Hadith #24 – The Protective Wall of Da’wah

Abu Usamah At-Thahabi


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become to the next Heidi from the book The Darwin the dwad the hadith of Abba hora May Allah azza wa jal be pleased with him. He was one of the illustrious and virtuous companions Ridwan Lai Lee, who as main, he

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set himself aside and above many of the other companions, although we don't say that he's from or better than the 10 that have been promised Jenna, but we love them tremendously because he played a significant role in preserving Forster swinger. He was a companion that memorize majority of the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, despite the fact that he came into a slum late. He accepted Islam seven years after the Prophet Mahendra to El Medina Salalah when he was sent him so he missed 13 years of Mecca and he missed the first seven years of and Medina and yet after embracing Islam in the seventh year, with only three years left of the life of Rasulullah sallallahu

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Sallam Abu huraira memorize and narrated the majority of the Hadeeth

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he was a tremendous companion from those companions is a companion was known by as Konya Abu huraira more than he is known by his name, like a boubakeur people don't know about buck is up to watch. For an example people don't know. I will never have fatty abou Durga. Those are companions, who became known for the Konya more than their name as relates to Abu huraira His name is Abdul Rahman, Abdullah man even will suffer Abdurrahman even who suffer a doozy or dosi. le mme.

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Le A man was from in Yemen. Originally, as I mentioned, he was from those scholars that was a tremendous companion. So anyone who loves the Suna, he loves Anil Hadeeth he loves a sephia then Abu huraira Allah be pleased with him. He is a different companion. He's different, because of the role that he played in preserving the Suna Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the sacrifices that he made in order to become who he became as relates to him being a more Hadith and a *y. Someone who knew this religion, may Allah to Allah be pleased with him, one of the greatest scholars of Islam as a man, even hazal from Spain, even has an he said that he found and he read a book by great

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scholar of Islam by the name of Bucky bluma led to tremendous scholar. He wrote a book called The Muslim like the Muslim, Imam Achmad. So this man, Bucky bluma lead, he has a Muslim but it's been lost. And the mamod Bono has them. Another scholar said that the Muslim devil Eman clearblue, mockolate was also Ashima he was bigger than the Muslim Imam Malik and the man asked me anyway, he mentioned that Abu huraira have 5000 Hadith and the Muslim Burkina Muslim and

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That is a lot for companion to narrate 5000 Hadeeth in a particular book, keeping in mind there are so many other books of Hadith. Now the Muslim that we have now that is the biggest and the best one is the one of an Imam Achmad the most not about him

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in that Muslim, he my acne brought over 3000 hide Eve on and from Abu huraira so they share it format cannamd colo is that Abu huraira is an Eman from the image of the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Robbie Alo I known as mine. Today's Heidi is a tremendous Heidi from the Kalam and Joanne and Kalin. The Prophet said in his son Allah when he was sending them an idea for a commitment Mina is a carrier minha colocar Luca Ravi minha after o re Rahu comma col sallallahu. And he was saying

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he said it's not okay. It's not acceptable for a Muslim man for the husband to hate his wife is not acceptable for anybody who's married to hate his wife. If the Muslim husband sees a character trait, a character flaw in his wife that he does not like that I've even said let him look. And then I'm fine a character trait that he does like this. Hi, Dave has been put in the book about a dour and the dot. And this Hadeeth is a cornerstone from those important ahaadeeth that deal with the issue. attorney said, Alicia, how do you live and continue to get along with your wife.

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So those brothers who are not married, it takes politics yassa takes a particular understanding. It takes a special man to be able to deal with a wife in a good way. This hiraeth is explaining that he should attorney said how to live in harmony with women and ratio. You have those books, a fifth of a hydrate, they always bring this chapter they chat of as a husband, a Muslim man and a Muslim wife. What do you do and now in order to have harmony between the two, based upon the book of Allah and based upon the son of the Prophet sallallahu it was sending this hadith is one of the cornerstones of what the prophet said concerning the one who wants to be successful in his marriage. Salah Allah

