Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 28 – L288E

Taimiyyah Zubair
AI: Summary © The difficulty of avoiding opposition between one and another is the most difficult one, as opposition is not a means of revenge. Finding supportive family members is crucial, and forgiveness is crucial for avoiding harm and threatening consequences. It is important to be mindful of one's behavior and avoid negative comments, and to avoid harming one's family members. It is crucial to following guidance and following others' rules to avoid damaging relationships. It is crucial to not overestimating oneself and not giving up until the end of the day to avoid damaging relationships.
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Billahi min ash shaytani r rajim Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim lesson number 288. sola to turabian. We'll begin from ayah. Number 14. Yeah, you had levina amanu are you who have believed in them in as well as you can, indeed, among your wives, among your spouses? Will Ola DICOM and your children are dual welcome enemies to you for the room. so be cautious of them. Be careful when you deal with them. What entire food. And if you pardon what us for who and you overlook what have you and you forgive for in the love of food over him, then Indeed, Allah is Forgiving, and merciful.

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Over here in this ayah, we learned something that is very strange.

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We learn something that is very different, that nobody tells us that nobody else says this is something that only the Quran tells us. And what is that? That indeed from among your spouses and your children, there are those who are in reality enemy to you.

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They're not actually your friends, they're not actually sincere to you, but in reality, how are they enemies to you.

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And notice the word men, men over here does not mean all of but men over here means the varied some of that perhaps from your closest family members. There are some people who are in reality your enemy. And notice to people are mentioned as well, and alert spouses and children, wives and children. Parents have not been mentioned, siblings have not been mentioned, uncles and relatives, they have not been mentioned who has been mentioned, spouse and children. Why?

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Because the way a person is bound to them, a person is not bound to any other relatives. For example, a person is living with their parents. But eventually they move away.

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A person grows up with their siblings, but then eventually they move away. But your relationship with your spouse and your children is a relationship that you have forever. It's not just your relationship, but it's also companionship, it comes with constant companionship.

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If a person does not live with his parents, not a big deal, but if a person does not live with his wife and children, that is a big deal. And the way a person's heart is attached with his wife, and with his children, it's not attached to anybody else. You love your siblings, yes, but the way you love your children, you don't love your siblings, the way you love your wife, your husband is not the way you love your siblings. So this is why spouses and children are mentioned over here in particular, because a person is very attached to them. And a person is also responsible for them. Can a person just leave them, turn away from them? abandon them not keep any connection with them?

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No, he has been made responsible to look after his wife, look after his children. A person's parents might be financially independent. So they don't depend on him. siblings also don't depend on him. But the way we don't children depend on him. He can't exactly cut off from them. He can't say get out of my house. He can't say go away. He cannot say I'm leaving. So the test that comes through one spouses and children is the greatest. That's the point over here. The difficulty the opposition that a person faces from his spouse and children is the most difficult one. So Allah says over here that in them and as Where do you come? What Oh, Lady Komodo, welcome. Some of them are actually enemy to

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you. Who is an enemy of a person

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who is an enemy of a person. Think about?

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Someone who opposes you. That's your enemy. Someone who opposes you. conflicts with you, does not cooperate with you. Whatever you're doing, they go against that they don't support you. Similarly, an enemy is also someone who does not want any good for you, what do they want for you? bad for you. So they also cause you harm.

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And I do is the opposite of Sadiq who is

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a true friend. Our do is enemy on the other hand, and remember that there are levels of enmity, and Adela is the first level of enmity. It's the first level of enmity, which is when a person is not supportive of someone. He is not supportive of someone he does not eat them does not cooperate with them rather he opposes them. Then the level after that is off bold. And what is bold mean? hatred.

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that a person hates the other from his heart. He doesn't love him does not like him. And so everything about the other also he hates. Notice over here. Which word has been used? I do. And I do is someone who does not support you, someone who actually opposes you. So how are they enemy to you? How are your spouses and children enemy to you? When they oppose you? In your deen

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when they don't support you, in your deen when the love for wife and children makes a person disobey Allah, you understand that for their sake, a person disobeys Allah, to please them. A person doesn't do something for the sake of Allah, to make them happy. A person doesn't sacrifice for the deen of Allah, a person doesn't go out in the way of Allah does not become of the unsought Allah. This is when they become an enemy to a person. So basically, when they become an obstacle for a person, in the way of Allah.

