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Finding Love in Ramadan

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Yahya Ibrahim

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Episode Notes

Finding Love in Ramadan by Yahya Ibrahim Yahya Ibrahim’s latest lecture that was held 2 weeks ago in Perth, Australia.

Hate is just as blind as love, if not more. Many of us, at one point or another, have disliked another human being to a sinful degree. Our heart, normally soft and forbearing, constricts in rancor against them. Naturally, there are usually justifications for our hatefulness, and in reality the reasons probably warrant some level of aversion.

Often I am asked to sit in mediation between estranged couples, emotionally charged fathers and sons, feuding relatives, distrustful neighbors or disputing former business partners. On one such occasion a seemingly outwardly devout gentleman leaned over and said, “Shaykh, if I die before you, please lead my janāzah and make sincere du‘ā’ for me. Also I give this as a wasiyya, if Omar (the man he is in dispute with) comes to pray at my funeral, I want you to kick him out of the masjid and tell him that I do not need his prayers.”

The seed of hate begins to sprout in the depth of the heart and, without intervention, the seed takes root and rises out of the heart into a thicket of anger, mistrust, gossip, fear, separation and condescension.

Read more on:https://muslimmatters.org/2014/07/21/finding-love-in-ramadan-part-1/

Episode Transcript

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What's up la levita aluna v we are in the LA hurricane alley Kumara theva yah yah Latina am an otaku La Hoya Hulu Colin Sadie, the American. Well philippou Amina la hora pseudo hobbema my back, always in forever We begin with a praise of Allah we send our prayers a peace upon the NaVi Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. We testify with firmness and conviction that none is worthy of worship but God and that Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as his final messenger. I continue to remind myself in you of Tacoma, piety and consciousness of God. And that was the legacy that has been bestowed down to humanity from the beginning of time from the time of Adam alayhis salaam, and it

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will remain as a concise legacy for us as human beings who walked this earth until the end of days. And I pray that Allah subhanho wa Taala makes that consciousness that piety we have within us, within our heart that which is private to us, that that is much more accessible and true than what we seek to project and show to others in our public life. Allahumma amin finding love and Ramadan. It's a beautiful, beautiful topic. We're going to talk about love. We're going to talk about Baraka blessing. We're going to talk about taqwa, piety and consciousness. We're going to talk about loving other people, especially those who are nearest to us. We're going to talk about the three levels of

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fasting, the fasting of, you know, the intent, the fasting of the limbs and the fasting of the heart. There's so many things that relate to love and Ramadan, and taqwa and piety. And I wanted to share with you initially, that our aim in the month of Ramadan is set for us and the goal of fasting in the month of Ramadan is not one where we try to invent You know, a lot doesn't say to us try to do something, he tells us what it is that we should focus on. And Allah Subhana Allah Allah says, Yeah, you holla Dina Armando Oh, you have faith, Cookie balikian prescribed upon you is fasting, can makuti ballon Latina men publikum, as it was written upon the nation's before you, the People of the

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Scripture before you, our cousins and faith, the Jews and the Christians, they had different forms of fasting, for example, you wouldn't be surprised to know that one of the forms of fasting with a vow of silence. So a nun, for example, she might say, I'm not going to speak for one day, three days, seven days and so on. And we find in our program that zecharia the prophet Zechariah Alia said that when he was given the blessing that he was to have a son named Yahya, alayhis, salaam, john the baptist, his son was to be given to him. He asked Allah give me a sign, how can I thank you, and Allah subhanaw taala said, Thank me by holding your tongue not speaking for three days and nights,

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Fela Fela in Serbia, that was a form of Sudan. And the greater aspect of Siam for us as believers was to fast we've also our tongue and our eyes and our mind and our heart, but it begins also with abstinence. Now, one of the things that's extremely important for us to understand initially, is that every moment where you seek to succeed, the moment you decide what you want to succeed in, requires for you deliberation, endurance, patience, and a delay of instantaneous gratification. You have to say to something, I'm gonna hold myself back from you, because I want that then

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I want that then. Now, I must do something to get what I will have tomorrow. And the Lord tells us in the Quran, yeah, Johan levena. amanu Oh, you have faith.

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It toquilla be mindful of God be conscious of God when it comes to Neptune academically hard and let each soul

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To what it brings the next day, what are you going to do for that next day? What do you want? What success do you seek? And the imagery of success in the Quran is that of a farmer, Allah says, If

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successful are those who are believers, the word success in Adobe alfalah it comes from fun laugh, right? A farmer, someone who's gonna toil his back, it takes backbreaking work, you clear the field, you move the stones, you dig out the roots, you irrigate the land, you leave it for months, and then you plant the seed. And that seed had, we're going to talk about it as being linked to whom it's the same word with a different accent, because they both work in the same way.

