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The speakers emphasize the importance of teaching children to be modest and shy when faced with difficult situations, and the need to model parents, avoid false and evil words, and be an example to bring others along with them to help them learn the rules of Islam. They also stress the importance of forgiveness, finding support and guidance for women to maintain family ties and healthy relationships, and avoiding tension between a wife and her family. The speakers emphasize the importance of finding a balance between protecting oneself and others, finding patience and avoiding harms in public, and having had "has" in relation to sex.

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Salam Alaikum

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humbler? These are second week with the questions and answers with Chef or work result. Last week after we finished we had a few people who were frustrated and message and we're asking How come the questions never came on and

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obviously didn't understand that we

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had last week we had approximately 150 questions we got through 25 of them and solid now it's just adding an adding but we are still going in the same order inshallah. So whoever's questions don't get answered this week, we're gonna get through to Inshallah, if we have any time throughout the holidays as well we're going to be if we can squeeze in the day here or there just to do some more questions, we'll do that as well. We're still talking in the background to see how we're gonna get through, just to kind of catch up to all of them. So some of your questions get answered, now inshallah it's coming. It's on the way, and Mala Raja for your patients. So inshallah we'll get

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chef. Oh, back on

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Polycom, Salam on

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Top Chef. First question.

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How do I teach higher to my kids?

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Smilla Rahmanir Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah while leaking wasabi, Germaine.

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All Praise and thanks belongs to Allah subhanho wa Taala May the peace and blessing of Allah Akbar upon His servant and final messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So we start off with this first question. And it's a such an important and a great question, especially in the time that we are living in a higher modesty. The question is, how do I teach my children modesty and how is the purchase person nurtured and disciplined and raised upon a higher modesty? First and foremost, modesty or a higher? This is from the great teachings of Islam. And we need to focus on this type of teaching especially to our children, especially in the day and age that we live in. Today. There is

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plenty of filth, there is spent plenty of corruption out there. And what differentiates a Muslim from other than a Muslim is this quality of higher SubhanAllah. The believer has a higher offer than the believers they don't know the meaning of higher and they don't have higher and modesty in their life. When they be sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said in an authentic hadith liquidly Deen Hautelook every religion has manners and characters were in the whole local Islam and higher and the character of Islam. The manners that are taught in Islam are higher. It is all about modesty. When the visa Allahu alayhi wa sallam also mentioned that Al Eman newborn was to tuna shorba that Eman is

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of many branches is almost 70 branches of Amen. And then in the visa Allahu alayhi wa sallam would say well higher or shorter, but two minutes, amen. Modesty is a branch of faith, meaning a Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he tied modesty to faith. So what does this mean? If a person has modesty, then he has email and he has email, and the one who does not have modesty, he doesn't have higher his email and his faith is incomplete, it's deficient, it's missing. We will not only this, but also so we can learn about the importance of higher each and every single prophet that was sent to mankind taught their people about this great quality and character of a higher modesty as an

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abuse of Allahu alayhi wa sallam said in the metadata can nurse mean kelab In the Woolworth Hill cooler event and the story first nanosheet Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, from the words from the prophetic words that were shared, and that was spread to every community that came on earth. Was it LM testing, first night mesh, it was modesty. And then in the view, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, if a person doesn't have modesty, then go and do what you will. And this is not the only a command to go and do what you will. This is rather a warning. Meaning if you don't adhere to modesty, then go and do what you want, for you will be accountable and questioned for it on the Day

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of Judgment. So what holds us back from sin and transgression and disobedience is the character of a higher modesty. And this is why it is important to know and to answer this question of how do we develop this modesty within ourselves and in our children, especially when the Wii sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he was described Can I shall do hire and menial Adela II 53 Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he was the best of those who applied the character of higher and modesty in his life. And he was

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As described that he was more modest

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than a virgin in seclusion, and you know a virgin woman, when she is in seclusion, which when she is alone with her husband for the very first time, how modest and how shy is she at that moment, and Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was more modest than this law awkward. So let's first define what higher is and then we give any quickly certain examples on how to teach your children and instill within them a higher. So what is higher, we need to first define and understand and Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam once came out to the companions, and he said to them is stuck to me and Allah had called Hyatt he said to them, oh companions, be modest and shy of Allah azza wa jal. Now this hadith

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is going to define what modesty is. He said to them this. So the Companions they said in the understanding human Allah had been higher. They said, O Messenger of Allah, we are showing, we are modest of Allah azza wa jal, we are shy of Allah subhanahu wa taala.

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So then he said to them lay psychedelic No, no, this is not what I mean. He said to them in the Minister he I mean Allah He can hire for the for the road. So my one Well, you haven't bought Norma Hauer Well, you have good in moto Billa woman around Radha Tanaka, Xena tell hieratic dunya, Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa salam defined modesty with four things. He said, whoever is truly modest, and sharing of Allah azza wa jal, then he needs to do four things, and that would aid him in developing modesty, number one failure of the road, so am I, he must safeguard his mind and that which surrounds it. So you need to safeguard your mind and that which surrounds it, your eyes, the nose,

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the ears, the mouth. So what this means is Don't allow yourself to read and to come across filth and corrupt material, expose your mind to only that which is guidance and pure and authentic. So in this case here, when you're raising and nurturing your children upon a higher upon modesty, make sure that you only buy them books that teach them guidance, and teach them good ways of how to live a successful life. A life that is pleasing to Allah has its origin. And then there is also a person must guard his eyes, there is modesty in this. So you teach them from a young age, what is permissible to look at such as the sky will earn, look at your parents look at what Allah azza wa

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jal has made halal. And avoid looking at the Haram teach them from a young age. What Haram is, when you go by and pass, drive onto the roads or walk into the malls and you see billboards of naked woman and naked men and so on. Tell them this is haram. And we are not allowed to look at these filthy images. And these images of women and men that are naked, tell them tell them this don't just cover their eyes or don't just ignore the billboard and walk off every time you come across a billboard or an advertisement on the television or whatever it is. make mention of it, discuss it and see these are people that don't have hired a new my child I will raise your upon and higher. So

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do not be likely is and do not look at this. And this is how you teach them to God safeguard their eyes. If the eyes has been safeguarded and it has been turned away from the haram. Then this is modesty in a person's eyes. And then also the words teach them to speak good words and refrain from bad evil words such as swearing, cursing, insulting, backbiting, gossiping, teach them of these matters and how much of a grievous sin they are in Islam and also the E and make sure they are listening to that which is permissible and that which is recommended and the good words. While haram haram words. Teach them to keep away from this. If there is a gathering of backbiting and slander

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and gossip walk away, move away, tell them get up and go otherwise you will join the people in their sin. Now this is the first part of modesty that is got to do with the head and everything around it. So we worship Allah azza wa jal with the blessing has given us of the eyesight, the ears and our tongue and our minds, and we do not use them to displease Allah azza wa jal, whoever keeps away from the Haram when it comes to these organs of the face and the head. Now he is modest. He has modesty. Then in the visa Allahu alayhi wa sallam says, Well, yeah

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overlock Mona Lisa, and to safeguard the stomach, the abdomen area and that which is surrounded, and that is the private of a person. So you need to teach your children that part of higher is that you only eat that which is halal, and avoid that which is haram even if you're going to starve. Unless a person reaches a state of almost between life and death, he can eat that which is impermissible, and that's a different matter to discuss. But the idea is teach them to only eat that which is halal, and to earn a living from Halal means, and then them to also safeguard their privates. And that is there any that the private organs that here is a matter of higher as well. So from a young age, when

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the child is growing, you teach them to go to the bathroom, and to close the door behind them. Sometimes children go to the toilet, they keep the door open, and their brothers and sisters walking, they can see them slowly, slowly, this becomes something natural, don't do this. Teach them to close the door behind them when they enter the bathroom. Sometimes children are scared, they don't want to close the door because they're scared. So reassure them and go and hold the door closed and stand behind the door. Tell them I'm here. And I've just closed the door so that no one sees you. This has a great impact on the children as they're growing. This is something important.

