Socialise Like its Sunnah

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AbdelRahman Murphy

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As humans, we all love so to socialise with friends, family and associations, but how do you do so in accordance with the sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)?

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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala Emmanuel mBiA would most have been saved in a metal alojado who was setting them where are the early he was to be he women to be BSN Elijah Medina allama, Giada man whom I mean, once the me

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so we praise Allah, tada, we thank him and praise him for all the blessings that we have the blessing of life, the blessing of the ability to sit here in warm when it's cold and raining outside, but then again, when is it not cold and raining in Wales?

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I went to Swansea last year and I spoke to about 100 sheep and I'm just joking.

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But it was it was cold and raining back then too. So you know, we're here in the warm home, there's people who don't have the choice. You know, sometimes they have to sleep underneath a bridge or they have to find shelter wherever they can. So we thank Allah spawn tada for that we think a lot for eyes that can see and ears that can hear. And, you know, the ability to feel and to love one another. And we also asked, we asked Allah subhanaw taala to send his peace and blessings upon the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam. For with without him, we would not have this blessing of a man of Hidayat, which is the most valuable blessing. And the reason why he die is the most valuable

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blessing. I know that it's a common statement that a lot of people say is like, well, guidance is the most valuable thing that we have. And I know that everyone says that, but you know, a lot of my youth that I work with are very honest with me. And they're like brother Murphy, I really don't think my guidance is you know, that much more important to me than my ps4. Right? So and they're being honest. So I said, Well, you know, the reason why he that is is is the most valuable thing that you own is because without it you wouldn't be able to see life the way that it should be seen. Right? It's kind of like how a person might not consider their glasses, the most important thing

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that they own until they lose them and then they can't see the world properly. So the reason why we don't really take the diet as seriously as we should is because we're always wearing it. But the minute we lose it in the minute we're in a state of confusion or flux that's the minute that we appreciate the guidance the left side has given us because it clarifies the world for us

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this tour is called the be like Mohammed tour I want everyone to say that be like Mohammed

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say one more time.

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This is the mission statement of our life. This is the goal that we have a last thought I said look on the jet fuel su de la he was fought on hacer una he said that verily for sure without a doubt that a a messenger was sent to you.

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And he was the most perfect example, the most beautiful example of what's on Hasina. And also it doesn't just mean example, but it means pattern. Because in order to build an example, in order to build a behavior, you have to do it consistently with routine. And so the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam this verse tells us very, very simply, that if we want to know how to act in any situation, whether it's on campus, whether it's at home, whether it's by ourselves, or with another person, a friend, if we look at the example of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we could find the guidance and the direction on how to behave in that situation. And this is the tricky

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part is that the Prophet Mohammed Al Salaam, his example is meant to be followed in totality, right in entirety. And I'm not saying that everybody has to rock this I don't normally wear this I'm just doing it because I have to, I think but like

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I came from Birmingham, I don't know if it lets you out unless you were at the ground just barely escaped. But

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you know, it doesn't mean necessarily to wear you know, so because I will gel warthogs right so like a blue gel, wear the same clothes the promises on did so this doesn't inherently make someone a good Muslim right? To have a beard is again part of the example but that alone doesn't make somebody a good Muslim to wear hijab is also an imperative part of the example but that alone doesn't make somebody a good Muslim. Being like the Prophet Mohammed Al Salaam is like following a recipe to the tee you guys want to the tee means I don't know if they're gonna American expression or not. Alright, the brother was telling me Someone told him before like, I'll hit you up. And in America,

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what that means is what? Y'all hit you up later. What does that mean? I'll call you back and he was like, why would you ever hit me? What did I do? Alright, so I always have to clarify like what's an American idiom and what's not. So to follow a recipe to the tee, there are some components to recipes. And if you follow me on Instagram, you know that I cook a lot. If you follow if you follow a recipe, you know that there are some components to that recipe, which are absolutely essential. For example, if you're making chicken tikka, you're gonna have some problems if you don't got no chicken, right? You're just gonna make thick I don't even know what that means, right? But But if

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you have the chicken and maybe you have some ginger and some garlic and some salt, that's right brother can cook right? And you have some of the spices, then you can get close. So there are some components of following the Prophet Muhammad Al Salam which are not negotiable, just like a chicken is not negotiable in a chicken dish. But there are some components right, which should be striven for you should strive for

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For them, and if you don't attain them, it doesn't ruin the entire experience. But if you're able to attain it, you will enhance your experience. So for example, there was like this one spice. My mom was like, you know, if you're going to make my show at ama, her famous recipe, she's like, you need to get this exact spice. And like, what if I don't use it, she's like, it'll be terrible, but you can still eat it. Right? So it'll still be edible. It'll still do the job of feeding me, but it won't taste exactly the same. So the Prophet Mohammed, so sometimes example you can tell that I'm hungry, the prophet. So sometimes example, when it comes to Islam is like nailing that recipe. It's

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like the secret sauce. Right? And a lot of people Subhanallah we, we claim to be Muslim, we have this, this love and this adherence for our religion, but we kind of sometimes get a little bit frustrated or confused. And I promise you the reason why is because we don't have a good grounding in Sita in the life of the Prophet Muhammad SAW Selim, I promise you, if we had a good grounding in two things, in terms of the Quran, and in knowing the life of the Prophet chromocell studying them, I promise you our experience as Muslims would change, because when Allah Spano Tata says that he wants you to be Muslim. He doesn't want you to be Muslim and hate being Muslim. He wants you to be