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Love is a potential is a seed that is planted. And therefore that seed that is put in the soil, you might look at that little apple seed that you and I throw out, we don't ingest, you say it's not worth anything. It's worth money. It's worth time. It's worth delicious apple pies. It's worth many things. But it's only the one who is determined who sees it through, who lets the tree grow, protects it from weeds, nurtures it with irrigation and shades it from the sun and praying birds until it reaches its full potential. And the law says that that full potential for us as believers is to take that fruit at its right time, but it takes sacrifice and a delay of gratification today

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for tomorrow. That is called cm. You learn to hold myself back. See that bottle of water sometimes could be more valuable than life itself. It's the source of life. Hello kakula shamima Allah says, mean Allah, Allah kanakam everything created from watcher Everything needs that drop of water.

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And then the Lord of all that exists the one who Holla Holla The one who creates it does he not know what's right for his creation. He's the one who says don't drink it while the sun is up. Because you can do it. And if you can stay away from it, you can stay away from other things in your life. The aim of course in the month of Ramadan quotevalet Kumasi I'm it's written for you can equity Valentina Min publikum The reason law law comm perhaps,

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if you do it right, if you're fortunate, by chance, maybe if you're lucky law law,

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that acun your piety, your consciousness, your magnetic magnification of God may increase a little or much depending on your effort in that month of Ramadan. So this month that's coming up in 20 some odd days is a big month. And this this talk really for me for me myself is a stepping stone to having a good Ramadan. My hope in sha Allah is that the words that I shared with you while I would have been that he had with Akira can be here and sir and I seek protection from a love that I remind you of that which I forget. May Allah subhanaw taala allow our reminder to benefit us as well inshallah

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Baraka see the Prophet when the month of Ramadan would come, he would talk about blessing. You would think that the month of Ramadan is about holding back, you know, you're not going to take something you're not going to eat, you're not going to drink, you're not going to enjoy the company of your spouse. Where's the blessing in that? But the thing that the Prophet talks about as being the most intrinsic essential element of the month of Ramadan Atacama Ramadan shadow Mubarak, the month of Ramadan is coming. It is a month of Baraka blessing

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see whenever something good happens that you aren't we make for one another is for blessing. The brother gets married use a Bartok Allahu Allah. May Allah put Baraka in your marriage, you get a new baby barakallahu li kathina hupe may Allah put Baraka in this young child who was a gift to you from God.

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Anything of success of worth we ask a lot to give it Baraka and therefore, it becomes necessary for us to ask what is this Baraka? See, Baraka doesn't reside in anything, it is only from Allah.

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The Baraka I have in the Baraka you have in your life is not your own doing. Baraka it is a gracious blessing from Allah. It is a grace of God that at times, we're not worthy of it. And the aim of arriving at the Baraka is that it is sent by Allah, it's not manifest in any one place or thing. Not even in Abuja, Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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So Baraka would refer to particular fees, objects can have Baraka places can have Baraka time, like the month of Ramadan can have Baraka occasions like the Hajj can have Baraka, a locality like the cow that and what is surrounding it Philistine Palestine May Allah subhanho wa Taala end its oppression, has Baraka, Baraka, Allah, places endowed with blessing that God sent that blessing. And when Allah subhana wa Taala talks about blessing,

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he's saying that it is a beneficent force, from a law

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that flows through a physical and a spiritual sphere, in the form of one of these three things, prosperity, protection or fulfilment,

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prosperity, protection, or fulfillment. Sometimes Baraka is just a feeling. I feel good about my life. I feel good about my job. It's not that the Baraka that I got the job is that in my job, I function well I enjoy being there. It's a blessing sent to me by Allah subhanahu wa Tada.

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Now, Baraka

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means one of three things.

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And that will amount when they talk about Baraka, they say,

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if it occurs in something little it increases it,

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you have something

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and it's little, you sometimes underestimated, you know, in Ramadan.

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You know, we've all had this, you come at the end of the day, you know, Mashallah you or your wife for cooking. And you look at the food and you say, but we have 45 people coming. Surely this isn't enough. Sometimes at the end of cooking, you panic, is there anything in the freezer, go get some chips or fish and go put, put something more, all of us have that panic. And we underestimate what Allah then puts Baraka in. And this will happen with the Prophet and his companions on the law and home. While he of de la sala Timothy slim, Baraka is that that which you assume would not be enough is made more than enough. And the Prophet would say things to us, like the food of two is enough for

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three, and the food of three is enough for five, and the food of five is enough for a group, don't count the numbers. Don't look at the thing, if your intention is good, if you did it with the right intention, the Baraka will come, and those who will eat maybe three spoons will feel like they had a full meal because of the Baraka. Number two, is that if it occurs, if it occurs in something great, it protects it. Sometimes that hamdulillah you've been blessed, and a law has given you something good. You look at that, Mashallah beautiful home, that you find the 100 law paid off, your children who've grown up getting married, you look at something that you've achieved, has achieved it, it's

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almost complete.

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You don't want to add to it, what you want is to protect it. And that's Baraka, that Allah.

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God is the one who guards what is already in place.

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Third,

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of Baraka a blessing is that which you don't have, and never thought you could ever have, that you could not plan how you would ever get it. You could not if you were to try to chart a course, to arrive at that successful destination. You could not even envision it. But a law provides means from where you did not suspect.