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There's a particular context behind the revelation of these if

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we learned that, even our bustled intern who he said to a man who asked him about this idea that they were men who embraced Islam in Makkah.

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There were some people who had embraced Islam in Makkah. And they wanted to do hijra to Allah messenger sallallahu wasallam. They wanted to go to Medina, however, their wives and their children refuse to allow them. Whenever they brought the topic of migrating, their wives had no way their children said impossible. We're not moving from here. We don't want to move from here, we're not migrating from here and we cannot let you go either. So what happened then,

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later, when they joined Allah's Messenger, sallAllahu wasallam. Much later, they found that those who were with him meaning the companions, who had migrated before them, they have gained much more knowledge than them in religion, they have gone far ahead in religion. So they became very upset with their families, they became very upset with their wives and their children, and they wanted to punish them. They wanted to take some kind of revenge. So basically what happened, their families prevented them from going out in the way of Allah. Similarly, we learned that our own family cordilleran home, whenever he wanted to go out for jihad, his wife and children would start crying,

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that don't go, what if you die? What if something happens? Who will take care of us, don't leave us, we cannot tolerate you being away from us for even a day. Please don't go. So he would feel very bad and he would not go.

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Every time he wanted to go, they would start crying. And because of that, you know, his heart would soften up and he would not go out in the way of Allah. So then these ayat were revealed that Yeah, you had Medina Avenue in them. And as radical Ola, the Komodo Warlock, welcome, some of your spouses and your children could actually be enemies to you, when, when they stop you from the way of Allah when they don't let you obey Allah when they don't let you sacrifice for his sake.

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So what are you supposed to do, then? Father Oh home. so be cautious of them. Be alert, when dealing with them. Be very careful when they tell you to do something, don't just listen to them and start fulfilling every wish of theirs, but rather, be very careful of them.

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And remember, the word for the room is from hidden? And what does it mean, to be cautious to become very careful to deal with the other in a very careful manner. So for the room, don't relax, but rather be very, very careful when you're dealing with them. Meaning just because they're crying, just because they're saying something doesn't mean you listen to them. Just because they're saying, don't do this doesn't mean you don't do it. Just because they tell you to do something wrong doesn't mean you do it. No. Be careful of them. Analyze every request of theirs. Because typically, what happens if a husband requests something, child requests something? Our thinking is our mentality is

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we're supposed to obey our husbands. We're supposed to please our children, we're supposed to listen to them. But don't start automatically obeying them. Be careful, analyze every request they make, analyze every suggestion they're making, and look at it in the light of Quran and Sunnah. Is it something that Allah would want you to do? Or is it something that Allah would not want you to do? For the room? Be very careful when you're dealing with them. And don't listen to them. When they tell you to disobey Allah. Don't let them make you disobey Allah. And don't follow them, but rather make them follow you follow him

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What in thoughtful? And if you pardon what else for her and you overlook what the hero and you forgive for in the law have a photo of Rahim then Indeed Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.

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If you think about it, this test that a person faces from his closest family members is the most difficult one. In the previous is we learned about tests that a person experiences in his life. And this test is the most difficult one because it's coming from who, from those people whom he loves a lot, and they love him a lot as well. But unfortunately, what happens is that these closest family members they become an obstacle for a person in his Deen. It is still easier to fight oneself. But it's very difficult to fight against your opposing and unsupportive family members.

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You can force yourself to do something. But can you make your unsupportive family members accept something, allow you to do something, understand something? It's very difficult. It's extremely difficult to this test is very, very difficult. And we see that the more Eman a person has, the stronger His love is for the deen of Allah. The more he man he will have the stronger his love for the deen of Allah. The stronger his love for the deen of Allah the more he wants to serve the deen.

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But imagine a person wants to serve the deen go out in the way of Allah obey Allah. But what happens? family members say? No, you're not doing this? No, we don't allow you know, we will not cooperate with you.

