Tim Humble – 044 Kids Class – The Manners of a Muslim Part 2

Tim Humble
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of trustworthiness and being good to oneself in the Muslim culture. They stress the need to be gentle with parents and not give up on one's beliefs. Prayer together and being mindful of one's parents' behavior are also emphasized. The importance of helping parents with their behavior is emphasized, and the need for parents to be strong and supportive is emphasized. The speakers also discuss the importance of being aware of one's behavior and avoiding false accusations.
AI: Transcript ©
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Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa Salatu was Salam, ala Atilla who are solely Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi Etchmiadzin Subhan Allah took us a little bit of time to get set up today we're running a little bit later than usual. But inshallah Allah we're continuing with our discussion about manners and o'clock. We'll be talking about the manners of a Muslim. And what did we talk about last week? Who can remind me from the boys who can remind me what we talked about last week? Mohammed Yes.

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Sorry Mohammed

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being trustworthy Excellent. Yes, you did. We talked about being trustworthy. Yes.

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What else did we talk about?

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Yes, Isa.

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Keeping your promises Okay, excellent. Keeping your promise being trustworthy and keeping your promises. What else do we talk about?

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Okay, being kind to each other. We talked about PrEP, we talked about trustworthiness and we talked about what we'll be

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telling the truth telling the truth. Those were the three things we did talk about parents

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for the girls one second what was happening

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Is that working now? Okay. Just leave it there. No, bombshell. Okay, so we talked about trustworthiness. We talked about keeping your promises. We talked about telling the truth. Okay. Today we're going to be talking about some other points. We wanted to talk about L beer. Well, so

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we wanted to talk about beer. And we wanted to talk about lsn. Okay, which means being

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and doing good to other people. That's what we want to talk about lb. Amore. Talk about Alexa. Okay, one second. Why we thought this up? Is it? I wonder if it's just the stream? If it's not, it may well be the stream it may not be the camera at all.

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Okay, this one's working fine. No problem shall so we seem to have maybe we got a cable problem on number one, it's fine. So we're going to talk about two things. We're going to talk about LBL we're going to talk about LA San.

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Okay, this word I'll be I'll be there is a word for everything that you do that is good. Every single good thing that you do, it can be caught it can be talked about with the word LPR.

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The word Albir. Every single good thing that you do

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in Allah Haiya.

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Bill addley will assign you a title

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and the word la San it means to do good to other people.

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I want to ask you guys a question about a beer and I'm gonna ask it to the girls. Okay?

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The word Alber is a word for everything that you do that is good. Every single good thing you can do it comes into the word elbow.

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Everything good. So my question is, my question is, what is the difference between El Erbil and attack wha

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Allah said what are our islands bitterly what Tucker Taqwa wallet I wonder if we would help each other to do bill and to Taqwa. But if Bill is everything that's good.

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What Taqwa.

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Something specific but we said before is everything. That's good. What are our know? LL BV what Taqwa help each other, to do beer, and to do tacos and beer is everything. That's good. So what's left if the beer is

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What's left?

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Let's see. annisquam.

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Trusting in Allah, but that's a kind of good

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being trustworthy is a kind of good

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being good to others is a kind of good.

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What's left after the good?

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The bad, what's left is the bad. What does Allah tell you to do with the bad?

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To do it as much as you can know, to do what with it? Yes nor

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to come away from it. So in this I'll build a means to do everything good. And a Taqwa a means to keep away from everything bad. That's what it means.

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To Do Everything good and to keep away from everything bad. But this is a tricky word. And why it's a tricky word is it's a word that it changes its meaning.

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It changes its meaning.

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So sometimes it means doing everything good.

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And Taqwa means keeping away from everything, but and sometimes Taqwa means both of them. And zero means both of them. So sometimes it comes where Bill means doing good and keeping away from bad.

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That's complicated a little bit. But I'll make it easy. When Bill and telkwa come together in the same sentence. Beer means doing good and Taqwa means keeping away it doesn't mean doing bad. It means keeping away from the bat.