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And the law speaks of this in the

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way your resume in high school as

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a law will provide provisions from where one does not think they can arrive. When mania tequila Yaga Allahu Maharaja, the one who is conscious of God. A law always makes for them an exit from every difficulty in life. Baraka therefore and taqwa are tied together. And whenever the Prophet would speak about taqwa, Baraka was always implied in his discussion.

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Baraka is not a state and is not permanent. And you may have Baraka now, but it may be taken from you. And therefore, you're always asking Allah, Allah home as Ilana what that is nafi overlocked increase as input Baraka in it. Oh Allah, increase it and preserve it. Oh Allah give us more from that which is good.

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taqwa,

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which is the pursuit of Baraka

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taqwa is what establishes Baraka,

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your honoring of God, your obedience of the Almighty. Your love of him

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is what attracts his blessing to you. It's what makes you stand out from the others.

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I put on my Facebook a translation of one of the things he said. He said, you know a law is bad. And Rahim Allah says Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim. Allah Muhammad Muhammad says Allah man, it's like the sun. It benefits everyone in general. But a Rahim is like that individual sunray that touches you.

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Look at that. Look at that imagery. A lot is like man, that glowing sun every day everyone's gonna benefit something from it. But when he is, he is Especially Merciful. God is compassionate. But he is especially compassionate, especially merciful to those who distinguish themselves to him, to those who possess taqwa. And therefore the aim in the month of Ramadan is that you stand a foot higher than those around you that you show a law, your true self, here I am. And these concepts that you know, when we go to HUD, you say let Baker or live come to enter. You hear me I'm here. I'm available for your service.

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Fasting

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leads to taqwa if it's done right. And there are three different levels of fasting so Pamela, all of us in sha Allah, we will establish the first level of fasting. All of us We will begin by fasting from food from drink. For those of us married from lustful intentions and leanings to our spouse, we will disconnect while the sun is up, we are separate from one another.

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We don't enjoy each other.

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And that in itself is difficult to hamdulillah in Perth were blessed. You know, I think it's something like 10 or 11 hours of fasting. I was teasing some of my friends, you know, who are you know, in the in those northern countries? Yeah, love protect them. 16 hours, 40 minutes in Toronto. Right. And some of the hottest temperatures that have been recorded. You know, since people started beginning records have had been seen like in Egypt in these countries where they're fasting 14 1516 1718 hours, Norway are fasting 20 hours.

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I love you in the middle of

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abstinence, you know, that's tough.

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And regularly, of course, the Imams will explain to people that if you're unable to fast, don't fast, you begin the day fasting, see, what do you do when it's 20 hours double what we're fasting, you begin the day fasting, and when you feel tired, you're unable to continue it's too much. You break your fast and counted as a day that you will make up. You read the law who become will use Allah wishes facility for us, he doesn't want us to punish ourselves. Don't think that you're 20 hours, oh my god, I'm gonna have to 20 days, 30 days in a row. No, you might be able to do it the first day, second day, third day. And you might come to the fourth day and say insha Allah, I'll do

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it. You come at, you know, three o'clock in the afternoon and you look I don't break my fast till 10pm I need to eat. And I need to drink colosse how you run, you eat and you drink and you count that day for another day that you make when the sun is at a more opportune time. And therefore, fasting was never about harshness. It was about self development and self control and the ability to learn to delay gratification for a greater aim. In life. The second level of fasting is the fast thing of the limbs.

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Is that where your eyes

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are lowered? Your tongue is guarded. Your hearing is protected. Your habits change you know some of the things that we do that we know we shouldn't do. You begin to guard yourself from them a little bit. Perhaps I you know, I was listening to this kind of sometimes there's some vulgar music that cut me I'm not no I'm gonna cut that out in Ramadan. Perhaps you know it's a person who used to indulge in watching, you know, certain shows or certain movies or things that they know they shouldn't view. They come in the month of Ramadan because it's a month of blessing because it's a month you can overcome yourself, you restrict yourself. You go that little bit further. I'm not

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Just gonna eat. I'm not going to just stop eating and drinking. No, I'm going to do better. The one who wasn't able to wake up for

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530 in the morning or no, I'm going to wake up because I need to eat as well. Right? There's an added incentive Mashallah handler no problem. No problem, right? The one who doesn't normally go to the masjid his foot doesn't carry him to the mosque as often. All of a sudden men and women, they say, No, I want to go, I want to hear the Hold on. I want to I want to hear it. I want to hear what it sounds like I want to hear the whole time from beginning to end. I'm going to go I'm going to be the mind from the beginning to the end. Because the prophets I seldom said the one who stands with the Imam, from the moment he stands until he ends at the night is written for him what the Imam

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recited, I want to be like that man. I want to I want I want that blessing. So your limbs begin to humble to Allah.

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Now, the third level of fasting, may Allah allow us to grow in that maturity is that our heart fasts.

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And that's where we talk about love

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is that all of a sudden,

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the fasting is not out of duty.

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And obedience to God is not out of compulsion. And it's not because everyone around me does it. You know, we're a Muslim family, or we're the MSA or whatever it is. But the Lord of all that exists, who has provided for me for 11 months in the year,

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has asked me to consider the needs of others and feel the pain of others and share in the journey of others. And has asked me for little

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and out of love and out of humility. I'm going to bow down to the one who created me and fashioned me

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and therefore love for Allah. And for his creation

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takes root and exists in that heart.