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Muslim and love Islam. Right? The point of religion is not to hate the process. It's not homework. It's not studying for exams. It's supposed to be this life enhancing experience. Tonight's session is talking about socializing, like it's Sunnah. And the reason why we came up with this topic name was because of the the recipe that the Prophet Mohammed Al Salaam presented us to establishing true faith. Part of which is to have a social life. Allah subhanaw taala told the Prophet Mohammed Al Salaam, in source Allium, Ron, he told him he said, Sorry, he said, he describes him. And he describes him in a way that's very beautiful. He says that it was by the mercy of Allah subhana wa

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tada that you would treat people with softness, that you were soft and lenient with people. Because had you been harsh hearted? Unless Matata says, then surely they would have run away from you. He's talking about not just a lust profile is not just talking about the non believers. He's talking about everybody. He's saying that it's a blessing and it's a mercy from Allah, that your character what in nakada? What nada, who can alvine right? When it could Allah who can alvine the prophet SAW Allah tala tells him that verily you are on top of good character illustrated on this thing, it's a blessing that you have that good character, because if you didn't, if you didn't have that softness

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of heart, that sweetness of character, if you didn't have what has been medically the law on what he said, I never saw the prophet SAW said, I'm not smiling, how many of us are not smiling right now or I like, alright. And I said, I never saw him not smiling. He says that Allah says, If you didn't have that, then your job of teaching people about this faith would have been in vain because they would have run away from you. So you have this faith, you have this recipe, you have this secret code, this treasure chest of valuables. But unless the treasure chest is presented in a way, that's nice, that's amicable, no one's gonna want to open it, no one's gonna want to see what's inside. And

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so when we look at ourselves as Muslims, especially as Muslim minorities, in a majority, non Muslim situation or country, it's especially important for us, because we, whether or not you want it, represent the Prophet Mohammed. So suddenly, we are messengers of the Messenger of Allah is also set up. You know, one of my teachers when I was younger, he told me that when I was like 13, and I felt so much immense pressure on myself. He says, You are a messenger of the messenger. Anything that you do, anything that you do, people are going to look back and attribute it to your messenger. And if you have any ounce of love for Him, then you'll ask yourself before you do something, is this gonna

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be okay? If someone attributes to the promises? Now, obviously, no one's going to live up to that example perfectly, but it's the effort that counts, Allah spawn, tada, judges you based on effort, not based on success. He's nicer than your professors, right? So he's more merciful than your professors. So when we look at the life of the prophet SAW Selim, from an academic perspective, you look at the Sita, what's the two things I said we need to increase our understanding of number one was to see it to see how many of you guys have heard of shake up the Nasir. And I'm Ali Khan. I'm suhaib Webb, they do tafsir out the wazoo. They have to see recordings like more than you have time

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to listen to. And so there's, there's not a lack of content, there's an abundance of content. So please, please, please get up on that. Then the CF we look at the current setup, the contemporary theater resources that we have, you find the majority of them are encyclopedia in nature, for example, they have when the battles happen when the expeditions happen, what dates this happened, what has happened, you find very rarely for some reason, and in traditional books, you find it but no one translated them, you find very rarely that they talk about the personality of the Prophet,

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his character, how he acted with people, and to be honest with you, the dates are fine, you can learn those, but today

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Down the personality of the Prophet Mohammed Salim is a task that is very rare one of the best resources I've seen in the English language on this up on this topic is todich. Ramadan's in the footsteps of the messenger, right? I believe in the footsteps of the Prophet of the messenger, his little pseudo book, it's about the size of this most half. Obviously, it's not as deep in content, but it's about that size. It's not too big. It's a wonderful introduction into his character, right. And most of the things that I'm going to talk to you about tonight are going to come from discussions that Dr. todich brings up in these in his in his writings, right? The concept of having

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a social life might seem superfluous. A lot of people might say to themselves, what Can't I just practice my religion? Why do I? Why is Allah commanded me to have friends? Right? First of all, if you're asking that question, we got to talk. Right? Right. Why is the less my father commanded me to have friends, he's not commanded you to have friends, he's saying that it's part of your nature, right? Unless one thought I constantly in the Quran in the pseudo sorts of projects, which was recited last month, it also talks about you know, in net Hanako, Nat Kuhn uses the pronoun comb, all of you write it, the nasty it often Muslim can guide us to the straight path, there's always this

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concept of community of being part of something of companionship either at a smaller, great level. So whether or not you understand or you agree, or you appreciate you're on a team, right? And part of being a good team player is learning how to interact well, if a soccer player, sorry, football player, if a football player takes the ball and doesn't pass to anybody doesn't, you know, doesn't get opened doesn't sort of give it and go, then how are they ever going to function? Well, on a team, they'll cut that person, they'll be like, Look, you're not a team player, right. And so part of being a part of this oma of the Prophet Muhammad, sallAllahu wasallam is that we have to

