Advice of My Best Friend

Aarij Anwer


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AI: Summary © The importance of investing one's time and energy into learning about one's religion is emphasized in the context of personal growth. The speakers discuss various narratives and their impact on people's thinking about the Prophets of Islam, including the importance of love and care for people in one's life. They stress the need to reconcile family members' behavior and avoid making mistakes, practicing Islam, building one's credibility, and being thankful for blessings given to others. The importance of safety and avoiding fear of failure is also emphasized.
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I think we're all snowed in today to try again Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Everyone, for attending and for sticking around on this nice, beautiful day, in this, on this holiday weekend, it's always good to invest our time into ourselves in every way, right? You a person should invest themselves or their time in their growth, physically, their growth, you know, mentally, physically by, you know, exercising not by eating more mentally by reading more and spiritually by attending and listening to an end benefit, benefiting from gatherings of knowledge, the Messenger of a loss of loss of themselves in a very, in an authentic narration that's very beautiful. He said, that

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you are passing by the gardener's agenda for the roofie you should take from them. So the Sahaba asked, What are these gardens of gentle messenger of Allah and the messenger of a local, some said they are the gatherings of remembrance, the guardians of remembrance, he likened them to a garden of Paradise, because it grows a person spiritually, it increases our conviction in our faith. It gives us incentives to act and live our lives as Muslims. That is why the messenger likened it to a garden of Paradise, because essentially, it will take you to paradise inshallah. And he also said that whoever treads the pad seeking knowledge that that makes up elements of the logo, V. Sahara, hula

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Whoever treads the pad, seeking to learn the religion because of that, because of their effort to tread that path, a lost partner makes their path agenda easy. So this is a very beautiful thing to invest ourselves in, to take the time out of our days, to learn about our religion, to learn what the prophets have said, to learn what the Quran says, this is an investment in ourselves in our arsenal, we have a lot to make us of those who see the fruits of that investment. I mean, you're allowed me

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the topic that I have to share with you is my friends best advice. Oh, my Sorry, my friends was rice. More precisely, my best friend's advice. This is a based out of a hadith of Saudi Arabia was on Iran who, who said to the people who are around him, he said to them, Mr. Ronnie Lee sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Misawa my best friend gave me advice and told me to do certain things. So that's where the title comes from. So I'll read the Hadith first and then we'll talk about what the messenger is also advised.

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You know, specifically and in more detail, he said,

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that Amani halevi for the La Jolla Santa Barbara. Imani before Bella Sakina was the new women home. My best friend advised me and told me to do certain things. Number one, he advised me and commanded me to love the poor and to be close to them. That's number one. Okay, number two amarante and unwra illa man who duni Allah Allah Allah man.

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Number two, he said I should look at those who are below me in stature in wealth, and not those who are above me. Number 3am, Iranian asila rahima who in a deliberate He told me to maintain family ties, even if family does not want to keep ties with with me. Number four. Amani Allah, Allah had an shayan he told me I that I shouldn't ask anybody for anything. Number five, Mr. Ronnie and akula will have to encana moron. He told me that I should speak the truth

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at all times, even if that truth is better. It's not convenient, convenient to tell the truth. It's very inconvenient at that point. He said I should tell the truth, even if it isn't convenient, even if it is better. Well, I'm on the fourth of in that he Loma de la in number six. He said he told me that I shouldn't fear anyone's criticisms, or any anybody's perception of me when it comes to my practice of my faith. And number seven,

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I'm on the n n o theorem and only the hola La quwata illa Vina and he told me that I should say La hawla wala quwata illa de la a lot because in Nana min. Kansa data lash that

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This statement is a treasure from the treasures of last patola it is a treasure from under the throne of a loss parabola, which means that this is a very, very amazing statement. You cannot even measure the worth of it. That's how amazing it is. Those are the seven things he mentioned. And that was

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it is hurried, by the way isn't in the Muslim environment. And it is authentic Lee narrated. So this hadith what we see from it is number one, the how the Messenger of Allah Salam is described by a widow.

