Islam saves Women from being a victim of the #MeToo

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I see it so many times with the me to movement. I'm still waiting for the guy who's gonna come out and say there's such woman who abused me. famous Hollywood producer, it was it Weinstein, Weinstein and then the likes of him. I mean, it just went from one it was a domino of all you know, started, you know, coming out and this woman with Weinstein, she went to hang out with him he told her hang out in his bedroom in his hotel room.

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If a Muslim follows Islam and a guy tells her

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she knows that it's forget about anything. She knows even if she trusts him 100% she knows Allah says it's all what they want from you.

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They want to free in bed that's it. You hear that? And the woman she's like pulling down trying to come you know she's feeling because their natural nature is acting a football Yeah. natural instinct. And this is not putting a woman down and putting we didn't know any better. I didn't know anybody. I walk into the into the room to check him. So he looks at his wife said Mom, is this Dad?

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he asked his mom is this that about me, you shouldn't be alone with a woman in the hotel room having dinner, late night restrictions. Now, these are the same this but this is now let me ask you for what? You You, you get pregnant. He walks out. And you're the one stuck with a baby.

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Have you ever questioned the place you work? Why we have to wear a uniform?

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No, you just do it. You just do what you want to make the moment I get paid and they are entitled for him this message to the Muslim more than anybody when Allah azza wa jal tells you to cover to protect you. Right? Don't be fooled by what you see things, you know, the shaking of the hands, you know, not being alone with the opposite gender. And there is no good future in the hellfire.

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How long they're gonna live. How many? I asked the system, how many times you shook hands with men that made you uncomfortable? Right? Men, women, right women? And what holds us from acting like any other men is Alyssa? Yes. Well, other than Islam, we will be just like everybody else your way, this woman who's winning almost nothing and walk on the street. She has a person her hand. And that purse has stuff that she doesn't want anybody to see. Right? And when she wants to open it, you might go to the bathroom. Well, your body is more precious than anything in them. Yes. There is a video I'm sure you saw it on YouTube, where they show a woman walk in New York. Yes. Right. She's like regular

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American. And how many? How old was

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arrested? Yeah, random before but what you hear a lot. So you're so precious that Allah wants to protect you. It's not me who want to put the hijab on you. It's not your husband who wants to put the head it's Allah who as you

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know, Phil, Islam is the Dean of prevention. And that's where we need to understand dean of privilege, you're not doing the job, or you're not just proud that you're an evil person. But I'm calling for you to be better than what you are. Right? And when you recover more, I will respect you more. God wants God wants them to respect you. They want to undress you. That's it.

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Talked about the attack that people make on women. You explain this beautifully, like, Oh, yeah, okay, if Islam is so fair, why does the Muslim woman get half of that of the Muslim? Male? And then you give an example. That's just unlimited cases? Can you go ahead and explain this? No, this is even easier. Yeah. And that's again, we become apologetic, right? We are, we we are we become

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embarrassed. A lot of Muslims, when they're when this thing brought up to a point where a lot of them will say I heard a lot people who pose themselves as people of knowledge, where they say this is in the past, it doesn't apply to it. We heard that, right. It's very simple, when we talk about half share or one share for them and compare against two shares for them and this is in one scenario in the Quran, right of inheritance where a laser jet talks to the parents, concerning their children, their daughters and sons, right. So when a father dies or a mother dies, and there is a son, their son or male children and female children, that is where the situation is, two shares for

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the male against one share for the so we have to understand, but the people who inherit are not only brothers or sons and daughters, brothers inherit, right or just talk about the females. Sisters inherit, mother's inherit. grandmother's inherit in some situations, wives inherit

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daughters inherit when there is no brothers, right? So, if you look at all these scenarios in in, in the issue of inheritance, you will find 75% minimum 75% of scenarios where the female will inherit the same or more than the male.