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while he was selling, it is not acceptable. It's not befitting for a Muslim man or husband, to hate his wife, to hate her to have animosity towards her to you know, have rank core towards her doesn't want to deal with her talk to her treat her with respect. He hates her regrets the day that he met her. He may have love for her but they just don't get along. So they say terrible things to each other and they deal with each other in a very bad way. Which is common I don't think there's anyone here except that we know people this is their situation. So the nibi of Islam some Allah What are you sending was asked by a man gadol sulla what is the Huck

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a wife over the husband when he told her what he told him shows us there a Shara if you do these things, inshallah, these things that help you to safeguard the love, respect the honor of your wife, the loyalty, you compromise these things, you may or may not have problems, but if we do what he said to do, you will eliminate inshallah and reduce the fitna. If the man doesn't do what he's supposed to do, woman doesn't do what she's supposed to do, it's gonna be trouble. He's gonna hate her, she's gonna hate him. So in regards to this one more time that we mentioned, it is not okay for a Muslim man, I hate his wife. If he sees in her character trait that he dislikes, let them look for

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a character trait that he likes Before explaining him further. Clearly, this hadith is not talking about if he sees that his wife is an innovator. He sees that his wife has a problem in hockey that he sees that his wife is a magician. He's not gonna say, Okay, I don't like this but then you look for something else that I like. He's gonna say no magic lady. If you don't get yourself together, you are here.

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Can't be doing magic.

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So if he sees her doing magic, if he sees on some Hocus Pocus Islam, if he sees her doing things behind his back, it's gonna jeopardize his relationship with his children. They're a slam. She's a fatahna. This highlight is not applicable. He sees from her. She doesn't respect them. She goes out when she wants, she comes back. When she wants. She says what she wants. She has a lot of issues.

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are we telling him to be patient with her or her to be patient with him not saying that we're saying in general and general shorelines we're going to mention when we come to a busy night Hey Tyler, the man said your son loves to hop that the man has over his wife. He said the half that she has over you Abdullah is you feed her from what you feed yourself. So you shouldn't allow yourself to do what some people do. He goes out he hangs out he goes to people's soltana he goes to ag bar over and hagley row he goes to these high end restaurants. But because he has beef and drama and static with his wife, he leaves for her like tuna fish or eggs. And he says they are fed you know, she has to

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eat from what you eat. He said number two from what you wear, you have to dress her and what you wear. So again he wants to go out designer this designer that high end clothes this that latest fashion, and he gives her those bunny clothes and he says hey, I'm clothing you but I didn't say you feed her from what you eat. And you dress from what you wear. And he's saying you shouldn't hit her in the face. And if you do hater the sad is the hidden that doesn't break bones is the hidden that doesn't leave marks. He said well I to cut there is something many men fall short of May Allah help us from the heart of the woman is led to cut there, which means you shouldn't say to a stupid, hey,

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dummy. You're so dumb. You don't have a brain? Did you get one of those brain surgeries, Allah bought me and he took your brain out stupid. He said don't do that.

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If you get upset with your wife, you shouldn't say words like that. He said, number five, you shouldn't make hedger of your wife, except in the bed. Now if you make 100 from your wife and you leave the house, now there's going to be a bigger problem. You're not doing their israa that Eliza gel has commanded in the Quran. And with the Prophet commanded so many things, so many things. We're not here to give a talk about elettra but this hadith is from that. Allah said in the Quran clearly. When ohana, mithril Levy, Allah henna bill Morrow.

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The women have rights

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similar to the rights that the men have over them.

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So we have rights, and the women have rights. Well ohana through Levy, Allah hinder bill Morrow. They have rights similar to the rights that we have over them, the right to be respected, the right to be held down, protected, the right to love for what you love for yourself and so forth and so on. I'm loving I'm biased concerning this ayat of the Quran. Women have rights similar to the rights that men have over them a minute by said, for my rights have been a bias is the man for my rights is that I love to see my wife looking nice. And I love to smell my woman, my wife smelling nice. He said as a result of that. I dress nice for her. And I smell nice for her. So the man he grabs he

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grinds and we applaud them for that. We sell hamdulillah levy been made to heat Timo asylee hat, we sell hamdulillah but you got a job, you Grafton. But you got to get on top of your hygiene.