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And when they come by themselves

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like Allah says,

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to us what has oh, we're due for in a higher Azad Taqwa always have Taqwa with you. It means both, it's just the same, it means it takes the meaning of both together forces them come together. So if you find the word beer on its own, it means doing good and keeping away from what's bad. But if you find beer and Taqwa together in the same sentence, beer it means doing good Antiqua it means keeping away from what is bad, but I want to talk about Bill in terms of o'clock. Manners. What does Bill mean in terms of your

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manners? Who has any idea if Bill means doing everything good? How do we relate that to our manners? Girls? What do you think?

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Do always okay, so what they say is a bill it means a tower Sophie Farrell, what it means to do so much good for other people.

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It means to do so much good for other people.

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And it means to make other people

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It means to make other people happy, but I've now got a question for the boys how you can put your hand up a fire see the question

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Okay, Mashallah. You're confident Allah bless you. You're confident that's like,

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the question to the boys is, bear in mind as a means to make people happy to make somebody else happy.

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Are we allowed to make someone else happy?

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If it makes Allah angry with us?

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What do you think?

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No. So Allah comes first. We can only we only can think about what makes Allah happy. But if it makes Allah happy, we try to do whatever we can to make other people happy. As long as Allah is not angry with us, does that make sense? Whatever we can do to make other people happy as long as it doesn't make.

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Allah angry with us. The other meaning of LBL

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is a being somebody

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like listening to someone a thorough

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a thorough listening to someone

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listening to someone, again, are we allowed to listen to someone if they tell us to do something haram? No. But if they tell us to do something which is not haram, then listening to for example, our parents, okay, let's talk about then Bill rule while reading, being good to your parents. I'm going to tell you why it's most important to be good to your parents more than any other person.

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Because Allah said, Why are good Walla Walla tertiary Qubee he Shea, our web Bill Wyrley, Dany a Santa, worship Allah, and don't make any partner with him. And be good to your parents.

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Be good to your parents. Do you notice Allah told us the most important thing in Islam? What's the most important thing in Islam?

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We see we get this right and who's going to get it wrong? I think you're going to get it wrong here. Let's see. Zachary.

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Zack, you got it right. I thought you're going to get it wrong. And I clicked on it and I thought you're gonna get it wrong. I thought you're gonna say listen to your parents. And I was gonna say no, it's not listened to your parents. You got it completely right. worshipping Allah is the most important thing in Islam. What's the most important thing in Islam? worshipping Allah? After worshiping Allah? What did Allah mentioned second.

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Being good to your parents. Now praying You're right. You're not You're not wrong. Mohamed you're right about praying. But I was just talking in the iron this iron I didn't mean you're right about praying I just meant in the iron. What a Buddha Allah hawala to shake up shake. Well, Bill Wyrley daily Asana, worship Allah

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and don't make any partner with him and be good to your parents. What does it mean now we're going to test you guys and your pet some of your parents are here so we're going to test you what does it mean to be good to your parents

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very good

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very good. I love that answer. He's the he said Iran respect them speak to them respectfully. The girls also said the girls answer was sorry.

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Obey them right.

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Obey them

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Okay, so we know that Iran respect them obey them a tar listening to them in what is not haram Okay. Inshallah your parents don't tell you to do haram but you have to say if if one day someone's parents told them to do haram, you don't listen to your parents if they tell you to do haram. But if your parents told you to do Haram are you allowed to be disrespectful? Like you said at rom right? Are you allowed to have noise around because your parents told you to do something hard? What about if your parent told you to worship a statue or idol?

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What about if if I didn't say they did I said if if, if they told you.

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You don't do it, but

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you're respectful in the way that you don't do it.