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acknowledge, appreciate, and work on our skills on being a team player. Many of us are on many different teams, we have many different aspects of team for some of us, we have families, that's our first team that we're on, we have a mom and dad who are coaches, right. We have brothers and sisters, maybe siblings, we have cousins, we have people that were related to. And oftentimes we neglect the people that were closest to, for the people that we're not as close to so for example, we'll choose our friends over our parents. It's a very odd kind of, like, tradition that we find, but you are a part of it, whether or not you admit it, then you have your social, you have your ISOC

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you have your brothers and sisters, hopefully segregated a little bit right. And then you have your you sort of your events like tonight, then you have the larger community, maybe the larger Muslim community of Cardiff of Wales, then the United Kingdom, and then obviously the Ummah of the Prophet Mohammed, asylum. So whether or not you admit it, you acknowledge it. It's the reality. And so what do you call someone who does not acknowledge reality, that person is in denial, none of us want to be in denial. So we asked last Montana to open our eyes and hearts, and to make us people who want to encourage our relationships with other people. Let's talk about some characteristics of the

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problem, hustle setup, I have some stories to tell you. We're gonna go through these stories in sha Allah, and then we'll be finished with the talk is not too long, and I apologize for being late. I really appreciate your patience. The Prophet Muhammad SAW Selim, the first characteristic and if you have a notebook, you should write this down. The prophet SAW Selim, the first characteristic that he had is one that's not

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not directly stated, but you can kind of extrapolate from all of the studies literature that we have, right? And that is, the prophet SAW. Selim enjoyed being with people, and he had a sort of cinema was open to being with people. He wasn't someone who was cut off. Okay, he wasn't someone who was cut off. And you find, by the way, a lot now in pop culture and current modern sort of like culture, that it's cool to be a loner. Alright, How many of y'all saw Twilight? Don't lie. We all saw Twilight. I was forced. Alright. So no Tron, it's a great comedy. Actually, it's a wonderful comedy. If you really want to laugh, you just watch it.

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But if you look at the main character, the main characters, they all are sort of like these insular people who don't like talking to people. And then immediately after Twilight came out, you go on Twitter and I see all the girls from our youth group they're like, I don't like people

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leave me alone. Right? That's not the character of the problem of Hamas and the problem of Hamas oh seven was the kind of guy that how do you think we got all the Hadees that are narrated to us? A lot of which are from his wife, Chateau de la Han how who was the second most after Who? Who was the first Abba who write a very good Abu hurayrah who was the first African writer but how do you think I was able to yield these narrations because the prophet SAW sent him was someone who was like hey, I'm gonna come on over right come hang out. I will forever be at the mercy of the prophet SAW some live right next door anytime that was available to the Prophet systems time obviously he had a

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schedule anytime that was open, people will could come up to his door could knock on it and he would see them you know, there's a famous narration of the Prophet Muhammad Al Salaam, where abubaker as a deacon of the lon he knocks on the door the prophet SAW some says come in, have a look and walks in and he sees the prophet SAW said I'm just chillin just lying down on his side. So much so that they said that his knee was showing like his his the the the cloth he was wearing around his waist. It his knee was showing meaning what he was relaxed, he was comfortable. When someone walks in, and you're not relaxed and comfort. What do you do you like straighten up your clothes.

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You're like,

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right you try to like get all like at attention from the provinces most chillin man like he was kicking it, right? And then who comes next I'm going to go on comes in knocks, he walks in, and then still chillin. And like if men come in, let's hang out, right? Just hanging out then of man walks in. And this is where the narration changes a little bit off man knocks walks in. And the prophet SAW some season and he fixes his he fixes clothing. And I look at Omar like, Okay, what are you trying to say? Like, why not us? And he said, should it he said, shouldn't I be shy, a little bit of the one who the angels are even shy off me off men was someone who his character was so full of

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modesty, that even the angels were like, kind of like, shy around off men. So the Prophet says, I was like, I can't be laying down in front of a man of man's like, you know, you have those friends that you can lay down in front of the other friends that you cannot lay down in front of. Right? So awesome. And not out of that. Not something that was wrong with that. But some of that, like you just out of respect almost for their aura, right? You just respect them. So you just don't do that. Right. And so Othman was one of those people. So the Prophet system was very open to being with people, as I narrate these characteristics. Remember, we talked about the prophet SAW Selim was

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a example of Sultan Hasina. So look at yourself, ask yourself, Am I somebody who pushes people away? The prophet SAW them was someone who was magnetic. If there's one description I'm going to give to him, he was an attractor, he was someone that people would want to spend time with that app. However, this as they were ending their conversation, the person would not want it to end. Ask yourself, Am I that person? Right? And if I'm not, what can I do to fix that? And remember, we talked about first is with our families, immediately, the families have to be first we can't neglect our families. While we're serving our other social circles, or other teams, we got to make sure that

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we have our families down first. And this is especially important for young people. Are your parents, the kind of people that want to talk to you, parents? Are you the kind of people that your kids want to talk to you? Right? This is a very, very important building block in the home. Are you someone who is magnetic who is attractive to people for conversation, okay, that was the first characteristic of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam that we can talk about. He was socially attracted. People always wanted to see him. Number two, he would always be positive. He would always be positive. Like I said, in the Heidi's before about NSL de la and he said, I never saw the Prophet

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says, I'm not smiling. Guys. Do you think the prophet SAW some had times where he didn't smile? Let's be real. We'd be real for a second.

