Channel: Yasmin Mogahed
Emotional Talk on How Saving Others Can Save Ourselves
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to diversify? And so I saw that he was still
I'd like to begin by thanking everyone for coming
out on Saturday, she was in Los Angeles County, and the supporting what is a very important cause? for maybe coming to your city for st needs to do that too.
Apologize. Empire? Well, how can I sell the voice Oh.
The second thing I want to do is actually make a request, then I made this request. Last night I asked the audience this because different audiences have different kind of cultures. And this is what you learn when you speak to people in the world.
So another strange request, and that is, you guys have been sitting for a bit, you can kind of passively listening for so long.
But I want to make you recognize that when I asked you not to passively listen. And I'm not asking you to scream, I'm not asking you to be crazy. I'm actually just asking you to engage. And when I say engage, please, please don't do that.
is the most distracting thing for a speaker, you guys get the job. They You see, we're all doing it.
I'm going to talk to you guys today about three minutes. Breathing is really important. This
okay goal that every single human being has. And then I think every human being I need any users, whether they know this, or they're a Christian, or they're an atheist or agnostic or they are Jewish, and not every human, whether they live on this side of the globe, or everything the since the beginning of time has had one, share your goal.
And that shift goal is that we all want happiness.
Fair enough. Yes. Thank you for nodding.
You understand, we all want happiness, and we want all one to avoid suffering. And this is a shared, this is a shared goal.
So then what happened is psychologist has started studying, they have a way of studying abnormal psychology. In other words, what's wrong with a human being and have moved towards a new wave of psychology called positive psychology in which they now study? How can we just be happier?
How about human beings flourish? How can a human being increased their well being?
They're doing it for their mother. Okay. Now in this research to come up with a few trials that are very interesting.
What they have come up with is that is basically about 40% of our happiness is to turn it are what they mean what they call it happiness.
And about 40% of that comes from this stuff it is comes from genetics. So
about 10% comes from having a baby and like staying in the
shelter. So what does that leave the mathematicians
50% awesome. See that
50% is left within our control, you have to understand. And so that is what they're studying. How can we use How can we what do we do with that energy?
We have the following. And what we have found is that there are Tuesdays one has to do with our actions, and the other has to do with our goals.
Okay, how would you think, and the other is the Hulu app. So there's certain actions that will increase your happiness or sabotage your happiness. And there are certain types of thinking patterns that will either increase or sabotage everyone follows
I'm going to focus on the action part, the city where the
Deer Park naturally strip off that habitats.
So I want to focus on the actual hardware,
they can sell it, in which they divide it into four groups. They gave one group and assign it
to help and how you can digital during that time period, that's the first the second group was assigned to how to do something that will help at a global level or a community level. The third group was trying to treat themselves, right. Treat yourself. You know, we live in a society
that believes that the more you get your goals for yourself, the happier you'll be writing any goals and you'll find happiness, if you find that.
In this study, in which they asked millennials, or young adults, basically, okay, did you have a speech whereby I will tell you with my age, but they asked millennials the question, what are your goals? What are your your your most?
is what's your 80%? self image?
The reason why is
that that's what will happen.
They believe that by getting these things in this age to be rich and famous, that that would be
right. What was very interesting is that when they looked at these four groups, right, we have
healthy community or global level.
And the fourth group is system control. They just happen.
Okay. They found that the group, only us that had ended up in flourishing and or happiness, were the two groups that help others.
And that one group that was indulging him or herself, did not have any increase in happiness. And the other two scrawl that I'm pretty sure week by me
telling you that, like happiness, right?
Yes. Yes. Good. Yes.
Do you know that they live
their lives happily happiness, but we would
not want to spend it on yourself. And this isn't a religious perspective yet. Psychology right now. Right? This is secular. This is secular psychology, that they found studies that will keep you steady on themselves. It doesn't mean you have happier. But when they send them on NASA does this just for your happiness.
And your effect is so strong, that even when they have people remember a time that they spent on others, it makes them happy. That's how powerful it is. Okay, so what is that saying? First of all, we are people we are a species that wants to be happy. This is our motivation, regardless of your belief system, regardless of where you live, regardless of where you live, you want to be happy. And they have found that the most effective way to increase your own happiness is to serve others. That's appealing.
What does that show us? It shows us that there's something he was the defining designer.
