Pre-Ramadan Halaqah #03

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Ramadan in the first session, and yesterday I went through the field, so I can explain to you the technicalities of CME and if you have any questions go back to that the

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recording session if you have questions after that you're welcome to ask him shoulder as well. After Juma today is more of just kind of establishing the plan, I'm gonna share with you like a 10 point plan, obviously, 10 points are a lot. So you may not want to do all of them. But hopefully you'll listen to them and you'll find within them something that's meaningful to you. And then you'll come up with your own plan. At the end, every person has to personalize their own approach to what they want to do in Ramadan. But without a plan without knowing what you want to achieve. The days will just domino like I'll just go into the spiral three days, one day, 12345 days on the 16th day and

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you really haven't really, you don't even know what you want and it's already too late and you feel like you've kind of wasted a lot of time. So before Ramadan if you kind of figured out what you want to achieve in Ramadan, spiritually within your relationship with Allah subhanho wa taala.

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And you know what to work forward towards every day, meaning you know what to make sure that you're going to do every single day, regardless of any the obstacles or the challenges.

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I'm not gonna talk about this, I talked about this last year. And last year, we talked a little bit about Ramadan 2020. Because last year, if you remember last year was the was the first Ramadan that we had massage it after two years of having them in lockdown. So I thought it was worth kind of reflecting on the two years before forgetting.

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There's a lot there was a lot to learn. I think last year when we kind of came back after not being able to go to massage it for a long time and then being offered that opportunity. I think people I think all of us Yanni were very, very grateful. We were very fortunate we felt very thankful to Allah subhanaw taala that we're able to go back to massage and I think most people took advantage. That's why massage and humbler last year we're pretty full. I anticipate things will be pretty similar maybe with a little bit of like, I don't think certain things will go less. I think there'll be more because I think we really figured out the value of Joomla and the value of kind of being

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together and Ramadan and being able to come out and pray to Allah, we can kind of stay. I think that's something that we all have come to a different understanding of and I thought, as I shared with you a little bit the reflections of the two years before that were very difficult.

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People some of you prayed or move on at home. Alone, some families together, everyone had a different experience. I find it really hard to actually pray in the masjid that was empty. I think one of the saddest things. I remember seeing was was the first night that we came to pray

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at the Westmount Center and the next year was the banjo and Wonderland. I knew when you walk in the first time that a Madonna and there's no one there besides you and two three people and a camera. It's very depressing. It was not it was a very eye opening moment that really the baraka of Sao Paulo Gemma, it's important thing like it's a part of the deen you don't really think about it until it's taken away. And once we walked into a masjid and Ramadan and there's no one there and then night after night, you just that empty emptiness like the it was very eerie, the massager domestic was empty, and just you and your three or four brothers, and it just was not a very, it was a

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difficult experience. I learned a lot from it. But definitely kind of it kind of crystallized in my mind set the value of Jamal and togetherness and people coming and praying and bringing your kids and kind of just experiencing the beauty of of taloja and the nights of Ramadan. So not to kind of spend any more time on that.

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We talked about CRM just kind of keep that in mind that we often I think the mindset that we have sometimes is a little bit flawed. Like when we look at when we look at fasting, we tend to try and get things done despite fasting. That's why we use that terminology. Even though I'm fasting, I'm gonna be able to do this, even though I'm fasting to try and get that done even though despite that stuff, that's the terminology that we keep on using about fasting, when I really think it's not supposed to be that I think is supposed to be the opposite. I think it's because of fasting, that you're supposed that you're going to behave one way this way in that way and because of fasting

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despite it, I think we start to start looking stop looking at fasting as if it's a burden, or as if it's a specific challenge that you're just gonna barely make it just because of its existence. No, I think is the opposite. Because when you look at how Allah subhanaw taala explained to the Prophet ideas, thoughts on prayer, meaning he talks about sola, sola is the reason that you're going to be farther away from Russia and monka boys, because it's going to motivate yourselves was going to keep you close connected to Allah subhanaw taala would it be better is not an obstacle that you're just trying to get through every day and not not miss. So I think if you keep on seeing it that way,

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it'll be hard to stick to it forever. At some point, you'll kind of lose the reins, and you'll just give up and fasting is similar. You're not doing stuff despite and fasting, you're going to do good things because of fasting. Like you're going to have better manners during the day because of fasting. You're going to shy away with your gaze because of fasting, you're going to hold your tongue because of fasting, you're actually going to do you're better at your work, you're going to make sure that you're doing your job to the best of your ability because of fasting. What I mean by that is what I mean by because you're fasting, you're in a state where you're saying to yourself, I

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am not even going to come close to something that is ordinarily always Halon

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I definitely cannot do anything that is haram obviously because I'm actually withholding right holding abstaining from doing something that is my basic needs that Allah subhanaw taala call

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any man help Rama Zina to Allah you how do you handle hola como Eva T is the one who made for you but Allah Allah for you, but you can only abstain during the day, you're not going to, you're not going to have like you, but you're going to hold back on. And because of that, you're going to be definitely completely far away from any aspects of haram. Meaning you're going to go do your job or go to work and we're going to attend to and you could do it with excellence. You're not going to be mediocre at it, because that's not good. That's not acceptable. You guys say, Well, I went to job despite my No, no, you're gonna go do work. Because you're fasting, you're gonna be really good,

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you're gonna be at your best behavior because you're fasting, you're going to be kind to everyone around you because you're fasting and you go on and on and on. This is what I think we have to switch the mentality to stop looking at fasting as a as a as a means of suffering. I look at fasting as a means of cleansing yourself of purification, of include increasing your energy and decreasing your consumption and allowing yourself to to function the way Allah subhanaw taala created you to function with less, doing more with less this is what this is what this is the reality of who we are as human beings. We don't do more with more. We don't always do more with more. This is actually the

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opposite of how we function as a race. Ever heard the ever heard that the the quote, the silly quote, I think it's the i It's true. Any hard times make strong people, strong people make easy times easy times make weak people make weak people cause hard times and hard times. It's just just it's bad, you know, boomeranging back and forth, not figuring out well, that's why Ramadan is there. Ramadan is there to make strong and tough people. Because you may have it easy. But that doesn't mean you have to, we have to be a generation that creates hard times later, no, we can definitely learn to be to be strong, and to continue to make times easier for those who come after us. But that

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requires discipline that requires us to be disciplined and be able to control our whims and desires and to be in charge of that which lies inside of us. And I think I think that's what I want.