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If you want to work elsewhere, yes, you have our full support. But if you want to work for the team, you don't have our support. Now at that time, what should a person do? Should he cut off from them?

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Should he show his anger to them? Should he say I don't care? And should he start reacting in a negative manner? No, it cannot be possible. Because if a person gets angry at this point, and starts dealing with them in a very harsh way, then what is it going to lead to facade?

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facade? And what in family life?

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If the husband says no, you're not doing this twice as I'm doing it, I don't care what you say, See you later. And she walks off the children say, Mom, please, can you take us to the movies? The mother says no, it's how long I'm not going to take you. It's going to lead to a facade if you react harshly. If you react negatively. If you react in a way that you want to teach them a lesson, it's going to lead to what facade.

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And remember, when there's facade in a family, then it takes away the peace of a person, a person cannot function properly, he cannot do anything.

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Now, another thing, if a person reacts negatively at this point, is it going to draw the family members closer to the dean? Or is it going to move them further away from the the farther away?

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Okay, what's the other option? Then? Listen to them. That's not an option either. Because if you listen to them, then who are you disobeying a law?

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And similarly, if you listen to them, then you're depriving yourself of reward. So then what should you do? Should you listen to them? Should you not listen to them? Allah subhanaw taala tells us the solution over here.

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And what is that? What in theraflu? What does for who What are feel for in the law have a photo of him three words have been used over here for forgiveness for overlooking three different words which we see at various places in the Quran. All of them are coming together, that you have to deal with them How? With Barden and forgiveness and overlooking their opposition. The Ayah does not tell us listen to them. What's the ayah telling us? Be careful when you're dealing with them? Meaning don't listen to them. And instead, when you're dealing with them, how should you be forgiven?

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Now if you look at these words, interfere with us for what

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three words are mentioned over here. Therefore some newsletters are in firewall, our phone and iPhone is to pardon someone. Literally it is to iPod

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and iPhone is cooler or kooba which is to not take revenge. What does it mean, to not take revenge? Remember that incident that even a vessel that aren't at all about that there were some people who wanted to hit you that they couldn't do hijra because their family members later on when they did and they realized the rest of the Muslims have gone so far ahead of them. They wanted to punish their wives and children. So what does the ayah tell us? theraflu don't punish them. Forgive them. Don't punish them forgive them. So for example,

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relating it with your life. You come here, your parents say, we have to go to Pakistan for a few weeks. Like, okay, you have no choice. You go with them. You come back, and you see the rest of the students are so far ahead and you're behind, and you say, I'm not gonna talk to them. I'm not gonna listen to them again. No, forgive them. Forgive them. Similarly, because your child was up at night, you could not do your work, you could not submit your assignment. You could not prepare for the test that well, you do your test. And you don't do that well. And you say, I'm going to teach my kids a lesson. I'm going to teach my husband a lesson. What is a lesson that flew? Just forgive them?

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Because if you think about it, they are doing what they're doing. Why? out of ignorance sometimes. And sometimes they're saying what they're saying out of sincerity. I tell you, take rest, don't study. Let's go out, take a break. Don't go to class. Let's go have some fun. Why are they saying that to you? They love you. They want good for you. They think In fact, they are being very sincere to you. This is why you have to forgive them. You have to overlook what they're doing and what they're saying. theraflu What as for who? What the soft, mean? Soft is to forgive someone in a way that you don't even show any reaction. Meaning you don't even make them feel bad about what they've

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You don't even make them feel bad about what they've said. So far, who meaning completely overlook what they have done? Don't even bring it up. Don't talk about it. Just ignore.

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They said something very harsh to you. It's because of the scores that you're doing that you're so tired all the time.

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Don't bring up your fatigue in front of them. Don't say to them that see what you said to me last time No, don't bring up these things just ignore don't even make them feel bad about what they said. What have you and forgive them? What does mafia mean mufflers cetera them? What the jail was on who? To conceal the sin and forgive for it.

