Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al Quran 2012 – P15 143E Tafsir Bani Israil 31-32

Taimiyyah Zubair
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of parents in shaping children and how they can be used as weapons to overcome negative emotions and hurtful behavior. They stress the need for parents to be the ones who made the actions and have their children do the same. The speakers also touch on the struggles of schools and the importance of learning the Quran and being a good person. They emphasize the need for parents to avoid mistakes and the importance of avoiding violence and letting them know what they want. They also touch on the negative impact of drinking alcohol and the importance of privacy and boundaries in relationships.
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In the first two is that we studied yesterday in which the parents rights are mentioned.

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What do we see that how much parents are being defended over here? How much their rights are being advocated over here? That regardless of how they are with you, you are only to do your son with your parents. Why? Because remember that they're the ones who raised you. They're the ones who looked after you when you were young. And as we discussed yesterday, that is no easy task. And welcome Rob Durham, Houma, comma, Rob Bayani Selena, and remember the meaning of the word Rabbani. It's from tarbiyah that both of them did my Tobia. I am what I am, because of them. I do what I do because they trained me. Think about it, how much is it that we owe to our parents think about how much they

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have taught us, not just how to speak, but even how to pray. I mean, think about the very belief that our parents ingrained in us from a very young age, majority of us Alhamdulillah we were born into Muslim families. Our parents developed us spiritually. They developed us physically, they developed us emotionally, mentally, really, we are indebted to them for their ears on Earth, their sun on us is so great. And earlier, in the Surah, we learned about inner sanctum or Santoli, unfussy come, if you do good, you do good for yourself. Meaning when you do good, you will benefit from it. So our parents, they did good to us. And if we are not doing good in return to them, who's telling

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us to do good and return to them? Allah subhanaw taala.

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And after yesterday's class, many people came up to me and they asked me, but what if my parents have done this? And what if my parents are like this? And what if my relatives have done this? That's exactly the point. Regardless of how your parents have been, just remember their one heir son, they looked after you. Okay, for the sake of argument, what if a person says, Well, my parents never raised me, I was born and I was transferred into another household. And over there, my aunt or my grandmother or whoever they raised me.

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Okay, they raised you, however, who gave birth to you?

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Who gave birth to you? Who carried you in their belly? While their body was, you know, right before them? Think about it? How difficult is pregnancy? How difficult is childbirth, even if a mother doesn't nurse the baby doesn't change a single diaper still carrying the baby, be emotional, and the physical changes that are going on in the body, they really take a toll on the woman. So that isn't also is sufficient for us to do our son in return to our parents. And because we can never do justice to the rights of the parents. What does Allah subhanaw taala teach us make dua for them are a bit ham Homer come out of band EasilyDo make dua for them. When you are young, make to offer them

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when you are old, make dua for them when your parents are alive and make dua for your parents, even when they have passed away. Because we learn from Hadith that a person you know, in the hereafter he will say that how come my ranks are being raised, I never did this good, or I never did this much good. And he will be told your child may draw for you. Your child sought forgiveness for you. So seeking forgiveness for our parents. You know, sometimes it happens that you get these flashbacks, those really bad childhood memories, you know, they come and haunt you at times. You know, my mother didn't let me go to a single birthday party. Why and then you cry, you know, in your heart, or I

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wanted that toy so bad. And I still remember. And I begged and begged and begged, but my mom didn't let me get it. She didn't buy it for me. We remember these things. But remember a time will come when you will appreciate what your parents did to you the kind of things that they decided for you. And there might be things that you will never understand. Or perhaps you see certain faults in your parents, perhaps their manner of speech, perhaps your father's treatment with your mother, or perhaps how they are with the rest of the society. It's possible that you see their faults, but still what is your duty? You do SN and you make dua for your parents. That Oh Allah guide them, Oh

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ALLAH forgive them.

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Because parents have done your sign upon us. So they deserve it from us that we always wish well for them. We want

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want the best for them? And we make dua for them. Think about Ibrahim and his son and what did his father do?

