Sheikh Abu Usamah explains to us about the description of Prophet Muhammad SAWS; delivered at the Green Lane Masjid on February 8, 2017.
Abu Usamah At-Thahabi – The Description Of The Prophet SAWS
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chapter number 39. On chapter number 38.
That is the chapter dealing with
my jet Fe Konami Rasulullah sallallahu. It was sudden and fi at summer.
And that is the chapter pertaining to the conversations that the Prophet used to have southern la while he was setting them and nighttime.
A summer is a discussion that someone has during the night. The word itself shows the precision of the Arabic language. Because if you were to use this word, in any of his shapes, any of its forms as a race to the wasn't in Arabic, a person who hears this word being used, he knows that it's describing some discussion that takes place at nighttime.
And the wisdom of the bat is that talking during the nighttime is something that is disliked unless it's being done for a religious reason.
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who has been sent as an example locka cannula confederal Sula, he was swept on Hassan attune you have in the NABI the Rasool Salah was a perfect example is a
perfect example.
So in everything that he did, anyone who was trying to go to Jannah if you implement his sunnah, whether people are doing it or not, then it's going to be in your best interest inshallah. So from his sunnah was that he used to discourage the community from staying up after South Asia unless it was necessary. And that was so that he can get sleep, and then get up for the pm on lane. Because the Kiama leave was a part of the personality of the Muslim back then. It was something that was
granted that you're going to do to emulate and if the Companions rather your lover I knew found out that a person was not making camo leave if the seller found out person was making camo leave. During that time, it was a cause to criticize that individual. As it happened with the Prophet himself, so the lady was setting him when he said about his brother in law. His wife is Hafsa the center the daughter of Irma Abdullah bin Rama, her brother from mom and said to the sister, his wife, Salah
lady was sited near Raju, Abdullah, even Omar know who lambda took a Salah Abdullah Abner medical is a good man. Only if he didn't abandon the prayer. And the prayer that he abandoned was the piano lay. When Hafsa told her brother about what the Prophet said southern lady was setting them up to live in her mind said I never abandon Cameroonian after that for as long as I lived.
So that the person doesn't come and say It's haram to speak after a chat. You can have a lecture after a shot. You can have any chi after each shot. You can have any function afterwards.
chat is where do you have to go to bed immediately after Isha? Anything that is done after Isha, then it is either haram or crow. These Hadith show that that's not the case. If there is a reason for a person to have some Cannan at the salon of Alicia then it's permissible if it's something that he's doing that it can only be done at that time and it brings benefit to him his family society, then it's permissible. And Imam activity the rahmatullahi tylee only brought in this chapter to
Hadith. One of which
someone's wedding Mercedes, his car is blocking the main gate of the parking lot.
And he managed to remove the Rahmatullah heater and I knew he brought only two Hadith in this chapter. But one of the hadith
is one of the longest Hadith, in the Sunnah. And it's definitely longer than any other Hadith that Imam Telemedia has brought up to this point. And it's one of those complicated Hadith from the angle of the words that are being used. So we'll deal with the first Hadith and that is the idea of our mother, Isha. May Allah be pleased with her. She said one night, there are Sol sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he started to relate an astonishing story to his wife who started telling his wives during
the nighttime about an amazing, astonishing stories. So it was reported that one of his wives commented by saying Yato Sula, this story is an astonishing story. It is as astonishing as the stories of Cole Rafa. His story is like the story of Kurata the Prophet says of Allah, why do you say to them, Do you actually know the original story of Kurata where it comes from? It said that the Prophet says on the line, he was LM Kurata was a man from the tribe of Audra,
whom the gin they kidnapped this man his name is horror, often the jinn kidnapped them and took them away. They kept him with them for a long time. And then they returned this man who are offered back to his people. So Hurrah for began to relate the wonders to the people that he had known and came to knowing that strange things that he saw during his stay with the jinn. From that point on the people began to call every story that was incredible or too much for the mind to handle. They will call it
Karratha and the Arabic language, the word horror Rafa, hurrah, fat, it's like those crazy things that people believe in like superstitions, the crazy things
and they can be simple and they can be astonishing and complicated for an example. Rafa is a person taking a black ribbon and tightening on the pipe of his car, the door of his car and the mirror of his car, believing that the black ribbon will protect his car from the evil I have from an accident. That's hurrah fact. Harada when the person makes the event, and he says, I shudder when Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. For a person to believe in the religion that if he kisses his lungs,
and he touches his eyebrow, his eyes will never go blind. That's hurrah fact. That's called our fact.
