Journey of the Soul

Abdul Wahab Saleem


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The speakers discuss the challenges of learning in a young age, including mental health and writing books. They stress the importance of letting children learn from the spiritual teachings of the Bible and emphasize the need for parents to educate them on their own values. They also mention a teacher who helps children understand the natural process and offers guidance on addressing one's own interests.

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Welcome all to this workshop on the journey of the soul a little bit of background on this particular workshop and what we're going to be discussing within it,

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it's based on a book that I wrote in 2017. So, two years ago on the and I titled The book from the beginning till the end from the start of life in general, and in whatever form it may be, and till until the end of life meaning till we reach either gender or not. So within these different phases that a human being goes through, one constant that we can see is the constant of the soul. So the last parallel gala creates the soul and

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the soul is that transported by muscle panel data from one phase to another to another, okay.

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and one may ask, why is it so important and significant for us to actually learn about the soul? Well, in essence, we are

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a body.

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And we are a mind and we are also a soul, the functionality of your body is already known to map to some capacity.

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physicians are, that's the primary task that they undertake, they study the body. And similarly the mind in some capacity, scientists able to unveil as well through

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neurological pursuit. But there's one aspect of a human being that people human beings are unable to actually learn of, except through except through the Quran or the certain except through divine

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even though it is through divine inspiration, that we learn about the soul, we can all feel the soul, okay? It's something that we can all feel yet we cannot feel it.

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We all don't. And we all feel that there's something special about us in terms of which distinguishes us from something completely inanimate, right? But we still cannot actually feel what exactly it is that that makes us that way. Okay. And the proof of that is many times not, you know, one time or, or a few times, almost all the time, in fact, all the many times, people end up dying. And it is hard to define the exact reason why they ended up dying, there may be no physiological problems with a specific individual. And suddenly, you see that they expire, and they died. So why did that happen? And how did that happen? Well, there must be something beyond just physiology that

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there must be something beyond just the physical, right. And that

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is known as the soul. Now, this concept of soul, it is something that is known to all to most cultures, and it is something that is known to people throughout the centuries. But still, it is not something that they're able to really, really get to the bottom of. Now, even within the Muslim tradition, or the Islamic tradition, or the for under the pseudonym, we don't have

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extensive amounts of details related to the soul. And that's what lots of data tells us in the Koran. That is Illumina data. They asked you of them so they asked you of the soul

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When you grow human embryonic B tell them over have met that the who happens to be from the affair and from the matter of of your Lord, right one that booty to mean and Remi illa kalila. And you haven't been given of knowledge, except a very little bit. Okay, so that means that even within the Islamic tradition, we know about the soul. And we know some details about the soul but the the extensive details are not known to us and Allah subhana wa, tada has expressed that but we still know a little bit so whatever we do know, that's what we're going to be in Chicago data study in in the course of today and tomorrow as well. Okay, so firstly, the English word sold in the Arabic

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language can be translated into aloha as I've already did. And it's

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Also at times,

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at times, you may find the word nefs. also used okay?

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Although the word nefs may have other connotations as well, but one of the primary meanings of the word nefs is also also the soul. And that's what lots of parallel data refers to the soul in this way when he says, Yeah, I get to have enough pseudo to my own soul. That happened to be the happens to be tranquil. Okay. So in this particular context, in, in the Quran, Allah subhana wa Jalla refers to the soul as a nurse. But as I said, the word nurse actually has many other meanings. That means blood at times, it can mean body as well, it can mean also the evil eye within some contexts. And it can mean that self as well, okay. But one of the meanings of the word nurse is, in fact, so the

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other word that is used within the Arabic language and within Muslim or Islamic literature, put on some ahaadeeth. And I thought, for Sol is the word foo, which we already used earlier.

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Right? This ayah, by the way, they're asking you about the word, say that the role is, in fact, from the matter of your Lord. This was revealed to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, when the pagans of Mecca, they came to the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, and they said to him, that tell us about a, b and c, a couple of concepts, okay. One of them happened to be this whole. Where did they get this idea of questioning the Prophet? sallallahu, alayhi wasallam about the soul? Well, they went because the pagans, they were not actually the they were not from the People of the Book. Yes, they had rubber, they had some remains of the Abrahamic creed within their society. But as a general

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society, they were far away from any of the revealed scriptures. So they went to the Jews in Medina. And they asked them, What is it that we should ask this prophet, through which we can confirm that he is, in fact, a prophet or not? So they asked him a number of questions. One of the questions that they asked is the question of the soul. So the profits of a loved one it was in them, of course, he doesn't have knowledge, much knowledge of the soul. So he waited for a lot of religion to reveal. And a lot of revealed this particular verse saying, they asked, you have the soul. See, the soul is wholly and solely from the matter of a lots of one on one data, and you haven't given it from

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knowledge, but very little. This was one time when this verse was revealed. And this verse was also revealed a second time as well. And that was when the Prophet had migrated to Medina, this time around the Jews themselves, asked the Prophet, it is law to sit down, what are the soul? What about the soul? So a lot so the prophets are awaiting. He thought that maybe because they're asking me for a second time, allow me Give me more information about the soul. But Allah subhanaw taala didn't reveal anything else.

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the prophet SAW a lot while he was sitting them recited that the same very verse on to the Jews in Medina as well that they asked you the soul, say the soul is from the fear of your Lord, on that will determine immediately after he died. And you haven't been given from knowledge except very little. Now. So canon law, when I was actually writing this particular book, I realized that it is the soul that happens to be one of the most strongest keys for us to be delivered into belief. Okay? Because this soul is where the secret of consciousness lies. We all have a consciousness that we can feel. There's something that we can feel a conscience that we can feel through which we decide on

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certain things that we do within our lives. Okay. But

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But through empirical pursuit, there is no way we can figure out how we gain this conscience.

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There's no way modern science any form of modern research has not been able to decide for us how we have been given this conscience, where we got this from where do we have this innate feeling to do or not to do? Where do we have this innate? Where do we get this innate feeling, that when we

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when we do something, which is evil, we feel internally guilty, right, where do we get this? Now, yes, it is true, that through deviations sometimes man is successfully able to suppress those feelings as well. But if a person is left to a society, which does not deviate is an innate nature unnaturally feels he naturally feels an aversion to evil and naturally feels in

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Guided by good. Okay, so where did you Where do we end up getting this feeling within ourselves? The answer is we got it from a muscle.

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There's an owner,

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who knew who made me happy See? who happens to be from the matter and from the affair of your Lord, right?

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One FC warmaster wha Ha.

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Look at this

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one of sin, one man. So while the end Hama, ha foodora, Howard deploy, and think about the nurse, and a lot of nurses among the words used for soloing upon writing, sometimes. So Allah says, think about the, I swear by the soul, and how it had been perfected as well. Then he says For alaba, foodora onetaqwa. And then a large zoa j, he guided the soul to know of goodness and also of evil, the food and also the support.

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And then lots of lessons as for the person who ends up suppressing this ad hominem and DISA, but definitely is a God. But that's the person who ends up

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using and capitalizing this goodness that's been placed within the soul, this natural feeling of doing right and leaving evil, whoever capitalizes on this, that person has been saved, and whoever, whoever does SAP, whoever covers it up, let's say you sue, in the Arabic language, it means to cover something up repeatedly, such that there is no science of the fact that it has been covered up, if you have a little pen, for instance, and you take some papers, okay? And you start covering that end up with papers. Now, essentially, the first paper you'll see a little bit of a bump, the second one, the 10th. One, slowly but surely, that bump will start to even out and it'll look like there's

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nothing there, essentially, right. Okay, so that's what that should mean. So you have that innate feeling within yourself, and then through deviations through constantly doing wrong, sometimes you end up burying that innate feeling towards goodness within ourselves, but it's there, you're rehashing. Okay, so Allah subhana wa dias Denton, reminding us of the fact that there's this innate feeling that Allah has created within our selves, I asked him, What data to allow us to hold this feeling and trust and love. A lot more for me.

