Channel: Taimiyyah Zubair
Series: Taimiyyah Zubair - Bukhari
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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim Kitab al hailed the book of menstruation.
The word hailed is a Muslim. And it is from hellblazer Halo halen just like barrier biru Bayern
and the word Halo literally means Cylon, which is to flow to stream. It is that hairball where the when it overflows held is a reservoir, because water flows into it. So how you literally is to flow the stream? What is higher
in the Sharia? How is the natural blood, it is not something unusual, nor is it something that results from an unusual cause it's natural blood that a woman bleeds in certain days a Jamar Luma certain days of the month, and this is after the age of puberty. Throughout the years have you considered fertility until a woman is past childbearing age. And this is natural blood that flows from a certain place which is the vagina, and it flows by itself and stops by itself without the woman having any control over it because halal is to flow so it flows by itself stops by itself, a woman does not have any control over it. Medically, what is it is the periodic discharge of blood
and mucosal tissue from the uterus, and vagina. Now, inshallah we'll be studying a lot of these about
obviously, every woman experiences this but what is it medically what happens physically what is happening biologically many women are unaware. So it is better that I'll just summarize to you what Halo is even medically, like what is going on in the body what is causing that bleeding. This will actually help us understand the concept it will help you understand the rulings of Halo as well, because then the different kinds of bleeding they become clear as well.
As a girl reaches the age of puberty, we see that every month there is a gland which is the pituitary gland which releases hormones that stimulate the ovaries and the ovaries you know are very small organ, which contains 1000s of eggs, which have the potential of becoming a human being. So anyways, this land releases hormones that stimulate the ovaries causing an egg in one of them to mature. The ovaries also produce hormones that cause the lining of the uterus to thicken, the cells multiply, which are in the lining of the uterus, and as they multiply, they fill up with watery fluids and blood making the lining of the uterus very thick. Now the ovary eventually releases an
egg which passes through the fallopian tube and goes into the uterus. If the egg is fertilized, then what will happen it will be implanted in the wall of the uterus, which has become thickened. And basically a woman is pregnant. But if the egg is not fertilized, and what will happen, it will pass through the uterus and out of the vagina. Now the lining that has thickened, that is full of cells and watery fluids, it's not going to receive those hormones from the ovaries anymore, meaning the process of thickening will stop when it will stop that means that the body does not need that anymore. So what will happen, that lining will break down and it will be discarded from the body.
Now as it breaks down as it is shed from the body. This is basically what the menstrual blood is, which is why sometimes it is bloody and other times it is mucousy. Sometimes it is thick. Other times it is not that thick. And the color varies as well. Why? Because it's basically the lining that is being shed, and which takes a number of days. For some women, it's only two or three days other women it's four or five days for some women it can be eight to 10 days even because it depends on the thickness of the lining the amount of it. So basically, once all of that is released, it is discarded from the body, then what will happen, the menstruation will end and we see that even the
scholars of Islam, they have said about how that Hanukkah hula azzawajal hickmott and liver that invalid that Allah has created it for a purpose of what as nutrition for the child if it develops in the womb, because the uterine lining basically it serves as nutrition for the egg that is implanted over there.
