Yahya Ibrahim – Balance

Yahya Ibrahim
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the challenges of balancing personal life with Islam, including the importance of acceptance in personal and professional lives. They emphasize the need for people to practice behavior and intentions, and acknowledge their obligations in order to bring to fruition. The importance of acceptance in education and acceptance in society is also emphasized. The segment ends with a discussion of the importance of acceptance in education and personal lives.
AI: Transcript ©
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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah. Some Mr. Hardy, you either earn he was suffering he was suddenly woman when Mohammed

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Ali Abdullah Saleh asleep. It is with great joy voila, he and hamdulillah that I have an opportunity to be here with you today. And I asked Allah subhanho wa Taala, the most high to make the time that we spend together something that is done sincerely for his cause.

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It's difficult at times,

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especially in the climate that we live in. I don't mean KL or Malaysia in particular, but the climate that the oma is facing at the moment,

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to delegate priorities and to to find a balance of life. And my talk with you today in Sharma just for these 1520 minutes, is about balance. And balance is something that was the hallmark of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. It's another way of saying an automaton wasn't, you know, the owner of the middle course, when you want to set a balance straight, it balances because it's both sides are equal, and priorities and obligations along with that which opposes them are in harmony. And Allah subhanho wa Taala says, couldn't have your own method of rejecting us, you own ation of Mohammed with the best of nations who have exited out of humanity, that moral novel novel,

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you invite one another to that which is righteous, what then how not only munkar you forbid upon each other, with civility that which is immoral, and that which is simple. What took me no Nebula, and you constantly seek to remind one another of your belief in Allah soprano, Todd, a lot also tells us in sort of the last well as by the passage of time, by the days that grow by the weeks and the months and the years that pass by the breaths that you take, by the passage of these moments that you leave, that you can no longer return.

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In al insana, Luffy has, surely mankind is in a state of loss. Surely mankind can lose themselves to the dunya. And how can we take the worldly pursuits has distracted you

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when the house England in Santa Fe, Illinois, Edina, amen, except those who possess faith, which is the working of the heart, when Allah subhanaw taala talks about a man

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such Illa Dena amanu, the reference means those who have this faith in the heart of solid heart, and a lot always joins the faith in the heart, the man with the execution of righteous deeds will also be hot. Those who come as we have come together to mutually remind one another of the truth towel. So mutual reminder of the truth, what else all the sub and to remind one another, have enduring patience in the times that we live in today. Now, I can't I although I'm in touch with my feminine side, I cannot comment on what it's like being a Muslim sister in the climate and in the times that we find today.

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I can never estimate

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the hurdles that are put in place. Whether it's in flights or you know, when you travel abroad, you know, there's a great name and a fun place to be in a country such as the one that you live in. And we find ourselves here today in Malaysia. But for many of us who live abroad, there is a great challenge. And it's that challenge of balance, where you want to please Allah subhanho wa Taala. And at the same time, you want to be inclusive, and have everyone that meets you and encounters you to have a final and lasting impression about your belief in Allah subhanaw taala as a human being. So I want to talk just a few minutes on three points. The first one is the Muslim woman and the Muslim

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sisters relationship with Allah just as a personal level.

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Second with family and family implies husband children, brothers, sisters, fathers, mothers, all of us have our family and hamdulillah And third, and finally

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With those who we befriend, and those who meet us, in general, who are not intimate to us, are not members of our family who are not close to us, but nevertheless have a heart and have a duty in how we care for them, and how we treat them.

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One of the most moving Encounters of the prophets are synonyms. Life in my estimation, is the moment he came down from the mountain. Having heard the message of o'clock. Now when you frame this surah it's a it's an amazing surah. If Cora read the first word, the first message delivered to humanity, after 600 years of passage, after a Salah is salam, you're wondering what is the first thing the divine the Almighty, wants to impress upon mankind?

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Read, recite, learn, study, reflect, ponder,

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take note of things.

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In what the smell of big read and study and all those things, and directed towards discovering your Lord, and levy hallak, the one who created you holla, called insana. Malala created you from the most minute forms of life, the smallest cells that we come to appreciate, you know, the ovum and the same in that mix together and coagulate and form Allah is correct, what a bukan, Accra, after you've done that, after you recognize that that's where you came from. Read again, if caught up, again, in the first four verses revealed to humanity, a law uses the word fo re recite, learn, understand twice,

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and uses the word Pelham pen, you know, instruments of knowledge that you and I appreciate. It could mean something that you turn back to, you've recorded, you've memorized you've learned, you've studied. And therefore that first experience of the Prophet Mohammed Salim has to be the foundation for all of us, Muslim brothers and Muslim sisters in our spiritual awakening. I'm not going to tell you, it's easy being Muslim.