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Now, do we have one soul? Or do we have multiple souls? or How How is it?

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Does anybody have a guess on this one? Just one, just one soul.

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It's true. We just have one soul, although some philosophers, they actually went further and they suddenly have three souls, okay? Every person has three souls but even Muslim

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philosophers but

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the reality is that the different descriptions that we have in the Quran and the Sunnah for souls are just that their objectives, their descriptions, but they're all in reference to the same soul. So sometimes a lot of refers to the soul s. And Nuff said Motorola, in sometimes refers to the soul as an Epson nawala. Other times a lot refers to the soul as a nested amount of the soup. So the tranquil soul, the self, reproaching soul, and the soul that is inclined to evil. All of these actually are the same soul, but they're different states that Allah is describing of the soul. Now, what exactly is the soul, as I already said, I've already described we don't actually know the exact

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essence of the soul, but we can feel it. And that feeling is found within our consciousness, that our conscience our conscience is a testament to the fact that there's something more to it. And, and also, through experience, we as I said, we see people dying.

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They're gone. But doctors are not able to define occasionally, and often, what the reason for the death may be so why did the person die? There was an ingredient that Allah had placed within this biological creature that led him to being alive, alive. And when that ingredient was pulled, when the time for the soul to be extracted gain, then that biological creature no longer continued to function. Right? So that

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is a testament to the fact that there is something more to our body than just the body itself.

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Now, I want you to know that this feeling that Allah has created within you of wanting to do good or

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any feeling that your conscience leads you to? Okay?

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This is one of the most powerful tools that you've been given for faith.

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And the reason why you have this feeling is described within the Quran, Allah subhana wa tada tells us of another alum, the first stage in which the souls happened to be, okay, so now we're going to the first phase of the journey of the soul. In this phase, Allah subhana wa tada tells us,

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we happen to be in this

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in this world, which was known as the world of

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What is this world of a thought? In that Allah says that, what is ever done a book everybody Adam mill, will move?

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What Allah azzawajal took from the the progeny from the lens of the children of Adam.

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And what did he do? Well, he had the Hamada and fusi him and he also and he made them bear witness upon themselves, okay. And as to build up become, Am I not your Lord, on who but they said, definitely, you owe a lot. So again, our Lord shahina, we have better we be a witness to the fact that you are in fact, our Lord and Allah subhanho wa Taala said, and uyama at MIT, in coonan, ha, ha, ha, do not come on the day of judgment and tell me that we used to be heedless of this particular promise and oath and covenant that we took from you. So prior to the creation, as we know it today, there was another creation that Allah subhana wa tada had created, and in that creation

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ally, had collected all of us in a plane. And he had made us take an oath before him when he said, and that's to be honest, because he asked us a question, Am I not your Lord?

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Every single one of us stood before a lot as though agenda. And we said, that, ah, definitely we are your I am your Lord. Or we are your slaves. And you are in fact, our Lord. And then Allah subhana wa tada said, Do not come on the Day of Judgment. And say to me, that all of this that happened, you happen to be a we happen to be heedless of it. We didn't know though there was no knowledge that we have out there for you

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know, what could not really get them back in

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the room, he said, also don't come on the Day of Judgment, and tells me that, that it was only our forefathers with committed chin associated partners with you, and who did not choose to worship you alone, it was our forefathers. And we were simply following their lead. Because a lie saying, I have programmed you upon belief. There's this feeling of and this want and desire, a yearning, there's a desire for a person to believe in Eliza, which is a loan that's already been programmed within us. So don't come to me on the day of judgment and say, I don't, I never had this feeling because you didn't have the feeling and the loss of Hana data, those of that feeling within you. And don't come

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also and say, our forefathers were doing wrong. So we ended up following their lead, because that's not going to be an excuse for you.

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So this is the moment in which our last panel of data and programmed this particular soul of ours, and a lot of profits, a lot of it was said.

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told us

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that the Alliance origins are to this idea.

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That a lot as I said, we're in the hunt up to everybody for NASA. I created my slaves, all of them on your monotheism. Good. No, every single one of them was in the home at that homeless shelter. And it was shaped barn or shaped bonds with an S at the end, Satan's that had come to my slaves by worshipers, and they had sucked that they pulled them away from their religion. So again, in this particular study, let's see a lot of Zoltan is telling us of this reality that when people are created, they're already created on this innate feeling of worshipping a lot of ethnicity, which Allah and that's why many people don't accept Islam. If you talk if you listen to a lot of new

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Muslim stories, many times they'll tell you, it just felt natural. It just felt like the right thing.

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Do I always

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didn't feel like Trinity that was the right way to go. When I heard about monotheism, it sounded like that was the way to go. So you'll hear this many times and people who accept Islam because it is something that Allah has already created human beings on it is it yes a times it becomes covered up like the way I described papers covering up a penguin on top of the other times it gets covered up. When you start to rehash then that original feeling that in a feeling apartment, a lot of zoology, as created maggots starts to come arise again. And that's why the profits are a lot more it was sent to me said, Man, I'm in mo Luton in Beulah Island. No child was born, is born except that

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he's born upon this innate natural nature to believe in Allah subhanho wa Taala for a while Will you help me Danny, he then it says parents that ended up taking him towards Judaism. Oh no 17 and it is the parents also that end up taking him towards Christianity, even when deciding, and it is also the parents that end up taking him toward Zoroastrianism. So it is natural for a child to be born upon this innate nature of belief. And then depending on the circumstances the person has been born in do they end up going into a different direction. But is that an excuse? remember Allah subhana wa tada said in that hadith of Adam, in the eye of Adam was up, but it wasn't part of my data, took that

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oath. He said, Don't come to me on the day of judgment and say, ABC, don't come to me on the Day of Judgment, say I don't remember this promise, because you feel it, don't come to me on the day of judgment and tell me that my parents were wrong, and I was simply following them. Because that innate nature is going to be telling people at some point within their lives, that you have to turn to believe it is the people themselves at times that cover up that feeling or that

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that do not follow that feeling as well.

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This is all the the first stage, okay, which is known as the state of the art and then we'll come to another another phase of the soul, okay.

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This phase of the soul

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is known as the phase in which the child or the soul is blowing into the womb of the mother, okay. So now you have a fetus growing, and you have a child growing, and that child is

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and that child is, is going to be presented by the last panel on data with a soul. And the profits of the law it was sent them of course, as described in the Hadeeth

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which is authentic, which is sort

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of economists room, the phases of the, of your logical development, right. And I know throughout the 90s, and throughout also the better part of the first decade.