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What did his father do? First of all, he was a mechanic. And what is should? Is it a small crime?

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What kind of a crime is it?

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It's the worst crime ever. Because of sugar, a person cannot enter Jannah right. So first of all, his father was in wishek. This is one of my against who? Allah subhanaw taala. Okay. Secondly, how did his father deal with him with Ibrahim relisten. And what did he do? Did he rebuke him? Of course, did he threaten him? Didn't he said to him, that you better stop what you're doing otherwise, I'm going to stone you to death. I'm going to kill you.

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And he didn't stop there when the people were collecting firewood in order to burn Ibrahima and his son, who was involved in setting up that fire his own father.

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So this is loaded against to Ibrahima Listen, right. So, Ibrahima. Listen, um, what did he say? What was his reaction? That He's a fine, okay, whatever. Allah chose me as a prophet, I'm gonna be happy on my own. You go to * and you stay there. I'm okay. Was that his reaction? What was his reaction? So a stone futile luck I'll be, I will seek forgiveness for you from my Lord. I will beg Allah to forgive you. Because yes, you do shit. Yes, you wanted to kill me. However, you are my father. However, you looked after me when I was younger, and that air sign is sufficient that I overlook what you've done to me and what else you do, I will beg Allah to forgive you.

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And then what happened? Allah subhanaw taala forbade him from making dua. Right? Because when it was clear to Ibrahim or a listener, that his father died as a wish Nick and his abode would be held. And that was it. No questions asked No, no room for argument, nothing.

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So this example is sufficient for us that no matter how our parents are, religiously, what their morals are, what their values are, how they behave with the rest of the society, what their ethics are, forget about it, that's got nothing to do with you.

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How they deal with you, that is also their problem. One of our biggest problems is that we focus on the mistakes of others.

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We focus on the rights that we deserve from others, but we neglect the responsibilities that Allah subhanaw taala has given to us. Leave the sins of people to them, and worry about your obligation. Yes, fine. Your parents were mean to you. Okay, fine. Your parents did something really bad and nasty. That's their problem. Leave it to them. Leave it to Allah subhanaw taala we are not going to be questioned about how our parents looked after us. We are not going to be questioned about what our parents did. What are we going to be questioned about our actions, how we were with our parents, what we did with our parents, whether we did your son to them or not, because a mother, a father,

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they deserve your son from a person regardless of what their religion is, regardless of how their clock is. Remember, a smart will be alone with the daughter of a worker. What happened to her when she was in Medina, she migrated to Medina, her mother, who was still an oceanic came from Makkah to visit her a smile. Do I warn her? I mean, she was confused that what do I do here is my Mushnik mother. Okay, she still commits shit, I have left that way and I'm staying here and she's coming to me, what am I supposed to do? What did the Prophet salallahu Salam advise her slowly or murky?

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Maintain join ties with your mother. And this is the reason why we have been told to do Ersan right? Because when you do it yourself, then hopefully your relationship will improve. Hopefully, the other person will realize their mistake, and hopefully they will become a better person.

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So be concerned about our obligation to our parents, and hopefully inshallah with our Ersan to them our obedience to them. When we improve our behavior as a good Muslim. As someone who learns the Quran who studies the Quran who recite the Quran, then they will also begin to appreciate the religion that we are so strongly attached to.

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Many times it happens at girls, I've seen this, that when they start wearing the hijab, they don't have much support from their parents or when they want to continue studying the Quran. The parents are not that supportive. Why? Because the hijab is on but the

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luck has not improved.

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Salas are being performed. But still parents are being spoken to rudely. They're being disrespected at home.

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They're being disobeyed, they're being looked down upon, why would your parents support you tell me, because they would think that this alula, you're going to his making you a worse person than before. So remember, do your son towards your mother, do your son towards your father, forget about what they're doing that is in their book, we have to be concerned about what is going into our book of deeds.