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Finding love

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the word love in Arabi. It's a really strange word. Now, believe it or not.

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Some of the Arab scholars

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of the mid centuries were the first people to write about love. And Amanda and her husband, for example, he was an end eleusinian scholar right from Anvil of Spain. He wrote a book that was translated and became the masterpiece of love and the discourse of love for generations. You know how In popular culture today there's this concept of a soulmate. That concept comes from his book, total human, the ring of love of the doves, right, he wrote a book about love. And it has made talks about soulmates and all these kinds of things. And he analyzes the words that the word let you know that the letters of the word love. See, the Arabic language is a very mystical language.

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Each letter at the beginning of the Word tells you what the word would mean irrespective of the other letters. So for example, if I words that begin with the letter Sheen, like shims, or shujaa, or Shea Thawne. What's the one commonality of all of them

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any word that begins with Sheen, it means that word signifies something spreading, the sun spreads its raise, the tree spreads its branches, the shaitan spreads evil

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letters, like

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for example, cough. That's the majestic letter. It's one of the most powerful letters in the Arabic Les Paul, everyone say Paul is like gutturals are all like, if you're a woman, you feel like a man call. You know, it's like when a call, right? And all of the words that come with that letter beginning it it's something about power, and nobility and authority or an column.

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Right? Ha

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ha, who can say how

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do you see that? It comes from deep down.

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It's actually one of the most difficult letters in the Arabic language, especially for the Quran. For those who you know, seek to master the law or the re citation of the whole on. Ha, it's not ha ha right. And it's you know, I remember you sometimes you would sit hours right in a particular word you a boon you

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boon and use that your a boon and you even buena Ha. And the teacher would look at you say ha ha ha

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ha is a tough word it tough letter. And Allah mommy has me says the reason the word hope begins with her is because it's tough to find love.

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No, no, no. Go with me Come. He's a really romantic kind of guy, right?

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By the way Alabama has is the fifth month had the ball heavy metal in our, you know, Sunni discourse right? Now the letter ba is the easiest letter in the Arabic alphabet. The first word Your Son Daughter says is bah bah bah, bah, bah, bah, bah, bah, bah, bah, bah, bah, bah, bah. Because it's easy to lose love.

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It's difficult to find love how.

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And it's easy to lose love. The

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hope comes from that word, that if you change the accent, from a gamma to affect her,

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it becomes had from from hope to have, which means the seed

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and the function of love and seeds are the same. That love begins at something small, always in miniscule, always full of potential parked in that little seed. There are children to be brought into the world there are grandchildren that will come from that little seed. There are anniversaries and happiness and sorrow and tragedy. All of that in that little seed of love.

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And love is of three stages.

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He talks about the physical love you know if you show me your baby, I say my show love it the kubera love this baby.

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The first step you look at something you love it you fall in love with. And they say you know I saw her brother

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class.

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I can't even tell you I can't even tell you

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how alator brother wasn't a seed It was a tree straightaway tree.

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mango tree brother delicious.

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Have

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straightaway.

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But the physical is that immature love

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and shangela someone will pay him you know, he talks about love. He talks about 60 different characteristics of love. Like he he's written novels on love. Right? And he talks about 60 levels of of that a mature physical love, where a person forgets things. You know, they wake up at night I'm in love, you know, see stars in the middle of that. Look at the stars brothers. You say okay, it's a lot of time what do you

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do you hear the birds seem you know, chirpy or louder. Smash Allah Love is in the air.

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Right? Then he, he, he goes on to emotion

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where he begins to talk about the second stage of love is that it's now attachment. Because of human emotion, human compassion, my whether it goes from hug the tumor, whether and a lot of talks about this man, whether in the Koran Jalla Vina, whom

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Allah places between a husband and wife, what cannot be there outside that marital union. Outside that husband and wife, you can never have my word that you can have that immature love. Oh, she looks nice. But that my window where it's compassionate love, where it's that love that wakes you up at two o'clock in the morning to change your son's diaper.

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I love the kid.

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He smells bad at two in the morning. When is love, right? So now it's emotional. You show me over here. It's a cute baby. But look at my baby.

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My baby is much more beautiful, because I'm emotionally attached. But the third stage of love

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is the love that is of sacrifice.

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It goes beyond the physical

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and it's not attached emotionally.

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It is one where you as a person who loves another are willing to endure for them what you would endure for no one else

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and the greatest

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of those who we love with that attempt of sacrifice is the Almighty. And a lot of talks about this in the Quran where he says, well meaning, there are some in mankind who love objects, people things, they love other things. They love the worldly life. You're a Buddha who they love those things in the way that only a lot deserves to be loved in only the way that God deserves to be adored. When Lavina Amma no but those who believe I should have been Linda, are more

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clear Kelly,

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harder, deeper in love to God than anything else they encounter in life.

