Yasir Qadhi – – Islamic Guidelines for Decision Making

Yasir Qadhi
AI: Summary © The speakers stress the importance of consulting with others to solve problems and avoid mistakes, as well as the use of collective minds to solve problems and apply for jobs. They also discuss the importance of praying for the Hara and not letting anyone tell secret information until they have a", emphasizing the importance of finding the best option for others and following a reasonable timeframe for research. The segment also touches on the negative consequences of a "median decision" and the importance of praying for one's life and finding the best option for others.
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would be hour maybe an hour or so sal Allahu alayhi wa send them. If any human can say, I don't need the opinion of other people, it would be our NABI sallallahu alayhi wa sallam because Allah gives him why, but in the way we have, whenever you undertake a decision consult before you undertake that decision.

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And we see this in the CRO of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam, there are so many instances before the Battle of better, he called the Sahaba explained to them the Agusta fence armies over there, what do you think I should do? After the Battle of budget when the prisoners were sitting there, he consulted Abu Bakr and Omar, what do you think I should do? What do you think I should do? And in the battle of all heard, again, calling all of the Sahaba asking them, What do you think we should do? And it's not just in communal decisions, like the Battle of hundreds, it's not just good decisions about community, even in personal matters. Our profits have always said them would consult

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his friends. And the best example that comes to mind is the marriage of Hafsa Radi Allahu Allah, Allah Allah

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have sought became a widow. And O'Meara her father, approached Earth man who had also just become a widow.

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And he said to Earth man, Earth man's daughter, or Samantha's wife was who who can remind me who was Earth minded but our friend's wife that passed away.

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Rocha year raka year passed away. And Earth man is now single, and have sons husband passes away in Ohio, this well, she too is single after the Battle of others, she too is single. So Omar goes to Earth man says Hafsa is a widow.

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And if you feel that she is right, and suitable, then I'm more than happy to marry. And if the man was awkward, he fidgeted, and he goes, I don't want to get married now. And Omar knew that's not true. He felt hurt that his daughter's rejected. Then he went to Abu Bakar. And he said, Hafsa is a single lady, if you wish to get married, I'd be more than happy. And Abu Bakr didn't even say yes or no, he just stood there quietly. And Omar said, his silence was more painful to me than Earth man's rejection,

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because it really hurt. Then, the next day, the Prophet says and propose for Hafsa.

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Then Abu Bakr came and said, Omar, perhaps you felt hurt that I didn't answer you? He said, Yes, I did. He said, the prophets of Sun had consulted me and earthmen

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about marrying Hafsa.

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And we did not want to display the secret of the Prophet system by telling you we didn't want to, we didn't want to tell you. Now, what's the point for us to showerhead? What's the point for us that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam consulted with Abu Bakr and Witter Ruth man, Should he marry Hafsa or not? Think about this Subhan Allah who is consulting

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and if this shows us anything, it shows us that it is only the fool who is too arrogant to consult other people. Our scholars say that consulting others is a sign of wisdom. Why? Because you will use the collective brains of your loved ones and family and friends. To solve your single problem, your individual problem, you use the collective minds of the people. And it is possible that a person will see a weakness that you will not see how often you think you'll have a plan and it is solid foolproof. You go and tell somebody about it, and poke a hole in it immediately. Like, oh, I didn't even think about that. Another great scholar of the past said,

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consulting people means that you get their expensive and costly advice for free.

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Somebody spent a lot of time or at a significant loss to learn something. You go and for free, he hands it to you. You get the expensive experience of others for free. What more do you want?

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And who do we consult? We consult people who have our best interest at heart. They love us they care about us. People generally speaking of Iman and Taqwa and also people have experience in with regards to the matter that you are going to do. So here the process and wants to marry have sought. Who should he ask his closest friends who know Him and who no one would have known. So he asked, What on Earth man, think about this, right? He goes

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To the people who knows him and knows, Omar says, Do you think he'll mind You think he'll descend that what is this so that he gets their opinion. Similarly, when we are interested in anything, we should go to those that will be affected by the decision. So the prophets ism, ask the Sahaba better, or conduct because they're affected by the decision, we go to those affected by the decision. And we also go to those who have knowledge we don't have, who have experience we don't have, and that knowledge and experience does not have to be the knowledge of Islam. It's the knowledge of the field that you're interested in. So you want to apply for a new company. You don't

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know is that a good job or not? It is a part of the etiquette of Islam, that you ask the people of that company how what do you think should I apply or not? Is it a good job or not? Islam tells us to make Mashallah. This is in the Quran, Allah Subhana Allah Allah commanded us that get the matura and the shura means the consultive opinion of the people get the advice of the people before you undertake anything. Now, two points here.

