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Bulugh Al Maram – Being Good To The Parents

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And in WCW seldom car rental blah blah Dee Dee was so hot was a hot bath is a hot invalidate

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video you also have a ban on hack that Abdullah have now more than isolated that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said a lot of pleasure results from the parents pleasure and allows displeasure results from the parents this pleasure.

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Related though reported by telemedia Rahim Allah had been Habad and hack him graded as Sahih

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this hadith also repeated reported by the way happy Rahim Allah river wa Mission Valley then he been very happy Rahim Allah reported it

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with

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autonomy the weapon headband what hacking sorry, autonomy, the weapon, Chabad and in hacking reported the pleasure of the Father.

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Albay hacker reported the pleasures of the parents

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valid or invalid, a valid the father while the dame parents, so it came on both. And then eration of parents as a more general. So include the Father.

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There is no contradictions between them. But if there is any significant about the narrations of autonomy, then hack him and he said, the pleasures of the father is because so many times, often we talk about the importance of burial valida. You know, taking care of the mother, the mother, the mother, the mother, and sometimes the father kind of left out, as if it's not that important. And

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it's not true. The father is very important for the Son and the daughter, to look after and to respect and to obey and to cooperate with

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the Father is basically not because the bees are seldom give more emphasis on the issue of taking care of the mother, he wants to put the status of the Father down. No, he just want us to be more merciful toward the mother because as we grow older, you know, we think that we can control we kind of you know,

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can easily object mother or merciful and sometimes can be weak. And that's why some children take advantage of that weakness and mercy. That's why there is so many a hadith to show us that's not correct, that you you think that mercy of the mother, it means it allows you to cross the line with her. So that's the that's the the spirit of this body. The spirit is not about, you know, the father is not that important. As long as you take care of me. I've seen some children that are very good with their mother, but they don't care about the Father.

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Even if he raised his voice if he challenged his father if you treat his father but it's not correct.

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And if you look at the early scholars working on the law, how they treated their fathers, they treated them like like kings like like I mean, they honor them and show the utmost respect to the to the Father.

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In this hadith shows you that the pleasures of Allah is the result of the pleasures of the parents. Yeah, and when you make your parents happy and pleased you will make your Lord please Why? Because this is something pleases a Lost Planet Allah. Allah said in the Quran, Allah sinal in Santa be Wiley de hemella to one another one. Warhammer Warhammer visar lwvma anish curly Valley validate be grateful to me and your parents. Pon

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Savannah Marina mon Sol del hums Shakira ba da da vida de vida hums shakalaka de

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Savannah Anna said, Be grateful to me and your parents. This verse He said, being grateful to Allah by praying and five daily prayers and being grateful to your parents by making up for your parents after each one of these solar.

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last panel data said well attack lahoma off do not say of any.

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You know, just to blow through the air out of frustration is not allowed.

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Just showing any form of frustration and anger at them is not allowed. lahoma Colin Karima say to them the best of speech. Not good, the best. Colin curry

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Many of the local Kareem Jani Usha an ocean Creme De La Rochelle Kareem Jani Avalos.

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And

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Yvette. Well, I can tell as usual Kareem, Kareem and

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generous la in the country as easy lady cannot look afterwards to Fatima. Sadat Polish Monica fallenness al Karim, it means the best. The word Kareem means the best. So here he says, Hola, Hola, hola and Karima tell them or say to them the best of all speed, the best of words. The best of ways because communication and talking is a made of words and the way you say your word that you say. It's also important so you have to know how you're saying it and what you're saying to them and use the best of words, the best of

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also ways to communicate with them. Part of my bass, Manila Illa about a beat number of shares or

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whoever Look at his father was anger and challenge like this kind of challenge. Look, let's report that's haram that sin and it's a major sin in Islam.

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In Nabi sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam said the most beloved deeds to about to pray on time. Then he said they use us then what comes next? On a beautiful day to be good to your parents. Then he was asked what comes next color geography is a builder

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to find for the sake of election he put parents before fighting for the sake of Allah

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and protecting the religion of the heritage ohama in an agenda Tata Mahima

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agenda is right at their feet. What I assume there is no Hadeeth agenda.