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Yes or no? Yeah, we know for sure. Like, for example, there's times I don't think I don't think the proposition was smiling in battle.

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I don't think he smiled when his son passed away. His children passed. I don't think he smiled when his uncle or wife passed away. We know for a fact. There were times when he did not smile. This does not discount the narration of Ennis actually makes it stronger. Why?

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Let me tell you, let me tell you something or ask you a question.

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When someone is known for something, right, when someone is absolutely like, you know, that's part of their character. We oftentimes as a medium of Bulava of rhetoric, we attribute it to them all the time, right? So for example, if someone works out a lot, what do you say about them? They're always at the gym, right? Are they literally always at the gym? I hope not. But he's got to go to the bathroom. He's got asleep, like, you know, saying, but we say what, man, that guy is always at the gym. Right? And you say like, my mom cooks so much. She never leaves the right I'm not assigning gender roles. Mothers don't have to cook voting cook, but I'm just saying. So even in the English

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language, you see how we assign perpetuity we make things perpetual, when they're not necessarily infinite, but rather they're caught. They're common or constant. So ns. Johan, when he described the Profit System as this, it doesn't literally mean that the purposes of never smile. We know there were times where he didn't smile. But what it means was, he smiled so much, that I could describe him as always smiling because I never saw him not smile, right? It's a phenomenal thing. Ask yourself now check yourself look in the mirror. Am I a person who's positive when people encounter me, right? And check, check out one more thing? Am I positive, even when things in my life are not

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going so? Well. This is something that prophet SAW some of them had down, he mastered this. He didn't hide or mask things. Rather, he didn't pass off or project his stresses to other people. This was something that he was a master of this. And we have this characteristic, unfortunately, is that when things bother us, then in order to get it off of our chest and sort of express it and sort of spread the wealth, even though it's not wealth, it's more like dirt. But like when we're upset when things bother us, we give it to other people, right? We become like this ball of negative energy. We just want to spread it out. The prophet SAW someone things were stressing him out when things were

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bothering him. He would hold it in, he would tell who was appropriate. But generally, if people came to him, he would be positive and you see this in all kinds of situations. One time a young man wants to the Prophet Solomon asked if he also will law. I want you to give me a farewell for Xena

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right? Like, first of all, just imagine that for a second. Like that conversation. Hashtag awkward. Like you're just

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Like, okay, and the companions were around the provinces, um, and they're just like, is this dude trolling? Like what is going on?

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He's like, I'm attracted to this girl. Can I get a fatwa? Right?

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I mean, I mean, I don't know what I would say if a young person came up to me first of all, I don't even know Subhanallah look at the comfort level that they had with him that they were like, yo, Sula, can you give me a federal to do this clearly hot? I'm act like they were so comfortable with him. He never that goes back to the first point. He never repelled people. They were so comfortable even to the point where they would go ask him for such a thing.

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Right? That's why we say Allahumma salli ala Sayyidina Muhammad, cuz like, Man, look at that character. So the problem is also lm. So he looks at the young man. He says, Let me ask you a question. He never, by the way, in this whole conversation, listen for a no, he never says no. He says, Let me ask you a question. He says, Do you have any women folk in your family and the mothers, sisters, you know, daughters, cousin cetera? He goes, Yeah, obviously, I'm born to a mother everybody was. And he was, you know, I have a sister, I have women folk. And he goes, how would you feel if somebody came to you or me and asked me for permission to do this act with your women in

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your family, the people that you hold dear to your heart? And the guy said, I would hate it. And he said, so how do you think that the family of this girl feels? If they are if they were to find out? How would they feel? If they knew that you were asking for this? And then the young man said, Wow, I never thought about that way. And then they ration that he says he walked away he said, when I was walking to the Prophet Muhammad SAW Selim, there was nothing more dear to my heart than Xena, right? typical teenage right? And he goes, when I was leaving the Prophet Mohammed Salim there was nothing more hated to my heart than that act.

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Because the prophet SAW said and put his hand on the chest of the young man he said, Oh Allah purify his heart. Oh Allah purify his heart. Oh, love purifies heart. Always got positive energy coming out of him. That situation could have demanded a smack. Right? That situation could have demanded like, get out of it. What are you talking about? But the prophet SAW some exuded this pot is positive energy. Y'all know about the situation where the Bedouin men came in and peed in the provinces and smashed it. So imagine we're just in this room right now, some dudes walks and starts peeing in the corner. Right? First of all, what would the reaction be? It would be very similar to what the Sahaba

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did the Sahaba were like, excuse me, right? They were like mad. They were like, first of all, that's not and they were like about getting ready to tackle the dude. Right? And so the prophet SAW Selim says, Wait, let him finish. Now, this is an ultimate negative situation, someone is literally relieving themselves. In the, I don't know any silver lining you can find from this situation. The Prophet Muhammad Hassan says, Let him finish. Then when the man's done, he tells the same companions who were mad, go get some things to clean it up. He didn't even tell the guy to clean it up. Then he goes to the man and he says, This is the masjid. This is a place of worship. We don't do these sound