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As the child grows, when he wants to dress or take his clothes off, make sure they go to a room in by themselves or away from their brothers and sisters. And that they close in private. This is how you're going to teach them and hire. Also, when it comes to activities. I know in schools because you're speaking about children and children go to school. And some schools, they offer swimming classes, right there are swimming classes. And they take the students, the boys and the girls to a swimming pool, whatever it is. And then the boys and the girls, they dress the way any they dress for swimming, and they're all swim among each other. And this is how long this is not allowed. You

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do not want to nurture your child upon this kind of teaching. So if that's the case, then avoid the swimming classes altogether. Avoid sending your children to the swimming classes altogether. The swimming causes that are mixed between the boys and the girls from from V five V six V seven, whatever it is, these are only breaking and higher. They are destroying modesty within the child. They are making them believe that swimming with this kind of outfit in front of other boys and girls is all fine. It's all good. And as a result we destroyed slowly and slowly and higher within these children. So avoid sending your children to mixed classes at the swimming swimming pools and

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swimming centers and so on. So this is how a person is going to guard his private to help them Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said when the children reach the age of Tim Farrell over young fill mobile here, separate between them when it comes to the bed. So when children when your goals and your boys, your daughters and your sons, and even if you only had sons or you only had daughters, it is not allowed to have them on the same bed under one blanket. It is haram to have them under one blanket. Why? Why is this? Then Allah Allah Hi Muhammad, Allah said that the children at the age of 10 as a 100 Rahim Allah mentioned, this is an assumed age in where they now know, sexual matters.

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They understand sexual matters at this age. So by the age of 10, separate the children at the age of 10 are supposed to learn sexual education. They know about these matters by this age. And if someone asks, When do we teach them sexual education and so on at this age, by the age of 10, you're supposed to teach them then this is the age where you're supposed to separate in a bit, because they know of these matters now, for this is also a way in how to instill and higher and modesty in your children when they're still in your house and they have reached the age of 10. Now for all of these are very important than in the recent Allahu alayhi wa sallam said, Well, you have Quran multiple

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Villa and always remember death and the ending of a person that you will all end you will become dusty will become dirt. That's the end of a person when you consistently remember that and how a person would end in his grave that also instills modesty and higher within a person. Because such a person now becomes content with what Allah azza wa jal has given him and he rushes to do good deeds and he rushes to October, as opposed to a person who neglects the topic of death and doesn't remember death. This person is higher his modesty would be deficient. Because if you do not remember that if you're not content with what you have, you will always be greedy for more and you will delay

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your Tober and you will delay

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doing good deeds. So a part of modesty is always to remember that it keeps you humble. It keeps you modest before Allah subhanahu wata Allah. And then another piece of Allahu alayhi wa sallam finally said, one other than FIRA Tanaka, Xena tell hayati dunya. And whoever wants the afterlife, whoever is looking forward to the afterlife, then he should detach from the adornments of this worldly life. So take from this world, the life what you need no problems. But the things that you don't need, and they are wants for you keep away from them, and teach your children this every time you go into a store, and the child wants this and he wants this. And he wants that. Don't answer and give them

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everything they want. You're not teaching them higher in this matter. You tell them listen, their needs and their wants, what are the things that you need my son, my daughter, I'll buy it for you no problems. And the wants, we can't have too much of this, we are going to reduce our wants. You want a toy, we might buy one or one every month, once once a week, once a month, whatever it is, you find something that way. You do not attach them to the enjoyment of this worldly life. And of course, a child from the age of zero to seven. This is playtime. This is fun time, this is enjoyment, go ahead and play with the children at this age. And then after this, you need to start teaching them the

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real meaning of L higher from seven from the age of seven going up. This is where we need to now start implementing those things that I spoke about of closing the door of the bathroom, go and change alone in your room, at the swimming classes and so from the age of seven going up, this is where we need to be we need to be careful because this is where they're going to start learning quicker and quicker. What Allahu Allah, Allah, Allah.

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Allah has just a couple of things on that journey. Kids today, take a lot from the parents.

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And you see, and without mentioning anywhere, but you say, for example, private Islamic schools. You see, for example, the mother dropping off the daughter, the daughter has to wear the hijab go inside to school. But then she comes out and the daughter doesn't want to wear the hijab anymore after school, she takes it off. So I see like you say that this is obviously from the parents and obviously it says Say something the mayor was the way the father works. But just last week, I was at Florida Jamar, I had five of my boys with me or fourth year. I when I prayed the doctor, they prayed. Look at him. I got up I sat on the edge at Punchbowl, there's somebody sitting on the edge.

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They all put their shoes on unfollowed me but do you say that? No. When we're talking about the kids and the height, a lot of it comes from the parents and it's sometimes it's a lot in this time and age for the parents to lock everything you've mentioned now there's too much to take in.

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Now. So hey, well, I just need to highlight on your point. There's something called modeling parenting. And by far the most effective, the most effective way to raise your children is for you to be a model and an example for them. If the parents are not examples for their children, then it is unlikely that this child will learn the meanings of Islam and Eman alone by himself without the help of his parents. And this is why Allah azza wa jal he said, Yeah, you're Latina, I'm gonna go and Fusa como Alikum narrow. He said, save yourself. And then he saved your family from the fire. Why did Allah say save yourself from the fire first, because if you're on a path of saving yourself

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from the fire, by avoiding the prohibitions and adhering to Allah's commands, then you will be able to save your family, because you become a role model. If you yourself are on a path of saving yourself from the fire and your family see this, you become a role model for them. As a result, you are able to save them from a path of the fire they will do what you do. But if you have neglected Allah azza wa jal obligations and his commands, and you've committed the prohibitions, then you are on a path to the hellfire. So if you're on a path to the hellfire, how can this person save others from the fire? Most definitely, the family will just follow in your path. So this is why parents

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have a huge responsibility. And the most effective way to raise your children is for you to be an example. So when it comes to a hijab, a mother that wears the hijab, and her children all their life have seen her wear a hijab. It is unlikely for this daughter to grow out of her mother's house, not wearing a hijab, I mean rare cases, but we're seeing the only the majority would be wearing a hijab. She wants to be like her mother, and the son wants to be like his father, and so on. Now I'm Aloha.

