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alameen sallallahu Sallam Baraka novena Muhammad Ali was seldom at the Sleeman kathira the mama bud Welcome to the last session of the Ramadan series that we have at Valley Ranch Islamic Center. If you guys remember we started that six weeks ago with the Ramadan and the Quran and then we talked about Ramadan and family life we talked about Ramadan, and the other one o'clock and the film of Ramadan, all of this and then now we're talking about the last session Ramadan is one week from today. You guys know that next week this time you will be praying that I will for sure.
So that means Ramadan will be in by next week we shall have the water cover data so what is left for us what is left for us in our discussion is to have our personal manners and social manners in check in shallow diabolical with Allah for the month of Ramadan. So what are the personal thing that you need to observe? The personal etiquette you need to observe within yourself and the social etiquettes as you come to the masjid when you meet people in them in the masjid when you go at home, invite people over you have guests coming over and so on. So we're going to be discussing the shallot Ramadan, tips personal and social Bonilla Xhosa hamdulillah. Tonight we have our guest
speaker, Imam Abdullah guru from a couple Masjid and inshallah going to be presented to us the first part of the discussion which is personal tips or for inshallah Tabata Giordano. take good notes. Like to recap to remind you with the hashtag if you'd like to post anything, use the hashtag, V Ric Ramadan 2018 Sharla to the vertical of smilla
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So speaking about this topic of personal practices in Ramadan,
it's very important for us to know a couple of things and to understand certain principles, because I think it's very incumbent upon us as Muslims to understand that Islam in general, its principles with objectives, principles with objectives. So there are principles that are lost what Allah gives you to be a principled person. And every principle has an objective behind it, whether you know, that objective or not. And trusting in those principles is based on your trust and your relationship with Allah and the names and attributes that have been given. So, a lot of being an alum and a deer, you know, that he is knowledgeable of every single thing and he is Able to do all things therefore,
when he prescribes or legislates something, you know, it is built upon those attributes of his extent of knowledge, etc.
So when speaking about the Ramadan, there are a lot of things that may come to our mind.
I'm almost sure that when we hear the word Ramadan, we think of Okay, obviously, what fasting,
we think of Koran,
and we think of Salah.
Right? When we think of Salah, what actually really comes to our mind, ultimately Salatu thought Are we
the slots of totally the the prayer that comes after slots raesha whether it's eight or 20, but we think about these things.
The first thing I really want to talk about when it comes to your personal relationship with the Creator of the heavens in the earth, or your personal etiquette or practices is to realize that there is a connection that must be maintained and to the level to the best of your ability increased in this month of Ramadan. But understanding what does it mean to do something for Allah subhanho wa Taala because especially when we speak to like our children, or speak to someone, primarily even ourselves, we have to remind ourselves of one name of Allah subhanho wa Taala when it comes to doing an action, of worship, and that name is Eleni, being that Allah subhanho wa Taala is not in need of
is not in need of our worship. Rather when we obey Allah, it is a manifestation of deprivation.
Meaning that as of last month, Allah said when he was addressing non Muslims in the Quran, but it's a general message all mankind unto modificado illallah that you are those who are in poverty are the ones that are impoverished to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And that is a direct manifestation of servitude,
of being someone that voluntarily serves Allah subhanho wa Taala. And this is very, very important because when we realize the reality
of servitude, or we could even say, of being a slave to the Creator, the name of Abdullah, Abdullah, man up any name after is a servant or slave to that name or that attribute, which expresses, the more that you represent servitude and being a servant to the Creator, the more you are expressing your your deprivation towards him. And the more that deprivation is expressed through your actions, the more you become a movement, the more you become a slave of Allah subhanho wa Taala.
So understanding that this deprivation, this expression of deprivation, this expression of you constantly showing your need to Allah subhanho wa Taala is very important initially when we think about our personal reflection, and thinking about the practices that will come from that. So when we look at the heart, and if the heart is the vessel that Ally's created, and how the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said, that in the future, the mandala, that there is a piece of flesh in the body, if it is if it is refined, then the rest of the body is refined, or rectified, and that we will call
is it not the heart, so the heart has to be conditioned, and it has to be constantly refined through the process of life, and his process of recognition of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So firstly, understanding what it means to do something for Allah. Because when we say I'm doing something for my father, for my mother, for my friend, that may express that the person you are serving or helping has a need that without you serving and helping and assisting them, there may be a form of deficiency on their end.
But when it comes to a loss of kindness to Allah, you do something for Allah, meaning you're doing something that he has ordered you to do or to stay away from. And as a result of doing that, you will receive reward and the manifestation of that reward is uncountable, we cannot enumerate that as a loss upon what Allah says And as for the blessings of Allah latter sohar you cannot enumerate it, you can't count it.
Even if you were to try you cannot count it. So understanding initially, that that action any action we do in Islam,
we do it for Allah subhanho wa Taala. It is for our own benefit. And the more we do it, the more our Eman increases and it's a process. It is the process of doing actions of clear to increase your Amen. The more a man increases, you want to do more actions and that is the process of life with this reality you will make mistakes and you will fall.
Allah Subhana Allah says in the Quran when I mean loss after managing my nanny when mommy lasallian well enough See, woman as for Allah wa booqable hola me Lila deed. Whoever does an action of good it is for himself. Woman Assa for Allah. And whoever does an action of evil, then it is upon its meaning. It is upon himself for the neffs it is upon your enough's. It is not harming Allah subhanho wa Taala in any way.