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like we don't do these things here. Please withhold from doing these things here. There's another story. We're in a similar situation where a man comes to the Prophet Muhammad salsola. And he says, you know, so Allah, He says, I need money. And he asked in front of everybody, I need money. And the prophets like, okay, that's fine, we'll take care of it. All of a sudden have are like so upset. You don't talk to the prophet like that. Right? So they're about to like wrestle with the dude. And the Prophet system says, hold up, hold up. So he calls the guy inside, he takes them inside. And he says, How much money do you need? And he gives them you know, a certain amount of money. And the man

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leaves the man walks out with a profit so suddenly says, I need this much money gives it to him, he walks out. And then the he walks away, he leaves and the companion say yes to a lot. Why didn't you let us like take care of him, he was being really disrespectful to you. And the prophet SAW Some said he was like a scared animal. And if you guys had jumped on him, you would have scared him away forever from the religion. So I like a smart person who knows how to deal with scared animals. I took him inside. And I handled the situation, right? There were times where people after being treated roughly when the Prophet system treated them positively. They would make dot O Allah be

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happy with me and Muhammad and nobody else right? So they'd make dua against all the companions like in a little subversive way. Because why? Because the companions were like rolling up their sleeves but to do some business, right? So it's important to understand exude that positive energy at the profit. So some hat check yourself look in the mirror, am I positive? Am I a positive person? Am I always spewing negativity, I'll be real with you. And we're gonna edit this out because the people in my community but there's a couple people that I know that I work with, who are always negative. And there's times where you and I are negative to you can't help it right. But I'm talking about all

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ways negative. Like they could find, you know how there's people who could always find the good in a situation. They find the bad in every situation. Like there's a box of Krispy Kreme Doughnuts and they're like,

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I want dunkin donuts.

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And you're like, it's free. He's like, I like paying for my doughnuts.

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He's just like, what?

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Then it's like, you know, like for example today Today there's a it's snowing a lot in Knoxville. So all the schools let out early because like the roads are gonna get crazy. So they let the kids out early. And one of the is the snow day, right? Would you guys be pumped for a snow day? No classes you get to sleep next.

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flicks all day. What? Right? You get to sleep all day?

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You get to watch reruns of Sherlock and Downton Abbey all day. So sorry, that's just me.

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So they let out. It's everyone celebrating everybody. Well, I like on Twitter. It's like, it's like someone won the election like everyone's celebrating the same people who are negative I kid you not will likely to go, Oh, I studied for an exam all night last night. And now we're only taking it. What are you talking about? Just be positive for once, like, this person could win the lottery. And they would be like, I don't want that much. Right? I don't even it's hot, obviously. But I don't understand. It takes a special skill to be negative all the time. And so the Prophet Muhammad Nelson, he had the opposite master where he was just perpetually positive on him. So then

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the third thing now this is really important, especially for social socializing, and being close to people is that he would always give people honor

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the prophets of Samson howdy IJA, Elijah, Elijah accom, carry more common for a crema who, if someone comes to you, who is noble from their from their people, then honor them and give them that honor nobility. what's beautiful about this hadith in sha Allah Allah, the Holloway Rahim Allah He comments on this, he says that every person is noble to some group of people. So for example, a person might not be noble to like, be entire country, but they're noble to their wife. And so you shouldn't dishonor somebody in front of their family or the front of their spouse or their husband or their kids or their parents. Right? Everybody is honorable to somebody. So this hadith is

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beautiful because there's twists and money right there's like this wildness and meaning that you unless you think about it deeply you wouldn't come up with that. Because whenever it when I first called the Hadith we probably all thought of like dignitaries and government positions, and it's a it applies for that too. But it's also don't restrict the meaning of the HUD the HUD is talking about anybody who has any honor, you know, said manufactured or law or legal on. And Rahim Allah, semana fantasy, he had the most beautiful story of conversion. And because of time, we can't tell the whole thing today, but should have the Nasr has a really good podcast on it. If you can listen

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to it on the column recordings. It's very good. But so not a fallacy. Basically. He's the most meticulous, he's the most sincere search of the religion that I think I've ever read in the theater, where he basically was like, really far away, right? He's from Persia, and he searched and went through like three different religions to find the Prophet Muhammad wa sallam, and he did so on like, these little tidbits of information. He never got a message from the Prophet. He never met the Prophet. He never heard from him. He just did so based on people what they said, and he ended he ended up finding the Prophet Muhammad SAW Salah, right? So there was one time where the Prophet

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Muhammad wa sallam where they were starting to build the masjid. And the Prophet says on what he would do, was in order to encourage like camaraderie and like teamwork, he would make teams and based you know, at that time that you had the mahadji rune and the onside you had the people who came from Mecca and those who lived in Medina. The problem is Islam wasn't trying to make a competition of like hatred. Rather, he was like, Look, I know that these people, they know each other, they work well together. And the same for the answer. So these are gonna be the two teams. Okay, what is the place of semana fantasy?

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Because he got to Medina before the Prophet system got there. Right, but he's not from Mecca.

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He got to Medina before the Prophet got there. But he's not from Mecca.

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So which team is he fall on?

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Anyone have any ideas?

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No, nothing. Okay. So what's interesting is that when you when you guys are playing sports, right, or you sister playing sports, and you're like picking teams, the last person usually feels terrible, right?