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The kids today had it locked the things you were mentioning about what you know that safeguarding and obviously with the eyes and what they see, how do you actually try and convince

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A kid to hate that not just to say, because my father said not to do what my mother said, how do you get them to hate that ought to love the things that we want? Ah, this is right. This is why you're supposed to take the children to Islamic lessons. And this is where they're going to learn why things are halal, why things are haram. So a child needs to have a relationship with a share with a student of knowledge as parents, you're supposed to take them to the local Masjid. Take them to the share, allow them to develop this relationship so that whenever they have a question that the parent doesn't know how to answer. He's quick to take him to the masjid. Your chef, this is my son. Not

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that but the Son himself is supposed to be able to run to the chef and say, I have a question while lying Subhanallah since I've lived there, there is a there is a child here that attends the lessons. Every single lesson after the lesson. A child I think is about eight nine years old. He comes to me and Masha Allah, He has loads of questions one after the other. We answer it all for him beautiful. This is the effort of the parents. They did the right thing with their child took him to someone that is able to answer these questions. And as a result, the child learns why this is halal, why this is haram. The child tells me my dad told me 123 Is that right? Her shirt comes in explains to

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him and tells him whether it's right or not. Why and this is our personal loans God now not everyone's going to be learned and not everyone's going to know how to answer his children. But if that relationship between the family and the masjid is there and the Usher someone has the time to sit with the with the young youngsters and answer their questions and attend to their needs and so on. It would be perfect this is this is what would be ideal now mama Han Hello.

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Next question.

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If I am on the way and i fi it says that hey, I'm guessing she's on the way home or he is on the way home. And I feel I will miss my solar. Am I allowed to pray on my way? I'm guessing in the car, or should I pray Kabbalah at home.

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Now, Allah azza wa jal he says in na sala de Canada Allah Mina Kitab, among quota that the prayers have specific set times. So it is not allowed to pray before the time and it is not allowed to delay the prayer until outside of its time and after it's set time. As a result, a person has to pray his prayers within its specified prescribed time. So if a person is driving, and he feels that the time of the Salah is going to end, we say stop your car, go out, stand and do your prayer. If you're driving in the car, and it's let's say it's rainy weather, it's stormy, it's dangerous outside. And I know if I stayed in my car, I'm not able to stand and pray. And if I continue to drive until I

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reach my house, I'm not going to make the solid. We see in this case, pray in your car. So no matter what the situation is, it is not allowed. It is not allowed to delay the prayer until outside of its time. Look at your situation and where you are. If you're in the car. If you're able to stop come out and pray do so. If not then pray as you're sitting in the car. Oh Allahu Allah.

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Okay,

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sure. The next one.

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We've We've the word Cabal. The mission is a word called out does that even exist? Or where did that come from? About a solo ad to a person if he forgot, if he forgot a pray or he slept during the time of a prayer. This is when he does the prayer cabal when the V sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says my name and Salah didn't own ASEA and he also laid the color like I felt that I had left elec Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Who ever slept during the time of a prayer or completely forgot about the prayer, then he must pray it as soon as he remembers it, even if it was after its time, because nothing will expect the same. Other than him praying it immediately as soon as he remembers

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it. He's going to pray it about outside of its time, Allahu Allah. So that's not intentional. You can't intend to say what

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the philosopher person intends to miss the prayer until out of its time. And he's not a traveler and he doesn't have the conception of joining the prison delaying the prayers, then, hello Sati the more correct opinion is that that prayer is gone. And even if he wants to pray it a million times, it will not be counted for him.

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Being a single parent Mother, am I allowed to settle overseas with my kids we are at the age of 10 and eight to meet the financial needs.

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So I'm guessing obviously a mushroom here.

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Now, if a woman if a woman

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Find a job for herself overseas, that is permissible in a permissible environment, then it is allowed for a woman to be at that country and take that permissible job and work there no problems. The only thing that is required here is when she travels, she will need a Muslim because the NABI sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said led to several nada Illimani Muharram that a woman is not allowed to travel except with a Muharram. So the Muharram is required during the travel from point A to point B. That's where the mom is required after she reaches her destination, where there is a permissible Halal job for her to work in order for her to provide for her children. I'm guessing

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this perhaps there need some financial need here, or she's in some financial distress and and perhaps

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this is a way out for her, then it is permissible for her to take on that job overseas. No problems, but the MME would be required throughout the journey. That's it. And then the Muslim can go back to his country and she can remain there now I'm Allahu Allah. Okay, so as long as I'm an adult can take them that's fine. But she can't travel alone and the kids, roughly at what age are the kids become a mom? And what if the sister has no mom, let's just say she doesn't buy the so so the firstly, by the age of puberty, a child becomes a Muslim by the age of puberty, and the age of puberty is of three. Other three signs as an earlier Matlock, Mr. Milan mentioned, the age of puberty is reached by the

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thick hair that grows under the armpit and in the pubic area. And it also could be identified or known by the deepening of the voice, there's also the sign of a wet dream. And if all these signs do not take place, and they don't happen, let's say for some certain instance, that in order to hammer home, Allah mentioned that by the age of 15, a person has reached puberty, if he hasn't gone through all those signs that we have spoken about by the age of 15. That's it a person becomes of the age of puberty. Of course, for boys, perhaps it could happen the age of 12 1314, that's most likely somewhere around there is where they reach the age of puberty. Now I'm Allahu Allah, and if she

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doesn't, if she doesn't have

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to deal with her, then she is not allowed to travel, unless it is an extreme necessity. If it is an extreme necessity, the matter is between life and death, then a woman is allowed to travel without a Muharram as an element by him or Mala mentioned. Now what is extreme necessity

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between life and death journey, they should be a situation only between life and death or a necessity, it could mean that the only perhaps she has a need in this country and her mom physically is unable to do the journey with her because he's sick, or cannot afford to do the trip with her. In that case, a woman can travel any narmala.

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Now, you might have is that really important being a non Arab?

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At this week is part of the Quran, the Quran was revealed with the sweet so the knowledge of the wheat is nothing it's not separate to the hell Quran was revealed. And it was recited in the exact same manner that we recite today that this read is a part of recitation of the Quran, it is not something separate. And so whether you're an Arab or an Arab, a person must strive and do his best to learn a tweet and apply it as they recite.

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Now alone, learn and the more you learn, you get better and you put that effort and you read the in the manual that is pleasing to Allah social because this is Allah's word. And this is how it was revealed with a dish read now for them. Obviously, if someone who's a beginner and has trouble with it, it's not really is a setback for is more reward less reward is in the same reward. If someone who's a beginner non Arab, who is reciting, trying to make hovers but is really struggling.

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There is reward there's no doubt there is reward and maybe some Allahu alayhi wa sallam he says,

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he says sallallahu alayhi wa sallam will levy at the top Tao fee he will who Allah He shirk fellow who was Juran that the one who finds extreme difficulty in reading the Quran and applying it this week.

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Who Allah He shares and it is difficult upon him, for him is two times the reward. So he's given reward two times one because of reading the Quran and the other reward for his effort. So now there is goodness in this now.

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All right, this one so humbly, are a role model and this one I want my son to be like you. How did you go with your career after school and rich such a huge milestone? My son is 10 and loves you

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lat Please advice

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by you.

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Look, so we can just be straight to the point on this.