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So what are you talking about that females inherit half of them, females inherit half of them in, in one situation when their sisters and brothers, right, who are inheriting their parents. That's where a Laszlo just says, she two shares for the boy one share for the girl, what two shares for the son one share for the door, right? But even with that, right now, this is one situation and then compare the rest. Even with

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the brothers, when the father dies, who's in who's in charge, we said, initially, the male is in charge of the family, he's the one who should look after his systems. Right? So who's in charge to take care of this girl, especially with their little brother, from where, from his mind? Right, he becomes if sure if a father dies, and he has boys and girls and the girls is, let's say, under age, and the boy is adult right? Now, their money becomes in his responsibility where he needs to maintain it and hold it for these girls until they become adult, where they become entitled for it, but not to spend from, it's his money that he gonna have to use to take care of his sisters. It's

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him who has to go out and try to provide for his family. So even if Allah zoa did gives little money for the male over the female, Allah put more responsibility on the males to take care of the female. And that's, again, they don't understand Islam as a comprehensive religion. Islam is not okay, have you get one you get two? No, no, no. Okay, you get one, you get two. But guess what? I'm giving you two because you have to take care of the one we're giving one. If we understand Islam in this way, then we will have no problem relating. And again, just talking about specifically for the inheritance. This is a scenario. Yeah, you know, so if you if on one hand, the person is getting

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less, but they don't have to pay phone bill, medical bill, this bill, that bill, that bill, but the other one over here is got all these expenditures, they want to quickly run ours will quickly run out faster than the other one, right? slam is is a common sense religion. Beautiful. So now what is your take? Now your reaction to people who say Oh, Islam is so you know, holding back of the woman, she can't do so many different things, you know, than the shaking of the hands, you know, not being alone with the opposite gender. And then now your reaction to what's happening today with the key famous Hollywood producer, it was it Weinstein, Weinstein and then the likes of him. I mean, it just

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went from one it was a domino effect. All you know, started, you know, coming out and then now you have even the Wall Street and they're putting actually these rules that would almost be identical to what the crater is telling us to do in Islam. What's your take on that? My take is hamdulillah Allah azza wa jal words always prevails. And then and, and people acknowledge at the end that their solutions is what a lot they will not say it, but from their actions and the steps they decide to take. They realize that you know what, I mean, we realized that this is what this lamp says. So you read this now that now they put in there that you shouldn't be alone with a woman in the hotel room

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having dinner, late night restrictions. Now, these are the same this but this is no Let me ask you for one. Who are they protecting?

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The woman? Yeah, Islam protecting the woman and they put they set all these rules because they want to protect the woman. They are what they want, because the woman is the one being abused. Yes, I say it so many times. With the me to movement, I'm still waiting for the guy who can come out and say there is such woman who abused me.

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Never. So far, nobody can say a woman abused me or sexually, you know, it's always the woman is the victim. So when allies origin and this message to the Muslim more than anybody, when allies, though, just tells you to cover to protect you, right? Don't be fooled by what you see. And don't be fooled by what you hear Allah so tell. You're so precious, that allow us to protect you. It's not me who want to put the hijab on you. It's not your husband who wants to put the head it's a lot who as you are, you work in a supermarket. You work in a restaurant, you work in, in whatever hotel, they force you to wear a uniform. You never have you ever questioned the place you work why we have to wear a

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uniform.

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No, you just do it. You just do what you want to make the moment I get paid and they are entitled for it. Yeah. Well, if you acknowledge that Allah azzawajal owns this world, and he's the Creator.

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This world, why don't you submit to His order? He's the one who ordered us to cover. And if you look at it from the other angle, it's for your interest. There is a video. I'm sure you saw it on YouTube where they show a woman walk in New York. Yes. Right. She's like regular American. And how many how old was

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talking to her? I said, right. floating, floating. I walked with her for a while. Yeah. And then they put a cover in her. And she got zero attention. The respect is there right away. This is a legit solution. Yeah, they even had a sensor that they put, you put these touch sensors on the woman. And then they measured how many times she got filled. Grab in the club. Yeah. I mean, a woman with a guy shouldn't be in a club.

