Faith In Action – EP13 – Friendship

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shaytani r rajim Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah In the Name of Allah, the Compassionate, The Most Merciful All praise is due to Allah and may his peace and blessings be upon our beloved prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Welcome to faith in action and salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. May the peace, the blessings and the mercy of Allah be upon all of you. And thank you for joining us, again, in this program, where we are discussing faith in action for Islam is a religion of action. It's a faith that must manifest itself in action. It's beliefs that must express themselves in actions, and of the actions that we're speaking about is the

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actions of the individual towards those who are around him in capacity of a relationship, and we spoke about parents who spoke about relatives who spoke about orphans, we spoke about the needy, and last time we spoke about the neighbors, and now at this point, we are going to finish up what was mentioned in Surah Nisa in that verse number 36. where Allah says, Allah Allah Toshi cobija worship Allah and associate no one with him will be well idalia Santa and be dutiful and honor your parents will be will poorva and buy also be dutiful to your kinsfolk and your relatives? Be dutiful to the orphans, Aliyah Tama well, Misaki and then it says, well, Jerry will corba neighbors who may be

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related to us. Well, Jerry will Juno be neighbors who may be strangers or not related to us. And then it says was so heavy with Jim and the companion by the side. And we said that in the Quran, what's beautiful about this deal is that it gives the general framework the bigger picture, and then it goes into the detail. For example, when we spoke about the neighbors, we said that to begin with manage honor, and then on top of that, also Allah reminds us while our Baba halal nm that this planet Earth has been put down, for all the creatures, not for you only you're not entitled to it, but rather This is a place for everybody else. And that is why Subhan Allah, the Prophet sallallahu

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alayhi wa sallam taught us a valuable lesson, and that is interacting with people is really a matter of attitude. And we see this attitude expressed by the prophet peace be upon him before he leaves his house. Once we start leaving our house, we have decided and we took a very conscious decision that we are leaving our houses so that we come to interact with people around us. And when we interact with people around us, there are certain requirements and these requirements are expressed in the type of attitudes that we carry out with us as we would like or when we choose to go out and interact with these people. These attitudes are expressed by the following do our prayers that the

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would make as he is about to leave his house he would say Allahumma inni ludovica and a little over o as in

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Lima, Lima Hello utl le e j. O Allah I seek refuge in You. And then that I be the cause of misguiding people, or I myself be misguided by people. Remember, whenever we come in interaction with people, we are going to influence people and people are going to influence us. So now he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is saying that Oh Allah when I go out to interact with people, I will influence them. But I do not wish to be an influence of negativity, I wish to be an influence that is positive. So he says me and Avila odle that I become an agent of misguiding or that I become an agent that is misguided by people because people will have an impact on us. So he said, Well, Allah,

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I am about to interact with these people. I wish not to misguide them, and I wish not to be me.

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Guided by them, as if you are praying that Oh Allah I wish to guide and to be guided when I uncom to interaction with people allow me to be can

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Oh as in ouzel or that I cause others to slip, or that I myself, these slip as a result of being again influenced by other people. Because what happens is that when we go out, we are expressing our moral principles and our moral values. And sometimes we slip, we slip because of what people tell us, of how people may tempt us. And unfortunately, and sadly, sometimes we may be the reason why people may slip and jeopardize their moral values and their moral principles. So, he said, Oh Allah, I seek refuge in You from being such kind of a person, a person that makes people jeopardize and compromise their moral boundaries, or Allah I am about to interact with people, I do not want to be

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negatively influenced by people so that I end up compromising or I end up jeopardizing my moral boundaries or Allah, I seek refuge in You that I do not slip, or cause other people to slip out.

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As in

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Lima, Obama, Oh Allah, Hi, I'm about to come to interact with people, I seek refuge in You, that I wronged people, or that people wronged me, that I be unjust to people or that people be unjust to me, as if you are praying, or Allah in my interaction with people I wish and I pray to be fair, and as people interact with me, I wish and I pray that they be faith to me as well. I do not wish to be an agent that is oppressive or wrong people or an agent that somehow does justice to people. And then he says, Our Allah Allah, or that I act in an ignorant way, or that people act ignorantly towards me. And the word general or general in the Quran is not used as to express lack of

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information or lack of education. Even though sometimes culturally, we speak about gehele is a person who doesn't know the core and does not use the word gehele as to indicate a person who does not know. But rather the Quran uses the word journal to indicate that a person is acting contrary to what they know. So when a person acts contrary to what they know, they're called journal says, Look at this journal, he knows better than this, yet he is acting as if he does not know. So he is as good as a person who is ignorant. You can excuse the ignorant because they don't know what what excuse Do you have you are such a jackal. So I said, Oh Allah, I wish not to act contrary to what I