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If it was about my journey, then I see and we started off at home by memorizing the Quran. As far as I can go back to remember how my father and mother raised us. The first thing I can remember is that we were memorizing the Quran, Allah Marchione

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my father had put a plan for us to memorize the and we used to do that after Salah tell Fisher, I remember still, especially in the winter nights of the solid and treasured, we'd get the heater turned around. And we were memorizing Quran at this time. This is how I can remember. And this is perhaps because if I can remember it, that means that had the most impact the most effect upon me, for that easy. You start by memorizing the Quran. And then later on as they grow, they become 1718 applying for them to go and loan overseas because this and if you're asking about myself, this is what happened by the age of 18. I was in El Medina, studying in that university now. And before all

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of this of course,

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it was the parents, the parents, only my father and my mother Allah is ill hurt. They had an important role in our upbringing myself and my brothers and my sisters. I still remember my father would take us to Al Masjid with him. We attend the lessons that he used to deliver in the masjid, we used to attend those at home. He used to teach us the stories of the prophets, stories of the companions stories from Quran I still remember we'd sit on the couch. And he used to give us the stories in Arabic he used to talk in Arabic and we used to ask about the Arabic words that we never understood. And also, if we did not any if we weren't able to make it to a masjid to pray, of

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course, because the masjid was far from where we live, then he'd make sure that we all made wudu and prayed together in congregation at home. He wouldn't allow or go and everyone pray by himself Lilla this was something huge with my father. He'd make sure that we all stood in line and then he would begin the prayer. So the majority of times if we prayed at home, we were all praying in Jamaica now these are a few things that you're able to do with your children inshallah Allah it has a positive effect on them. Inshallah Allah azza wa jal makes them from among the scholars of this ummah, we ask Allah azza wa jal to bless you and bless your children. Allahu Allah. Amen. Hello Raji and your

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father's because Wallahi Your father has done a lot for the community as well.

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When are you coming? In the Philippines to the Philippines. I can't wait to see you live and listen to your beautiful insights and knowledge about Islam from your favorite follower. Now, question we've made sure that for each of us, we said we're going to ask everything so ask everything I don't have a plan to come to Philippines neck and inshallah Tada. We ask Allah azza wa jal to make that easier and we send our salam to all our brothers and sisters in Philippine and this is the beauty of Islam. This is the beauty of Islam the Yoni Nabi SallAllahu, alayhi wa sallam is one wherever they are, 100 is that they are able to tune in to these platforms that we have, and they benefit from

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what they he will ask Allah azza wa jal that he allows them and all my brothers and sisters wherever they are, that they benefit from that which is shared that is of good and authentic knowledge. We ask Allah azza wa jal to bless us with this knowledge, wherever we are, and to make us from among his righteous sleeves, Allah harlot No.

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Okay, next question. I was abused by my in laws verbally. They have apologized as well. But I can't forget, neither do I feel like talking to them? Am I doing anything? Correct? Because I believe Allah doesn't forgive the person who doesn't forgive others. Also, what if I just keep quiet about this? Who will not discuss much with anything? And I won't talk to them much is that okay? So pretty much the it's just, it's

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now, now, this is a calamity, this is a disaster. This is something that is on the rise any relationship of inlaws

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with

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the husband or the wife? It is always something that from time to time you hear complaints about, but then I want to first ask a question. Where was your husband all this time? And what role did your husband play in this case? Any the husband, your husband, he must defend you, and he must protect you. Especially in the case here, if you're saying that you were innocent, and you hadn't done anything to harm your in laws, and they just began to abuse you and insulted verbally and so on. Then where was your husband? He should have stood and defended you

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And he should have confronted these parents, of course, in a polite in a polite manner, and discuss the matter with them and put a stop to this. And if he had seen that it is best to keep both of you away than he should have done this, it shouldn't have reached the point where you continuously were abused and abuse carried on for many years, for this year. That's the first thing that I wanted to bring to attention. That is where it was the husband, the husband is supposed to play a role in protecting his wife, if his parents begin to abuse his wife. While she's innocent, having had done nothing wrong. The other thing here, I'll see is that Allah azza wa jal, Lee says, or social height,

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since you're saying now that they have apologized, and they want to move forward, they're remorseful for what they had done. Then I say to you that Allah azza wa jal has said what sort of hide reconciliation is always better. Reconciliation is always better.

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You might have children, I don't know you might have children here with your husband. And so these children,

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your in laws, or your children's grandparents, so there's always going to be that relationship. So it's best if you're able to reconcile, then go ahead and do that reconcile with it. As for forgiving them, then really that is up to there are of course, many eight and Aaron many Hadith that encourage a person to forgive those who deserve to be forgiven. And if they deserve your forgiveness, if you've seen sincerity from them, and they've apologized, and they've acknowledged their own, and they know what they have done is wrong, and they know it and you can see it from them. Then why wouldn't you forgive right? Since they are deserving of your forgiveness, if you believe that they

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have shown enough remorse, then go ahead. When the visa Allahu alayhi wa sallam said, when I said Allahu Abdullah they often Larissa Some people believe that if they accept someone's apology and they forgive, then that means that's weakness. However, Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, when the servant of Allah forgives, Allah only increases him in honor and dignity. So if you felt like you're going to be weak in front of them, now know that before Allah, you are honored, and you are dignified, so there is no issue. As we said, it's up to you. You may forgive. And then after that, you perhaps might feel that you want to limit your interaction and your involvement with them, until

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you feel ready to begin a new chapter with them. It's all up to you. And the in laws do not count as a line. They are not the blood relatives that are supposed to be Yoni in where you're supposed to maintain ties with in laws don't have that relationship with a person. So I recommend that just like Allah azza wa jal said was solely to hide, reconcile if you're able to forgive if you're able to if they deserve the forgiveness, and you've seen complete remorse and sincere apologies from the end. And may Allah azza wa jal reconcile the hearts now.

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In many cases, last seen and I know but three cases personally that I know that I've had three divorces, and a lot of it happened.

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When they get married, new, the husband can't rent, or he doesn't want to rent he wants to save to buy a house, whatever it is, so he marries this girl moves into his house, okay, or what have you. Now, obviously, there's a trend of the granny flat the back, and they live and then it causes tension between the wife and the mother in law. And you see, a lot of the times the husband gets stuck in the middle. And just to follow up on what you said, as well about the, whilst they do console you they reconcile, everything's fixed, they, there's always that tension afterwards, how would you get rid of that?

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So firstly, Jonnie asked a few things that are important that perhaps we need to add to that something else that is common, and that is sometimes a person puts Jani his wife in his parents house, and he ends up living in his parents house for for many years. And

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the wife in this case, would like to know what's her right? Can her husband keep her in that house or not? We see here that the wife in Islam, from her rights is a house that is for her, that has its separate entry and exit, has its own kitchen and bathroom and sleep room, separate from any other people. Why? Because in Islam, a woman is supposed to adorn herself to her husband, and she always Yannick she has to be adorning herself to her husband beautifying herself the house but and this cannot be achieved. She it cannot be achieved over time, if she is inside the house of someone else.