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Why? Because Allah said, we're in Jahad Arca Allah and tooshie cabbie Malay Salah cabbie hearing, Fela tutor Houma Warsaw Hebrew Bahama for dunya Maratha if they tell you to make a partner with me in something that you don't have any knowledge about don't obey them, don't listen. But be with them in this dunya in a good way. The treat them in a good way. When Abraham's father told him to worship the idols, how did Ibrahim speak to his father? He said, Yeah, Betty. In the Caja any mineral in me Mela, Mia Tikka factor be any ethicacy rotten soya. He spoke to him very nicely. He said my father, my dear father, I have knowledge that you don't have. So if you follow me, I'm going to guide you to

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the right path. He said yeah, but he lets her body she taught my father don't worship the SharePort. He spoke to him very, very respectfully, but he did he listen. Not Ibrahim didn't worship the idol. He didn't listen to what his father told him. But he spoke to his father kindly. So if someone's parents said to them, for example, you have to don't pray. I don't want you to pray. It's okay. If anyone needs to shy tell them to shoot don't need to tell them to your story.

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If someone's parents told you, Inshallah, your parents never tell you but what if your friend came? And your friend said, My mom told me you're not allowed to

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So what do you do?

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What do you do?

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and don't listen to them and

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to guide them pray, pray to Allah to guide the parents and girls.

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Speak to them kindly when you when you say you're not going to new say, Mom, honestly, whatever you asked me to do, Inshallah, I'm going to do it. But I can't not pray because Allah told me to pray. I'm praying is so important. And praying is the difference between someone who's Muslim and someone who's not. So I have to pray. But if there's something else we I can do for you to make you happy, I will do it. So you speak to them nicely. But you don't listen to them if they tell you to do something haram. So we said, Tehran, you said, Tara, being respectful, and we said a tar are being them.

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Fill my roof and build my roof in that which is allowed. What else does it mean to be good to your parents? Still, there's lot of things that we haven't spoken about.

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Don't hurt them at all. Not that much at all. Don't hurt them. Don't do something that you know is going to hurt your mom and dad. Very good. What girls be grateful. What's the evidence about being grateful? What could rub their ham Whoa, man, can any Saudi Allah say My Lord, have mercy on them? They looked after me when I was small. I've got two questions about this. This is a dua for your parents. You all know this too, right? If you don't know this to AI, you need to learn this to rob Durham Houma can rob Dyani sarila You have to learn this too. I'm going to test you on it. Rob Burnham Houma, can rob Dyani. Sahil, ah, my Lord, have mercy on them. They looked after me when I

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was small. I've got a question. If your parents didn't look after you when you were small, maybe for example, someone's parents they died, for example, or maybe their Auntie looked after them or their uncle looked after them. Or maybe they move to a different country and their moms stay back in their country and they came with their other relatives. Does that mean that we don't have to listen to our parents that we don't have, we don't have to love them.

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So it doesn't matter whether they looked after us when we when we were small or not. But that's an extra reason to be grateful. And the evidence Anishka Lee Valley, worthy, deca, la yamasa. To be grateful to Allah and to be grateful to your parents. So the girls were right about being grateful. One, you mentioned the answer. Don't hurt them. I like the answer. Give me a second till I answer him that I'm going to come to you. Don't hurt them. Don't do something that would hurt your mom and dad. Sometimes you do something and you know, if your mom and dad found out and they knew about it, it would hurt them. They would be hurt by it. So you have to keep away from what would hurt your mom

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and dad. What else? Do you have to do this something I'm thinking of as well the opposite of that. Not just keeping away from what would hurt them.

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Respect him although he mentioned respect already.

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Not just doing what would please if you're right girls doing what oh, please send but more than that. Yes.

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Very good. I love this answer. Masha. Allah does amazing looking after them when they are older.

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When they are old, when they get older, you're looking after them when they are older, because it's difficult when you start to get older, you become like what again, you become a little bit like a child again, isn't it? When you start to get older and older and older, you become more like a child you become not as strong as you used to be. And maybe you don't remember things as well as used to remember them. And maybe your health starts to go and you need someone to look after you. So especially when they get older. But does that mean we only look after our parents when they're old? No, that's just an excellent example. There's something I was I was thinking about really thinking

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about, which is the girl said, remind me what you said girls

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doing what would please them, but it's more than that. Doing what would please them? It's more than that. Doing what would please them before they even ask you?