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This is why Allah subhanaw taala has not left this matter to us. What do we learn in the ayah? What Allah of book, Your Lord has decreed he has decided this, he's not given you an option? We don't have an option? Should I do exam? Or should I do bad with my parents? We don't have that option. What's the only option we have been given? Your Sir, do Xand towards your parents? And then after your son towards the parents give to others their rights? Also? Who? The close relatives? And who else, the needy, and the travelers? Give to them their rights. It's amazing. How on the one hand, we're being told to do your son towards our parents. But in that process, don't forget the rights of

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Don't forget the rights of others. They'll CORBA includes who? Your siblings, all right, it includes your children. It includes because close relation, yes, primarily this through blood, but also through marriage, right people are related to you, not just through the bond of blood, but also through the bond of marriage. So also the right of the husband, the spouse, because sometimes it happens, that people are so concerned about the rights of their parents doing your son towards the parents, that they neglect the rest of the family.

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They neglect the rest of the family. So for example, a woman is so concerned about, you know, looking after her parents, for instance, that she will forget about her husband completely. I don't care if you're moving to a different country for your work. I'm not moving from here. I don't care what's going on in your life. I have to be with my mom, I have to be with my dad. I mean, it's understandable if there's a critical situation as a temporary solution, but on a permanent basis. How can the husband's right be neglected? Or how can the wife's right be neglected vice versa?

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Your son towards parents an obligation? Fulfilling the rights of the relatives is also an obligation.

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So it's not either this or that? What is it? It's both? Because we are related to both.

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And then when a person feels that relatives are expecting way too much from him, and he's not able to fulfill their rights, or he's not able to make them happy. He's not able to satisfy them. Then what? What have we been told that if you must turn away, then what should you do?

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What should you do? Say good words? Say good words. And this is a very important lesson that anytime we have to refuse someone's request,

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what should we do?

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How, how should we refuse for colon colon? My Surah An easy word. And then we've been told about how to spend, right, that how should a person spend in moderation? Neither excessively wastefully so that he's wasting his money, ruining it, literally burning it by spending it in cause of sin in disobedience to Allah subhanaw taala. Right. And nor spending everything. And on the other hand, what's the other extreme stinginess, sawston de that a person just closes his hand, holding on to his money, not letting anything go. Don't do that. Why? Because who is your provider? Allah subhanaw taala. And he is fully aware of you. He knows what your needs are at a particular time, and he will

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provide you

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then the next is one at the Cthulhu allah.com And do not kill your children.

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Hola, discipler luff wallet. And the plural form. Allah includes children, whether they're male or female, whether they're healthy or deformed. Whatever it is, oh, lad, your children do not kill them. Do not take their life away. Because who alone has the right to give life and take it away? The Creator of life and who is he? Allah azza wa jal so while at the Cthulhu Allah the Quran do not kill your children, neither before birth, nor after birth. Why has she had the him luck? Many people why is it that they killed their children during pregnancy or after birth? What's the reason? Fear off him luck, poverty

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What is in luck in life is actually the fear that a person will become poor, that what he has will finish that what he has will not be enough. So for example, a person has, you know, a pizza. All right, a big pizza, a large pizza. And then he sees that, oh, there are three people who's going to eat this pizza. And he thinks it's not going to be enough.

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He feels that he won't be able to eat enough. Why? Because there are two guys, we're going to eat that pizza with him.

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He feels that it's going to be less. You understand? Many times what happens if we have a sandwich and we're eating it and somebody comes and sits next to us, we can break our sandwich into half and share with them. But what's our fear? It's not going to be enough for me. It's not going to be enough for me, forget about the sandwich. If you have a bag of chips, and you know those small bags, which when you see look from outside, they look so stuffed, but when you open there's literally like seven or eight crisps in it.

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Right? So then before you open it, you're thinking, Should I even offer this person? Because if I will, I'm going to run out of it. What am I going to get out of it? So when a person has this mindset, that what I have will become less we will run out of our savings our money will become less I don't have that much income. Then what happens he becomes stingy. He says no, no two are enough. Number three are enough. Or not. I am enough. Allah subhanaw taala says don't kill your children out of this fear of poverty. Why? Because no, no, no Zuko home, we provide them how through you. We provide them I mean, think about it. When a woman is pregnant. What happens in her body? blood

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volume, it increases significantly. Did she add that blood in her body?