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He doesn't say my Rasulullah said to me or the Prophet of Allah or the BU law said this. He doesn't say that. He says, Imani Sally, my best friend told me and advise me to do these things, which tells you of the relationship that the messenger about lots and lots and lots of them had with the Sahaba that he had such a good relationship with them, that after he had passed away, not only did they love and respect him as a messenger, and as somebody that they aspire to be like, but the closest they felt to him was like the closest of a best friend. And this is not the only Sahabi who feels that way. There is a Herrera

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who says in another narration that amarante really, we also need to really be sarasa my best friend told me that I should always do three things. Okay, so same, kind of exactly the same word, the same sentiment from another Sahabi we have another beautiful narration from honorable us on the glasses, if you don't remember, is somebody who was at the forefront of fighting the prophets, Allah. And he was one of the commanders of the army of Polish, along with highly liberal rallied against the messengers of Allah, and inflicted heavy damages and losses upon the Muslims in the Battle of God. So eventually he comes around and accepts Islam after the Treaty of Abia, right, so he's been

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adversarial to the prophets of Salaam for say about 15 years, right? A little bit, you know, sometime in the beginning, not so much. Towards the end, he is leading the war. He's one of the generals against the war.

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So but he comes around, and he accepts Islam and becomes one of the great Sahaba of the prophecies on them. But the interesting thing is brothers and sisters is that when he accepted Islam here he is he saying that I used to be the person I hated the most was the prophet SAW them before Islam and the person I love most after I became Muslim was the Prophet so that was his transformation. But then a very interesting thing happened one day he's sitting with the messengers of Salaam and he out of nowhere asked the messenger salsa them man who is the person that you love the most?

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And the message in replied anyway know what was his reply was or who that person is?

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No person man not the answer is Ayesha, right.

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He said I shall which is amazing. You know you could tell people that you love your wife to pay murders right?

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But then he said no, no from the men he said from the men who is it that you know not like you know, we know you love your wife. That's okay. But from the men who do you love? And then the messenger said it is where is

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our Casa de by her father, or worker, so the only one one? Okay, interesting narration the thing that's very interesting, as mentioned, is that unwritten the last ask this question, because the way the profits are some featured him,

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despite being an enemy and an adversary for so many years, when he finally accepted Islam, the prophets are some treated him with such love and kindness, that armour was like, Yo, I like the most loves the hobby. That's what he thought. And that's why he asked the processes on them because he was so moved by the way the profits are some would look at him would talk to him, would treat him that he legitimately thought that he was that person. But of course it wasn't it was a worker study, which tells you that the messengers also looked at and treated everybody in his gathering with such love and respect. And with such kindness, that this person who just became Muslim thinks that, you

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know, the messenger is loving him more than anybody else. That tells you of the character of the prophets of Allah. Right. So this is a very, very beautiful trait. And we see a glimpse of that in how the Sahaba described the prophets of not just how

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You know, because we don't see the province or some we haven't met the provinces and we don't know what it was like to live with him day to day. But we have glimpses of it. And the glimpse that we see is this a person who had extreme love and care for those who were around him to the point where they described him as his best as their best friend described him as or think that he really really loves them more than anybody else. So that is number one. Number two, we see that the seven things that

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he was told by their messengers awesome seven things number one is loving the people who are poor hope is Masaki, what do we mean whom and being close to them? Now, what's interesting is, it's not this, the messenger said, you should take care of the poor. Right? He didn't say, I'm Ronnie ferry, and Aurora will Masaki, right, that I should be taking care of the poor. No, he said, he told me to love the poor. And there's a significant difference their brothers and sisters, taking care of the orphan, or taking care of the poor person is a fairly straightforward, you can just hand them some money, you can just put some payment on like recurring basis that gets, you know, this withdrawn

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from your account and goes to somebody who's poor, you can automatically set that up and not be bothered by it. Right? It's a fairly hands off approach, but loving the poor. Loving the poor requires that we go the extra level. And in fact, he said, loving the poor, what do we mean whom and to get close to them?

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Meaning that we should be close to them in the sense that we should know what it is. What is it that they are going through? What is it that ails them? What does it feel like to be in that situation?