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And it's not about hijab and how you dress or how people view you. Those are all side things. Islam is submission

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is tough. When law he will law he, it's tough, that you just give yourself over to a law

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that you say as you say, when you go to law Baker, I'm here, the baker law firm and a baker and a bake, Oh Allah, I'm here. The baker la sharika Bay, I've come I know I'm here, I know you have none. Along with you, I can turn to no one but you. And that's a mission for an elder or a youngster, for a man or a woman. For Arab or a non. For one who is intelligent, or one who is illiterate. It's difficult, and many people stumble in it. And therefore you find the next sequence of verses in the very first chapter. at all, Ethan Levien is the story of the prophets. I seldom encountering Applejack, who initially didn't tell him Don't talk about your faith. Because Mohammed Salim was a

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desirable individual in this town. And with these people, I will generally simply said, Look, don't talk in public you want to pray, pray on the side. And when the machine saw Mohammed's I send them he'd come to pretty macabre, he moved the idol. And he prayed towards the Kaaba, he'd moved the idol move the paintings, and he wasn't paying any money. He wasn't bringing any slaughtering to these false gods. He wasn't doing any of that. People are looking at him. And then they're looking at what they're being asked to do because it was all about the money.

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He was worried about and hush money, where are we going to get our income? We want to remain the leaders of these people. They need to pay us tribute. How do we control them through the priests of false deities

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and they see Mohammed's I sell them he'd come, didn't pay anyone anything. didn't ask anyone to pay anything. Those who followed him were highly influential, respectable people like Abu Bakr and sad and have manually affirm and also servants and beggars and slaves from the examples of bilad and unmodded mi acid, and so high and they saw this disparity it was bewildering. So I will generally return to the profit side

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Solomon says, I'm not even going to allow you to pray in public. Have them either Sala he prohibits the Prophet from praying just to have him seen in that form of modesty and worship of Allah subhanho wa Taala

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and a law condemns Abu lahab. Annabelle Jackie. Bye by saying

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that in Canada have you not pondered and thought, meaning abou Jacqueline knew that Mohammed sigh send them is upon the truth.

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Mr. taqwa, he's only asking you to do what is pious, what is righteous to cleanse you and your family and your home from that which is evil. I eat it and Karen alhuda Amara taqwa.

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And that is the way of Islam submission to Allah subhanho wa Taala was never meant to be easy. hadn't been meant to eat, be easy, Allah would not test you. Because Allah subhanaw taala says in order to uncover a hassy badness Do you people all mankind think believe? Can you even consider

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that you'll be left alone as a man that you would love to say? I believe I'm a believer. Well, I'm calling you man, have you ever come in another verse in sort of Central Europe, and alone will not make known the veracity of the man in your hearts. When they would come to the Prophet, the better ones. They say we're believers, he would say that Hulu, Islam now say no, merely you have come to Islam. You're hoping for a man you're hoping for a belief, you need to first submit to Allah.

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And it's that issue of submission.

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That becomes the foundational step of every Muslims journey to a loss of kindness.

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It's that step. That is the difference between waking up for the prayer and not. It's that step between a you know adorning oneself and beautifying oneself with a job or not. It's that submission to the will of Allah subhanaw taala to the instructions of Allah to the commandment of Allah, that becomes the criterion between being

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an honest, loving, respectful, individual will hope of gender, because there's many people were honest, loving and respectful, who lived their life and will be rewarded for it in the dunya.

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Don't think a lot will not give you in the dunya according to your intentions, lots of panels Allah says mejuri the dunya Noah three de la heafy the one who wants the pleasures of the world, we're gonna give it to him. No problem. Even shavon

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shavon a lot enters his prayer. chayton says Paul, Robbie, you don't like how you and I we put you out of

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shape on on the day he refuses to Prostrate to Adam. He says color of B Oh Allah, I want to I'm making I'm making God, what's your I'm living Eli O'Meara to allow me to live until the day you will resurrect them. Why does Allah enter him? Because prior to this, che Thawne had risen to the level of the angels in terms of his worship, and his devotion to Allah. So Allah rewards him for the good he has done in answering is to have none of us are given volna no level Amalia, no oppression will be granted to any human being between them and Allah subhanaw taala.