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Come in, sitting down. Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah who work who Hora fact, all of that is horrified. But it has to do more with the crazy things that people do or people believe. Now some people they do things that aren't innovation, but it has a basis for it. So you won't call it hurrah, fat, for example, making a dua after every father to prayer, the person raises his hand and they make community dua, that's an innovation but it's not called a fact, because they are a hadith that
encourage you to raise your hands when you make dua. They're just doing it wrong at the wrong time in the wrong place in the wrong mode. They take general Hadith and add it to a specific situation that's not caught off that caught our fat, I think is the best way to describe it. As I say all the time Hocus Pocus, that's what I thought flying on a on a magic carpet and believing in that rubbing the lamp and the genie comes out like that and says make three wishes and you'll be okay. All of
that is Cora effect. This hadith that Al Imam Mr. Miyagi brought in as a hadith that is not authentic as problems in the chain of narration. So the snad is problematic
A number of people in the chain the chain of narration, as well as the mitten, and the actual words of the Hadith are problematic. After hearing this story, the wife of the prophets of Allah incident one of them said goddess Allah, these words are the words of whole Rafa your camera's Hora fact no one is going to say that from the wife of the Prophet SAW said Allah. If someone were to describe an authentic sunnah as being Korat, that can be called from the lie disbelief in you can possibly go
out of the realm of Islam. Someone comes and tells you a seven who Mariam, he was raised up to a linings in the cement and the heavens and he's going to come back down at the end of time. If someone says to you, that's what effect do you believe in that? This can lead you outside of the realm of lsn anything that's hard, complicated, difficult to comprehend to get your head around? If a person says that's what I fat get out of here with that Cora fat. If you describe the words of the
Quran, or the Sunnah has been horrified. This is a sign and can be an issue that puts the person outside of Al Islam. How was one of his wives Salallahu Salam, who knows what Allah has said in the Quran, where my young Tico and Hawa in Hawaii, Eli, why you new ha. He does not speak based on his desires, how can he be caught off that he doesn't speak on his desires? He speaks as a result of Revelation, his sunnah, and the words of his sunnah revelation. So if you came, you say that, and
that's a problem. And you're far away from those Arabs who lived during his time, son Allah, who it was settlement of their law and whom the Bedouins especially, who used to come to him and they were here, hook butter hijab,
and he would embrace Ellis lamb just from his hot button Hijra. He would read the Quran to the kuffaar Quraysh. Many of them will put their fingers in the ears and they will make noise they will make faces poor faces and do all kinds of things. But they will some people will go and they will listen and they will embrace al Islam
and the strength of the Pyrrha of the NABI SallAllahu sallam. So the point here is this hadith is not authentic, but you will find this hadith spreading around amongst the Sikhs and amongst the rings of the people who don't put a lot of emphasis on knowledge and their religion is what I thought the religion of the people have to So woof is a religion of Rafah.
It's called Raafat. And that they have a cache, they come to know about things based upon how it smells, how it tastes, a dream you had building your religion on dreams. Your decision on dreams is from Hora fact, no one does that. I'm going to make a decision that's really important. Get married, don't get married, name the child listening the child that invest, don't invest. And I'm going to do it by opening up a page and putting my finger somewhere and making a decision. That's what I think
that people have intelligence people of Islam are discouraged from behaving in this crazy irresponsible way that people have Cofer. They are under stuff. Whereas lsfm is the religion of knowledge. Jatropha Allahu levena Amande Minco, Medina all to learn the Rajat those people have Eman and they do right is ds and they've been given knowledge Allah raise him up over everybody. So everybody's encouraged to have knowledge of the basics of the religion not to let your religion be
the religion of course affect people too. So with that's their religion.
So anyone in the audience at any particular time, he could be hidden. That's what I've had. Yeah. That is not on the scene by the Lord of the Kaaba. So stop believing that it is here. Prophet Muhammad is sitting here SallAllahu it was setting them and all of those crazy things that people have come up with the next Hadith honey, as I told you, is one of the longest Hadith in the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa It was said that it is known as the hadith of ohm Zahra, there
are certain Hadith because of the theme, the scholars gave it one word and everybody knows what that hadith is about. The hadith of Jabril. One example,
that hadith is well known the Hadith of the icier, a young boy who had been hired to work for man and in the absence of the man, the young boy committed fornication with his wife, may Allah be pleased with all of them. A Hadith of the I see you don't have to go through that long Hadith. You know, Hadith I see what it's talking about. And this is the hadith of ohm Zahra.