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That's where you say to yourself, I can forego this because God said so. I can stay away from water because it pleases a law that I can show and demonstrate self control. I can take out of my pocket wealth for someone who I haven't seen someone I don't know that I will bless them with it. Hoping not for thanks for them because they don't know it was me. But only that Allah be pleased with me. I will pray at night when other sleep because I love Allah. I will fast on days when it's hot.

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Because I love Allah.

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I will adorn myself with hijab in the face at times of Islamophobia and fear mongering and hatred, because I love Allah.

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I will overcome my personal vices because I love a law

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and not sacrifice.

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That epitome of love. That highest level of love is the end of that concept of La Ilaha Illa lotto heat that had bad that you love Allah and therefore your worship of him is driven by love, not just by obedience to Him subhana wa Tada. Now I want to talk about how we chase it.

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And there are five steps

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that I want to talk about all of them are taken from words of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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Now these aren't the only five there's more to them but we have short time together five things that are off the beaten path. I'm not going to talk to you about fasting and about reading Koran or the I'm going to talk to you about love as being an essential ingredient that you need to enter Ramadan with not just try to produce it in Ramadan, an Imam Ali or the Allahu Allahu Allah Allah he he used to say I used to prepare for the month of Ramadan by forgiving my enemies.

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I want you to think about that.

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You know how you know we say to each other Oh, I'm gonna fast the month of show well and jab and I'm gonna pass in, in chabanne and, you know, I want to give more charity I want to save up to give my zecca in that month.

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Eliade Allahu anhu, he saw things a little bit different. He said, If I want to make sure that Allah is going to accept my asking of mercy, I must be merciful to the people who have wronged me. If I want a lot to hear me say y'all have differently Oh ALLAH forgive me, then I must forgive others. He said that I would prepare for the arrival of the night of Ramadan that night before Ramadan by freeing my heart of malice towards others, or the Allahu anhu.

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Now one of the things that are quoted

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in

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the books of wild the books of narration is the concept of use of Allah Salaam as being a mystical illusion of the month of Ramadan, that Yusuf Ali Salaam, his story and his surah was revealed before Ramadan became a fact it was in Mecca and it was a way of getting the prophet to think about the importance of that month of Ramadan it would arrive. And the amount of Bill Josie he talks about in Busan, Anwar alene. And others you know mentioned similar that Yusuf was one of 12 brothers just like Ramadan is one of 12 months and use of is the one who guaranteed forgiveness for his other 11 brothers. by him forgiving them they were led to forgive the forgiveness of Allah and by you

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exerting yourself a normal bond, perhaps your 11 months where you were negligent, could be forgiven to you by Allah subhanaw taala So number one,

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the first element that I want to discuss with you

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for finding that love of God

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is finding love for our family in particular, our spouse in the month of Ramadan

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you know, astounds me Subhana Allah sometimes will lie. It astounds me that you will have a husband and wife who have fasted all day hungry, thirsty, and then they come and sit at the dinner table to breakfast together, and they don't speak to one another.

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That they're angry with one another.

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They're doing this great act of devotion to Allah subhana wa Tada, hoping for his mercy and cannot show mercy to one another.

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And the first element, my dear brother, my dear sister, for those of you and I, who are married, is to enter that month of Ramadan in love, hand in hand, sharing joy in our heart. You know, the Prophet says that there are two moments of joy when a person is fasting, the moment you break your fast,

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who you sit with who you share it with that that climate in your home.

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I don't care what you're arguing about what law he I don't care. I don't care if your husband lost all the money.

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I don't care if the children are a little bit wild. Sometimes mine are two.

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I don't care what is between the two of you. Ramadan has come the Shea THON is out there is no reason for you not to in that moment of seeking God to seek each other and comfort through each other.

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And therefore the first advice that I give you in the month of Ramadan as it arrives to you is to rectify your situation with your home life with your family, with your children. Yeah.

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Young men,

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young men, whose parents have raised you, whose mother your mother picked you up when everyone puts you down.

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You who your mother young sister, who she fed you before she fed herself,

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who closed you with the best of cloth and wore the same a job herself.

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Who paid for your school fees and who drove you from one sporting event to the other? Who took you to Duke see classes or wherever you it is to learn the whole on

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the month of Ramadan comes the center of your life is your father and your mother.

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Love of your family is the greatest honor that you have on the Day of Judgment. They are the ones who will vouch for you. They are the ones who will talk about you. I'll have now humbly sorry at him. And the law tells you in the Quran, that those who are righteous they will seek to pull with them. They're the re of their offspring, you're going to reach out to your grandson, you're going to reach out to your children

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you're going to reach out to your father and mother when you have made it in gender and a law you know the Prophet he describes this beautiful Hadith where a person will be engender and he's about to enjoy something and he remembers that person who used to heap who he used to or she used to be friend in this life and they will ask the angel about them and the angel they will say they haven't come to paradise yet. And you and I may allow me because of those four first people in jedna we're gonna say you're up How can I enjoy this near my engender when I know this man, this woman I love this behind me.

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And a law on account of your love will bring them to you. Allahu Akbar. Hadith is in the Muslim Imam Achmad. Love is powerful. Love is what will mean cue from those who come near to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, although your deeds are not worthy of it. You know, there was this one Sahabi one man. He was just in a mosque with the Prophet. And he walked walked out and he ran back crying.