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Cuz I like the last person. And then it's like, you know, it's even team. So you're like playing six on six or seven on seven. And it's like seven on six. And there's that last person and you're like, I think our team's good was six, we'll be fine. Like, yeah, just keep keep score, okay. We might need water like a towel, you know, and the person feels terrible, because like everyone's trying to avoid literally everyone's trying to avoid picking that person. That's why he or she is last. So So now in the fantasy he kind of had this initial feeling at first. But Subhanallah look at the character. Look at the way the Prophet taught these people, how he trained them, the people from

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Mecca, the Sahaba, and the people from unsought of the Sahaba. They weren't fighting over who would have to take him, they were fighting over who would get him. So instead of saying, No, no, no, we're fine. We're good. We're good. You guys take some men. They were like no segments, ours, we wanted a man. And the other team was like, No, no, we want some men. So instead of making the person feel unwanted, they made him feel immensely wanted. But the prophet still send them out did them, right? So we're talking about what he honored and respected people and said, Man, by the way, was a slave. He worked as a slave. And so this is someone who inherently and their socio political system did not

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have honor. The Prophet Muhammad SAW said and what did he do? He said, No, he said, Man, you are from my house. I elevate the year for my family. Right? So he said you're not from them or them. You're with me. Look, I mean, like

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How many of us would love that situation where the prophet SAW some says you're with me, you're from my family. Look at bill al Golan, the person who was literally a slave was tortured. Who did the profits at what position did the prophet SAW someone give him in society?

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The person that color then that's the that's the next in line after the man. Then you have another man of the love and oh Mattoon. We're gonna talk about them later in the week. Abdullah bin Omar to me You guys know who he is? He's a blind old man. You guys know sort of opposite to Allah. He has no story, this story behind it, where the man comes to the Prophet, the prophet is talking to kodesh. And then he says, Yeah, so he's asking him like some small sickness Allah and the profits like obviously having a very serious conversation with like the leaders of corporations. And then he turns he's right, the prophet SAW some kind of like frowns and turns away. That's Abdullah bin Omar,

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who he's doing that too. This is a blind man.

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The prophet SAW Allah made up the love and oh Maktoum as well. And whenever they went on the hustla on the mikaze, whenever they went on the expeditions of the libretto, Mattoon would be the leader of Medina. He'd be like the interim president, little trivia for you, in order to be more evident, what's the essential function that you have to have?

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Hmm, what's the second year if you beat me, okay, what's the second most essential function that you have to have? So a voice but how do you recognize when it's time to pray?

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Hmm,

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the sun, what do you need in order to recognize where the sun is? Your eyes. So the Prophet says, I made a blind man, I'm 11, even though part and parcel of that job is to have eyesight, because you need to see the location of the sun. So then you can call the prayer. So the Prophet system was making a statement, he says, I don't care what you guys think of this blind man, whether you think he's useless or worthless or whatever, I'm gonna give him this position, even though he's really not fit for it. We'll make a way for him. We'll make a way you you notice where the sun is? Tell him what it is, you can call the park. Right? He honored people, even when they themselves were not

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honored by their own people is so slim. Ask yourself, do I honor people? When I see people? Do I give them the honor? You know, there's a group in America called Hilo, you guys don't say hello. Hello, it's the Jewish group. So it's like the Jewish group. They tend to be not Zionist, but some of them are. And so it's very interesting, but they're basically like the ISOC, of the of the Jewish community. And so the one that we have everyone's laughing for some reason, the one that we have in our university in Tennessee is not she's not Zionist, in fact, I don't even know she's Jewish, really, to be honest with you, right. And she is like a really nice person. She's very nice. Like,

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she's very anti Zionist. She's like, we should not even be there. According to our scriptures. We're not supposed to have the country. So it's kind of weird. You know, she's very anti Zionist. She's he's very pro Palestinian cause. And it's upon a lot, you know, she has a big following. She has a big fall because she's the leader of this massive student organization. And they have a ton of funding and, you know, got everything. She comes in once and the people don't the Muslim sometimes don't understand the difference between a Zionist and a Jew. And so they start, you know, like, snickering at her and making comments. And what has that done? That's our relationship with Hillel

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back like,

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you know, months, because people are like, Oh, yeah, she did you drop a penny, huh? Like all these jokes, right? And she's like, and she hears it. And she's like, you know what I thought about I thought, Man, what if you're one of your brother Murphy went to their organization and they were like, oh, careful, he's got a bomb strapped on them. Like, you know, I don't II six or whatever, whoever's listening. point being is that when you dishonor somebody to their people, then you lose honor as well.

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And so the Profit System teaches us is very, very important. Do you honor people? Number four, he used to joke around, we're gonna speed through the rest of these use joke around a lot. Okay. And I know a lot of you and some of you probably aren't funny, but that's okay. Right? We can work on it. We can work on it. All right, at least you can laugh inshallah. So he used to joke around, the prophet SAW something one time was sitting with the Sahaba. Again, point number one, he was sitting with the Sahaba. So we're going to talk about how we used all these points. He was sitting with the people, right? point number one was what he used to see people a lot. He was singing the sahaabah.