The scholars of Islam they dealt with this hadith in explaining that it's been collected by the Imam Bukhari and Muslim obviously Al Imam, maybe hygiene
And Futter Batty, he did a very extensive job talking about the benefits of the Hadith. And the Imam and no, we didn't talk a lot as much as Ibn Hubbard did but nonetheless, you have to give this hadith is it's happening in terms of the attention that it deserves because there's a lot and Eve also was explained in a book by itself by different scholars probably the most famous of which is an Imam Al kadhi. Yard wrote a book about this bullier to Al Mohammed limited the men who Hadith ozada
mineral for White. The point here is the scholar sickcare this hadith what I'm gonna do here today inshallah is just read. The hadith shows the virtues of Aisha, Radi Allahu Anhu. And her because she's the one who's actually tell him the story. It's not the Prophet sallallahu Sena, i He was telling me about the incident in which these women came together, and each one of them decided, as women do,
let us come together and talk about our husbands. We're going to tell the good, and we're going to tell the bad and if some of them have good and bad, we're going to share that issue amongst ourselves. So I issued went on and she told the story until she got to the last lady, the mother of Zara, and Zara. And then the Prophet SAW Selim said some words to her that showed her virtues. So this hadith Rasul Allah never said it so Allah he will set it up. It's a story that I Isha is
saying, but the Prophet listened to it. And he ACARA Ania he gave her the tacit approval. So the Sunnah is the thing that the Prophet said, sallallahu alayhi salam himself, the thing that the Prophet did sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the thing that was done in his presence, he saw it, he witnessed it, he heard about it, and then he smiled, or he shook his head, or he commented, given his tacit approval that that thing is okay. So is now refer to as being from his sunnah, although he
was the one who said the thing, read the Alana, in Arabic and Honey, listen to me. You get any Arab, in the city of Birmingham, any 10 Arabs in the city of Birmingham, and you tell them to read this hadith and Arabic, they are not going to understand what this story is talking about.
They are not going to know that normal average Arab, who is educated in Arabic language is not going to come off the street, pick up this hadith, and read it in Arabic, and understand it, be able to translate it and explain it. Because the vocabulary of what's being said is on another level. And the fact that I Isha is telling the story. It's a proven indication that Prophet Muhammad himself said Aladdin Selim was more eloquent than her. He was the reference point for the Arabic language
because he used to say words, they will say, what does that mean? He will educate them and teach them with these words meant that they didn't know. And yet she's still brought a story to the table that in the Arabic language, the syntax of what's being said, the nuances of what's being said, the description and illustration of what's being said, it's on another level. And because of all of those factors, because of all of that, there's a lot of the life and how some of the scholars
understood what some of the ladies were saying. One lady will say one thing, some of the scholars felt and understood, she was praising her husband, like the lady who said, When my husband comes into the house, he comes to the house and he's like a fight. He's like,
a panther, like a black panther. But when he goes out of the house, he's like a tiger, like a lion. So I'm understood that both of those descriptions are positive. Someone that's good, understood, no one description is positive and one is negative. The positive one is him going out into the world. He was brave, he was tough. You know how to deal with people like a lion. But when he came into the house, that path is known for being lazy, just laying down and just relaxing and being lazy.
Whereas some of the other scholars and know the Pampa although he may be lazy, he has a beautiful animal that is sleek and a beautiful animal that is easy going. So a husband is like the individual comes into the house, like all of you husbands out there, when you go into your house, you're real easy going in, you're relaxed, and kids are jumping all over the place. And you don't have anything to say except my shot Allah. That was what some of the people understood. So we're going to read
this to you one in Shala as we go to the next chapter, because it is quite long.
I Isha may Allah be pleased with us. She said that one day
they sat together 11 women
and they made an explicit promise amongst themselves in an agree
He meant that they would not conceal nothing about the espouses, which is a muscular
is a problem for a man to talk about his wife unnecessarily to people, especially men, and for women to talk unnecessarily about her husband's false when they are going to reflect bad on either partner. If the situation has gotten to a point where you have to reveal a person's weakness and his shortcomings, then the religion allows you to do that. And recall the side of him and the other side of him in the chapter but Reba, an Imam and no, we say Lisa Tillery but to fee sit tell Reba is not
in six things. And one of the things that there is no Heba en is when you're making your complaint about someone who did something to you. So she has to go to the judge has to go to the Imams let's go to a welding shop, go to our killer dad or brother uncle. And he she asked it says, my husband did this and this and that. He has to go to a father her brother Yes, to go to the court and say, she did this, she did that she did this. But just to sit around and to kick the willie Bobo, and to
eat the cut and chop it up with your friends in your women, your girlfriends. This is a battery. And the Prophet told us SallAllahu wasallam so that nobody would sit out there and think that we're on this level, none of us do that. He says some Allah why didn't you sell him during his time with those old yet? He said, Do not let any of you sit and describe to his friend, what he does with his wife. The Companions put their heads down, nobody said anything. A lady stood up in the back and she
say yeah rasool Allah, Allah He, the men do that. And the women do that. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam don't do it. For verily the one who does this is like a shape Bong, who has relationships in the middle of the street. So you can't get too deep. When you have problems, you have issues and you want advice from your friend or someone you can get too deep about those things that reflect negatively on your partner is similar to taking your dirty underwear, botica Luffy,
calm the top and the bottom and just put them in the middle of the street who's going to do that.