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And he came to the prophet and he said Yasuda law in a book on messenger of Allah don't leave here until you know I love you. The prophets I send them said, grammatical. Think deliberate about what you just said. And the man said, well lucky in a book by God, I love you. Yeah, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the prophets I send them said If you love me, then be prepared for test and trial. Life isn't going to be easy for you there

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things you have to sacrifice and give up on account of me, you'll have to fast and endure and push hard.

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And trials and tests will come upon you quicker than the water flows down the side of a mountain after heavy rain, like a landslide like a tsunami of tests.

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matter who think again of what you said, he said, your rasulillah in.

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I'm willing to face it on account of that love. But you're also law I fear that even though I love you and I tried to be a good man, when I die, I don't know if I will go to Jenna. I don't know if I'll make it to paradise, but you will be with the prophets and you will be the martyrs and you will be with the highest of people and never going to see you again that made me cry, that I'll never see you again.

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And the prophets I sell them gibreel descended. And revelation came from Allah and the Sahaba. They said there was no area in Nakuru and that was revealed that made us more happy than this verse, that Allah Subhana Allah said, Only through Allah Havasu, those who have obedience to Allah and His messenger. And they love Allah and His Messenger, for Allah for them, man nabin, I will join them with the prophets was to do clean the acceptors of truth with Shahada, he was solid he, I will allow them to be with the Prophet of Allah, even though they haven't done and deserve that rank, on account of love. Begin with that love in your home, with your husband, with your wife, with your

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children, with your mother, with your father, and the prophets on the law. How do you seldom

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he says it's impossible for a believing man to hate a believing woman. There is no man who has believed in a law that can hate his wife.

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If a person has hate for his wife can't be a believer, cannot be a genuine true believer in a lot. Because if he sees something he doesn't like Surely, with the eyes of faith, he will see something he likes. That's belief look at other prophet talks to us some of the lahari he on early wasafi, who ascended

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number to show compassion and every single one of these statements is a hadith is a statement of the prophet SAW, I send them all of them gathered from the authentic sources.

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The Prophet would say begin with those who are nearest to you in relation.

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Show your righteousness and your conduct to them first.

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Your in laws, you know, I want you to treat you know, sometimes we talk we kind of scoff about the law, the mother in law, the demon, you know,

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these kind of false concepts.

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Your mother in law, our scholars, they right she has the same rank as your Father, not as your mother, but as your father, a quarter of your duty is to her.

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Three quarters is to your mother, but a quarter is to her she has the rank of your father.

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You who has taken that wife as your as your bride.

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Your mother in law is a sacred duty between you and Allah. And I just say to you think of how the prophets I send them treated his in laws, Abu Bakr, Umar, radi, Allahu anhu, and others, right think of the duties that are owed to them.

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Remember, that a believer loves for others what they love for themselves. And here the Prophet talks about love.

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A true believer is that you learn for yourself, and you want others to have it. And one of the key concepts of this is that you have to know what what I what I should love for myself. Some of us we forget to love things for ourselves. We're always worried about other people. But Allah Subhana Allah and the Prophet always tells us No, we have to enjoy life and we have to love things for ourselves. We have to know what's good for us so that we can know what we want for others. And the Prophet would say that the food of one the comfort of one the home for one is enough for to that that which you have, don't ever think it's not enough. And don't ever think you can't part from it.

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And don't ever think you shouldn't share it. And don't ever think that by saving and saving and hoarding rather than saving hoarding and keeping from others that that actually will prosper you and profit you in any way.

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And the Prophet would say Masada man na na casa monuments of the clock, never does someone share from their wealth in charity and that they themselves are deprived of it always returns

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In greater and greater amounts. The greatest charity of course is that a person spends on his family. You know the prophets lie Selim says, up brought to soccer, the soccer the charity that has the greatest bollock. I remember we're talking about Baraka is that a man spends on his wife, sisters love this Howdy. There like brother, Can you say that again?

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All the mobile phones record that brother.

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The sadaqa the charity with the greatest blessing is infallible know, Allah, Allah is a man buy something for his wife, because it puts love between each other.

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Remember that the one who feeds others, receives the reward of the one who they fed to who was fasting, while that person doesn't lose any reward, while you're another young person as you re

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invite people to your home, bring people in,

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share with the blessing that Allah has given you. If you're not going to have people in take out to others, you know, Subhan Allah, where's our brother Abdullah, who here from the MSA, Mashallah we feed how many people every night in Ramadan. We feed in this university every night of Ramadan. 250 students, Allahu Akbar when he left in Holland,

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sharing that

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same thing at my other University, University of Western Australia. hundreds of students who have come from international places, they don't have a home cooked meal do something. You know, there's this one brother and I'm not gonna it doesn't matter who he is. He Oh, he brings a basket. You know how, you know you see a lot of Muslims on the Saturday markets. You know, those are? I see a lot of you brother. Don't act like you don't go like me.

