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Illa

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Allah Al Hamdulillah a salaam aleikum, which is a greeting of peace, peace be unto you and people from all around the globe tune into the deen show calm where we're here trying to help you understand Islam and Muslims. And when I come back

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we're gonna be talking to my good friend, Mr. Shake side and we're gonna be talking about the youth trying to understand the youth why some of them have drifted off and got involved in gangs and drugs and shootings and colors and Crips and this and that when we come back here on the dean shall be right back. He

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is His Messenger.

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Jesus was his messenger.

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Why did that maybe, maybe it's just to break the ice

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a little bit so they can see this beautiful smile of yours.

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How are you handling that? We had you here with us before? Right? And people can go to the deen show calm and they can see your biography. They can read a little bit about you. And we're glad that you are here with us again on the deen show. You are doing a wonderful job thank you i love the show didn't show and hamdulillah and every time I want you to have something that's okay, let me see what's on the show. Use so sometimes these others share that share beautiful work, beautiful work, inshallah we encourage you to continue getting better and better and improving your work. Mashallah, thank you Mila acceptance from from all of us. I mean, we be in the higher levels of paradise. I

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mean, yes. So are you still playing ball? I'm still trying. Yeah, I was trying. Nice. One of the guy he said, I, I was told. And he said, No, no, no. I think you believe you're a good basketball player. Honestly, let us rewind that. Take the belief part. And let us go to the court and let the boss speak for I heard Shaquille O'Neal. He accepted Islam. Is this true? Or just a rumor?

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I can tell you what I know. Yeah. I'm a thing was way back when Hakeem Olajuwon was playing with the Raptors. And also Mamadou Angie was also playing with for the Raptors here. And when

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the game between Raptors and the Lakers at that time, and the game finish, of course, friend of Mamadou was also with them. And his wife was wearing hijab. Yeah. And of course, this is what it is and some Hannah law in that environment. Shaquille O'Neal came, you know, Vince Carter, that sounds like you know, he put his guy and he said when she comes, let me know. Yeah. So everybody, all the rafters players were excited to see shake even though they just finished game with him. But they want a personal you know, handshake a personal greeting. So when shaky was about to come, the boy or the man reported to Vince Carter that he's here. So Meanwhile, Shaquille nor his sister, and her

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husband was wearing hijab. She's there. So he stopped going to them. And he went to them. Yeah. And he gives them the greeting of a snap.

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headpiece, he says a Solomonic. Yeah. And then some of the guys like your Muslim and he turned, you know, how big is it? Of course, I am a Muslim. Wow. So that's what the guy reported. But he said he was there and handed it there. So Muslim is simply for non Muslim get someone who's chosen freely consciously to surrender and submit to the creator that have absolutely absolutely no one else but that unique won't God, the same God of Jesus, Moses, Abraham, know all the prophets of God. And the last and final messenger, how much of the law it was that people can actually get to know from the last show that we did? Absolutely, yes. Now, you hit I mean, you know what's going on on basketball,

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you know, what's going on, you know, out there with the youth and unfortunately, there are a lot of youth that are getting caught up into some of the vices out there in games. Yeah, drunk. Yeah. All these other things that are going on, and we want to help encourage them to come back to the correct way. Why do you think this is actually happening? to somebody you've let's start off with that.

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Well, you have to understand when you're young, especially a start, you know when you're a baby on your young boy under you know, 1415 you still under influence of your parents? Yeah. So you listen to them you in they ask you to pray you pray, but most of the time is like man, why do I have to pray? You know, God doesn't need my prayers. And a lot of times, some of them say I know you know, I have to pray but it's too much or

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I don't want to pray I'm too lazy, but and as they grow, they gain their independence. Yeah. So they think they now I'm a man, you know, I'm an independent person, I'm an adult, I will do what I want to what I feel like doing. And then those guys who were raised in Islamic environment, they may go a little bit off track, then come back. Now, those people are not the problem. The problem is those actual ones that who their parents were too busy to educate them about Islam. Or the parents would think, by bringing the child to Sunday school for two hours, and then picking up their daughters without hijab. And we asked the daughter to read the girl to wear hijab school. And the mother, you

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know, she comes to the message, she puts hijab on, she gets into her car, she takes over hijab, and this young lady, she sees this. And so what you have is not that important, my mother's not wearing what do I have to wear? And both parents are working most of the time. And what happened this kid is that, you know, developed his own personality, which later on will come something that is issued for the family.