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So our first point between ourselves and Allah, the guide for the Muslim sister is to understand the basics

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of the knowledge that is sacred to us. And I know it's

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sometimes it's a bit clumsy. You know, you read translations, I was reading a translation. It's a translation of one of the famous books of Alabama. No, we are the Salafi, right. You've all heard of this book, radical Salafi. In the book, the Hadees.

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It says something and the translator says something totally different. He says, The Prophet love to eat curry.

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This has to be an Indian or Pakistani translator. You know, we have only an indo Pakistani could fit curry in the Prophet's life someone

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do you know what I mean? The province talking about he used to say to the people add water when you're cooking meat, because the shorter bar, the the broth, the word is broth was one of his favorites. So the man says curry, right. And I know it's difficult. You read some books in here like this translation is really wacky, or it's difficult to come to sessions like this.

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In other sessions, but the elemental process of coming to a loss of animal to Allah, its familiarity with Allah and mattify you become acquainted with a loss of prana or to Allah

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through a determined effort,

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you know, we always hear the word you know our Imams and hamdulillah and I'm sure they're not here they always tell us Nia, you come to make Salah you make your Leah, why are we so picky with this word Nia and Nia isn't just something you say or something you hold in your heart. Mia is in simply intention, it means conscious choice.

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It means you have an opportunity to do one of two things and you consciously formulate a decision based on the knowledge you have between you and Allah. So you say when the time of solid comes, I consciously choose, I intend to make a choice to leave off all these other distractions for this particular moment to show my devotion in that which is written upon me by Allah subhana wa Tada. Conscious intention and sincerity

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is a determination that we make between us and our and our last panel, Tyler.

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And elevated status of spiritual nearness to Allah comes with thee.

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And I'm not telling you to sit and you know, start moving and you know, and someone's beating a drum and we're all in rhythm laugh. What I'm telling you, by the way, is that the prophets I send them says that the route the route to Jenna, a yeppoon, Lisa, Lisa lucara, wouldn't be the killer. Your tongue is wet. From the remembrance of Allah. You say, what's this? So Pamela okay. Was it mean? hamdulillah La ilaha illAllah? Why repeat it? And how often should I repeat it? I know the Prophet tells us how often, but why you did a conscious intention that you have between you and Allah subhanaw taala you will never find my dear brothers and sisters, someone who makes the vicar of

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Allah in their mornings and in their evenings. And after their Doha prayers, and after each of their Salah, you will never find someone who is conscious that are there sitting ideally, the first thought that comes to their mind is to make their Vic or the Salah upon the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that that person

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will stray from their prayers or that person will be vulgar in tongue, or that person will not be restrained in their glands, or that person will be sinful in behavior. Vic, it's not by volume or what you say.

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But only those who say it in volume and with intention will be blessed by Allah subhanaw taala. The only condition to lick allow me to not run with guru law, the Quran kathira it's conditional, you cannot just simply make the

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in the smallest amount. You can't say to yourself, okay, I'm just going to do just this law, then you're not working. Because the small amount is not the

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the word itself means remember rebind because you're sitting there and you're making Vick, it's not you're sitting in a closed area or in a room or something of this nature. No, it's throughout your day. As you're cooking as you're cleaning. As you're at work as you're driving, as you're teaching as you're instructing every part of your day reminds you of a loss of hi know to Allah. And Allah tells us that the shape on one of his intents for us is to help us forget Allah.

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And therefore this helps you remember Allah, the third

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after conscious sincerity,

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and Vicar of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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between yourself and Eliza gel

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is voluntary devotions. voluntary. Amen. And to be on the lookout for doing good deeds is the hallmark of a believer. Never do you look out for you Don't I know.

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It's easy when something comes up to do it. There's a class I'll go. There's this I'll go. It's difficult to initiate that initiation process is the difference between Islam Eman And

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the more sin is an initiator. You want

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More. And the law says with the Delica fail yet enough so you're in competition abubaker will come with all of his money. Armand is coming with half he sees obovata with all US man in competition with the rock man.

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All of them seeking to outdo each other with our taqwa. And that's what's meant by helping one another to righteousness. It's not that you say, Okay, I'm going to help you with this is that you make someone jealous of what you've done, that they seek to do and outdo you in that spiritual pursuit, with Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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As with our families,

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no greater responsibility is delegated to a Muslim woman that is greater than the family. And look, I'm there my wife Alhamdulillah, I wish she was here. A lot. I wish she was here.

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My wife finished her accounting degree, accounting, she was working a few years we got married in the last five years, since we were married for 5666 years, because it's recorded. Right?