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They were eating dates. They were snacking on some dates, right. And he was talking to another companion to his right and Amada or the lawn was sitting on his left. And as they all finished their dates, they had a little pile of date pits in front of them. So what Amara did, was he took his pile of date pits, and he put it in front of the Prophet Muhammad SAW Salah when the Prophet wasn't looking like he was looking at somebody else, but the Prophet is not dumb, and he's smart, and he's the Prophet. So he was like, so he sees the date pits, and I think he you know, he saw that he saw Ahmad and he probably figured out what was going on. So I'm out in front of everybody trying to be a

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jokester. He's like yes. Oh, you must be really hungry man. Like you had all those dates. day You must be hungry. Right? You should have told me I could have gotten some food and the prophet SAW someone says no, he wasn't even more hungry because you want your seeds to

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cuz he says no seeds in front of them. So he used to joke around like he was very funny. He was very humorous. One time there was a you know, there was there was he know his his grandchildren Hassan and Hussein roseola Juan Houma, and they were riding on his back, this is the Prophet so some of them

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You either saw him delivering the message giving people teaching people or playing with his family, right? So he was literally on his hands and knees. And they were and he was, you know, he had it hasn't stand on his back. It was grandchildren and Subhanallah

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they, people would walk by him and he wouldn't be afraid he wouldn't be embarrassed, right? Imagine your email or your shift or like your favorite speaker and seeing them like in the hallway, we're here with their kids in the back and like crawling around the car, like making noises, and you walk by they're like, oh, get up, get up. Get up, like sound like a class is this winch? All right. He wasn't like that. They didn't get up. He was like, yeah, I'm playing my grandkids. What do you want my grandpa like, What? That's my job. That's what I'm supposed to do. So he's playing with them on his back. And besides being able to tell a joke, what's what do a lot of people laugh? A lot of

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people are funny, but what happens? They're not able to take jokes. Right? So they can make jokes that people's expenses, but they're, I mean, the profit zone didn't make it anyone's expense, technically, but there's a little bit of a kind of like a little poke, but they're not able to take it back. Right. They're like Pillsbury Doughboy like he poked him like, ooh, like they get really. So the prophet SAW sent him someone walks by him, I believe it was a I believe was Walmart, actually, I believe was Amato, Han. And he walks by him and he says yes to Allah. He says, Man, they, they have a good horse.

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So he talked about the profits, these years, your grandkids, they have a very nice horse. Right. And the prophet SAW some response back says, Yeah, but they're even better riders. And he says, and so's their dad, Ollie, right? So it's just this beautiful, beautiful relationship of being humorous of joking, of not taking jokes seriously. And so panela this is very interesting. there's a there's a caveat. There's a condition. There's a protocol that they told the Prophet Muhammad SAW something. They said, you don't do a lot. You joke with us too. And he says, Yes, but I always tell the truth. And I never hurt anyone's feelings when I do it. Right. Now, I asked my teacher, I asked him, I

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said, so what happens? Like a lot of our jokes are pure exaggeration. Like a lot of our Western postmodern kind of humor is just pure exaggeration. My teacher clarified he said, as long as everybody knows that, it's not serious that that is an exaggeration. So for example, if I said it took me seven hours to drive here, or it took me 15 hours or two days to drive here, something's so wild that you're like, there's no way he's telling the truth. That's clearly an exaggeration. My teacher said, That's okay. But if you're lying to somebody in order to make things funnier, or in order to deceive them into feeling some way or to scare them, right, which is unfortunately, we do

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that a lot, right? Like hiding behind doors and stuff, in order to scare them. Maybe not you, maybe just me, okay? Watch your way out. You might see me behind a door that My teacher said you shouldn't do that. Because that's lying during joking. But if it's a joke, where you're like, Oh my god, I'm so hungry. I could eat a horse. Like really, you can eat a horse? Oh, my gosh, row, even though horse meats apparently common in the UK, but.

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But everyone knows that. I'm not being serious than that. That kind of joking is okay. But the prophet SAW Selim would never make a joke at the expense of someone's feelings. Right? Never ever would he made it make a joke. There was one time there was a companion by the name of nausea, nausea, he was sitting in the marketplace. The prophet SAW someone came up behind him. And he covered his eyes, right? And then he was like, he was kind of shocked. He's like, Who is this? And the Prophet system announced in a loud voice in the marketplace who wants to buy my slave. And that's a very serious, by the way, that's a very serious thing like to say that in a marketplace is

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a very serious who wants to buy my server, my slave, right. And then he uncovers his eyes and he looks up and sees the profits. Awesome. So his fear turns into like, just relief. And he knows I was joking. And he starts smiling. And he says yes to a lot. I'm so worthless. No one would ever want to buy me. Right? So you could tell maybe he was feeling down, he was feeling kind of sad. The prophet SAW them took that negative momentum and turned it into positive. What did he say? He said, in the eyes of Allah, you are worth so much more than what these people see. Right? He gave him this sort of like this Sakina in his heart, he said, Don't worry about what people might think of you. Who

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cares. They're just people just doing you what Allah thinks of you is so much more important, right? Last month, the Prophet Muhammad SAW someone was able to joke around. And the the last thing I'll say is that he wouldn't get upset over petty matters. He wouldn't get upset over small things. There's a companion by the name of Norman who the he he tasted some honey in the marketplace. And he has he have this delicious honey. And he said, Man, I really want the Profit System to try this honey because the Prophet used to love honey. Right? You guys know the funny story about one time his wives tried to play a joke on him and they said that this honey made your breath smell. And he

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loved honey. So he was like heartbroken because he loved honey in there. Like it makes your breath stink, right? Because one of the other wives gave it to him anyway. Okay, so they were playing a joke on him. Anyway, so he loved honey and he was known to have loved honey. So men, he said he also Allah, he said, I have some honey for you. But what the prophet system didn't know is that in our men brought a sampling of the honey but didn't pay for it.

