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you will read them and oftentimes your understanding of them will be good, but will be lacking something. And the thing that is lacking when we read some of the teachings of the Prophet SAW Selim is the context or the story upon which that statement was made. Right? If you read a transcript of somebody's dialogue, but you don't know who they are, what they were doing, what they were going through, then the transcript can only tell you so much. So the prophets also in a very well known narration gives three beautiful pieces of advice. He says, it starts with Saddam it tequila Haytham I couldn't wait to be I say it that Hasson at that time who had wahala can NASA be closing Hasson of
the Prophet SAW Selim says to remember Allah subhana wa Tada wherever you are, and to follow up every single mistake that you make with a good deed because it will erase it. And finally he says treat people well have good character and conduct when you interact with one another. These three pieces of advice are beautiful in and of themselves. But the story in which this can
conversation occurred. It gives us so much depth and so much more substance to understand the very lesson that the Prophet saw someone was trying to teach, because they have the text, which allows us to understand basic things. But the context provides us much more. So what was the story? The narrator His name is more I've been Jabba Laurel de la hora, and he's one of the closest companions of the Prophet SAW Salem. And he was somebody who was beloved to the Prophet SAW Selim, somebody that the Prophet SAW Salem, when Islam had began to spread, and there were different communities across the peninsula of the Arabian peninsula that were accepting Islam. When there came a time for
a leader or a teacher to be appointed. Out of all the companions that the Prophet SAW Selim could have chosen from was radula Han was one of them who either was somebody that the Prophet SAW Selim said very explicitly, very directly Yeah, more I've in need or handbook that I love you and he loved more odds are the Allahu Allah may Allah be pleased them because more are there was an amazing student, why there was somebody that dedicated so much of his time and so much of his life, when he was with the prophets also attempt to learning from him that their relationship wasn't casual. It wasn't something that was just sort of incidental, or something that was an accident, no more odd
Rhodiola on saw his relationship with the Prophet SAW sent him to be one, that was the most beneficial thing that he had. And so instead of allowing his relationship with the Prophet SAW, sent him to be that I've just a companion to a messenger. No, he said, I need to become a student to this teacher. And he dedicated so much of his life and so much of his time. And as a result of that dedication, the prophets all sudden did not let it go unnoticed. So he proclaims, to more if you have more, I love you. And this was something that other companions when they heard this, they got a little bit jealous. What was it that made more odd so special to the prophets of Salaam, we see the
next level of that, that when was studied with the Prophet SAW Salem, this raised him in the levels in the ranks amongst his peers, to allow him to become that of a leader. And this is the first point that this story gives us that the Prophet SAW Saddam did not simply just randomly select people to go and become leaders. He didn't just say, You know what, there's a entire contingency of Muslims now in Yemen, that have accepted Islam, and they know nothing. They don't know how to pray, they don't know about anything that we know how to make will do nothing. They just believe in the message, and they need someone who's going to teach them. The prophets also didn't just close his
eyes and randomly select from a room he looked at, and he chose from those people that had shown him that they were dedicated to be actions of learning and teaching, that that wasn't a way for them to prove themselves to him, I sort of set up. So number one is that more eyes, in this assignment of leadership, it was not for no good reason. Sometimes people want leadership, but they don't want to do the things that are required. To become a leader, the Prophet saw something very famously said to say the poem called The Moon, the master of a people are their servant. Now, this strikes us as weird because we don't normally associate authority and leadership with servitude. We think that
authority and leadership are a status or a rank, and that the people who are underneath that leader are the servants of that leader. But that's not the case. According to the Islamic paradigm, in order for a person to achieve the status of leader, they have to show that they are first willing to serve. Think about it. Parents are the most respected relationship that a person has in their life, typically. But what does a parent have to do for the infant child for the first few months years of their life? I mean, parents are literally serving their children. Absolutely. Hand and Foot, middle of the night, your kid wakes up with a fever. 2am You're at Walgreens doesn't matter. Your kid has a
stomach issue. You're there, your kid has leg cramps, from growing pains, you're massaging them this is servitude. And as a result of that servitude. Allah Tata has said that when parents do this, and most parents do, that, the inevitable consequence of that is that they become the leader. And that leadership is to be respected. It's not that they become authorities in the home for no reason. But there's a element of service that gives them that trust. So that was the first thing that he showed to the Prophet SAW Salam, before he was given leadership was I'm willing to serve. I want to learn and in learning, I'm willing to teach and by teaching, I'm going to allow people to come closer to
their Deen to their religion. So the first thing that prophets also does is he tells me that more of you are going to be the leader. You're going to be the one that goes to Yemen, there's an entire group of people there that converted, you're going to be their email their shake.
Before he sends him. He gives him this we'll see you this little advice.