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Because there's two things. One thing is a part of being them. But there's another thing and that is what they sometimes call

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that they call it like to Henry

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Reba, Houma.

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Like you're looking for what will make them happy before they ask for it. So sometimes your mom says, clean your room. Right? Everyone. I think everyone had that situation happened to them in Sharla, where their mom said to them or their dad said to them, clean your room.

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The thing is, you knew when that room was messy in the morning, you knew in the morning already, that it would make your mom happy if you clean the room. Why did you wait for her to ask?

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Is it right to wait for her to ask? No, it's not built to wait for her to ask if you know that she would love for you to do it. Why wait for her to ask you. If you know your dad would love for you to do something. Do it for him before he asks for it.

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If you can, this is from Albert. Okay, being gentle with them. This is from Albert. Being gentle. Being gentle with them.

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While fifth Allahumma Jana has only Mina Rama being merciful and gentle with them.

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What can you give me some examples of being gentle with your parents or riff below validate? Give me some examples. Yeah. Not raising your voice. What do you mean I didn't go you know how people raise that don't raise their voice

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you don't even say to them

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off. You know off is it's the smallest thing you can say to make someone upset. It's like It's like that

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you know that touching sound in Arabic we call it off is the smallest smallest thing Allah said don't say to them

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to Allah Taku Lahoma off don't say to them like that.

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Like that don't even say like this arch or to ignore even like yeah, okay, you can stop talking now just like for that demonstration though events say this to them. If you don't say off to them, you definitely don't swear you definitely don't shout you definitely don't raise your voice you definitely don't hit them. If you're not even allowed to say off to them. You're not allowed to do everything else that's why the Scholars they say if off is not allowed. Everything else is mean Bobby hola it's more deserving that it's not allowed don't even say off to them. Give me another example of being gentle with your parents as really good example. Give me another example of being

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gentle with your parents being gentle with them. I have gone Muhammad haven't asked you for a long time

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okay speaking to them in a nice way we kind of spoke about already but I agree with you speaking to them in a nice way being soft being gentle with them speaking to them in a nice way let's see girls

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go girls do you have example for me? Gentle

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okay, yes no

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being kind okay, but I want to know what does it mean to be gentle? To be soft

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okay good

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it wasn't you do start stop saying that it was a nice way to get not like

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okay, so not shouting knock is not getting angry with them. But it's even more What about just hugging your parents giving them a hug or giving them a kiss? Or you know, actually like showing like kindness to your parents. Like just you come in sometimes you come and just walk inside don't look at your parents where they are coming in you know?

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Yeah, even just being gentle with them asking about their day. How was everything for you? Do you need anything this is about looking for what they need. Yeah asking them how they were sitting down at their feet you know like just looking after them yeah being gentle with them being soft with them being kind with them yes

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outside when you come come back inside

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salaam to them also have a Salam is a right of every Muslim right you have to say salaam to every Muslim but like but definitely saying salaam to them. Give them a hug. You know like sit sit with your mom and dad spend time with them.

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You know if your mom says rub my head you rub her head here.

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This is this is how it is

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Oh, I like this one from the girls, this is really good one from the girls, the girls got a really good one and a tough one as well. They got a really good answer but a really tough answer. They said, help them to be better people and help them by correcting them if they do something wrong, is completely true. It's just really hard. It's hard because it's not easy to say to your mom and dad that they did something wrong, you have to find a very, very clever way of saying it, that they don't feel like you're speaking badly to them.

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For example, you could suggest something would be better. For example, if you saw them doing it. And you could say that, Mom, wouldn't it be better if we did this? Or Mom, what do you think about doing this? Or you can mention their own advice to you. For example, if they told you don't speak about people badly, and one time you heard your mum speaking about someone badly, you can say Mum, I remember when you told me about speaking about people badly. And I remember I used to do that and you told me not to do it. I think all of us we need to try not to do it inshallah. They can a gentle way that they don't feel like you're saying mom to say that again.

