The Ideal Husband

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hamdulillah

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Al Hamdulillah

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every time when I'm awake, oh thing that I see

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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Karim. While he was happy he Jemaine I was relaxing ministry one regime Bismillah R Rahman Rahim Allah Allahu la pena Aleem Ravi surely surgery. Well, you're certainly angry while you open the terminal Sonny Yahoo. Ali, do you have yours Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh meaning where the peace, mercy and blessings of Allah the Most High be upon all of you. Welcome to another episode of the role model. In the last episode we have mentioned about the relationship that Allah subhanaw taala has with Muhammad's Islam, and Mohammed Islam had with a las panatela and proved that he was the best slave of Allah.

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And he was the best role model as a slave for all the people to Allah subhanho wa Taala. In this episode, we will discuss about the role model Hamas Islam as a husband, Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam as a husband, he has brought great guidance and has brought light into the life of the couple.

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But unfortunately, when we see the current situation, the scenario and the relationships of the couple, it is corrupt, it's collapsed. Homes are not in rest.

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There are so many problems and that is the reason we see so many people are divorcing each other, what is the reason? There are certain reasons why the relationship goes on crisis. Number one is the ego, the ego factor both in the heart and mind of the husband and the wife, it leads a person to a destruction, it is the ego which demands

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the husband that I am your husband and he boasts and as a result, it the relationship goes for a toss.

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The second reason why there is a crisis in the relationship of the couple is because the lack of understanding, the husband says something and the wife understands something or the wife says something the husband understands the other thing. There is no person has done there is no good hope between each other, there is a lack of understanding. Also, there is a imbalance behavior between the husband and wife. There is no couple who will be better in their own relationship. If they don't have the element of taqwa in them, the element of Pite in them, the element that the relationship is brought by Allah that the relationship is given by Allah subhana wa Tada.

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Another reason why there is a collapse in the relationship between the couple is because of the not caring, not helping, not being devoted and not being beautiful to your wife's. The husband is ideally must be caning and give time share and concern

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with the wife, but that is lost. So, these are some of the reasons why we see the couple's crisis.

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It is a dire need, again, to look at the life of Muhammad peace be upon him, who was the best An Ideal Husband, for all the people to follow.

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Muhammad peace be upon him used to recite the hookah

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and in this, he used to aside three most common ayat and they are from Srinivasa surah number four is number one Surah Nisa surah number four is number one Surah Al Emraan surah number three at number 102 as well as in surah azab surah number 33 at number 70

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Muhammad peace be upon him you

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used to recite your Lena Amanita cola how to potty. Wala tuna Illa onto muslimin used to decide. Yeah you hola Dina amatola workqueue colon Salida use Latin American

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woman UT la hora Sula, who forgot the faza fosun alima. He used to recite these three common ayat in his sermon, and in the hotbar of nica, these ayat are repeatedly recited in every Hooda. In every marriage, there is a hikma there is a wisdom behind reciting these Ayat of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Allah subhanaw taala has given these ayat, and there are so many learning principles that is there, especially for the couple.

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The meaning of it, is if you analyze all these three IR the principles that we derive from this is number one, Allah subhanaw taala says, all mankind, he's the robe of Allah mean, he's the man, he's the master of all humanity. He says, Be beautiful to your Lord. You need to be beautiful to Allah subhana wa Tada. And then Allah subhanaw taala says fear of loss pantalla love Allah subhanho wa Taala beautiful to him. And understand that Allah subhanaw taala has created all the people from a single payer, which means that being a husband, you can't boast that I am more superior to you, in respect in other things. They have equal rights, but not identical.

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So Allah subhanaw taala reminded us through this ayah that we all have been created from a single payer, and from them, all humanity came into being.

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Allah subhanaw taala has reminded us that we need to be beautiful, and demand our mutual rights. Allah subhanaw taala reminded us that we should not cut our relations. Allah subhanaw taala says in the law, Ghana, la cumbre Kiba.

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And most certainly, Allah subhanaw taala is ever watchful over you, meaning that when you when you marry your wife, you have recited, you have seen you have listened.

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This ayah

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make sure that Allah subhanaw taala is watching you at the time of your nikka make sure that Allah subhanaw taala have that realization that Allah subhanaw taala will watch you throughout your life as a husband, so beautiful to Allah and do not cut the relations, demand you meet mutual rights that you have for each other.