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Just because a man is a man. And he's gonna usually be on a lower level of taking care of his hygiene than the woman. He says it's two different things. But that doesn't mean that the man should smell doesn't mean that at all. Someone should be schooling him, Hey, man, you got to raise your hygiene game up. Because to expect your wife to deal with this smell. That body odor is one you don't want to free yourself. They have rights similar to the rights that are over them. So I'm loving that buys me a lot be pleased with him, was just letting us know as men. None of you truly believes you love for your brother, what you love for yourself. So you want your wife to take care

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of your kids, then you should take care of your kids. What I found.

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When people invite you and ask you can you come and be an arbitrator? Can you come and talk to me my husband, me and my wife. When I found 99 98% of the time, both sides want all of the marbles. The man wants all of the marbles and he doesn't want to give anything and a lady wants all of the marbles and she doesn't want to give up anything and it's never gonna work like that. You have to give up something in order to give something yes

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Yes, he has the lion's share of the problems, but you have to be practical. You have to be pragmatic. The reality is the reality he's just we made all the problems Still, if you want to go peacefully from this point, you're going to have to give something in order to give some tell in order to receive something. So this Hadeeth is a cornerstone of the issue attorney SAT.

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How to be nice and live with your wife. If you see from her, something that you dislike, then look for something that you like, there is an IRA the Quran in Surah Nisa similar to this, if this Hadith, Allahu taala mentioned in the Quran, for any character Muna, for any character, mohana for assaying, Allah houfy hiring kathira

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ascenta crochet engage Allah, Allah houfy hiring kaviraj if you men, dislike your wives, if any of you men, you dislike your wives, you want to divorce your wife, it may be that you dislike something that Allah has put a lot of good in it.

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He doesn't like the fact that his wife doesn't like his children to go to his sister's house. He doesn't like it because of the beef and the drama that he gets from his family. But his wife doesn't want the kids to go because the sister has no Dean. Because the case there Islam is under threat, because the system is really not taking care of his situation. He doesn't like the fact that his wife gets him up for fudging, he doesn't like it. The thing that is not liking it may be that Allah has put good in it. Like these issues clearly what he's not liking her for. He shouldn't be disliking her for those things. But he may dislike something about I really dislike something, but a

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lot of putting it a lot of good. So the Hadith, the iron snat, okay for a Muslim man to hate his wife. If you see something that he dislikes, let him look for something that he does, like diabete said to me kill morale to the robot. The woman gets married for four reasons you marry a woman, you marry her because she's beautiful. You marry her because she has money. You marry her because she comes from a good family and good lineage, you marry because of the dean forbid that the Dean karnavati dad, marry the girl with the dean. Out of all of these four things, the one you want to really pay attention to is the dean, if you do that, you'll be successful. Now, the lady may have

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all four, or she may have three, or she may have two or she may have one. So we married the lady who's religious, but she's overweight. She's not a Slim Jim, like he wanted or like she used to be. She's overweight massively, because she gave you five, six kids.

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Maybe she's thin, maybe she's short. Maybe she's tall, maybe her nose is crooked. Maybe she has very strong glasses. Maybe she's not a good cook. Maybe, maybe, maybe maybe everybody's going to find something from his wife. That which he doesn't like, you don't like that thing. Look for the thing that will cause you to like her. Because Listen, this hadith is from the Jew Ahmed Al Kalam is a lesson is carried as a principle in life. This Hadith is telling you and telling me telling us if you want to take care of your interpersonal relationships on all levels, especially marriage, one of the most important levels. If you want to take care of those relationships, then you have to have

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something that is known as a raffle. raffle is when you ignore stuff. You say, you hurry, you smell it, you know it, you have to ignore it. Because if you held everybody to every single thing that you saw, you won't be able to get along with everybody.

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You definitely won't be able to get along with your wife. You don't want a mother and a father who always picking on everything you did. You don't want them why in the mall and why lemon in the murderous in the first always you didn't do this, you didn't do that. And maybe you didn't do it. Maybe you didn't do it. But you have to let some of that stuff go.