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You ever heard of that? You know what that is any any one studied biology and ever heard of gluconeogenesis This is what the liver does. After you deprive it of food after a while you deprive it of full for a while, then it's like the liver basically sitting there saying alright, energy, make sure the brain has energy. So your stomach makes your makes you feel hungry. So you go and eat. If you don't eat after a while it there's other sources that it but after a couple of hours, maybe after up to 10 to 12 hours, there's little bit of a panic, that there's no external source power, the brain needs glucose, where we're going to get it from to the liver, it panics to the liver, it

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sometimes will take a while to figure this out. Because the liver sometimes hasn't done this a long time. For us eating three times a day to deliver I forgot how to do it. He's like the liver sometimes like a scientist who hasn't done a specific procedure or a doctor's note, Virginian years. It's like, oh, I have to actually go in and do this. And so basically looking, looking at the shelf, dusty papers, figuring out how do we do this again, then you feel a bit tired the first and second and third day, but after a while, that's why the last couple days or month doesn't matter to you anymore. Like you're fasting. I mean, it's it's fine. Like you don't even some people like last

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couple days don't even have to hold not understanding as to what is known about the sustenance that you get when you do it is just the bulk of the Sunnah of the Prophet, letting do the sustenance, but you'll don't do any of that stuff, I'll be fine. I'll be fine. Honestly, when they make Yes, because your liver now is remembered how to do this again. And it knows how to go and actually take the storages of fat and the storage is of sugar and use them because

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here's the here to me is the poetic piece of this.

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What fasting does is it forces you or your body even physically, biologically, to extract energy from within

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you understanding it forces you to find the energy to to keep on going from inside of you, not from outside. Because whenever you're shoveling down the donuts and the muffins in the index, when we're doing that we're usually extorted external sources of energy. So we keep on going. So basically, fasting says, okay, stop doing that. Let's see, can you survive? Like, Oh, of course, because your body is actually equipped with everything it needs. Whatever you need, in terms of energy exists right inside of you. You don't need really, it takes a long time before you expire from from not getting external sources. You figured out that oh, what I need is actually really, really simple. I

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can survive on something very, very, very primal and basic, just a little bit of water and a couple of bites a day and I'm good to go. Well, how about and one of the stories within the some of the battles, they were talking about? sustenance and they were talking about what they had like a little bit of wheat or some days that one of the Sahaba as he's talking about the different things they had. He said Noah

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you know the date pit was a no. So he said that so one of the person that people are listening, put his hand up

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What what is that one? What do you mean by Noah? We told him that the date pit? Like, what is that? What do you do with that? We used to use a sock on it

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for a day with a little bit of water. So so this this type is like and what does that do to you know that we didn't think it did anything. But once we actually didn't have them anymore, we missed them.

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Like when we didn't have them anymore, when we ran out of even a pit deep pits, we missed them like we were just not talking to her, like we found how difficult was when we didn't have it, you'll be surprised what you can actually survive, you can you can surprise, you'll be surprised how much your body can adopted to adapt to different changes or difficult circumstances around you. Ramadan just proves basically, that there's more to you than you even even you know, there's more to you that your potential is much stronger than then you think it is. And fasting just just proves that to you. That's why the question you're milking ama doesn't become you know,

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the the question of whether you could have done it is no longer at stake. You can't say no, I can't say no to you totally, you couldn't here. Here's an example of 30 days where you were able to do everything, even though you were very hungry, and you were thirsty and you didn't eat, you didn't drink for 17 hours, you were fine. They were able to do more. So you could have done more, you just didn't. So it's not an issue that can I do more, the question becomes am I going to do more I do it the question of ability of capability is no longer valid anymore, because that's been proved that you can do way more with much less. So when you have more than the logic becomes then you should be

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doing more. And if you're not, then that's no longer an issue that I have capabilities, the issue of choice. And that's why you know, Ramadan is important. And that's why we have no choice actually at the end. But to adhere to that and, and accept that reality that Allah has already proven to us that we can do more, when we're not, we're just making the choice not to, we just don't want to, it's just maybe too much trouble too much work. I don't feel like and there's an aspect of me that just doesn't want to do and that's fine. And that's but you have to be honest with yourself. The idea is we have to be honest with ourselves, this is why I'm not doing it. It's not because I can't it's

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because I don't want to. And then you have to you have to stare yourself in the mirror and figure out why. And what your How are you going to argue that your multicam? And why is it that you chose not to be I want you to try and fast as if you just accepted Islam.

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Speak to some, if you're lucky to have you know, people accepted Islam, ask them how their first Ramadan went and see how they felt about fasting for the first time. I want you to fast as if this is your first time as if you as if you just accepted Islam, and you're hearing Allah subhanaw taala command you to fast and you're fasting because Allah Subhan Allah commanded you to fast. And the reason being is because a lot of us are just kind of incorporated into this faith from Chile from childhood. So we just fast because it's Ramadan, what do you mean, we're gonna fast? That's what everyone does, yeah. But that becomes habitual, in the, in the wrong sense. Like it's good to build

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habits, but it has to be done in the right in the right context. It has to be you don't want it to be have been shown in the context or you don't understand why you're doing it. Or we don't know exactly who it is that you're obeying when you're doing it, or what purpose this a serving for you. Or what you're actually doing there. That's not helpful when it becomes habitual. In that sense, it's no longer held up because it loses its meaning it becomes become something that is that is that is very superficial, and doesn't have any any depth to it.

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So listen to this for a moment, the hallmark of a of a declining society. Any society like historically, the hallmark of it is when the value is that they built their society on become hollow, when they're reduced to something that is superficial and meaningless. Every society is built on a couple of really important values. These values are profound, they're deep, have a lot of impact. They mean a lot. And the people who built the society were believed in them, like in depth, they really believed in what they meant. And that's why they were able to actually succeed when that society starts to fall. But the reason that it's falling actually is that these concepts that they

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built the society on a reduced the superficial things that have no meaning of skeletons of what they once were. So when you think of the Prophet Allah, you saw some building, you know, the Omo, the Nation of Islam, Muslims, he built it on a number of concepts. And amongst these concepts we'll see on the exam is one of those is one. How do I know this? Well, obviously he answered the question himself. He when He when He said Booney, Al Islam, Islam is built, it's built. It's not that's not what Islam is. It's built on it. It's built on five main rituals in turn from a racial perspective and a spiritual perspective. It's built on five things amongst them as fasting. So when fasting

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loses its meaning we just don't want the profoundness of that value is no longer there. That's a hallmark of a society that's declining and falling. That's how empires gonna basically just crash. It's only when they realize the concepts and values that that their society, their civilization were built on. And then they reclaim them again that they'll find that they'll find salvation, otherwise, it'll just continue to decline. Just keep on keep on going. Today, a lot of our extremely important values are skeletons of what of what of what they once were.

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For example,

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Salam cm, which are the two main anybody that Ramadan comes in basically tries to teach us because they're not what they are anymore. The Prophet alayhi salaatu wa salaam either has ever who amorphous Isla Salah whenever he gets upset or scared or concerned or just stressed out he would go and stand in prayer.

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Go ahead.