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Yeah, but you're right, correcting them and helping them to be better people was the greatest example you could have of helping your parent to be a better person. This is tough. The best example that you could have, like, it's not for everyone. In fact, most of you in this room, it cannot apply to you.

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guiding them to Islam. If they were not Muslim,

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if they were not Muslim, guiding them to Islam, or if they're not practicing Islam, helping them to practice Islam. So let's say give an example. I'm going to give you a scenario. Let's example say give an example of your dad doesn't pray five times a day, and you pray five times a day.

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You pray five times a day, but let's say we're not saying your dad, someone's that. That you have a friend. He prays five times a day. His dad doesn't pray five times a day. How do you help? How does he help his dad to start praying five times a day without his dad feeling like he was bad to him or nasty to him or horrible to him? How do we balance it out like that? Yes.

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very good. I love that one.

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Praying in front of him. That's very, very good. Like deliberately praying in front of him. It's a quiet reminder like that. Look, you know, I'm praying What else could he do? Girls have the idea that I

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pray together that's a really good idea that come on dad. Let's pray together you and me.

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Why don't we pray together? Or shall we can you take me to the masjid and we we can pray together? Something like that, like slowly? But what do you then do if he gets angry? And it's like why telling me to pray for i did i do i want you know, you're my son. You're not supposed to tell me what to do.

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Then how you're going to take it? How are you going to help him? How you're going to be soft with him, but help him to understand

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okay, what do you think?

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That's very good. Very, very good answer. Give him an example from the Quran. See, but Dad, didn't Allah say,

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for way too little mousseline and levena, home, Ancelotti himself home, the people, they're going to go to jahannam. If they delay their prayers, and they're not careful about their prayers, they're going to go to jahannam and I don't want you to go to Johanna. So come and pray with me. And then if he gets too too angry, you have to leave it for a while and try the next time try the next time. But you can say like that didn't Allah say for ya know, little mousseline? That Jahannam is going to be for the people who delay their prayers and they don't pray on time. That's good. That's a very good answer. Yes. We'll be

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talking to him about how the prophets used to pray really good, very, very good. I like that. Those examples are excellent. Okay. What else is from barrel Wylie Dean, from being gentle with your parents and kind with your parents and soft with your parents.

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Yeah, go

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to yeah, don't don't make them sad and angry. But even even the things they know about even when they're not there, don't do anything that if they saw you they would be sad or angry. Do you see what I mean? Like it's not just about not making them sad or angry, but it's about not doing something that you know if they saw you, they will

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would be sad or angry about it. There's something else as well. What about giving up what you want for them?

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Is that not important? Giving up what you want for them? So for example, you really want to go and play with your friends.

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Is it haram? No, Inshallah, you're not going to do anything haram, you want to go play nicely with your friends, you really want to go play with your friends. But your mom really needs your help in something. And she says, you know, she may be shaving doesn't say she even says, Okay, go on. If you want to go with your friends, go with your friends. But you know, your mum wants your help. And you really want to go with your friends because they're doing something really exciting. You have to put your parents first, you have to make your parents more important than your friends. And this is what we often tell off children about is children are good to their parents. But sometimes they're better

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to other people than they are to their parents. They're good to their parents. I'm not saying they're bad. But when it comes to uncle or uncle, if you want my right hand, I will cut it right now take it.

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But when it comes to Mom and Dad, no, I don't want to do it. I'm not no like that. So you have to be somebody who you what do you do? You put your parents before other people. Before uncles and Auntie's and brothers and cousins and friends and people at the masjid mom and dad number one.

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Okay, out of mum and dad, which ones which ones number one?

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I'm not saying anything, right. But it's,

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it's well, it's okay. Okay. It's mom. It's Mum, Mum Mum three times. Because a man came to the Prophet so I said, lemony said, or messenger of Allah, who is the most deserving person for me to be really good to them to be have person serve it and to be like, really, to really be with them in the best way. He said your mom. The man said he didn't finish the question. He said, Okay, my mom who after my mom, the prophet sighs him said your mom. He said, Okay, after my mom who? He said your mom.