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Our Prophet says that I'm said

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Hadith isn't

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our profit system said, and most Xiaohu most determine authentic hadith, the one whom you go to for advice. It is an Amana in the eyes of Allah that you don't tell other people have that question and advice. So beautiful. How do you two words, almost Ashara motorman. The one who you go to for sure. You have put an Amana and Allah has put an Amana on him. What does this mean? This means that I don't have to tell you a fee. Please don't tell anybody. I don't have to tell you this. When I go to when I say you know I've applied for a job in what's a large company in Dallas. I know the company is in Memphis, FedEx. What is a large company in Dallas? Hmm, Cisco, half of your Cisco engineers,

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right? So you say I applied for a job in Cisco and you go to brother Mustafa who works at Cisco? Okay. You say okay, Mustafa, I have applied for a job in Cisco. What do you think?

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Without saying that to Mustafa? Oh, don't tell anybody don't know most stuff. I should know that Allah azza wa jal has commanded him to not tell anybody that I have applied for a job at Cisco. It's not anybody else's business. Our profit system has told us and Mr. Shah motorman. It is an Amana. He's come to you for advice. Now, I don't have to tell you. Okay, it's a secret. And if I say it, it makes it an even bigger issue. If I say okay, I don't want to cause any problems at the other company. And it here. I don't want them to know until I signed the contract. Understandable. Right. Now, most of our goals and spreads is oh, this or that? No, not allowed. And for a person to say

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that. It's a secret. Don't tell anybody. It makes the Amana even bigger. That's all that it is. It's still allowed to, but it makes it even bigger. This is the first prophetic advice. The second advice the Prophet system said hadith is an Iranian authentic. Whoever asks his brother for advice, Minister, Shara APY umbra, whoever asks his brother for advice, and the person knowingly misled him.

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It will be counted as a Fionna treachery in the eyes of Allah subhana wa Tada. This is a very severe warning. Fianna is the worst form of betrayal, treachery, you're betraying

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the responsibility that Allah has put upon you.

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So if somebody comes to you for advice,

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if you have a conflict of interest,

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you are allowed to say, okay, don't come to me, because there's a conflict of interest that is halal. So suppose you to have applied as a promotion at Cisco making the matter clear, okay. You have applied for the promotion, he's applied from the other outside, okay, now you want the job. And it is helpful for you to want the job, right. And he says, Hey, I know you work at Cisco, what are the tips that I can use to get in? Now, you could

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flip it around, you know, the inside politics, you say, Oh, good, you came to me. You see that boss over there. He's the guy you need to concentrate on and he's not. You're lying. Okay. And you betrayed the trust of your brother. It's not just a minor sin. It is a Fionna. He came to you trusting you and you stabbed him in the back. That is a major sin. You can say and it is halal to say, Oh, okay.

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I'm, I'm sorry, but I cannot help you out. And you can make an excuse for whatever reason, or you can say it's a conflict of interest, whatever it is, because you're not lying.

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But you're not allowed to lie and betray.

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You're not allowed to do Ayana whoever does so has to answer to Allah subhanho wa Taala also realize my dear brothers and sisters when somebody comes to you for advice about this type of istikhara it is one of the few times that you are allowed to mention your brother or sister is false and it will not be constituting Riba.

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It's the Shah Shara means when you do it for the sake of St. Chateau there will not be Heba Imam and no, we mentioned six scenarios that are not Riba. Number one, when somebody comes to you wanting to know about whatever the situation might be, so

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let's go to our brother most of I hope there's no brother Mustafa at Cisco. If there is this as an imaginary you know, I'm not finger pointing at you, or brother Mustafa who works at Cisco.

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Suppose, brother Mustafa, you want to enter into a business contract with him, huh? You want to? Let's say you open up a business with him, right? You start a business you give he gives up start a business. You go to most of his friends and colleagues say, you know, I'm I want to start a business with Mustafa, what do you think? Is he trustworthy or not? And one of most of his friends says, Oh, hold on a sec. You know, I also got involved three years ago and he did this, this this this to me, you should know that.