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What are you gonna do with that piece of information? Good luck. That's what he did whenever he felt upset. He went and studied Surah Alia salatu salam

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you understand what he did?

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Are we not his followers?

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Who does that?

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Who's doing that? Who's really upset, they're stressed and depressed and the first thing they do is run to prayer? Well, because so I don't fight Yeah, because the concept itself is reduced. It's just become mechanics. It's just a couple of movements and things your son tongue gonna say but but the actual meaning of it, the profoundness of it is last but lost. And until we reclaim that, again, nothing's going to change, we're gonna keep on just tickling downwards. So the aim is very similar to the society we live in today. I don't know if we're on an uphill or downhill, honestly. So I'm not a sociologist to give that I don't think we're going upwards though. This is my this is my

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opinion. I think a lot of the concepts that in values that the Western society was built on were beautiful, initially, I don't think they are, what they are, what they were, I don't think the concept of freedom, which is a beautiful concept that they built this society on is what it is what it was, I think freedom is something that they took very seriously, their freedom of choice and the freedom of thought and the freedom of faith, freedom of practice, now we've just reduced the freedom of basically, offending others, or the freedom of, of doing something that is extremely abnormal and possibly extremely offensive and difficult and problematic in the long run. Just we're reducing a

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beautiful concept to something that's, that's meaningless. And we're losing. And because of that, we don't actually have freedom. People here in the West have financial freedom.

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They have financial freedom, that whatever they are with you they have actual freedom of thoughts. Do we actually have freedom? Do you act you actually have freedom of speech, you actually

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that's what happens. The moment that you that won't you use the value, everything just comes crumbling down. And I'm not this is not a sociology talk anybody by any stretch of the imagination, but what I do want you to think about is that this is a part of our own experience as Muslims, if we Ramadan is here, to force us or encourage us, let's put it that way to reclaim these basic values that the Prophet alayhi salam built this OMA font, Tala and see I'm being two of the five. Because their skeletons are what they once were, see I'm is now just over eating at night. That's all it is just eating a lot at night. That's meaningless. That means that there's nothing there's nothing

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divine in that at all, unless you understand CRMs cleansing, as purifying as something that will, will give increase your potential prove something to yourself alive with the ability to actually reach farther and higher and go more. That's what it's for. It's going to strengthen you, it's going to grant you the grit and resilience that you need to do whatever you hope to do in your life. That's what CM is about.

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When it's not that when I don't know what is what it does anymore, I don't know. Because the OMA that fasts every year for a full month should be an OMA that is extremely, extremely perseverance, and OMA that consumes much less than the other omega. And omega is capable of putting up with whatever difficulty in front of them because they can do this. They've only proved that they have an omega that aims really high, that are extremely ambitious. Because every year Allah reminds them of their potential potential that they don't even know about. Potential they're not even aware of. But Allah Subhanallah shows no, you can do this. Because no one does that with their straight name.

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No one does this no one no one fast for 30 days straight in the form that we do it and keep up to stay up most of the night pray no one does. No one chooses to do this. But Allah subhanaw taala items as you're going to do come, and then you do it and you're able to get through the full month and you feel well, that's actually doable. Yeah. So imagine what else you could do faster as if you're, you just accepted Islam, build the values, take the ticket, make a value out of it. All right.

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Maybe that's the picture that came out a

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year ago or so.

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I took a picture of the two years ago now and

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I'm not very good with time as you can tell.

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The reason that I talked about this is this is my theory that every every person black holes, we don't understand that I think yet, as well as we may, you may one day, but we do understand is that it's just a place where everything gets lost. We just don't know. There's energy and space and time just don't seem to work the same way. And it's just it's capable of devouring things and and the more you give it the more devours and I believe deep inside each and every one of us we have a black hole. There's something like that inside of us, no matter what you throw at it, and what are you trying to put into it? Nothing will ever fully close that gap. Nothing you can do anything. The more

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food the more the more wells

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The traveling that nothing nothing, nothing will ever satisfy the greed of the knifes on the inside nothing, nothing, the more you give it the more at once it wants to it wants it will want everything one day, it will it'll devour you, you'll get completely lost, you'll get completely lost in your own consumption because because of how powerful this force is. The only thing that closes that greed on the inside is Allah subhanaw taala is the connection you'll have with Allah Subhanallah and that hole was close. And then suddenly your neffs will learn to behave the way it should. And the greed the greed will slowly begin to disappear. It takes it takes takes a long time. But Ramadan puts you

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on the track. Ramadan makes you makes you experience makes you experienced where beauty truly lies here, it takes away food, it's not food, you're not here to eat. We're not created so you can eat it is so that you can live you don't live to eat, let's just fix this equation. So forget about for for a second, eat much less, sleep, sleep much less and still you'll be happier than any other time of the year. Still, you're gonna be happier and much more satisfied and fulfilled than any other time of the year when you're eating less than you're sleeping less. There's just a lesson again, Allah subhanaw taala through practical lessons is teaching us something

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because that black hole will eat you up it will eat you alive. If you see people who are just are just completely taken by it, who are completely preoccupied with the amount of their consumption and what they have in their possessions with want to do more and they just keep on running after this illusion. This is just a mirage in the in the horizon, there's no end to it. You'll keep the more you run, the farther away it is, it will seem to you

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this is what he says to partner with to Allah in the Quran. Well, Athena kapow I'ma loom Kasparov in between when you accept whoo hoo

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ha ha EDA, let me show you why God Allah in the who are for who He said, But who Allah said he are the people that disbelievers what they're doing in their life is like a mirage in a valley. And they're running after it. And they're running and running. And they think there's water at the end, they think happiness isn't the next consumption, the next trip, the next possession, the next whatever the next thing, whatever it is that they're doing. And when they finally get there, what they don't find the water, they find the loss of Hainan without waiting for them, as he always was. But they just weren't looking for him to begin with. They didn't find the fulfillment, and then he

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holds them accountable to all they did.

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Ramadan helps close that a bit inside of you. Remove that greed and that that willingness for everything until you don't need much. You don't need as much food, or sleep and you'll still be really happy. What's gonna make you happy, it's something completely different is the connection on the inside that you haven't experienced yet that you haven't really tried to kill and all that that fire yet, you haven't taken haven't taken into accountability, the actual reason that ALLAH SubhanA created you, and what you're here to do when you haven't figured out how you're going to be with him subhanaw taala during your life, because you'll be with him when you're dead. Anyways, somebody's

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gonna do it now. And when you do that, you'll find all these

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symptoms just slowly just fade away. He's not there anymore. Otherwise, you can you're welcome to try something else and then watch it completely backfire. Here's what I'm gonna want to plan for you. I have 10 points, let me share with you and show them the remaining remainder of the time. Number one, perfect your intention. Always. First and foremost, always, always, we always start with this, we never, you never go on to anything else. You always start with your intention. You have to figure out your intention. Anything that was built with with no good, clear, sincere intention will go nowhere, it is bound to fail. And it's also not going to be accepted by Allah subhanaw taala as

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he explained to us in many occasions, without intention, nothing works. So perfect. Meaning take some time and think very clearly. tonight, tomorrow night, you still have two three nights that you can spend, spend some time and figure out why it is you're going to be fasting, why it is you're going to be praying. So what do you want from all of this? What exactly are you asking of Allah? subhanho wa taala? What is what's missing in your life? And what are you trying to achieve? Figure that out something personal that you can always go back to the clearer the intention, the better, the better the narrative, sometimes it's good to write it down, the easier it is for you to always

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go back to it when you start losing. When you started to getting distracted or losing your focus during the month, it's 30 days, you're bound to get a little distracted, you're bound to kind of forget, forget about what's going on and get caught up with work or studies or exams or the problems of your daily life.