Billahi alayka, ask all of you, I'm talking about washing them and then put them in the front of the door who's going to do that? What about while they're dirty, even if they're clean, who's going to put his wife's undergarments, a chroma Kamala, in the front of the house, who's going to do that upset a man except the person who's a day you've died miskeen that's the only person who can do it. And the woman who does that she has no Vera, she has no edit, she has no icon. And this is a trait
common with women. She has so many problems, she has so much drama, she doesn't discern who she's going to talk to. So anybody who comes you just start telling issues to the person. So we say, if a person is forced to do that, then we have to seek refuge and Allahu Taala and do it with the right people in the right way. I had a call and she said that these women agreed amongst themselves, we're going to talk about our husbands, which is a bad thing. Because if your husband is good, you're
going to make the other lady want to husband. And if the husband is bad, you show this hour unnecessarily you just sitting around kicking the willie Bobo, we're going to just talk about him just entertainment. Instead of turning on the TV. Let's just eat the flesh of our husbands. They agreed. So they begin, the First Lady said that my husband is like the meat of a lean week camel, which is kept on the top of a mountain which is neither easy to climb, nor is the meat fat, so that
one might put up with the trouble of fetching it. So it was clear. She don't like her husband. Because He's way up like the meat of a skinny camera and even got no meat. He's on top of a mountain. And the mountain is not easy to get to husband is complicated. Maybe he doesn't communicate well maybe treats her like a piece of furniture. But clearly her husband has a problem in her eyes. The benefit of saying that but in the Arabic language as I mentioned when if you listen
to this in English, my husband is like the meat of a lean week camel which is kept on the top of the mountain which is neither easy to climb, nor is the meat fat. So that might one might put up with the trouble of fetching it. The cataloging guy, no meat on it. I even did Mountain is high is He's not worth he's a bum.
That's what she could have said my husband to me is a bum. not beneficial. But she went through all of that was eloquent words saying in a nice way. The second lady said, I shall not relate my husband's News For verily I feel that I should be afraid and I do fear that I may not be able to finish his story.
because if I were to describe him, I will mention all of his defects in his bad treats another lady who's not happy with her husband, she declined to get into the details. But she said Sofia, suffice it to say, if I start talking, I'm not going to stop. And all I'm going to say is bad and negative things about them. So that's enough for you to know where I'm coming from. So husband was a problem. The third one said, My husband is a tall man. And he is useless, due to him being fixated and ill
mannered. He got a big head of her head, thick, nothing goes in, he can't comprehend. Never gets the point. She says, take the N one. He says no, I'm gonna take them for and he always does the opposite. He always get lost. So always a problem. He never listens. And he didn't get the point yet that hey, sometimes we should listen to the handmaidens of Allah, because he's shown time and time again. They're not always wrong. But that's this thing that we have in our mind that she didn't know
she talking about. But they do know what they're talking about at times. So that lady said the third one, my husband is a tall man. And he is a useless man due to him having a thick head and he's ill mannered. If I describe him, and he hears that I described them surely he will divorce me. And if I keep quiet, he will need to divorce me know treat me as a wife. So the third lady, she got a problem. She had fear of her husband though, because she knew if this news got out that she was
talking about him in that ill mannered way, there'll be a price to pay and that price would be he's gonna give you the Talaq, the fourth lady said,
my husband, he is a moderate person, like the night of tea hammer, the night of the hammer. And the Arabian Desert is the night where the previous day was very hot, and people were burning up and in the shade, it was burning up. But when the nighttime came, there was a nice wind that you can fill in, it makes a big difference from what the people dealt with early in the day. So I don't know if any of you have ever been in those types of places like when you go to Mecca, when you go to Mecca,
Mecca is like that sometimes so hot, then the night time comes, and that breeze comes and because it was so hot during the day, the night of the hammer is memorable. So as a result of that they named to the night, and they also give this name to women.