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All of these phases were constantly highlighted by by doctors

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who believed in Allah subhanho wa Taala, and also others that the embryonic development of, of us within the wombs of our mothers happened to be very, very detailed within the bottomless window. So these are some of the phases that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam described, and they're all in accordance to modern with modern science has also come to show us as well. And the profits of the long run he was said, in a heavy duty metal feed alternating mean

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that each one of you

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is gathered in the form of semen in the womb of his mother for 40 days. Then after the 40 days, that particular being the fetus ends up becoming a clicking plot akula misled Alec then he ends up becoming this clicking pot, then he ends up going into another phase and that is the phase of flush the player portal Moodle is a mythical dynamic map you'll see in a minute. Now, I want you to listen to me very carefully on this particular issue because the way I'm going to describe this, the early classic scholars they didn't necessarily define it in the same way actually, I should put it this way. Some of the early classic scholars did not necessarily define it in the way I will define it

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today inshallah, although others did, okay. But what I tried to do is I tried to collect between the ideas that we have, along with also the the development in in modern animation

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ionic researchers, Well, okay, how can we collect the data and define, as closest we can, the date in which the soul is blown into the fetus. Okay. Now earlier on, most fathers would say that it was around the 100 and 20th day that

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that the soul is in fact blown into the fetus. But this is not the only opinion there are other opinions as well in the past. But I tried to collect many of the ideas related to this, and come to some sort of middle wig, okay, where we can understand all of the Hadees correctly and simultaneously It is,

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it is not in contradiction with what we see physically what we observe as well. Okay, so, the first thing

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in the route that I just mentioned, the profits a little longer, it was similar, he said, each one of you ends up growing for 40 days in the form of a semen in the womb of his mother, then after that, he brings becomes a clinging port, then after that, he becomes a

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he becomes a piece of flesh as well. Now,

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the word in the Hadith says filmen,

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misled Alec, then he becomes a cleaning cloth. Likewise, some people have understood from this, that he becomes a clean clock for another 40 days, then he becomes a flesh a piece of flesh for another 40 days. So collecting all of that together, what happens, that ends up becoming 120 days, right. So because of that, they said that after these 120 days, this is when the magic comes, this is when the angel comes to blow the soul. However, if you do not translate this at ease in this way, it can be interpreted in more ways as well. And when we look at some of the other, I had the thought muscle loss of a lot more, it was a number related to that, perhaps some of the other interpretations are

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stronger. I'll give you one for instance, also authentic ID and that is that

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that each one of you is gathered within the womb of his mother.

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For how many days people are the only in a woman for 40 days, and that's the face of the female film spoon feed alika

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this interprets the other one Okay. Then he will become a cleaning plot during that same phase,

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then he will become a clinging plot during that same phase feed it with later.

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All right. So then during that very phase, he will grow into a clinging plot, then again, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that, during that very phase, he will become a moblog. Just like that as well, you will become a flesh as well, just like that. So now, this Hadith, what's the trend is it that during the 40 days, all three of these phases that are being described will occur. Is that clear? In the first Hadeeth, it is possible to interpret it either way. Some scholars, they interpret it, as I told you 120 days, but it's possible to go either way with that. But this one is more specific, and it is describing it in a way where it appears to say that 40 days is what all of

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all three of these described faces happen, after which the angel comes and blows the soul within the fetus. There's a again, another Hadith even more clear than the previous two. In this Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said he did not think Danny was

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limited. There are a lot who

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are somewhat

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Now, in this one, the profits are setting themselves when 42 days

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divided into weeks, how many weeks would that be?

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42 days Yeah.

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Okay, so

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when 42 days go by, then at that moment, Ally's orogenic, he sends the angel. So this means all of the developmental phases that were being described happen within the 40 days, not as the first Hadith, apparently,

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you know, meant

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even though as I said, the first Hadith is open to interpretations. You can understand it as 120 days. You can under

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Then it is 40 as well. But both interpretations are there in the Hadith literature over here, and this one, it's even more clear that same 42 days, I'm going into detail with this for a reason. Okay, we'll get to it very soon.

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So, through all of this, we can kind of understand that lightly, it is within the 40 days that all of these phases described, within that Hadith take place. Now,

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after the 42nd day, the angel comes, according to this tradition that I mentioned, he comes and he does what he, he shapes the body, okay.

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And he creates the ears as well, what?

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What goes on, and he shapes the, the, the eyes as well. And he starts to shape the skin of the fetus as well. And he now

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he now starts to place the nahan, the, the flesh upon the body, as well. And the bones start to form at this point as well. Now, when we look at the fetal development timeline, we'll find that it is exactly at six weeks, all of these things that are described in the last Hadees that I mentioned, all of these things begin to happen. And it is exactly at the sixth week, that we can start seeing the chart the fetus,

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giving us a reflex for risk response. So if you try to touch it, it'll keep you move, you can start feeling it around that time, and the heartbeat starts to strengthen as well. Right. So because of that, I believe

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that likely it is after the 40 days that that soul is also blown into, not likely definitely according to this idea that the soul is blown into the fetus as well. Okay. And that coincides with what we see, as well. And what we feel because when you have the sixth week, when that finishes at that time, there's reflex response, you touch the stuff, even the belly of the mother, and you can start feeling the child responding to it. Right, that the heartbeat starts to strengthen also this, this fetus as well.

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And that's why we find that somehow the law, the

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ahaadeeth, in terms of fetal development, and the idea in terms of when the soul is blown into the child as well.

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are in complete harmony with what we can actually feel and experience. Now when we say it's possible for us to be able to experience this also in the past, yes, but it's harder to define in the past, what week the mother happens to be, right? It would have been harder to define in the past what exactly you know how long the child has already been developed. Okay. And all of this is described by a lot of agenda in the Quran as well. But without the timeline, so Allah Subhana Allah, Allah says, Allah, Allah,

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Then we took the semen, and we made it into a cleaning cloth for Harlequin, and

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then we took the cleaning cloth and we made it into a flush for holopainen Mohatta Ivana, then we took the model, then we took the flesh, and we made it into bones, okay, Becca, zona de la vida, then we took the bones and we started to put flesh within these bones as well, after that film and check now, hold on, aha, then we made the creation, this particular fetus into yet another creation. And after the sixth week, at which point you have the bone starting, you have the the flesh there as well, you have the eyes forming, you have the fingers forming as well, after that week. Now, there's a rapid growth in the fetus very fast. It's noticeably different than everything that happened prior

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to it. And that was kind of what the artist says in the book. Check it out. Now, we created into another being another form as if it's almost another thing, because all the six weeks are quite slow. And then after that it's very rapid. And it's very fast. But the Bartok along with accidental, accidental cytidine so how perfect and how blessing is a lot as a virgin, the most perfect of all create tours.

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I ask Allah subhana wa tada to grant us the defeat to to to understand that the Koran will always be the light, which itself brings every other science into check and not the other way around. And the reason why I say this at this juncture is because sometimes we as Muslims even living in an era which is empirically orange,

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Did we sometimes end up looking at the empirical evidence to try to test the whole organism but not the other way around? It is the forearm which is more human. Upon everything else, it is the blind, which happens to be the the authority to define whether other things happen to be right and wrong, and not the other way around. Because if we look with objectivity, we will never find anything within the Quran and Sunnah that goes against realities. Those things which happened to be established reality is, of course, that that is right now,

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all along they were we've been talking about the soul and when the soul enters the body, and the question is, why is it so important for us to actually discuss the soul at because it is what brings people into life is that without it, people just happen to be flesh and biological creatures that may not the definitely are not adamant, right? If you have a biological creature,

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a human being even devoid of soul is not going to be moving around. That's one importance. And the other importance is, it is the purification of the soul, and the perfection of the soul that differentiates between one person and another.

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How do we notice, oh, we know this through experience. And also we know this through some of the traditions as well, in the law of Moses, he said that Abubakar or the Allahu taala,

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was not better than you, because he used to fast a lot. Or because he used to pray a lot. But he became better than all of us simply because of one thing. And that is that something that ended up landing within his heart, right? He even though he uses the word heart over here, it's actually referring to the soul as well right.

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So it is the soul that is going to be leading us in the right direction. And it is the soul also that is going to be leading us in the wrong direction, right.

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Acaba when the person who protects and purifies the soul, that person has been, has been prosperous, and the one who doesn't, he is the one who is at loss. Okay. Now, this leads us to another important question, right? Or another important idea, and that is that, at times, we find that people are really pious appearently. Okay.