There's something in the design that God put,
right, today just to motivate us to do something that he wants us to do. You get it because it designed the human being to feel happiness when they give to others. It's because it was meant to give it to others. We were mentioned in this world, in a state of generosity in a state of service to one another. And that's why I put that assignment in us.
But that's not it. So
the thing also about happiness
is that if you look at it from a spiritual perspective, it can be wonderful
product service, whatever things that keep us from cheerier
will usually it's usually one thing as long as you believe in a cause, what can you forgive each other? It's usually
giving charity, hearing loss of money, right? I'm gonna do a certain amount of money, and they're gonna lose that amount of money. Right? That's the, that's the logic that we have as empathy. But so what keeps us from giving is the fact that I'm freely losing, which I think is fair enough.
This is very unintuitive. Because actually,
it can illusion
that when I do a charity, I'm losing interest in it. And other people tell you why. The profit by center, he said that
that charity does not increase well.
So we think it's decreasing? Well, it is really not an example that is, because talking about this previously, is that if you told a little kid
who just got her allowance, $5, give me $5 to invest.
Right? That gets you to say,
I'm not gonna lose my $5. Right? Because in the understanding of the child, they don't understand the concept of investment. Right? What is the concept of investment,
the concept investors have put some money in and what happens to them, it
increases. That's the concept of investment, what you're picking up on the understanding investor to opinion, if it's not in my head is law.
A lot of people don't realize that. So dukkha is when
you get it, suck upon his right to invest, but it's not invested just with a bay, or any, you know, real estate where you could lose. It's an investment here, it's a guarantee, increase, because it's an investment.
you want to grow your wealth, give a portion of system. First of all, you get what I'm saying is, you know how people come to me see, one sister came to me, she's having financial problems. And she was very worried because she had loans that she was worried about. She was basically overwhelmed by the financial issues. And she's asking, Can I take the ball?
Do you know what advice I gave you? Is?
Obviously not really advice, the best advice I can give her. Do you know why? Because even though it's kind of hard to break it, what do you mean, I'm telling you, I was like going to college, and you're telling me to give.
and I'm talking about right now.
Even before the
it back voting record, actually.
That's one of the things you do with silica.
If you want to enroll if you want to
give a portion of it for the sake of it actually protects your wealth and increases your libido.
Now, there's another thing that lives in it right? And that is
Let me ask you a question. Does your wife
know immediately, also, indirectly,
your money does alone.
But only a specific high
the proper size.
When a person enters every who's going to their favorite one?
family, and every single person in this room is going to go through it. Yeah. So it brings it up. Now, when you go through a grieving, it's not a matter of if it's better when you know, when you go to your grave. All your deeds are done. All of your wealth stays back.
except it's something specific. And one of those is something called some of
you noticed is a struggle a journey is a sharing a subtle call that a dislike that will continue to benefit others, even after you're done.
When you invest in institutions like this
When you invest in institutions that are about helping others, even after he passed away, that money is not lost that money not only will it grow,
but it will continue to bear and even after he passed away.
Now, why is this organization important? Now you can with that
brother Abdullah, talk to you on a task of one organization is doing, I want to talk to you about something better.
I want to talk to about one online discuss after have said about the fight for justice. Okay. Because, you know, my I bet you guys have people coming in and asking us to support their cause, every, you know, every few months you do plus highlight, which has to support Why is causal down undervalues people, you know, start them as people meaning be qualified as TV, why why support this cause and not the writer, this is the kind of thing we have, you know, people give you the invitation just because like, there's people in Syria, this is happening to them, and you want to support this cause of taking what you know, and maybe this is something that you have. So what I do
is, I just want to talk about from a standard perspective, the the importance of justice, the station that Obama has just presented. Okay, I'm just going to talk about if you have a few texts, okay. But I'm just talking about
one of them is his auto dealership, there's no shading, right? We really know that dealers are young.
nothing except the shape of a wall, All right, now the shape of a wall, all the time, the people are gonna be able to get their hair, and everyone else is going to be literally drowning in their sweater.
I mean, I'm not exaggerating, this is literally the case. Now for those people who are allowed to get into that shape, why they would be to that level what has been done, that's exactly affordable, that would get them to that album. And so what what are the latest
a was just
justice is that
Allah Subhana, Allah is
he is the most just he says, I think you have justice for himself or for others, we are told by the Robert
H a command that when you see something wrong, you have to try to change it.
You have to try to change it with your head,
hope, speaking out and speaking truth to power is actually part of this struggle.