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We live in very sheltered, protected environments are all like, you know, fairly luxurious lives, right? We go to our homes as luxury is in our car, a fair amount of luxury, we pull out a phone from our pockets, that's the type of luxury there's a lot of good things in there is a lot of really, really,

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we were surrounded by so many good things that we forget what it's like when things are bad. And even if you've never seen that times,

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you just have no idea what it's like, in to be in that situation. Right? It just have no clue. So to be close to the people who are poor, and doing this out of love, not because you have like sympathy, and you feel sorry for them. No, no, because you have a genuine care and concern for them. That's what the messengers awesome told her to be like, that's how our attitude should be. And I have a friend who said something really nice. He said, if you have if you have riches that are material, if you have material riches, there's a very good chance that you have spiritual power. Do

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you know what that means. So if you have a lot of good stuff around you, there's a very high chance that you have spiritual poverty because you don't know what other people are going through. You don't realize what kind of blessings it is that you take for granted, that others will literally die for.

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We don't we just don't realize how lucky we are in those on how blessed we are in those circumstances. So when we have a closeness to the people who for we don't have this spiritual poverty, we have, you know, spiritual richness as well. Because then when we see their situation we're like, so Hon, Allah Alhamdulillah everything is so good in my life. 100 Allah has given so much to me, and I need to do more for these people. That becomes the way we look at things.

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I was, you know, sometimes, you know, you get busy with life, you get busy with like squabbles, and this, that and the other. And then you you don't know what, you know why you're upset at something or somebody, right? But then you get to hear about someone who can't pay their bill, or can pay their rent, for example, who has a family member that's trapped in a refugee camp somewhere in the middle east and they can't get them out? Right? You hear somebody who has, you know, a chronic disease, and they are, you know, disabled, and life is tough. They can barely make ends meet. They're very, they can do anything, their potential has been severely hampered. So what happens

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then, right, when you look at real situations, of difficulty of people, that makes us realize, what are we complaining about? Why are you so angry? Why are we always like being negative? Why are we complaining what this is not right? That's not right.

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That's the sign that when someone is doing that, that sign that they don't understand how much blessings they have. And the messenger taught us and in fact, the

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First thing he teaches, is be close to those who are in need so that you know how much you have.

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Number two, number one is to love the poor, and be close to them. Number two is an UNRRA element

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element that I look at those who were below me, and not those who are above me, related, right? There's two things are related. Look, a man who is above me in the sense also look at the one who is below me in the sense that they have less money, they have less things, less privilege, and not the one who has more.

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That's what the messenger Sallam said to Abu huraira. And if you think about this, this is such a beautiful advice. Again, it goes back to that whole idea of being rich, spiritually, not having that spiritual poverty. I remember when I was in Egypt, I had, we were living in this apartment, and we had this, you know, the the Bellman right, like he would, you know, like the, this guy would live in the basement. And he had his family there. And he would take care of, you know, little things here and there.

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What happened was that you look at that person, you look at how he's living, you look at his kid.

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And then we will be complaining about things, we will be getting upset of things, we will be thinking, Oh, man, this person has this and you don't have that. And then you look at someone like that. And they're living a very stress free life, that worries but they're happy.

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And when you look at someone like that, you may again, it makes you realize what it makes you realize that there is so much that we have that we take for granted. It's unbelievable.

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That's what it is. I have a friend who bought what a very expensive car, he didn't tell anybody. He bought a car he was driving in one day he showed I was gonna go to meet him. And he shows a minute. I'm like, Whoa, man, you bought an Audi. Alright, that's amazing. Okay, and he's driving that car. It's got 600 horsepower. And wow, I was like, This is unbelievable. Right? Now, this is one of my best friends. I love him like a brother. Right? When I saw his car, and I'm like, Man, you know, I wish I can have a car like that, you know, I wish I could. That's what starts to happen, even when you genuinely love somebody, and you have nothing but you know, goodness in your heart for that

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person. When you start to look at all the things that they possess, all of a sudden, the things that I have seen insignificant.