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I'm teaching I'm teaching. I don't like that noise from this bottle. I don't like it. But I see someone's doing at home. This person really doesn't come to the class. This person looks like he needs to be in a class and around us. I have to let that go. Because if I go off on him, maybe he won't come back again.

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Some people are ultra sensitive, even in this prayer. You

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Pray next to someone and you hear the recitation of the man. And that person starts to do that recitation on his own. You know, I will slap his lips, you know, I'm talking about, I will slap his lips. The man or maybe then, and he's going.

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You want to say to him, yeah, the man is really in the faculty. How are you want to get out of the line? Some people are so sensitive. They say, I'm not coming back to this Masjid again. When something happens.

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Something happens they go to extremes. I'm never coming to your house again. never coming back to this Masjid again. No, no, no, the Hadees said, and movement, a levy you hide to nice, where your spirit Allah or thou whom Hyrule men and movement levy LA, you highly to last? What are your speed?

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The believer who mixes with the Muslims, and he's patient, with what he sees from them, sees from them hears from them smells from them, he's patient with it, he's better than the one who doesn't mix with them. And we all have seen those people, I think, when something doesn't go their way, they go extreme, their responses to extreme. So this idea of than that be sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is clearly showing us the impermissibility, then permissibility of being a person who looks at your wife, and you criticize her for everything. There's no good and that husband, or the wife who does the same thing, or the mother or the father who does the same thing. You have to let up off of

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The other issue that when he ends, this is important. This Hadith is talking about the woman. The man shouldn't hate his wife. But as we mentioned before, this hadith is also applicable to the wife. She shouldn't hate her husband. And this hadith is also applicable, not hating other people other than the husband and the wife. Always This is the husband and the wife. No. shamov is your father is your neighbor. It's the people in the masjid. Don't hate them, you see something about them that you don't like, he gives a hope that you don't like something you don't like? Well, his recitation is nice. There are other aspects to his existence that analysts hire this Don't be one of those people

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who you have Hulu and you go overboard, and you expel people and you throw them off of the sheet of being beneficial because you saw something in them that you don't like you just like so as it relates to the lady, the woman, we know that the woman has Look son, and our religion we've been informed that the woman has deficiency and her intellect and in her Deen the witness of two women, it goes to Shahada of one man bastard Look son, not that she's a BIA. J healer doesn't mean that at all. As a matter of fact, more women get master's degree PhD degrees bachelor's degrees in men. Doesn't mean that they're dumb. Inherently they don't know doesn't mean that and we also know that

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from their creation, there's a knocks the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam enema

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to Mandela, when Atlantis tequila laka Allah atellica with the head tele to Kima cosanta worker Sudha Tanaka, a woman has been created the woman's been created from the rib and the rib is cricket and it will never go straight for you never. If you tried to straighten that rib, I will straighten her out. You're gonna break it and break in it is divorcing her breaking is divorcing her.

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So if a man wants to be successful with his wife, he has to practice with the Prophet said sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He just didn't tell us words. He told us things to help us to understand that leading to understand her are clear to understand her at that time of the month. Al Islam came with an idol and hikmah and our more Amina and most times if the man is just a decent man, and he's halfway practicing the Quran and the Sunnah, in most instances, he can call his wife out and I say yes, there is a deficiency in women, no doubt about that fitna but from my experience, and from what I've seen, the majority of the drama, the lion's share of the drama is coming from the

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men in our community. It's coming from the men. We have issues with certain

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Women, but for the most part is the man with these I hadn't had if we don't want to weaponize them, use it as a weapon against people, a weapon against the woman now, we know her nature and nature is as the Prophet says some Allah Allah while he was sending them, she will make a man who has has him. A man is a serious man. He's handsome, serious man is not to be played with not to be joked around with. He's not the one to play with. But his wife can make his brain can make his brain Go Go mushy, like, like really make him.

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You say what, what happened to the seriousness his wife dealing with the woman made him like that, leave in his house, come into the machine with one shoe on and one shoe off. And we say your man we your shoe. He said Don't ask me about my shoe.

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You guys are laughing. It's real.

