the more that you know, the more that you will love him subhanho wa taala. But then what is this part about? And none of that will be attributed to me.

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Because then I'm not seeking anything back from it. I don't want their praise, I don't want the recognition. I don't want their gifts and wonder celebration. I don't want them name. I don't want the memory. I don't want none of it. And that is a person who truly surrenders to Allah subhana wa Taala and wants to do Allah's Will that his own, wants to love for Allah's sake, not Islam.

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So, in a sense, his self, in a sense, not completely, not entirely good never happened. But in a sense, the self has evaporated.

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And what has remained is what he looks and he sees through Allah azza wa jal what is it that Allah loves I will love it, what is it the light I will hate? And what is it that Allah wants me to do? I'll do it. What is it that Allah wants me not to do then I won't do it. So he's not moving by himself and for himself. He eradicates as much as possible selfishness,

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self obsession,

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and it becomes for Allah sake. Right? Then when the dunya does not matter to you, you could look at people and you say, I wish that they would have the same that I have the same knowledge because no competition here.

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What does it take away from me when they know exactly what I know? And are seeking any position? Heaven is not small. All of us could occupy the same rank in heaven right? They're not taking any any part or any spot in heaven from me.

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It's big enough for all of us. So big when they

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dunya is very small there is no rule no need to compete. You say okay what about when it comes to the dunya so applying for a position applying applying for this applying for that, how can I wish for them what I love for my what I wish for myself love for them what I love for myself, you say you wish that they will be as blessed as you are? They would they would get the same opportunities as you do, that Allah azza wa jal will give them as much as you wish for yourself. And when you do this, you no longer have to worry about greed. Because Allah has often has enough to supply and to give everybody all right.

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Maybe the last thing that we will mention shall what what's available now this is on page 257.

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He says when he wanted to break his fast, he would say to his some of his brothers around him who understand that he is fasting. He says Africa Yama and outta Marathi in Ottawa, they Hindi Hakuna gadroon with tragedy, he says give me some of the water that you have or some of the dates that you have. So I would break my fast eating them so that you'd have a reward equal to mine.

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Okay, so you understand what he's doing here, right?

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So a person could say to themselves, wait a second, you mean that I fasted the whole day, a hot day. And this person who didn't even have the thought of having that reward, I remind him, and I tell him, Give me some water give me some days. So you'd have an award equal to mine. So he gets it that easy. And I'm the one who slaved the whole day just sparely so I can finish mine,

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fast, and he just gets it as much as I do.

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Because there's no competition.

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You want to save him, you want him to be blessed Do you want to give them and by the way it doesn't, it takes a while for a person to understand this. It doesn't take anything away from you when you do this. It's not like money, when I give you some money, I have less, right. But if I share these Hessonite with you do I have less you actually end up having more because you've done this because then then you have the reward of so

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I want you to have equal rewards to me then that is so

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this is a good gesture. This is a good EMA and this is a good feeling to have. So you never have less when you wish for them what you wish for yourself, when you love for them what you love for yourself, you have even more. So that's more of an incentive.

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More of an incentive to love for people what you love for yourself. Because Allah subhana wa Taala promises you that when you do this, he'll give you a much more than if you're greedy. And if you're selfish, if you give them the dunya you're worried about the dunya here's the dunya and Allah azza wa jal gives you more of the dunya that you can, yeah, that you could ever dream.

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You're worried about the dunya give it to the people who are running after it. And Allah Azza did will bless you.

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So we don't need if we want to love for others, which we love for ourselves, and we don't need to compete for the sake of this world. It's all destined, it's all written, it's all decided, and the wise has decided it. So if it's not mine, and it's yours, that's fine. Allah has something for me, is the reason why it's not for me, I don't need to hate you because of it. If your house is bigger, it doesn't mean that it's better.

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If you are richer, it doesn't mean that you're happier. You cannot equate happiness with the dunya

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fortune with the dunya dunya is just dunya in people's hands, it can make you miserable for can make you happy. But what real happiness is, is to be okay with Allah has to be satisfied with what He has given you. And you cannot be satisfied until you love him. Trust Him and love what people have and wish for them to have the same that you have.