That the Prophet said,
he your partner, and that's the weakest.
So that means that
at 20 projects,
it isn't just me, this is something you need to do something everyone wants to do, in whatever capacity they have, we see something, we are individuals, we have a responsibility to do something about it. And it's actually not just a responsibility. It's not just a civil responsibility, it's actually religious responsibility.
And if you go you will be asked is actually something you will be asked why
use all of this is happening, and what did you do about it?
You are going to be asked about
the proper subject of said rather, is pressed or
So thank you, okay.
But how do we deal with Ethiopian Esther, as we said,
this is a combatant that what you see Oh, pressure, you just have to try to do something about it.
But that's not a
that's fine. It also tells us
that we have to campaign staff for justice, and I wanted to set it even in against yourself or against your data.
So you have to be the assistant commander and you have to stand for justice.
But why this cause? Why? Why do I even need to make it a priority?
To serve and help others. So I just want to summarize. And finally, there's a long list. But I just want to summarize about six or seven reasons why it is in your best interest to do just to be to be
chair who serves others. Okay. The first is that, as I said, is that the chairs is the remnant that they paid for the time to spend on resources. And this is in line with one of the durations of the process. And he says that every single day,
I'm sharing with you the profit centers, it says a charity is due for everything he enjoyed in each part of it, I love each
other. Okay, we are actually we need to do one share for every single joint that
And it's like, you know, if you have
you know, Allah has given us this time on this earth is Chalmers, we have to sort of there's a, there's a requirement that we have to give that up.
We have to otherwise it's like a person who is living and independent.
So there is a charity that is a tool for enjoying each person, ideally would like to have listened to this. What's the first thing that I decided to add just to be between two people is the chair.
To act justly between two people is the chair
to help us
with this battle, so naturally, to help us get you on your you know, their horse in their cannon is a charity, wonderful to help a man who's been unjustly arrested and thrown in solitary confinement, for no reason. What about that? You get it.
And by the way, one thing that I warn you against is ever be complacent. And thinking that it's someone else's fault.
Because I guarantee it could be your own
hobby, I'm just telling you the truth. And every time I need to store this, that is what I will do. I think that should be mindful. That should be my, my father or my uncle or my brother, my husband.
And we should all buy that. Because anytime we see that something is someone else's problem. We never know what could be combined, you know, and I'm going to tell you something else. There's a trickle down effect. You see, because every time
mlfa Windsor trees, it sets a precedent so that it will happen inshallah to you. Yeah. But if there's no push that it only grows, do you understand that? If we are not collectively supporting this pushback or justice, it will eventually trickle down to be more and more, because it's growing as
the no fly list is going to be? Absolutely. There's your profession. Right, right.
So the idea here is that this isn't something getting less, this is something that is more and that we are not supporting that struggle for justice. It's going to throw a wrench, we'll come closer to them, you get it. So don't be deceived by this idea that someone else's problem. Because it isn't, and you got it wherever your father or your husband, you don't like like you say, imagine someone be taking away the bread and butter of the whole three years and thrown in prison. Or these people were fighting for six years, seven years. No, no legitimate charges against them.
What do you think happens to them?
to help a man onto his ballot, lifting it onto it or belongings onto it is a chairman of the board is a cheerier
movie 100 feet from the roll is a chariot you don't get it. That's the focus such as I said he's lost
in Paradise, who was there because
she would lose a heartbeat speak for the road.
she saw something was the hardest of the people. He was harder
and it took a toll
To help and for
these are the kinds of things he saw that I saw in that house. Right. And when and when he was taken to the heavens, he saw different people in Jeddah Saudi people. And he had to tell us why maybe in Paradise and why he went outside. And
he saw he saw a person who just because of that, and let's say, you build a story of the woman who was rejected, she was a prostitute. And she was Forgive me Forgive me water was gone.
Can you imagine that if you're awarded a medal and also have relatives University for assisting an adamant What about resuscitating you up?
So the proper size.
The problem also selector that says that almost legal shade on the Day of Resurrection,
resurrection will be his chair
will be his charity.
Can I tell you something else? Because I was just telling you that a couple writing, writing, even if it's not this particular collaborative hospital, God forbid, in the local sectors all the calamity of any time. But even if it's not this particular collateral that comes to for any commodity to come to you, yes or no, we don't have chat, yes or no. What am I doing?
