Channel: Abdulbary Yahya
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the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
from the cable he
would still be
on his chest from this week.
He himself not knowing what had really happened.
Very important his life
he came home
the blank is
people to bring him
something to cover
cover me up.
That was one of the best
Sallam was feeling.
It was for deja
vu, calm, calm down. And she said,
will he humiliate?
Never will he disgrace you.
indeed, you enjoy religions, you keep good relations with your kids.
And you stand for the truth.
And you help the poor and destitute. And he said very generously, any assistance, the deserted calamity afflicted with
because of these words,
she called the
fear for me. There's something terrible was going to happen to him. But because of his character, he reminded him to calm them down. And she said,
you know, between husbands and wives, husbands and wives, you should never use the word always.
Sometimes, when you get into arguments,
one or the other always says, You always do this, or you will never do that. That's something you should never use.
Then the other person will say, well, you are
and you will never do this.
And then it keeps on escalating. You should never,
ever, unless it's praising each other.
You should always
I have never loved somebody,
always enough in praise, but never in arguments or putting the other person down when reminded them of things or something that's bad about them. Always, always be used between husbands and wives in a good way, but in a bad way should always be avoided. So here's
her love for her husband. You know, she never said always or never, in saying anything,
in scolding, or anything like that, for the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he would always use always, of course, in facing the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And so she said, By Allah, Allah whatever it is,
whenever this question, because these are some of the things that you always do,
and it shows how
from the very beginning is Islam, how
supportive when others rejected the message of the prophet SAW.
there was a knock at the door
of the wife of the house.
And the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was sleeping.
want to answer the door.
As he said, Who is it?
And the voice
came from behind the door.
was the sister of the Leviathan. Her voice was very similar to persistent.
And when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam heard that heard the voice, he was reminded of the law.
And he woke up, startled, in a good way. He smiled. And I
felt jealous, even though
I had passed away a long time ago, but she was still jealous.
She was never jealous of any of the other lines.
Even though she never even really met her.
And so she said to me,
she said did
not give you
in exchange somebody better than a woman
in the room, old woman
who has lost our genes already.
These were harsh words.
And the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam immediately
he came at me.
And he said, Well, Allah,
Allah subhana wa did not give me anyone.
For she supported me
when others didn't.
And she believed in me when others rejected me.
And know well,
you know, all the people who gave
for the sake of Allah subhanho, wa Taala.
All the balls that they gave, and the other companions who gave no wealth benefited me more than the wealth of the alumni.
It was a deja vu recognize the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
who recognize who he was
by hearing from her slave mates, about his apologies
about his politics even though
she could have married every one of them, in fact, because of her status,
but she was not looking for anyone who would take advantage of her mouth or anything like that. She wanted somebody a great character and and this is something that we Muslims, especially those who are not married
should think about
when you're looking for a spouse,
look for someone of great character. And you might say,
well, I want to give you just an advice.
Look at how they speak to other people look at how they treat other people, especially those who are closest to them.
So, if you want to marry
a righteous, you have to have a righteous husband, or guys, you want to have
a pious wife,
I want you to look for righteous sons and righteous daughters.
Why? Because the son is respectful towards his parents, that he is more likely to show respect towards you also, when he is your husband.
And never doubt are respectful towards her parents, then she will most likely be very respectful towards you also when she is your wife.
So look for character, look for Dean for that is that which builds character and strengthens a person. And those are the kinds of people you have to look for.
That sister has already been married before you have the stigma.
And the stigma, she might be old, but she's older than me. Well, even if she's older than you,
maybe in her first maybe maybe her first marriage, maybe she was married to Serato.
And there was no compatibility, you know,
she was married to
two people before the
first passed away a second. The words in compatibility, and they didn't stay together.
So just because a woman
has been divorced, she should not be shamed or anything like that. But look at her character. Look at her.
D when you're looking for a wife,
married, even though she was much older than he was.
Most of us, we have so many narrations that the purpose of Clonazepam is 40 years old.
When I was I
was 40 years old when she married the prophets of Allah, he was described as a commander narrations of 30 and 28, and so forth. While I was founder opinion seems to be that she was 28 years of age. Why because of the children that she had. And she had six she was six,
from the Messenger of Allah sallallahu, Alayhi, wasallam, and must be a six. And it was, she was the only one that more children for the Messenger of Allah Wa, looking at their age.
Normally, a person reaches the age of 40, or 50.