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There is no handy it says agenda underneath the feet of the mother there's no such thing there is something near that individual seldom said man Your parents are alive stay at their feet that's what agenda is and what that means it's an expression in Arabic language I don't know nexersys in English be at their feet and be at their service and you're right next to their feet whenever they need help or they need something they will find your right next to them to you you will find you right next to them

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if you buy a car in San Marcos a half a million dollars in one car

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he said salon salon at her feet there is generally be right next to your mother's feet taking care of her and this is where agenda that's what will lead you to paradise pile up to live in your own another lol will invalidate Nevada out for a bad bossa nova

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Levin Allen said that just looking at your parents, that's an act of worship in itself

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is sometimes like remember when you just look to your mother looking at your parents you know look at your father

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just looking at them. It will feel so much love inside your heart you have so much mercy and you have so much inner reflection just by looking at them especially the become old

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and I'm telling those who are loved less than their parents still alive.

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Because they will come to be like me and many other here who can do that anymore.

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Not the same when I look at them and

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you know Facebook memory when you look at them in a picture is not the same.

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Not same

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we just as as you growing old, your parents growing old too.

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So, it is something to fulfill take full advantage of today

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upon hustle bustle de la vida de la jolla Jihad voila sonica Nothing can be equal to be good to your parent. No had no jihad. No sada cause a cat. Sorry, he doesn't mean there's a cat on the head which is watchable dad's word. It means the volunteer act of hedging. The volunteer had the volunteer church.

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Caravaggio live near a bus in order to analyse a room we're in. Why am I listed myself in the army? So I'll go fight. Okay.

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At that time, there were the Romans attacking the Muslim border and Muslim pining Romans is it I enlisted in the army to go find the Romans

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but my parents

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No, I've been told him up and awake. Listen to your parents for in the rooms attended many also

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Don't worry, the Romans will have other people to fight them. For you, your parents want you to stay stay with them.

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So it has an amplitude.

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After Carla, you've thoroughly Sally hakavod fee nothing was asked if I'm fasting and my mother asked me to break my fast and to eat with her. He said break your fast and listen to her. And you didn't need to worry about it or to make up this day anymore in the future. It's a volunteer fast anyway.

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Yeah, Paul Romano De La Hoya and now unawatuna Katelyn Epson should have had him in part. One of the greatest things I've ever come across.

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Paul Romano they allow and

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no unoriginal cotton and efficent.

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If someone committed the most heinous sin we can think of which is killing a person.

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There is no sin in Islam worse than killing an innocent person

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after shirk after Google.

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Okay, so, imagine now the scenario of the worst case scenario after

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which is killing a person. collar one led enough to roam or bat I served by the one who's my soul and the candidate

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for Bahasa Ilia or Joe to Obama, who knows

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if he had this person had a mother

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and he took good care of her and devoted his life for her.

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I hope and I think that this man will not be touched by the Hellfire in another word, this good deeds will wipe out that major viewed sin. That's why Kenya por la lm Shea to kefir of al Qaeda in Lebanon Valley day. I don't know any good deeds that wipe out major sins except barrel one day. That's the only good deeds I know can wipe out the major sins because major sins in order for it to be wiped out you need to repent from it.

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Minor sin it can be wiped out without repentance by praying to Raka that will wipe out the minor sin by fasting by donating it will even if you don't repent from it okay, but major sin it will never be wiped out unless you repent from it

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specific except one deed can take care of it which is brutal quality.

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Your bass laser she helped pull in November every day. I don't know anything can wipe out your sense like better quality

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sleep. So all these ratios encourage us to be really

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to care way more about our parents.

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And we talked before if your parents alive, you're lucky if they passed away that is still a chance for you to do great holiday to make to offer them to make us still far from ALLAH forgive to give charity on their behalf

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okay to be good to the relatives to their family members to their loved ones.

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Let's say your father who passed away has a best friend you reach out to that friend or good

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our uncle or somebody that he loves so much you reach out to that person and you'd be good to him on behalf of your father or mother.

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The

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rule of law said what if you have a difficult parents?

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Sometimes you really have a very difficult parents to please

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What do you do with this case?

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In this case, it

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said you need to know that this is a Test.

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Test it's like you have a easy son you have a hard son to deal with a son that drove you crazy and a son was Mashallah as we say

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Yeah.