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That's what's going to happen. And that's why the messenger tool I will do not do that. And you know, what's interesting is, the messenger said in a very beautiful Hadith, that man has Mohammed

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Manasa Harmon gum.

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More often, he just said he Manasa hadn't come in. And he said he wasn't he just said he, in the hoopoe, to me, he is

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the person who has the following three things. Number one, they have peace and security. They know that when they step out of the Muslim, they step out of the house, they won't get killed or something, you know, their house to save the neighborhood. neighborhood is safe. You know, everything is good. That's what we are right? We enjoy safety and security. The person has good health more often. He just said he, there's nothing that eels this person long term.

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In the hoopoe, to me, this person has food for the day, just food for the day, or even like lots of money or whatever, just food for the day. If you have these three things, the messenger says can never he's as if this person is so blessed. All the world has been presented with numbers gathered and presented to them.

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Just these three blessings. Think about it. It shows us how much we have to thank a lot for our blessings, and how much we take for granted. our health, our peace and security, the fact that you don't have to worry about food, you open the fridge and you can have a choice. You have a menu or what's there, right? Sometimes you open the fridge to complain How come there's no coke?

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I don't like sprite I don't like seven ups.

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That is not that's unacceptable, right? That's unacceptable. That kind of a line of thought is just something that is not befitting of a believer. And what helps in understanding and realizing our blessings is we look at those who have less than us, not those who have more. Because there's no end to who has more, there's always going to be somebody who has more right, I was gonna have more money, more cars more this than the other, it will you will always be unsatisfied. So we in turn, be thankful for the blessings that Allah has given us. And that comes by looking at that. Number two was that number three was Amani, an LC la Rahim. well in advance. Number three, he told me that I

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should take care of family even if family turns away from me

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This is a very interesting point that if somebody turns away and say, and doesn't want to do anything with us, we don't say, Ah, forget you, man, I have nothing to do with you either.

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We don't do that. That's not how a believer is supposed to be. If a person is upset, as a believer, we're supposed to reach out to them and say, Hey, what happened? Okay, I'd like to reconcile. Is this something that I did? Something I said is in my face? I don't know what it is. Why are you so mad at me, this is part of the process. And if somebody for whatever reason, just wants to stay mad, they don't want to reconcile, that's okay. That's a choice, you at least made the effort to reach out. This is the point that we have to focus on that we have to make the effort to reach out to people, particularly family members, make sure that we're on good terms with them. And not to let

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not let little things get in the way. I don't I don't actually have any brothers or sisters. I'm actually the only child shocking. Somebody was basically his only only child. So but my wife obviously has Mashallah many siblings. So I see like the family politics and whatnot, like the sisters saying this, or someone said to their son, or someone said this to their daughter, or their in laws, and this and I'm like, This is so weird, man. Like, I thought you were family. Right? How can you How can you say that? or How can that person say that about you? or How could this person say this, I thought you were family, right? Because I don't understand the dynamics of what it's

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like to have a sibling. But like the siblings, when like my sister in law's fight, sometimes their fights are the worst, right? They don't talk for days, like I would have be angry at my friend. And then two days later, we'll be like, you know, having coffee together or something. But when two sisters are fighting, two brothers are fighting, they will talk for a while. And this is something that is unfortunately, I don't know, maybe it's the way the nature of the relationship. I don't know exactly what it is. But that is the case. So the point is, in a situation where two people, brother and sister are two sisters, two brothers have verified,

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the better of the two is the one who reaches out to reconcile.

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And that's what the messenger said, you should reconcile, even if the other party does not want to right, you should reach out, even if they don't want to accept your your hand.

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What's interesting also is think about this, like this was an interesting point, that the word or our family, right? Who who chooses family? Like do you choose your brother? Did you say this is going to be my brother?

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Right? You wish. You don't choose your siblings, you don't choose who is related to you by blood, you can choose your wife or husband, right? But you can choose your family members, you can choose who your father is, or your mother is that was chosen by Allah, wasn't it? Right? That link was not made by you. That DNA connection, you had nothing to do with it. That was made about last month. All right. So if you think about this, when someone is saying this, brother of mine, is just the worst person I want nothing to do with him.