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These guys are difficult to bring them back. Yeah, they are difficult because they don't know anything about. Yeah, I remember in Ottawa, this father, he walks into the mom's house, after midnight. And he said she, you have to talk to my daughter. She wants to move in with her boyfriend. And the question that the Imam asked was all the Egyptian men, he said, How old is your daughter? She said, 25. And they say, you, you know, left your responsibility for 25 years. And now when you realize the problem, you coming running into me, I cannot help you with this as well. So what is what is the problem with the youth is all this temptation around them, but at the same time not

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having that role model to follow, or the environment that was needed for the communities to create for them? We're not doing our job. And I don't blame this case, for bet. But our advice them, Listen, we have new Muslims already been there. They saw everything. They felt everything they felt the pain of ignorance of General COVID. They can tell you about it. You don't have to go and experience yourself. Just listen to their stories, read about them, sit with them. Ask what happened? Why did you become a Muslim? And why are you going away from Islam? You know, you go into Russian where they just came back from so minus three How would these guys will be Listen, chill,

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relax, and cooldown come back to Islam. And you will see Islam, a lot of you and also a misconception about Islam. Islam, the thing is on going to the masjid, and I'm going to just read, and I'm just not going to do anything. That is the wrong impression. It's nice. Having fun. Yeah, we play ball with play soccer in 100. Now we have second League of a basketball league we have, you know, hockey, hockey, everything. Is there. Anything that is hella for entertainment? Is there? Yeah. So you made a very important point now the parents. So it looks like we first need to rewind a little bit and give some advice to the parents. Prevention. Islam is all about prevention. So let's

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talk about the preventive measures that parents can take so they don't end up with something dangerous like this on their hands where the youth is totally gone, and maybe in droves and it was too late. Let's talk about this. Now. See some Hara Allah when Allah subhana wa tada set in the Quran, the Quran, Allah confy rasulillah, he was watching Hassan Indeed, he has an excellent example.

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It's true, everything that in your life, you know, dealing with media, you know, dealing with the politicians dealing with, you know, you know, drug dealers or you know, alcohol, everything is there you can find. So, I remember one of the insert from the center of the long line he was send them a mother who wants to call her child, she said, sweetie, take this Take this. And the purpose of the law it was simply looked at her hand. And he said, I hope you have something for them.

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Because if you don't, they you lying to that child, and they would be sin on your book. You know, what does that show? It shows that as a parent, you got to be role model. You know, you don't have to lecture these children, but just live Islam.

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Pray and they will see Salah is important. Go to the masjid as often as hard as you try going to your job and the child will see mastery is important. The Honors and they will be honest. I have my daughter she is you know, a year and a half. As soon as her mother start praying she runs a she grabs a little job. And she prays right next so Damien Yeah. How because the she saw her mother doing this. So

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As a parent, we have to be a role model, we have to understand the ball and the children observing us that we live in realizing that, you know, everything that we do the learning from, remember this trophy Mama sheffy when a man came with excitement, and he has a son, sitting next to him as a chef, I want my son to be exactly like you. Yeah. And the Father and the Father. So excited. Mm hmm. How old is he? He said, it's just a baby's only two years old. I brought him early. He said, it's too late.

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It's too late. And that is true. Two years too late American brothers in addition problem in Houston. And he's, I saw a little funny, you know, CD player, or, you know, I said, What is this? He said, it looks like a belt. And he said, that's what my wife said, What is that for? He says, she's pregnant. SubhanAllah. So why does he have to read this? He said, the doctor say, Take this, play, slow music. And the Chow will come when he's born will be a common, easy to manage. So I took that method, he said, and I put so these are the art. And now hamdulillah. See, they start covering the child from that age. Yeah, you know, if we only use those methods and say, Okay, well, the mother's

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pregnant.

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How sardine? And what are you doing to make sure that the child that is going to be born is born righteous. And from there in this power law, as a father, don't bring anything head on to the house, you know, make sure everything is held up. As a father, as a mother, make sure the child knows that you have gone to the bathroom. As a father, make sure the father the child knows the way to the mystery. As a father, make sure that your house is located close enough to the message that when the time of the time of seller comes on, you're still at work, and is six, seven years old, he can walk through the message itself. As a father, you make sure you are perfect role model. When a man says

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that one of the men of the past he said to his son, could you can we who is your role model? And who is going to be like you, the child is nothing but a loser boy, he's a why you pray for him. And then he will call on you go to Juma Did he say no? I want to be like, I don't even know what happened to me. I'm just a regular man. Now, you know. So if you want your child to be perfect Muslim, aim high. And then from there, you always, always try to raise them more than by the time they 15. You saw did you experience some difficulties? He would be less more difficulties than any other any other inner child. So obviously doesn't work. If you are lighting up tomorrow, if you're not establishing that

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second pillar of Islam praying, right, and you might be more adamant about following some cultural practices. Absolutely. Then this is not something that's going to work now. No, you you sending mixed messages. Yeah. You know, sort of the parents all over the phone. You say, when the little baby pick up the phone, he says, you know, can I speak to your father?