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Really pious appeared.

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And throughout their lives, they're living on piety, they're doing all of the right things, they're doing all of the pipes things, but towards the end of their lives, something goes wrong and they go another path and other direction.

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What happened to them? We what led to this, the answer is within the soul.

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Similarly, we see people who happen to be really really

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envious, okay. And apparently speaking, and as they draw closer to their

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date of death, somehow Allah subhana wa tada grants them the dough field to change their ways, and change their direction. And Subhanallah you find them dying within to do or you find that doing something with shows that Allah Subhana Allah had granted them a good, a good death, I asked him lots of hands on with data to allow us to purify our souls a lot, Mohammed erminia. So, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us of this phenomenon, and he explained why and how this happens. He said, some a lot more It was said that a man he continues to, he continues to do what he continues to act by the action of the people of jedna that he said, female Abdul in us,

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right? Female Abdul in us, based on what appears to people,

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This is very important, that appearently externally, the person is doing all of the right things. He's praying Salah, maybe he's in the first row, maybe he's giving the adon or leading Salawat but all of that is just taking place.

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As an external exercise, internally, the person is completely disconnected from Allah subhana wa Tada. It is private space, you see a different person, in his private time and in private life. You see a person who's completely the other way around.

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The Prophet tells of them said even though he's doing all of this, he is still from the people of the fire. And then there's another person who does all of the actions of the people.

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The fire that is apparently, but all of that is apparently as well. But he's actually from the people of Geneva.

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So the point in this is that

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a good end is granted to a person who works on the soul. Okay? Even if throughout the life, the person is consistently and continuously doing evil, but he has a unnecessarily dwama he has a soul that is constantly blaming him and telling him, you know, you're doing evil, but, but I hate it. I don't like this evil that you're doing this feeling that this internal guilt that the person has, this guilt may actually make him a better person than a person who's doing all sorts of good, but he has arrogance within him. Because, again, that arrogance is a vise within the soul. And the blame that the soul gives you about evil you're doing is actually a virtue of this whole. Okay? So a

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person who is apparently doing evil, but his soul is continuously blaming in about the evil that he's doing, that person actually has a virtual soul. Okay, whereas a person who was continuously doing good, but he but he has a sense of pride and arrogance in what he's doing, that person has an evil soul and that person has happens to have a voice of the soul. So the more you work on the soul, the more Allah zolgensma will guarantee you in sha Allah, the a good act now this doesn't mean I'm not saying over here, you start leaving external actions, you have to do those as well. Because that is of course, a great testament to the fact that a person is a good person, but

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if it is one or the other than that, then the correction of the soul is more important. Because that is what's going to guarantee you inshallah, a good end within within the hereafter and towards the end of your life. I ask Allah subhana wa tada to grant us the a good and lovely.

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Now after this, after the nine months come to pass, now on the soul goes into yet another phase, okay, it starts to now go towards a new phase. And this is known as the phase of life. Right? And I've referred to this in my book as the seasons of life, okay? Because even this particular

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life that we're living in has many phases so I didn't want to be repetitive I didn't use the same word. Rather I called it the seasons of life, okay. And it is in fact seasons that that Allah subhana wa tada has placed for us within this. So where are the seasons of life? Well, Alaska, we just described is generally all of the seasons within a verse and he when he says errorlevel, no.

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Buddha was enough to water for whom the gods won't fit and why he went, Oh, Daddy, can I tell you ladies in arguable fallen about

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of in alpha,

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one alpha two minima. He was born omega two denier.

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So nice origin describes all of the phases of life over here. Very, very briefly. He says, know that life happens to be that

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it happens to me.

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It happens to be amusement, and it happens to be a diversion as well. Okay.

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So as a child is growing up, he's an early, he's an infancy or beyond, happens to be a toddler or a child at that moment. All that life has to offer him is just amusement. Okay? So even parents that tried to get their children at that age to take life seriously, they're not going to because they're not meant to do that at that moment. And realize that we just gave them that the way in the Parana he started off with life being amusement and diversions. Okay, that's all it is the first time, you know, they want to play, they, they want to run, they want to talk, they want to be with their friends. That's what they want to do. And that's what they will do. And that's what they were meant

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to do. That is our lives. And we just created them at that point, while they're infants, while their children.

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But as they grow into their teenage phases, now, there is another phase that starts and now they have other goals and other focuses within life as well. And by the way, a person when he is ahead of the game, that is something considered virtuous at times people at a younger age, they start showing signs of, of cognitive growth and development in ways that people at that age do not necessarily show that's a good thing. But the people who are left behind, that's not necessarily a good thing. Okay.

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Next one, why Ford says well,

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the zombie, whatever the hell minutia,

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that it is quite bad. If you see a person

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Who's a young man, but he's acting like a child, it's quite bad. But even worse than that is if a sheath an old man starts to act like a young man starts to behave in a, in a demeanor that is not befitting to his his old age. Okay? So being behind your ad is not necessarily befitting. And it's not virtuous, but being ahead of your head of the game is, is a good thing. But nonetheless, most children will go through this phase where they're all into diversions and all in doing these events, and they want to play and they want to have fun, and they want to enjoy themselves great. But there's always that odd child that even at a young age, all he can do is you can go to the family

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library and pick up a book and read because he, that's just what gets him going. That's what keeps him going. And that that's an early sign of seriousness within life, right? And

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the second second phases now is enough, is beautification, right? As beautification, you see teenagers, all they can think of is how to look good. Right? They want to buy the perfect clothes, they want to buy the the latest fashions and styles and whatever it is in style, they have updates about all of that, and their hair has to be perfected every single time. And the hair job needs to be perfected every single time. And all of these things need to be perfected. The pin needs to be placed right in the exact spot that should be because that's how the the YouTube hijabi fashion model had done. Right. So these are, this is a phase and this is what people go through. It's It's

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It's a normal thing and allies origin. And he mentions it and describes it. Then after that comes the phase of that Xena beautification, give it a couple of years when they get to their mid 20s, late 20s, early 30s, the same person who is focused on every single bit of how they look, they won't even be thinking about how how their hair is done when they're leaving the home.

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The same person most of the times, I mean, some people will be they will continue to focus on that. But many people by the time they're 3031. Back said they're not going to be thinking about these things anymore, right? maybe slightly mildly. Yes. But the way that was done before, if they here is one year is you know popping out and you have to get a cut. Otherwise it doesn't look right. That's not there anymore. That's a lot that's finished, it's over. That phase is gone now. Okay.

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But now comes another phase. Now as we're getting older, now comes the phase of boastfulness, young people are easily impressed. So you'll find them ghosting, but when they are among adults, they will actually sometimes not be very boastful as well, because they're very easily impressed by people who have accomplished things within their lives, because they're looking for mentors at that point in their lives. Right. But as you get older, you get into your 30s and you get into your around that time now it's every time you sit down for you know, tea or coffee or something like that.

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Everybody in our table is boasting, you know, when I was younger, I want this, I want that. I

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I want the cross country race at a national level. I used to be the fastest runner in high school, I came first my

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in my entire college or whatever. But you'll see a lot of boastfulness around that time. And even though some of it might be true, and some of it may not be but nonetheless, because now you're trying to feel accomplished. So it's all about boasting. And Allah subhana wa tada says, What if I hold on big nickel. Now it's the phase of you just being boastful about all of the things that you've done in the past, right.

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And then comes in other fees after those folders. Now, people around that time, late 30s, they start focusing a lot more on wealth. Again, there's some people who are younger, and they're able to get through a lot of these phases at a younger age. Okay, so that's why not everybody in their 20s becomes a millionaire. Right?