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What are you like seeing like, are you seeing that the last month I made a mistake here in making this person your brother? Right? Is there something wrong in that equation? And the answer is huge. That's why family ties have to be kept. Because they were chosen by Allah. And being good to them is an extension of our goodness to Allah, Allah, more so of the parents, but also just as much to anybody who is related to us by blood. That's number three amarante and

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number four amarante Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah has been shaken. It will be number four that I should not ask anything of anybody. Why is this important? Right? Like asking if I say, you know, a common issue please like give me a glass of water something that's not haram right? That's totally acceptable. But what does the message refer to when he says this? what he's referring to is an explanation of Iraq and our Buddha he aka a stallion right? You know what that means? We're gonna do a you're gonna say you're gonna do means you alone we worship and we're gonna sign means you alone we ask for help. Right? Sort of whatever is important to know brothers and sisters. We should know

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So two things is it haram to worship?

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Someone besides alone? Yes, of course. That's the whole point of this stuff. You're just supposed to worship only correct. Is it? haram to ask somebody for something?

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Is it

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Of course not I just said very clearly it isn't. So why does the law say both things in the same if you're gonna do a kind of study, right? Think about it. Why? Why does the law say you will only worship and you will only ask for help? Why are both of those things in the same higher when you can worship anybody? But you can ask stuff from people, right? Why doesn't I mention that? There's wisdom? Number one, the obvious one is, there's this thing that only almost publican do. And that's only you asked that from last popular alone, like forgiveness and salvation and the asset. And, you know, the, asking him to fix your life and set your set you straight and all that stuff. That's

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fine. Right. But also, not asking anybody particularly refers to not asking or not depending on other people, right, not depending on other people to, you know, do favors for us, not dependent on other people to make opportunities for us now waiting on others to do something for us.

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Because if you wait for people, and you rely on people, you will be disappointed.

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That's the bottom line. But if you trust Allah, that Allah subhanaw taala, will take care of the things that I don't control, I will do whatever I can, when it comes to what I control. But whatever it is that I don't control, that is the last part. And Alas, Pablo will not, you know, let me go to waste the last part, I will make sure that he will bring me to a situation that is long term very good for me. You know, when you have that outlook in life, then you don't expect any favors from anybody, you will just go about your business, you will go about doing what you have to do, you will go about, you know, whatever it is that you are aiming for, you just go ahead and do it. And that's

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what he and I will do. In the first two that we live life, as if the only thing we need is Allah help. And then Allah will send people to help us along the way. Allah will send people that will help open doors or some other will send people that will help us in things that are difficult, he will send people to support us, He will send people to you know, help us in whatever they were trying to do. But if you're trying to get people, that's a problem, you should try to get help them a lot. That's the idea. Well, Allah, Allah, I hadn't shaved.

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That this is a very, very important thing. And I don't know like, this is a it takes.

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I personally feel like when I heard this before, when I read this before, I didn't get it when I was young. But when I went through some stuff in life, that's when I realized what it actually means to just rely on the last panel and not expect anything from anybody else. So Allah, Allah had, and this is one of those things that we have to live it to be able to fully grasp its implications. Number four, and number five was amarante. Allah akula will have to encana over He told me to say the truth, even if it is bitter, telling the truth, when it is convenient. Little kids stop

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telling of it. No, no, no, no, no, no. Good job.

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Okay, nevermind. All right. He's having fun. Mashallah. Thank you, sister. Okay. So

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telling the truth, when it is convenient is very easy, right? So say, like, to a brother and a sister haven't have a fight or two brothers have fight, right? So the guy who is gonna, who's not in trouble can very easily tell the truth. Right? Because he has everything to gain by telling the truth.

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But it's difficult to tell the truth when you have everything to lose, or something to lose. Right? classic example, when you go to the border.

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Right? You're trying to cross over the US and the border guard asks you Where are you going?