She said that my husband is moderate. He's a moderate person, like the night of tea hammer, which is neither hot nor cold. She said I'm neither afraid of him, nor am I discontented with him. So one out of the four women, she has something positive to say about a man and that was, he's an easy going, man. It's not too hot, not too cold. It's not perfect. And it's not all bad. But I can deal with that individual. The next one, the fifth woman, she said my husband, whenever he enters into the
house, he's like a leopard.
Leopard of fight a leopard. Not a panther, a fight is a panther as well.
She said that my husband is like a leopard. And when he is outside, when he goes out, he is like a lion. He does not ask about the state of his house. So that can be because he's generally an easygoing guy. That's your domain, you handle it. As long as there's no problems in there. No needs no issues to be dealt with. You go ahead and you relax you and bathe, you relax. But some of the scholars say no, this is a battery that the man has movement, because he's like that guy that
doesn't know the electricity needs to be tucked up. The gas needs to be tucked up. You got to go shopping. The refrigerator is a somebody wakes that brother up because his mouth is open. He's gonna start snoring pretty soon.
And then and then Welcome back. Welcome back. So there is that individual, that individual, he doesn't know what's going on in his house. His kids are getting high. His children on Xbox, his children on the internet, they're watching *, or they're doing this daughter's talk to someone she shouldn't be talking to. The man is so
out of tune and out of touch and disconnected that the son took his car, and he drove his car to London.
And his son is only 12 years old.
And he drove his car to London, and the father doesn't even know. So this guy, he could be it could be a positive trait, or a negative trait. Now clearly a 20 the one in which the man comes in and he's easy and he's not an ignited fire. This one is a good thing to be like that in your home. Although everybody in the underbaked from the debate, they should know this is a house of a system. We have an Emir we have an Imam and we have an Amira and we have no vom here. We got respect here,
the way things are going to go but nonetheless, that's what she had to say.
The sixth woman, she said, If my husband eats, he eats too much, leaving the dishes empty. And if he drinks, he leaves nothing, he drinks everything. And if he sleeps, he sleeps alone away from me covered in garments. And he does not stretch his hands to avoid touching my body, as he may see me grief. So there's some good and bad in that guy. He is a bit over indulgent when it comes to eating and drinking. And he's a bit insensitive and self centered, because when he eats, He's everything in
sight. And he doesn't leave anything for her other people. When he drinks, he does the same, he does the same. And that's not a good treat. Obviously, she said also, after eating, he never picks up his plea.
So in our culture, and our culture, where we've come from in Africa, the African woman, she is proud to be a housewife, and to pick up the plate of her husband, if that's the culture, she's getting close to Allah by doing that. But although that may be the culture, and that's her nature, as the coach, and as for nature, she doesn't mind that you actually eat. And while she's doing whatever she's doing, if she's busy, she's washing, she's ironing, she's putting the kids to sleep, whatever
she's doing, she's studying for her master's degree, the final exam, whatever she's doing, after you ate, you got up and you left the plane, she'll come in, and she'll see it without saying anything without having a second thought she'll pick it up, put in a sink and clean it. Second Nature time. Although all of that may be true, it doesn't mean that it's against being a man to pick up the plate into cleaning, and to help. So this lady mentioned that showing that her husband was a person who
was self centered, but she didn't mention something about him that was positive. Along with the negatives, she said about him, that whenever he goes to sleep, he sleeps alone, which is a problem she's seen in a nice way. He doesn't give her haha, the physical Hawk that she deserves, that every woman deserves, just like the man deserves. He sleeps alone, and he wraps himself up in his garment by himself. But when I am sleeping, he never puts his hand out to touch my body. As he may see me
grief. He doesn't want to wake me up. He doesn't want to bother me. He wants he would allow me to continue to sleep. So this has some negative and this has some positive. The second seventh lady, she said, My husband is an impotent wrongdoer. He's weak, and he's foolish, all the defects that a person can have their present in him, he may injure your head, your body, or he may do both.