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So what does it mean by conceding the sin, conceding their crime concealing their mistake? That don't even mention it to others? Because sometimes this is what we like to do. You know, my husband is not that supportive. You know, my children, if only they would understand? No, don't even talk about it. Don't even mention it. Don't even tell other people what they're saying to you. Just cover it completely. And if you deal with them in this way, for in de la foto Rahim that Indeed, Allah is Forgiving, and merciful.

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The thing is that our family members are victims for us. We learned earlier as well, that even if a person wants to cut off from them, can he cut off from them? No. Why? Because, first of all, he loves them. And secondly, Allah has made him responsible. You love your children, but at the same time you want to study the deen, can you leave your children somewhere and ignore them and just enjoy studying yourself? You cannot do that.

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Similarly, as a wife, you have certain obligations, can you ignore those, you cannot ignore them.

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So what are your closest family members, they are a test for you. And this is something that we need to realize. Which is why whenever we hear something hurtful, whenever we come across something that is non supportive, you know, they say something, and you feel that they're not that supportive anymore. They do something and you feel that they are not happy with you. They're opposing you for what you're doing. Whenever you come across something like this, what is the way that Allah subhanaw taala teaches us that are full with us for who we are, just forgive them. ignore what they're saying, don't talk about it, don't bring it up. And just keep doing your work silently, quietly,

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without making it a big deal.

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Because many times family members also get offended when we make our work a big deal. When we complain to them. We're so tired, we're so tired, so tired. If you're going to complain to them, they're going to say don't go and they're going to say that you out of love. So don't make it a big deal. And look, three words are used over here for forgiveness. It says all you have to forgive them in the morning, therefore in the morning, does for her in the afternoon, through at night.

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All day long. You have to do this. All day long. You have to do this. Because if you don't forgive them, then will you be able to do something? No. Will you be at peace? No. Will there be peace at your house? No.

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What a beautiful advice This is that Allah is not telling us cut off from your family and he's not telling us that

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Don't do anything for the dean either. No, you have to do something for the dean, you have to be obedient to Allah. But at the same time you have to deal with your family members, and how are you going to do that? by forgiving them by overlooking their mistakes.

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And also one more thing, that the enmity of the family members, it's very different from the enmity of other people.

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This enmity is very different. Why? Because a normal enemy, you can avoid, you can go far away from them. You can decide I'm never going to see them, I'm never going to speak to them. But can you do that with your own children and your own family members? No, you cannot do that. Similarly, a normal enemy, usual enemy, you can challenge them, you can fight with him, you can ask him, what's your problem? You can tell him, leave me alone. You can tell him go deal with your own business. But can you say that your husband?

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Can you say that your children? No, you cannot. Similarly, your usual enemy, whatever they say to you, whatever they do to you, it's out of hate, it's out of dislike, but what your family members say to you, many times they do it out of sincerity out of well wishing out of concern out of care. This is why you have to be forgiving towards them. So the solution is not cutting off from them. The solution is not doing nothing. But what's the solution? Keep doing your work silently, quietly, while forgiving them.

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We see over here in the previous chart, we learned that masaba, mostly within 11 inilah. This is also mostly that when the family members are not supportive, when they're not cooperative, when they oppose you. This is also a big difficulty. So in this time, what should a person do? Well, my human Billa, you have to have faith in Allah, Allah, I want to do this very badly. And when you will want to do it, Allah who make a way for you. And if you accept your situation, that this is a situation that Allah has put me in, then Allah will show you the way how to do it.

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I remember I was talking to my mother once, and I was telling her about somebody who wanted to do something for the dean, but they weren't able to. Because, you know, sometimes the husband would create problems, and sometimes children would create problems. And it was getting very difficult. I was talking to her, you know, trying to figure out how can I advise the sister? I mean, how can she deal with the problems that she's facing?

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And she said, How is it possible that you want to do something, and Allah allows it for you? And people create problems, people stop you?

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Can people stop you from that? which Allah has allowed for you? Can they? No, they cannot remember that Hadees that if all the people were together together to harm you, they would not be able to harm you.

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If a loved one's good for you, the thing is that we need to make our near sincere.

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We need to cry before a lot that you're Allah, I want to do this make a way for me.

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Is anything difficult for Allah is anything impossible for Allah nothing is. So if you're asking Allah and Allah gives you the feat to do something, no person can come in your way. No one can, nothing can come in your way.

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But it's about you making your intention clear and making up your mind that you have to do it.

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And we see that throughout history, so many people, they faced so many challenges, but when they made up their mind, they wanted to do something allow me to wait for them.

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I don't know if I told you before, but my mother in her family, there was no concept of girls going to high school, no concept. She was the eldest

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to cry and wept. And she said I have to I want to imagine the whole family's like, there is no way you cannot do this. Nobody does this. She went herself registered herself. And she did excellent in her high school. Then after that University College impossible, unheard of. unheard of no girl goes, she was the only one she was the first one to go, despite all the opposition.

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And then when she went to do her PhD abroad, that's who looked after her children, her parents.

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Just imagine, those who did not give you permission before are now your best supporters. When when you make up your mind when you do your best when you ask Allah.

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And when you don't make a big scene when you don't make a big fuss. When you don't fight with your family members but rather you forgive them you overlook them, you deal gently with them, you pardon them.

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Because if we hold a grudge in our hearts, then we cannot pardon them right? Then it will reflect in our attitude. And when it will reflect in our attitude. When we're coming across as mean and disobedient. You think they will want to cooperate with us.

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Never, the first thing that we should remember is if they have a different goal and we have a different goal, then our first thing to do would be to do direct to them so that their goal becomes the same as ours. And then they would become our support Exactly. That many times, people that take the first part of the ayah. That intimate as far as you can go, oh, let the camera do while ago. And that's it.

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That you know, they're not supporting me, they're opposing me look at them. They're stopping me from the way of Allah, how sad how bad how much sin they're getting, you know, this is what we think. But we forget to do our part, which is,

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do what you have to do. Be very careful, just don't listen to them. However, don't forget your o'clock.

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Forgive them, overlook them.

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And you see the end of the ayah that will interfere with us for her with a fatal flaw in Allah for over him, then Indeed, Allah is Forgiving and Merciful. For in the love of order, what does that show that Allah will be forgiving and merciful towards you, when you are forgiving towards them? Because no person is perfect. Think about yourself, how were you before you learnt you ultimate many mistakes, perhaps you are worse than them.

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So if you want to be forgiven, then you better forgive them as well. And when you will forgive them, then inshallah this will be a means of calling them to the dean as well.

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Because if you are harsh with them, they will not come. But if you overlook their mistakes,

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then what will happen, they will listen to you as well.

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Earlier, we learned that the problem that people had with the prophets was that they could not accept a human messenger telling them and similarly, family members don't like their other family members telling them

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husbands don't like their wives telling them wives don't like their husbands telling them so over there, you should become firm and very stubborn and say oh, by the way, I know the truth. I know more than you have studied the Quran, you haven't you better listen to me. No, that's not the right way. If you will do that, you will lose the little support even that they're offering you. So be very careful. Very careful. Careful with us for who? What have you for in the law have a photo Rahim. And if you want to be forgiven by Allah, then you must forgive them. Allah will deal with you the way you deal with them. And remember, we learned earlier when you're unaware of the company,

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Berlin, fitna, we have made some of you attest For others, it doesn't belong. Are you going to be patient or not?

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Sometimes we complain that why do I have such a non supportive husband, why is my family like this, I wish I had a supportive family as well. This is what we wish, I wish I had a family who was very religious, this is what we want. But the thing is, Allah gave you guidance out of all of them, and you never know, Allah wants to guide them through you. You never know. And it's quite possible that had you not been in that family in that environment, you probably must never have received this. It's quite possible.

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It's a very direct address, that your wives and your children are do Well, luckily for you be careful. And that fool you forgive, you overlook you pardon, then Allah will be forgiving and merciful. So look at the address, it's so direct. Because a person might feel that, you know, are humble, I'm in a very good situation, my family is very, very supportive. But there are ups and downs. There will be moments, when you will feel when you will sense from your family members that they're not quite happy with what you're doing. It's quite possible, they give you support, but then after some time, you sense that they're not that happy. Now that time, what are you supposed to do?