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At this stage, it is halal. There is no backbiting because that's why he's come to you. It's exactly the point of him coming to you. Somebody comes to you and says our brother Mustafa is now single Marcela Tabata color. Okay, so most of us looking to get married. So he goes, and he proposes or he's interested in the sister. And he asks the extended family, he asked the Friends of this lady says, What do you think? Or the other way around? A sister is interested in Mostafa, and she has her brother, her father, go to most of us friends. Now, I might be Mustafa's friend. Her father comes to me says, you know, my daughter, Mustafa, we're thinking of a marriage. What do you think? If I know

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something that is relevant to that situation? Here's another point it has to be relevant, obviously, right? It has to be something that is pertaining to that scenario. If Mostafa has done something that has nothing to do with a marriage, then it's not my business to bring it in. Okay, if it's not a character flaw, because a character flaw is marriage, cheating, and lying is a character flaw it needs to be brought in right now. But it might be something in the or another issue is what if he has repented from a sin and you know him to be a righteous person, our scholars say, a past sin that has been repented from, generally speaking, there's no need to mention you, you feel confident,

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that's the past, maybe when he was a teenager, he might have done some drugs. Now he's in his 30s, that was a one year phase, you don't need to bring that up over the past. It's not your business, you know him to be a righteous man. But if you know him, to have some problems, in this marriage situation, it is wajib on you. So you look after you know, I like him who's a good brother. But you should know in business transactions, He has cheated multiple people, because it's a it shows when you have that mentality, the marriage is going to be bad, you should know that he's he has a lot of good, these are the good. But these are some faults you should be aware of as well as sometimes

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usually, there's good and bad. So you say you know what, overall, he's a good brother. But sometimes he gets angry. And he gets a bit vulgar. It's a minor flaw, but you should know and no problem to point it out. And you can tell, you know, the the father to be like, You know what, overall, I think he's a good guy, you're not going to find a perfect guy, but you should be aware of there's the small issues, for example, but it is now wajib on you to lay the cards on the table to be open and tell the person about the realities of the situation. So this is the first thing and that is Shura. And the benefit of Shura is that it saves you from your own arrogance. How foolish is the person who

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thinks I don't need the advice of anybody? I know me myself and I Subhanallah Who are you and your wisdom compared to the wisdom of 1015 100 people get sure from the people see what they say go back and forth. The second piece of advice about how to undertake a decision it is of course is the Hara. So the two are istikhara and istikhara. Okay, it's the Shara Ishiura is the Hara is to pray Salah for this the Hara. And solitude is the Hara. Hadith in Bukhari and Muslim javelina Abdullah says, Can and maybe you sallallahu alayhi wa sallam you are liminal is the HA Raja Phil Ohmori Cooley, comma you are live on a su Rata middle Quran our prime

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First of all I said them would teach us istikhara in all of our affairs, like he would teach us a surah from the Quran, that is how important is to Hara is all the Sahaba memorized it as they know Surah tell Fatiha like the surah of the Quran, and He will teach us is the hara for all of our affairs Phil Ohmori Cooley and it is really a tragedy of the highest proportions that we do not avail ourselves to Salah to this Takara we don't take advantage of his Tahara when was the last time you and I prayed as to harder over anything major in our lives is still harder should be prayed regularly for every significant decision not for trivial we don't make Islam a joke. You don't pray

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Sahara which color shirt should I buy?

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But you do praise the hara Should I get the promotion of this career job should I change companies? Should I move into a new house should I should I should I anything major Phil Ohmori kuliah is the Hara is prayed for worldly issues not for religious issues. You do not pray istikhara should I begin reciting half a juice a day or not? No you begin reciting you do not pray is too hard or should I start to hydrate or not no you start to hydrate is the Hara is meant for worldly affairs for dunya we mattress It is meant for dunya we mattress when you don't know which one is better for me should I should I not? And very briefly is the harder is a long lecture very briefly because a lot of