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In the five of them, we've haven't hammered the last three children.

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She's a stay at home mother, who is a full time law student at the University of Western Australia. Full time through what listening to the lectures online. And I'll take time off work so she could go attend tutorials and this and that, or, you know, we manage it right?

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The family becomes your center. It's not I'm a law student. It's not. And it's not because I force it. No, that's her choice.

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To trouble. It's recorded.

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You always have to put family first. And I'm not talking about your husband, or your children or me. I'm talking about your parents. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says, men adore aka wily, they He is

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the one who leaves to find one or both of his parents in old age, when I'm you. And that person does not earn forgiveness from Allah that they are guaranteed genda that they are protected and will enter agenda for katapola. Allah has cut them off from his mercy. Your parents are an important important elements in your life. And sometimes the focus always is your husband, your husband, your kids, your kids, and you're mandated to have life. everything that you're doing is geared is geared towards your husband and children. And you forget about your father and mother because they might be living with another one of your siblings, or they might be in another country, or whatever it may

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be. I want to give you an example from the Sahih Hadith in Mojave. Three men were trapped in a cave

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rock spell an avalanche fell, they have no way to get out. And they said the only way we will escape is if Allah divinely intervenes and releases us. So they said the only way we can ask Allah to divinely intervene and release us is that we each make a claim upon a lot as we say, yeah, a lot on this day. I made this deed sincerely for you. Oh Allah because of this free me.

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The first one says Allah Hamada be in Mecca Tada, my Lord, Oh Allah, you know, that I had my parents, my father and mother living with me. And I would not eat or drink until I fed them.

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And I would not feed my wife or my children until they were fed.

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And there came a day where I was late, and they had already fallen asleep, and I couldn't feed them before they fell asleep in the evening. And oh, Allah, you know that I refused my children food. Well, I do touch the high school. And my kids graveling around me, please Baba fetus, they're already asleep. You feed him in the morning. And Oh Allah, you know, I refuse my children and white food until they woke up and I gave it to them first.

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And as a consequence of this, the rocks began to move out of the way. That's one of the three.

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What do you how do you do? How do you how do you even measure up to that?

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supprimer bar

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He doesn't do it because he wants to make his parents happy. He does it for

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a law because your entrance into gender is by whose acceptance of you, your parents in the authentic hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he says,

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You know what you

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mean Elgin, and men will come and he's about, he's like, Oh, yeah, I'm coming in, and he will be stopped.

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And now our power up, because his parents were not happy with a law may have been happy with him, his Sala his CRM is this, this, this this, but his parents had a claim against him, he stopped. I cannot intergender

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until they release him. in Alameda here in Toronto, our parents become one of the most foundational rafts that we find to lead us agenda. And those of us

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including myself, who live away from our parents, it doesn't diminish your duty, rather it compounds it. It compounds. It's different. If you're living with them each and every day, it's easier. But if you're at a distance, enjoying the river and having them pleased with you becomes very difficult.

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Aside from our parents is our spouse. And because we're a sister's audience, I'm not going to talk about the brothers rights I can do that another day inshallah. But for the sisters, it's a fundamental understanding within our community of belief, as us as movement, that the love that is between a husband and wife is not placed there by them. It is divinely revealed. Allah subhana wa Taala says, When making a yachtie from the signs that is pleased to mankind to recognize the divinity of a loss of Hannah Tyler, and jala

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that he has made for each of you as spouse with Jada b nicoma.

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And a law has placed between the husband and wife now what de worauf Now what that means communal love,

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that it is love that comes together. It's not love that is emotional or infatuated. It is love that is sensed by both sides simultaneously, with the hearts recognize each other without words. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says in so I help Buhari and

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the souls previous to their entrance into the bodies that they live today. We're familiar with one another before their entrance. Your soul My soul knew my wife. So we used to hang out.

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Right? And you know, this concept of soulmate comes from this right? It's not foreign to our faith. prophets I send them says, wha that Allah

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and some of them hated one another. Sometimes you meet someone that

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you don't know anything about you just take a look at them.

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That's it. Why your soul doesn't like how last June you become almost like soldiers in animosity with one another.

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So the love that we have the heart, the love of the hearts comes together by a laws influence in our relationships. And therefore the dis the disunity and the detachment we experience is also as consequence of our immorality and our unwillingness to join together in harmony. The second part which is merciful conduct is in your hand. And it's placed there by Allah subhanaw taala you know this home in Arabi, it's called Mexican. Second, it comes from the word sukoon which means tranquility, meaning that you know you weren't alone man's in Sakina Sakina Allah know love, bring your tranquility upon us. The word second comes from that same word, meaning the moment you enter

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through the door, you're supposed to feel tranquil, right tranquil.