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He or she is with his parents and so on, it becomes very difficult for a woman now to express her beauty and her adornment for her husband, because she's in a situation like this, at the same time. And I don't know, sometimes people can afford rent. But just to save

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a few 100 a week, they decide to just remain in their parents house. If a person is able to rent, then this is impermissible. It is impermissible to remain in your parents house, because you have taken a right of the woman that belongs to her. And as a husband, you're supposed to fulfill the rights or as spouses, you're supposed to fulfill the rights of one another. In the case that you mentioned, where let's say there's a granny flat, the husband has to be wise one layer, the husband has to be wise, if this is causing a lot of tension, perhaps it's better for him to move his whole family from there and move somewhere else. And better than this, that he meant the hearts bring them

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together between his wife and his parents, right lender, a person, his parents,

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Yanni, these are his parents, he has to give them that respect and that honor in his life, no one will ever replace your parents, but a wife, not a child, no one, the parents are on top. And this is a lesson, you're supposed to teach your children from the end your wife and your family from the very beginning. From the very, very beginning, you're supposed to teach this lesson, you go on to your family. And you say to them, my parents, no one comes before them. They are the first in my life. Make that clear from the very, very beginning. So that the wife is prepared. But what is to come afterwards. And most like of course, Jani, the wife that contributes towards her husband's

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relationship with his parents, she's rewarded for it. If a wife makes it easy for her husband, that he continues relationship with his parents and makes it easy for him, she is rewarded for this, she earns reward. And similarly the husband that makes it easy for his wife, for her to maintain ties with her family and her parents, he earns reward. Even if it's difficult and troubling upon him. Whatever it is, there is reward in this now. And both spouses are supposed to make it easy for each other, to visit each other's parents and to look after each other's parents. This is from the greatest reasons of divorce today is the respect that the spouses don't have for each other's in

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laws, this is on the rise. This is from the greatest reasons that I have seen concerning divorce the spouses, and then not getting along with each other's in laws. In order to avoid this from the very beginning. You need to instill this lesson and come into common terms with this.

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For a wife, she has parents, you need to acknowledge as a husband, you need to know this. This is a father and mother. They raised her for many years, they looked after her for many years. And now they are giving her to you as a wife. That doesn't mean they've cut their relationship without this is still their daughter. So now you need to understand this. And you need to respect this fact. And you need to be a help and an aid and a support for your wife to maintain ties with a family and get her parents gifts. And visit them every often. And call them and see if they need anything. In return, your wife would begin to love You more and more. So you gain more of her love more of her

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loyalty, more of her appreciation. And this works in the opposite manner as well, for a wife to learn that her husband has been raised in his parents house for many, many years. And they're too going to be affected that their son now is leaving the house. Finally, that's it, he won't return to the house as a child anymore. He goes he's with his wife now. So you need to understand that don't make it difficult for him to cut ties with his family. Don't make it difficult for him to do that. Rather aid him and support him in looking after his parents and visiting them. Ask him Did you see your father today? Did you call your mother today? Do this keep pushing and give going gift his

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family gift your in laws go and gift his family? Look after them. Ask about them. If they need anything, all of this it's not an obligation. But this is goodness it is goodness. And in return, the husband begins to appreciate you more love you more. There is more support, there is more loyalty and there's goodness in this marriage. That's the only way you're going to destroy this problem that is found in many marriages.

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because otherwise if there's this kind of

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Yanni distant, and there are these issues, it only gets worse the children see it it affects them and everyone's traumatized and Allahu Allah what happens after that now I'm Allahu Allah.

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Okay, next question is

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what are the trusted institutions we can study Islam at? How do we know if an institution or a scholar is trustworthy?

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hamdulillah there are, there are many trusted institutions. A person can study Islam at Yanni. I studied in Islamic University of Medina, and 1000s and 1000s of students while hamdulillah have studied at that university, so you might want to apply for the Islamic University in El Medina. There's also the Islamic University in Makkah.

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Omokoroa Pura, there's one in Rio is all good,

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trusted institutions that I know about that I know about perhaps there are many more. But anyway, this is what I know. Also online, there are Yanni for example, Bilal Philips, Bilal Philips online university, Ma sha, Allah, that's excellent. If you're unable to go to the actual university or institution that is abroad, then Danny jump online, there is also the El Medina, Medina, Open University of Malaysia, that's also a good university that offers a bachelor degrees and master's degree doctor degree. So you can do your studies there. If traveling is difficult, then don't waste your time and do something online. And then this question, of course, depends on where you live, I

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perhaps don't know about every i that every single country, every single city and what universities are there and what's trusted and what's not. But the second part of the question any can can kind of give you a criteria, and that is you asked, How do you know if a scholar is trustworthy? Or a student of knowledge is trustworthy? You see, the way we're going to find this out is by the recommendation of other scholars that are known. So we have an hamdulillah many scholars that are known that live among us today. We ask them, Are these your students? Do you recommend them? Do we study under them? And this is how knowledge is that knowledge is passed from one generation to

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another. This is how it's done from the time of unreason Allahu alayhi wa sallam, it's been handed down when the be sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would recommend and he would say at this time, any more Allah Mukundan hallelujah Well, hello, my wife might have all the Allahu Anhu is a master when it comes to matters and halal and haram matters. When the ESA Allahu alayhi wa sallam says of course Oh como de the master in reciting of Quran is obey, obey, Allahu Allahu wa Frodo conveyed. And the best of the Sahaba among you that knows the laws of inheritance is Zaid Irby, Allahu Anhu. So Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would point out during his time, who was best at what? And so this

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sunnah, continues and carries on until this very day, learn about the hammer home Allah today would say that the share, go to him approach him for unfilter matters. For Hadith matters, we turn to the chef and we asked him and those that have died, their books or their trusted or whatever, that we can go back to and study Ireland and Ireland the correct and the authentic and the trustworthy Ireland is the one who preaches the Quran, and the Sunnah, based on the understanding of the first three generations. We see the first three because the NABI sallallahu alayhi wa sallam praised the first three generations. He said hello NASA coordinate from a Lavina Luna home from Molina Luna

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home. The best of the nations is my nation and those that come after them and those that come after them. So they end up at Barrow Tiberian and whoever is teaching the Quran and Sunnah, based on this understanding based on these are limit understanding how they behave, nila heeta, Allah is a trustworthy scholar. And there is no problem to learn and to take from scholars that came after the first three generations, so long as what they teach and what the spread of, of knowledge is in line with the first three generations, so long as it doesn't contradict anything that the first three generations taught. Allahu Allah and that's how you're going to find a trustworthy scholar, and any

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of these institutions, wherever they are around the world, Allah Allah has told me of a dog for a good relationship. I'm upset since I've had to break relationships

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and I'm so two broken relationships, this is a calamity This is a calamity. So in this case, you say

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in LA you're in LA Hello here. So I give you a DUA and this is an

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Perfect. You see in any level in the elite, your eyes your own. This is set when a person experiences a calamity. And if you've broken from two relationships, this is you know that it's difficult upon the person, it's hard upon a person upon his family and so on, that we see in every level in a legal regime, then the DUA you're supposed to be saying, and I give you this from the actual incident of Onselen model, the Allahu anha on Salah moblie Allahu Anhu. When her husband Abu selama died.

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Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught her to make a do.

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So she said in La lucha in LA, here's your own, and she said, Allahumma Houdini, famously, but the wall lovely, hi, Ramona. She said, Oh, Allah, reward me for my calamity. She had lost her husband, he died. Here. In your case, you lost two husbands, that you had two marriages that you had the first husband and then the second one.

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Or perhaps this is a husband that is asking, and he lost Jani, a first relationship with his first wife. And then he had another relationship and he lost some selama also lost her husband.

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Then she said along my journey famous liberty. Grant me reward for this calamity was roughly a minute and grant me something better than this calamity. You know, I'm selama will be Allahu anha. She ended up being the wife of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Allah azza wa jal replaced her calamity with something much better than Abu Salam. And that is the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So say this, my brother or my sister, so in that Allah Who enaliarctos Your Own, Allah whom your ni fi mostly Betty Liu Fei Li Hi Rob Minh, and then ask Allah azza wa jal to ease your affairs and to guide you to a righteous spouse and those generals that were allowed to meet kala Juana.