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know to be right, to be moral to be what needs to be done. I wish not to be like that. And I wish that I do not provoke people to the point that people will respond this way. To me, that is such a great attitude to carry with us as we go out to meet and interact with people. However, when we interact with people, there are certain type of people that somehow we find our hearts are inclined towards them, that somehow we feel comfort in their presence, that somehow we enjoy their company. And that's why in the Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, what would you do to Mooji another, you know, souls have these secrets about them, you meet a person and you immediately

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somehow you like them, you immediately somehow want to be their friends, you immediately somehow you feel that your heart has just expanded and wants to accommodate them. And you know that for sure this person has a place in my heart. These people are closer to us by choice than other people that we may interact with. Other people will interact with, but we do not necessarily wish to have a constant ongoing relationship wisdom. Now these people are not our relative, so we're not really obligated. We're not married to them. There is really nothing between us and them other than the fact that our hearts have just inclined towards them. The Quranic terminology for this type of

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relationship is what we call a hobo brotherhood or sometimes expressed in the idea of friendship. Now the Quran, the Quranic word is a

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and it's being used in the Quran, to indicate five different types of relationship. Oho brotherhood may literally mean the real physical brotherhood, that you belong to the same parents or to one of the parents. And throughout the verses of inheritance. The Quran speaks about this type of brotherhood, and that is brotherhood either to both parents or brotherhood, you know, to one parent

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For example, in the story of Cain and Abel, it says fatawa Atlona. He, he said that and his soul made it easy for him to kill his brother. And the word father here in the Quran meant brotherhood as in physical relationship belonging to both parents or one parent. Also the Quran uses the word or Hawa, as indication to belong into the same clan or tribe. For example, what Allah had in a home Buddha, and to the people of ad we sent their brother and hood and hear the word brother and or brother is an indication that hood Allah His Salaam, was a person who belongs to the same clan, even though there is not necessarily blood relationship between him and these people. Yet Allah indicated

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that relationship or expressed that relationship, using the word or whoever or brother, also,

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brother can mean faith where Allah subhanaw taala, meaning that these are people who share the same, the same faith. Allah says in Surah Al amaran. For us bottom venier Mati he one and you became due to his grace and mercy and blessings upon you, you became brothers of each other, meaning that you all belong to the same to the same faith. And this is actually mentioned as an AMA, where Allah subhanho wa Taala tells the believers the followers of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, at that time that you are enemies of one another. You were on the brink of foiling into the Hellfire but Allah bless you and gave you two blessings one by sending Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam he

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saved you from the Hellfire to by belonging all to the same Deen and face all these issues of malice and hatred and war that was taking place between you has now come to an end because of these teachings. More inshallah to be said about this topic. When we come back. We will take a short break. Please stay tuned and we will be back in Sharla

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Welcome back to Faith in action. And as salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato, who made a peace, the blessings and the mercy of Allah be upon all of you, we're talking about relationships, and specifically in this episode, we are talking about friendship. And we said that the Quranic term to illustrate this is the word or, or, or brotherhood or, as we saw, that it uses it to indicate five types of relationship but uses the same terminology. And also it speaks about another type of relationship and uses and expresses it in the same word. And that is the word when is an MFT solbari mineral in one said that people when they have no malice, no hatred against each other, and they

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become inclined and loving towards each other. A lot refers to this as a relationship of whoever said that in the Day of Judgment, this is such a beautiful reward that awaits the believer in the Day of Judgment. It said that now because we are social beings, even in Paradise, we continue to be social beings. We want to enjoy paradise, but we want people around us. And sometimes good people in this world may still have some sort of negative emotions towards some people, some other good people to good people, somehow, they just don't feel good about towards one another said that in the Day of Judgment, Allah is going to snatch these feelings from them, so that they are together in paradise.

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And these negative emotions do not really play a role. Because that takes away from the fun. Sometimes you are enjoying yourself and then somebody you don't like walks in, and you say, you know what, they just messed it up for me. I was having a good time and until they walked in, and when they walk in, you know what they electrified the place I felt the tension in the air, I was receiving negative vibes, and I did not like being there. We don't want that to happen in paradise as well. So Allah said in Paradise, we will make sure that you are a one, meaning that there will be no malice or hatred towards each other, or sometimes the word in reference to friend in the head, he

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noticed and was thrown and it said that indeed this is my friend who has 99 sheeps as we are told in Surah Saad, regarding the people who came to that wood, but what we are talking about is these are friends, people whom we choose to want to have a closer relationship with, who may not necessarily be related to us by blood marriage or any other for the people that we choose to be our friends say a lot about us. I may not know who you are, but one way of finding out about who you are by seeing the company that you keep and that is why the process

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, and Mauro Allah, Dini led phillium, New Holland, he said that people live life according to the company that they keep, be aware and be conscious about the company that you keep. So now for a believer, the people that you choose to be your friends, the circle of the people that are around you, expresses what kind of a person you are. So a person of faith is a person who is aware, a person who desires only to keep good company around him. Similarly, also,