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people don't understand is the harder literally means asking Allah for which one is better, is the Hara pallidal Higher he wanted what is better, which one is higher? Is the heart he wanted the higher so it's the Hara. He asked Allah which one is better. And our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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explained to us how you pray istikhara you pray to raka that is not forward. Any Tura QA that is not fault. So right now standard protocol, for example, to the QA from not the phone. And then after that you make this to app and I'll go over it very briefly, because in understanding the DUA, you understand the beauty of istikhara Allah Allahumma inni a stuffy rock. Oh Allah, I ask you for the best in this Iluka I asked you Oh Allah Subhana Allah to Allah be MC through your knowledge. In the ESTA Heruka in MC, I asked you Oh Allah, which of the two is better, because of your knowledge was stuck at the Ruka biquadratic. And I asked you for your power through your power, because you are

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the one of power I want your Our Allah to choose which one is better your other your other choose for me which one is better? Oh Allah I asked you which one is better through your knowledge? And I asked you which one is better through your power, your knowledge and your power will tell me which one is better? Was a LUCAM in public and of him and I asked you Oh ALLAH from your magnificent blessings. I asked you to give me your blessings for in Nikka taka due to weather actor

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because of Allah, you have power, and I don't have power, and you have knowledge and I don't have knowledge and you are the one who knows Illman hype.

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The DUA is literally praising Allah through His power and knowledge and saying Oh Allah, I don't have power. I don't have knowledge. You have power you have knowledge because of your power. Give me what is better and through your knowledge choose for me what is better for me to go to Walla Walla

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Oh ALLAH in quantity

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number if you know this matter of mine and then you should think of the matter or say it if you know or you can think of it if you know me applying to Cisco.

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If you know me marrying Fatima how you do li fi Dini, we're doing Yeah, we're arqiva to somebody well ideally he will archery what a comprehensive to ah, if you know that me doing this thing is better for my deen and my dunya for the near future and the far future for the now and the later then your Dear Holy decree it for me while you're still holy, make it easy for me while garlic Leafy and make it blessed for me whatever that decision is. So if the job at Cisco is better for me, than Oh Allah give me that job. Actually. No Allah once I get

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get that job make the learning curve loads so that I can do it make me impress my bosses made me get the promotion yes Sidhu Lee and oh Allah once I have that job make it a job that I benefit from and benefit others were radically fee give me Baraka in that job. What a beautiful dua, you want it. You want it to be better for you and you want to be good at it, you will do it. But Oh Allah, in Quinta animal unhardened umber if you know that this matter shall really is bad for me in my Deen in my dunya in the near future in the far future in this world and the next world then what should you do Oh ALLAH for serif one knee was very funny and we'll turn it away for me. Turn me away from it. Make

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it go away from me.

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I don't want to do that anymore.

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And then the ending is Allahu marcador Leah the Hydra HIFU can Oh Allah give me choose for me. Decree for me. The whole in whichever one it is in.

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Allah Muhammad Allah Hi token. So Merlini be here then Oh ALLAH. Once you've decreed for me which one is better than make me happy with that, which is better for me, because maybe I want the other one. And it's not good for me. So even though I'll get the better one, my heart is still attached to there. Okay, maybe our brother Mustafa was interested in Fatima and Xena.

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And he didn't know which one. His heart was attached to Fatima. But Allah knew the Zainab is better for him. So he prayed us to Cara. And Allah gave him Xena, his heart is still attached to Fatima. We'll see. But isn't it? Not a very good situation? So in the Salah, turisti Hara we have what? Allah blessed me with whichever one is better for me, and then make me pleased with that decision. What a beautiful to have, how can we possibly go wrong with this da. Now some final points about some of the misconceptions about istikhara. First and foremost is Tahara is surrounded by a lot of mythology, a lot of misconceptions,

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and people don't understand. They say for example, that you will get the answer in your dream.

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And that certain colors will give you certain indications of what you want. And all of this is from folklore and mythology.

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So if you see red, stop, if you see green go, No, that's the traffic signal. You're getting confused with the DMV exam. That's not the solid that is the Hara.

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No such thing go to sleep with one hand here, one finger there one No, no such thing. Throw it out the window doesn't exist.

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People also think that is the harder will change their minds? No, not at all. At least not in the beginning. It might change your mind afterwards. When you say oh Allah make me content with it. But it is possible that

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you are interested in something.

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So let me do two things at once. Change your mind. And also the belief that you must be neutral in your heart when you pray istikhara

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you cannot have any inclination, you have to be neutral. So back to our Mustafa who's interested in who was interested in.