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Did she go to a blood link and say that oh, I'm pregnant. I need a lot of blood. So please put in blood in me know, Allah provided the child that blood how through the mother the mother didn't have anything to do with it. All she had to do was just satisfy her cravings. That's it. And in satisfying her cravings what happened? The child got all the nutrition that it needed. No, no Zuko home. We provide them what a yeah, come and you to Allah is the provider of the parents as well as the children. Allah is a provider of every single individual. And if a person killed another out of fear of poverty, Allah says in Nakata, whom, indeed they're killing Kana, it is ever Hipple and a

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sin that is Kabira. That is great. It's a great sin.

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It's a very serious crime. It's a serious error. And hip is used for a sin that is done deliberately meaning who thinks that you're killing a person is okay.

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Who says that? When people fight for it that yes, we should be allowed to abort or we should be allowed to, you know, Mercy kill someone. Right? However, why is that there are so many people advocating against this, because the fifth floor doesn't accept that it's okay.

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Right? Even if 50 People say it's okay. There will be many, many more people who will be saying, it's not okay to take somebody's life.

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On Kabira it's a major sin, it's a serious crime. So what do we learn over here? In the previous if we were told not to be stingy?

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Why is it that a person is stingy out of greed, I want everything for myself. If I have a child, I will have to spend this much money on their diapers, this much money on their food, this much money on their toys, and that means a bigger car, and a bigger house and another car seat

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before even having a child. What is it that people think about expenses?

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Can we afford? What does Allah say? You are not the provider, Allah is the provider. And this is so true, that with the coming of a child, what happens the income increases with the calming of the child, for some reason, there are so many benefits, financial ease, why because Allah is providing Allah is the provider. So don't think about this ever, that if a person has a child that they have to provide for them, yes, you have to adopt the means but Allah subhanaw taala will facilitate them for you. You know, it's amazing how sometimes people talk about this really, when we found out we were having a child all of a sudden promotion, and then we got a job and then money came in. Why

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because the risk of the child is now coming through, you know, Nurse Zuko home what a year come? This is why in Butler home cannot help and Kabira it is a major sin in Bukhari and Muslim is recorded that up

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allimand was rude he said that I said to the messenger of allah sallallahu Sallam Yasuda, Allah Whitson is the worst. He replied, to set partners with Allah when he has created you, meaning to worship other than Allah, whereas he's the only one who created you. He said, then what he said to kill your child out of fear that he will eat with you, to kill your child out of fear that you will have to feed another person

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out of this fear. He said, then what he said to commit adultery with your neighbor's wife, meaning someone who lives so close to you, who's haka, so great, yet you keep them. So these are all major sins.

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And what does it show to us that killing children?

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What is it? It's an act of murder? It's a Caitlyn because Allah says in Oklahoma,

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which means that a child, even if he cannot speak, even if he cannot defend himself, who is he? A person, an individual, if he's living, he has a soul, he has a war.

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He is an individual who will either go to Jana or Johanna, we have no right to take their life away. We have no authority to kill them to murder them. This is a serious crime. But what if a woman is in a situation where, for example, she becomes pregnant, and the doctor says that really, you are not able to bear this pregnancy? If you do, if you continue, you're going to die because you have this issue, this issue this issue,

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you know, you and your child both will die if you continue with this. So in that situation, can she abort the pregnancy,

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where there is a serious risk, not a risk, such as I already got so tired. And I think I've had my share of babies in that situation

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where there is a serious risk to the mother's health, not just health, her life, danger, serious danger. In that situation, what should be done lesser of the two evil, right? That either you let the mother die, or you take the baby out so that the mother can live?