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for a person of faith, as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught us that the kind of people that we keep, actually do determine, to a great extent, the type of path that we take in life. And that is why sadly, when we choose, you know, bad influence, that rubs off on us, and we begin to make poor choices in life, because of where we are getting our influence from. So they determine, and they express what kind of people we are. But at the same time, they also illustrate which path of life are we taking, because the company that we keep is an indication of what it is that we seek out in life. Also,

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friends, you know, they say that nowadays, it's difficult to find good, honest, close friends, we may have many acquaintance. But friends, they say that precious friends are rare things in life at this point. And that's why it says that they require special handling. Old friends are the best antiques, know how people like antiques, or they say that old friends are the best antiques. So now how I deal with my friends, is also an expression of how and what kind of a person I am. And that is why, for example, in the Quran, we have that people actually pray, Robin, I'm feeling really whiny the loveliness of a man. It says, oh, Allah, forgive us, and forgive our brothers and sisters, who

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have taken this path before us. So what kind of a friend you are, is also an indication of what kind of a person you are, by the way that you deal with your friends. Nowadays, good friends, are a rare commodity. And they are difficult to find. And I don't wish to be pessimistic, but I am very realistic about what's going on, as I was just told, you know, with the lack of time that we have with how busy life is nowadays, when people go to work, whether they have co workers, you come back home, and you're very tired, and whatever is left out of your day you want to spend with your family, we really don't have time to develop, close, intimate, in depth relationship with people who

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are around us. And what that does is that it makes it very difficult to find more people and acquire more friends. So what we need to do is the good friends that we have, now it is even more incumbent upon us that we want to keep those who are good friends and those who have been around us and good to us. They say that life has no blessings, like a prudent friend. I've been a bass used to say that what is really lovely about this life are three things and he would mention amongst them, you know, the idea of the opportunity to be engaged in the remembrance of Allah Isn't that beautiful? And then he speaks about prudent friends that Make life beautiful, that make life enjoyable. People who share

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the same vision, people who share the same goals, people who are on that journey with us, said life has no blessings, like a prudent friend. And that is why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would speak about the idea of being careful about the type of people that you choose to hang around with. In a beautiful simile parable, the prophet peace be upon him said, muscle jellies is solid, he will jelly soup. He said the parable of a good companion. And a bad companion is like the good companion, he said is like the seller of perfume. said you go to the shop, say even if you don't buy anything from them, the time that you walk into the shop just because of the nature of things that

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are in the shop, said you saw something good. You don't buy anything. He may give you a free sample to try said that so long that you are in his shop. You're either tasting three samples, hopefully you're not tasting them. You're just testing them. You are testing free samples, or you are just being in that place. you're smelling something good. So he's saying it's a win win.

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In situation when you are in good company, and then he said, we're metal jelly stew. And the parable of a bad friend is like being in the shop of a blacksmith. And this is not to put down people who have that profession, or that's their skill. That's not the point. But just the nature of that profession is he is constantly welding. And when you weld you are melting metals. And by the nature by the merit, the inherently these metals, they smell bad. And as you are welding sparks fly all over the place. So, say that you are at that point you are exposing yourself either to the bad smell, the foul smell, or you are exposing yourself to these parks that may taint your dress or may

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even burn you. So he said you don't need to be there. If that's his job, then that's his job, but you really do not need to be there instead. That is the parable of bad friends. You may not choose to say profanity. But if you are in a group of people that only speak profanity, then you are exposing yourself to that, and there is really no need to do so. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would say, be careful about this. alumina, Vitaly puts it so beautifully. And he said, and he can be a healer. He said, Be cautious about the type of people that you choose to be your friends, for they are helpful to you in this life as well as in the hereafter. So people said, Wait, we know

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how they can be helpful to us in this life. But how are they helpful for us in the hereafter? Then I leave now Vitaly recites the verse in the Quran. Well, a killer isn't viable human labor as an adult.

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He said that, indeed, friends will be the enemies of each other in the Hereafter, except the righteous ones, they will not be enemies of each other. They're friends in this life. And they continue to be friends in the here after, as well. And that is why they say that one of the greatest losses in life is to lose a good friend. They say that losing a good friend is like losing a limb, where you can actually heal from the anguish of the loss of that limb. But it can never be repaired. And that is really sad. And we can see this in the life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam when he lost his good friend and uncle, Hamza, rhodiola Juan, know how much sadness The Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wasallam expressed over this, at any case, friends are, like we said, blessings in life, there is no blessing in this life like a prudent friend. And what we want to do is as people of faith, we want to interact with our friends in such ways that actually speaks and expresses our faith about in the way that we deal with them in the way that we interact with them. And this blessing of Allah subhanho wa Taala once we get a good friend, we want to hold on to them. May Allah Subhana Allah make us the best friends to their friends, and May Allah grant us good friends. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala always facilitate us to be agents of good and as always, may Allah make

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us of those who always put their faith in action. And with this, we come to the conclusion of our program. Thank you for joining us until we meet next time we say so long and Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.