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There is people like this Mashallah. The sun is so good or daughter. Yeah. And he's so smooth so easygoing, and that his children Oh my god. Yeah. And he drove you crazy. So test. Some husbands are so easygoing some husband are so difficult.

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So some friends, some neighbors, some relatives, brothers and sisters and so forth. But what about parents? What if they ask you think that is so hard for you to do?

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You know what it is not about even they are

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nice or not nice. Like sometimes they are

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Things which is not practical.

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They have a very nice classification and the ultimate axiom Jimmy rabada very nice classification card.

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First of all,

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parents, if he asks something,

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that it will benefit them.

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If it's done, it will benefit them. And if it's not done, it might harm them.

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And it will not harm you as a son or a daughter.

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So something will benefit them and it will not harm you. Okay, in this case, you must obey them.

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Watch

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for instance, your father told you, I need this medicine and you have the money and buying the medicine will not financially you know, harm you. But if you don't get the medicine for them, they will be harmed. In this case, buying the medicine for them is not volunteer or optional. You must buy it for them. So that's the first scenario

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the second one the ask you something

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that is not something they might benefit from it, but it will not harm them if they don't have it.

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There's no harm from not having it. Okay, and it will not harm you.

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I give you example

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your father said you know son that day I was walking in the mall and I saw this nice you know, couch and I need this couch Can you go get it for me

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you know my car is like you know five years old car and I would like to have a new car go get me a new car. And Mashallah you have enough money to buy the car to buy the couch. Yeah, it's not like gonna harm by not having the couch. You see. In this case, it is wired upon you to fulfill your father than your mother's wish

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there's no option it's wired even though it's not necessities camellia it's still watching because pleasing them is watching

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making them happy is must

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by

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another category which a third

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something it will harm them. But it will not harm you

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to do it.

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It's not gonna harm me, but it might harm them

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No, the first one will not harm

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it will hard on them if you don't have it. But this one is the habit that will harm them.

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Your father is diabetic

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and his sugar is high.

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Then he said you know what get to me Can

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you get me cheesecake? You know, double chocolate pot but with

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and you have the money to do he tell you hey, go give me smoke.

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It's not gonna harm me. I come by it. it's legal. I come by the cigarettes and give it to them.

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I can buy the cheesecake I have the money but it will harm them.

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In this case, okay.

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You're not allowed

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to obey them.

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And if you do it sin

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to do

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he asked you to buy something. How long wine

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my

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father, you're a Muslim, you don't drink? Not going to buy it for you.

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I'm going to be angry alone not be pleased with me. No. I will not be pleased with me if I do it.

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You say it in a nice way by the next one.

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Something

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that it will benefit them.

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It will benefit them

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but it will harm me.

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I will be harmed by that.

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In this case, you don't have to obey them.

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Not how long but you don't have to. For example, your father tells you

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I

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It will benefit to them. He said I want you okay to or any you know, you don't obey them and some scenario can be how long into availa

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because it's going to harm you. For example, He tells you I want you to lie for me

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I want you to lie on the application

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for the visa application for taxes

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you know in front of the court calm you became catch you go to jail

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it will benefit him or benefit my mother. They get their paperwork done they get like tax exempt whatever the case is this case you don't

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say sorry.

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He tells you you know what, I really want you to marry Mike. You know, I want you to marry this girl so divorce your wife and marry the one that I like. He will benefit he wants this basically family to be related to him whatever and he asked you and you love your wife and this will harm your kids and your family.

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This case no you know what I want you to leave your apartment or your wherever you're living and you live and that's going to harm me gonna cause me trouble and financial issue. This is you don't have to obey it no must for you to obey.

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By what if he asked you to do something it will not benefit him at all. And the first the previous one someone will benefit him and harm you here he will not benefit from it and it will harm you.

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I want you to eat this cheesecake and I'm diabetic. I can't eat the cheesecake.

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Here now I want you to do this. I'm not gonna do it.

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I want you to wear this I want you to sell your car. I'm not gonna sell my car you're not gonna benefit anything from me selling my car I'm gonna be in double no car

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this case I don't obey them

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so it's not true that anything they say

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is acceptable or anything is not harm is acceptable. No, these are the categories and you keep it in in mind when it comes to these or even Timmy Rahim Allah said example like what if the mother told him I want you to

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eat certain type of food. even have to, to eat that food all the time. If it's something you don't desire.