And then a lot ends it and Allah is not oppressive to his slaves, he gives everything his or its do, right? Is everything it's do right. So when this month of Ramadan, brothers and sisters in this month have shot back in reality,
all of these lessons that we take in is a form of preparation for this beautiful blessing. Magnificent
month and this month of Ramadan to come
and looking and understanding the relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala when I do something for Allah, it is from my own self. So when one says to themself, how can I get be a better Muslim? We say increase in your actions have good.
So when we understand that relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala and how can we do actions of good that increases our relationship with him and understanding our purpose? Let's look at the actions themselves.
Firstly, it is prioritizing the actions of Eva. Prioritizing. We see in Islam Subhana Allah, we have pillars, pillars, and Islam, five pillars in Islam. The first one is recognition of the oneness of Allah subhanho wa Taala and recognizing that there were prophets that came in a chronological order to tell people about that oneness, the last of them being Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So when we look at the actions of Islam, the first is the tawheed in the heart, recognizing the law as one and that relationship of doing deeds but when it comes to the deeds, there are there are jets, there are different levels, some are more beloved than others. The ones that are obligatory in the
month of Ramadan are the ones that we should concentrate on most. This is very important.
Because I mentioned before in the month of Ramadan we think okay, I'm going to get ready at 20 rakaats or my eight inshallah Tada, you don't want to get my rest I'm going to get my eight but then we wake up in the morning and the sun is in our face
What did we miss your mom? What did we miss? miss a lot of fun
and 51 to 100% we know that when we're in the 20s or what 20th Raka and we're barely making it because we had you know, some Moses the biryani right if it's really spicy you didn't put the yogurt on it you forgot because they ran out of yoga you were the last one to get the to get your dish so the spice you drained a lot when it comes to slaughter the budget a lot of before right the month of Ramadan while
when we think of this month of Ramadan yes we think of total we but each one of you have to ask yourself that relationship of coming closer to a law the manifestation of that in the best fashion is to prioritize and looking at the big bet.
Looking at the big bet How is your selected budget so when it's for an IT For instance, if you it's difficult for you to pray fudger at the masjid make that goal to start the process let this month of Ramadan be a catalyst not something seasonal to where in your mind you think the month of Ramadan is when I'm going to do this rather saying your mind the month of Ramadan is when I will start this new form of a bed and be consistent in inshallah Tada.
So looking at for instance, lots of the fudger I want to make the lots of the budget on time. After that I want to mix a lots of budget in the masjid. I want to make some lots of Asia in the masjid Allah Subhana Allah says in the Quran after the most challenging half Allah solo it was selected we'll start
this one that preserves the silhouette the prayers were selected based on some of the scars they selected will start salata acid.
So looking at these obligatory actions
and looking at your status asking yourself what is my status with the photo ID
as a prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned last month Allah mentioned that no slave comes to me closer to me except with that, that I have a blip made obligatory upon him
made obligatory upon him and then he speaks about after that during the NOAA
so when one takes a priority in looking at this a lot of budget, looking at the relationship with their parents,
you know, a companion came to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said Al Hamdulillah he said a Salatu Allah waka is a filmer a he said very rewarding.
very rewarding let's not forget brothers and sisters being righteous and good to the parents is followed the iron it's not that when my older brother is calling the parents and I tell them I said hello and an older brother Mashallah mom loved older brother best saw tell mama said hello
no in this month of Ramadan let it serve as a catalyst to call your parents up to send a text message
something that is consistent put an alarm on your phone or reminder that at a certain time when you're sitting in your Okay, that you just call and ask how they're doing.
If your parents are deceased someone that your father or mother loved that is in the city or in the vicinity you call them up
these are the for the end these are the things that one Muslim that the Muslim if they want to improve should start with first.
So if you know the sun and or these actions that are not at the level of the fool at the of the obligatory actions, you should relook the situation and prioritize
looking at these four All right, starting off with the salaat as we see with the salaat it is the second pillar of Islam. The five kilowatts Firstly, when you come home from workman when you come home from work, how is your salata Lhasa
when we come home tired and we're fasting the first week
hours I saw lots of awesome if you find it as soon as you come home Mashallah you smell the food wife is cooking the food the Kim's kids come and hug you and masala show that you're doing an action of worship because you're Mashallah sitting with your children. But then salata laaser comes right before iftaar.
If you have an opportunity to come to the masjid pray, and then go home to maintain that focus. Because the prophets of Allah Allah wa sallam said, the best of actions is a salata Allah walked her off, we already walked he had at the beginning of its time.
Again, you know yourself. So prioritizing is the first thing when it comes to the etiquette with yourself. Right? You're retiring
and everyone has their flaws.
All of us are all of us have our mistakes. And that's where the self accountability comes in a lawsuit kinda with Dallas is in the crime.
But in in San Juan FC, he will see it Oh, well Mahavira
rather mankind is a witness upon himself, even if he gives excuses.
Even if he gives many excuses.
This is general even though particularly he was talking about a certain group of people, but this is a general message being that you know what you are supposed to do you know, your flaws. It's you versus you. You are your worst enemy.
Hold that, firstly, to account before you look at anyone else. As we know, even hotter What did he used to say? Has he boo and forsaken Allah and to hasta boo was the new American couple and Tucson. Hold yourselves accountable, before you will be held accountable and weigh your deeds before they will be weighed.
before you go to sleep. Think about your day.
before you go to sleep, think about your day. Think about what you did what you've done, but it's a lot of pressure when you came home. What were the things that you've done? And based on those things, you either have one or two, praise Allah, Allah that I was able to fulfill. So lots of fun, but hamdulillah that I was able to make someone happy at the gas station when I gave them a smile and said, How are you doing? saw their name tag? How are you doing? And my intention was if harbor Shasha was to make that person happy,
umbrella, a good thing, you praise Allah subhanaw taala upon everything good that you've done, and if it's something that you were negligent, Allah homophily
primarily, if you were to do this, in your Salah, is another manifestation of that worship of Allah subhanho wa Taala.