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But to live a life of envy, Allah of bitterness, alive of feeling unjust, being treated unjustly unevenly. I don't have what people have. And so that's why miserable you will always live in misery, not until you let go of the dunya and attachment to it. Trust Allah has loaded and say whatever came from it is good. Whatever did not come from it is good. Whatever he gave to them is good. And whatever he did give to them is good. And if you see something that envy knocks on the door, and if you see something that people have, that you don't have, ask alas

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is in

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Mr. Leland, from here, I ask you from your great favors that you give me and made me satisfied with whatever you have given me. Because that's the essential thing here. Make me satisfied with whatever you have given me. So don't be envious Allah has given it to them for a reason. But ask Allah subhanho wa taala, for whatever is lacking, and make dua.

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Okay, for who for whom ever you may be envious of, is one of the things that really help

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when it comes to envy is immediately make the half. So you see somebody, and he just bought a new car, and you can't afford that. That's a really expensive car. So instead of bitterly, saying to yourself, I wish and why them and say Allah, protect their new purchase, and save them from their eat, save them from it's evil, and bless it for them, and give them more and more, and bless their children and bless their families and bless his parents and, and keep doing this. And you will feel as you're making that dua that Allah has, is replacing the bitterness that you had with softness, and calm and satisfaction. And guess what, you know all that dua that you made to them, for them.

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What happens

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and Angel is saying what to you, and the same for you. And the same for you, and the same for you. So that's the great satisfaction that you get when you see someone who is blessed, and you wish that they will be continuously blessed and you make dua for them. And then you remember an a, an angel is making the same job for me. And then you feel happy with Allah subhanho wa Taala because you made something you reacted positively to it.

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So we'll stop here with the Lucha surgeon.

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And by the way, I mean, it's just a point on the side and it's in the book. There is also the possibility and you could read more on page 254 that this is not only limited to the believers or Muslims, but there's also the possibility based on some narrations that he also could love for non Muslims were to love for yourselves, mainly in terms of hidayah whether they be guided, and also that if Allah azza wa jal bless them with something and they're not enemies of Allah and His Messenger, they just average human beings. If Allah had blessed them with children and bless them with

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good fortune, and this and this and that you wouldn't hate that. Because this is Allah's decree. You wouldn't hate it you wouldn't be envious of it. Right? And there's some evidence

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in the actions and the scenes of the Sahaba of the Allahu Anhu when they would make dua for non Muslims may Allah bless your family bless your wealth plus this one they deserved it so there might be grounds for it but that will leave you let you insha Allah read that in the book

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I mean we shall if you have questions

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I'm gonna check if there was anything online

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Okay, so no questions because live feed was disrupted I guess. Okay, so you guys have the lion's share of the opportunity to ask questions if you have any questions so brothers anything

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can come closer I'm sorry. I just cannot get these

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tiny Miss America

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except they're more

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I've gotten the wrong

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So this is your question. This is in reference to treatment of the Kufa

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lion had a lot of whining Latino community local feeding water, are we going to do community media recommend or romantic support?

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So your question is about the eye or Allah subhana wa Taala says Allah does not forbid you

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to have

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injustice with those who did not fight you because of your religion and expel you from your lands. Right. So you understand that the disbelievers are let's say have two broad categories.

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This category of disbelievers that fight you have enmity towards Allah his Messenger, they physically manifest that enmity by waging war against Muslims expelling them from their lands, just like the Mexicans in Medina, before their Islam did with the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. So those are one category. And you'd have to be stern with that category, you have to be very cautious with that category. You cannot have close relationships with those category of people because they are enemies. There are others who have not exhibited that type of enmity. So those who are average disbelievers just like

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one of the Sahaba yet died now cannot recall her name.

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I think it's okay. No. So she asked the prophets a lot he was in them because her mother came visiting and she brought gifts. So she asked the province a lottery system, can I receive her in my house going to accept her gifts? And he said, Daddy salatu salam that yes, you can do that. So there's a category of disbelievers who did not find the Muslims and did not expel them from their lands and do not show explicit enmity towards them. Then a person a person, they're a Muslim could be kind to them. And he could also receive kindness from them, right? receive gifts from them, he can give them gifts, they could have amicable, good relationships between them. So those are the two

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main categories. So that is your question. Right? There. So to answer your question, I

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know that a lot of you were talking about that Allah azza wa jal will make his religion uppermost and manifest even if the disbelievers hated so we could say that a lot of disbelievers or be most disbelievers or maybe all disbelievers will hate the fact to find Islam manifest or uppermost because that's not what they believe. So why would they be in favor of something that they don't believe in? But Allah is saying even if they just even if they hate that it's going to happen so that's what that is talking about.

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same question

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is heard from

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helping helping us a lot?

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So I mean, I am missing some of what you're saying. So you're saying that I talking about the second category of people so those who

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we have good relief, they have not fired us the man Okay, so then what?