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If you have a clear intention, you go back to it. It helps reorient you again, helps refocus No no, this is what I'm doing. This is the time I haven't there's no better time to do this than now. This is what I want from this month and you kind of find it will be a motive motivation for you that what will motivate you is this intention that you're going to work on. I'm not gonna spend a lot of time explaining intentions because you already know the importance of intentions but you need to do this. Muslims today are less unfortunately obsessed with intentions than they should be. Want to be obsessed by something that's the thing you'd be obsessed by obsessed to be obsessed about your

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intentions. Why are you doing

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what you're doing, why take a moment? Pause, think, take a step back, zoom out, whatever it is you need to ask questions, figure out why you're doing what you're doing. And you're like, I don't know, I actually am not sure. I shouldn't be doing this. For this reason. I have recently discovered that I am not what do I do? Great. Now I no one has a good answer for you know what you got come up down the chain, and you'll get the gears, two teaspoons of this and three dots and trademark me and then you're good. No, there's nothing, there's nothing that you can take that will fix your your intention. But if you are aware of that, if you become aware that my intentions aren't as as clear

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and sincere and as, as I want them to do as they should, and at least then you can you put your foot on the first step of the journey, and put your foot on Okay, now I have to take care of this, and you start thinking about it. And then you start monitoring a little bit, and evaluating and changing and regulating and going back and failing and trying again, and then you'll start to figure this out. Because perfecting your intention is definitely one of the most difficult things you can do. But make sure tonight or tomorrow night or the night after.

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It takes some time before Ramadan begins and you perfect your intention. Number two, and it's not about CRM, this is just about generally what you hope to achieve. So let's make this the intention I want you to make, let's just do intention, intention, make this the best Ramadan of your life. Because you just don't know if you have another one.

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May Allah grant you many many Ramadan's one after the other in good health, and in good spirits? I mean, everyone here, but no one knows. Nobody knows. No one has that information. If this is your if there's going to be one after this. Everyone hold on. That's what I think about it. This could be my last a couple of times, I was pretty convinced it was going to be my last. You never know. Never know what's gonna come next. This is what you got. There's no time. But now.

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We haven't made it yet, by the way, or what I wasn't started yet. So as far as I'm concerned, we don't even have this Ramadan. But if we're lucky, if Allah subhanaw taala is going to bless us with the ability to actually make it to that first night, then may that be the intention that you enter it with. This will be my best Ramadan, I am going to top whatever I did last year, I'm going to talk anything I didn't any year, and this year is going to be my best performance. Yes, you're going to put on for Allah subhanaw taala a performance, you're going to show Allah subhanaw taala, that you're able, that you're capable, that you're willing, that you're committed, that you have the grit

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and the resilience and the love and the desire to do exactly what he created you to do. To fulfill the destiny that he made you for. What you're going to do, that's what this is about is just taking that moment and making that intention. And it's life hold hard for you right now. Yeah, more reason to make this intention. Oh, you're really really busy. Excellent. Make that intention, this is the worst time for you to Yes, then make that intention, the worse your circumstances, the more important that you make that intention. It's the Ramadan's that are the most the hardest for you, when you're entering them that will mean the most to you and your life will lie and I think about

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some of them others that I didn't have exams, or I didn't have school, or they came into summer where I was off anyway, there's something I don't remember, I remember the Ramadan is where I had to give the dose after you get in, get into a into a public transportation, go for an hour, write an exam, and then go to another university. I was studying into two major to come back and the Dutilleux we had night asleep. Those are that's the one I remember. I remember that I remember how tired I was standing on the street at six o'clock in the morning after the budget waiting, shivering on the waiting for someone to take me. That's what I remember. I remember those moments, not in a

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bad way, in a way where I feel that maybe that moment will mean something. Maybe that moment will be reasonable or something will be forgiven. Maybe he'll look away from something I did based on that moment because that was hard. That was difficult. I was totally I was I was tired. I had a good reason not even to come to budget altogether, but he still did it. It's just make that intention every time. Make it the best Ramadan of our life, make it me Allah Subhan Allah grant us the ability to do that. I mean, number two, it took some time on number one because I think it's important fast with excellence. I've said this a number of times. I'm not gonna bore you with it, but you really

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need to take this into consideration. The Prophet Allah is awesome. Tell us Malanga Polish Zuri Well, I'm a levy. Oh, well, yeah. Hello.

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Are you still in la hija near the Alto anima, who was Shabaab? Those who don't stop lying or saying falsehood, or acting ignorantly we're just adding an enrichment Allah does not need them to stop eating and drinking during the day.

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That makes sense like you're coming Allah says okay, don't even drink during the day. Then you go you don't eat and drink but then you go to something that's completely Haram is like Oh, hold on, hold on. You apparently did not understand what I'm talking about at all. You're welcome to go and eat I talked about this yesterday. This doesn't change this didn't take away the validity of the of your of your fasting. If you do something wrong in Ramadan, when you're fasting, it does not take the weight and take away the validity of your fasting. Your fasting is still valid religiously. It's just I don't know if it'll be accepted or not. The acceptance part becomes compromised because Allah

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subhanaw taala again, is explaining to you here the red line goes down over there stay away from haram farther away than you ever been. And then somehow you know, no password excellent fast with your

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With your eyes fast with your eyes don't look at things you shouldn't be looking at fast with your ears don't listen to stuff you shouldn't be listening too fast with your mouth your tongue Don't say stuff that you shouldn't say fast with your hands don't do things you shouldn't do faster if you don't walk and go places you shouldn't go too fast that way and then they shot a light your fasting will be accepted See, this is what it is like fasting from has a buffer the buffer between you and how long there's there wasn't a buffer before was just you the line caught on right there. Here we're gonna put a buffer of faster you're not gonna be eating and drinking makes no sense. It's hard