And if it's not implanted, then what will happen that nutrition is useless, so it will be discarded from the body. Now there are different kinds of blood that are expelled from a woman's vagina. How many are there there are three kinds. First of all is the height. And what is the height it is the monthly flow the periodic flow of blood and mucus secondly,
Fast what is new fast it is postnatal bleeding. And this is regardless of whether the pregnancy was full term or partial. So it's basically the bleeding that happens after childbirth, whether it was after full term pregnancy or somewhere in the middle, meaning the child was born alive or did it regardless of that, but the bleeding that happens after childbirth, what is that? NIF us and the maximum length of new fast is how much 14 is for hailed it differs from Woman to Woman, but for the vast we see that typically or you can say the maximum length is 40 it is it cannot be beyond 40 it can be less but not more than 40. Now, remember that both height and fast What are they natural
height comes every month and if so is only after childbirth. The third kind of bleeding is which one is the harbor and has been termed as the facade blood as well because it creates a lot of difficulty for a woman sometimes. So basically any bleeding that is neither head nor NFS Then what is it is to help. If it's not period, if it's not enough, then what is it is to help them and the rulings pertaining to these three kinds of blood are different. But remember that the rulings pertaining to help NFS are more or less the same. Okay, the rulings pertaining to the first two Hale NFS. What are they more or less the same? They're only about you can say maximum five exceptions. Okay, five
differences. But otherwise the rulings are the same. But when it comes to is to how the rulings are completely different, different from halen effects in halen if as a woman does not pray, but it is to hell, she has to pray. In halen if as a woman will not fast but it is the Hello she will. So the rulings of is to Hello are different. And the causes of is there however, remember, are also many the causes of health and effects. They're clear what is hailed the result of the shedding of the uterine lining and the cause of Defense's childbirth, but the cause of is the harbor, they are many, you know, it can be from stress and whatever. But basically we see the prophets Allah sent him he
indicated that it was caused by blood or vein related instability. So basically, it's not the shedding of the uterine lining but something else will only later Allah and the statement of Allah subhanaw taala with aluna Kalyan mahipal who are other in Akali until the statement where you have been multiple hidden meanings until the end of the ayah What is this ayah This is a little Baccarat 222, in which Allah subhanaw taala says with a Luna car and wilmerhale and they ask you about my health who the Sahaba as the Prophet sallallahu Sallam there were many questions that they asked him and he would answer them, but some questions he would not answer himself and he would remain silent
about them. And Allah subhanaw taala would reveal the answer. So this is one of those questions the answer Allah subhanaw taala give. So they asked about my head in my head. grammatically What is this either isn't McCann meaning the noun of place the name of a place so it will refer to the place of head which is the vagina, or it refers to Islam as a man which is the time of menstruation or Thirdly, Mahela is understood as the Muslim meaning the higher the blood, the menstrual blood. So they asked about my health and it can be understood in any of these ways and inshallah the details you can learn in the future. If you're unsure about it, you can go revise. And those of you who
haven't I encouraged that you inshallah, study this in detail. The answer Allah says Kahlua other say that it is other meaning it is a slight hurt harm. Remember that there is a slight hurt, it's not something extremely difficult. It's not a great injury or a great wound, but it is something that is slight, but at the same time, you cannot consider you cannot completely dismiss it. So we see that hail is something painful, doesn't mean that a woman is sick, but definitely some difficulty. So it is a mother and grandmother it is other for the woman as well as for the men. For the woman it's understood for the man why because he is prohibited from taking pleasure from his
wife the way he can otherwise. So what's the ruling Allah says far does UNICEF in my head so stay away from the women during menstruation and Mahela over here is understood as the place of help. Meaning stay away from the vagina. Ignore Josie he said start as UNICEF in my head. What this means is, it will fill Farage meaning that a man should stay away from from fulfilling his sexual desire in the woman's private part, meaning he can fulfill his sexual desire with the woman through other means, but not in the private part. And this is why the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he said isn't rucola Shea elliptica
Do everything except for the actual sexual intercourse. So based on this ayah, the scholars have said that other than the place of help, other than the place of hide meaning other than the vagina, it is permissible for a man to fulfill his sexual desire, except for First of all, the
anal sex is something that is how long, it is clearly prohibited by various texts of the Sunnah. And there's no difference of opinion concerning this. Secondly, what else is prohibited oral sex according to the majority of the scholars, and just because it is not explicitly forbidden, it does not mean that it is permissible, according to the majority of the scholars. What are the reasons? Because some say that it's not explicitly forbidden. So even when it's not explicitly forbidden, then it will be considered permissible. But the majority of the scholars is still disagree, they say that it is not permissible. Why, for two reasons. First of all, the mouth is a clean part of the
body, which is to be used for the remembrance of Allah, it's to be used for the recitation of the Quran, and therefore in the honor of the mouth, in respect of the mouth, it is does not seem appropriate that there's a mouth and private part physical contact, because we learned that in the honor of the right hand, okay, the right hand was not be used to wash the private part. Why? Because the right hand you eat with right hand, you do good things with right hand the finger, you reason that the show that the right hand in honor of the right hand, you don't use it for washing of the private part. And in honor of the left hand, you don't touch the filth directly with it, what did we
learn? And we'll do that the best way of purifying yourself after using the washroom is that first is to wipe off the field.