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And people because they're, I don't know, they're afraid of getting stopped, or there's paranoia and whatnot. They say things that are true at that time. Right? Oh, I'm just going to see a friend and you're not going to see a friend, you're going to like it. Oh, you have a job interview. That person is not your friend. Okay? And don't make up stuff. You see, even like bringing stuff over from like, you know, they're overseas. In your car, in your in your luggage. People often don't declare stuff, right? Because Oh, if I declare it, I'll be questioned about it. I was coming back from Haiti many years ago. And when you come back from HUD, you bring dates, right? Or every time you come back from

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Saudi, you have to bring days. So I was going to not declare anything, right? Because I didn't want to get questioned about why what I have in my bag, right? But my teacher was with me, and he's writing you know, like, he's like, Yes, I have, you know, food in my luggage and I'm like, bro, why are you doing that man? They're gonna stop you and waste your time and he's

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looked at means that you think I'm gonna lie after doing much.

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After does, how'd you go? You want me to lie on the spot? So panela, right. This is an amazing attitude, right? That's how a believers attitude should mean we tell the truth, even if it is inconvenient, this small inconvenience was mentioned, right. But even when it is a big inconvenience, we can even get you in trouble. The truth is the truth, and akula will have encana moron. Because see, that's a habit. And there's a credibility, the person who tells the truth, they have a reputation. And then over the course of time, their reputation will save them. The person who lies will develop the reputation of what

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a liar. And over time even though right now they get away with it. Over time, they will pay for that.

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This is a very important aspect of telling the truth, that it is something that will build your credibility, long term number six, and number seven quickly because I don't want to take too much of your time. Amani, Allah, a favela he Loma de la, I don't be afraid of practicing Islam, the way it's supposed to be practiced. I don't I'm not afraid of what people think of me. As a Muslim. If I have to pray, and I'm at the mall, or I'm at the airport, right? It puts more sensitive, right? bismol No one cares. Everyone's walking around. But the airport, we were praying and we were like, Oh, what's this guy doing?

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Right? I will do what I have to do for the sake of my notion, and I will not be afraid. Now. I'm not going to be you know, there is an element of pragmatism, right? I mean, I will not, for example, prey on American Airlines going to Dallas,

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I will not stand up and pray there because probably another plane will be landed and they will take me to jail or something.

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But I will pray at what's called the the terminal. Right? I will not have any hesitation in that people will look at me weird. It's okay. There's no problem in that. I will not hesitate. For example, sometimes I'd fly by Emirates. And you know, the stewardess is going to give me the dirtiest looks. I don't care. You know, you live in Dubai. You know what it's like for people to pray? I'm praying here after asking you permission. Okay. There is pragmatism, right? Of course, we live in an environment where sometimes, you know, there is excessive fear of Islam. And we have to be cautious of that. Right? We have to be can't just be blind and dumb about things, right? We have

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to be careful of that. But then there is aspects of Islam, where we practice it, where there is no fear of any repercussions. But there's this little bit of a shame, a little bit of embarrassment, right? That is the part where we say no, no, no, there should be no shame, no embarrassment, we have to practice the religion without embarrassment, if there's a legitimate concern, like a sister's sister who wears a job. And, you know, they, they have to, like, for example, they have to pray in like a public setting. That's a conversation we can have. I would be okay, where can you get off and pray safely? Right? Does it make sense for you to even pray publicly, particularly in the charged

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environment that we live, right? That's a different conversation, okay? Because safety is very, very paramount. And we're not being silly. But if you're just embarrassed to pray, if you just like, you don't want to be looked at weird. There is no room for that. There is no room for that. We are to practice Islam without embarrassment, a half of Isla de la Motta line is a fine line, right? It's a very fine line, and you can judge for yourself where it is, this is embarrassing, versus this is actually maybe going to be a problem. Right? Those two things, you are the best judge of it. But the Prophet taught us that we should not be embarrassed of our fate. And that's something that we should

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all strive towards. Last thing is the Amerindian oxtail I mean Hola, Hola, hola que de La Villa. He told me to say La how La La quwata illa window. Many, many times. This is a very beautiful statement, how La quwata illa means there is no power. There's no true power, except with Allah, meaning whatever good happens that's because I lost power wielded, if something bad happens, you know, I lost power had also welded. So he will take you through it, if he brought you to it. That is what the statement reassures us. So these are the seven things that I will that says my best friend told me number one, to love the poor. Number two to look at those who are below me and not those who