Then, of course, they've already reached menopause. You look at when
I was born, if it was the case, if she was worried that she would have to have given birth to function
after she was 50 years of age. And normally a person doesn't get they don't give a woman does not give birth after she's 50 years of age, of course, that's possible.
is going to be possible, just like Lulu saw, she was in her 80s Now, I'm not talking about menopause, they
still gave birth. So I mean, that's possible, but most likely, hopefully that's not the case. And so, this is also another, you know, statement in the especially the Muslim community, just because somebody has already met and married or older than the the guy that you should never marry, that person looks towards that person. But look at the character look at how they are how they treat their children, parents, their friends and the people around them, and also the speech. And so the messenger of a loss of marriage. And remember the prophets of Allah before his marriage for when he was very poor.
he used to be a shopper and he lived with his uncle
who was also very poor. And so it was difficult
the profit some of
a bow, he was able to devote himself for the worship,
he was able to devote himself to call it others to
that alone. So there was no benefit in the process of providing more than the wealth of knowledge.
And so that is one. That is why, also one of the reasons why the prophet SAW the love and it was very much because of our sacrifice, not only emotionally supporting him also supporting him financially also, but you have to understand, a lot of us we have a lot of guys that are always looking for this perfect sister or this, they want their wife to be like the Sahaba yet, what do you want your wife to be like, you have to be like this.
Or at least try your very best to emulate the actions of the Prophet, some of
Just like when the prophet SAW
the best of humor the best towards your woman, the night of the best towards mindful. And so he was the best also towards his wife, he was the best towards his daughter. And so the message
was an example in that manner. And
for these young
from where it also came from the majority of
from this family, from this man
the family, of course, that gave rise to
and has had an article saying,
they change the course the course of history. And it also shows the importance of the family. And it shows the importance of the house and the homemaker. A lot of people don't realize that the homemaker, the house housewife, and the homemaker that a homemaker has the most important job
in the community. And all jobs are to support this most important job, all the gears that you have, are to support the household. And so the homemaker, the house, taking care of the house, all the other careers are meant to support it. And so there must be love, there must be peace in the household, in order for that peace and tranquility to continue to spread. And come from there, then the community in the old man learns
his fullness and tranquility also. And that is why it is through the door of the prophet
in our household where she raised,
who because of
this strife, and conflict, after the death of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was taken care of and there was peace of the oma because of that. And that's what
he said, Indeed, it is, indeed this son of mine, his grandson of mine, and he is sad. And he will bring forth two Muslim groups, conflicting Muslim groups together. And it was of course, through this household that
has been learned, and the value of peace and tranquility in the household and peace and tranquility in the open the household. And so
the wife of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
maybe Doris was
the only one that lived after the death of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was talking about.
She went through a lot of difficult difficulties with the prophets of Allah alayhi wa sallam.
When the messenger mela solo aaronson one day was praying in front of the cabinet,
open about him having already came with the internals
of the candle
and poured it or slanted onto the message of a muscle.
While he was making sujood. And it was floating around the elbow, I know that she heard that she rushed to the process. And a lot of it was I'm seeing him in that stage. And she was the one that cleaned him off, clean, the end trails, the Platinum cellphone optimist.
She was crying. See the statement, her father.
And the messenger
said, Oh, my God, do not cry for de
facto protect your father.
And it was very slow that again,
we tried to strike. He was there. But she was not able to do anything. Because,
of course, the spring, she has a woman in terms of physical strength was no match for someone like both but
in the men. And so she's on screen for how
to take and push
And he said, I have to
kill somebody, someone who says nothing, no other than my lord is lost.
the hardship that the family
had to go through is well known during the times in which there were sanctions laid upon the Muslims. for almost three years, the family of the process of Allies had to go through all the suffering, of all these difficulties of all these difficulties. So even though
even though she was a daughter of the prophets of Allah wa sallam, she lived the life.
She was a daughter of the best of mankind. But she lived a very simple life. In fact, after her marriage to
heard heavens, workhorse from making grains and so forth, and with household chores and duties,
and she only wanted what others were having.
There were slaves and so forth after
the war being brought, she just wanted
somebody to help her.
Just want him to be just like somebody else. And so both her and her husband went to the processor.
And the messenger
didn't give any service or made to her own daughter, but to his own daughter. And so they were a little bit sad.
With the message of a muscle alarm at nighttime when they had already gone to bed. The Messenger of Allah sola came knocking at the door. She didn't complain or anything when her father said, No. Nowadays, you know, our sons and daughters Do we want something?
If you say no to them, they don't scream and holler, they demand that you worry for them.
They're not asking anymore. Everybody else has.
This was the
best of mankind.
But they live very simple. And the promise of a long time they had already gone to sleep knocking at the door.
And so he opened the door. And then he said to stay in your places. And they said companies understand your places.
And the prophet SAW
before he said, The boys are likely to teach you something that is better than having a maid
and so he told them
33 times and he's sitting between them while they're still laying down. This is how close he was towards his to his daughter in
So look at the character of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
He comes to visit
some father laws and other laws or to is to
He visited us,
they should be disabled. That's right. The messenger will last, the best of mankind visits his daughter and son in law and their house at nighttime.
At nighttime shows how close they were. And so he said
33 times Alhamdulillah 33 times
34 times it will be better for you than having a maid or somebody to know the Messenger of Allah, Allah, Allah.