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But it is, but it's sad. You know what? It's happening some places.

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Again, the problem is we don't appreciate our religion. Because again, I I bet you this is I'm 100% Sure. This woman who ends up in a places like that. She did not find the true Islam in her house.

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She didn't find the true Islam in the message yet. And she's taken it more as a culture. She doesn't know. Yeah, I meet Muslims who are in their 20s and 30s. They don't even know fatty.

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And they said realize Steve don't even know the opening.

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Fat they have, which is the sort of the first they have no idea what that I say where they were your parents said they're busy work. And you sit with the parents say I want to make a good life. Good future for my children. There is no good future in the hellfire.

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How long they're going to live here. For what?

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Yeah, think about. Nobody's telling you not to work hard to provide a great lifestyle for your children. But it's how you sleep when your children are outside in the night. How you sleep when you know your children don't even know how to pray. Yeah, you know, what kind of what's the what's the face of any money or any wealth or any pleasure in this world when a light is missing? You mentioned that example. Now they put the hijab on the woman and then all of the respect hidden she got stopped with all the teething and tos it Thompson that and then what we've seen from there now back to this Weinstein and the celebrities and everything. And it's again, it's if you look at the a lot of these

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women abused, because they're not Muslims, right. But if you look what Islam says that a woman should do. And by the way, when Islam says a woman should not be alone with a strange man, it's the same thing for a man. I mentioned, Muslim men should not be with a strange woman who's not related to him. Right in the same room related to him in the sense that he cannot marry her. Right? Like his aren't his grandmother, but he still he cannot be in a room with his his cousin, because they can get married. So he's not they're not allowed to be alone. So it's not only apply to most of the laws in Islam apply equally between men and women. There are certain laws only specific for men certain

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laws specific. So the issue of shaking hands, shaking hands is applied to Muslim men and Muslim women. And they come and they tell you, oh, this is extreme. This is too much. This is this. This is fanatic. Well, next guy who gonna hold your hand and start to make you feel uncomfortable? How many? I asked those sisters, how many times you shook hands with men that made you uncomfortable. Right? So So and then you argue about it if it's right, or it's wrong, Alaska did whatever he said, is for the best of you. Yeah, and for the best of us for your protection. 100% we're not when this woman with Weinstein, she went to hang out with him. He told her hang out in his bedroom in his hotel

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room.

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If a Muslim follows Islam, and a guy tells her

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she knows that it's forget about anything. She knows even if she trusts him 100% she knows Allah says a towel.

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So she would have protected herself. Right? So Allah is this the deen of Islam is the Dean of prevention. And that's where we need to understand dean of prevention. When Allah talks about his Zina and and fornication he does not tell us to not commit for an occasion he says what in the Quran? He said don't even get close to Yeah. So any any ways any paths, any any behaviors, any acts that could lead to something how a lot of still Yeah, prevention. We don't have time here to be fixing problems. We are here for a few years. We need to be dedicated, focused on our mission. That is to worship Allah to establish the heat to spread that this beautiful religion to mankind. Instead

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of getting busy fixing our I committed this major sin and I commend where there are solutions, but we don't have that luxury of any of of open time we are infinite Ray. One point that comes to mind I'll go on to the next question is thinking past not only the Muslim woman reminding them imitating the example of Mary the mother of Jesus, who she actually from the pictures we have that obviously is not her

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But she was wearing this job. And many of these dignitaries, people that were high up in ranked queens and princesses, they were actually wearing what the Muslim woman is wearing. I remember a Dr. Finkelstein, he quoted an example in history when the when the people came to this country, and then they saw the natives who were half naked. And then they thought them barbaric and now uncivilized. But now he said that, look, we're over here, almost naked. And we're calling the Muslim woman uncivilized and barbaric. So it seems like how the time to change you even go back to us to give tickets in this country. If you had, it seems like the skirt. If it was above the ankles or

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something, you get a ticket. Now it just keep it it's like I'm thinking, when's it going to stop? So it gets up to the calves? It was below the knee now it's above the knee off in the essence of fitting in and fashion. Right. And the woman she's like pulling down trying to come You know, she's feeling because their natural nature is actually a football. Yeah. natural instinct. And this is not putting a woman down. I didn't know any better. didn't know any better, right?