And secondly is danger, then use the hand to wash off. So imagine in honor of the of the right hand, you don't use it to touch the private part, in honor of the left hand, you don't touch filter directly with it, then the mouth deserves more respect and honor. Which is why even if it is said that Oh, it is not how long, but definitely, definitely it will be considered as something that is mcru for sure. mcru.
And secondly, the second reason why is considered prohibited is because the excretions of the private party are considered impure and therefore, swallowing something impure is something that is not correct. So far does UNICEF in my head stay away from the women during my head, what this means is stay away from the vagina, everything else is permissible except for for the two that are mentioned over here. And for doesn't necessarily fit my head well at the moment. Do not approach them until they have become pure, meaning do not have sexual intercourse with them until they have become pure. And what does that mean that they're bleeding stops for either Tahoma then when they
obtain purity, then back to hoonah mean hi to Mr. kumala, then approach them from where Allah has commanded you. Now what does it mean by this, that do not have relations with them until they have become clean when they have become clean? Because the words are different, had dial tone and for either that the homeowner, the first one had dial tone, what does that indicate that the bleeding stops? by either takahama? What does that indicate that they have taken a bath? Some scholars said that it just means that they wash themselves up even if they haven't taken a bath. But we see that in the Quran. What do we learn that Allah and Allah says we're in quantum gentlemen for the command
to purify yourself means not just wash up but to take a bath. So farinata horna when they have cleaned themselves does not just mean washing up but it means taking the bath taking the hustle. So sexual relation can resume after the bleeding stops and the bath has been taken
and the bath has been taken. And then Allah says that approach them from where he has commanded when Hazel and Morocco mala and what is that place the place of fertility the vagina and not the back? Because Allah loves those who repent meaning who leaves since and he loves those who purified themselves from filth Bab gave a cannibal will help how menstruation started. How did this begin? Meaning since when in the human history, have women with menstruating? Is it something natural that has been going on from the very beginning? Or did it begin later as a consequential punishment on the women
Elena BIA sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the statement of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had a shaman. This is something meaning the hailed the period is something that cateva Allah who that Allah has decreed. Allah Bennati Adam, on the daughters of Adam will call about a boom and some of them meaning some people of the past some scholars, they said, can overlook. The first ever metal civil Halo that hailed was sent meaning the first time that women ever menstruate it was when I live in Israel on Bani Israel. This is what some scholar said that the first time ever met women menstruated was were the women of Bani Israel. You were a decent Ibiza lover and he was a number a
man Buhari. He says that the statement of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam It is, it is more more in what more inauthenticity in logic. In evidences in strength, it makes more sense that this is something that Allah has got over on the daughters of them. Meaning This is something that is natural. And remember that gatorback eatables overhears pottery, meaning that Allah has decreed it. This is something that has always happened. The women of Bani Israel are the ones who are the first to menstruate, and only they will be menstruating and not other women of the world. But we see that all women regardless of which place they are from, demonstrate, it is said that when her work came
to the world, that is when she mistreated, but again, just because she menstruating when she came to the world does not mean that it was a punishment on her. And the way that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam described menstruation What did he say this is something that Allah has decreed for the daughters of Adam, meaning this is not a punishment. This is something that is natural. This is a part of woman's body, a part of its chemistry a part of its biology, there's something very natural, and the description, the medical description that I just gave you, it makes complete sense it is something very natural. So what do we learn from this that Hale is not something that is evil in its