So we look at ourselves, we hold ourselves accountable, when we're doing these actions that we are prioritizing in
when we do these actions that we are prioritizing. We hold ourselves accountable. Always looking at yourself, before looking at anyone else.
Always looking at yourself, especially subpoena law, we have to take into account you know, a lot of times
we do not like to
especially if it's a good party, or maybe it's a car that's maybe a seven with us, and it's a nine with other people, and he makes a mistake.
He made a mistake.
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This is the month of Ramadan.
We know that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Allah Riba, Vicar, harkavy May, Accra it is mentioning something about your brother that he does not like, we have to take a step back to see okay Subhan Allah holding myself accountable.
When looking at this, what about the person that spent months on end to prepare themselves and they are nervous to stand in front of 100 people he is 17 years old, 18 years old, 40 years old.
And then people are talking about the mistake that they made or that kid is not Jimena are not with Alec or anything of that nature.
When we say that, do we hold ourselves accountable at that moment before we go to sleep? What were the things that I said what were the some of the things that I
have to do that I'm glad I stuck for
making amends with people. So looking at yourself, and always holding yourself accountable. So that accountability brothers and sisters is what is very, very important.
So when we as Muslims, in this time of ourselves, looking at ourselves, and seeing how we can work on ourselves in this month of Ramadan, we look at it as a catalyst for a new beginning. It's a catalyst and looking at those priorities, prioritizing that and making sure we work on those before working on Mashallah the additional actions that we see in Ramadan, from taraweeh, etc,
making sure that we affirm upon that. And then also sovereign
having patience with Allah subhanho wa Taala. And its other because we know the scholars have mentioned that there are three types of patients. There's the patience for thoughts and patients for the milesi and patients feel called. So the patience with doing good deeds,
patience in doing good deeds.
So for instance, when we wake up for sort of the budget, I know the budget is going to be coming in very early martial arts is going to be coming around 527 a little a little even earlier than that.
So patience and consistently doing this action. being patient.
We know that Allah subhanho wa Taala will not leave any action that you have done sincerely for him without any reward. As Allah subhanaw taala mentions that barely Allah gives the ones that are patient their reward without any without missing any
without missing any little amount of reward from them that they will receive everything that they deserve.
Their last month Allah mentions that in some of the scholars call this month of Ramadan, the month of summer, the month of southern Georgia Southern Shahada summer, and it is a month of patience. Because you are leaving off though is those essential elements for something much greater if you think about it, I remember Cipolla when I was anomalous. I mean, I ran into people that were fasting and even Cipolla, you see some of the religions, they are familiar with lint, you know something, they take the ashes and they put the cross on their forehead. You know, that's what the some of the Christians they practice us in on this day, they fast.
And it's something that is major for them, because it's not something that they usually practice one day, right? But what we see as Muslim supanova someone that fast 30 days and they leave off something that is essential, and something that is even Beloved.
We leave it off for something greater. And that's what's upon a shake Sam Samia he mentions in her Buddha in his book servitude, that true worship of Allah subhanaw taala and servitude is that you love with the beloved loves, you love that which the beloved loves and the only reason you love it is because the beloved one to you loves it.
And that's true love of Allah subhanho wa Taala.
So when we see Subhana Allah in these actions, and these actions that we have of worship, understanding that when we perform these actions that is based off of the love of Allah subhanho wa Taala This is how our relationship increases with him and the reward increases therefore increasing our amen therefore increasing our actions. This is the process when you fast and you leave something off for a loss and panda with data loss one of the other loves that
as the promise of the law there was something missing in the Hadeeth we see in Bahati hula many many Adam
it has to be actually unfairly her allies origin lesson for India Julio Anna GB Yo, gotcha Yama, shabu. What's your what the human ugly Oh fury why yet? Luca Tama Hua Hua to Shara boohooman LGD. And Howdy, the province of Allah and it was something I've said every action for Benny Adam is for him.
And it has to be actually unfairly here. One good deed could reach more than that. So they're in the air to listen or to 700 times more
in less song except fasting for in this race at a loss of power without assets. He stops and says follow lies in the zone except fasting. But in the hooghly For verily it is for me. GB. Why yet? Ah, oh, yeah. So what's your what's your what's the who, what reason, he left off voluntarily food, drink, and intimacy for my purpose.
When anyone sees that you're leaving off an essential element food and drink and intimacy, for his purpose
or his purpose. That is something that is great. But we have to be attentive when we're doing that and remember what it means to do something for the sake of Allah and do not feel that we are doing a favor for a law or a favor for Islam or a favor for anyone. The only favor you're doing it is for your own self rectification.
This can be an indirect form of redemption. If you have that sincerity, and you are present, you are conscious when you do the action.
So when we talk about Firstly, saying prioritizing,
having patience, patience, with worshiping Allah, patience and staying away from the milesi especially after Sultan away many times we go outside, we can't pray the eight sometimes because we have to work through the morning. We're very tired. If tar was was a doozy this time. You know, they've tried they bought some good food and I kind of had seconds. And Allah knows best Well, I hope you had the potatoes with the rice and the bread also. It was kind of heavy now so they ate I'm not able to do it. So I go home but on the way to my car, I hear brothers talking about someone. I hear sisters joking about something.
And I indulge upon that.
This is where in this month of Ramadan we have to be conscious of what goes on around us and also after holding ourselves accountable, reminding each other that's what community is for
reminding each other. Remember when we give no see how we should not wait to see the results have no say no see how again is an action of good that is for yourself
initially, because you would want it you would want someone to tell you the same thing.
Therefore you relate the good news to that person. So always looking at yourself and holding yourself accountable. Now with these actions upon Allah we notice as a Pinilla when prioritizing with some of these actions we see within the Salah. We see within Ramadan, if you see within the Sharia, Allah is enabling you and giving you the opportunity to be a spiritual opportunists to take advantage of remembering him and worshipping Him. So the Salah is how many times a day, the obligatory prayers, five. So we do that five times a day you see that it is but consistent throughout the rest of your life. I always tell people to Pinilla when I was first reading about
Islam, somebody was telling me about prayer five times a day. The first thing I said to myself, being a person that has things to do, right. And I gotta pray five times a day for the rest the rest of my life. Like every there's no break. Every day I have to pray five times a day.
Then you stop and you ask what's better for me?
What will that do for me as the promise of the lotto send him he compared it to a person that washes themselves in a river river? Ventura Allah, he doesn't come across us and we see any signs of dirt on him? He says no. So when we look at this, it's spiritual rectification. And it's a process that takes place, you will make mistakes. But throughout this process, you will continue to cleanse your soul cleanse your heart, holding yourself accountable while you're praying, you're thinking of things that you've done, you ask lots of forgive you and then in the studio demo caliber close a bit called Big Nick. And that's we want to end on with these actions. When you prioritize looking at the
slots of the budget before total we looking at these obligatory actions before the ones that come up that are not an obligatory triangle best to do your best on those praying at the beginning of its time, having good being good to your parents.
You see that? You do your best, but you're consistent with that. And that's what I was getting to when speaking about the [???]tier how Allah has planned it. There are things that happen in the month. Things that happen yearly, such as Ramadan and eat every day such as the Salah. Because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned in numerous Hadith, Hubbell Imani, again another beloved action to a lot Edwin Maha were in
that the most beloved actions to Allah are those that are consistent even if it was a little bit and you see within this video, Allah has given things that are consistent only for your benefit or your benefit, because he is so funny, and he loves you more than anyone or anything else. And with that being the case, Ramadan let that serve as a catalyst for you to constantly think and ponder over that reality of how to become closer to a law to hold yourself accountable to where when show while and the months that follow it, you will see yourself getting a new habit being consistent on it and being a changed person being the light on it. So we ask Allah subhana wa Taala to make us of those
who constantly look in the mirror and hold ourselves accountable before others hold us accountable and to weigh our deeds before our deeds will be weighed by other than ourselves and to make us of those who are constantly doing actions of humility from the Pharaoh and in the obligatory actions into who knew that it was someone law who was in America and being a
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personal achievement and shout out during the month of Ramadan vanilla xuejun Mela make it all successful and easy for all of us. Now that we had the personal tips that you need to observe Ramadan now we start to shallow the Allah with the with the social tips when the Lazarus handler blood amin or sola salon Baraka, Vina Mohammed and
errata Mama. So before Ramadan begins and starts, obviously you know that most people that start prepare the calendar, but what
what as I'm basically for the dinners, right, invitations starts now how many hours are you going to put on the calendar?
Many people they dream of having one simple invitation for everybody and bring everybody together and shallow Darla. But then when they start counting who's coming, okay, this person doesn't talk with this person. So what are we going to do? Okay, split them to two dinners in Charlottetown. And then realize, well, these people don't you know, like these people. So let's go and try to make another dinner. You end up having the entire weekend of Ramadan serving people, just because you have those social obligations. Why
would it come to social life in Ramadan? What's the priority? Is it really to feed the people and entertain the guests? Or is it something else so I'm going to share with you in Charlotte, the three areas that has to do with our, you know, social life, the first thing your personal thing about being
Social right now when it comes to social life, karma, how much who is the best person you should have? What is the best thing that you should do and Ramadan? If you have a best friend who would be that best friend should be spending your time during the month of Ramadan? Would it be Gemma
The Book of Allah zosen in the Arabic poetry a Sharia Hall, the report says war heroes a deacon Phil Anna Makita. And best friend you will ever acquire in your life is a book, a book to read because when you sit down open a book, what happens you read and you learn and you engage and a lot of benefits right? But then which book is the best? The Book of Allah subhanho wa Taala no doubt. So therefore the first thing I would suggest in order for you to engage in a social life, make this as a social experience to reflect on yourself and upon yourself with the book of Allah subhanho wa Taala specifically, and especially the last 10 days of Ramadan Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam used to
engage in very personal experience and a decaf, decaf, which when he isolates himself sola Salim you know, physically taken himself into the masala area on staying in a tent away from the eyes of people making so much private time for himself and operando buku vilazodone we all need that. So make sure before we start talking about the social aspect, not to forget about this particular social experience. Check yourself, get to know who you are. reflect upon yourself, Eunice. Get to know yourself through the book of Allah subhanho wa Taala how much you know about it how much you are connected the book of Allah azza wa jal see how much you can get the shallow diabolical data
make that person a one on one relationship with the book of Allah. So that's the first thing I want to keep in mind before we forget inshallah, then comes the second aspect of our social life. What is it as a man coming to the masjid
and Ramadan, more people started coming to the masjid and we start coming to the masjid more frequently. We can provide you with them for the whole weekend for us or measure of Russia, and Subhanallah suddenly, we have time to come to all this a lot. So we're going to come to the message you're going to have to engage with other people. So what do we do? What are the things we need to observe as we start coming to them?
Number one, courtesy and this is the subject of courtesy over here is what we call a double Giamatti. Well, Gemma, this is the etiquette of being in a congregation. When you come to the masjid you to the congregation, whether it's for Salatu Juma Serato. Gemma, whether it's you praying in congregation praying for Juma Salah, praying for a different taraweeh whichever Salah that you're going to be coming to you are coming to be with the congregation, you have to observe certain etiquettes that are very important to maintain that courtesy with your fellow Muslims who come to them as well. What are these things we've been ordered whenever we come to a congregational prayer
that we observe certain things, number one is what cleanness
when you come to the masjid complete the chef Abdullah mentioned that you know when you come from work you want to come to the masjid go ahead and pray as the first visit them as it stopped by in the masjid then go to go home and shall be with your family until a third time and so on. But with one condition that you look nice and smell nice.
It's not like you're just you're sweaty and you just like it's hardly don't know whatever you've been doing outdoors and then celebrate now you want to come to the Mazda because you want to get the reward for Serato Gemma, but what do you get if you come to Serato Jemma smelling bad
you're hurting everybody around you. And the prophet SAW someone does that the angels will be hurt because of that. Don't do this.
So make sure that you you're clean, especially taraweeh because I know a lot of people Mashallah you know, if you come you know, to the masjid, and you eat the food, probably still you have some you know, phases of that food in your hand, smells bad, your clothes, whatever, just take shower before you come to Saudi Arabia, that is very essential, making sure that you're clean, and you maintain cleaners. Number two, with that, as well, part of the courtesy, smelling nice. You know, you need to put perfume put auto for men when you come to the masjid. But the least if you couldn't find anything, the least you need to do is as a professor, some recommend says use the water. What does
it mean to use the water man, take a shower,
make sure that the least you could do is not not to have any bad smell, meaning if you don't have good smell out or perfume to put on, then in this case, make sure that you take care of ourselves well. Then, in addition to the courtesy, since we have in the congregation, and everybody comes here, and it's a family time and handle a lot of blood, I mean, people bring their kids with them, which is awesome. This is good. But we have to understand. It's not just about you, not just about your kids, it's about us as a community. So therefore, if you're going to bring your kids to Serato, where you're going to bring them to Serato shops are the future. Make sure that your responsibility
If you take care of them, Also, make sure that the priority is that everybody is enjoying their time. And that if they don't make noise and anything, so make sure to maintain that, as you come to them as also we have the elderly. Now, our elders, they come handle a lot of blood, I mean, and also you know, they need their space, they need the quiet space for them, they need to enjoy the reward as well. Make sure also to maintain that and make it easy for them. Respect the elders as a prophet salaallah salaam, he says they sermon is not one of us not true believer, the one who doesn't show Rama for the for the old one, I'm sure respect for the elder. That's part of our duty, as you're
showing courtesy towards one another in shallow dialogue. The second point about social life in the masjid here is patience. How is that
when we come to the masjid, we realize now there'll be a lot of interest, you know, coming across against each other. Therefore, we need to make sure that we practice down which means we assist and help one another Sharla just come into the mess doesn't make you a guest here I know we call you call yourself the guest of man, which is true. But obviously you also come in here you need to also be the host for everybody else, making sure that we assist each other and shall allow the worker what Allah whatever work that needs to be done in the masjid, we need to help inshallah each other. In the process of doing that we might come in order for each other, we need to learn to be lenient,
which also be forgiving inshallah, especially in a month, like the month of Ramadan. Rasool Allah has Salah Sam says if someone you know, basically if somebody kind of like gets rough with you, and instead of cursing at each other, he says, well, in Islam says I'm fasting, which means teach yourself to be lenient, and be forgiving, and focus on the purpose of fasting, which is to purify yourself, and hold yourself accountable with the lie as the origin. The third thing is food and dinner, we come to the Muslim Hamdulillah, especially on the weekends, we're gonna have stars over here Friday and Saturday, on the last 10 nights, there'll be a lot of actually stars and even suffer
as well. And one of the biggest problems we have with that is that people, they bring food, and they don't take care of it.
So part of the courtesy for one another is that if you bring something with you, make sure you take whatever's left over with you, what do you want to do with it, it's up to you, you put it in boxes, put it back in the fridge, give it to other people feed it for another meal, whatever that is, but we need to make sure that we don't waste our food, we don't waste that food at all. We also observed the etiquette of eating nose pal, especially you know, with the parents, when they bring their kids with them, they give them a full meal, knowing That's how you know that the kids are not going to finish it. And I know when I've seen it every single year people they bring their leftovers to the
shoe racks area, thinking that I'm gonna leave it there, but I never shall pick it up with me. And they never really pick it up
and have somebody else to throw it away for them. Make sure you don't throw away anything observed the etiquette of eating shallow diner. But of course of the etiquettes of eating together, there is an ethos, which means altruism, preferring others over your needs. When they call that you know the call for people to come into the third area. Instead of you know fighting over who's going to be the first line we should be fighting who's going to be the last one. Why? Because I want to make sure everybody's been taken care of. For me, okay, Article myself in Charlottetown. But I need to make sure that everybody is being taken care of also serving each other, somehow part of the etiquette of
Sahaba are they allowed to run home whenever they used to sit with these to travel, they used to serve each other, they will race who's going to serve the other one. That should be the etiquette of the believers to help and assist each other instead of just dependent on volunteers to do the service. We also serve each other in shallow water code and as part of our social etiquettes in the month of Ramadan.
Now, outside of the masjid, what else do we need to do? inviting people over? Or, you know, going to some people's house? What are the etiquettes of the ephah meaning hospitality the need to observe and shallow, being hospitable. It is one of the greatest etiquettes and love and manners of Islam and Muslims. And that hamdulillah throughout the history of Islam and Muslims, they've always been the most has always been hospitable, always actually giving generous to other people. So how should we take care of the subject of the affair and being hospitable? The first thing we need to know is that being generous to the guest is as soon as it's the son of the NBA, not the son of the Navy
Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam whenever Rahim Allah salam, Abu ambia, the father of all the prophets, when Ibrahim alayhi salam, he received guests of three people, he thought they were three people but there were three angels, when he received three people how much food that he presented them as a man
How much would he bring to them? An entire calf roasted cow, basically, for three people, that's generosity. Of course, he was able to afford that.
You can then be generous with your guests in shallow data, because it is it is to another professor Sam says, Hey, man, can you rely heavily on acid fell yukirin bifa whoever believes in Allah, and the final and the final day, let them be generous to their guests. What's the meaning of generosity, hospitality, usually it's actually offering food. The second thing, whenever you receive receive guests, it's soon as soon of Islam that you greet the guests at the door.
You don't just open the door, let them come in. you greet actually the guests at the door because sometimes, you know, guests don't know where to go. I know nowadays the culture is shifting and changing. So you come to some people for example, dinner and you find usciences men in the backyard. And men a woman comes through the door don't have to ring the bell. It's okay. It's Helen, as part of a new trend, a new cultural trend that we have over here. There is nothing wrong with it. But if you'd like to make the hospitality perfect, then you receive the guests, the guests at the door. That's part of the sooner of the MBR the Prophet sallallahu wasallam when he received a guest from
of the Abdullah case, he went out to receive them Allah salado, Salah marhaba Hello, welcome, welcome for the delegation. Allah was a welcome. Mohammed was the alladhina Joe those who came came visiting us via rough Hazara dama. Like you will know Sharla you will never regret and we will never be disappointed, but we won't disappoint you. And you won't regret coming to us, which means we will take care of you very well. Also, now, about the guests, if you come into the house, what should I observe as a guest when I come into the house? What are things I need to look into number one, let's say if you come into the guest the purpose Allah Salam is suggest that you don't get this to Allah
to Chroma tea, don't go and sit in the prime time of the house, let's say the seating is is a certain direction. And then you go and find the most Mashallah comfortable fluffiest, you know, center chair and just go drop there.
What if this was designed or made, you know, for the eldest for example of the household, maybe it's for the uncle who you know, the father of the host, and so on. Make sure that you don't go and sit in the center of the session unless you've been told to sit there. If the host said sit over here, then in this case, you said otherwise, you actually use it, you go away from the central position of that session. Also, whatever you've been offered as hospitality, you don't reject that, unless it's a health wise issue. So they offer you food, you know, you just don't say, Oh, I don't eat that stuff.
That's not the etiquette. You put it in front of you. And you don't have to eat it. But at least you don't take it away. And if they asked, why don't you tell them maybe you know what, honestly, I have issues for example, my stomach or I'm not used to this feed food and so on. So but you don't reject it, why they're bringing it to you.
It's rude Azuma.
Whatever that is, just put it there. And then if you don't want to eat it, just keep the professor de la sala. That was etiquette. They will bring the food finished. Oh Akela. If he decided he would eat otherwise, he will just abstain. And he'll and then people will ask why he wasn't eating like in the story of the prophets. Allah said on Monday, when they presented to him, Bob Boone knew that desert lizard, whatever you want to call it here, but that's business specific, you know, the desert lizard that they have in Arabia. So they roasted that animal and in honor of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam so they brought it to him. And usually the prophets Allah sell him out of the you
know, kind of like engaging in a conversation with the host, you will usually ask about the food like wow, what is this man? What do you call this meal? Oh, this is amazing. What is it made of? He's really asked the question to engage with the host about the food that's been presented. This time in particular, he didn't ask. So he was about to put it has in the food right away. Someone told him Yasser Allah in the holdup just to let you know, that was that desert lizard. So the purpose was and put his hand back.
So how did we believe was sitting there with him? It was jasola Rahman. Who is it haram? Is that why you're not in it? God Allah what I can. Lamia couldn't be out of the coma. He dooney alpha. We wasn't used to it when I was in Mexico where I grew up, so I can't eat it. Because the professor said he grew up in the city in Mecca, thought it only rajala on his own to serve the food. She's actually from the Arabian Peninsula from the desert from the desert people. So that's what they were. They were used to that the purposes I can so hard said that ask the professor nanosolar Can I have it and the professor's basically issue? So because he pulled it from its them, and he
waited until he finished it while the professor was watching, the point is for you as a guest, when someone brings you food, you don't, you know you're rejected right away. Instead you accept. And then if you don't eat it, you can abstain. As they asked them, you let them know shallow part of the courtesy. And also, when you're done eating, you don't just disappear from the house. handler, thank you, and you just keep going out. Layer 11, isn't he and the professor, Some suggest that we don't leave without permission. Why? Because maybe the host is still having some extra things to give you or to show you they want to fulfill your hospitality, to the max. In some cultures living without
permission from the host is actually blasphemy even, like in the Arab culture, we say a belief a CLM heli, which means the guest is the is the capital of the host, which means you're going nowhere until I tell you we're done. So therefore, it's not an etiquette, just once you finish you your food, you just disappear on them, we have to seek permission says we would like to see permission if you don't mind, we want to leave. And the sooner is that you don't leave until the host actually gives you the permission to leave again, once again, they might be needing you for something else. Unless of course you have an appointment, emergency, whatever that is up to you. But it's better
that you stay to satisfy and Sharlto Allah, the host.