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Also last panelist is fear of law, fear of law, if you are trying to be unjust your wife's fear of law for Allah, He has given you your wife, Allah subhanho wa Taala he will say

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he says in the Quran, that demand your mutual rights and understand and realize that Allah subhanaw taala is ever watchful or you believe in a law, fear of loss panatela when you are driving through this role of a husband, Allah subhanaw taala says, speak straightforward, speak straightforward, and Allah subhanaw taala will correct you. The communication must be clear and complete. Allah subhanho wa Taala he says, to these ayat, that fear of loss pantalla and enter into Islam and fear him as he should be feared, Fear Allah subhanaw taala as he should be feared and do not follow the footsteps of shaitan for shaitan is the most happiest person when a couple gets separated. When the couple

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gets separated, is it actually not the couple that separates it is two families, two families that gets separated, so shaitaan becomes happy. So Allah subhanaw taala reminds us fear of law as it should be feared, and do not follow the footsteps of shaitaan. These are the principles that Allah subhanaw taala has given these two to these iron, which we recite, which we know in all our marriages, we hear these things. Allah subhana wa Taala he reminds us to this and we know that Muhammad peace be upon him. He was the best husband for all his wives. He was the best example and a role model as a husband for all the people if you and me want to be an ideal husband, if you and me

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would like to be a happy home.

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Husband, if you and me would like to care and concern out with our wives, we need to look what Muhammad had done with his wives.

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Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam being the best husband. Number one, he used to understand his wives, he used to understand his wives he had so many wives are handled, and used to understand them, their character, their nature, their feelings, their attitude, and he used to deal with them in a in a similar manner. He used to deal with them differently, in a nicer manner, based on their own feelings. Where is that element that all of us, all of us, have, we the husbands, do, we understand our wives, the way Mohammed system understands, it is the need that we should understand them, as Mohammed system used to understand his wives, their feelings, their nature, their

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psychology, and all the things.

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Muhammad peace be upon him as the best husband. He was always just to his wives. He was always just to his wives, although he had so many wives. He was always just to his wives, which is the element of Justice has gone in our lives

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are the following metal as a role model in our lives, as a husband,

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we need to be just with our wives,

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Muhammad, Islam, he was patient and good natured with his wives. He was patient with his wives, he used to deal with them. He used to make

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their their feeling he used to understand them, and being very patient with them. He was very well natured with them. whenever anything goes wrong, he used to settle that matter in a patient way. Which sub because Allah subhanaw taala says in Allah, ma savarin, Verily, Allah subhanaw taala is with those who are patient, where is that element of patience have gone in our life. My dear brothers and sisters, we need we need to make sure that we are being patient, and well natured, good natured with our wives, in order that we may follow Muhammad peace be upon him as the role model in terms of the husband, the role of a husband, Muhammad peace be upon him, he was devote full to his

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wives, meaning that he would never look around to other women. He was absolutely devoted to his wives.

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These days, we know the morality has no value,

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the dignity of the husband, the value, the respect of the wife is gone. We as husbands, we need to be devoted to our wives, and do not look at other women in order to kill the ride of the wife, Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, he was always devoted for his wives,

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Muhammad peace be upon him as the best husband, used to guide them and help them in this world and the hereafter. Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam was the best guide and advisor and helper for his wives, he used to guide them, in the matters of this world, used to guide them in the matters of this world, so that they can be upright, they can be righteous, they can be pious. And this is the success of this world. And here after Muhammad peace be upon his to advise them, used to advise them in all matters of life.

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Muhammad peace be upon him used to, he used to seek even the advice of his wives, the most critical situation of Sunni holiday via the treaty, the greatest treaty of the Treaty of Arabia, he sought and he accepted the advice of one of his wives at that critical juncture. He didn't think that my wife was she can give to me the advice. What does she know about this? He didn't react that way. He with all his kindness, accepted, accepted her advice. And we know the result of that was fruitful.

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He used to seek his advice, the advice of all his wives used to consult them

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and help them and motivate them in terms of psychological help. In terms of rages help, in terms of physical health, he used to even help physically his wife

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He used to do the homework. When he used to be in the home, he was completely for the home, used to make sure that his wives should feel that the husband's presence in a true sense. He used to do the homework of a law. Imagine the Messenger of Allah, the the Messenger of Allah subhanho wa Taala. He used to do the work in home as the Ideal Husband, mighty brothers and sisters, we need to make sure that we need to follow this messenger of Allah. Muhammad sallallahu alayhi salam, as a husband, as Allah subhanaw taala he says in the Quran, with which we would like to end this episode from Surah column surah number 68 item before what inuk Allah Allah, Who looking Aleem you Omaha's Islam have

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an exalted standard of character. He was the best husband, for all of us to follow so that we may have skeena satisfaction bees in our relationship with our wives, or our Hello Donna. And in hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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every time when I'm awake, oh thing that I see. I know it's hard to believe

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the almighty when they fall from the tree, every plan because

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when the waves flow in the sea, it's bad.