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fight with them, yell at them, argue with them, forgive them. And don't make it a big scene. Because if you make it a big scene, make a big fuss, then you're going to lose a little support that they're offering.

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And remember that, If you face any difficulty, it's in fact, a part of your training in Las pantallas, teaching you something he's training you for something else. For example, if a person does not face opposition from his family members, then perhaps he will not be as firm.

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Like, for example, I see for my mother, the kind of opposition that she faced initially within an hamdulillah so much support that later on whatever has come our way, it's not a big deal.

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You know, just imagine somebody writing about you in the newspaper, how would you feel false things? false information about you? How would you feel horrible, but I see her people say things without any evidence, false things lies, absolute lies. And they publish in the news where they talk about it amongst themselves. And Alhamdulillah it doesn't bother. If it was you and I would probably be just living our own quiet lives and say that no, I cannot do

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With these people, they're so ungrateful. We wouldn't be able to deal with it. So when a person has faced a lot of opposition, it makes him stronger. So know that if you are in a family where people are not that supportive, maybe Allah is teaching you something through that. But unfortunately, what do we feel at that time? Maybe I should not do this work? No, this is not a matter of choice is something that we have to do, obeying a lie something necessary. Being of the unsettled is something necessary if we are not of the unsettled look at what we're losing to G komen other than earlier. What do you want to lose that opportunity? Never. So then what's the solution? Do what you have to

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do? But forgive your family as well? In the unwelcome what oh, learn to confectioner your wealth and your children are but a trial, your wealth and children? What are they? In reality, they're a test for you. And fitness used for such a test? That is through those things which a person loves, through those things that a person is attached to. So wealth and children, a person loves them. He's very much attached with them. But at the same time, unless as they are it asked for you how that they distract you from what is more important.

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This is why Allah says yeah, you had Medina Amma know that will he come and welcome Allah, Allah to come and the gorilla, don't let them distract you because this is the test that they distract you with Allah who are in the edgerunner leave. And Allah with him is great reward great reward for who? For the one who prefers Allah, over and above his wealth and children, for the one who obeys Allah.

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So we see that we're welcome. Children are a blessing. They are a huge test as well.

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And how are they attest that they make a person disobey Allah.

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They make a person stay away from good.

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They make a person lose great opportunities.

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If a person has money, the person wants more money. It's a fitna for him how that he wants to make more money and he doesn't care whether it's coming through a Hillel source or a Harlem source. Similarly, a person has money, what's the test? He wants to show off? He starts feeling very proud. It's a test. Similarly, he wants to make more money, which is why you compromise and the dean. He doesn't want to take Friday's off. Because if he does, he won't get the same money. It happens.

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So in Nova and widecombe, Ola, the competitor, many times it's because of wealth and children that a person disobeys Allah,

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the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said in Nikolay Mateen fitna, we're fitna to umatilla for every oma is a big test. And the big test for my oma is well, money. Well, that is their big test.

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Because wealth is something that blinds a person and makes him compromise on his values on his religion from another Hadees, which is reported in avani. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, Your real enemy is not he whom if you kill, there is success for you. What do you think?

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The real enemies who if you kill them, I'm successful. That's my real enemy. You want to get rid of your real enemy. And if he kills you, there is paradise for you. But your real enemy may be your own child, who is born of your own lines, or the wealth of which you are the owner. Your own child may be your enemy, and your own wealth may be your enemy, how that they're making, you disobey Allah.

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They're making you lie. They're making you cheat. They're making you leave Salah, they're making you compromise on your ethics.

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They're making you lose out on your ibadah. So they're a big test. And in this test, again, a person has to be very careful. He cannot live heedlessly, he cannot live carelessly, rather, he has to be very, very alert. And how is it that he has to be alert, that while he is with his children with his money, he has to make sure that he's doing that which Allah wants him to do?