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That's the concept meskin they are the place where you rest to be a lead. You come in cover of darkness to escape the elements and the harshness of that which surrounds you

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Right. And that merciful ness is put within our tools within our means. So I want to recount a few Hadith of the prophets are sent them. The first is the hadith of Abu Dhabi, Allahu anhu. And it is so here, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, he says to the Muslim man, as they were Jews you look for and what do

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the exceptional in love, the one who is loving the kind of woman when you when you want to get married, or you're looking for your brother or your son, you want to find him a good a good person to marry? Look for someone whose element whose character is that is a loving nature. Allah dude. Anyone who would someone who you feel inshallah, they will be good mothers, good mothers, Allah, the word means that the one title general hire or fire are the one who you give goodness, she returns the goodness, again. Like

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it's not give me give me give me and take one. Right? It's you given I'm going to give you 10 times and see this this concept of the prophets I send them it's true. Men are very ungrateful. I'm sorry. I know. And we overlook many things that we should say thank you. Thank you then because there's so many things. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Right? Every every day, there's so many Thank you. And sometimes, because we don't say thank you.

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It is made to seem to the spouse or to the sister that we're not thankful. But that's how the nature of men is. And a lot of panels are the prophets. I said, let me say, let the Muslim woman be. How would that when she's given good, she has to acknowledge that she's going to be giving to him more than he is giving to her by the personality and the nature of most men.

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And then the Prophet describes her in its in its strenuous, tense situation. The Prophet says ality in the hottie result. She's the type of woman who when her husband is upset with her. And that's an acknowledgment from the prophets. I send them that none can escape that there's no happily ever after forever and ever and ever and ever, right? There's always tension at times. And let's see in the buzzer. She's the type of woman or husband is upset, what law to the happy she embraces him by holding his hands. And she sits near him and says, Well law Hina abou Fulham London on a nobleman had daughter Bonnie, she's the type of woman who say, by Allah, we cannot go to sleep tonight. until

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we've made up. That's powerful.

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You find on another side, I'm not going to talk to him. He's got to talk to me.

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He's the one who's wrong. See, the prophet doesn't say who's right, who's wrong. He doesn't say who. And you're gonna say, probably a hatred and say that if my husband acted like an idiot,

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like he's wrong, 100% 125,000% he's wrong, that I should still be the one who goes to him and says, I'm not going to go to sleep until we're happy again.

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You don't have to say those words.

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But you have to solve the problem. That's the that's the intent of the prophesizing. What happens with many men is that they sell right. She's not talking fun.

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I got people to talk to at work. I got the kids. And there's aimed with men. The capacity to talk young, transgression is greater than that in women. A man is more capable, yet the law to oppress than you find in women. That's common knowledge. easy to understand. So you find he becomes hard hearted, and even more hard hearted. And now instead of him being wrong two weeks ago, now it's like

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he's made me be the I'm the one that's wrong, because I haven't talked to him for two weeks. And that's common. Whenever I sit with couples who've had this trouble for they come and visit, or they haven't spoken I say like, how long?

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He says he turns to me goes so he won't even say how long

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and she'll say

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three months. Three months. a month, three months, two months. No conversation, except I'll get the kids

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where's the food?

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Did you shop I need money, this kind of stuff.

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That is contrary

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To the wave of the Prophet Mohammed Salahuddin. Both of them are sinful and because of that sinfulness, Allah removes

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love. How can you love one another when you when you won't adapt and submit to Islam? This is what I'm talking about submission. It's tough. It's a brother. It's tough. I'm not. It's not Yes, but that's the truth. Another Hadith that the prophets I send them

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which is narrated by the man Muslim, he says

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hi util Mata is the greatest achievement in life from the perspective of the Muslim man.

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And man,

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that you are in the company of a good woman. How does the Prophet define a good woman some Aloha,

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he says a Leti. in Norwalk, la has

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a somewhat, she's the woman who, when her husband sees her from a distance, she hasn't said anything, she hasn't done anything. She hasn't brought him anything. He's just seen her from a distance. He feels joy.