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You shouldn't know the name so quickly, bro, you should say I don't know I forgot I'm happy with my wife stuff that Allah has done for Allah. So

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our Imam son has already memorized Fatima and Xena are already on the radar of most of

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those people say that when you pray istikhara, Fatima and zeyneb have to be neutral and equal in your eyes.

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And this is illogical, nonsensical, without basis and impossible. How can it be neutral? For any matter, your heart will desire something, whether it is a spouse, whether it is a job, you will want one over the other. Generally speaking, this is the general rule. If the job you're applying to has a salary 70% more than your current salary, and it's closer to your house and of course you will want that job. How can you praise the Father and you are neutral? No, not necessary. Your heart can be inclined towards that no problem. No problem. But you make a sincere dua to Allah. The DUA must be sincere. Oh Allah, if this is good for me, bless me for it. If it's not good for me, turn it away

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from me and

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turned me away from it. So you apply for the job. The interview goes five out of five, the boss to be shakes your hand says you're the best candidate, you know Inshallah, you're gonna get the job you go home on cloud nine, the next day rejection comes, that is your istikhara coming in

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no problem for your heart to be attached, but the result from Allah and you put your trust in Allah subhana wa Tada no problem, okay, there is nothing no issue at all. So this notion that I must be neutral another myth or misconception is that you must pray esta hora before you undertake any initial step and if you forget to pray istikhara then how was it is too late to praise the Hara. So for example, some people will say, there was a job at Cisco, and you just saw it coming out immediately you logged on central resume. Then you said oh stop for Allah. I thought I forgot us to follow now what am I gonna do? No, you can pray istikhara at any point in time before you actually

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sign the contract in this example, before you undertake the decision. The hadith says either hum or haidakhan Bill amor, when one of you has decided to do something, the decision has been made. The hadith says so the decision has been made. You have even started the process. You sent your resume. You might even have had an interview. No problem. But before you actually sign before you take the plunge, you must pray is too hard. Now, can you praise the horror at multiple times? Some scholars have said this goes against the Sunnah and some scholars have said no problem if you pray multiple times, and my opinion is there's no problem you can pray multiple times because there's nothing

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wrong with praying it's the hara multiple times for the same matter. So you pray before you apply to the job you pray after the interview. And then before they actually sign you pray no problem. I don't see a problem that you make sure that inshallah Allah this is the best decision that we have made.

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And one final point too shallow to add. And then if there are any questions, we'll take them here Inshallah, one final point. And this is a very deep one that people again misunderstand.

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And I've had people come to me with the same issue. They say, chef, I prayed istikhara before our brother Mustafa proposed, Sister Fatima comes, he ends up marrying Fatima for your for your story. Sister father in law comes and marriage ends up in a divorce. Now Fatima comes and says, chef, I attended your lecture. And I pray this to Hara, and everything seemed fine, and whatnot. And I prayed it. Now here I am in a divorce. And I will tell her, you walked out at this stage of the story and you didn't listen to the next two minutes that I'm going to mention right now. And that is the following.

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Who told you that is the horror meant that life would have no problems and pain and suffering? Where'd you get this from?

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Who told you that once you pray istikhara it's as if your agenda. This world is a world of pain and suffering. You will have one problem after another until you meet Allah subhanho wa Taala every one of us in this room right now we have problems. That's what this world is about. We have personal problems, financial issues, health issues, we have a list of problems. And once those problems are solved, another set of problems comes this is higher to dunya. This is our life

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in Jannah is the place

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that there is no pain and suffering Alhamdulillah Hilda de hablar Enel has an this is what the people of Jana say when they enter Jannah Alhamdulillah all of our worries have been removed. When can they say that? After the intergender? Not before? Alhamdulillah Allah the harbor under handle hasn't the hasn't the peri Shani, when is it removed? After Jana? Not before? Who told you that if you pray esta hora, you will live happily ever after. Where do you get that from? Is the hara only guarantees if you pray it properly because there are people that don't care but if you really pray probably it guarantees that the course that Allah chose for you is better than the alternative.

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This is what it guarantees does not mean that if you praise the hara, you will never end up in divorce. Who told you that? If various Tahara Cisco will never fire you, your various taharah the situation pretty Suharto will give you no problem. Where do you get that from?