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To the test is Allah subhanaw taala testing us, that who obeys Allah? And who obeys his children in disobedience to him? who prefers Allah and who prefers his children, who prefers as well? This is the test a lot of panels artists checking us. In total calfire 46 we learned a manual Bernina Xena to hire to dunya wealth and children. What are they? Just the adornment of this life? They're a test we get distracted by the Xena. And over here, what do we see? Well, lavorando I didn't Arlene, if you don't get lost in this, Xena. And you focus on the Hara, that Allah has a great reward for you, which is why in that I entered Luca Wolbachia, to salejaw to Highlander in Europe because we're

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hiring Amala

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And the good deeds are better to your Lord for award and better for one's hope

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in them and welcome Ola to come fitna, Allah who are in the whole agenda when

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we learn from a hadith that a man will be brought on the Day of Judgment. And it will be said that his children, it consumed all of his good deeds.

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Just imagine his children, his family, what did they do? They consumed all of his good deeds, how

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he was righteous, but they were not righteous. You see the deaths of children is that sometimes you don't want to make your children go through any difficulty. You want to let them take life easily. You want them to relax, you want them to have fun, you say it's too early for them to learn, and you keep delaying keep delaying until it's too late. This is also a test. So, a person will be brought on the day of judgment and it will be said his good deeds as children consumed them so he has nothing left. For the sake of those children, following their desires, following their likes trying to please them, a person does not teach them properly. A person does not practice the deen properly.

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And as a result, what happens the little good he had done even that is wasted away.

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For duckula, Hamas the third term so fear Allah as much as you are able, when your wealth and children are a test, what should you do? Leave them know, what does Allah say, Fear Allah, as much as you are capable off and have a high standard for yourself.

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Fear a lot as much as you are able to meaning do your best. Do whatever that you can do whatever that your situation allows you.

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And this is something that is between you and your Lord. You know what you can do? Allah knows how much you can do. Other people may not know but you know. So factor Allah mustard. Artem was smart and listen, listen to who do what you have been commanded to do. Listen, meaning obey, accept what after you and obey obey who Allah and His messenger. In other words, just because your family is a test for you, just because they're a means of distraction for you just because you're unsupportive doesn't mean you listen to them, and you disobey Allah. No, you fear a lot as much as you're able to, was smart rule and listen with a clear rule and obey will unphysical and spend, why, because

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highly unphysical that is better for you.

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Spend and that is better for you. Obedience, acceptance, listening to align His Messenger spending in the way of Allah that is much better for you than not doing so. Finally, unphysical woman you wash your hands, for hula ecomo freehold and whoever is saved from the greed from the stinginess of itself, then those are successful. Sure, what is your selfishness, when a person wants all good for just himself? Why is this mentioned over here? Because it's sure that doesn't allow a person to forgive the other.

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It's sure that doesn't let a person come out of his comfort zone.

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A person wants all good for himself, which is why he doesn't want to sacrifice for the team. Which is why he doesn't want to serve to the Allah says, Well, my yoke is your hand FC for Allah ecohome Oklahoman over here you have to get out of yourself. You have to let go of your ego. You have to get rid of stinginess. You aren't good for yourself. But now you have to on good for everybody. be concerned for your family members as well. If you want good for them, then you have to serve the team. Because when you will teach other people then your family will also learn when you will help out at a place where Islam has been learned and taught and your children will also benefit. But if

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you want only good for yourself, you stay in your house, in your own personal affairs, then the good is never going to spread. When you close your hand I've seen for Ola eager, homeowner lovely home.

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Then Allah says into a little law court and has an if you land a law, a beautiful loan, a good lead on you are a fula come he will multiply it for you. Well Scylla come and he will forgive for you. Allah who Shackleton Halim, and Allah is most appreciative and also most forbearing why Scott hasn't mentioned after saying unfaithful. And Phil who has mentioned earlier, isn't it and in fact is what to spend, generally right on oneself on one's family, in the way of a lot on the poor. But Kurth Hashanah is what in particular spending in the way of Allah to support to defend the deen of Allah.

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So this has mentioned over here in particular, because sometimes once family members they prevent him from spending in the way of Allah.

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They tell him don't so Allah says if you give

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To Allah a beautiful loan, you learn through local, Allah will multiply it for you many, many times, you will multiply the reward for you welfare local and he will also forgive you for your shortcomings and allies choco he is appreciative, and he's haleem he is most forbearing appreciative, he appreciates the little good that you do even and he's hiding. He's very tolerant. So what does it mean? You should also be tolerant.

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Mr. lavey was Shahada Knower of the unseen and the witnessed Allah Aziz al Hakim, the Exalted in Might, the most wise. Why is this mentioned over here, he's the Knower of the unseen and the witness. He knows what happens in your personal life. He knows the lack of support that you face. He knows the opposition that you face. He's Knower of the unseen and also the witness and he is Aziz he can change the situation. And he is Hakeem if he's allowed to happen. There's some wisdom behind it.

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long shot, honey.

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If you notice in this ayah, Fatah, Hamas tartan was smart, you what unfeasible, highly unphysical?

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What is it show to us that when we're facing such opposition from our family members, then what do we need to do?

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Do that which you can do at least

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if they don't allow you one thing, then at least are some other things that you can do. Why stop from that?

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Because remember that at the end of the day, the choices with you,

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your time is yours. Many times it happens that women complain, I don't get permission from my family, I cannot do this young girls, they complain, my parents don't allow me I have to go do this, I have to go to that I can't study anymore. But remember that it's in your ability as well. And, and hamdulillah. These days when there's so many options, there's so many ways. If you can't come to the campus, you can do things online. So for taco Lamas tatata, do whatever you can to the best of your ability,

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will unphysical and spend spend on who on your family members, because that will heal wounds, and that will bring you all together. So for example, if the husband, you know is saying that, by the way, I don't think I want you to do the advanced course because you know, 18 months have gone by and a lot has happened, then perhaps you should start cooking more for him. Get him a nice gift, make him happy. And when you will make him happy. He will also make you happy. So until co spend at these times we don't want to give this is why sure is mentioned afterwards. at these times you want to take revenge, you want to teach the other person lesson. Who do you think you are? And how could you

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say that to me? You know, it's my choice my life. I'm in Canada, I can make my own decisions. And then people say see what other teachers women.

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Well unfaithful spend, give a little of yourself. You have to take it hard on yourself sometimes. Fatah colada must authority don't fear Allah as much as you're able, again, as I mentioned earlier that every person knows what they're capable of doing. And Allah can always increase your SSR. So if you want to do more, ask Allah for more ability. And just because you're not able to do one thing right now, you may be able to do it tomorrow, your guitar changes. So don't underestimate yourself. Raise the standards for yourself. ask Allah for his father, and the doors will open for you in Sharla.

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She just told a story about this woman whose husband used to drink a lot and he would come home and be in a very terrible state but she would always take care of him look after him and eventually he started praying

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So, again, if you have made up your mind to do something, and your family is not that supportive, believe me, Allah can open ways for you. Provided that you are focused, you are determined that determination is needed in you.

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And sometimes we don't set high goals for ourselves because we don't want to make life difficult for ourselves. We want to take things easy, but tell me, can you gain gender and its pleasures by not paying its price? No.

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You have to pay the price for it. You have to struggle in this life. What is jihad, putting in your utmost effort, at most ability, the maximum that you can do.

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But when I can remove your home, hopefully handsome fella Han fella has, what kind of success that is attained after hardship. Remember, Allah is a farmer. This is a very easy life. No, every single day, he's going to his fields, working in the sun, in the heat, by other people are taking it easy.

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It's success that is attained after difficulty after doing something.

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The point is to make Allah happy. And the point is that given your situation, whatever you're able to do, you do it and through that you make Allah happy. So when your family does not support you in one way, remember, there's always other things that you can do. This is why ltot has been said, improve your Salah, start memorizing the Quran, even if you're not able to go outside the house, you can do something inside the house. Can you not? You can read so many books, you can listen to so many lectures, you can take so many courses online. So the point is to please Allah and you can do that through many many different ways. If one door is closed, look at all the other options that are

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open for you.

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And take advantage of those

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will listen to the recitation again.

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Yeah, you

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to special what else you're

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Hola, como, la con, la Lucia.

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panicle lahoma we have the Ganesha de la ilaha illa Anta Mr. Haruka wanted to make a ceremony.

At-Taghabun 1-18 Tafsir 13-18

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