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And they're helping us

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so they're helping us in many things

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how to how to control that to me.

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It's fine. I mean, it's fine. So if you're, if you're making dua for them, so there's this family that is a non Muslim family, and they're helping you a lot and you're making a lot of dua for them, and it's to the extent where it's even sometimes more than dua for your own family. I mean, it's not it's not an exaggeration, because at times they may need that right from you. So fine gel as long as he did not forget yourself completely from but also I mean, consider that making draft for them to be guided That in itself is a good thing to have for somebody else's itself is a good deed. So you didn't even really forget yourself a righteousness and in Hampton, see how blah came in because

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you're also making dua do is also good. So you're fine inshallah without me I don't think that's an exaggeration. You need to worry about

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I'm sorry.

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lounging around what?

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It comes to healthy.

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and after that something

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is supposed

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cause other

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people just pushing

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Okay, okay, but why do they have to pay the video? Why are like a far away

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it's something

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Okay, okay, okay. Okay, okay. Okay. So the question is that we see that here in this hadith the Prophet Salatu was Salam

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made an oath, right? He swore by Eliza Judd, right? Even though he was unsolicited. Nobody asked him to, but he initiated that. So you're saying that in circumstances among the family, there will be some people who will not believe you? Unless you say, Well, unless you swear by Allah's origin, whether it's about something that happened in the past, I imagined or some things that he intended to do. Because the other part of your question is about something that is in the future, something that you intend to do. So what why is he going to do this for us? He say, yes, yes, yes. They say, We don't believe you. They say the okay swear, then I believe you say Wallahi, I'll do this. And

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then it turns out later on, right, that if you were to do this, there'll be more harm than good than benefit. So you have to break that oath. And if you break that oath, then you'd have to compensate for it. So she's saying that that compensation when it happens to the person who had taken that oath, is he the one who pays for it? Or was the one who forced him? Right? Don't ask them to. So

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first of all, right, we shouldn't unless you are completely distrustful of that person. And that shouldn't happen in within the family. Unless that's the case. You shouldn't really

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Oh, okay. You send me a message, okay.

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So again, first, we shouldn't behave in such a way that I'm not going to believe you unless you swear.

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That says that's in bad faith that indicates lack of trust. This is what happens if you bring a witness that uh, you don't know and then you ask him to swear, an unknown but and family member in the asking, then that indicates that you don't trust them. So you shouldn't at the same time, right, if it happens, if it happens, and you swear, it should be as a last resort, okay, and your your word should be

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your word should be enough. But as a last resort, and if you have to do it, then you do it. But if you choose to do and even upon a person's insistence, then you are responsible for it because you've accepted that you should swear. So it's not them because they'll say well, I did not carry that burden. But again, be careful when you swearing by Allah azza wa jal, especially those who don't pay attention to it will lie this will lie that okay, because you need to honor Allah as much more than that not play with his name. Like a child plays with a toilet. It's nice to be honored unless you mean it unless it's needed. You don't lose Allah's name like that. And you don't swear by anything

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else other than Allah xojo Because Allah has anything other than Allah, we can shift we can shake. So not with the Prophet not with a person's mother not with your homeland, not with your child nothing but except with Elias social plane. So does that answer your question?

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Anyone else?

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so how could you love for someone that you love for yourself and they're not a good person to you?

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Also, can you add that it might feel disingenuous because you have anger in your heart. Okay. So, so how can you love for them what you love for yourself?

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They're not good person to so built on a foundation of would you love for them to go to Jana?

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Now yes or no, you see, yeah. What do you love? What do you hate for them to be in a horrible accident? See? Would you love for them to be married? I know they're not the greatest. But do you want them to be deprived of the blessing of marriage blessing of kids? Would you? Would you want them to be really sick? Would you want them to go through that ordeal? Ask yourself these things. And then you've discovered though they are not the best person that you still have some compassion towards them, that you still have some love towards them, that you still care about them. Build on that.

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And then make dua to say Allah azza wa jal, their behavior is making it hard for them, for me to love for them, what I'd love for myself to take away that behavior. Like help me get over it. Allow me to love them as I love myself.

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And you push and no one is telling you that you're going to be able to achieve all of this with every person, you're going to be struggling sometimes, but just look again, look, the way that Allah looks. Okay, another way that you look all the time.

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So forget about yourself. How's the love looking at them?

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Were they not? What and once upon a time, a child with a not once upon a time have have parents who care about them? Do they not love to the not fear? Do they not experience agony? Do they not experience pain? How many of these things overlap with you?