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He will punch the wall with his fist in his fist, kick the tire to his car with his foot. Because he's so upset with his wife. He buys a nice, big big TV, he'll kick that TV over and pick it up and be stamping and then stepping on it like that.

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And he paid all the money. And then when it's all over, you'll say you see what you made me do.

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So the Prophet taught us take it easy as it relates to this hadith query. This Hadith is applicable to us as applicable to the men and the women are twins to each other. But the men should have more control over the emotions and they should be more in control of the situation. That's not always the case. As it relates to this Heidi here. There was no human being except that he has deficiency. Every chef has deficiency. The only perfect was the only one was perfect. The profits and the messages and that's it. Everybody else he has deficiencies. The Prophet said all of Adam's children, they make mistakes all of them and the best of those who make mistakes are the ones who make Toba

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Willow lie You are the one who knows bill me him my Tara Collie Harmon dab button we're lacking you a hero who mila ajinomoto sama. For the job Angela home lie is that he ruinous? I come when I get stuck at the mall. If Allah were to hold mankind responsible for the mistakes and the sins and the oppression that they've done on the earth, Allah will not leave a single person on the face of the earth. But he leaves them there for a certain amount of time. When that time comes, they won't be able to delay it one minute, one hour, they won't be able to bring it forward. Those I add a hadith show. Everybody got mistakes. So her husband, he's a good earner. He's a good earner. Her husband,

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he has good clock. Her husband is truthful and honest. But he has no backbone. He has no backbone. He can't stand up for her hock against people whether it's his family, her family outside.

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So I will tell every Muslim sister listen.

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There's a hadith and it's been translated by our brother Mustafa post Jessa Hello Hara, and he gave a commentary to it in English, the Hadeeth of omo Zara and Zara, you should go back and read that Heidi for the sister, the Hadeeth, of omo Zara, and Zara in which those women came together and said, each and every one of us you mentioned something about our husband in this assembly. And then each woman started saying My husband is my husband that my husband is my husband that some of them were very negative. My husband is like an iron up an earner a rabbit, a rabbit. That can mean he wants to have relationships like rabbits have relationship or means he doesn't do anything. He can't

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do anything different interpretations. The other lady said My husband is like a lion. He comes up in the house just biting people's limbs off.

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By the time he goes back out. If you look back in my house has blood everywhere. The case has a bitten off, the foot is off, the hurricane went in there, because that's how my husband is.

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So what does the Muslim woman do? What does the Muslim man does? He doesn't look at other people and have hasit and say, Oh, look at them. I wish they wouldn't have that. No, he doesn't do that. He doesn't do that. But he looks and he says you know

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This one is worse than mine. That one is worse than mine. Look how has his his wife his look up, and then you think I love

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your wife can cook, your wife takes care of those children. Your wife is making Jihad as we mentioned a million times during the school run

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this school run. And for some reason, I don't know why now in Birmingham, they have roadworks everywhere. So if you have to take your child to school in the morning, you have to pick your child up in the afternoon is jihad, jihad. But your wife does it every day without complaining, cooking cleaning. Is those kids making sulla.

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And then we have some fathers, we deadbeat dads, you want the scene, you're not on the scene, not giving money, be given a little bit of money, given a hard time get married behind that back this drama, this and that. No, no.

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So although this heavy fair coin is talking about how to have that extra with our wives will bring it down to why the chef brought it and this book, why did the chef bring it in this book, because you have to have this thing with everybody else.

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You have to have this thing with everybody else. Everybody who's here, if you spend time with him, as we mentioned in the class about racism, all of Adam's children came out different colors. White and Black, and everything between

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cubbies, and everything between husband and Sal, easy to get along with, and impossible to get along with and everything in between. So you're going to see people who is a problem. Everybody, somebody showed me, his favorite child, his favorite child, even your favorite child is going to do something to you to get you upset. You're sleeping your favorite child comes and hit you in your face with his head while he's sleeping. You didn't you just woke up, you push him off. You push him off, and he won't move and fall on the floor.

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Yeah, that's what a person does. He's not responsible. His kid hit him in his face with his head in his tooth.

