The Most Important Choice You’ll Ever Make

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Abdur-Raheem McCarthy

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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim.

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The most important decision you will ever make in your life.

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The most important decision you ever make in your life, what is it?

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It's choosing your friends

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who you hang out with.

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Who's your crew? Who's your boy? It's

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a decision that we'll make throughout our lives from the time we're young, until we get older, the friends that we hang out with the friends that we choose, is it really that big of a deal? Pay attention to what's Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us, he said Allah O Allah de Valle Jambo hado Coleman, you heard him that an individual is on the religion of his friend, so pay attention to whom you'll be friends. On the religion of the friend, he didn't say just say he was affected by his friend, he said, he's on the religion of the friend Allahu Akbar. That's how much the friend influences you.

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And that's why the process and him gave us the beautiful example in the Hadith, of how we're affected by who we hang out with, by who we befriend when he gave the example of methyl el jellies. assala who Julissa sue the example of sitting with a good friend and sitting with the bad friend. And he said, it's just like Hamilton Miss, whenever can pay you like the one who's the one who's selling the mask. And the one who's the blacksmith, the good friend being the one who sells the mask. And the bad friend being the blacksmith. He said that Hamilton misc, this one, the good friend, you're going to get one of three things from him one of three, the first being that he will

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either give you a gift, or he'll sell to you. And if he sells to you as your friend, most likely he's going to sell it to you with a discount, it's going to be cheap, to give you half price might even give you the price, he bought it for even less because he's your friend. So here is the second thing, he's going to give you a good deal, he's going to sell you some first time he gave it to you a second time he went, he's gonna give you a gift. Or he said at least if it's not this, or that you're not gonna get the gift or he's not gonna give you a good deal. At least you're gonna smell good by hanging out with him. Because he's always been in the musk dealer in the perfumes so you

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hanging out with him, you're gonna smell good, too. And the second one, the bad companion, he said, the blacksmith either he's gonna burn your thief, he's gonna burn your clothes. Or you're gonna have a bad smell and hanging out with one of the two. And this is a beautiful example given by a pseudo lossless alum about how we are affected by our friends. That what is the criteria of the friend? Who should we choose as a friend? How do we know who's a good friend is about what should we put as our criteria? And how do they let Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam also showed us he said at least allowed to a salon learn to saw him in Mena while

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he letter P only be friend, a believer, only befriend a believer, and nobody should eat from your food except for the one who was pious. So the first thing when you choose your friend is that he's a movement. He's a believer. And secondly, not just a believer, not just a Muslim, but he's a pious Muslim. And that's why the process Selim said that he should only call to the to break bread with you and eat with you. The one who was the fee. And that's when you say about breaking bread or having a meal with that's always your closest friend when you're gonna invite him for a meal. So he said don't eat with the one or don't invite your food except for the one who was lucky. The one who

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has the taqwa, the fear of Allah subhanho wa Taala. This is the one you need to be the believer. And the one who has to be the one who has the taqwa the awareness of a loss of power of what's out in his life by doing what he's supposed to do, and stay away from that which is evil. And if we are honest with ourselves, and ask ourselves that honest question, what do you want from your friends? What is your goal by befriending somebody? Is it just to have a laugh in the Hangout? Or do you want to benefit from them? having friends, it's a mutual relationship with giving and taking you benefit from them. They benefit from you. You make them feel good, they make you feel good. Look at the two

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friends. One of them. He reminds you that he it's time to go and pray. It's time he sees you looking you walk in the street, you're looking at it at a beautiful place that a tequila is gonna be in your skin a bad deal. millefiori tequila, and a second friend, he's gonna be like, Yo, check this one out, man. Check her out. You know, check it out. And he's entice you to look like this stuff a lot. We're supposed to lower our gaze. He's like yeah, logo for her. Hey, man. Come on. Look, man. She's beautiful

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stuff for a lot of them. And then it comes time for

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salaat and he says to you,

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in the heart, you're good. You're a good Muslim man. He knows your heart. You don't have to pray to prove it. These are the two examples of the good friend and the bad friend. We need to choose our friends properly. Because as Rasulullah saw, Selim said, You own the religion of your friend and pay attention to something. If you reflect when you read sortal Cafe every Friday, one of the ads that pop out to you the command of Allah subhana wa Tada. will spill enough sicoma Allah Dena, you're the owner of the home below her that he will ashy, you read una ledger wallet do Ayana and home so panela Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala said in this verse, and be patient because life is difficult.

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As you're traveling down the path of life with your friends, and you're gonna face difficulties. He said, Make yourself patient with those who are the ones who are calling on their Lord, night and day. They want the face of alosa pattern was either to make a dua to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And then pay attention, he said, and don't let your eyes past them. Meaning what keep your friends close, because when your good friends are close to you, you're going to be strong. When they drift away. You're going to become weak when you're by yourself. So keep your friends close, and pay attention

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to what Allah subhana wa Taala tells us about humans the AMA, when we befriend those who are the evil ones, what's going to happen to those who befriend the evil ones. Allah subhanho wa Taala said, well, you owe me I'll do Baldy more or less. When the oppressor is biting down on his hand. You almost feel he's biting down out of what he's done to himself. He's oppressed himself by sinning shortcomings, bad deeds, befriending the evil people. What's the first thing this volume The one who oppressed himself by turning away from Allah subhanho wa Taala what's the first thing he's gonna say? Pay attention? Yeah, late in it to hook to moto su de Sevilla. I wish I took a path with the

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Prophet. I wish I followed the sooner I wish I followed the way of a solo solo while he was selling the second thing right away. What's he gonna say? Yo, yo, let's late any lemat tucket phoolan and karela Oh, woe to me. I wish I didn't take so and so as a friend. Why? What did so and so due to you know, a Bologna decree by the attorney what kind of shape on in Santa Paula? That he made me turn away from the rumors after it came to me and the ship on is the one who has falu he tricks you he reels you in and he tricks and he leaves you in the end metal also pilots Allah protect all of us. May Allah subhana wa Tada. Make us all from those who reflect on their friends, when they choose

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their friends and choose their friends wisely following the command of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, May Allah give us strength to leave those friends who are evil friends, because will if they're evil, and they're not obeying the law and His Messenger laughed at him. There's no good and then leave them advise them. But don't hang out with him. Only hang out with the ones who are the pious ones and the believers as Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam commanded us to do it alone was best a low item or some low selling robotica and the Vienna Mohammed was Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh