Good Manners

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The #1 Ramadan Good Deed – Good Manners – Jummah Khutbah @ the Valley Ranch Islamic Center.

2017-06-02 – Ramadan 2017

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Alhamdulillah now how do you wanna stay in wanna study you want to stop? Whenever the villa Manchurian fusina I was at a marina Marina de la la la la la la fecha de la la la la la la la la la sharika wash Serrano Muhammad Abdul rasuluh Yeah, you're Latina multiple la casa de La Tomatina. 11 to Muslim moon. Yeah you anessa taco Bakula. Holla Takuma Nevada wahala common has jojoba oil and kathira manisa. Allah Allah Allah, Allah, Allah Allah, Allah. Allah Allah tala aku covenant said either, you ustelecom American, welcome de novo Kumamoto de la hora pseudo pocket further frozen Allah, Allah Allah, Allah Azza Karam cunnamulla terracotta Allah wa Hello howdy howdy Muhammad

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Bashara lamorinda Bakula? wakulla tangara wakulla dilaton not my bad, my dear brothers and sisters, so welcome Ramadan. Last Friday, we just anticipated the beginning of Ramadan at night and today it is the first the first Ramadan, the first Juma and Ramadan. Now suppiler for the past few days people wondering, it went so fast, it's almost a week now.

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So what did I do? What did I achieve in the past few days of the month of Ramadan? If you wonder you ask yourself the question, what is the number one Ramadan Good day that I need to observe? What is the thing that I need to do the most? Or think about the most throughout the month of Ramadan? What is it? Is it reading the Quran? Is it coming for taraweeh every single night? Is it finishing the 20 brecha versus the etracker? What is it exactly that need to observe the most in order to see to say that I have benefited a lot from the month of Ramadan. A lot of people would come to thinking of the best and good deeds. They always think of devotional deeds, which means you need to do something

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hard. In order for you to feel that you've achieved something like fasting all day and breaking your fast at the end of the day. That's a great achievement. No doubt about it. staying up all night, don't turn away. Even though you could go and be in bed because you have to go to work next day we'll go to school. That is again another great achievement. Giving from your money for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala more than what you usually do throughout the year. That's a great thing to do. But what is it that I need to maintain a need to think about being number one Ramadan? Good, the need to observe? It's very simple. It's good manners as luck,

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good manners. Why is that? Because when it comes to Ramadan, and as people fast, it seems that when people are there, they're hungry, they go angry easily.

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Whether you're at home or at work with anybody how many times you've heard people will talk to them on Ramadan, and they just come about to get heated up. They say Listen, I'm fasting today. Which means the limit go off on you right now.

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While you're doing this to your kids, to your spouse to someone around you, why does it have to be that way? Why Ramadan means a justification to be rude. Why do people fast in order to end up being super ill mannered? Why

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is this what Ramadan is all about? that defeats the purpose because the purpose of Ramadan Allah subhanho wa Taala says de la quinta takuan so that you might become righteous. Now here's something we'll come to making good deeds. Allah subhanho wa Taala and many many ads in the Quran concludes doing good deeds. You know by one statement, I'm gonna recite a couple of ads for you Allah Subhana Allah says Allah danian Fukuda VISTA sobre el Dora. We'll call them in a little while AFI Nana's Allahu

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Allah subhanaw taala says a lady named Fukuda fisterra eva Dora, those who've spent their wealth and the money this arrival Dora during hardships and during the times of ease and prosperity, like it doesn't matter if they have or don't have, they always give they have much they have little doesn't matter they always give this one good deed Ramadan is the time for it. People they give generously, Mashallah doesn't matter how much they have, how much they own, they keep giving them giving them give him Allah bless them and give them model of alignment. So that's one good deed. And then he said, Well, Carly mean

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those who constraint who the control their anger, especially Ramadan, it is the time that we control you. You control your anger, we'll call the mean and the value, those who control their anger. And then he said, Well, I've been an ask those who forgive the people. Now look right now, from being good deeds of giving money and wealth, to start working on yourself.

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Love and manners, you control your anger, you forgive the people. And then Allah subhanaw taala conclude by saying Allah who have been my sin, and Allah subhanho wa Taala love those who are seen and the meaning of medicine, which is the essence of this whole creation is all about to show who is most and who is not, is to be perfect in your good deeds and your best deeds.

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There are lots of hands on Ouattara saying sort of robotic Allah Wu moku Allah coalition Kadir Allah. Allah Kalamata will hire Talia blue welcome. You can ask Allah. He said subhana wa tada It is his power who created life and death is this whole life that we live is for what it's a test. Liam lucam to try you and test you or you can acid Amara, who will be most perfect in their good deeds and hit Allah subhana wa Taala says well lo herbal medicine in and I love those who are my city who do good deeds perfectly. In other Allah subhanho wa Taala says about the reward for sobre home Allah Subhan Allah Hobie Mercado jannette integrity mentale and hirakata Dena v ha was alakija

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Allah subhana wa Taala says does he reward them because of what they've said miss the good deeds of the good luck and good manners and good speech. Jen Nat they will be receiving Jeannette Gardens under which underneath which rivers are flowing turgidum into an hot holiday in eternity living there was alakija serene and this is the reward of the Martians, those who do their things perfectly with good manners, good Allah Subhana Allah the same concept of sun, the whole concept of sand the whole creation that Allah subhanho wa Taala established is actually based on sand. Everything needs to be done with sand, which means with perfection, look at the example would come to get good

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manners.

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Good manners don't fluctuate, they don't change. They're always actually fixed. And it doesn't matter the circumstances. When it comes to being well mannered. It's all the time.

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Walmart was the enemies with the loved ones were the relatives with a stranger's love and good manners will be well mannered depends not about just for you. It's even for other people, you always maintain that good manners and that actually standard of character is an example. Use of Allah His solemn use of Allah, his Salaam, the sort of use of is all about trials. You want to think think about your own trials and the test will govern through read the sort of use of our insulin, every aspect of the surah is bringing another form of trial another form of test test in regards to you know, being in prison manners, ethical issues with relatives, you know, Family Feud, you name it,

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all kinds of tragic go through, use of went through more than you. But then Allah subhanho wa Taala mentioned in the sutra in two positions in the surah. The same, or the same actually words. The first one when he was in prison

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when he was in prison.

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You know, when everybody goes to prison, they go depressed, probably I don't know what they do at the beginning and so on. But UCLA Sam, he was very well mannered, even in prison, to power at some point, at some point two young men, they noticed, and they paid attention to his dealings with other people. And so can you imagine, is the most the most excruciating time of your life being imprisoned unjustly for no crime that you committed at all use of what was useless crime at least that was his crime, he was just handsome, that's all.

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And he was imprisoned because of that unjustly. Still, he was well mannered the two young men that came to him and they asked him you know, we had we had a dream, could you please help us interpret these dreams? And then they said, in our community,

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we find you among those are my son, my son in law, you seem to be Mashallah very well mannered, you know, verbal level person, like you perfect in your deeds in your good manners. So they noticed that even in prison,

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fast forward in the life of use of Allah, his Salaam, three years later, many years as a matter of fact, laters he comes out of prison. It doesn't come out of prison as an ordinary person. No, he becomes a treasure of Egypt at the time, one of the great nations of that time, the wealth of the world was in Egypt. And it was all under his now control has been the treasure of Egypt alayhis salam. And then we know the story, the drought, the prosperity, the drought and people are coming, you know, asking for wealth and asking for provision from Egypt. And one of the time that was his family came his brothers, they came in, he noticed them he recognized them. And then eventually they

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he sent them off afterwards to bring his brother next time when they came and we know what happened the story when he kept his brother with him. They came complaining, you know, please be nice to us. Be kind to us. I wanted to say about him. In an era when we see you have the machine.

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Being in prison,

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and being at the top of the world, didn't make difference in his life and his manners.

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didn't make any difference was always leveled. It was always perfect. It was always with the person.

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being rich, being poor, being strong, being

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We wouldn't change you at all, when it comes to how you treat people, and how you have that level of love and good manners. It shouldn't change your tone. And use of Allah. He said, I'm played that example. In prison, he was noticed he was recognized as part of the magazine, someone when he does, he does things perfectly. And when it came to became rich and wealthy, and powerful, so powerful, he could finish his own brothers. He could do whatever he wanted to do. No one said anything to him. But you could see that his Goodman's that love the perfection in the way he dealt with people was even recognized. And they said, in an Oracle machine, we noticed that you are the masculine, you

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seem to be a good reasonable person with good manners well behaved. Now the question that I asked myself and asked you in this Ramadan, what is it that you care about the most?

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What is it? Do you care about, you know, coming first, regardless, if you're gonna run over people as you drive around, and you don't care about, you know, parking in the right place or wrong place? Who cares? Let the neighbors be upset with the parking spot anyways? Is that what we prefer? That's not good manners. When you come to the method, and all of what you care about, just you enjoy your taraweeh and you enjoy your Salah, and no one you know, no one else. I don't care about anybody else. So whether you bring your kids or not, they don't care, because you want to enjoy it. That's not what Ramadan is all about. When it comes to now, fasting, what do you say? What do you do? What

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do you watch? What do you hear? What do you observe? Because the best manager is supposed to be first with Allah subhanho wa Taala and then with everybody else. So what is the level of grace love your manners? What is it that you actually observe in your in your life? When it comes to the best, and the number one good deed of Ramadan should be actually that I start working on my good manners and my Islam? Why is that? Because that's the essence of our Deen.

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That is the essence of our Deen or sort of law. His sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was present for and in many, many ways. But the highest thing that Allah subhanho wa Taala recognized the prophets Allah Muhammad, when he said we're in La Jolla, caloocan. India, Mohammed you are on a higher standard of character.

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That is the highest recognition the prophets Allah is getting from Allah subhanho wa Taala. And why is that for? Why is Allah subhanho wa Taala has mentioned this in the Quran. Anyway, that's about the Prophet salaallah Salah because it's supposed to be our our role model,

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like a

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certain Hasina, that there was for the Prophet salla Salah for you there was a good model was written Hasina, so that we follow his example. So what the law he was ramani and here's some of the things the professor lesson, you know, was recognized even among the people, the people around him so a lot of them they recognize that I showed the law she said McKenna had a son who can marry Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam the Messenger of Allah Allah said, No one ever no one you could see back to that time an old time that you will ever see someone who was well mannered better than the professor lasala no one had a character that was more you know, perfect and more beautiful than the

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Prophet salaallah salams character and she said Maddie hadn't been as happy he was he in love Kala bake the no one ever called the profit or loss. Relatives friends so have a containers buddy responsibility love bake, I'm here listening.

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Like he's always there for the people sallallahu wasallam you call this a people's person,

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a people's person. And Rasulullah has said Allah Sam says I have goodness habra, bad Illa and found a the most beloved people to Allah subhanho wa Taala are those who are most beneficial to his dependence which means the creation of Allah azza wa jal, those who are most beneficial to the people, being a people's person is part of good manners and Allah and that was the character of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Ramadan is all about that being the people's person to speak about perfecting your manners and your love with the people. She said the Prophet sallallahu Sallam again, no one ever called the professor but he said I'm here listening. And that's when she quoted

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she said that's why Allah subhana wa tada revealed will invoke Allah Allah Allah Kannada medida Muhammad, you all know high standard of character. So what is the husband? Hello, good character. What does it mean exactly to perfect your manager of law? It's the essence of our good deeds again.

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Ramadan, I know many people they focus on the easy part. And that is to read the Quran from cover to cover to come at night and pray. You know what, even kids can do that. Trust me, I've seen kid standing all night Subhanallah you know with the 20 record even they read the Quran, Masha, probably better than me and you, but when it comes to good manners, and that requires a conscious effort that requires a conscious effort to have good manners, dealing with the people in town that is extremely extremely difficult. When you believe that they don't deserve that good manners and good luck from you Well, when you are well mannered,

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It's not about the people actually it's about you. It's not about they're deserving this good manners from you or not. It's you deserve to be the well behaved and well mannered person. And now I spin some out of the Allahu terranova sadhana be salatu wa salam, another one day the prophets Allah was asked by animosity samanya Rasul Allah malborough. What is Albert.

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Albert is the general term in the Arabic language that, that includes everything, everything that is good, everything that is good. The word better in Arabic language comes from the word Albert and BA in the Arabic language is actually traveling in a route that expands, explains what is considered spacious and has no boundaries. That's why in the Arabic language when it comes to the sea, opposite to the sea, which is the land we call it, Alberto

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because it has no boundaries. And that's why when you teach your parents in good manners, what do we call this barrel valid in the barrel of the holiday and miss being beautiful to your parents, and the best of luck and best manners. And that's why the people of agenda were called abroad because abroad, their manners and that our flock and their goodies and their goodness, basically, the goodness is limitless. And that's why Allah subhanho wa Taala even called the angels in the Quran, Quran Bharara. He called them Bharara which means also again, that the goodness of the angels is limitless. So he was asking the prophets Allah said about what is good Yasser Allah, what's the

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meaning of doing good Alberta. The prophets of Assam says personal Hello,

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good character.

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The word Hassan even though we use the word good in English for translate the word husband, but it's a poor translation, because her son as I said, in the Arabic, it means perfection, like perfect character.

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So to be a perfect human being, you're going to have to aspire to a higher standard of character.

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That's what differentiate between people in this dunya and also in the alpha, because the prophets Allah Salam said, Bala hiromasa newcomers lotta

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to come the best among you are those who invest in their manners, their character, and how much or under a dividend Ramadan, or how many Raka they pray at night? No, no, no, no. What's the point of all of this, this person is going to be rude to his or her spouse?

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What's the point if this is going to be your way of dealing with your parents, dealing with your siblings or dealing with the loved one, and even your community? What's the point of this? So when it comes to Ramadan, the number one good deed of the month of Ramadan that you need to work on observe is work on your character. Work on your manners.

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The professor Sam says in the Hadith Mammon che in film is any scholar and the law firm in hustlin, hollow and certainly be the

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owner of the prophets, Allah Sam said there is nothing heavier in the scale with Allah subhana wa than on the Day of Judgment than hustlin hollow that perfect character and perfect manners. So what does it mean then? What does it mean when we say Western collagen? What does that what do I get out of this? and hustle and bustle Rahim? Allah Allah said happycow to personal khaolak but the motto of the essence of having good character is always doing good at all times, but the motto which means to do that which is good all the time so it's not contingent upon what is your own separate kit what people do to you No, no, no, no, you do it regardless whether reciprocate that or not, whether they

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return that favor that goodness from you or not, it doesn't matter that you always actually do that which is which is good. And he said we're careful other that he abstained from hurting people, what a lot. And having a cheerful face when you meet people.

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That's the essence of hustle.

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And a lot of them I would describe it they say that even Mensa Hulu Carrasco if your manners are going to be constrained, which means you're going to have ill manners that would result in having your risk would be constraint upon your provision. Your life will be tight upon you. You know, people don't like ill mannered people. They don't like that. You're going to get fired easily.

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You're not going to have good company, good friends around you. If you're ill mannered. They need someone who will be truthful with them, someone who will be they will know that when I associate myself with this person, I will get something good out of it in sha Allah hota Baraka with Allah. So what's the meaning of then having Hassan Hello, how can I get that? What are the signs of having good manners? One of the Elena was asked once, how do I know that I have good manners. He said, an akuna Cathedral hyah. So you have a lot of shyness. When we say shyness is not bashfulness this is not the weakness of the character. No, you're shy, meaning when there's something that is wrong, you

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stay away from it. But if something right, you're strong, and you take care of it, carry

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that you don't hurt people. You don't hurt other people. Cassius Allah hasn't good, upright character. So do khalistan truthful

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When they speak, they tell the truth karelian kalami Kathy Raman, they speak less but they do more means they actually always work on what they claim what they say. kalila you may they make less mistakes. Why? Because they're always conscious of what they do. They didn't just go follow their desires, they're conscious of what they're doing. kalila they don't stick their nose in every everyone else's efforts, you know, they always keep it for themselves, most of the time they keep upon themselves. Baron is righteous was sulan connect with the people and the relatives and relatives. Warren has that sense of hyper which means sense of dignity. Sabu has patience Shaku

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grateful and mentioned a lot of actually qualities, a lot of qualities. But the bottom line is that when you deal with the people, you remember one thing, my dealing with the people is actually dealing with Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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When I deal with the people, that's how I present myself to Allah as the agenda because the prophets of Allah said him again. He said, that the most beloved people to Allah subhanho wa Taala are those who are most beneficial to his dependant to his creation. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us among those who will manage amin and those are always be helpful to other people who are blind me akula Cody Hannah was tougher la de la Welcome, sir Mr. Universe tofu

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Alhamdulillah Allah Allah sallallahu wasallam Americana Vina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa seldom at the Sleeman kathira to mama bad mother brothers and sisters. We talked a lot before Ramadan about what you need to do in order to make your Ramadan the best Ramadan ever. And you have probably been doing martial a lot of these good deeds, I want you to pause and think about it. If what you're doing is causing you to cut ties with relatives and loved ones if what you're doing is causing you some causes some tension between you and community members and and and co workers and so on. And I want you to check back again what you're doing is this beneficial.

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Go back again and see if this is affecting the quality of your life and your manners with the people. This is the number one Ramadan goodie that you need to observe and work on your character, your as luck and your manners. Because they're going to be easy job. Nope. Especially if you're not used to it.

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If you're not, if you're not used to always doing good regardless of what people do, it's going to be very difficult for you to do that. So what do I do? Keep trying.

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Just keep trying. My best of the lot and he said, Hi Radha. Goodness is a habit. Which means when you keep practicing something over and over again, over and over again over and over again in sha Allah the habit of doing good will result in becoming part of your character becoming part of your character now what is the character of a human being anyway, it just a set of habits that you do on a regular basis, that becomes your character overall. So make sure that you keep trying and keep trying and keep trying, doing good deeds, and having the highest standard of character is actually the sign of profit. This is from the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam he has the perfect

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character so what Allah was Somali, we're not going to be prophets or ambia Not at all, but at least we try to follow the example and this is the chance for us inshallah tada during the month of Ramadan melas give a special sort of LLM in the loss of hard access or fasciola and accept our gamma or da Allah subhanaw taala or good digital Brahmin Allah Melinda manzana when Fatima lantana in the country lallemand Hakeem a la mattina fusina taqwa was a key anti-romantic antoniou harmala by the law in the law Malika soluna Nabil Yeah, you're Latina amanu sallu alayhi wa sallam with us Lima Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa ala hamanaka

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