nature. So a woman does not need to feel guilty about it. This is not something over which a woman should feel guilty. That Oh, I'm having my period now. So it is as if you know something evil has happened to her or she has become sinful or she has become dirty? No. We learned that the believer never becomes Nigeria never becomes impure. So even if she's menstruating, her body is clean her spirit, her soul, her knifes insha. Allah is clean. When it serves as nutrition for the baby that will grow in the uterus. If the egg is fertilized, then how can you consider it to be something that is evil? It's not something evil. Yes, it is not just it is impure, but it doesn't mean that it is
evil. Babb only been new fossa he either new fistula along the command, meaning the instructions for who a new officer Mufasa florala snafus I mean the woman who's having affairs, either an officer when they are menstruating meaning what are the rules what are the instructions for women who are menstruating. Earlier we learned that this is something that is natural, something that a woman should not feel guilty about. So what are the rules then, these rules we will learn about? Now notice over here that the word manifest has been used for halal inshallah, we will learn about the difference, but we see that the rulings of halal NFS are very similar. And this is the reason why
the word NFS is also used for hate. The word NFS is also used for hate had the sinner it you know Abdullah Allah had done a sofian on a semir to have the recommended mill Qasim Kala Samir to customer Yoku Samir to our I[???]a Taku she said, so I shall deliver on her. She said that her Arjuna we went out learn a lot in the Hajj, we did not see except Hajj, meaning the only reason why we left was to perform Hajj that was our main our only intention our sole intention for the journey further makkonen then when we were be set if at setif setup is a place that is close to Makkah, so they were very close to Makkah. Imagine you're so close to Makkah, you're about to start the rituals. How do I
began my hope for the holiday earlier. So he came upon me Rasulullah sallallahu earlier seven meeting he came to me what another key and I was crying. Carla, he said, Maliki What happened to you? And fisty did you begin your period? Close to narrow? I said yes. He said in the Heather. Indeed this is a matter whether the hula hoop that Allah has decreed. I love it.
Adam onto Daughters of Adam meaning you don't have to feel guilty about it it's not your fault. This is something very natural fuck Lee then perform fulfill extra over here means to complete to perfect so complete maniac will hedge what the pilgrims complete meaning perform all the rituals of Hajj even in your head go to Mina go to Mr. Alpha go to alpha everything Rayleigh without a letter poofy will bait that do not do the left of the house, meaning do all the rituals of Hajj except for the power of the garbage just don't do that. Well, and he said what and bahareh he slaughtered bajas from over here, which is to slaughter so meaning the Prophet sallallahu Sallam sacrificed, okay
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he said he II on behalf of his wives bill Baker with a cow meaning at Hajj, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam slaughtered a cow on behalf of his wives because when you go to Hajj, you also have to offer sacrifice.
So in this Hades, there are a number of things that we learned. First of all, we see the excellence of eyeshadow on hair great bitey her desire for goodness, her love of good deeds, that on realizing she wouldn't be able to perform hajj, the way others are performing, because she feared that she wouldn't be able to do anything at all. she wept. Now, again, there's something natural, there's something that's beyond your control, you're not held responsible, you're not sinful. But still she wept. Why? Because why? Because she wanted to do Hajj, she wanted to do it, just like others were doing. She didn't want to be deprived of what others we're going to accomplish. Because the fact of
the matter is that if a person does not do something good, then since he has not done it, he has missed out on a great opportunity, even if there's a genuine reason behind it. Even if the person is excused, still, he has accumulated less good deeds.
He has accumulated less good deeds, which others have gained. And remember the hedison, which we learned that once a man passed away, and the following year, another man passed away.
And a companion of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he saw both of them in his dream. And he saw that the latter one, the one who died later, he entered paradise before the other before the first one.