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to even drink there's no makes no sense for you not to do this and go do something else. Or else the buffer is awesome. Also said robots are immune. Lisa, humans see me he ill Joe? Well, outwash there are many people who fast and all they get out of their fasting is the fact that that day they were hungry. Meaning on their on their in their book, when they recite it when they read what they did. They won't document for them. Imagine imagine how horrible this is? One document that they fasted 30 days? No, they'll just say and for 30 days in a row. From this hour to this hour. He was very hungry and very thirsty. He didn't even drink that's it. You were looking No But where's I faster? Yeah,

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sorry, didn't it's been rejected. Like the actual action is not being accepted. That's that's the fear. That's the that's the nightmare of doing this. And it's not working. That's we have to fast you have to fight with excellence without sun. You have to do it, you have to do it right. There's no act of worship within Ramadan, that comes remotely close to the importance of fasting. like to talk about all we talk about reading Quran talks about a bunch of stuff, this is the most important thing number one number two on this planner there because they're the number one and number two, those 100% Even if you don't listen to the rest of my talk Number Make sure you have your intention

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and then make sure you fast well. Honestly, if you don't pray one rock after all, we all Ramadan but you fast with excellence, you're better off than all of us, you're better off than all of us. And vice versa doesn't work. It doesn't work if you pray all day, but you don't fast well. Meaning when you allow if you use fasting as an excuse to not do your job properly, or to

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mistreat people or to get upset or to lose your temper or to behave in ways that are not becoming of a Muslim then No, you didn't fast the way you should fast, fast with excellence that requires you to actually think a little bit about your circumstances. Think about your environment. Think about your daily routine, think about who you're spending time with and where you're going because certain things will induce or encourage certain behaviors. So in Ramadan if you're gonna fast properly, you have to think about that. Where are you spending your time? Well I'm spending time in this area over here the likelihood of me saying something wrong or doing something wrong hearing something wrong or

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saying something is very high because that's what this place is so if I want to find some excellent maybe I don't go there very often. Maybe I don't spend too much time there because I don't want to I want to put myself at risk to look or hear or say or do something that I will regret later and ruin the the important the and the the chance of my fasting getting accepted so that's number two. Number three

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enjoying the Quran. Please enjoy the Quran in Ramadan that's what Ramadan is for. If you were going to just replace Ramadan with one word you would replace it scholars would say some scholars say so yeah. And then some scholars say Quran because some scholars look at Ramadan and say the only reason Ramadan is Ramadan is because the Quran was descended within it. That's it. That's why it has the status it has meaning Ramadan status is based on the fact that within it the Quran was sent to the profile it because within it the Prophet Allah has talked to some received first time revelation within it Bismillah the color the color color color inside I mean Allah that was that's the

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relevance of Ramadan because the Quran was that's why when Allah subhanaw taala speaks of Ramadan Jahanara Medina let the wounds Zita feel Quran like the verse, the only verse that talks about the month in the whole Quran within SOTL Baqarah the month of Ramadan, which within it the Quran was descended. That's how it defines it first before Ramadan talks about before he talks about the fasting piece and that if you're a witness that you fasted, he talks about the Quran.

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So enjoy the Quran Ramadan, if there is a barrier or if there is a distance between you and the book of ALLAH SubhanA which Allah use it or move on to close it. There's a gap close that gap between you and the Quran.

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To me is one of the saddest things in the world, for there to be Muslims who don't enjoy that.

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That pure peace of righteousness and truth that that is just right there for you to pick up and read for you not to enjoy what the prophet Allah you saw the legacy of Rasul Allah, Allah usato. So this is legacy this what he left behind, this is what he made sure that would arrive at your doorstep is what he made sure you're going to have. Now he didn't. He said a lot of things. He's taught a lot of stuff at least I certainly wasn't too obsessed about people memorizing them, but when it came to the Quran, he was he needed people to write it and to memorize it and to recite it back to him and to lead prayer with it because you want to make sure that you will have the Quran because nothing,

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nothing comes even remotely close to it. There's nothing that can be compared to the Quran. There is nothing that has any value when you put it up against the

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Nothing can hold a candle to the Quran and if you don't enjoy the Quran you don't love the Quran is not something that you live with and you don't find it beauty when you open it and read it you don't reflect or contemplate or look for answers within it that I don't know what we're doing. I don't know what benefit you you're taking from this Deen, I'm not and I feel that that now your your your the past is to last now. You're to the future way too far you're way off. You're way off course I don't know what the Google Maps is telling you. But you're off course yucky. If the Quran is not important to you, if you don't enjoy it, if there's not something you eat open every day you recite

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pieces of and you reflect upon it.

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Like there's not much left of the, of the dean.

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Everything that I everything we do in any masjid, the the, the ultimate goal is just to clarify, clarify for you what all Allah that's it. Everything we're doing every lesson, every course and every activity and all of the programming all of it. The goal of it as the end is so that you understand better and can practice better. What Allah Allah whatever Allah subhanaw taala has said, so enjoy the Quran, recite the Quran in Ramadan, try to memorize parts of the Koran Ramadan, commit yourself to listening to the citation during Genovia make sure that you're attending something so you're learning the meanings of the Quran. Even if you just take one surah and all of Ramadan if

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you're someone who's very young, you there's a huge gap in the language, the problem and the time is a problem in memorizing, take us through just one and just commit yourself within Ramadan to learn it, to learn to read it, to understand it, to enjoy it and to love it. And that will be very I will not.

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I'm going to ask you to try and develop this because this is what the prophet Allah has also taught the Sahaba to do. It's called the Hezbollah, you open the Quran, you'll find the word is it's like on the side. And it refers to a certain amount of the word has which means amount and amount of verses. That's the nomenclature for it. But the Prophet alayhi salam, when he used the word with the Sahaba, what he was referring to was a daily amount of Quran that they had to read.

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It's not fun. Obviously, there's no there's no obligation when you're Islam, one of them is not reading the Quran daily. But it's something that he would ask him them to commit themselves to. And then he would tell them, if you miss it, you make up for it the next day. First thing, first thing you get up in the morning, first thing you do we recite your husband, the Quran that you didn't recite at the time you should have done it. And every Muslim must have must and I use the word must. And the word should. Are there any other aggressive words that I should be using it must and should and all those have a small amount of Quran that you read daily, it the amount is not something that

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anyone is going to tell you what it is whatever you want. Whatever works for you a verse fine a verse, When I when I doesn't matter, just make sure every day there's an amount of Quran that you're going to read in Ramadan, aim high, read like a just try to get the 100 million. If that's too hard for you maybe get something less. But then once you're done of 30 days doing that, you can reduce the amount and hold on to a baseline of maybe a page a day or half a page a day. Something I'm not talking about memorization memorization is something you choose to do or you choose not to. Especially if you're bit older is not that important, but I care about you read you open you read