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We all got big families and stuff. Right? You know, those Saturday farmer markets. There's this one brother just I love him. He buys a box of apples. It's like 10 bucks. 12 bucks. Nice ones. Don't get the $6 boxes, brother.

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Right, the nice box, the $12 box and he puts it in the masjid as people are coming out from totally my show everyone who doesn't want an apple or two as they're coming out of taraweeh on a Saturday night. Look at that, you know, it's a simple deed. It's a simple simple deed. Another brother I know what law he he buys to bought, you know two boxes of those 24 bottles of water. And he just puts it for people who want to have a bottle of water. Another one pays to refill that water tank in the in the masjid that it gets refilled and people enjoy from it's filtered water. Do something that no one needs to know who you are, but do something for others share what Allah has given you.

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The Prophet says remember that faithfulness is not complete unless you honor the elder and show compassion to the young and weakest in society ladies Amina manlam, Yamato Kabira, Hawaii, arham Sahara, and honouring the elder was put by the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as something all of us are required to do. It doesn't matter how old you are, there's always someone older. And it doesn't matter how old you are. There's always someone younger.

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The young need compassion

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and the elders need for us to remember their service that gave us what we enjoy today.

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Remember, the prophets I send them says that you will not enter Paradise until you have faith and you will not complete faith until you love one another.

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give love to one another. And the Prophet then said to share Salaam to share the greetings you know see some of you say salaam aleikum, St. Samaniego, you know, you acknowledge someone you know, someone saw you they acknowledge you not on account that you know each other personally but you know that they're a person of faith. They deserve that greeting. All of those are statements of the prophets lie Selim number three, serve others. So we talked about family. We talked about doing good to our family. Number three, the service of other people. If you were to qualify the whole life of the Prophet Mohammed Sai send them it was that he served others. He was there to help other people

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in life. And after his death Salalah when he was in him, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he would say the best of believers and found holiness. If you want to know if you're the best of the believers, see how much service you provide for others. What men for you have for other people. Everything in the world exists for other than itself. I want I want you to think about that.

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For a second, and Emmanuel has allihies very deep. You know, he says everything that is there, it's there not for itself. But for others. The sun is in there just for itself. It's there for a purpose, other than its greatness.

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what purpose do you serve?

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Who are you there for?

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Who needs you?

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who relies on you? And what do you fulfill towards others? Humble yourself, to those who are not normally part of your circle of association, you know, Subhan Allah, I have a lot of Turkish people that visit my home in Ramadan, and hamdulillah. My wife, she's have a Turkish background, huge Turkish community. She's got like 10,000 cousins.

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And either we're at their house or they're at our house.

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But that's not enough.

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See, being associated with your cultural community as a Muslim is great, no problem. But limiting yourself just to Bahasa Malaysia,

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you know, Somalia, you know, on Jarrah and Mo's and sukar. And that's it. That's the only thing I know. Those are the people that I bring into my home, because we're either family or connected, or we have business. It's only those that what about that brother, who you see every night in taraweeh. That man who always beats you to the first line, that guy who has taqwa who's there keen, who carries with him a momentum of Baraka. And the only reason you haven't invited into your home is because he doesn't speak your language, your ethnic language of back home language,

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is because your skin color doesn't matter. Your ethnicity doesn't match.

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And Roma bond is meant to break down those barriers.

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And therefore, you should endeavor to walk off that beaten path, and to seek to serve people in your community who are not from those who are regular members of your circle of influence and friends. It's not about what degree or knowledge or scholarship you have. It's not about what your ethnicity is or what your cultural background is. There's a time for that there's 20 days for that, but at least have two or three or five or 10 for other people who deserve your love and attention equally. And that was the habit of Muhammad Sallallahu it Who on earth he was so happy he was suddenly

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number four.

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reconnect with those who have cut you off. They cut you off. Not you cut them off. It's not your problem. It's not you didn't do anything wrong. So you think anyway.

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It's them. Okay. We haven't spoken brother all year. And by law he I had one brother.

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His own blood brother. He hasn't spoken to him for years to you three, they were fighting over a piece of land back home that none of them have ever seen.

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They inherited it from a grandfather or uncle or something. And they're fighting as to who owns which part of it. No, no, this mango tree is my mango tree.

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They've never seen the length and because the older brother

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I'm the older he should respect me and before I asked he should give me the tree. Mashallah. And then

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No, no, I will not talk to him brother. Why is he why did why don't you want to talk to him? He saw me and didn't say a salaam aleikum.

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He saw me in the masjid. He didn't say Salaam Alaikum. When I speak to the other English Mama, I don't know what he's talking about. Maybe I didn't see him. It was Juma. There's like hundreds of people. I go back to the other brother. He says to me, he didn't see you. He goes no, I don't believe it.

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How about you me come to my house. neutral ground. Come now.

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We're not going to speak.

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One of them went overseas,

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went overseas. I said yeah, it's Ramadan. Call your brother.

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But he's the young one. I said yeah, he forget young or old. Call your brother.

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He's not gonna answer.

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It doesn't matter. Call him here's my phone. He'll Answer me.

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He says no, no, no, I don't want you to pay overseas. He rings with his number. First ring his brother answers instead.