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So everybody has that we're giving down now we're giving down. This is the season of the molad. We're giving down now. And giving down we got to be rough and tough what everybody out there. Okay, he practices the moment. He's on that molded. Your family is on that molded? I'm not saying this is simple, easy thing I told you I key the innovation. But the regular people, their regular people, they like you. They like me, they like your wife. They like my wife. That when we see from not something we don't like, let me not chop her head off and destroy the relationship.

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Let me not do that. Same thing with the person on the morning. I don't want to destroy them.

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At least they seem sincere. At least they seem like they want to know. Allah mentioned it in the Quran when women as well kitabi men and men will be contacting you a D Ray. From anarchy time, Jews and Christians are those people. If you leave them with a trust and a manner you left them with a whole treasure, a billion pounds a million pounds, you left them with a whole treasure and say hold this to I get back. They'll take care of it until you get back.

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Look for a character trait that they had.

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So it's baffling. The person comes into a slam and his mother and father Kufa and somehow someway, Islam causes him to turn into an anti sociable monster, a beast.

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He looks at his mother and father, and it looks at him says nine stingy making Kufa with majestic clothes. And it looks like that in his parents. They have an agenda. Non stingy make him pork in calmer drinking lion. Alaska is looking at his parents, brother, something's wrong with you. Something's wrong with you. The way we should be looking at our family members is with the eye of Rockford and Rama and lot of feeling sorry for them, filling, filling, filling, remorseful for them, having hope for them.

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That's our job. When it comes to Darwin. Allah is money. When it comes to Darwin Allah the dye in the dour, look at the people and say, yes, that guy he got up and he prayed every single day. Instead of coming to the masjid early for the to record the sooner fashion he

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Comes with praying, he goes to the side he prays those to rock God and he doesn't want to leave it. He doesn't want to put his foot next to you in the Salah. These things, he doesn't want to do it. But he's praying in the masjid every day, every day. And then there's the selfie brother, who you have camaraderie within you. But he never prays for john time can pray for john time. He's talking about the mole in the morning, the morning, but he's fallen into a coucal. windy day.

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disrespecting your mother and your father is worse than the mole it is worse than the moment. So he doesn't do the moment that hamdulillah Buddha began Kabira from the Caribbean. But being disrespectful to your man to your mother, father, worse, not good enough for fresher worse than the moaning.

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Not good enough for fragile is an action of coffee.

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So now, we're given down.

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The man makes a mistake. It's an honest mistake, or whatever kind of mistake, he says something as simple and as easy and as generic and as innocent as but a share. Yusuf al qaradawi said that. And because he says share, Yusuf qaradawi This person says you're an innovator, and then cuts him off.

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Come on, brother, come on, come on. What kind of religion is that? What kind of religion is that? He just made a mistake. How many people call them share, you know, suspend people for things like that. That's just an example. He did a podcast over here. He went to that Masjid over there. He said this thing or that thing?

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You're going to reject him because he made that mistake.

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belie early, you're going to reject them because he made that mistake.

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Because he's a die.

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And what about the r1 from the Muslims, just the regular cats, regular people? Well, he's the friend of the person, that's all just as friend. So we expel him. She got married to the person. So we cut off.

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We live in a time of drama and fitness. Jacqueline volt is a crazy time that we're living in. So when giving down a whiny, we have to put people in the right places, our relatives, and the Muslims who we know who don't have knowledge. But if you ask those Muslims, hey, let's give the Syrian people some money. These people give you 1000 pounds, 2000 5000 pounds South Africa for those issues. And we won't give nothing anything. But we'll go to momos and eat and that's permissible. But how are we going to look at them as being no good.

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That's how you to get that Southern.

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And it's hiring. Let your students know that you're doing what you're doing. But take it easy with the oma that's the reason why shift it in halaby brought this Hadeeth here. And before concluding, I say about chef IBL halaby rap metal layer and he without any Hulu and going overboard. Anybody who got a chance to meet that man, anybody who got a chance to meet that man. That's one of the things about his character that will jump off of the table at you right off out of the book at you how he was an a nice, like Ennis, a nice, he was not a oneness. He was a person who was very sociable. You will never get tired of being in his presence. Share all that in you. Encyclopedia. Sirius haber,

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but he knows how to joke with people and be with people not to joking that goes overboard, and his haven respect goes out of the window. But he knows how to be with people.