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you contemplate you reflect and then you try and most importantly obviously practice what you're actually reading in the book of Allah enjoy the Quran because that's definitely it there's nothing that's more important that number four Dalian vocations are the word. Make sure that on a daily basis, you have a certain amount of God that you perform with ALLAH SubhanA wa remembrance of Allah subhanaw taala as always a invocation is like doing this via Subhan Allah Al Hamdulillah Allah Allah Allah or Allahu Akbar, Allah Allah Nebby Allah you salatu salam ala Stubblefield Hola, hola hola. Level or has to be hola hola Milwaukee or whatever it is that you find means something to you. But

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the prophet Allah is awesome ensured that every Muslim that all of his companions had his daily amount they recited a daily mantra of hate every day, and a daily with an amount of invocation that they practice every single day. I teach this to a lot of people to try and learn to have a certain amount of invocation that they do daily. Honestly, there's no better time to learn to do this than Ramadan. People who start outside Ramadan, they struggle it takes them six, seven months to actually get it done. You start in Ramadan, it works out almost immediately. Because Amazon is very good. It disciplines you, you can do a specific word after because you're awake anyways, you're gonna wake up

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for your soul and half insulin pray, you're half awake, you can totally do a word and then right after the Muslim after you pray, and after you eat until they shut you out, like this hour or half an hour and nothing's happening and you just you can just sit there and do a word. So Ramadan organizes your day for you. So you can totally get that in. And then if you do that Ramadan, hopefully, if you if you learn the point of Ramadan or building habits, you'll continue that daily invocation or that weird after Ramadan moving forward, you'll you'll have a baseline that you can build upon. So please do that. I am a Muslim without a husband without a word.

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Not sure how, what that means. That is a Muslim without a husband aware that this is a Muslim that did not exist previously in the world. But I don't know exactly how they're going to function well, because you have to

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To have that connection with the book of Allah daily you have to have a connection with Allah subhanaw taala Almighty himself every day

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number five investing in Salah.

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How are you going to do this number one is we're going to do, you're going to try and get as many GEMA as possible a day as many as possible. You can start thinking, well what is my day like? How many times can I pray Jamal? Sometimes it doesn't mean you have to come to the masjid. Sometimes you do it at home. Sometimes you can do it at school, sometimes you're at work. Sometimes you have no choice to do it alone. We're going to try and get as many GEMA as possible. And for the men specifically, you'll try and come to the message as many times as possible, but the sisters are home who do you have at home? Your mother you have kids pray Gemma, you have a roommate pray with her

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Gemma. Yep, find small groups as much as much as possible in Ramadan, you tried to pray Gemma as much as humanly possible. That's why you come to the message as much as you can come for pleasure. Try to come for Asia, obviously. And then if you're away, I've done work early, come Froslass you try and come as many times as you can. So you can get the pleasure of Jamar to invest in your Salah. And a part of that is totally

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that you make sure you find a masjid close by high likelihood if you're going there every day, make sure that the Imam is going to recite the full document meaning that they're going to read the whole Quran throughout the month, commit yourself to the end, pray, practice makes perfect. If you're not praying well now, well, you have 30 days of roughly 300 to 600. Like I'm pretty sure you will be better at the end of Ramadan than you are no, just by the simple merit of just doing it every single night, you'll learn something, you'll pick up a technique you'll figure something out, you will find some way to beat him to allow the experience of praying to be a little bit better for yourself

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because you're gonna be doing it all the time you'll learn to do it better. Invest in yourself.

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There's no act of worship that is more valuable than salah. Honestly, what we are seeing today in ourselves in the Muslim world and the world in the way that we've treated Salah has been is almost criminal. The way that we've turned it into an extremely Yanni mechanical, habitual sequence of movements with words that are being said that there is no reflection upon at all. There's no contemplation about these words, we don't even care what's being said we're not even connected to it. It's such a problem.

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Fixing that can only start in Ramadan honestly, like to actually get it fixed, actually start changing things. Just start making your prayers a little bit longer. And start thinking a little bit about Fatiha to actually understand why you're making these movements and what you're saying within them so that they mean something to you. There's no better time than Ramadan

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is but honestly, there's no better time than doing it then then in the month of Ramadan. Because shaytaan is not there. So you're just struggling with one enemy. It's just your nurse that doesn't like doing anything that doesn't see the immediate gratification for so you just have to train it a bit. No, this is helpful. This is helpful for us. It's very therapeutic, it will do a lot for us. Invest in your Salah, especially if you're younger and a lot of what I'm saying if I'm talking to my younger audience here, I have no excuse for you. I accept no excuses for you not to be praying. I need at least two Salah in the masjid a day for Jalan Asha and for you to stand for a full Tarawa.

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Allah has zero excuses.

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I don't see an excuse for you. And Ramadan, if you're busy. Come and challenge me. Okay. I'll challenge you to a busy schedule. If you can prove you're busier than me don't come anymore. If you can't, then you stand less like me in the Arabic the same so I can be next to him all the luck. As I'm going to treat you equally. It was equally if you can prove that you have more on your plates in terms of time and hours. Come on, don't come. But if if you're not, then you have to be here. You have to stand not here, wherever. Pray, just make sure that you find it. Find a place to do it and stand with the moment till the end. Your Your feet are hurting, good. You're tired, even better,

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will lie the more tired and the more pain the better. Especially if you're young. That's amazing. There's no other way for you to learn discipline will lie. There's nothing that you'll remember growing up besides that, like there's nothing that will stay with you. Except those nights where that you were you were sleep deprived. You're you're tired, you have so much to do you still showed up and he still stood for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. Because if you don't do it now telling me please, when are you going to do it when you're older? What are you talking about? When you're older, when you don't have the same when you're busier and you have children and you have less

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energy and your knees don't work as well? No, now you do it now. You know if I can if I'm here on call, then you better be here too. We stand and we pray together and we figure it out.

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I say this I say this because I feel I feel bad. If I feel bad that if you don't experience this, that I'm cheating you out of something. Like I feel like I don't push you to do this then at some point in the future you'll you're not only will you regret it, you'll wonder why we didn't. Let me tell you a funny story. So we used to do used to do tahajjud like in domestic drivers in now. It's a pilot 10 years ago now. We used to pray like a full Hitman tahajjud we used to do a full thing we'd read every night three just like the last two nights three years only. We do six

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Like I have a job

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and we pray we'll take we'll take like around two and a half hours so it'd be a long night it was really nice oh everyone who attended that never forgot it till this day they still do it like even though I'm not there they still do it because it's just it was so it was very meaningful to everybody and I didn't do it myself like they people the Shabaab were doing it would hold the Quran and read to have witches like they would they would lead just reciting the Quran will do it and it was to how you would move move longer. So I was praying behind one of the Shabaab was doing it it was like I think the fourth or fourth Raka

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and I'm praying beside a young man his name is a smile is not my brother another guy. So he makes the Jude

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we come up this many doesn't come up

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so in my mind Yanni because he I was always worried about him and his you know where he was and I'm like to come to the law, he must have done his must he must be really enjoying his dua but then after sitting there for like 30 seconds I'm like is He's enjoying it too much now, he probably should come up and then we go is Allah gonna go down again and he's still in the first one doesn't come up. And then we come up again and it was Allah Azza Lacan, he's still down, that I'm gonna go we're done. I push him on, he just falls over. He was Yanni in a deep sleep. In a deep sleep, he had no idea where he was when he woke up, he was completely disoriented, he had no idea where things

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were happening.