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You understand. So the general principle is that killing children is not okay. Neither in the womb nor outside the womb. However, when the child is in the womb,

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you understand the child is in the womb, the mother is pregnant, then there are certain exceptions, like the one that I mentioned to you. But remember, this should be before four months of pregnancy, you understand before four months of pregnancy, because at that time, the rule has not come in for a genuine reason for a legitimate reason. It is permissible to abort. However, after four months of pregnancy,

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after four months of pregnancy, again, if there's a risk to the mother's life, that's a different story.

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But for any other reason, if a person killed abort the child, then that will be considered as murder. And remember earlier, we learned that if a person commits murder, then what has to be done?

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What has to be done? Blood Money has to be given a Farah dia. All right. So in this situation, if a mother aborts her child after four months of pregnancy, for no genuine reason, okay? And even if it's a genuine reason, but because after four months, the rule has come in, it's a human being, for whatever reason, if the child is aborted, then what has to be done? Blood Money has to be given and what is the blood money can follow a male or female slave. But if that is not possible, then the equivalent value in camels has to be given. And what is that five? Because the DNA of the fetus is 1/10 of the DHEA of his mother. And what's the idea of a person of an adult? 50 camels? So what

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would be 1/10 of that?

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1/10 of that would be five.

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It was something that oh, well, it was done. So forget about it. This is a serious crime. It's like murder. Who would this be given to to the heirs of the child

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except for the killer? So for example, if the mother decided herself, and she went and got the abortion done, she signed the papers, all right, then she has to pay the blood money, to who

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do who do the airs. Some scholars have even said that the doctor has to,

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the doctor has to. So be careful about what you study and what you become. Because if you get a job like this, that you're performing abortions, you know what that means.

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You know, that means that the crime of murder is on you.

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It's a sin.

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And that means that a person has to make up for it in Oklahoma

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clip on computer.

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Okay, what if, you know, it's found out that the child is going to be severely deformed or unhealthy and going to have serious health issues that in that situation? Can the child be aborted in the fetus? Some scholars say that before four months of pregnancy, it's okay. Why? Because the room is not there.

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You understand? The soul has not been breathed into the fetus? So before four months of pregnancy, it's okay. However, after four months of pregnancy, no way. Not at all. Why? Because now there is a rule in the child, if he dies by himself, which will happen in many cases Alhamdulillah. And if he doesn't, we have no right to take their life away. After four months of pregnancy, you understand? Just Friday, actually, I was in this class and this lady she shared her experience of how in her pregnancy, she was told over and over again by the doctors that you know that she said, every week, I would go for an ultrasound every week. And every time they would tell me just abort, just abort.

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Why don't you and she said, I didn't have the heart to and I didn't and she said her child was born perfectly healthy, perfectly healthy.

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And this is not one story only that you will hear. There are many stories like this. So remember, before four months of pregnancy if there is a genuine legitimate reason, okay. Abortion may be done. No dia No. Kafala after four months of pregnancy, abortion may not be done at all. And if there is a legitimate reason, like there's a serious risk to the mother's life, then abortion may be done. However, however, the Kafala and if there was no legitimate reason and still a person did the abortion, then again they have to pay the blood money clear. In fact, Lavon can help uncover Euro while at Aqaba, Zina. Don't even go close to Zina don't even go near unlawful sexual *.

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If you ever Google abortion, Islam QA, you will find majority of the questions are related to pregnancy because of Zina

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pregnancy because of Zina that what if a girl becomes pregnant, because she had Zina and now the family is concerned about the well being of the girl and the image of the family the reputation of the family but her future because the guy who got her pregnant is not interested in her anymore.

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This is why Allah subhanaw taala is telling us keep away from Zina because this is a door to many problems. Many many problems when I was in a look at the word, lotta caribou what is going to be near don't even go near Zina. Meaning don't put yourself in a situation where you will fall into Zina.

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Don't allow yourself to fall into Zina.

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And the thing is that no man can commit Zina with a woman. Zina. I'm not talking about *, I'm talking about Xena, he cannot do it unless she agrees.