Allah very, very much.
And she also love
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam very much,
so much so that when he heard that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi, wa sallam
it was said,
that they never saw,
And she was always she was always in the worship of Allah Subhana, Allah, Allah, and praying according to this, before that, that's why whatever the thing is, to meaning the one who is divorced in their worship,
of Allah Subhana Allah.
And, of course, she raised, it's not
to say her father is the Festival of awesome, a lot of my name
her husband was founded.
And she is the mother.
And I will say,
what else can you say?
If that was the only thing that we
do not know. And it will be enough
to raise their status? We wouldn't even need to mention anymore.
But you might say, why is it that we don't have so much information about our lives, you want to know about?
it? You want to know about it?
You don't just look at their lives also. But you look at what they produce.
Look at what they produce.
You want to look, you might say, well, I've never heard about the mother of the mother of
four, indeed, the house called the open.
You have to understand the own man gets its strength, not in terms of numbers.
It's not because of numbers. And that's the message of the last
week we are going to be covering the latter times the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
When he mentioned how the non Muslims would plan our wealth and resources just like a group of hungry men and hungry people trying to fight over a battle for the good man it was started on how did that happen to
us that people would spend so much in big take advantage of so much. They said
Is it because we have so few numbers, the process?
Well, I think
you will be on that day when she will be like the foam. On the side of
the valley is when the rain passing by the floods come and you'll see like slip bubbles involved nothing.
Why? Because our strength is not in numbers.
I explained this in our connection, each individual Muslims connection with the loss of the strength of our connection was the law is how strong we are we will be as a movement. And so that spreading has that tree that grows from the ground has to have strong roots.
And that's the household because of our lack of the household. Because when we look at our communities,
we see that the majority of the activities and programs are geared towards people who are between 35 and 50.
system majority of our open
is the teams.
they are the woman of this oma and they give birth to the other half.
They tell you
because she is the owner.
And until we can realize that,
and then we realize that the household
is the most important career
in our communities,
and all leaders
only to support the homeless.
Until we start taking responsibilities,
we forget that the irresponsibility of our children is the result of our responsibilities as parents.
Sometimes we would like to admit that because it hurts.
the responsibility for actions are because we need to, we haven't fixed the core. And if we want to produce the likes of our customers who say
we want us to produce the lights of optimum
then we have to plant our seeds and more than growing
the branches of the lawn little crickets we have to take care of from the very beginning otherwise we'll keep on going break and then you will not be able to bend and straighten it once is big.
And that's why the family
is very important. When we're speaking about
the life of the Messenger of Allah so Allah, we mentioned already how much she had to go through the difficulties dislike her daughter also. There is messenger which
also has mentioned if
you believe that Instagram came to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam
This is funny.
She has come to you
with a container of food and the depth for your food and drink.
And so when she comes
then send her
the salaams from her lower from Allah
Subhana Allah Allah has given her Salaam personally
we don't realize that she is one of the first to be promised paradise. And the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
indeed, gibberd mantises have a housemaid of pearls,
in which there is no toils and no turmoil, none of this, that she had to go through and just show indirectly
the difficulties that she had to face in supporting them
and supporting the fat the proper the proper listenership of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
And so that's why when
he passed away, he was very sad. The Prophet Solomon was very sad. And when the messenger will
follow of the land was very sad only about five months afterwards did
also passed away.
Then when she passed when she was in her final moments,
she had asked for some bars and she delayed herself.
some perfume also.
And then she asked,
Southern bins amaze. The person was taking care of her at that time was
to put her back
In the courtyard
of her house,
she asked her husband to come.
And she was seen smiling. He was seen smiling.
And when he saw her, in that state, imagine
the husband, you, the husband coming to see your wife while scientists lay
in bed, dressed nicely
And so she looked up
as to what was going on.
And she said,
I have an appointment today,
she was ready
neither lost me with the profit.
Because that was the first one she loved more than anybody else.
Some of the stores are selling them because of her sadness
that she passed away so quickly.
And of course, this was something that was already.
there is a few minutes, we can really give the level of detail about the law in the life of
the right and speaking about.
But we have to realize one thing,
the importance of the family, the strength of the movement, comes from each individual person.
And the strength of the community is the strength of each individual family.
It's not a numbers, but it's a quality.
And you can't build anything of quality unless the parts are of high quality themselves.
And so that is why we have to return
to the also we have to realize the importance of the family, the importance of having righteousness and piety in our houses.
And when you're choosing a spouse, you want good children, strong children, look for the strong spouse also indeed and inferior.
And if there's any responsibility into children, maybe it's not because of them. It's because of our responsibility. As fathers, as daughters,
the responsibility of our community is not because of everyone else, we should start looking at ourselves.
we blame the times that we're living in,
there's nothing wrong with the times we're really pleased that we are living except for us.