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Next question, if I'm not mentally prepared for marriage, however, been pressurised by family to get married because I'm getting old, is it permissible for me to marry if I'm not mentally prepared? If a proposal comes to me from the groom? If I reject it, then it's been ungrateful to Allah and on turning off the opportunity given by Allah?

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No, don't do not get married until you are ready. And don't give in to the pressure of the family don't because marriage is a serious commitment. Allah azza wa jal says in the Quran myth, he describes it as me falconry UVO a heavy contract. This is this is serious, this is not a game, marriage is not a game, you might quickly get married because of the pressure of your family and then end up in a relationship that traumatizes you and ended up in a relationship that is very bad for you, as a result, who's going to cop these consequences? No one but you, you're the one that's going to suffer the consequences from then on. So you need to understand your family. They're not

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the ones that are getting married. You're the one that's going to get married. You're the one that's going to commit to this relationship. The burden is upon you. The responsibility, the commitment and everything that comes with with marriage is upon you. It's very easy for family around you to say Hurry up, get married, get on, move it, move it and get married. But this is unacceptable. If you feel that you are not ready for this marriage, then hold back, ignore the pressure and continue to work through this until Allah azza wa jal any decrease for you this matter. And

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then you said here if a if a proposal was to come to you,

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you asked What did she ask if a proposal was to come to her proposals come to me from the groom? If I rejected then is it being ungrateful to Alana, turning off the opportunity now? Lalalalala it is not considered being ungrateful to Allah has social look in the visa Allahu alayhi wa sallam gave a criteria what should should you be looking for? When a potential husband comes he said it as a command carbona dena who will hola como Fazal visual, if a man who is upon great manners and understanding of the religion he is upright in his religion and in his manners, then give this person a chance. Give this person a chance. Because this is taking by the advice of Rasulullah

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sallallahu alayhi wasallam is not my advice. This is the words of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is Asia command turbo Medina who are who Luca who now

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and don't be deceived because some people they say

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Yoni Allah, Allah Masha Allah, he's upon great Dean. What's his Deen Allah He praises five daily prayers and he fasts Ramadan for this this is every Muslim is supposed to do this. This is not only upon great Deen This is general this is normal. Everyone is supposed to be praying and fasting Ramadan right as the one who doesn't pray he's on a path to the hellfire. So of course the only this is giving me nothing great here. What it means to be Yannick upon the deen is someone that is upright, implements Allah's laws, adheres to Allah's commands, in all aspects of life, not just the prayer and the fasting, but also in his dealing in his income in his manners as well. How is he with

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others? How is he with his parents? How is he with his friends, all of this is supposed to be known about him. And this is what will make a person upon Dean and athlet when you know the result of such a person and how it is and there are many things that could be done to test these matters. And of course, your father, your brothers, the male Muharram of yours are supposed to be involved in this actively involved going out searching. If your family is putting pressure, then use that pressure to your advantage. Tell them I'll be ready for marriage. But find me someone that fits this category. Go and look for someone that fits this category. And then insha Allah and if someone does come with

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good manners, and Deen, then give it a try nom. And alongside this, there are other things perhaps that a woman would like to discuss with her potential husband, they're allowed to discuss, discuss concerning matters of children, where how many children they intend or they plan for they can all discuss all these matters. And how they resolve conflict.

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How, how they increase love among one another. All of these matters could be discussed. There's no issue until you settled and you find someone that is right for you. The advice then is you will be ready by them. And go ahead with it Nam Aloha.

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This question was mostly answered last week. But I think there's a bit of touching up too. What does keeping toys with kith and kin entail? Are they a certain amount, of course slash visits that need to be maintained, for example, doesn't just refer to immediate family or also distant ones as well.

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So here, I am on Mala they differ in three opinions as to who your blood relatives are. One opinion mentions that it's those who inherit you after your death. Anyone who inherits you after your death, death is a blood blood relative of yours. That's one opinion. Another opinion says that your blood relatives Anioma had him you're, you're right now are those who you're not allowed to marry. So if you're a woman listening to me, then the men that you're not allowed to marry. They are your blood relatives that you're supposed to maintain ties with. And if you're a man listening to me, then all the woman you're not allowed to marry. They are your blood.

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They are your blood relatives, we're speaking about those that you're not allowed to marry on a permanent basis. Like your mother, your sister, your grandparents, your auntie, your niece. These are your beheading. Right, this is the second opinion. And the third opinion suggests that anyone who's related to you, even if it's a fire relationship, then this is your battle, Allahu Allah. The more correct opinion is that your Muhammad in your blood relatives are those who you're not you're not allowed to marry permanently. Those who you are not allowed to marry permanently are your Muharram. And these are the ones that you're supposed to maintain ties with when you speak about

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maintaining ties. How is this done? There are many ways in how a person can maintain ties with his relatives, either the celeb phone call message, a video call sending a gift, visiting them when they're sick, also attending the invitation if they were to invite you, right these are the types and the final part is the frequency. I think they asked about the frequency. There is nothing that it is the Quran or sunnah explained in terms of how often are we supposed to maintain ties with so now what about oh, hang on Allah they said this goes back to Elia that a customary practice what other people used to if people in your locality and in your country, they they have a practice in

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where they maintain and they visit their relatives once a week, once every two weeks, then that's it. That's what you do. That's how it would be and if they visit you

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once every few days, once every month or whatever it is your locality whatever people are accustomed to, then that's the frequency of how you are to visit your blood relatives now mulawa That's good decreed that up because some people get confused because the wife doesn't allow the husband to marry anyone at all completely. So that's Harlan.

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Now house

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a friend of mine wants to know if his story is haram to write. It involves magic, but only the villians practice it.

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The good guy in the story does not use himself recycle locker,

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now share cabin with a meal for him a whole lot. He mentioned that it is permissible to write up a made up story than a fabricated story. It is permissible to write up a made up story, as long as it teaches something good. As long as this story is teaching something good, like children's novels, children's books, they write these kinds of stories. They fake stories, fabricated stories, but they are trying to teach a point, a good moral lesson, or a character in Islam or something like this. There's no problem there's no harm in doing so. However, the book should not be promoting matters that are haram, or contrary in Islam. So if this book, if you're writing a made up story, concerning

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magic, and it is a promotion to magic, then this is impermissible. But if you're writing a made up story, and within the story, you are presenting magic in an evil way to condemn the magic and the highlight its evil and its harms, then of course that's in line with a Sharia that is in line with Islam and there's no issue in doing so now Allahu Allah

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is

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can we recite the transliteration of the Quran doesn't have the same rewards as reading it in Arabic script. So is reciting in the same way just different scriptures reading off

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the Sharpen of a miracle hammer Allah, but I can remember is that he mentioned that it is impermissible to read the Quran from the transliteration and as a result, a person is supposed to strive and put lots of hard work and effort to learn the Quran in the Arabic language so that he can read it in the Arabic language in the same manner Allah azza wa jal revealed it doesn't matter even if it took you a long time to read, read in the Arabic language if you don't know go and learn the Arabic. And the other solution would be if you cannot read Arabic you want to read the Quran. Then listen, listen to it. There is a lot of recite as Masha Allah that have uploaded the citation of the

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Quran. Well hamdulillah there are a lot of apps where you can open a surah and you can press play. There is even I think it's the Quran or n.com That's the website or n.com Masha Allah, you press the word and it reads every word by itself. So that is much better, then reading a transliteration, because in transliteration, most definitely you will read wrong, you will read wrong and that's not the Arabic that's not the the Quran, the Quran wasn't revealed in the script. So go to quran.com and everyone touch it, tap every word. And then repeat after when he recited the word repeat after and then next 1/3 One, and at the same time, you have a translation, you're listening to the Word,

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you're reciting it, you're learning what it means when hamdulillah when you learn how to read Arabic alone, then Yanni you're able to read the Quran now.