Tomorrow? Well, this is gonna be Allah says that we will barely test you, with somebody will fear and hunger and loss, loss of life loss as well as loss, and loss of results, and the fruits of our efforts. Well, that's just for the Chinese to the ones who have sold the patient. Everyone should have been tested
eggs in these sets,
and test the column to people by turn when everyone was tested in one way or another yesterday.
You don't miss 100 customers. The pop up that says, Give sucker punch you cheerier
without delay for its status in a way of calamity.
I mean, for me,
no reason for me.
To explain, it's not out of there. It's not, it's your own life. It's your children, it's your mind that you want to protect this.
This is the words of the Prophet says that if you want to protect your own thoughts, who doesn't? Right? This is how you do it.
You know that this is so serious. This is actually to do my to do away.
This is so it's so incredibly serious charity. And some of us that watch all the appetite of data. This is an annual for us citizens, when we're told that at the time of data, people will ask that you come back to this. Okay. And you know what the first thing you're gonna say, you know what the first thing is say that they'll do the do is
just just absorb that. Then this whole other thing taking that data, we'll see, let me call that. And I will give some,
I will give some, and I want to do. But first they say
does that give you an idea of how powerful soda must be that when they see the reality that you're going to see your magical peppers to gas that has specifically because of how it is in the scale.
Lose? Because he tells us that at the time of data, the data was removed. Do you know that the step sheets are removed and your ceilings, you know, tells us that your site is sharp at the time.
at the time when I
wasn't good enough when I didn't have any elicit that we created
and we know what their their nest whispers
and they're closer to them that they're juggling.
Right and the couple says that the other day
What's gonna happen is that which
that introduction to the construction, when roofing is fully ready to
go for that to be handled.
So the goal of the proposal is
that when it comes to feeding the stupid commas, this is what people try to escape.
And the truth is,
and this is what happens, subconscious.
First of all, this is the outcome that
we don't see it because it's like
social media and shikon. And,
and all these things, right? There's so much, you know, there's Instagram, and there's TV, and then there's just so much distraction, just layer upon layer of this in front of our eyes and our hearts. So they don't really see the reality and it's
more billion of us. Okay. But let's look at the time of death. So that who you are?
And exactly, okay, Chicago has a lot of
takeaways. Now, it looks like this.
like to read on Capitol alarm,
no matter who you were, and he is just like an agnostic, just like a Christian just like that. You just like other stuff? And pretty much is clear. And that way, of course, it's totally
the way they see clearly, this is what they're asking. Let them have that sense of yourself.
See, to me, that just blows me away. Because for those who understand, it is a very clear sign of the importance
of How heavy is going to be when we ask.
Again, I want to leave and ask you to support this cause,
honestly, more for yourselves that were those who you're helping. And I think that of all of these things I believe in it really comes down to the fact that we're helping ourselves first and foremost, women pokers.
Allah Subhana, Allah says, that he has Firstly,
will be short versions. So if we show mercy to the people alone will show us Is there anyone in this world who doesn't have diversity of alone?
Do you know that every single person
needs is desperately need a diversity of languages to enter paradise? The proper size of seven authentic curation, no one will enter Paradise by your actions.
Except What? Well, they said, you also love.
And he said to me, except that a lot has bursty.
So it's, I think it's fair to say that we're all just looking at the diversity of the law. Yeah. How do we get that? I was telling you, and this is the reason why people will come back, just because it's because
it's because it's a shortcut to the first thing that triggered this little. It's a barrier.
It's a barrier collaborative is the shading of the Day of Judgment. And if you want to show the way how you feel understood, to be honest with how I listen.
when I look at myself, I see a person who isn't
isn't strong enough,
is not strong enough.
And I know that I can't reach certain levels like those who came before me were like, superheroes when they take tours, who am I like to live in a peaceful way like the companions of the prophets and the angels of all things?
They're an agency from the beginning of time until the end of time.
That's it and then after the tail, just wait.
So who am I to keep? Yeah, actually, I am completely like, on day
but I feel like our hope is it will it can help others in helping us and what why?
One of the reasons why I tried to reach my life's work to help others
who are senior, and I desperately need that help from a lot because I know that I'm not
we all are. And
what I'm trying to tell you is
when you lie to yourself, you know, I'm serious people ask me to give, it's almost like we're doing them a favor, but you're really not. You really
want to give yourself a finger.
to kind of go over that
stuff to avoid