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She lets him I mean, she allows him to enter her life. She gives him the chance, only then.

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So let the caribou as soon as you know these warning signs appear, shut the door.

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Go away. Don't stay in that situation, run away from it. Because it doesn't happen just like that. That Oh, two people saw each other and they just did Xena. No, there is a long story before that. They have known each other they have spent time with one another. They have been texting one another. And they've been you know, sitting on the bus together and sitting in their classes together next to each other. It goes step by step by step by step.

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This is how it is.

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And the thing is that when a person reaches the heart of Xena meaning when he falls into Zina then what does it mean there is no higher left. There is no modesty no shyness left nothing.

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I mean, a woman, a Muslim woman. She's supposed to be modest. She's supposed to have hair. And part of that high is to cover her body to cover her head part of that has to not even touch a non Muslim man.

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And if she falls into Zina, what does that show? There is no shyness no modesty left.

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Many people they have an issue. Why isn't sexual * outside of marriage allowed in Islam? Everybody does it. It's so common. What's the big deal? Why not?

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Because the thing is that if a person reaches this limit, that there is no higher there is no modesty there is no shyness, then what will happen then a person can do any wrong action.

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Because this is what we have been told.

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either love or hate for smart mentorship. When you do not have higher than go do whatever you want, then there is no limits then there is no stopping. Then after Zina lies will come and you know people are willing to leave their families even at kill their children even murder.

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I mean she Athan is ever gonna say, yeah compared Zina?

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No, she had the Han doesn't say that. Because if he says that, then what will you say? No, no stop at Allah.

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Right. But what happens step by step. Gradually, he takes a person into a situation where emotionally he's so attached to the other. He feels so needy for the other that cannot refuse. cannot say no.

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So now the caribou Xena don't even go near Zina.

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Keep away from it for your own good because in no kind of fair he shut down indeed it is something fascia what is fascia? Absolutely in decent, bad for harsh. And remember the first are such sins which are of sexual nature, right? So it's just wrong. It's bad. It's a grave sin it seriously disgusting. It's a horrible crime, whose effects are not just limited to those who are engaged in the Zina but also others. Others will be affected by it. Think about it one girl commit Zina and the whole family's embarrassed. Go ahead.

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There's this common belief that Xena is because of the girl because a girl is evil. That's not what I meant when I said that only for girl allows, then a guy can proceed. The thing is that it's not just because of the girl. Both are guilty, which is why as Zanny was Zania both are guilty, the man and the woman. However, the thing is that the man can be desperate, but he cannot do anything with her. Unless she agrees. Unless she says okay, I will go with you. I will hang out with you. * is something else. I'm talking about Xena.

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So while I talk Rosina, don't even go near it because in no kind of fashion, indeed, it is a horrible crime it is immorality was set a Sybilla and

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evil as a way, meaning it's such a bad way, bad way of what fulfilling your desires, fulfilling your desires. I mean, I'm sure you guys watch movies. And what do you see that girls what happens with them, they're with a guy and the guy is then you know, just leaves her where he has nowhere to be found.

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He just has fun with her and he moves on. Or she falls into it. And then she realizes she doesn't want him anymore. Because she saw another side of him. She saw a different side of him when she was so intimate with Him. So what do we learn here? That this is a very irresponsible way of fulfilling your desire, sexual desire. This is within a person.

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But just like eating just like drinking, for everything for every desire for every need. Allah subhanaw taala has taught us a way of fulfilling that. Such a way because of which we will not suffer.

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Because these pleasures are supposed to bring satisfaction. They're supposed to bring happiness to a person. And if they are taking a toll on his health, they're taking a toll on his mental health, then this is a problem. This is a reason why alcohol is forbidden. Because when a person drinks alcohol, what happens to him?

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What happens to him when he's drunk?