He has a problem. He's impotent. Which means in Arabic here, he doesn't have the ability to have relationships. So he's impotent. So that's a problem. And in addition to that, he doesn't have style and sophistication. If he goes to kiss her for an example, tenderly, gingerly, he pokes in the eyeball, and the process is too rough, he's too tough. Now, some people just got the skills and some people don't have the skills. When you first start off in your youngster, when you first start off
in your youngster, you tend to be a little bit rough. Like if you're one of those brothers, who we mentioned in the salaat. And you put your foot next to the other people, more than likely when you get married, you're going to be you're going to be hard as nails. So you can practice being gentle right now, by these things like that. Be easy in the salon, be easy when you shake people's hands. Don't be of those people you think you got to shake people's hands, not hard like that. I don't know
what's wrong with some of the Shabaab of our community. But it's a consistent pattern that shows this is just part of the Junoon of the Shabbat, rough in tough, rough and tough. He gets in the car and he slams the door heart, relax, take it easy. Everything is relaxed. So her husband was a problem for many angles. And the one who has a wife and this is his characteristic. The wife is going to complain. If the Husband Husband is impotent. That's an eternal problem. She has to deal
with that serious Allahu Island. And also if he's rough is a problem. The Prophet described the women SallAllahu wasallam as the colorear rift Cundill career the man and Joshua who was writing in the caravan and he was going too fast and the women with with them on the camels, but this man made the pace of the animals go too fast. Prophet Muhammad looked down and called out to me say Yeah, and just shot, respectable career. Take it easy with the bottles the with the with
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gentle vessels, these vessels, these women, they can break easily. The Prophet says that Elijah was said of that. Eve howa was created from the rib and she's crooked. If you go to break her, if you got to straighten it out, you're gonna break up and breaking out is divorcing her. So her nature, hey, emotions, and physically. She's, she's, what's that word? I'm looking for a Sheikh Mohammed G. Bailey wrote the book, what is he call it? Something vessels, fragile vessels fragile, fragile.
She's fragile, emotionally, and fragile, physically. And even when she's strong, because some women, they had to grow up strong, they had to do a lot. Even with those women, they still have those characteristics. And you don't want the one who has dead in her you don't want the one that is dead. So that is what the lady said about her husband, the seventh one. And she had the nicest thing to say, my husband.
Well, not so nice. My husband's impotent, and he's a wrongdoer. He's weak, and he's foolish. Now, Hello, Hola, Quwata, illa biLlah. All of the defects that you can find in a person, you find them in him, and he may injure your head, or your body, or you may do both. He doesn't do the things the right way. He's too rough and too tough. He's always in a race. He's always think that this is the last thing right to stay it easy. And finesse that situation. The eighth woman said
my husband, he is soft to the touch, like a rabbit.
And he smells like Zarina.
And Zara Lab is a nice smelling grass. So she said that my husband is soft to the touch, like a rabbit. And he smells like the Czarna. Now in our culture when he
and I always talk about the permissibility of super imposing our coaches on people and US allowing other people to superimpose on power and as their culture. We have to get to know people. And once you expose, the more you expose, the more you can deal with things. When I personally first saw the Arabic toilet, the Arabic toilet that is down on the floor.
I thought that they broke the toilet. And I said these people can't keep anything, they broke the toilet. And then I didn't know what to do.
So I had to figure it out. Am I supposed to take my pants I don't lie. I'm not doc can't do all of that. And in addition to that, excuse the imagery, excuse the imagery, I'm just sharing with you. In addition to that there was no toilet tissue. Can you imagine?
I'm coming from America, African American, I no toilet tissue, no the other. And there was no toilet tissue, I have to stop the story there. Because I can't tell you how I had to do the thing how I had to do it. But it was a problem. Now if I came out of that place, and he's a rabbit, he's Arabs are backwards, when in fact, that's the best way medically to go to the toilet.
According to those people who have done research and study, when you go to the toilet like that, you put natural pressure on certain organs that help you to really leave yourself in a better way. And that's what the majority of the people in the world used to do. And maybe they still do the majority of the people. Whereas when you sit on the chair, you're taking the pressure off of those organs and you're forcing yourself to strain. Is that right doctor? Is that right? The doctor said it was
right.
So here I'm going to impose what I perceive as being correct. So now this individual, where we come from Africa, wherever we come from, we're going to eat with our fingers, we're going to eat with our hands, we're going to eat with our hands. So when I see someone eating with their hands, where I come from, we don't eat with our hands. That's a sign of being uncalled for and civil Allah and civilized, but the whole country is doing the whole group of people are doing and can come and say
these people are uncivilized. Now I will say the fastest way for you to cause your interview for the new job to go south and to go pear shaped is that if you're eating lunch or dinner with the people who are interviewing you, you start eating with your fingers. Now if you want to jam up the interview, you go ahead and you do that. What I'm talking about is we can't superimpose what we think is correct on other people, white people can't do that to us. The West can't do that to us.