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There's also an app called Elif BALIFVW e that teaches you and it's it's very very good from English to Arabic. And I know a lot of people working good

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does a sin on Friday, way more than if it was to be done any other day but a calorific

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the sin on a Friday the scene on a Friday night here firstly, we need to understand something. The scene

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is multiplied in two ways. Let's first understand this then we'll answer the question. The scene is multiplied in two ways. There is a let's say quality and quantity,

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quality and quantity. A sin is not multiplied.

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In its quantity,

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and the number of sins, when you commit one sin, a person earns one sin. For every sin, there is a bad deed, that doesn't multiply, that does not multiply, but the quality of the sin, the heaviness of the sin that multiplies Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, they said, in secret places, and in secret times, Yanni, if a person was in Makkah, or in El Medina, or in by to lock this and he commits a sin in these areas, then his sin is major. His sin is heavy, the sin is huge. The sin in these areas is not like the sin in any other ordinary land. Right? But if he committed a sin in these sacred lands, then one sin is one bad deed. But it is heavy. It's a big deal. This is what is meant by the sin

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being multiplied. And also there are sacred times, such as Ramadan, and the sacred months will go home Allah Mullah also included Friday, they said Friday as well is from those holy days. Those these that are supposed to be honored and the sin during Friday, or during the secret months, the four sacred months, or during Ramadan, it is multiplied in its quantity. Sorry, in its quality, meaning the sin is heavy, it's big, it's a big deal to sin on a Friday, or during Ramadan, as opposed to the other days of the However, if a person committed a sin on Friday, then what is recorded for him is one bad deed now,

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Allahu Allah.

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How to respond if someone publicly insults the Prophet sallallahu Sallam or the Sahaba or their own home, whether it be a shower or a kefir? How there is not something new now this is not something new insulting in the Bissell Allahu alayhi wa sallam existed at the time when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was alive, they would say said okay, they will share. They accused him of being a magician, of being a perpetual liar of being a poet, Allah azza wa jal, he says

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whatever I can Lavina cafardo II atrophy Runa que la Hua I have a levy balfa la hora sunnah, every time the disbelievers would see in the beast, Allahu alayhi wa sallam who's one, they would mock him they would insult him, they would say is this the person who Allah sent as a prophet? And they would say this out of mockery, and Allah azza wa jal would commend the NABI sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for severe Allah may have colluded with your homage on Jamila. Be patient over whatever they say. So he was patient sallallahu alayhi wa sallam by Allah's command. He was patient towards the insult and their verbal abuse and whatever they said, Allah azza wa jal, he says, Well, I cannot Allah Allah

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caribou pasado kabhi Maya Kowloon, indeed we know that your chest becomes tight because of that which they say. They may have to look for some beer, they have the lockpick declare the perfection of your Lord, what couldn't be a sage he did, and be among those who pray and those who makes you should walk without back and worship your Lord had they actually agreed until until your death. Allah subhanahu wa Donna Yanni mentioned this many times in the Quran, not only about Marisa Allahu alayhi wa sallam, but many prophets before him that were also insulted and abused and haram, as Allah azza wa jal would say, well, I could have said no to Solomon Publika for someone who could

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VEBO who we sent way before you prophets and messengers, and they were patient upon the harm and the insult they received from their people. For someone who I've met with people who have utter homeless Runa until our victory came to them while I'm over delay kalimat Allah and no one can change the Sunnah of Allah and no one will change the word of Allah subhanho wa Taala Well, la caja Cabinda ILMOR Celine for this is how we're going to respond. And you know, and Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was patient.

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And Subhan Allah what was the result of this? The result of this was that Allah granted the NABI sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and his companions victory. And he gave Islam the upper hand and Islam was victorious. And those who insulted him for many E's, some of them became from the giants of Islam. Some of them became the best of Muslims.

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Yeah, this is what we need to learn and we need to also know that these kufeld all this share our personal whoever it is,

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That insults, and Moxon Nabi SallAllahu, alayhi wa sallam. They do this primarily to provoke the Muslims. That's all they do to provoke the Muslims so that they can say to the world look at these Muslims. Look how they're acting. Look at their foolishness. Look how they burn this and they break this and they destroy this and they kill this. This is only doing so don't give into their plan. Don't give into the plant. No one could actually insulted Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. The reality is what a foreigner like Africa has Allah azza wa jal said we have elevated, elevated and raise your mansion. Nabi SallAllahu, alayhi wa sallam his name Muhammad is being said every single

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second of the day and the night because every event, we say a shadow ana Muhammadan rasul Allah in every event, and the event is happening around the clock, it does not stop. So if then Assad was here, the next minute, it's over there, the next minute, it's over there the next and it just keeps moving around five daily prayers. The word a shadow a number Hamedan is being said 24/7. So don't worry about the insult of those insults. What we need to do is remain patient. And by patients we mean teaching and preaching to the world who Rasul allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is Lo Allahu La Habu. As they say, if they knew who he was, they would have not only stopped insulting him, they

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would have loved him and embraced his Deen We ask Allah azza wa jal to make us of those who carry the message of Islam to those around the world now.

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Does the hands have to show when praying because my job is full length and my hands are covered, thinks there is a difference of opinion concerning this matter and wrote about why hammer home Allah have any pretty much two opinions on this matter? The first opinion and this is the majority of scholars and they say that the hand is not a solid for the woman that her hand is not our in solid as a result, she can pray and have her hands uncovered. There's no problem in this. The other opinion is and this is the opinion of Allah nebula This is one of the opinions of Allah nebula that they see that the woman's hand is a older in solid is a older and they refer to the Hadith that is

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authenticated my email Albury Allah Allah to Allah that the woman is outlawed. And as a result, going by this opinion, a woman must cover her hands in a solid must cover her hands in a solid This is the second opinion, however, not know what we say Allahu Allah, as it were, no matter what hammer home Allah has taught us, when we when we heard this opinion. And this this matter being discussed. They said it's better better for a woman to pray while her hands are covered. And if a woman prayed, and her hands were not covered, so he actually had her hands uncovered then there is no problem in this at all now and why do we say it's better to cover the hands when praying so that we can escape

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this entire difference of opinion altogether? And any as a result won't have an issue? However if a woman prayed with her hands covered or uncovered now there is no problem in this one law Harlem So her question was that she has her hands she thinks she her hands have to show

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and there's no problem there's no problem. So he discovered not that's better.