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What it means, okay, maybe the marriage ended in divorce. But had you married the other person? Your life would be much worse than it is now. As it is you're going through some pain. But Allah will use this to raise your ranks and

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cause you to move on to the next stage, which is going to be better for you, you wouldn't have gotten to that stage. Unless you went through this problem here. Suppose Cisco ends up firing you, and you are depressed and you don't have money and finances and you say I prayed. And guess what, maybe another company will see what happened, see your resume and give you a better offer, because of the internal fiasco at Cisco may be the experience that you learned the software that was taught to you that software engineering was needed at another firm. So they will say we weren't exactly somebody with your qualifications. If you never went through Cisco, you will never be at that other

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company, you're gonna go through some trips, you're gonna fall a little bit, but eventually what you end up and you will see, Allah chose for me the best option, and I ended up where I ended up, even though there was some grief in the middle, there was some pain in the middle, perhaps that marriage ended in divorce, but perhaps a child came out of it. And you wouldn't have had a child if you didn't get married. And as we all know, as parents, children are worth this world, and 10 times over the joys from that child will be worth all of the pains. And Allah blessed you with that child, that will be the coolness of your eyes, and the comfort of your soul. Whatever it might be, you might not

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even see the wisdom today or tomorrow. But in sha Allah, eventually you will see you know what it was the better decision even if it caused some pain and suffering. So the bottom line, my dear brothers and sisters, two things we need to do. Anytime we are faced with a major decision, and what is a major decision, anything that's going to impact ourselves, our families, our careers, our lives, anything of significance, we pray istikhara for

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two things we do, we ask people, we ask the experts, we ask those who know we ask loved ones and family, we ask those who have our best interest at heart. And one of the things that is very difficult for us brothers, we ask our wives

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That's not a joke. The truth brothers don't laugh sisters are watching. We asked our wives the Prophet system, and OMA Salam, and today be a look it up. And the answer of Alma selama he implemented and it was successful. Get the matura get the matura of those who love you care about you, family and friends, cousins, relatives, loved one but there must be people who have your best interest at heart you understand this point there must be people who care about you. And also the advice of those whose feels you're going into they know this okay? So you want to buy a what car do you want to buy?

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Lamborghini mashallah Tabata calm, okay, so our brother wants to buy a Lamborghini. So not only will he ask his advice from his wife, and he will see the effects of that advice immediately. Right.

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He will also ask the advice of Lamborghini owners mashallah, how many people want Lamborghinis they're gonna say what do you think?

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Is it a good investment or not? You get the point. Okay, loved ones, and people have experienced these are the two categories, then you pray istikhara as well. And it's still harder we explained how it is done and it is asking Allah subhanaw taala for the best final point and the end of the day, nobody can force you, you have to think and you have to follow which you think is best. If it is for the best, Allah will open the doors after you press the harder and you will be able to go if it's not for the best, the doors will be shut and you will find there to be difficulty and did you take

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this you take as the response to is the heart of the battery's dying here. This you take as the response to is the horror that

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the battery's dying on us? Do we pray Janaza for the battery over here or not? What's the fifth and epic

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Marcela, you believe in recycling so we don't pick your nose over the battery the battery never dies you keep on recharging and Mashallah. So, the bottom line is that nobody can force you obviously you follow, working in the way that you follow your gut instinct you follow what you think is best, and then you put your trust in Allah subhana wa Tada and if it is best for you, Allah will make it easy. If it is not, then Allah azza wa jal will find an alternative for you and with that inshallah if there any quick questions before we conclude for tonight insha Allah

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so the question is that should you pray is the hara at night only? And then don't talk to anybody before you go to sleep? This is one of those myths. No, you can praise the hara in the morning and talk all day long.

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and it will be just as effective as if you prayed it at 11pm before going to bed same thing no problem okay

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so the question is suppose you have five opportunities instead of one so you have mashallah Fatima Xena

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Imam sub but you are for human right not five right? Imam some

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Okay. Okay. So suppose you have five companies you're applying to, should you pray istikhara for each company?

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No, it is one issue and that is my next job.

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So you can pray is the hara and where the phrase goes, Oh Allah if you know this matter. And you can say oh Allah if you know that any of these companies is better for me in my Deen in my dunya in the close run in the in the long run, then decreed that company for me because the issue is one and that is your job your career. So you don't have to pray five different staccatos one is the same project that you're doing. One is the hottest efficient Bismillah Yes, go for it. Yes.