And we shouldn't do that to other people. If this is the norm and this is how they do then as long as if religion was quiet about it, we don't take any position. But when the religion says something about it, we take a position. So we go when we see some places for an
example in Africa, where they put tribal marks in the skin, where they put ink all over the lips, where the women may walk in Africa and other than Africa round, and the * are out. So on the bus, she just starts feeding the baby on the bus. That's the culture. Okay, we're gonna say no, here, we have to draw the line. And we have to say Islamically. It's then came to change this thing right here.
But the fact that a group of people using chopsticks to eat food, we don't know how to hold those chopsticks is complicated. It seems complicated. So we say those people complicated those people, they have this. No, that's not for you to say. And don't allow people to do that to you to make you feel like you're a second class citizen. Because of the things that you were eat drink or the way you are the way you speak. Other than that.
She went on to mention again, that the lady said that her husband was like a rabbit. I would think in our culture, a rabbit. I don't want my wife to describe me as a rabbit. If she said I was like a rabbit. That means I'm weak in our culture, but that's not what she was saying. She was saying that her husband was a fine man. He was a guy who was taking care of his style. He was a stylish man. And plus, he had good smells. So there's nothing wrong with that, because the Prophet heard it. So a lot
he was I mean, he allowed it. But he didn't allow the man to go overboard with that. He says sometimes you should go without oiling your hair sometimes you should go without wearing shoes. Sometimes. He said that a minute. Amen. The word I forgot what the word is. I'm not sure if he said it, but that I want to take that word off the table. He said that this thing was from an amen. And the meaning of this thing is not to groom yourself excessively. The legs lady and we're almost done
here the night when she said my husband is a tall, generous man. And he wears a long strap for carrying his sward. His ashes are abundant and his house is near to the people can easily counsel him or consult him. So this guy right here was the man and that he was tall. He was generous. And his StrikeForce soul was real long, meaning that he was like a warrior and he was a business guy. You don't mess with this guy because he got a long sword to deal with you if you mess with him. So
his wife was pleased with the fact that she had a warrior man and his ashes were many. I think you all know what that means. It means that he had a lot of guests. So the more guests you have, the more you have to attend to the fire to put the coal in the put the wooden so when you live with the Arabs, we live with the Arabs, especially in a place called Hot in in Arabia, but other Arabs as well in Iraq.
Wherever the real Arabs are al Yemen.
They put that Kawa that T thing that God within and the
the stole that they a woman that stuff on, they have to keep adding on keep adding on ashes are going to come more and more more to find it until the ashes away. So when you see a man being described as being a man who has a lot of ashes with the Arabic meant he was a generous man and his house was close to the people so that people can come and consultant they can ask for his advice. So he was an intelligent man and a wise man. So she had very positive things to say about her husband,
the 10th woman said My husband is Malik, he is Malik and what is Malik Malik is greater than whatever I say about him. He is beyond and above all praises which can come to my mind. Most of his camels are kept at home, ready to be slaughtered for the guest and only a few are taken to the pastures. When the camels hear the sound of the lute or the tambourine, they realize that they are going to be slaughtered for the guests. Some of the scholars who narrated this hadith explained it
they said that this 10th woman wanted to do the ninth woman up because the ninth woman she was the first one to talk about how generous her husband was and talked about his chivalry and how he was a boss in terms of the size of his sword and the people needed him. So the next lady wants to show her husband is more generous. First of all, his name is Malik and what would tell you how would you know what Malik is? Malik and she went on to say he's this he's that see that? He got a lot of animals,
but he doesn't take his animals out to pasture to graze and look for water. He takes a few of them out. The other ones he keeps close because he's gonna always slaughter for his guests. And there's a lot of tamarine playing and a lot of flute playing meaning he probably had slaves. He probably had slaves, men and women who were going to play instruments dance for the guests who come. So when the animals hear that, the conditioning like Pavlov's dog, the conditioning, when you hear something
all the time, every time it's associated with something else, you know what's about to happen. So those camels known, someone's about to get slaughtered, because Malik has a bunch of guests that he wants to be a host to. So Malik had a good word from his wife or from the lady that he was with the 11th. One. She is the final one. And we're at the end of the Hadith.
The 11th lady said, My husband is Abu Zahra, and the hadith is called the hadith of Zara, this idea of this lady. The 11th lady said, My husband is Apple Zara. And what is a bizarre mean? And how would you know what can I say about Apple Zara.