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But okay, this was after really is authentic to say Allahumma inni Aldo Bica and Sharika beaker wanna alum of stuff for a lot of stuff for law, Lima Allah, Allah Allah. Now Allah now that we can actually can become an alum was no Pharaoh Kalamata Anna,

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three to three times in the evening. So the question is about

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Allahu Allah, Allahu Alem. I haven't come across this thicket, that it is from the morning or evening I've got I haven't come across

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this as being from the morning or the evening, however, as a, as a vicar or a dryer to make, then yes, this was narrated, authentically Allahu Allah, it was narrated authentically. And this is hadith of Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Anhu. In when Elisa Allahu alayhi wa sallam taught him this dua that wipes away your ship in its entirety, major and minor shift is to say Allahumma, India all the big machinery chemical and alum was still futile Kelly mela Alam so as a DUA to say that's fine, no problem. But to say that it is to be said three times in the morning and in the evening. I haven't come across anything that suggests this is from cattle Salah heard myself. So Allahu Allah.

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Is it permissible for a sister to give a proposal to a says sh so I'm guessing chef

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slash person have knowledge for marriage to be his second wife? If so, how will she go about it? Will she message him or send the message through a mail to ask him?

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Jade and I can recall the Hadith on this. On this instance here and that is the hadith of anus.

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In Melaka Robbie Allahu Anhu

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hadith of Anna's he mentioned that a woman, Danny unassailably, Allahu Anhu says he was in a gathering. When the sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was teaching in this gathering. So a woman, she crossed this gathering, she came into this gathering and out about NAFSA Allah Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, she proposed to the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he she said the rasool Allah with the desire me as a wife in marriage.

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So no sort of the Allahu Anhu is daughter was with him and his daughter. She said to us, Father, man can Accola higher or higher ahead? Oh man, aka higher or they can remember the narration to be a lot higher. Meaning how shameless is this woman? Then she doesn't have any shame into how did she just stand in front of a neuroscience lab and propose to him like this. So then unassailably Allahu Anhu. He said to his daughter, Here, hold on Minkee. She is better than you are about NAFSA Allah Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, she proposed to Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam learn about why Muhammad Allah when they discuss this hadith, they mentioned the permissibility of a woman that sees

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righteousness in a person. So if a woman saw righteousness in a person, and wanted him as a husband, for her, it is permissible for her to approach him in marriage. And it is permissible to ask him for marriage, there is no problem in this at all. Just like a man seeks a woman in marriage, then if a woman sees righteousness, and goodness, and great character and conduct in a person, then she too, may ask for him in marriage. Now, here in terms of how to approach, of course, it's much better in a case like this, to send her male relative to send her brother, her father, whoever it is, send him to ask this person, if he is interested in the female relative, that would be better, that would

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reduce al fitna, and Yanni Hamdulillah, it would be the most ideal situation. But let's say this woman is asking and saying that she's not able to do that she cannot send her father or her brother, because this is a one time chance of meeting this. Any posts are of great character, and knowledge and so on. In this case, perhaps she can say, Look, this is my father's number. Can you call him for an urgent matter? Instead of talking to him about the case and then Jani he might understand what she's seeing him might not understand. But if he does decide to call then they can carry on the conversation from the so the ID is it there is no problem there is no shame in a woman asking for a

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man in marriage if she sees from him good qualities and good character Allahu Allah now.

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Susan gonna be a lucky shift out there.

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Of what

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is it permissible to hang or write a hadith slash AR from the Quran on the wall to serve as a constant reminder not for decoration.

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If that's the case, and it's being hung, for a reminder, and if someone puts an ad on the wall, for example, who mentors your own a fee in Allah fie the day in which you will return to Allah, these eight that move the hearts, these are eight that awakened the heedless heart. So if he posted wanted to put the idea up on the wall, so that every time he looks at it, he reads it. He remembers and awakens him then there is no issue at all. In doing so there is no issue at all in doing so. The problem is, if the aid were being hung for decoration purposes, then that should be avoided. Because this becomes any disrespect to the Quran. Sometimes well luckily I still remember. I still remember

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as a young child when we went with my parents from house to house back then when we used to do house visits. I still remember at one instant we went to a house. There was a massive frame and there was a at redone in it.

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I didn't memorize the Quran back then. I didn't know what the eight were written on it, but the gathering the people, the people at that gathering.

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There were people that were smoking, or people that were conversing in matters that were impermissible. I remember this. So the idea is, you've got an iron for decoration. And right below this idea of people perhaps going against what this area is commanding to do. So this becomes a mockery and disrespect to the Quran. This is why it is supposed to be avoided when it comes to decoration. As for if any the case of this question for a reminder, then there's no issue to have the ayat hang on the walls now I'm Allahu Allah.

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Okay, salam alaikum my five year old son is autistic. Someone asked me to read surah Al Fatiha at a certain time for a certain number. I feel if I fall in any bit ah, please guide me properly for Cuba because no medicine or therapy is helpful for child physical Accredo.

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First of all, may Allah azza wa jal grant your son she

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may Allah azza wa jal

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allow this calamity of yours, to be a source of purification and elevation for you, in this world, and in the Hereafter, will be patient. This is their this is the decree of Allah subhanho wa Taala upon you. And there is immense reward in this if you're able to practice patience. Now we ask Allah azza wa jal to grant your patience concerning reading saltan Fatiha at a specific time and then a specific number then that requires delete and there is no deleted there is no delete that solo till further is to be recited at a certain time with a specific number for a sickness. What is known is that swallowtail Fatiha is a rocker Solothurn Fatiha, you may read this upon the sick. There's no

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issue without specifying a time and specifying a number of times of reading the surah. So if you were to randomly put your hand on your son, and you began to read al Fatiha, then this is from the greatest of medicines. And Allah subhanho wa Taala said we're known as delusional or any man who wish she felt what I had to learn we need Allah azza wa jal he described the Quran as being she fed a cure and a heel for the believers. Were also in the case of I will sorry, the history of the Allahu Anhu human. The Companions were on a travel as they were coming back to El Medina. They passed a town and they went to the townspeople and they requested food from the townspeople. They

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were hungry they wanted to eat. So the people of the town refused. I will say the holder and his companions, they ignored them.

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So as I was sorry, the whole Bri and the Companions continued to make their way to El Medina. Say you will home the leader of that tribe was stung looting, he was stung by a scorpion. And he began to fall ill and sick he's been poisoned. And you know, the sting of a scorpion. It poisons a person a person could be killed if he doesn't attend to medical aid right away. So they the people of the town they rushed to Abu sorry, the huddling and they sit in a fecal malarkey. Is there anyone among you who can spiritually heal the sick than the rock is the spiritual healing through the Quran and Sunnah. So I will sorry, the robbery went with them. And he entered into the town. And he came to

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this

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tribe leader that was bitten by a scorpion, and he began to read Salton Fatiha under manushi a permanent record and this person that was sick, his poisoned he should be on his way, the dying he got up as though there was nothing wrong with him whatsoever. He was completely cured and treated from his issue with so little Fatiha. So then later on of course, they gave them a few sheep as a reward as a compensation. When I was sorry The Hobbit he went back to Medina and he saw Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he explained the NABI sallallahu alayhi wa sallam what happened? And he said to him that he read surah Al Fatiha as a form of prayer for Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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said to him, why did he get unhealed? Okay?

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How did you know that sort of dill Fatiha has leukemia? How did you know this? In other words, and the result Allahu alayhi wa sallam approved of what I will say the holiday did. So the idea of the story is to teach you that swallowtail Fatiha is a shift