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societal pressure, cultural pressures raised into it. She doesn't see Yeah, she doesn't see it when I first came to this country in 1995. And I'll see you women dressed in crazy stuff, especially here in South Florida with a lot of Hispanic, and it's part of their culture to show as much as they can. I said, Where's their dad? Where's the brother? Where's the father who tell us Korean but they're scared also, because they think maybe they speak up everybody's doing then you realize that the fact everybody is doing it, it does become so normal. Right? And you're going to that to the natives? Just, what, 3040 years ago. All you need to do is just go check pictures of beaches in Miami and in

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the United States. See what people used to wear on the beach? compared to today? Right? Yeah. See what how women used to dress. Yeah. So it's, it's it's a matter of you don't call it evolution as much as it's devolution, right?

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Or devolution, right?

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Because if you're if you're someone who's God fearing anyone who believes in a crater, the creator commands modesty? Sure, right. modesty is there as part of the natural someone said someone said it is the caveman was wearing only a piece of cloth. And as the man progress and became more civilized, they covered more and more and more. So as we are going away from being addressed more and more to listen, listen, we're going back to the stone here.

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And, again, it's in if you have something precious, you don't want to share it with anybody. Yes, you're waiting, this woman who's winning almost nothing and walk on the street. She has a purse in her hand. And that purse has stuff that she doesn't want anybody to see. Right? And when she wants to open it, you might go to the bathroom. Well, your body is more precious than anything. And yeah. And that's what Islam wants you tourists want. I want to respect you. I listen, I'm not saying that if you're not doing hijab, or you're not dressed properly, that you're an evil person, but I'm calling for you to be better than what you are. Right? And when you recover more, I will respect you

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more. God wants them to respect you. They want to undress you. That's it. That's and that's what we always in. If you look at secularism, and the call for morality is a personal issue, modesty is a personal preference, because that's what they say morality is a modesty is a personal preference. And again, morality has modesty has nothing to do with what you wear has nothing to do.

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It becomes obvious what so what they want from you.

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They want to free in bed. That's it, you hear that? They want to full effect. That's me. That's that's that's straight talk, you can straight talk to you that I mean, we're gonna keep beating around the bush that he wants to address. He wants his eyes and molestie with his eyes met men, women, right women. And what holds us from acting like any other men is Islam? Yes. Well, other than Islam, we will be just like everybody else, right? Alhamdulillah we're Muslims. And we're telling you what men want from you. Yeah, they want you for free. That's it, you you you get pregnant, he walks out. And you're the one stuck with a bit. Think about emotion suicide, this is out of love.

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And this is when you really care for people. you're sharing this truth. You know, I was treating a patient in my clinic when he's maybe three or four years old. So he's waiting in the operatory. And I'm going from one patient to another, so and his mother sitting with him. So I walk into the into the room to check in. So he looks at his mom. I said mom is this Dad?

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he asked his mom is this dad about me? Yeah. So I got there You're like an uncomfortable situation. I've never been through that. So so she started laughing. She said no, no baby. So that means this kid doesn't know who is dead. Now I wonder if this woman knows even who her who is that is but she stuck with him.

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She's the one suffering he is enjoying his life. Maybe he's getting another woman pregnant right? But at the end of the day it's the woman who gonna lose women we walk out and I have patients who have five and six and seven children and everybody with a different last name

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and this woman not even 30 was paying the price to and when you said that a lot of women's becoming Muslims because they find their their protection endless Yes, so they want to be respected for their minds not use just for their bodies and that's and that's what from the from the industry from you know, the the men exploiting them. This is what's happening right? So if you if your God conscious, no matter what human being you are, I mean God, this is what God loves that modesty.