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So that's what I'm accepting expecting of you. I'm expecting you praying until that until that is where you can't pray anymore you to lie down you go lie down, especially if you're young. Invest now invest in the spirituality now. Enjoy the beauty of it, experience, the closer the connection with Allah, Allah now, so that this will continue to live with you moving forward. So that later on in your life, you're able to kind of always go back to moments that were meaningful to you to something that you built with Allah subhanaw taala that you invested in remembering that you were tired during those time and you invest in your Salah invest, there's no better time than Ramadan to to do this.

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Now, ideally, Paris or inclination tolerate but that's my three things. So make sure your daily prayers are perfected. There's no point of praying to Allah we have you're missing vigil or you're missing votary missing acid or your Flint? No, no, don't sleep through Sarwat please, because it's Ramadan is a funnel. If you want to pay total, we want to accelerate you accepted, make sure your daily prayers are taken care of at least, and do them in congregation as much as possible, especially if you're young, and you're gonna come to the masjid

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at least for federal and also in Asia. And those two are musts. And then you have the hokhmah. Number six,

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finding your knowledge, there was always a really good time to learn things.

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Your brain, your brain, and your mind will work way better when you're fasting. You don't know it, but I need to try it. And you'll see when you're when you're not preoccupied with eating, when you're not just before a meal, or just after a meal or in between meals, that your brain seems to have more space to kind of focus on other things. So learn in Ramadan, commit yourself to daily lessons, whether it may be in a masjid, and honestly every Muslim in the city has daily lessons by the sheikh or running it so it doesn't matter. I'm not again, nothing I'm telling you is about you coming here. We are very little space here. This is not what I'm trying to encourage. But I want I

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want you to do is to go to the closest place to you commit to where you can and then find out what the schedule is and stick to it. There are daily lessons everywhere commit to something and if not, if no one who is speaking intrigues you find something that's happening online, but commit yourself every day to a certain amount of knowledge. Learn something new every day in Ramadan. Why? So that you can continue this after Ramadan because Muslims are lifelong learners and they don't allow themselves to go through a day without picking up a new piece of knowledge. Or they learn something about themselves or about Allah subhanaw taala about their Deen so they draw themselves closer to

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Allah. That's how they are. So you can't it's hard to start that sometimes I would say from Allah started Ramadan, everyday Ramadan, listen to something. And then after Ramadan, you can't do the half hour hour that we were doing a robot, you'll take 10 minutes after we're gonna go just listen to something everyday, 10 minutes of something, increasing your amount of knowledge. So make sure you expand your knowledge of whether it's reading a book, whether it's you know, following up a blog written by someone who's adding something, or some Islamic value, or listening to lessons, we run a lot of stuff year after function and before Asia come to whatever you want. And we'll be putting out

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the schedules for the other massage. And so you can attend the different routes that Jamal is your executor, and chef and the document will be given. So just attend wherever you can. And make sure you commit yourself to something. It's the commitment that I'm looking for is the grid. Just the fact that you'll come you'll show up every day for something you'll sit and listen. Not always fun. Sometimes you'll show up to something it wasn't doing. It'll be amazing. They'll have a great time you'll talk about it some other time, you'll sit there trying to stay awake, completely boring. The speakers like me as nobody was doing. And then you're just just trying to get through it. But you're

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getting the idea of sitting, you're getting the idea of doing knowledge seeking and that on its own is huge.

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We don't remember 99% Of anything we listened to. Right? Imagine what's going on in this world. 99% it was being said 99 point a lot of other numbers. We don't remember any of it. I can't remember almost anything any chef ever told you maybe little snippets here in there. You know gems of wisdom that I asked about. I don't remember I remember how it felt. I remember the environment but in Ramadan you will mark my words in Ramadan and things you attend Ramadan will stick with you certain things you will

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And Ramadan will stay with you because of the blessing of the month. But it's not really just what you hear. It's the fact that you attended that you committed yourself and that you were willing to seek knowledge and Allah says Allah grant you wisdom and grant you gratitude knowledge, even if you don't even know you're getting it. Number seven, reviving relationships, revive your relationships, the ones that matter. Revive the relationship with your parents if they're not doing well. You don't have good relation with your parents try to revive that Ramadan it's a good time. Good time everyone calms down a bit in Ramadan, here's a little bit better in Ramadan is a good time to try and do

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that. If you have relatives or people that are related to you that you have not communicated with for a long time and you know, you should friends that you cut off that you probably shouldn't have cut off and it was a bad way of ending it. revive your relationships. Even Mr. Wood tells us that it is a crime for you to enter Ramadan, not Sunni Masada for you to enjoy Ramadan with any grudge up towards anybody. He would say this is a crime is the worst thing you can do. Never ever allowed this to be the Prophet of Islam. I chose that and other other Hadith. Don't enter them alone with anything left relationships. Take a look. Is anyone upset? Have you offended people? Did you break

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off stuff that mattered. I'm not talking about stuff that you should have broken off long time ago because it was toxic. That's not I'm talking talking about stuff that you know, should be revived, but you're just too lazy, or you're a bit you know, I mean, ashamed or embarrassed or not motivated to fix it before Ramadan, pick up the phone and fix these things. And to Ramadan with it with a clean heart and at the Ramadan with religion and use Ramadan to revive those relationships. Because it's a good, it's a good, it's a good opportunity, right? Like if you pick up the phone and talk to someone that you haven't talked to in a long time that you should, and that maybe are a little upset

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that you're not you can always pick up and say Could I want to credit somebody wanting to kind of and then that's, that's, that's your that's your segue using the Modan to revive your relationships and, and obviously we've talked about there may the most important one which is related with Allah subhanaw taala. But interestingly, Allah Allah, interestingly enough, Allah subhanaw taala cares about the relationships you have with the people in your life. It cares about your relation with your parents, your siblings, your spouse, your children, your cousins, your aunt's your uncle's people, people he cares about that relationship part of your reviving a relationship with Allah is

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reviving it with people around you. And maybe letting things things go, and maybe forgiving and forgetting, maybe just kind of getting over stuff. Maybe realizing that life is too short to hold a grudge and to bother yourself with what someone said or what someone did. revive your relationship with number one. Number eight,

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being of service and being of service.