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community, I'm not ashamed for an imam. So this might not be as applicable to me. But the Prophet SAW sent him said, Could you look him right, and we're cool, lukewarmness gewoon. And right at that all of you in some way, shape, or form, are shepherds. All of you are in charge of something, whether it's the children that you have, whether it's the siblings that look up to you, whether it's cousins, or nephews, or nieces, or whether it's people at work, everybody has a position of that over others in some capacity in life. And if you have that what you do, then this ability to have God consciousness to remember Allah and every situation, it equally applies to you, you don't have
to be the leader of a city. You don't have to be the mayor, the governor, the Khalifa, the mama, Chef, no, you can just be you. And in this, he's teaching the MA The Prophet systems teaching him something very important. And that is, who you are in private eventually will be who you become in public.
Leadership is something that's very difficult. And part of the reason why we leadership is difficult is because there's a public and then there's a private, how devastated are people, when they find out that they're famous, or their favorite celebrity or sports athlete? Is like morally corrupt? How much does it hurt to find out that somebody that you look up to, on the basketball quarter on the football field is like a really, really bad person? It's devastating, right? People even go to the lengths of defending making excuses. No, no, it's not true. No, no, this isn't that. Why do we feel this way? Well, because when you look up to somebody, you expect them to be the same person,
publicly and private. This is a really difficult task. But the Prophet SAW said, I'm here is teaching us that if you want to be sincere, the same person alone, that you are in a crowd, the same person with Allah that you are with others. It starts by practicing being good by yourself. Because who you are, when nobody's around, you will become your subconscious behavior when people are around you. If you don't lie, when nobody's looking, you won't lie when the stakes are high either. If you don't cheat and steal, when you can, then you won't cheat and steal when others are watching as well. This statement is perhaps one of the strongest principles of leadership of the Prophet so
Psalm has ever given. Because in order for people to respect and to love and to listen to those who are in charge of them, they have to see that they are what, that they are morally upright. They have to see that they are someone that can be trusted. So he tells him it took the law Haytham eloquent that you need to remember Allah wherever you are. It's easy to be pious in front of people. It's very easy to be good when others are watching. But can you be that same person when no one's around? The Prophet SAW Selim taught us of a scary moment of the day of judgment where a person arrives and they have mountains of good deeds and at a moment's notice, all the deeds disappear, like a wind
blows. And this entire mountain that they had, essentially disappears, like with dust in the wind, and the person becomes fretful scared, they say, Yeah, Allah, what happened to my deeds. And Allah, Allah will respond to the person and say this is because you are one way in public. And another way in private. This is because you lived your life publicly, as a good person, upright, moral, pious. But when you were by yourself, you made decisions and you lived your life and you did things that were so reprehensible knowingly, but you only did them because you knew no one was watching. We ask Allah to Allah to make us congruent and sincere. This is a really, really powerful beginning. The
next thing the Prophet SAW Selim says, because why the ideal is so high, the stakes are so high, as he says, what's very safe to hasna? Tell them how
it translates very powerfully when you make a mistake, follow up actually, sorry, I'm mistook the translation, follow up your mistakes with good deeds, it will erase it, the Prophet SAW said and didn't say either. He didn't say if you make a mistake, you that file together will cut the know. He said, Follow Up Your mistake with a good deed. What is the understanding here? It's not an option whether or not you can make mistakes. You are one of the sons and daughters of asthmatics and I'm your human being part of that job description is that you will mess up. It is something to be expected. And this expectation is something that we appreciate, oftentimes for ourselves, but the
great mistakes that we make is that while we hold space for ourselves to fall, we don't allow that
same for others around us. So we allow ourselves to make mistakes. But when we see people doing the exact same thing that we struggle with, there's judgement. You look in the community and somebody struggles. I remember I was talking with somebody before, and they were talking about Hijab is a sister who put on hijab. And she said, you know, they need to wear hijab, and this and this, and I asked her, I said, when did you start wearing hijab? And she said, you know, in my 30s, I said, the person you're talking about is 15.
Right? How would you have felt if somebody when you were 15 talked about you the same way? Or salah, my son, the famous my, this brother, I knew, he said, My sons I'm gonna pick. So why would you say that? It's a horrible thing to say, says, well, the Prophet SAW said him said, the one who does not pray Fajr and Isha, especially in the masjid, is from the FAC. So he's wonderful. So when did you start praying so few years ago,
so your son 16, you're like 50. The thing is, we allow for ourselves to have moments of growth. But where is that with other people? So the Prophet SAW Selim taught us that actually, it should be the opposite. You should be hard on yourself. But you should be really soft on people. Allow yourself to make mistakes, but don't let yourself to have you know, infinite time, you know, to, to make up for them. No, you should be a little bit tougher on yourself. But when it comes to others, what we have 70 excuses, we have made the offer them seek forgiveness for them. So the Prophet SAW Selim teaches us that as a leader, and as a person who's responsible, that you are inevitably going to slip up,
you're gonna make mistakes, it's part of life. And it's important for young people as well to know this children, those of you who have parents or those who have younger siblings or nieces, nephews, they need to grow up knowing that this is part of life. Not that it's okay to make mistakes willingly, with neglect. Intentionally. That's different. That's not a mistake, right? But when a mistake happens, that they shouldn't feel like they are worthless, they should not feel like they have nothing good to do. There are many, many kids that grow up not wanting to even try to do something. Why? Because they don't want to mess up. This is something that in our homes as Muslims,
we have to reframe. Mistakes are opportunities for people to learn. They are not the end of the world.