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Or my father's not here. That's what he said, We are lying. So we taught him from the first day how to lie now tomorrow when he lies to us.

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So we should not blame anyone but ourselves. So again, we have to be role models of the life in our buses and body.

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You know, he saw those sort of lines on the lawn. He was everything in the masjid, he prays. He's never late for then, you know, unless it's something serious. You know, he gives a hug, but he teaches a perfect role model on the law audience and he and he's only seven years old. And then he said, I want to see a sort of lie, how he is at home. So he want his morning, and I say can I spend the night with you? She said sure. So he's pretending that he's asleep. But he's not sleep. So he said, I stood a lot walk through the door. He gave his family beautiful greeting. How are you? He asked about them? How was your day and and then he songs that is the voice sleep? And my mornings

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that are the alarm? Yes, he is. And then he said talking to his wife. Even this is a lesson for husbands. You know, just don't come and you know, go to the bathroom and take a bath and then in sleep, spend some time with your wife and ask her how was her day. And then Abdullah said, then a sort of lifestyle along with a soft finish after he finished talking with his wife. He stood up for salah and I said, Now this is my time. So he's I joined him some of the law on he was sort of in the salon. See, he wants to see what a sort of lie is doing as a child.

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He the child wants to see what his father's going to do. Now the parents are off at work, and they might have a babysitter or the public school is raising them meaning that they're spending most of the time 5678 hours in the public school. They come home they got a babysitter and the

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TVs actually educating the kids and the music and the hip hop and the gangster rap? Is this something that you're seeing also a lot? And what is your comments and advice on it?

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Let us Let me address the issue of TV, in my views,

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when she

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walks into your house, or into my house, and he sees TV shaitaan will say, Man, this thing is doing more damage that I can do. Let me just, you know, sit back, I got this, I guess this, you know, I hire TV that said, this little black box is destroyed will destroy the whole family. Now you won't need shavon because you already purchase your own shaper. And not only that, some of the family, you know, when the the kids and the parents like, she'll say, you know, this cousin Allison, can you talk to them? So I said, How many of you have TVs at home? And everybody raised their hand? And I said, How many of you have two TVs at home? And they say, I say how many of you have TV in the room

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and almost half of the little avatar was six, seven years old. It was there. Yeah. So having that thing in your room, that monitoring not knowing what the child is watching is a dangerous thing to do. Very serious issue. I'm not saying you should not have TV period. So if you have TV, get a DVD DVD player. Put some, you know, kids show Islamic kids show, but some lectures based on the child or the age of the children. You know, there are a lot of things for Muslim children put didn't show, you know, get some of the episodes and put them together. I'm playing so that people can understand because obviously, on the normal TV 95% of 95% of the things promiscuity, you have men kissing woman

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nakedness. You have all sorts of violence and things that obviously are going to have a detrimental effect on the child he's recording everything is and he's recording every single thing smile on my son, three years old. He just saw him. You know, when I'm doing something, he won't even blink he just looking at me like this. Yeah. And I know, he's that little eyes, and nothing but two cameras, you know, just recording and reporting everything? And what if I do anything wrong? He would do exactly. And I can tell you, every time he says something wrong is something that he's seen in a home, or must you disagree? It's not nice, or it's not on his own things. But, you know, TV and what

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the children watch. It's very serious. One of the kids he said, you know, to her Dad, why don't you love Mom, I love your mom, but you don't kiss her like, like they kiss each other.

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You know. So to them love is you got to do you know, kiss in front of the children to show affection and love because it's kissing all over the doesn't even have a cartoon, everything, everything. So I would say Muslim parents to Fiala because this child is a man his trust. And Allah subhanaw taala gave you a gift to maintain it. And to bring it back as a righteous individual. And that gives unless you maintain it and protect it and give it back as a like give you a pure, you will be held accountable. And that's when the dvml PM, we will come like this. Our hands would be chained on our neck. Our children will say yeah, Allah He did not teach him upon. Yeah, Allah He did. And unless

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the for you, you know, going anywhere. So this would be something if you take away one thing, we can replace it with good permissible things, good programs that have a positive message message to the youth and to the adult and to their daughters themselves. What are some of the other practical advices? Okay, we, we talked about the TV, replace it, not with the Britney Spears in the hip hop and all the gangster stuff. Take that out, but we can put in Islamic programs. And also now, I mean, if the parents are out there busy, they're working. And now the children are out in school, they come home, and they don't have the mother or father babysitters there and, you know, how do they

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deal with this when they're busy work, work Money, money, but what good is this money if you're not gonna enjoy or you won't, you won't enjoy the presence of your family. I will say take certain time out of your take certain days off just for the family. Yeah, take them outdoors and make them busy, let them run, take them to the park spend some quality time aerosolize along with with all his busy schedule, he used to spend some quality time with his wife and his children. So not only TV that if you keep them busy with good things, sports, you know, outdoor activities, you know, visiting good righteous families, you know, taking them to the mercy for lecture for Islamic event. He can they

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schedule can be really packed. You can make them busy, if you only really mindful of what you can do for them for them. Now those youth who are listening and you know what? They're doing this eternal struggle. They feel what we're saying is right, that goodness wants to come out, but they're around other friends.