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He said, after my mom, he said your dad.

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So three times he answered him, your mother, your mother, your mother, and then he said your father. And he didn't mention until then your uncles and Auntie's and brothers and cousins and all of those people they come after that, so that your mom is three times more important in terms of how you look after take care of her be nice to be kind to her, Listen to her look for what she wants.

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And then comes here that

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yes, you sir.

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Sorry. Yeah, Allah, Allah is first because we're not talking. We're here we're not talking about we're not talking about obedience. We're talking about helping a surfer be like living in a good way with them. Yeah, so Allah comes first because Allah subhanaw taala is before everything it's it's religion, right? That's your religion. But in terms of your living with somebody and and being kind to somebody who's a person, so your mom is three times more important than your daddy comes number one. And then comes your dad. Then comes everybody else? Okay? Very good. Yes.

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Allah said don't lie at all. Allah said Don't lie to anybody, not to mom, not to dad, not to your friends, not even to anybody except three things you can lie about. You can lie to your enemy if you're fighting a war, if you're fighting a war. And you know, for example, you planning on sneaking up on the town and attacking the town at night. You don't have to tell your enemy in advances. Excuse me, I'm a very truthful person. So I'm going to attack your town tonight in about two hours. Okay, so just be ready for me. No, you don't if it's a war, you don't have to tell the truth. And there's some other examples if you're making a peace between two people who are fighting, like if

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there's two people fighting each other, then you are allowed to make like a little bit between them like Oh, he wants you to come back he likes you he mentioned good about you. So that's for making people peace between people. And also if for making your wife happy about the food and things like that.

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Why what?

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Why mustn't We lie? I give you simple answer the prophets I send them said lying leads to evil and evil leads to gentlemen. That's why lying leads to evil, evil practices, and evil practices lead to Jannah and a person will keep on lying hotter. You gotta bear in the law he can never until he's written in the sight of Allah Azza Kazakh a very, very big liar. So that's good. Okay. There was another

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Question I had a really tough one scenario for the girls this time the boys answered the sad for the girls.

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Mom and Dad are fighting.

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like that never happens obviously.

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Mom and Dad are fighting mom and dad are fighting How do you show kindness to both mom and dad because you have to be good to both your parents when mom and dad are fighting

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I agree and I disagree with you and the answer girls

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no no I disagree with you in a way the girl said don't take sides

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but the problem with that is that makes it seem that both of them are right yeah.

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So so but because Allah said what enter if attaining minimal meaning octet hello for us. facilely Kobina. Homer for in Bella del home island ohata cartulary turbidity Hi, tefillah amarilla. So you have to take the side of the person who, but but

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that but you still I still agree. I said I agree with you. And I disagree. I told you it's hard. This one I agree with you don't appear to take sides. Like don't say dad's right, you're wrong. You know, I'm just giving that example. Yeah, dad's right, you're wrong. And this normal, but you, you have to have in your mind, who am I like what, who is wrong here that I can help them to not be wrong, and who is right here so I can support them. But while seeming to be respectful to both, that's why it's very hard. So for example, you see that your dad is wrong about something. And you see that your mom is right, and they're fighting about it. So you know, you need to correct your

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dad, and you need to help your mom agreed. But you can't make it out to your dad that you don't respect him or that you think is wrong, that you can't come to him and say to him that

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and you can't go to Home say Mom, you're completely right. And I you know you have to be

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you have to be clever about it. You have to be diplomatic about it. But at the same time, your goal is to help the person who did something, right, and to help the one who did something wrong to change. But you have to be very clever about it. Because you can't make it seem like you're the one in charge. Because you're not the one in charge. Agreed? Yes, Mohamed, what's your thoughts on this topic?