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There is no coke. There is no disrespect in this case.

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They the next hadn't had it and so they allow an individual about it.

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When they wonder the fcpa the law you know abdon had to hit belly Jerry he might have been FCM re rated the Messenger of Allah and so they'll answer the messenger for Basel about seldom said by him in whose hands My soul is a slave of Allah does not truly believe tell he or tell they wish for their neighbor what they wish for themselves.

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Okay.

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And this hadith reported by Al Bukhari Muslim over a hadith previous ones, Vicki tabel there was Sarah talking about parents, relatives, friends and now here he goes to what a bigger circle neighbor

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it's kind of like every we give the rights to those The closer to our closest to us, parents, relatives, he talks about them and friends then now he talks about what the big bigger circle which is the circle of neighbors

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and this Hadith, this wording is the wording of Muslim Brahim Oba and another narration will lead in fcbd like you know, abdon pandai you know, none of you will be a believer until Okay, Al Bukhari Rahim Oba he said something else in his in his site. There is another narration you have this and have another narration as well. It says had a belly. He were Jerry he might bring us into the love for your brother and for your neighbor both what you love for yourself.

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Okay, and obviously your neighbor is bigger than the word brother because every brother in the general sense all people are brothers, sisters, and neighbors are those who are near your home.

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And you our neighbor in Arabic john

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jar. Okay? It comes from

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the word

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Jara

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mucho mucho para menahan moussaka saw it means when you something stick to something, stick to something else. Okay?

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That's why we say the four The one who makes a decaf in the mustard. We've got Zhao what often missed it because he's sticking the mustard he's sitting here. Okay? That's why we call the wife Jara.

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Especially use this for the CO

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liable rookie JRR Tolkien a

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Java Turkey, Turkey on her home next to your home and he's your husband. Okay, so that means something to stick to something and do why I'm saying this because we need to define what is jar. A jar is something stick so that a person is house next to you. Stick to you. close to you. Okay.

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How we define job? Who is my neighbor?

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When we say the right of neighbors, who we referring to

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a sharpie Yeah, what Hannah Bella yaku una Domine. Cooley Janet.

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You count 40 homes.

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east west, north south.

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neighborhood 40 homes

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up and down 4040 floor.

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So that's some of them.

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And the white what they came up with the number 40 from because there is a hadith helpful God or Barona, Dara and the idea that I can feel that the right of neighbor goes all the way to 1440 homes but this honey is weak. Okay. Mr. Lawson, some said no. The neighbor ticket literally from the language Talon Manasa Kollek anyone who shared a wall with you is your neighbor and that was the writers.

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So if you have three people stuck to your house, okay, so that means you have three. If you're a cul de sac, you have what? Two?

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That's right. So this is part of what led you to download the G DAC or if you are an apartment, the one who is above you or on the side or below it below you because you have a common wall or for depends on the apartment. You got anyone that you have a share like there is a wall connect you to them like to cite where you are once I became your neighbor. Some of the mama said that

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some said no.

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Allah jar kulu mon Sol Amharic haemostatic anyone who come to the same mustard What do you pray is your neighbor

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that we're all neighbors, no matter how far we are from each other.

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By even some of them said ajar anyone live in the same neighborhood and the same city?

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Like the whole clearlake or neighbor? That's my name.

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Pardon the language our una Kapha in Dhaka, Lila

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Medina, they will not be your neighbors in Medina. So the city it means everybody in the city is neighbor to everybody

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and allow them the rights of neighbor, the rights of neighbors levels.

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And based on these levels, these levels are depends on how close your neighbor is to you. So the one who shared a wall with you is the one who have most of the rights the highest right? The farther he goes, the less rights he has upon.

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So you see I'm saying there is he unacceptable that the one who's next door to you is hungry.

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And you go to bed fill your stomach is full. That's absolutely head on not a lot.

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But also is not right that we go

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with our stomach full. And we know people in our neighborhoods, not far away from us. In the city where people are hungry.

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But those because of their father from us. It doesn't mean they don't have right. They have right but it's not became like the hero

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It's not became the budget just recommended the closer they are the highly recommended so we should take care of neighborhood like unclearly for example clearly and in city like

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Kim and Kim then I go after that two league city then I go out Baytown then they go to UC friendswood and so forth. Like

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even I will say

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neighbors is a bigger concept than this neighbor city hub, right?

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So for example, a city like Corpus Christi have more rights upon us as Muslims here or people of Houston, then the people who lives in Florida, if there's two crisis here and there, we first reached out to the neighbor cities.

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Dallas, unfortunately

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I always mess with Dallas. Okay, you know, I have no rights upon us more than Oklahoma City

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and so forth. Even countries

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we have more rights towards the Canadian and Mexican then Brazilians

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and English, an England or Germany because these neighbor country

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and I think that's like common sense. He said, You hate Buddha. He loves for his neighbor and his himself what he loves for himself.

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Anyone that means he loves for his neighborhood or his brother when he loves himself. This brothers yeah flipped around in my bed. At one time in my life. This guy drove me any Zoloft he tried to be nice to me. He keeps giving me this food and give me this perfume.

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And both the food is terrible and the perfume is terrible is worse.

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Yeah baby Yeah. How long does that come on? Thank you. Thank you. Thank you man. That is why he said because

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you do for your brother What do you love I love this food so much. And I love this perfume so much.

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I said have you misunderstand that I do not because he loves that food you feed it everybody I love spicy food so much you know doesn't mean I have to you give me a spicy food you know you love barbecue you love fine like you know beaten I don't like meat whatever it is. So what do you love for yourself? That doesn't mean literally everything that led yeah any you love generally in the sense that you love for yourself to be treated nice to be good to be honored to be respected. Same thing for your neighbor. Not not I love the scholar you know what you have to wear it? No. Give it to my to my neighbor or to my I see what is fitted for them and what they will be nice for but this

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hand is what we learn from them. Number one big bigger to your parents and you should know that parents have sorry, neighbors and neighbors has a great right upon us. It doesn't matter a Catholic, a Muslim, a good Muslim, bad Muslim. Relative a stranger doesn't matter who he is.

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Allah subhanaw taala was son while Jerry the herbal jar in general. So he will tell the neighbor and the neighbor who have related to you have more rights over you. Are you

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in Derby solo bustle absurd Mazda jabril you see the job

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jabril kept telling me and and put emphasis on the importance of neighbors. To the extent I thought neighbors will be among the one who inherit the disease. who inherits you when you die? Your immediate relatives? I thought the neighbors won't be included.

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Any in another word, they will be so close to you that as of they are a close family member.

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Can you imagine this? Compare this to us. We don't know our neighbors.

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We know nothing about them. We never reach out to them.

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I don't know guys about you guys. But I have something very nice in my neighborhood. We have whatsapp group, the whole neighborhood

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really help us to know each other. And I highly recommend you to do that in your neighborhood. And there's even apps to that. You know, it will hook you up with the name. So we always like there's a talk if there's anything comes up like you know, they always talk to each other. And we help one another Hey, I'm looking for this. I'm looking for that and everybody will say Hey, I got this guy. I hired this guy, you know, and it's really working very well for us.

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You know, I still remember in neighborhood also, anybody moved into the neighborhood, they go give them a gift and you know, pies and fruits and flowers. I just put a new fence in my,

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in my house.

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Okay, so one of my neighbors who down the road my, he came in he said, Hey, I saw that you got a new fence. This is a gift for you.

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And he gave me a sign to put

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snakes, you see

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men can you believe a little bit after evaluation in Nigeria. So if you believe in a line, the Day of Judgment be good to your neighbor.

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They also neighbors can be in a larger in a bigger if you look at the bigger picture, as I said, can be the neighbor in your home and can be neighbor at work, the one who's next door, but you have a business, your neighbor have rights upon you and your business in your office.

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You know they're the one who next office that's a neighbor as well as other

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countries and so by individuals Allah when he said you will he will not you will not be a believer you will not believe until then you will not complete your Eman you will not be 100% Muslim you will not complete your faith.

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This man he had that does not necessitate that if you are good to your parents or sorry good to your neighbors it means that your Eman is complete.

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Does not necessitate lions and medallic the UCLan Allah Allah Allah Allah okay

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thank you

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under heavy shade

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okay also to love for your neighbor what you love for yourself means that you also your Eman will not be complete until you hate for your neighbor what you hate for yourself.

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So for example, you hate for yourself to be disturbed to be spied on to be treated disrespectfully for someone to make damage in their property that's right. So also you should hate that for your neighbor.

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Also this hadith

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shows you that we should generally speaking love for other people to be as good as us.

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This is very beautiful quality that you love that other people good like you.

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You always wish good for others. You always help our to be good like you.

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You always extend hand for people to grow to be like you and even inshallah any better any akuna Nasmyth luck

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also, this hand is shows you that the Muslim, his heart should be free from envy,

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hatred, because you will never love for your brother or neighbor what you love for yourself. If your heart filled with hazard with envy and hatred, it takes a pure heart wish to do that. So this heading shows us that the Muslim heart should be clean

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they can you imagine how would you This hand is applied to someone who was a spy who always wish bad for you. He almost did a good deal.

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Like he doesn't want it to be successful. There's a wanting to grow he doesn't want to have good things. That's the hypocrites in the far end they know don't believe in Allah. Allah don't who hates you know others the quality of this believers not equality of believers are good people.

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If you find yourself in the other you always jealous of others. You always kind of hard free to wish a bit for others. That means what your Eman is not complete.

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And if you find you have the opposite it shows and no camera man because can't lie to you man will not be complete until you love so this is a sign of good email. But if you don't see that, that shows you that the man is not complete.

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pilot and Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and Gian with Allah this hadith had the jabber and in the basis of the LG Iran of three people, Java who have gone why enabled the just one bright over here. Oh, Gianni happen that's the lowest level

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and another one has to over you and another one has three over you.

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And that's the best

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The one was right, is ajar was not a Muslim, and is not related to you. He only has the right of being a neighbor.

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Know how old you are? Well, I'm Melanie Lohan, somebody has two rights over you. A neighbor who's a Muslim has a neighbor as of right as a neighbor, and right as a Muslim brother. And the third one, a neighbor, who's a Muslim and relative unrelated to you.

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So that has three rights over you.

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Some of the American mama said Gmail ads have been higher, all the

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quality, the good qualities, you will find it in 401 of them is this handy that widget that you love for a brother, would you look for your? So

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I'll give you quickly quick points about how can you fulfill that concept of being good to your neighbors. Number one, know who your neighbors are? minimum you can do at least you know who they are. Okay, as I said, Maybe your Facebook page whatsapp group just meeting the like, you know, talking I love one of the brothers. His name's Ali here in Houston, southeast, South

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southwest.

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Every read his wife gets

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moon moonwalk and she makes like, you know, like barbecue and stuff like hot dogs outside. And she bites all the neighbors.

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And another brother,

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he's very his wife makes among any one of the best cookies, Mashallah makes beautiful, delicious cookies. Everybody in the neighborhood know that she has like every month or something like that, she invite all the neighbors and they all gather outside of the basically. So you get to know who they are, you give them a gift, especially in our age. Okay. Also among the gifts that you can do to them, sometimes you can do a gift to them, by doing a favor to them.

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You know, one day you cut their grass.

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Maybe you hire someone to cut the trees and all of a sudden, but make sure that someone comments has like some bad branches, like you caught up with their permission and you pay for it. Okay? Also visiting them, inviting them to visit you feeding them, sending them food, helping them with the need, like if they have wedding, somebody in hospital need their kids need someone to pick them up, you know, something like that. protecting them

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protecting your neighbor, you know, in Texas, that of Texas,

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you know, if somebody walk into your house, you have the right to defend yourself, and to actually even to shoot that person into your house, right?

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That applied to your home and your neighbor's home.

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Someone attacked your neighbor, legally, if you go to defend your neighbor, it's like your home.

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So defending them, when you see someone doing something bad to them, you warn them you stop, give them the see

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once I was invited and one brother's house

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and I know that I know this complex very well. I go there a lot

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in the these days.

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And so a lady

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who clearly not from this neighborhood, this is the complex majority of Muslims, you know,

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I know that they need at least a good portion of that area. And this woman

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clearly she's not from here because she's lost it looking. She got the phone. And the way she dressed just does not belong to that

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place.

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And all of a sudden, my friend and downstairs that I'm going to have dinner with his neighbor upstairs.

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Get out from the apartment talking to her up here. She goes up with him his face change became like all kinds of colors when he saw my face.

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Got so embarrassed.

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And I get to my friend. I couldn't sit. I told my friend. Hey,

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universe, there's some Muslim gangs, right? Yeah. Yeah. The student said this lady just walked into his house. his apartment.

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Is that normal?

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No,

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but it's not our business. I said

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yes, not our business. But our business is to give advice is not to know what they're doing.

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Is chair Come on. This is not Saudi Arabia. This is not Egypt. This is America. Honestly, don't worry. Gavin's number is a please check his number. I said, Yes, I called him.

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So let's say his name. Sorry. Come on. Come on. He is like, yes. He said, this is really the one who just saw outside. Can I can I talk to you for a minute? He said, Yes, he came down and I talked to him said, If I see someone trying to steal your car or put a fire in your car, and they come and tell you hey, there is a fire I like right next to your car.

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And I'm worried that it will basically blog apart. Would you appreciate it if I tell you that? He said Yeah, sure.

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Yeah, Habibi.

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What I know you're a single man and this is like, what's just going on right here he said, Oh, don't worry. You know, me and my friend there we know I'm not alone with her. She just a friend. I mean, a friend that like the way she's like wearing is completely like any less than 5% of her body is covered.

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A surgeon is just not like this. This is a fire next to the guy unless the gas next to the fire.

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He said I can go and eat and they don't care but I care about you. I care about your deen I care about your Eman

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This is not this you know I'm not accusing you of anything but you just put the gas next to the fire

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I don't know what is the deal with you not going to this your business but I my advice to you is whatever lost that you're going to fulfill in an hour is not worth it if it's going to lead for you to regret it for years.

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Tom

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in the bishop someone said no man or woman be alone and as the ship is the third and you're a young man

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if this woman is not related to us not mountaineers, not your wives No, that's not correct.

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I only did this because I care

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because you're Muslim you understand what I'm talking about.

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He was like two seconds.

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Anyway guys,

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maybe two years ago, two years after this. I met him at a follow up

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he came and he gave me a hug and the guy looks so different than what at the time and he said you know what I did I went upstairs and I asked her to leave she actually it was a service that I paid for

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without going to detail

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and I just came after what you told me I was thinking about the whole file on the board like

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you know even I have a fight on my heart all the time which is the fire of love But you know what? The Hellfire was something bigger

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and I let her go

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and I was so proud of myself I was so happy with myself I was thinking about all this hobby the personal like so close to do something haha and said no I forget a lot. I feel so proud of myself. And I want to tell you this has really changed my life and it never in my life after this ever touch woman and how long

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you don't know I didn't expect that.

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And mostly How is something we should give? We should not hold back.

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Also, one of the rights of the neighbors is to add

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any delay When was the last time that you made the offer name

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st st can do

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the least we can do any? Okay forget about forget about a socially social I'm not a social person I feel shy to reach out to talk but

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one of the rights of the ni

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MC the African that Allah guide them that a lot smarter Allah protect them any bring happiness to all of us.

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Actually the ally she passed me to her neighbors and among them a Jewish person. And when she asked the servant, I hope they were happy. She said yeah, and they said May Allah bless you. Carly knowmia Purim barakallahu lucky all of them including the non Muslim

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to the line along the baddeck v.

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Allah bless them all.

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throughout the home, here it is something also good. And this is something which that's why one of the things that I care about. Sometimes when I give hope to

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Want to make sure that I make the do out for the country for the city for the area that we're living in, you know, at least I can fulfill I'm not as guilty as

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some of you not fulfilling these rights I forget when was the last time my dad or my neighbor, but this is was a good reminder for me to, to do that more often.

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So and again if the neighbor is a Muslim is is, is basically a relative has more rights than the rest. If he's not Muslim if he is and you heard the three category, the cause of the call and you can make a general drop of an alarm Maggie Gianni for the no yo like I my neighbors May Allah guide us and protect us and give us success and so forth. This is just reflect how the heart of the Muslim should we be so pure.

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And this concept of being good to the neighbors is a concept that commonly exists in all religion and all good people understand that. Well this will come to conclude at the end of our class tonight Sharma