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saying his brother goes saramonic instead of saying when he comes home, he looks at me goes, he answered.

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I said, Okay, you know, you could talk to him talk to you. Because walaikum salam, and you know, there's this awkward silence.

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And then he talked.

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See, that's the Baraka of Ramadan.

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The Baraka of Ramadan, remember, I told you something that is non existent, you don't think could ever happen? It happens in Ramadan. That family member who you think will never come to your house will come.

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That father who you think will never forgive, you will forgive you.

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Your brother who hasn't spoken to your sister who walked out anything can be fixed in Ramadan. But it's their fault doesn't matter. The prophets I send them says, cinnamon katatak Wow.

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Connect the one who cut you off and forgive the one who wronged you, they wronged you. The Prophet says you I know they wronged you, you forgive them. Because you want God to forgive you. You want God to accept you. swill men, Khattak wha hoo.

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Finally,

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seek the company of the righteous

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trying to find good people for yourself.

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I don't mean look at your friend right now and says stuff for lobbying. What am I doing with you?

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You're dead way.

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I don't know where you're taking me. Right. But, you know,

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me, ma'am, a sharpie.

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He would write to other imams.

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And you know, imagine if it was poetic, he would say, you know, and there were others who would say similar words, or hibel slightly he was coming home.

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He would say I love the righteous even though I'm not one of them. Sometimes we don't think you know, we're really good people. So I can be really like with these who I think are really good people. See, we sometimes look at people outwardly, we don't know what people are inwardly. Don't think I'm telling you, that you should find someone who looks religious. I'm telling you find someone who's good hearted. Who will love you as much as you love them. Who will share with you, even if you can't share with them, who will forgive you even when you wrong them.

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Find a good person who will honor you for who you are, and always push you towards the almighty to do that which is better. They remind you of good things in your life, and they'll hinder you from things that they know are not good for you in your future.

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Find a good person

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attract, you know the good and Allah always talks about the spiritual formula after you boo nulato about the good are always with the good men good men, they find good women. Right? Good people find each other. And the hadith of that soulmate that I alluded to, you know, it hasn't only talked about that soulmate. He talks about this hadith and Bahati with the prophets I seldom said the souls before they came into this world. They were familiar with one another. Our souls knew each other intermingled with each other before we were born into this world. So the souls that you're familiar with, that attracts you and there are souls that repel you. Have you ever met that one person who

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you just know you've never seen them? Talk to them? Just you just know I'm gonna hate you?

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Yeah, I don't know why Jani kid something about you. I don't know why. There are souls that repel you and that are souls that attract you. And that concept of soulmate isn't just your your loving wife or husband, but it's the people who nurture your soul.

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And that that's important and emammal hobby he's the first person to make a shout out an explanation of sorry Buhari before Niger and others. And he says that this Hadith, it means that if one righteous soul was to walk in a room of 1000 souls, it will gravitate to that one other righteous soul in the midst of 1000 like your soul will find the good in the darkness of people that is out there you will find that light that you are attracted to. So attract that light by increasing your devotion and love for Allah. So seek the company of the righteous where do you find them? You find them in the masjid. You don't find it on the internet?

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No, I'm being serious to the brothers.

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See, we live in an era today where a person

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thinks that they can learn about Islam from the net, that they think that they can learn from YouTube. That they think that that what they see in slick propaganda, criminal videos of terrorism and all this kind of stuff that that actually is real and that actually is something that is you know, something that can be of a motivating factor nowhere in knowledge and righteous is not attached in that distant setting. It was always something of connection of people, one to another, hearts that meet right, and find yourself in the massage stand in the lines with people who turn to a law and hear the whole arm from beginning to end where their knees are shaking from being tired at

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night. Be from those who recite the Quran before and when you return home.

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Like show your true true devotion to Allah subhana wa Tada.

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I'm going to conclude,

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you know, my discussion with you

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with one final Hadith.

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And this is actually one of my favorite Hadees of Ramadan. Where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you know the Hadith, it's an authentic hadith. He quotes a lot. It's a hadith Pudsey, meaning Allah has given the Prophet information and the Prophet describes it in his own words. And the Prophet says, karnala

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a soldier normally, when zeebee fasting is only for me. And I'm the only one who values it with reward.

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No one around you, knows me or you the quality of our fast, only Allah. There are some of us who will receive an unending reward on account of a day's fast. And there are some of us, who we get at the end of our days fast nothing but hunger and thirst, may Allah protect us from that.

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I want you to set that goal in mind that a law observes your fast independently. It's not something that the angels will say to Allah Yala, it's, it should be this value. No, a law is the only one who will value it.

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Because you left your water and your food and your drink, total Katara who was shot what to whom and he left the necessities of life only because of me. So I will reward that man and that woman. May Allah Subhana Allah make us from those who are fat easy and successful. In this month of Ramadan, may Allah mend our hearts and put love for our families in our hearts. May Allah mend the rifts of those of us who have separated from loved ones and loved friends. May Allah connect those of us who are overseas with others who we are in turmoil with May Allah bring peace and Baraka and love and mercy to our homes before and during and after the month of Ramadan. Allah Ameen.