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Okay, so he's like, I have some money for you. So the prophecy was like, Wow, what a gift this Oh, nice. So he eats and he loves it. And as he finishes it, Norman's like, okay, that's gonna be this much money.

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And the woman starts laughing and he says, You didn't pay.

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You gave me a gift and I ate it. You didn't pay for it. And your man eats

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tear into the Profit System. And he said, I'm so poor jasola that I couldn't afford it. But my love for you is so much that I wanted to give you this gift cuz I knew you'd love it.

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And it's funny, but look at how sweet that is. I'm broke. Okay, I'm as broke as a joke. But I love you so much as a friend that I wanted to give you this gift, because I just knew that you would love it and you loved it. So let's pay for it. Right? So it's kind of like that. But but Okay, now let's backtrack a little bit. Okay, if that happened to you and I, we'd be like, man, why would you give me something if I have to pay for it? Now I could have gotten it myself. Right. I could have ordered it. I could have gone there. But look at how the Profit System took the intention, the Nia the positive intention. And he didn't get upset over the small thing. What's it gonna cost at the end of

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the day? The equivalent of like, one pound, two pound, three pound five pound whatever, or quit Catholic quit? That's cool. 10 quid, right?

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What's it gonna cost in the grand scheme of things? Yeah, it might be that it might be your coffee, your coffee budget for that day, or your lunch meal budget for that day. But he didn't get upset over petty things. You know, one of the biggest things that happens brother and sisters in our social groups is friendships are tested, and sometimes even broken over the smallest things that then snowball to something bigger. And then like it's, it's irreparable at that point. Right. So it started off as like, well, he untied my shoes.

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No one on ties my shoes, right? Not even my mom can tie my shoe. It's like that he untied your shoes like, Yeah, but then he didn't say sorry. No one doesn't say sorry, to me. And he's like, what? And he's like, yeah, and then he didn't hold the door open for me. So it's like you're this cumulative snowball, when in fact, have we just squashed the issue in the beginning, that petty issue, we wouldn't have had these things, right. And sometimes it all starts off as a small joke, he gets very serious very fast. And so we asked Allah subhanaw taala, to give us the ability to become socially positive, and to become people whose Islam is magnified through their social ability not tainted,

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because oftentimes, and this is to True

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Religion is harmed. And the view of religion is harmed by people who claim themselves to be religious. And so you find that people are oftentimes turned away from Islam, by those who claim to be great Muslims. And part of the reason why is because they haven't worked on their social character, enough to be somebody who's magnetic like the prophet SAW Selim, and who has a good vibe, good positive vibe, and a good sense of humor. So this is very important, as much as it is for you guys to seek knowledge, as much as it is for you guys to have an Islamic identity, to be proud of your fact that you're being Muslim. Don't ever discount the ability to be socially normative with

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people and to be somebody who is you know, very kind of like approachable. You guys don't shake yahiro does. Anybody? So he's in Cambridge. He's a famous scholar from America. He's a student of Sheikh Hamza Yusuf and some other big scholars. He's in Cambridge right now. I met with him last night. And he wears he studied in Yemen. He wears this thing called the D that right and so it's kind of like a lung. You guys know Louise? Okay, so he wears a lunghi for Arabs. It's called Izod. I think we call it like the, the, it's like a thing, right? I don't know. It's a piece of cloth that's tied together at the end. So he wears that right. And he was in my my home city of Knoxville or my

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the town that I live in Knoxville, Tennessee. And what he did Subhanallah was he went into a subway. And this is like in the middle of like, boo foo country. America, right, like murca. Right? And he goes in, and he's wearing this outfit. That's very clearly not American. Right. And this is in the middle of people who watch like fox news is like their main source of like Udaya, right? And so you can imagine that this lady, her perception of him is like, Oh my God, this terrorist wants to tune to sub like, what am I gonna do? Right? So he walks in and Subhanallah just through his interaction with her, because he was born in Kansas City, very American heritage. His his grandparents went to

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Kentucky. His interaction with her, led her to say what to him? She said, Well, you know, I may not believe in Islam, but you all are welcome here. Right? And that's a big deal. I'm telling you, that's a big deal in America. for someone to say you're welcome here. In the middle of a country hick town like is very, is a huge deal. Why it wasn't because of his, you know, he didn't drop like Mattoon on her like sick mess and he's like, oh, check this out. Bam, bam, bam, like tafsir Aki, the this he just treated her nicely. His socializing was up to up to par. And he was able to really show her that through his characters, we asked a lot smarter to give us the prophetic character, the

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ability to keep our relationships pure and happy with each other. And the ability to socialize the way the prophet SAW sent him Did I mean terrible Allah means upon Columbo behind ignition la isla and Mr. Critical to be like