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As you grow, there's a more of a focus on on money now, people start to focus a lot more on money. And the less data says, when the gap to fill.

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Now, it's all about the money.

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Young people, a lot of times you ask them, they say that, you know, so long as on.

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So long as their desires are being fulfilled. They have enough money to do that. They don't care about more than that. Okay. Some people have great aspirations in terms of their desires. They want to drive a Ferrari, those are the ones that are going to go after the goal even at a young age. But others they just want to have simple desires in their fulfilling, they're happy. They don't want to go beyond that. beyond that. They just want to sit on a couch and watch some TV and enjoy themselves.

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That's it, and so on, so forth. But as you get older, you start seeking money for the sake of money.

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It's like money itself is now the purpose. Okay? And that's why there are people who happen to be billionaires and they still keep going after money. They know they have enough money to maybe handle the GDP of it of a small country. But they still want to get further, Richard, why they know that they have enough money, some people that if they lived three lifetimes, they would not be able to exhaust it. But these still keep going after more. Why? Well, because at this point, now, it's all about the cathode. It's all about, I need more money. And I need more children as well. Okay. I need more children as well. And this starts to happen, you know, oh,

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even though people make their own choices about how many children they want to have,

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often, sometimes they're not able to have more than what what Allah is destined for them. But other times people make their own personal choices, I have three this is enough for me, they're already a handful. But if you see another person with six your legs apart a lot.

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Because Now it's the time for the Catholic even though you made a personal decision not to have the fourth and the fifth and the sixth, that was your own personal decision. But because the thing is, there is now about the gospel, three o'clock in the morning, oh, that you see people with more children, you start to feel like Oh, they have more children than me, they have more money than me, they have this and that and the other. And Allah subhana wa tada describes like this, the phases of life. Okay, so the first season, the way I divided it up, and divided it up has emerged as he did in one of his books as well. He said,

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I divided it up in the following following categories first season

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is from birth to puberty, okay. So that is from zero to 15, approximately, depending on when puberty hits for a person.

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So during this phase, we're talking about one of the most colorful phases of life, you know, you have so many changes that the person goes through during these phases, that all the rest of the phases combined, you're not going to see so many changes, okay, you have a child, a baby, who is completely dependent on the parents, most specifically the mother, okay?

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Can't do a single thing without the parents cannot survive, even to some capacity with actually cannot survive without a guardian. Period. Okay. And then this child, will this baby grows in into a toddler, and now they start to get to the terrible two. And now they start to feel more independent, even if you know that they're dependent, even if they know they're independent, they will act like they're not. They'll act like they need to have their independence now, right? Even though they know and once they realize they run into a dead end, then they'll come back to you and say, Oh, you know, can you help me with this one, even though

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even though they still have this internal feeling that I want to do everything on my own, you're thinking about that isn't it?

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then, as they grow older, they go through the phases that are described in the Quran, the phases of diversion, and also amusement, they want to just play and have fun, and so on and so forth.

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And these phases continue. But the thing about this phases, that from zero to 15, this is your opportunity as a parent,

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if you lose it, you lost it.

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If you don't

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take benefit from this opportunity, you will never be able to shape the life of your child. That's it. If during this phase of the life of your child, you are occupied with other things, you're occupied with television, you're occupied with other things within your own personal life, work. Whatever else may be, you're not going to be able to change the face shape the life of your child, in some capacity you may be able to do but largely you will not be able to. And that's why a poet says and this is very similar to By the way, the growth of a tree. Even in that verse that I quoted from Sylvia de that Allah subhanho wa Taala starts to liken life to the growth of a tree. Can I tell

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you how you can observe and perform in about the example of this life is the example of a of a rain that comes down which which brings about a crop, right? So Allah subhana wa tada likens life also to a plant as well to a tree. So a poet says inevitable sooner either one day when you take

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early phases, when you take the branches,

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when you take the branches, when they're when they're not very thick, and you tried to move them a certain direction, they will start growing in that direction. Okay? whenever you need them, either of them are possible. But if you try to take wood itself and you try to mold it in a different direction, it's not going to where does it come from from trees, but full grown trees. So if you take a tree that's still young, and you try to mold it, and you try to direct it, it's going to direct itself in the direction that you try to direct it. But once that tree starts to grow,

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and it's fully grown, it's physically grown. Now, there's no way you can, you can correct it. Now,

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there are many trees, sometimes on the streets, which are left unattended, that are kind of bleaching into the streets, right?

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The only, the only thing you have to fix that is you cut it, there's no other way to cut the branches, or you cut the tree, that's the only way you can fix that problem. Now, if it's in its early developmental phases, you can always put like a stick and redirect the direction of the tree. So it doesn't grow into the street, right. So that's what what this poet is saying as well. And then he says, at the end, at the

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FEMA healing, when he said Feel free to say that maybe you might be able to, you might be able to discipline young people, if you do it in the right way, if you do it kindly, but when they get older, and when the person is this shaybah, when the person is is an old age, you're not going to be able to direct them, and you're not going to be able to give them That's it, it's your opportunity to discipline the child has finished. So you haven't been up until 15 years of age, and you need to take advantage of it, you might be able to oversee it, you might be able to mentor them a little bit, but you're not going to be able to do any more than that, right?

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This is a rare opportunity to do that is gone. Now it's true. Some children at a very young age themselves, they have a demeanor which is already directed, you know, they already are going in the right direction, you might not have to do that for them. These are special children, and this is the father of a lot. That's how Allah has made them. That's up to them. But

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you as a parent can also have a great role to play during this phase. Beyond that you don't, and you have to be ready to understand that if you if you lost your opportunity, if you lost your opportunity doesn't mean you give up hope.

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That's not what I'm trying to say here. You can make. You can mentor, but you have greatly lost your opportunity as well. And you have to be aware

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that sometimes things were just too late. Okay. And I keep saying this doesn't mean the child is not going to come back to a lie zone. That's not what this means. This means you will have less of a role to play in that. Okay, they can still come back towards the end of their lives, even their 20s even later than that earlier than that, they can do that. But you yourself will not be the primary factor behind.

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Okay, because by that time, they will start to gain independence a couple of years, a couple more years go by, they're going to get a job. If you push them too hard, they're going to move out of your life.

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You have to keep that in mind.

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You push them too hard. They're going to say you know what, you're not giving me my freedom, I've got a job, I'm going to go rent a place and live on my own and do whatever I want.

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So you can do that as well, if you want to continue to mentor them. And because of that,

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but as I said, there are also children who start to show within this phase, the personality of a leader. I'll give you one example.

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As he was the ability of meaning, because he was the leader of the believers at that point of his life. He came and he

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Are you walked by a group of children and as he was walking by a group of children, one of the children that happened to be there, one of the linemen has to be the son of asthma. Right. And

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every one that was there started to run away. I was amazing, has a strong personality as far as the daughter of obika you're talking about a child those leaders that was raised by leaders nitric naturally he has this leadership sort of,

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you know, within him inculcated, he's seen it happen throughout his life. He's seen his father, a grandfather being a Caliph, right. So he's not afraid of these types of things. And so all of the children ran away except for the lightness of it. So

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Remember how Bobby looked at him, you're still a boy. He said, Why did you run away

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and all of your friends run away. So he replied, and he said, Oh, the meal and meaning the path is not tight, such that I should make room for you.

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The pack is not tight such that I should make room for you, nor have I made any mistakes such that I should be afraid of you.