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But you can't really tell your mom and dad things like you can but you can't like you can't kind of instruct your mom or dad, like, Dad, be humble. You know, like you, you have to find a gentle way of saying like, so for example, if you saw your dad was being really wrong, you could put your hand around him and say, Dad, come on, be like that inshallah. And like he will, you might see it like, yeah, you're correcting him, but you're not like you're not being horrible to him in it. Does that make sense? Yes, maybe.

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I agree with you don't make it worse. I don't think leave them but don't make it worse. Don't you get involved and start like, you know, mom and dad are shouting and then you jump in the middle and start shouting at them both? Why are these I told you about this before I've given you? My teacher told me in the lecture. No, you said he's and you start fighting with each other? No, don't don't do that. You're right. Don't make it worse. But sometimes you might have to get involved in a clever way in a quiet way. Just a little bit here and there. Yes.

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You can't say to them, they're both wrong because it's kind of disrespectful. Right? And it doesn't mean that the truth, but you can you can gently explain it like that, look, you know, we let's let's not raise our voices or it's not nice. I you know, you bring them both together, you hug your mom and your dad and you kind of like bring them both together. That's a good way. Okay. New new topic, because I have to stop the class a little bit early today because I have another class. And I have to go back and set up that class before that. This class that class, you know, I mean, everybody knows what I mean. Sure. Okay.

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Another meaning of the word bill is connected to the word his son

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and his son, it just means to do good to someone. That's what What a son means.

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Can you look at me? Or look at me, okay? The word is a means to do good to other people.

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And it has another meaning as well. It means to do more good to someone

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that they expect.

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Right? Because for example, let me let me give you an example. Let me give you an example.

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If, for example, you did a job for me, all right, you did a really nice job I said. I said, for example, Zack Hoover the masjid for me, okay, and you hoovered the whole masjid. And then afterwards, I said, Jazak Allahu Halen, he has, you know, some chocolate or sweet or something. That's not a son.

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Why? Because you did something good. And I did something good, right? Like, you know, I gave you something for the good that you did. Yeah, that's like a raw tip a payment or ADGER like a reward. But it's not a it's not a son. A son is where you give someone way more than they deserve. Like, for example, I said to somebody, I don't know, I gave them a small job. And the reward I gave them for the job was huge, big reward. And that's why Allah tells us about a sign and Allah's name is at Mercy. Because Allah always gives you way more than what you did.

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Both more than both more than you expect, and more than you deserve. Your sign is more than you expect, and more than you deserve. So when we're talking about Santa other people, now, we're not just talking about parents.

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We're not just talking about parents.

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We're not just talking about parents, we talk about to other people, we try to be better than those people could imagine.

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We try to be better

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than those people could imagine.

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So for example, if someone thinks that you're going to do something nice for them, or good for them, you try to do more good than they would imagine you to do. Why do you do that? Because Allah said hello Jezza who is Ernie Eliza? Is there any reward for doing good except Allah is gonna give you even more good so you did more good to people than they did to you. And then Allah gave you more good than the good that you did. So you always get more back than what you give Does that make sense? You will always get back more than what you give. So you always try to be better to people than they are to you. So even when people treat you badly, you try to treat them even better in an

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even better way. And you try to always have a son in what you do. Allah said What are tests that will has an eye to well I say here either variability here XM always if someone does something bad to you try to respond in what with with what with something worse. Is that what it is? someone does something bad to you respond to something worse? No, try to respond with a sun bility here accent respond with something which is better than what they would expect better than what they deserve. Does that make sense? Okay, today inshallah we're going to stop the class there.

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We usually have a little break anyway, let you guys relax before Margaret because I have to take my equipment and set it for my next class. So I'm not going to be around for answering too many questions. I'm going to have to stop the class inshallah you guys will behave and there will be people supervising you. So I don't want any misbehaving in sha Allah and inshallah Maghrib time I will be back before marketed in the lab. I'm just going to go and take the class, the cameras for the next class to set them up inshallah. So that's what Allah made easy for me to mention today and Allah knows best or Salatu was

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