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Who are calling them to the weekend night at the party? to places that they shouldn't be? What advice do we have for them? Imagine yourself is standing in the middle of a pool that is full of urine.

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It's filthy. Yeah. And you want to perform salah

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and you lift your foot and say I'm going to wash my foot, you know? And then you put it back again in that urine, would you ever be pure? No. So what do you need to do is take yourself out of that filthy environment, find righteous, good environment, good friends, you know, and you can where can you find good friends not in nightclubs only, you can only find that as a licensed in the Quran, in the massage

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in Islamic you know, Muslim organized event, this is where you can find them. So take yourself from that stay pure. Now you can Moodle outside and stay that that situation by being with others will remind you, if you if you look at lady was passing with fear Allah and Allah is watching you, you know, if you you know, if you're not mindful of your salata, escort pray, if they see you doing the wrong thing, they will correct you. If you're not doing well with your widow, they will correct you. So this is what we need. They need to change the environment. And I will also say to all the new Muslims who accept Islam, don't try to go back and bring your non Muslim friends before you learn

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enough of your deed. If you don't know how to walk, imagine this. You don't know how to swim, and you want to dive unsafe, someone was drowning, both of you are going to drown. Yeah, so stay dry, until you learn what to do, and then go and help them out to be in this couple more points. We're almost out of time.

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There's brothers and sisters who are Mashallah all praises to the creator that he's guided them and they're coming along. But it's a great challenge nowadays.

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Because there's a lot of trials and tests with the opposite genders. And now, the person he obviously has this desire to want to be with a woman woman want to be with the man. But we know what Islam says about the boyfriend girlfriend thing, which nowadays is kind of odd. That if a person a boy doesn't have a girlfriend, the girl doesn't have a boyfriend, something's wrong with them. Something's wrong with them, but they want to preserve their chastity and we want to preserve this morality, what advice for them to stay steadfast and some things that can help them out? Number one, the one that can help is Allah subhanho wa Taala put your trust in Allah subhana wa tada and with

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sincerity, look and say Allah, this is who I am. And you know what I used to be hella key me on this path and guide me as to number one. Number two, you know, do what sort of lifestyle alone he was selling him said number one, try to fast as much as you can. If you're single number two, what do you do is avoid places of fit. You know, you can't say you know, I'm you know, I'm a struggle with myself but at the same time, you being with all these almost unjust women, the same time you know, watching all these videos or movies and the what, but nothing but drive you crazy. And then so hey man, I'm struggling while you put yourself in this position, situation, get out of that environment.

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And number three, always stay in the mystery.

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Mystery environments. Beautiful. Why? Because there's always more like and because of the melodica you will feel that presence in your in your behavior and in your heart and I want to thank you again. May God Almighty the creator Allah rewards you for being with us. May Allah be warrior shallow Hope to see you third annual of journey of faith inshallah next Thursday, evening less Renata, thank you.

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And I'd like to thank you again for tuning in to another episode of the deen show. We look forward to having you again next time I hope you got to benefit this beautiful way of life, the way of life of all the messengers. Last and Final testament profound piece of your time, that if we follow it sincerely, seeking the pleasure of our Lord, there's nothing left in less than paradise. And there's nothing work with it. These cars, these women and all these things that are temporary, take a time off from the rat race of life and really connect with your Creator and ask him for the guidance. And it only be fair if you got it you can come back here every week to learn some more good stuff here

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on the deen show. We'll see you next time God Willing inshallah. So I'm making peace be unto you and see what everyone's talking about.

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You find one contradiction, it can't be from God.

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But the rational idea, the rational explanation is you do your best to give up for spring guidance. I will never give up spreading this message and hope that you take the necessary steps you don't know if you're gonna live till tomorrow.

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You got to find that urgency to do the right thing right now.

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The reality of life usually doesn't sink in until tragedy Commons.

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You get a few bad people. The media grabs ahold of that and spends it the way they want to.

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If you say that you do not believe in Jesus you have stepped outside of this nine you cannot be a Muslim is a 10 in our faith too.

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