Also, when you leave as a guest, make sure to make proper dua for the host and the family. Then Allah bless you that will occur after under komisar munakata macabre Rasul Allah Malika, a lot of that has been done and said, After we finished eating, you know, the food in someone's house. Now, part of the etiquette of also being a guest, is that when you when you sit there, it is not appropriate for the guests to keep looking and the eyes wandering all over the house. You know, some people are very annoying as
they come visiting you. And they start telling you about every single, you know, deficiency in the roof in the ceiling, and they didn't see things that you're not even paying attention to a lot of Mustang like I said, you know, the carpet here actually is ripped, right? You know that, right? So you see that that the bug that crawling up, maybe there's actually a spider up or something? Why do you have even to look around, it's not an etiquette for the guests to keep his eyes wandering around, let alone looking into the private quarter of the house. If you know that the food is coming from that side, or the ladies, for example, they come from that side, it's not appropriate for you
to keep your eyes looking in that direction. Which is why for the guests part of the sooner that when you go when you when you visit people, it is better that you always actually keep your give your site or your your back to the direction where the family would actually might be exposed as far as the etiquette. But even if your host tells you Please sit here and you find yourself in an awkward position, you take permission to switch your seat. Because when the host puts you on position, probably they're not aware of this. But it's actually it's the sooner that you always again, keep respecting the household and shall love robotic odana people they asked me how long what
is the best you know, and the length of your stay in the house? do you stay? unusually? Basically, you need to understand that you don't overstay Your welcome. Okay, so how do I know that I've done I don't overstay my welcome. It's a very simple formula, you will leave when they still have a desire for you to stay.
Do you understand the demand?
Leave when they still have a desire for you to stay? Because if you stay until there's no more desire for them to keep you any longer means you stay too much. How would you know that they stayed too much. You know that you stay too much. When you say okay, shall I this villa we're going to leave right now and say hello Bismillah.
When they escort you out towards the door, that's when you realize that you messed up. You stay too long, basically. But if you try to leave, and then they would say no, no, no, they just stay for a little bit more cup of coffee or tea that we have some one more thing inshallah, could you please take one of the 10 minutes, then you realize this is the time you need to leave. But it says sweetness coming Forget it, man. Just leave. Otherwise, you'll never be called back again. Probably. So make sure that you do so. Okay, what about the food? There's so much votes of how long do I stop eating? You stop eating when you know that you still have a desire to eat more.
Okay, but some say well, don't you suppose the foot No, no, no, no, no. You stop eating when you still have a little bit more desire to eat, which means you're leaving some space for breeding the Prophet sallallahu sallam. He says in the hurry that Mama, Mama and Sharon Buckner, that the son of Adam never felt the vessel worse than his belly. But if you had to fill your stomach, then let it be
One third for your food, one third for a drink, and one third, for breathing. Some people, obviously, whenever we said I had a delight to joke about it, and this is a chef, each one of us know their own third, which is my third is different than your third. I understand. So how do you classify that third, it's always you stop eating when you still have a desire to eat more. Of course, when it comes to us as hosts, we shouldn't be doing tequila, which means don't go over your limits, to entertain your guests with food and so on. Don't make that social obligation, a financial burden, because that's what kills social life for the people. Because they know inviting these
fields are gonna cost me $3,000. Honestly, I don't know, then forget it, we're not gonna invite anybody. Because we're gonna invite only five people 30 people will be upset with us. So we'll cancel everything, because it's gonna cost you a fortune. Make it simple, easy. And whatever that you can afford and shallow data the whole concept of being together, not about the food really, is about just getting together and shallow data as part of the social life. Ramadan is a term of blessing is a term for people to get together, enjoy the hospitality handle of Ramadan, spiritually, and also handled in food wise as well. Much of the community is very, very diverse. So I recommend
whenever we invite people, make sure to diversify your guest list. Okay. Don't always invite the same friends over and over again as a man. And also look for those who are less fortunate in our community. Look for the poor and for the needy, invite one and bring them with you shallow data, involve them in the committee in the light of Oracle data, I hope by doing so, shall we get that award for not just actually serving the food, but also being hospitable for the example of sort of La hustler Los Angeles pinata makers among those who listen to the speech and follow the rest of it and Allah subhanaw taala make this Ramadan, the best ramadan ramadan so far for us. ask Allah
Subhana Allah give us the ability to fast through the month of Ramadan. It gives us the ability to worship Allah subhana wa jal in a way that is pleasing to the mirror blind I mean, make us among those will be able to do that perfectly or Brahmin ask Allah subhana wa tada to give us the ability to attend little cutter to be forgiven in that nature of Brahman and ask Allah subhana wa Taala to accept your fasting from you and your family. sauropod handler blumen Solana Vina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sallam
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So So, the question is about the Ayana parameter Allah subhana wa Taala speaks on behalf of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam to the oma to be to be merciful to the prophet SAW settlement comes to visiting him on yeah you alladhina amanu last month, during the believers that led Hello butan Avi don't come into the house of the Prophet until you are given permission. And then Allah Subhana Allah says, Allah to homina via Marina, that you are invited for food Come on in but don't look beyond which means when the food is over, what do you do by the time when the food is over? Live and don't overstay your welcome Allah subhana wa Taala spoke on behalf of the Prophet sallahu wa sallam
in in canewdon VFS de human. So the prophet SAW Selim he felt you know it's hurt him that people stay too long for esta Himachal if he tries to tell you to leave. So Allah speak on behalf of the prophets of Allah Salaam for the people to live. You know this is just like when you go and visit somebody that you love so much, and you love their company so much, but hey, they have worked more. They have kids who want to go to bed and sleep. They have the kitchen to clean up after the dinner is over. So therefore be merciful with the people whatever help we're taking the kids to bed or clean the kitchen or get out here as quick as possible. So Allah subhanho wa Taala is helping us
arrange that so stay staying there for six hours and seven eight hours unless the host is entertained by the presence of the guests.