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So he's showing a sign of a bullying. And that's actually what happened to have the likeness of a leader appointed his life, he actually became one of the prominent leaders of Mecca as well at that time, right? Now, this is, of course, we're talking about a very young age of the likeness of a button. As you grow older, that needs, the signs of leadership obviously become even more apparent, a young boy, I mean, you can see it in children's apparel. Now some children, when they go onto a playground, they're asking people,

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you know, they're looking for a team to join others, they're making their own teams, so everybody else joins, right. So you can see those sort of early signs of leadership and if a parent is intelligent, then they will capitalize on that. And then they will be able to create Charla percuma, great leaders as well. Now, as the child grows, they get into the teenage phase. And of course, at this point, one of the strongest feelings that children have that teenagers have actually they're not children anymore young adults, they have is the is the the desire of intimacy, okay.

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sexual desire, this is something that, that at this point in life, their lives, this is what they're feeling, and this is what they want. And that's all that's on their minds. Okay? Even if you are a parent, and you don't think about that many parents actually think although not my child, he's not thinking about them. And they're all thinking that when you're that age, you're thinking, everyone at that age, that's what's on their mind. Okay, this is not true. I told you, Allah subhana wa, tada described this. Okay. As you get older, your feelings of this nature obviously become decreased as the Prophet understood it. And that's why he addressed young people. Yeah, I'm not sure Shabaab or

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young people. When it's the bar, I'm in combat affiliated with whoever from a miscue is able to get married, then let him do something. Right. So if the Prophet is addressing it, and he's addressing mashella, Shabaab open assembly of the youth, young people, okay, so he knows that this is the feeling that and of course, we don't need to have the prophet to to know this, this is something that is natural. This is what people feel around this time. So what are the duties really, of the parents? You might be surprised to hear this from me, but what are the duties of the parents is to actually fulfill this for them? Okay. Many parents, they suppress this feeling within the younger

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generation, and it actually leads to great

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animosity between the child and the parent, because the, the priorities of the child are one, and the parent has a completely different priority. He's like, you have to get a job, and you have to go to school, and you have to finish university, and you have to do this and your child is like, I'll do all of that after I solve this.

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That's what because that's their priority at that time. That's what they're thinking of, that's what's natural to them. You know, earlier on in our times, I know, it's become, you know, customary for people to get married around 2425. When you're done University, you're done all of these things. But in the past, because there was no schooling system of some sort, people who get married at much younger ages, you hear the stories of your own parents and their parents and their grandparents, oh, they got married at 18 or 17, or, or so on and so forth. Well, that's because that's the natural thing to do.

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That's the natural thing to do, to fulfill yourself at that time sexually, because Allah, Allah wouldn't have created that need at that time. If it wasn't the time to visit.

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Why would Allah create the need at that time, and wait for you to go past that phase and then and then fulfill it?

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Like, there's no logical explanation to this, and that's why many children, many young people, many young adults, they end up doing these fulfilling themselves outside of wedlock, and then the parents say, Oh, she came home pregnant. So parent on level was she thinking now what were you thinking?

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You have to be considerate of that. So

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that's why Allah subhanaw taala says that, when given Ayana minco he says this.

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He said marry off the unmarried and spouse list I missed you marry them off. This is a commandment to the guardians of young people.

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This is a divine commandment by law to the guardians of young people marry off the spouse list of misdeeds.

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was sorry when I'm in the body.

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And also the pious from oma, I missed your sleeve.

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Men and women as well, he akuto forgot now what are the excuses that are given? There are a couple of them. The first one is that lack of responsibility? How is he going to take responsibility for a family? Right? If you train them well that he would be able to do that it was your job in the first 15 years of of life, to train him.

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So if you train them, well, then this problem would have never been there. There's a lot of people I know that our young

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people to get married and they're able to take responsibility. Personally, myself, I got married at a very young age, I won't tell you how young, but at a very young age, and I took care of my household completely myself without parental financial assistance, assistance.

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And many people I know people that aren't very given the number than me.

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So if you give them all of the tools to be able to take care of themselves, then they will be able to do that. I have friends literally, who have successful marriages, marriages, and they got married at the age of 16. Because that's the legal age, along with parental consent, consent to get married in Canada. And I have friends of that of that nature with the age of I even know people that got married and 15 here in Canada, and they're successful marriages, and they continue to thrive in some kind of law, went through university and college and everything, and got a job and they're living together. And they're only their 20s. And already they have a future, right, that are that are quite

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So there's a fear of responsibility. It's a fear of fear. But the reason why this fear is there is because all throughout the young age of your children, they were playing video games, they weren't given the skills to be able to look after themselves, look after their homes look after the take responsibility of things. They weren't given tasks that will give them the ability to run a household. It's your duty as a father and a mother to ensure that by this age, they're able to take responsibility of life. Right? They know how to do things. They're not busy and occupied only within just things that are going to Yeah, there is a time for amusement and diversions. That's when their

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children and maybe even throughout adolescence, but as they get into their teenage years, now you have to start giving them responsibility. So they end up learning how to take responsibility. Okay? The second fear is, okay, where are they going to get that money? Okay.

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Now, this fear of loss of data says in the Quran, that marry their spouse was a miscue. If they happen to be poor, then then what you need even low alarm will give them money from his grace. Now, if you truly believe in Allah subhana wa tada that you truly believe in this promise.

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Because if someone comes to you, and there happened to be a millionaire, and they say, go ahead and get married, I will finance your marriage.

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I will take care of you, I will pay for your house, I will pay for every all of your needs, would you believe in and go for it?

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Most likely, because you're like, this person has millions of dollars. And he's saying I'll run out look after your house, I will give you enough money to be able to rent the place and to be able to buy whatever you need your your regular needs, and you go through life, a licensing is there for a law will look after their needs. Okay. But again, I go back to the first point. And that is, of course, you have to do your part that by this age, by the late teens or early teens, mid and late teens, you've already prepared your children to be able to handle life, okay, you've given them enough tasks to do within their lives, such that they're able to actually handle life. By the age of

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2020 years of age, there are younger people that are very responsible, they're working sometimes two jobs and going to university at the same time, they're able to handle that at that time. Right. So capitalize on that. And giving your children a head start within life is very good for them. Because by the time they get into their 30s, they'll already be ahead of everybody else within within their their league, they'll have children, they'll have work, they'll have all of these things. But again, you have to enable them. And if you're financially able, then you can also help them financially as well. Okay, you have a basement, set it up for your child, no problem. If you can help help,

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but I don't I don't encourage pampering them such that they lose a sense of responsibility. Okay? It's important to teach them responsibility. Now, we come into the second season. Okay, second season. That's from puberty.

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For 15 to 35, but you know what, at this junction, I will chocolate stop. If there are any questions, I'll take some questions. And then tomorrow evening lights out, I will continue our, our lesson, inshallah, and go through the phases of seasons of life and the subsequent phases of the soul as well. And Sharma, are there any questions

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for the young children

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to guide them properly? So what are the advices?

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Like, from zero to 15?

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Is there any specific advice?

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so, it's a good question. So, what are the guidelines in terms of like, from zero to 15? What What should we be doing okay, now, I can do a long time, he has a, his a book called,

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which is known as basically deletable. Dune and as a as a prefix to it. And in that he describes one of the practices that that he describes the educational system around the entire world within his time, okay.

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Act, he describes the educational system for young people, right? For literally for children, okay. And one of the constant that you see in his description for all of the Muslim world, from North Africa to Africa, and our Africa, prior to the colonial era was largely Muslim, and also, Arabia and the new sia and all of these regions, one of the constants that you see is onek education, okay.