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Do they have not night nightmares? And fears? Like you?

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So would you want someone to suffer better? No, I don't want to but how does that help?

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Do you not want them to be happy? Yes, of course, I want everybody to be happy because this is how I want to live. This is what I want for myself. So this is what you want for yourself because this is what Allah wants for everybody.

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So finally, they are ignorant. Yet how could Medallia Salatu Salam be so patient with people around him? You think about it. So a Bedouin would come and shake him? Hold him by closing shake him, Give me my money back, give me my money back. And he smiles.

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How could you smile?

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Because you could see them so he says down finally slightly happy makalah because they wanted to kind of to reprimand him. How could you touch what sort of lice a lot isn't like that and say to him, which gives us to him is wanting to reprimand and we say let him the one who has a right to speak has to speak. Because he wants his money. Let him speak. Because you see yourself in the person.

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See him being afflicted with the whispers of shame from seeing victims of bad bad habits that they still are not able to overcome you feel sorry for them. And if you feel sorry for someone, it's really hard then to hate them and be angry with them. So switch. So yeah, I mean, it takes time, but you'll be able to charge a lot to do it. But kind of you need to push yourself and discipline themselves to have this gear. What is this gear? So this gear and the other book that we target and the heart therapy talked about? Disgaea in the introduction. Anyone likes to garden here?

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Ya know?

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Somebody Respond, please. Yes. I'm gonna assume yes. So yes. Okay. Good. Thank you our response. So when you garden, right, how often do you have to take care of it?

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Like, every day, every two days, every sorry.

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Yeah, just consistent, right. So you have to go take care of the weeds, water, soil, food, trim, come back to it again, come back to it again, does it end bands when winter comes right? But if not, it's continuous. That's the display of the heart. It doesn't stop. You go in and you find this is wrong, you cut. You find any more of this than you add it. You need more medicine, then you add medicine, you need more food, you add more food, then you retreat, then you come back, oh, there's an animal here, fix what he had whatever has happened. So there is envy here fix it. There is greed here fix it. There's mistrust and Allah you fix it, you fix it and you come back and you keep coming

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back and coming back and coming back. And if the plant is not growing well what do you do? Extract to see maybe not this location, maybe that location I need to do something think about it. So if you have a problem with someone, why is it that I have a problem with someone

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you know, that even tell you that I am Allah, he said, he says and they do

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See that they had that they have rights upon people the pious they don't see that they have rights upon people and all people owe them anything because their relationship is with Allah as of did whoever gives them gives them whatever doesn't give them doesn't give them and they understand that whoever wants them had wronged them because of their own sin that so they do not prove we occupy themselves with blaming other people but with blaming themselves.

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You see a profound that is somebody comes in hits you what is your reaction?

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Anger at him normal. He's saying no, they don't direct their anger at the person who did it. But rather the understand the only had power to inflict pain on them because of their own sin. So they direct their attention and their own sin and they ask Allah for forgiveness.

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It doesn't mean that you can have like, become a wimp, and everybody can come and punch you on digital take it doesn't mean that it means that you start blaming people for the bad things that they're doing to you look at why is it that I may have contributed to it, which is a very elevated realization. Right? So that's how you kind of process all of these things until you reach a point where

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it's possible. It's possible and then whatever is in ultimately beyond your limits beyond your ability.

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Good question.

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Okay, so we start here with us, okay, you're the last question.

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How can you have more love for your profit than your parents? So it's it's in the same thing that we talked about is with revisiting your convictions and your realization about who he is and how much he had benefited you to understand that he had done more to you, to help you than your own parents.

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So the benefit that parents give is worldly. The benefit of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam is in the hereafter and in the dunya as well. So his benefit is more lasting and more meaningful, more contemplation of that will have you realize that that is true. So if you start after this, to follow him, somebody will send them all of his Sooners and read His words and live as he lived, you'll gain more and more and more love for humanity salatu salam, ultimately with patience and with dua will be able to love the Prophet Salatu was Salam more than you love your parents. So it's a process, but it involves what actions and realizations, beliefs and a DUA and an effort because you want this to

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happen, because it's best for you when it happens, because that's what a man is, and will not be complete until that happens. So you strive for it and you will get as much of it as possible as long as Allah permits it as long as he keeps us alive. We want to get as much to that as possible. So this is how it happens.

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Charlotte will stop here. We will see you next week at the same time Subhanak along behind the crescendo

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as to who got to where they could have the Santa Monica

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