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are above me. These two things create in our hearts the gratitude that we need the the the thankfulness that means to have for the blessings that we enjoy. And then from that the care to help others. This is how believers will

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To be number three, he told us or he told me to keep family ties, even if family doesn't want to keep kind of me. Number four, that I rely only on a lot. Don't ask anybody for anything trusting, you know, law only number five, to say the truth, even if it is bitter. Number six, to not be embarrassed of fate, I'm embarrassed of practicing Islam. And number seven to remember a lot a lot. But think about how low Lakota in lavilla I'll conclude with a very beautiful,

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you know, story of when it comes to

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taking care of somebody who is who is was needy and poor. And it shows, you know, like all these traits that were described, it shows how that affects that person's character. Right. So there's a story of a boomer even mobarak.

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work was a person who lived in the second generation of Islam after the Sahaba.

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Like, meaning that he saw the Sahaba but he wasn't he didn't see the prophet SAW Selim. So Abdullah Mubarak was going for Hajj. Okay. And back in the day, you will go for Hajj by camels, right. So he's going for hedge. And he you know, they have he's going in the group. They all have, you know, they're all on, they're all on camels, and they're all going and he has some money. And then they notice that there's a bird that fell out of the sky, because it died. And it fell somewhere. So they were like, Oh, look, a bird just fell out of the sky. Interesting. And the next thing to know, there's like a little girl who comes out of her tent, wherever she was staying. And she comes up and

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grabs that dead bird. And she's quickly running away with that bird into her into her makeshift help home. So Mark is very intrigued by that. He says, Why would this girl do this? So she so he goes to her and says, Okay, why would you do this little girl, she says that, oh, my situation is that I have a brother. And I have a father who was who had money.

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And he was somebody who was taking care of it, to take care of us. But then he was robbed and killed. And here we are by ourselves with nobody to take care of us. We had money and we were fine before now we have nothing. And this is the only food that we have. And we haven't eaten for many for many days. And she said that

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listener put a llama Europa de masala walk on holiday and and beta mundo. He says that we've been in such a difficult situation. Therefore, many days we're allowed to islamically consume meat that is like roadkill.

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You know, islamically you're not supposed to consume, like, say like a bird just fell out of the sky, you can eat that if a cow has died, you can eat that it's made that it's not sponsored. It's not meant to be consumed. Except if you are starving, and you're about to die. So she says for days, we're in the situation where we can consume things that are Haram, you know otherwise, but in this situation, because we're literally it's a matter of life and death. We have to consume it. So she's like, this is a situation. So everybody turns to his people. And he's like, how much money? Do we have all of us together? They're like, we have about 1000 dinar.

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So then he says, How much?

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You know, how much is it that we need to sustain our journey back to where we came from? Right? Are there like, you know, about 20 dinars, right, that's all need for us to be able to pay ourselves back or, you know, to be able to buy supplies and do whatever we need to do to be able to return back to our homes. He said, keep the 20 and give the rest of this girl. And we'll go back home, we will go for lunch, because this is better than Hutch. So hello.

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This helping this girl helping this boy or brother, who have nothing to eat, who have you know, whose father has been killed wrongly who, whose money has been robbed from them. Helping them is more of a priority than going for Hutch. So give them the money, take whatever we need, so we can go back home that pays for our trip. And he did that and they all went back to Panama didn't realize that this is the kind of gesture This is the kind of character that we are encouraged to develop the kind of care we're supposed to show towards others. And this is from this is a reflection of the professor's character and his teachers. We ask a lot of makers of those who who can live up to these

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seven things that I mentioned, whose character embodies and reflects the character of the populace of them.

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We are thankful to Allah for what we have. And because of the things that we have for Allah we are able to take care of others who don't have a lot and put them and make them a priority. We ask not to make those people I mean Salalah Hama do it he was hobbies right, Miss any questions or comments, we can take them