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And this is very, very crucial that as our children are young, we ensure that they're granted for onic education. So Pamela, one of the things that I always say to people is, there's one thing that you can neglect in the life of your child, which will never be able to fix period,

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you'll never be able to fix this within as if they rolled,

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you might be able to fix this up capacity, but you'll never be able to actually fix it, and they will never be able to fix it as well household. What is that?

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Or are on recital of the Koran is a is a very difficult task, in a sense that it is easy, with in some capacity, but perfecting it, the art of recitation is a very difficult task, okay.

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And it is best done at a young age. Why? Because it requires a lot of fluctuation of the tongue and the jaw, and so on and so forth. And those muscles once developed, it's hard to redevelop them as well. That's why I suggested he says that

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the all the too many different key that the recitation of the Quran is basically the exercise of a person's job. Okay. And those muscles, if they get developed in another way, at a later point in your life, if you're not going to be able to develop in the same way, that's why most people at an older age when they try to learn how to read the rock, they will be able to in some capacity, but they never actually end up doing it completely. Okay. So this is one thing, that if you neglect within the life of your children at an early age, you're never going to be able to compensate them for it. Okay? You have to ensure that your children get the best organic education while they're

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young. Okay, if they don't, and they grow old, you're not going to be able to compensate them for this, everything else they're going to be able to learn later on. If you send them to college or university, math sciences, all of these, you know, subjects, you can learn them at a later age, but recitation of the Quran, if you don't do it at a young age, you're not going to be able to do it perfectly, you will be within some capacity. So I say that and this was the this was the practice of, of Muslims across the planet, from North Africa, to Africa, to Arabia, to the Indian subcontinent to all around the world, that while children are still young, the first thing they do

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is they learned the very first thing, okay.

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100 enough. I tried to implement that on my, my children as well. My oldest is nine years of age, and, and hamdulillah. Before she learned anything else, I taught her that Okay, before she even went to school, even not even put her to school or homeschooling my children, but but I ensured that the first thing the very first thing they learn in their life is how to read the Koran and after that, how to their identity as well. The Muslim identity, other subjects are all learning

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They're all learning, you can always compensate for that, whether that be the not the sciences, the language skills, whatever else it may be, at a later age, you can always compensate. But when it comes to the recitation of the product, if not done at an earlier age, it will never be done in the same way. Okay. And again, this was the only factor is when we talk about automatic education. Don't just limit that to put on your education in terms of recitation, they also have to inculcate in you also have to incorporate the meanings of the broadness of the secondaries, okay? Why, because you need to let them have the ark as their as their framework, right, as they talk about that, and

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bubble logic, where you have a goggle through which you see the rest of the world, you want to make your child have put on as the goggles through which he through through which he sees the rest of the world, right? Instead of him at a younger age, get it all other philosophies and ideas as the framework through which he sees the world, the more are tricky, the way he sees the world, and then everything else is seen within that light. Okay, so the meanings are on them as well. And that was also the case along with the recitation of the Quran around the Muslim world, they would learn what the Quran had to say, at least in some capacity, and some basic meanings so that when they look at

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the rest of the world, and when they look at the rest of the sciences, they will be able to look at it through the framework of the of the Koran, and this is basically

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one thing, that another thing that this is the early, very early phases, let's say, from

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the earlier the better, some parents are able to even start a three, okay? Three, four, by the time they're five or six steep, sometimes parents are even so good that they end up making their children memorize the Quran by five or six, seven, there's that as well. But at least your children should be able to read the Quran by the time they're six or seven. Okay. And it's quite possible. As I said, I've done that with my children too. I know that it is quite possible, it is five they can do if they can read English vocabulary, Arabic, okay. So you have to invest into it.

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And don't cut corners within this. This is the only thing that's a part of law, sometimes even practicing Muslim parents cut corners, or they go to the mountaintop, they asked him, you know, can we pay you this much instead of this much?

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He's not going to put time into your child's life.

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He's going to cut corners, just as you're cutting corners in a salary.

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Don't cut corners, if you go to the the,

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if you go to the

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right here, the tutoring facility, are you going to start negotiating with them?

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So why would you go to the teacher and negotiate with him?

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you have a responsibility to ensure that you teach your child whatever the cost may be, you have to pay for you have to be willing to ensure they invest into the life of your child,

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the book on is the greatest thing that you can invest into. And it is not wrong for the teacher to be taking a salary forward in a good one. Right. In fact, even if he's making a killing and Hamdulillah, but you have to ensure that your child is being looked after.

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You have to make sure that your child is being looked after why because that's something that you need. And and just like you have within other things, just like you have within other subjects, the good, the bad, the ugly, the better, the best, simpler, and you're going to have bad for our teachers, decent teachers, good teachers, excellent teachers, supreme teachers as well. And they're all going to come to you in a different rate. You have to decide how how important it is for you to teach your children.

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Okay, you have to decide that these are and are being very frank with this when one may say well, no put on the money. Well, the prophets have said let's say that the Hadith in Sahih Bukhari

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kita, the best thing that you can take money for is the book of Allah. So when that teacher is learned, for 15 years, he needs, he has a family, he needs to support it as well. don't negotiate, make sure you look after their needs. So they look after your child. And if they're not looking after your child, then of course you have to also be considerate of that. You need to speak to them and be like, you know, we, we, we have this discussion you have a time you have to be here on time we have one hour you have to stay here the whole hour, make sure you're not on your phone. Either discussions you have to have because some teachers might be neglectful as well. That is also a

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reality. But my point is, just as you will take a keen interest in ensuring that your children are learning other subjects. You have to take just that much of a keen interest actually have to take a lot more of a keen interest to ensure that they are also learning that

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avegant page, this is in terms of hesitation. And also, if you are a parent who is concerned about their true upbringing as a Muslim identity, and also the meanings of the provider as well, right? The more you invest into this, the more data, you'll find success within the lives of your children.

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You know, sometimes people think Subhan, Allah, that, that this is not going to give them success within the worldly life, but I'll tell you some time of law, whoever is keen on ensuring their children are getting a good organic education. They're most of the children that are advised that are well educated in the UK, most of them end up doing well in school as well.

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Because they develop such short memories, that if they memorize the Quran, in a young age, they have so much committed to their memory, that most of the time is just by hearing something once they're able to commit it to memory. Okay, it's rare device, unless you're talking about a child or a person who's actually mentally impaired, there's those challenges as well, that's a challenge that's a challenge child that may need medical help, that's a different story. But most normal human beings, when they commit so much to their memory, they become very sharp human beings. Okay? So if you give them after that, some other things to study, you'll find they'll flourish and do better, you'll find

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they'll have very good

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study skills, okay? If they're sitting for eight hours a day to memorize a blog, and after that, a few hours a day to review the product, or to study the product, when they get into school, they will have such good skills, that they will definitely outdo all of their peers,

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most of the times, right, and that discipline that the linemen bring into their lives as well.