That's a different thing well on any question
Mashallah, yes? Go ahead.
So the question is, let's say I was invited to a dinner for a bar, and they're in the in the host house
we hear that one or this one or the other and the method is Marshall is walking distance from us. So do I just leave the house and go to the method to praise a lot of mothers? Or do I take permission from the host and say, I'm going to go to the master branch and come back with an answer. The answer is actually go by the instruction of your hosts which means if the host brought you before Madrid to break breakfast together then predjama together but if you work to break your fast before then let the host know So listen, I'm gonna break my fast and shorten the measure and then come back after the vanilla version, but I believe it's better for you to go before my rip time break real fast with
the with the with the host and his family and then break bread together sort of another inshallah unless the host volunteers and say guys we need to break our fast quickly Sharla so you can go and primitive and then come back again for food. So again, you take instruction from your host and shallow down
so question again here is about people from about people who come to the masjid against Allah tala. We have sought to Gemma they don't take care of themselves, and they don't use deodorant. Now here's the thing, you might have taken a shower before you come to them as okay you've taken a shower before come to the masjid but we know that Mashallah the masjids Baraka law gets really any crowded, and it gets really stuffy a little bit. So in this case, people need to take extra precautions. You know, use deodorant for example, spray, make sure that they smell fresh. And frankly, if you in salon feel that you know what, it's getting too much right now on you and even if you feel that you
start smelling actually bad, get out and going kutaragi head home because you are already hurting the angels. As a professor of law, Sam says that the ends will be hurt and you better go and take care of yourself a shallow dive into nozzles and Alanna Now, another question, good.
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Question did the process I'm craving burping.
I mean anything there's a general rule when it comes to anything and a salata has tissue normal saline has any type of trouble or causes any anguish on the people that are next to you is something that is initially prohibited and we see that when someone you know the processunity prohibited having the similar film of having the smell of garlic and onions when coming to the masjid so from that scholars would make an analogy that using anything that is harmful to the people that are next to you can take the same ruling so definitely if someone burps Okay, and they just had some garlic food with garlic or food with onions or anything even along the lines of someone that may be
smoking, you know, may Allah subhanaw taala curious of if we have that type of trial and tribulation to have like a shirt in your car or in your car or have some type of answer or some type of spray to where when you come before you come to the master usually spray yourself or put that Philip on top of you. But definitely anything that causes any harm to the people that are next to you is something that is generally prohibited in the last 1000 was best.
Just a courtesy request from people in Parliament. I know it's something that's overwhelming, but even the prophets of Allah Salam one day he was in a gathering and a man he just took liberty and just you know, bourbon so so loud. Obviously when you burp, you're not going to burp Jani roses and underwater right. So the prophets Allah Salam he told him he said in front of everybody says Allah yahad Adriana jack
excuse me if you don't mind and just you know take control of this like keep that away from us please. So it is it that's even outside of Salah Can you imagine one of the things in Salah so the brothers and the sisters make sure that you take control of that you might say but it's overwhelming then don't eat that much coffee.
Take research if you can. I know you know that you come in for Dharavi inshallah any last question Gemma Yes.
no. So basically, if you're just handler, eating and finishing your food, and as you're about to finish your plate, someone dumped something on your plate to eat more, right? Something that you're not your favorite thing. So what do you do whose responsibility to finish? This? Is your responsibility or someone else's responsibility? Well, I mean, obviously, if if you have control over it, you make sure that you don't, you don't, you know, let them put it on. But at first you have to put on your plate, just eat as much as you can leave the rest of it for them to take care of it. If you can take take it with you home, why not? If they have, you know, boxes to take, take away
and after you're done, then take it with you in shallow data, but just make sure that they don't throw anything away. Hopefully, hopefully, the host they have a plan for this, which whatever leftover they have, they're not gonna throw it away in the trash. But you have something actually they take care of it in Charlottetown. Milan, yes.
so what is an efficient way to answer a non Muslim about Ramadan? When they say why do you guys do this to yourself? I mean, why do you torture yourself? So what is the best etiquette that we tell non Muslims, about Ramadan?
I really think Subhan Allah kind of the Hadith that was addressed earlier where
the Prophet sallahu wa sallam mentioned that last month, Allah said that he leaves his food drink and is in an intimacy for my purpose. So it's kind of the more touching along the lines of sacrifice and discipline. Being that we see something that is so valuable to us that we're willing to leave off things that one may perceive as a necessity. So when you leave off something for something else, obviously, it's for some type of benefit, whether it's tangible or intangible, or even both. So when this is when it comes to religion, this is a form of manifestation of showing our gratitude to God, that we're willing to leave off eating and drinking for a spiritual connection to him to have our
undivided undivided attention towards him because it's something that he legislated. And then also even before that, to talk about the qualities that God possesses, being that he has knowledge, ultimate knowledge and ultimate wisdom. And this is one of the reasons that he's legislated something that we may not perceive all of the reality of it such as leaving off eating and drinking, but we trust in His ultimate knowledge and everlasting knowledge and wisdom, that this is definitely a means for spiritual reforming, and one of the strongest means of redemption. So I think touching on universal aspects such as sacrifice and discipline, which every human being can understand, even
talking about discipline with diet, discipline with family personal issues, that you're doing something Cipolla, there's one statement of a certain person that he said um, many of us wants to go to heaven but we're not willing to die for it. Right? So we want to go we want to attain this reward but we're not willing to struggle and sacrifice for that. So I think that's something that's universal that fasting kind of ties into law on
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