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Like honey, I've seen with my own eyes, here in Birmingham, in Leicester, three vulgate degrees, master's degrees and stuff like that. And you look at some of this behavior in terms of the antisocial behavior. Is that a chef? I'm telling you if I was a new Muslim, and the shift is like that, real rough and tough, like that

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harsh course bland, that I don't want to be around the ships if that's how you're going to treat people can't treat people like that. That'd be in the service of the people that love the people, not way up there that people have to get with the program. So that's the meaning of today's How do you say corny as it relates to our wives first and foremost, it's a principle and as the wives and the nikka

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Hi yachters Oh, Jia, there is a principle for every married person. Wherever you don't like in your wife,

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she has a plethora of other things that you can like. And another issue is she thought, you know, because she thought as the Prophet said, some Allah, what are you sending him, he puts his throne over the water every day, he sends his unsought out, they come back what you do today, I caused this man to kill him, I caused him to say this, I suppose it and this one said, I split a man between himself and his wife. He said, Come sit with me on my phone, because he loves that he loves that. You're married to your wife, when you first hooked up, she was the greatest thing since sliced bread.

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He was really into it. Now it's only one year, and you're, you're complaining, you're gonna always complain, always you're gonna complain. But remember, she gonna complain as well. And also shavon shavon will always make you believe that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. That grass is greener on the other side of the fence. You'll be happy with what you have, and work that situation out and appreciate what your wife brings to the table. Even today, we should go back home, get them something nice.

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Whatever you want to do, and say I appreciate took care of my babies. I appreciate you put up with me. You put up with me. I appreciate you how my mother down with respect. I appreciate this Jihad that you're doing. I appreciate you gave birth to the baby. You carry that baby around. We have a million things. So why is it your mother, your mother, your mother, because there's nobody like her is no one light. And that's why I really didn't mean to do that. That Friday, I was stressing out. I was like stressing from the stress that I had. I just want to tell the brothers in the community. We should appreciate our wives because they make a jihad. Okay, if you guys have any questions, you can

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put your questions forward. I want to thank brother

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Nora Dean for making the sweep of the aisle. Michelle up. We don't have any problem with anybody from this mystery coming in and saying you said that and that was wrong. This rise was right. And we're going to rectify that thing right there in public. Well, I should all have been in my roof for any character move. Fast ah Allah houfy hiring kathira

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Fire Center crew Shea Allah La houfy hiring kathira if you guys have any questions, you can put your questions forward. Let me ask you a question

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and the man maybe no hasn't said the greatest most net even greater than the Muslim family man was which most needed

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is a piece of the PISA annual Hadeeth information was the greatest most net a quality and a memorable hasm and the fact that mmm Bono hasn't read this book is a big important issue in the knowledge of a hadith.

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The people who lead he was from the share mean, he was a tremendous scholar.

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So he has how many a hadith of Abu rara and Muslim de Bercy and Mr. Devaney ma'am I've made

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5000 and Bucky and 3000 and

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I also forgot to tell you, Abu huraira he died in the year 6060 he died in the year 60 after the Hydra

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at for the RV

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you're on a roll today bro trying to roll today for having Mashallah and murottal movement we married to one another eight for the aq

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Hello item did the scholars say that there are shared teen of the men who go to the throne alone item it could be possible right because these people are plugging into the gym and things like that. Getting famous people pay a commission

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Back rich people money and things like that people go into contracts with them but does that happen over the throne? Allahu Allahu Allah.

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Any more questions that one?

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that liquid cooled in a billion adieu when I share pain Elgin will ends hacking. Okay you he Babu lubob zakura Falco

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any more questions and whining

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alright Shall we want to keep these numbers up business

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but I want you guys to write a little bit few students are writing but on an island become welcome everybody has was a Lola who was selling robotic and then the beginner. When it was heavy as mine was Santa Monica moved to LA he will buy a cat.

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I'm sorry always good to see you, man.

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I shall have become binary after finishing. I love you more man.