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The question is what if you don't praise the Hara? What does that mean? It simply means you have not availed an amazingly blessed and free opportunity to ask Allah for his blessings. It doesn't necessarily mean you will get the shorter end of the stick. It doesn't mean that but you have failed to take advantage of a beautiful blessing and gift from Allah subhana wa Tada. Okay, other questions that go for just

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how much time should there be before the decision is taken? There is no timeframe.

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Is that from the sisters?

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To the sisters have a question?

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Is there a mic up there? Somebody's tapping somewhere. Okay, how much timeframe should there be? There is no set timeframe, but it should be something reasonable. So if you are in your first year of medical school, you don't have to place the order over where you're going to do residency. It should be at the appropriate time. Right reasonable timeframe, but there's no actual timeframe just something reasonable. He has really good

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I can't hear you it

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so our brother reminds us a valid point that there's also your own research that you do which is a valid point obviously, you do your own research and you do that but that is kind of included it the point of is is to Shara that's a part of the research right when you're asking people you're finding out but yes, you are right. Absolutely valid. And that is you do your own research as well and shallow to other sisters is there how do the sisters ask questions you? I don't know.

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They don't ask questions.

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So you have your personal cell phone broke Shala as they can to get out as the slickest move ever seen in front of the whole Masjid. So anybody wants to buy number mashallah after Juma? Mashallah, that's the way to go. We need to figure out a mechanism for the sisters to ask questions. That's definitely and by the way, the sisters have a Hanukkah mic with me on Sunday at 10:30am. If you can send a message your testimony goes by there's 1030 inshallah is really good.

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You don't have to be neutral is my point.

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That's fine.

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must you act immediately after praying? istikhara goes back to the question. No. So let me give you a simple scenario. Suppose you're at a job. And there's another job opening. And you really don't know what is possible. Like, you know, there are a lot of pros here. And a lot of cons and a lot of pros here and a lot of cons. And you don't know and the, the offers open, like whenever you want, you can walk in, right? You don't have to act upon an SD harder because you're not acting in such a scenario is in fact acting on one, which is to stick with status quo. So there doesn't have to be an activity per se, you will praise the Hara. And it is possible that Allah will give you a sign.

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Suppose the boss calls you up from the other company says, you know, really interested in having you, you can interpret this as a sign. Remember I said you don't have to have a sign but you may. So the point is it I'm not saying you will never have a silent press the Hara. The default is that there is no external sign. You're not going to see a vision. No, it doesn't work that way. That's the default. But it is possible that ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada will send you a sign, and you can enter

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put that sign in the way that is obvious to you and then you go forward with that inshallah final question before we conclude Yes

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What if there's a conflict bit so there can be no conflict with is the Shah with the hara, because it's the Hara is not a gut instinct, like I said, is the Hara is not a gut instinct, I explained this, this is a misconception, you do what you want to do. Not what you think is the hardest telling you just go ahead and go with it. So there can be no conflict with istikhara per se, because it's the harder in and of itself is not going to give you an inkling it will be coming from yourself and from the people. And it's the harder will simply guide and guarantee you that's all that it does. Question from the sisters

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so the question is, can we read is too hard to do without praying the Nuffield if we don't have time. So

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if you were to do that it would not constitute is the hara it constitutes a generic DUA and that is good. The DUA is also generic, look at the DA the DA is neutral, you don't have to pay to look out for it. But to make that dua without the Toora caught, it would not constitute it is the Hara. Now, a more appropriate question or more precise question, if the sister says What if I cannot pray to the cat because of the time of the month that's probably what is the indication and how to shine as she's not explaining in this matter. And in when it comes to q&a, there should not be shyness as we know from the Sierra and the Hadith in Sahih. Bahati there should be no shine as the fifth issue. If

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the sister is in the time of her month where she cannot read to record and the decision needs to be made within that timeframe. In such a scenario or scholars have said she may read the dua of istikhara with the knee that if I were able to pray I would pray and it will count inshallah as salatu listed if she has to make the decision in that timeframe. If not, then ideally then obviously she will wait and then pray is Tahara inshallah Tada yes

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if there's no indication you do as you please and you leave it to Allah subhana wa Tada inshallah with this inshallah concluded tomorrow.

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Is there any sequence No, they both go hand in hand you do is the hara and you do is to Shara so tomorrow after fajr Inshallah, there will be a hotter and also on Sunday 1030. Inshallah, for the sisters Cusack Mala

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