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After that,

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you have to also teach them when it comes to their Islamic culture. Now, ideally speaking,

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ideally, speaking, there's a theory called Islamization of knowledge. Okay? I don't know if anybody's heard of this theory called the Islamization of knowledge. ideally speaking, all of the knowledge that you see, within schools, and universities, all of this should be all of this can be placed within an Islamic framework. Remember, I said that you're giving your children at a young age goggles to which they can see the rest of the world, right. So ideally, speaking, and this has already happened in some parts of the world, and some schools have implemented this, and some universities have also implemented this as well, where they take all of the information within a

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modern sciences, whether that be philosophy, whether that be empirical sciences, whether that be applied sciences, whether that be whether that be human sciences, whatever it may be psychology, sociology, everything that's within here, and then it is, quote, unquote, Islamic sized, okay, or Islamic, meaning you take this information, and you get rid of information, which does not fit within the Islamic framework, and all of the information which does fit with the Islamic framework, and you take the passages from the articles, but not at the the, the, the traditions, and you attach those, and you pair them up, such that when the person is studying, they are able to study within

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this worldview. So every information they get the authority feel connected to their faith through it as well. Okay, just as we talked about the embryonic development right now, and I showed you some examples of verses from the Koran, which also coincide with modern science, when it comes to embryonic development, you can do this in every science in every field. Okay. So

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ideally speaking, if you can put your child through such a framework that they will come up with, as a person who are who is well educated in modern sciences, and at the same time, they're also well, you know, connected to,

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to their Islamic identity as well. And there are books written on this. So if you have a biology you have, quote, unquote, Islamic biology,

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okay, if you have chemistry, you have, quote, unquote, Islamic chemistry and the D, there are complete textbooks written to this effect, which employ the most modern theories and every concept, and then they also bring the Islamic ideas as well and place it together. So if there's anyone from the creative minds here or other schools, they should be considered of this because the art curriculum is being developed to the subject, and they are being implemented in school, some schools around the world as well.

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So if you can put put make that happen, if not, then at least you give them some basic basics of their Islamic identity such as the stories of the prophets, okay, such as the

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stories of the boy

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Our children love stories. So you have to capitalize on that, in order to develop their identity, give them the stories of the prophets tell them about just this morning, someone told me of a, of a,

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of a person in grade 12. That's basically graduating from high school, he was talking to a friend of his, and he said, We don't believe in Jesus, we believe we don't believe that Jesus God, we believe that this God,

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these parents are going to be questioned, you know that.

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It's not his fault.

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It's the parents fault.

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This is something they should have taught the child at a young age. And if they developed his identity, and it doesn't take much, and it did ensure that he's learned some basic sentence down at a young age, then at that point in life, you wouldn't be saying such a thing, right? So you have to develop their identity, get them close to the stories of, of the prophets, of course, the organic email and the pillars of faith, the Pillars of Islam, these are obviously all of these things go without saying now, before they hit the age of nine, or 10, because around that time, puberty can start kicking in. So you have to, by this time, have all of those conversations that you don't want

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to have.

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You have to

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there are kids who go through puberty, and they have no idea what they're going through, except what they've been taught in sex ed in school, if they're going to public schools, or even private schools, okay?

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They don't know how to deal with it. They start working here. I mean, you have to make sure as if it's your job, it's not a conversation you can hide from your culture doesn't admit it, I don't care, a lot will still ask you, if your culture doesn't, you know, incorporate this idea of speaking to your children about, about the inner development as human beings, then that's, that's your, that's bad culture. That's when culture needs to be thrown out of the door. A lot will ask you on the Day of Judgment, your child was about to go through a phase when he needed information. Why did you not give it to him? I'm not saying this, because it sounds good. It is the reality, your job as

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a parent is, is there to teach them this information as they get older. Okay, how to deal with this with their sexual development? And also what what happens to them in terms of their obligations, once they get to that phase within their lives as well, what happens to them, they have to start praying, they have to start fasting, how do you pray, how do you fast before they hit that phase, you might be surprised, they need to know the details of how to pray, before they hit that phase, they need to know how to fast right, just as if they start earning money, you have to ensure that they're taught, so all of their obligations, they call this logic, things that are just obligatory

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upon the the human being, okay, so you have to make sure that that is done, then by that database. Now.

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They're after you, you have to give them company, you have to start befriending them as they get into their lessons, they need a lot more privacy, you have to respect their privacy as well. Right? privacy is important, by the way, some parents don't realize that, that they don't have a right to, to micromanage everything within the lives of their children, especially as they become as they become legally responsible, responsible. And when do they become legally responsible, that is around the

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that is when they become when they reach the age of puberty, you should have been developing them in a way where they'll be able to carry themselves correctly, privately around that time. Okay. So you give them some space as well. And you you by this time, you still need to start mentoring them, because you would have already taught them the obligations you would have already taught giving them a general direction in life. And you need to start encouraging them as well. Okay. And encouragement can be in various different ways. How to

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encourage them to attend the masjid, to stay connected, to demand your massages to make sure they have facilities for your children. This Masjid and other massages are made by the money of the community. They are meant to be a service for the community. You have to go in and seek seek out from the massages help if they don't have help. You need to bring people to account so that they make sure that there is space for your children at the masjid so that they don't end up going to other places and getting getting occupied and other things. Let's say they want to do some follow up. Let them do that side of the masters.

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You won't be surprised at this. Let them do it outside. They'll still be connected to the masjid and not say in the masjid. In the facility of the masjid. They shouldn't be disappointed to know that when you come into sacred space and come with respect, right? They shouldn't have that much to discipline by that age. But even if there have some, even if there happens to be some how long

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They're doing you need to make sure you're constantly connected to the question because that will bring them closer to the more you teach them by this age by the way of the Arabic language, okay, that is another important thing in terms of the development of their, of their

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of their identity as well Arabic language. So kind of lot

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how many of you have heard of a man by the name of Dr. fab delay.

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Um, if you're ever a learner of the Arabic language as a second language, you will know this name. The reason why you know this name is because he's the person who wrote some of the probably the most famous collection of the Arabic

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books that are meant to teach Arabic to non Arabs as a teacher because a second language that Medina books, the famous Medina books, for some of you have heard of that.

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He tells the story of learning Arabic in probably the 1950s or 60s, okay. And it's just so amusing, so proud of love.

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Not 50 years ago, probably around that time a little bit later, maybe he tells the story in India, learning Arabic as a second language. And he says to have a lot, there is no way for me to hear how Arabic sounds, there was no way for me to find material to read Arabic in. Okay, so you would go to the embassies, to get papers for scrap papers that they'll be throwing out the Arabic embassies, the Arab embassies, Lebanon and Egypt and all of these other Arab countries and Saudi Arabia at that time, wasn't even around, but so on and so forth. So all these different countries, you go there, and you go to the embassies, and you would get pieces of papers, or you get magazines, or you get

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newspapers that they would just be checking out. So he has reading material. In order for him to learn how to communicate in Arabic, he said out, wait out, contact the embassies and tell them, whenever a citizen from your country comes, make sure you tell me, he's going to come and visit me in my house, I'll keep him there as a guest or whatever else. So then you would take these opportunities to meet an Arab and have a conversation so you can learn how to speak Arabic. And later on in this manner. He went from here to being one of the top scholars of the Arabic language in modern times. And he taught in Medina University for several years. And he wrote those books

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while he was there. And thereafter, he became a researcher and a scholar for the art complex already cracked, right? But why am I saying all this crap? Why? What I'm saying is that this is the type of difficulty that people in the past in the recent past had to go through in order for them to learn a language.

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Now, it's all facilitated.

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your kids are going to be watching cartoons, just subject to Arabic cartoons.

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From a younger age, while they're still babies, they're not going to understand it, they will start picking it up.

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Your kids are going to they're going to need a teacher if you can get teachers online now, five bucks an hour.

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Sure you can afford it.

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Give them some give them that, that ability at a young age so that they acquire this language while you were asking me what to do well, because when they know Arabic, it will become a natural way for them to get connected to Allah because every time they come to the masjid, they're going to hear the fur on and those meanings will take some degree of impact on them. Okay. And you would have already helped them inshallah, learn the meanings of the Quran, but also along with that, you can you can help within this as well. Is there just some general guidelines ask us to practice if you don't want to practice and to convey

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and cholatse or tomorrow? Yes, you have another question Why?

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in chocolate, I'll go.

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I'll get to La Jolla and nod but I won't cover jetlag. Now

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that's how far I'll go tomorrow.