If we did not sin, the Hadith tells us Allah would remove us as a race as a community, and would replace us with people who sinned so that they could make Toba? How would we experience the sweetness of repentance if we were perfect?
Yet we still expect our children and our youngsters in the community to be perfect. It's a paradox. It doesn't make sense. So the Prophet SAW Selim says, number one, remember Allah wherever you are,
but it's almost in between the lines when you make when you mess up. Right, that's in the parentheses when you mess up, follow up, that mistake that slip with a good deed why Tim hoo, ha, it will erase it, it will take care of it. The last bit, which is also very important, the Prophet SAW sent him says, well, Harlequin NASA Beholder Contessa.
And really, you know, frankly, it translates to treat people well. You know, it's have character with all of people in a way that's beautiful. It's like a more elaborate translation, but really what it means it just treat people well. And this is also a very powerful moment, because the prophets also don't understand is number one. When you're in a position of leadership, it's very easy to treat people poorly. When a person thinks of themselves as being more important and more critical or essential than others, then by the neffs, the default of that state, is to look down upon people that you feel don't have that same status as you. The Prophet SAW said and taught us
that this is from arrogance, when they asked him you know, so Allah, what is arrogance? He said bustled Huck, welcome to NAS. Number one is rejecting the truth. And number two, looking down on people. And we know that the person who has even the smallest amount, a mustard CD said, which means what? Even the tiniest residue of Kibet in their heart, they will not enter paradise. People can commit tons of sins all day long, all day long, all day long. And they'll still enter paradise. But if a person has arrogance, and looks down upon the one who commit sins that might hold them back, people might be standing there at the gates of gender looking at those people that they judged,
walking into Jannah and them saying, where's mine? And they'd be told to them this is because those very same people that are walking in the ones who were sinful at night, their eyes were flowing with tears, they were sorry, but you took every moment you could to talk about them and judge them while they walked into while they did what they did. And now look at them, they're walking into Jenner, and this person is not male is how to protect us. So when you have this position of responsibility of leadership, it's easy number one to look down upon people. Number two, is that when a person is in a position of leadership or responsibility, your actions are more highlighted than others.
You're not held to the same standard. You know, the statement it's not fair. My dad used to have the best comeback for this when I was growing up. I say that
It's not fair. He said, Oh, whoever told you life was fair? Is there some sort of agreement that you signed some document? Right, I was always the tallest kid in my class growing up, you can't tell. And I would always get in trouble for the same things everyone else would, because I was more noticeable, right, I stuck out. And so my dad would say, I was in a summer school full of Daisy kids. So he's like,
I said, That's not fair. You know, all my friends did the same thing. I'm the only one who got in trouble. He's a who told you life was fair, who told you life was fair. And then he would tell me I remember, he would say these things. And maybe it was his way of understanding and preparing me for community work or whatever. But he would say things like, you have to hold yourself to a higher standard. You can't hold yourself to the same standard as others. When people are responsible, in the public eye or in their family, they don't have the same concessions as everybody else. It just is the way it is. To whom much is given much as expected. So if you want to be somebody that has the
weight, and the burden and the responsibility of family, or community, or friendship or anything on your shoulders, you think that you have the requisite skills to take care of things that are important. Just know that you have entered into a realm in which you will be held to a higher standard. And that's okay. The best players on teams aren't held to the same standards as the ones who are on the practice squad. The ones who are expected to be the stars, Luca Illa, who and ala Raji, Arun, is expected to perform better than others, is he not the greatest athletes of our time, if they have a mediocre game, it's horrible for them. Right? We are told this about the pious people
in our tradition, that for those people who want nearness to Allah, just barely making it in terms of their iPads and their clock, it's not good enough. It's not good enough. Those who want to be closest to Allah, they have to have a standard for themselves, that is higher than what they expect from others. And people will also expect that from them. So the Prophet SAW sudden, by giving this teaching to his student more, I've been dabbling with the law, one who was going out to Yemen, we understand this powerful context now how it changes everything. It's not just the Prophet SAW said, I'm saying this generally which he was, and it's for all the time for everybody. But in this moment,
the prophets all sudden was also telling somebody who he knows, is going to be in a position of leadership responsibility, someone that's going to have to teach and live to serve, that these are the three most important characteristics that a person can master, if they are to take on the responsibility of anybody else in their life. Now, whether that's children, or students, or community or Muslims, whoever, if you have people that rely upon you in any way, shape, or form, these are the three traits that you have to master We ask Allah to audit to give us the ability to master these and much more. We ask Allah to Allah to keep us protected from insincerity. We ask
Allah to audit to give us Sophia to act upon what he loves when his messenger icils Salam loves Koulibaly how there was suffered Allah he will come with this almost unanimous manifesto for all in the whole of for Rahim.
hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam ala Ashraful MBI. Almost on the inside know Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam or other early he was hobbling around in brothers and sisters, these stories these narrations are just snippets from the life of the prophet saw Salem. In just 25 minutes or less. We've talked about one of the great companions in his relationship with the Prophet Muhammad SAW sadhana. One thing that we have to understand before we conclude this clip, is that this tradition, the teachings of our messenger, so to salaam, the Quran, the explanation of the Quranic message is such a deep tradition, it's so so incredibly deep. It has such vast meaning and application to
It is impossible for a person to in a short amount of time, appreciate and to try to take on everything that is there. It's simply not possible. The way in which we have been told by our messenger so salaam that we need to inculcate these ideas and messages into our life is a steady, even if slow methodology. When the Prophet SAW Selim was asked about what hola todos favorite deeds are, he responded Eduardo Hawa. And he said, the ones that are consistent even if they are little, even if they are small in quantity, or in frequency. This is the methodology of the Prophet Muhammad SAW side of them. We were never a religion of all you can eat. We were never a religion of take on
as much as you can. We have always been a tradition of Tibetan village that people learn and grow with gradually
Islam that has always been from the time of the Prophet salsa. We have narrations where he said this very clearly very blatantly.
I showed her on how she said that if the first thing to be revealed was no alcohol, no drinking, because that was revealed many years later. In Medina, she said if the first thing to be revealed was no drinking, right if Cara Bismillah, Becca Levy Haluk, and then right after no alcohol, she said, no one would have converted. No one would have accepted this message. Because people need time to grow into something that's serious that changes their life. The prophets all sudden even said, when he was looking at the Kaaba one day, he commented to eyeshadow on he said to her, if it were not for the hearts of people, being very soft, I would renovate the Kaaba to be upon the original
foundations of Satan, Ibrahim Eissa I would change it because now it's a cube I would extend it back to include the head team so that we could see the original foundations of Abraham I said, I'm he said that but he said if it weren't for the hearts of people, our messenger I sort of said, I'm always took into account people. He always thought about their ability to handle something before he taught them before he put it upon them. He would wash his teeth or rinse his teeth or whatever with Miss wack. And when he was asked about that, he would say it is a sunnah. And I'm only saying it's a sunnah, it's beloved, it's recommended because I'm afraid that it will become obligatory upon you.
I'm afraid that it'll become obligatory on you. So I'm not going to say that it's obligatory. Why? Because it's something you can't handle. A companion said, Yeah, rasool Allah, should we make hij? The prophets also said yes, if you can, he said, every year,
every year, and the Prophet saw some stayed quiet. He said he also Allah every year, he asked this question again. He's that kind of student.
Doesn't take No, it doesn't take silence for an answer. He asked a third time yet, every year the Prophet SAW Selim says, you're going to ask me until I say, yes. You're going to ask me until when I say yes. Now it's an obligation upon you. Why are you doing this to yourself? The prophets all sudden, always took into consideration people's capacity. We need to do the same.
When he was teaching his star student, why have to go lead people? He made sure that one of the principles he understood was that you have to be you have to grow with people. You cannot expect them to meet you where you are. But you have to meet them where they are. We ask Allah to audit to give us this mercy and compassion. We ask Allah to Allah to give us any fat for those who are sick. We ask Allah to Allah to forgive any of those who have passed away. ask Allah to Allah to uplift the oppression from those who are experiencing it. We ask Allah Tada to protect us and our families from the different oppressions in society. We ask Allah to audit to allow us to experience safety and
harmony in our homes and communities. We ask Allah to audit to allow us to be people that represent this message with beauty and that we are a reason for people to come closer to Islam and not to be turned away from it in the law. Who am I let go to who use Soluna Allah Nebby Yeah, you Halina Amador Sadhguru Ali, he was selling with us Nima Allama Syed Ali Muhammad Anwar Ali Mohammed Kim So later on Ebrahim or other early Ibrahim for Allah mean Anika Hamidah Majeed Allahumma barik ala Muhammad Ali Muhammad came about Dr. Alebrije Hema early Ibrahim for Alameen in Hamina Majeed in the La Jolla motor but it will send what you say the call about why and how the fascia would have been
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