She said he has given me many ornaments, bracelets, and my ears are heavily loaded with them and my arms have become fat. Fat, why? Because she eats in a good way. And that she just let herself go and fat in an ugly way. Because the Arabs used to like plump women. So this lady is saying, I got bracelets all on my arms. I have earrings all over the place jewelry and my arms got fat two moms got fat because this man takes care of me and I'm eating. Unlike the other lady who her husband
doesn't feed her and she's stressing. So when people see it, they always pray for it. She said, my husband, he has pleased me. And I become so happy that I feel proud of myself. He found me with my family who were mere owners of sheep, and they were living in poverty and brought me to he brought me to a respectable, respected family. And his family had horses, camels, threshing and purifying and green. And I come from an impoverished background. Whatever I say, he does not rebuke me, nor
does he insult me. Whenever I sleep. I sleep late until the morning. And when I drink water milk, I drink to my field. So today is having the life of Raleigh, where everything is easy for her up into this point.
sleep wake up when I want to wake up, eat what I want to eat, drink what I want to drink, and it doesn't bother me. She says we want to say the mother of Ooza. And how would you know and come to know the reality of the mother loser? What can I say about the mother of zoom? Zara. He said her saddlebags will always full of provision and her house was spacious. As for the son of Abu Zahra, my son, this man son, the son of Abu Zahra. She didn't call the boy her son. She said the son of Apple
Zara because she was so pleased and impressed with her man talked about his mother talked about his son. Now, what will tell you and what can I say about the son of apples? She said his bed is narrow as an unsheathed sword, and an arm of lamb for months satisfies his hunger, an arm of a lamb of four months. The boy can eat that. And he becomes satisfied after being hungry. As for the daughter of Abu Zahra, and what can I say about the daughter of Abu Zahra. She is obedient to her father, and
she's obedient to me. She has a fat well built body and that arouses the jealousy of her husband's other wife. The daughter of Mozart, Mozart got a daughter got a son, daughter is big, so she's mad. She's voluptuous, fat, well built body as a result of that her husband's other wife is always jealous of her daughter. As for the slave girl of Amazon, what can I say about the slave girl of Apple Zara. She does not disclose our secrets, but she keeps him to herself. And she does not waste
our provisions. And she does not leave the rubbish scattered everywhere in our house. She went on to say one day is so happened that Apple Zara went out of went out at a time when the milk was being milked from the animals. So he went out. And when he went out he saw a woman who had two sons, like two leopards playing on her *. They were sitting on her lap, and the two sons were playing with a breast and I was out he saw that situation. And seeing her he divorced me and he married her.
They after I married the noble man who used to ride a fast tight his horse and he used to keep a spear in his hand. He gave me many things and also a pair of every kind of livestock and he said eat Ooza eat as you please and give provisions to your relatives as well. She said yet all those things which my second husband gave me a kitten feel the smallest utensil that abuser used
Give to me.
I ish After navigating this hadith, she said God rasool Allah, rasool Allah,
I should say that Rasul Allah said to her, as she finished the story, yah Isha. I am to you the same way, I Bousada was to OMO Zara. And that was his way of saying that he accepts the story. It's benefiting the story. Nothing wrong with narrating the story. And that's why it's considered to be a Hadith of the Prophet sallallaahu Salam, although he is the one who is narrating and as you can see, each one of those ladies they had something to say and a lot can be extracted from the Hadith, but
just reading these along, takes a long time. So may Allah azza wa jal bless you brothers, for your personal steamer and for your supper.
Some things that were said in this hadith we have to make this clear, like I did said I was, he saw the two kids playing with the breast of the child with the woman, and the other one was in Putin and things like this. And these things are mentioned because the Hadith mentioned it and it just goes to show these are the realities of life, we have to get away. We have to get away from that false hypocritical tequila that we'd be having, where if you mentioned things like a woman's period or
something like that, our elders and people from the community they get uptight. If you mentioned in the context of educating the people, then it is permissible. Okay, when if you brothers have any questions about the hadith of OMO Zara, you can put your question or comments, put them forward. I learned to crochet
now for the year.
There is another narration that the Prophet SAW Selim said, I am like I was, I am like I am like, I will observe I am to you. The way I will observe was to Missoula Zara except I want to voice you that part of the Hadith. Bukhari and Muslim some of the snot in the book, it was some of the scholars, they had an issue with it because he did divorce Asia, and he did divorce Hafsa salAllahu alayhi wasallam. But still, it can be accepted because what he could have meant is I won't divorce
you for another woman. I won't divorce you forever can mean any of those things. But that is a good point. And the science of Hadith that Ziad came and there is some desire, some give and take, is it authentic or not? We accept it and we embrace it. And Allah is Allah will Adam Hi, that was something Allahu wa salam Mubarak. I didn't know Bina why the Isley he was hobby Jemaine was Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
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