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Sir Ramadan is a really good time for you to jumpstart your career in being eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala we are all servants of God. That's what we are. There's no other definition to me. On my profile, I'm a servant. It's all I am.

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In the universe that ALLAH SubhanA created, that is my designated role. I am a servant. Being a servant means I must be of service. And since Allah subhanaw taala cannot be served physically, and honestly, there's nothing I can do that will add any value to Allah subhanho wa taala. He explained to us that the only way to be served to be of service to Him is by being service to others. That's the only way to do it.

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The way you serve Allah subhanaw taala is how by serving people learn to be of service of Ramadan, think of how you can volunteer where you can volunteer, when you can volunteer. Think about something that motivates you think of an active service that you would like to offer something that you'd like to do. It doesn't have to be something huge. I'm not talking about something simple. Sometimes it can be just

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a soup kitchen or it can be at the door of a masjid just holding the door. It can be helping with parking could be it could be it could be if you have a little bit if you don't want to tutor if you if you if you have some expertise in some discipline that you want to teach someone who know a little bit of karate want to teach a few kids in your house, maybe you've memorized it and you know it and others don't. And there's a couple of young kids in your in your family that don't know the Quran, you bring them to your house every day you teach them a little bit.

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You teach them because you don't know it just I'ma teach some kids don't be of service. Do something of help that helps others do something that's not for you. It's for you. Here's the here's the product problem is totally for you. It's 100% all self serving at the end. Because it's not you're going to cash in later. It's just a matter of when you're going to cash in. So the idea of actually being self selfless is almost ludic, it doesn't exist. It's just being it's just being selfless for a short period of time which is your life and then you're gonna be selfish later and cash in and all of that but learn to be of service and Ramadan, start changing your mentality stop you're taking

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awhile to make sure that you're just giving as well.

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And I would like to ensure law especially my younger brothers and sisters, think of this find ways you can be of service to others and can be helpful. Number nine, learn and I love this towards the end because I want to do need to make make sure you learn how to make da da make sure it's an art is a very, very specific art. i Every animal done within tahajud I give like exercises and I help help teach people how to make draw. There's different ways to kind of learn how to do it, but you have to learn to do this and everyone will

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have a different journey and how they'll make how they will make and how they will kind of progress and how they will evolve in their relationship with Allah subhanaw taala is the conversation between you and God is what God is doing is you speaking to Allah subhana wa Tada is not the idea of I want something so I'm gonna keep on asking until I get it. If I don't get it, then I'll stop asking altogether. Or when I get it, I don't care anymore, do I it is a continuous conversation. We're always speaking to Allah. So you're always speaking to Allah, you are explaining your fears, you are expressing your hopes and your ambitions and your desires, and your challenges and your problems

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you're bringing to his doorstep. subhanaw taala all of the struggles that you're going through all the pain and the agony that no one will embrace, but him Subhanallah once you understand that, no one truly took no one truly, truly will ever understand you. And no one will ever truly fully, you know, carry the way you would want them to care about you because we're human and we're very selfish. The only one who will truly embrace your pain is Allah subhanaw taala. When you take it to anywhere else, you're actually humiliating yourself, we will take it to others before you take it to Allah Subhanallah you're harming yourself, take it to Allah first. He is the one who wants to hear

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about it. He is the one who wants to embrace it, and he will listen and he will respond to you. And then if you need help, obviously you support help you look for support and you get friends and family and, and professionals to help you with what you're going through. But turn to Allah first. Because no one no one truly understands you and understands your challenges and will embrace the pain that you have besides Allah subhanaw taala and that's what dua is, do is you speaking to Allah Subhan Allah, you don't have to look for sure. I don't have to give a lesson on you, honestly, because you're it's not even something that you shouldn't be teaching doesn't even know who you are.

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It's just, it's when you fully realize who you're speaking to. And about what, that's when you have for sure, it's just a realization, it's a clicking moment. When you feel it, you fully understand that he sees everything, he knows everything. There's no point in keeping this you know, this charade going on. And the longer you speak to Allah with the with the Genuity of who you actually are, understanding what he possesses and what you don't and then you'll you'll have it you'll have it will be the easiest thing ever. It's honestly just like a it's a natural consequence of understanding what it is. You're gonna comprehend who you're you're speaking to and what you're

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asking for and how weak you are actually are and how can you divine he is subhanaw taala you just open up learn to do this because you if you don't learn it in Ramadan, you will not learn it in any other time. Honestly, it has to start in Ramadan I almost I can almost swear by it by it has a certain Ramadan, begin from the first night making dua make dua daily make dua when you break your fast that's a really important moment. Make two out right before Fajr. Make dua during Ramadan, you're making sense. You'd put your head down and ask every time he makes you to ask, what are you worried about? Let him know what you're worried about you or my family or my children or my parents,

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whatever it is, whatever that is that moves you that moves you and ask him to speak who wants you to speak?

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Oh my gosh, we don't understand that when you talk go to people and you ask them for support. They'll say yes, but they don't want to but he does. How are you going to do this before you go to Allah subhana wa Tada speak, learn the art of the out because because there's no better time in the world than Ramadan to learn to do this and we'll talk about this more during Ramadan and help you out. It's fine your heart in Ramadan if your hearts lost if you haven't experienced a true or meet a meaningful, genuine moment in a long time find your heart and Ramadan look for it, look for it amongst all of the whatever else is covering it. Go and although with all the clutter and all the

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garbage that's inside just to fish for your heart fine and brush your heart off and speak from it speak through your heart to Allah subhanho wa Taala and you'll find you'll find an amazing result when you do so. Number 10 worship by planning now worship Allah by planning a Ramadan is a good time to plan we don't have in Islam there's no such thing as New Year's resolutions and all this Ramadan, Ramadan comes and you plan out the year Ramadan, okay, this is what I'm gonna be, I'm no longer gonna be this person. I want to be someone better. Here's how I'm going to do it. I'm gonna start improving. Now I'm gonna like to jumpstart you, okay, start fasting, start praying, you'll start

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doing it automatically you started you're already better. By the first law, you're already a better person right then in there. So now it's only uphill from here and you just keep on planning. I'm gonna do this change that remove that and I completely get rid of this. I'm going to commit to this, this change this friend, that person and then you plan things out you become better and worship Allah Allah likes to be worshipped by plans. That's what intentions are. I start with intention. I'm ending with plan. It's the same thing if you understood my talk to begin with the same idea, I'll end with that inshallah Tada. And show our first night will be hopefully as far as things are going

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Wednesday night in sha Allah will be added there'll be a dose before tarraleah Wednesday. So even though we're not fasting Wednesday, but I'll start the dose that night because I'm explaining every night in sha Allah with the verses are going to be talking about and some important verses for you to kind of contemplate and I'll leave up the planet for you to physically move forward. This

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will leave up the whole plan for if you want to take a picture or keep it there. We'll see you