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He's humiliating himself. Look at the way he's walking. Look at the way he's stalking. Look at what he's talking about. Look at the way he's puking. And so many times it happens people are driving when they're drunk, and they killed somebody. Right? So drinking good things, you know something that you will enjoy drinking. This is a natural desire. But Allah subhanaw taala told us what to drink and what not to drink. Why? Because of our own good. Now when a person fulfills their sexual desire, like this through Zina, this is an irresponsible way. Why? Because what guarantee do you have this person with whom you've been so intimate with is actually going to be with you is actually

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taking responsibility of you of the child if you were to become pregnant.

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I just think that Zina hurts the woman more in almost all the cases than it does with the men because it's her body and the guy can just move on. And even in this society, where it's so common, like people look down on woman who are sexually active and they color like all sorts of things like sloth or whatever. And for males, they just get away with it. And it's cool if they do it. So I think like I recently got married and I think that marriage is like so

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Beautiful because it's a whole process and it takes so long but like, there's lots of rights that are put in place, especially for the woman like the woman's given the mohair, the parents are involved, like everyone is there to protect each other's rights and like your husband is going wild over you, he's the one who's going to care for you and love you and provide for you. It's not just, you know, the intimate aspect. It's, it's more than that the whole relationship. And there's also security and protection. And if the woman does get pregnant, everyone's happy for her, right. So that's what you want in life. There's responsibility on both sides, there is companionship, there's

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love. There's family, you know, this beautiful bond that comes with marriage. And this is why the best thing that can happen to two people that love one another is what Nikka

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so like, I'm acquainted with revert sister, she's a student here during the weekdays, but she was sharing a story where her current husband, he's Muslim, and for whatever reason he proposed to her before she accepted Assam. And she was saying that how surprised she was she was like, floored, that he would agree to spend his life with her, like take care of her without having been intimate with her because she was saying her previous relationships when she was intimate with people, they would really just leave her and she couldn't imagine someone wanting to stay with her for her character and like who she was instead of her physical aspects. Exactly. Because marriage is not just you

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looking at the sexual aspect of life, but more than that, that there is going to be companionship, a family is going to be raised here.

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So I'm gonna go, I was thinking about, you know, how Allah subhanaw taala saying, Don't go even near Zina, I was thinking about the story of two brothers who left their sister with a ILM or he was a worship, yeah, a monk and how slowly, slowly the shaytaan, you know, made him do everything, everything to the extent that he did Zina, he did a mother and at the end of the day, he that Sajida in front of shaytan. So shaytan is not really after people who are out there doing the shaitaan is really after people who are not doing this, who are practicing, because he knows those people already are worshipers of shaytan. So people who are really practicing, they should not feel that

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you're they're safe, you know, because she done is really after those people.

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And over here, like I mentioned earlier, these desires are natural, Allah subhanaw taala has put them in us. And he has also taught us how to fulfill them in the correct way for our own good. So one way is Zina and the other way is off marriage of Nikka. And this is where it's very important for us to realize that we should make nigga easier, we should make it easier. And I'm talking to the mothers over here, the aunties over here,

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you're not going to find the most perfect daughter in law, you're not going to find the most perfect son in law. If your son wants the perfect woman, then he has to wait until he can get agenda because there Inshallah, there will be a lot of beauty and perfection in every way. However, here he has to settle with somebody. So same with the girls, please stop looking for that ideal ideal guy.

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Okay, I mean, live in the real world, come out of that dream world and realize that people are faulty. If they have one good quality, they will have three bad qualities also. So accept the good.

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So if you think about it, the family is the most basic structure of society. It's where the children are raised. They're taught manners and just everything grows from the family unit. And if the family unit is ruined, because of Zina, which a lot of times that is the reason that the family unit is like ruined or accusations and things like that. It destroys the entire society or the group of people around it. So it's not only affects the family, the girl, the divine, whoever it may be, it affects the entire community that is around it. Exactly. And keep away from Xena whether you're married or you are unmarried, for everybody, they have to keep away from Xena. That's listen to the

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recitation. Oh Allah.

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Allah, my gosh, you're in luck in

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India in

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curbing your Wallah top almost Vina

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