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That's powerful. That's the greatest thing a man could have. That's he's sitting on the throne of the universe, palace. I am happy. Why? Because he looks about it. Everything else becomes unimportant. He comes after a hard day of work, his boss has his you know, he's gonna lose his job. He's not working well with his co workers. traffic in KL is crazy on a Friday. Crazy, right? He comes home, he left work at 430, he comes home seven.

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But he opens that door and he is in his mask.

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he finds tranquility, repose, comfort, and he sees his wife

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preparing his food or, you know, whatever. And from a distance, he says, I come to do

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everything else. I'll deal with it on Monday. Right. But

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look what I have. That's the dunia. That's the greatest attainment in the dunya.

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And that becomes the goal with a Muslim sister for home and her husband.

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As for her children, the primary educator has to be

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the mother.

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physiologically, your son knows your heartbeat, your daughter knows your heartbeat before you before their birth, they know the sound of your voice, the scent you emit. They know you more than they know their father, they will love you. It's hard to say in the beginning years, more than they will their father, because of that attachment. And the first five years psychologists and medical doctors, we have many in the audience who will say correct, become the foundational years of education. In the first five years, your child will attain 80% of the worldly knowledge and the interactions they have for the rest of their life. For the one who gets angry, you know, sometimes

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you find an aggressive kind of addictive individual, he gets angry, he picks something up and throws it. Well, you know, when he was a child to three years old, he'd get angry, he picks up and up and he'd throw it and no one corrected him appropriately. He wasn't socialized to understand how to release his stress, how to discuss those issues. That becomes whose duty I'm not talking about homework and studying and math and science. I'm talking about building a human

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who you carry within you at times for months. And you deliver them in pain and labor and difficulty. And you come into this world and the first thing they want is put me near where I have just emerged, the loss of hundreds of talks about the love of the mother and her son and her daughter in intimate ways in the hole and in intimate ways in the center of the messenger Mohammed sighs and so if you are distracted with anything else in life, step back and look,

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look at the heart that that child has those five years, those six years until you send them out to school. That becomes the priority of your life. That is your whole existence.

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Finally, those who we deal with just the regular people, our friends, our neighbors, those who are Muslim and those who aren't

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The Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says in the law, he said that the condition and everything we must be distinguished in our righteous conduct. Our most noble traits are reserved for those who treat us in the worst capacity. It's very, you know, it's very bizarre that you see Allah subhanaw taala says that the one who speaks to you in a vulgar way, called who Salama, were about the Walkman, the worshipping slave was, oh, man,

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are those who when they are accosted and spoken to with vulgarity, Han and Jackie Luna eluna, the jarhead speaks to them in an evil manner, they respond to a sentiment, I'm not even gonna bother set up, I don't want any trouble.

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The return of good in receiving of evil is the trait of the prophets of Allah, all of them, some of the law haughty or early or some of you are some.

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And therefore that becomes our first step of conduct, that every person you leave or you meet, the impression that they have of you is you have honored them more than they have honored you.

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That even though they they're the ones who invited you to their home, you leave them feeling as if you have brought more to them than they have given you. That's the way of the Prophet Mohammed sigh send them that every person you touch or come in contact with benefits from that touch and interaction. Model no katavi rhodiola animal would make a DA and it was written for him that Allah subhanaw taala entered it. He would say what did Ya Allah, I have this love in my heart. And Amina dunya I want to leave this worldly low life larly Allah Allah, that no one owes me and I owe no one. I don't want to owe anyone anything. And I don't want anyone to owe me anything. And the first

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question he asked after he was the assassin, you know, stabbed him in his Salah solo. So the first question I asked a cannon muslimah was this man a Muslim? And they said, No, it's juicy. You know, this is he is a roster and who was sent as an assassin, and normal says Alhamdulillah. I asked I make him to Allah, that he wasn't a believer who would have a right over me, perhaps

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I had dealt with him unjustly and hamdulillah that this person has no right over me. I'm free to leave this dunya I don't owe anyone and no one owes me anything. That is the basis of our code of conduct. In our treatment of others. I realized I took more than the 20 minutes. Doctor, please forgive me. I asked a loss of Hannah who went to Allah to grant to all of us who are present and those who will hear this later in chat LA is mellifera and his divine love as the loss of Hannah to Allah to lift the tension from our homes and to put in its place love and mercy and compassion and ask Allah Subhana Allah to make us successful in all that we pursue. And to autores in this dunya

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and in the asset or whatever we don't wanna and come to the latter. Abdullah alameen wa sallahu wa Sallim wa barik ala Sayidina. Whenever you know Muhammad Sallallahu Allah Allah who was suffering he was selling

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