So when he has the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he said that, of course, the one who died later, performed Salah for an entire year, that the one who died before did not perform. So he has an extra years worth of Salah, which the one who died before did not accumulate. So he entered paradise before. So even if a person is excused, even if there is a genuine reason for being left out, being deprived of something good, this is a loss, which is why when you know some genuine reason the person is not able to do something good, then he should not excuse himself completely. He should not excuse himself completely. That Okay, I'm not supposed to do it. So, you know, enjoy myself, don't
do anything, don't bother to do anything. No. He or she should strive harder in other ways to do something else to make up for the opportunity that they're missing out on. Which is why we see that the companions who embraced Islam later, just because they could not participate in whether in our head, they could not support the prophets of Allah Islam in the early years. What happened? Did they say, okay, we missed out on it. We weren't Muslim. So we're not elders, but no, they made up for it through other ways, which is why every battle that came, they fought every battle that came they fought
to the point that some of them when they were dying, not a part of their body was free of wounds. They were wounded everywhere.
You know, it can live in Abuja, Abu sufian. Hollywood, how did they fight in the later years against the apostates against the false prophets?
I mean, how how much they did, they could have said we don't have to. So what if we missed out on the reward or you know,
so it's a very fine less than a very important lesson that we learned and especially as women, you know, we go through several stages in life where our circumstances don't allow us to do what others are doing.
So just because we are not able to do one thing, it doesn't mean that we don't do anything. No, you have to do something.
You have to do something because remember, you are going to miss out on reward.
staying at home, you know, watching kids all day cooking and cleaning throughout the
Week is not the same as doing all those things along with doing extra good deeds. It's not the same. You may say that I have little children. I have work to do at home. Yes, understandable. But remember, it's not the same. You still have to do something. I'm not saying study full time, work full time, no, but something that your situation can allow you to do. Don't excuse yourself completely. And when you will have that yearning to good. Allah will give you though, if you can look at the way I shall deliver on her wept. She's crying. She's so sad. But it's unfortunate that women, if they ever go to Makkah, and they begin their menstruation, then instead of sitting and
reading something beneficial or doing Vicar, what are they doing, shopping,
shopping, or eating out, or sleeping away,
there are many other things that we can do. So we should not deprive ourselves off reward
or making up for the disease. I mean, if you cannot go with the janazah, then at least you can make the art for the disease, right? You can pray for that organism. So do what you can do, don't excuse yourself completely. You know, the knifes is very, you know, bad meaning if you give it some freedom, it will take more freedom.
If you're easy with yourself, then you'll be more easy with yourself. You're not only desires, convenience and ease, you have to be strict with yourself. If you allow yourself to fall you will fall even more. So you have to be strict with yourself. And as women that is something very very important to remember. Secondly, we see in this Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he told I shall learn how to do everything that the rest of the church do,
meaning all of the rituals of Hajj will be performed in hive except for the wife. And some scholars said that sincerity is to be performed after the wife, sorry will also not be done it will be done only after the wife. So when a woman becomes clean, then she will go to the wife and then she will do sorry, whether it is you know in hatch obviously or Maura you cannot do but for herdsmen. And now the question is why can a woman not perform the wife?
What's the reason?
Okay, it's to be done in the house of Allah. But, you know, the house of allies is huge and woman who has to perform all the rituals of Hajj you know, she's with the caravan with the people, then she might enter the masjid even. And we know that scholars have allowed it. Many scholars and there are many evidences to prove that what's the main reason the actual reason why a woman is not allowed to live,
that the wife is an act of worship for which you need will do.
The Prophet sallallahu Sallam when he reached out, he did we do and then he went to do the work before performing the life of the garba he did we do before. And you can say that the wife is similar to Salah in the sense that you need will do for the wife just like you need for Salah. And for men, they have to cover both their shoulders for the left, just as they have to for Salah
you know that. Like for example, when men are wearing the home, one of the shoulders is exposed. Correct. But interweb they have to cover both the shoulders and insula, they have to cover both the shoulders for sorry, they don't have to forever they don't have to for most delaford they don't have to. But for the left they have to and a woman in her head she cannot have will do you understand, this is the reason why she cannot perform that the left. But remember that if a woman has no option to stay in Makkah, and this is not just in today's time, but also before people had their returns scheduled through ships or the caravan, the only caravan that has come all the way from where you
have come, you missed that caravan. That means you'll be going alone traveling alone through the desert, which is kind of unsafe and dangerous. So we see that vac at the time of shaker Some even taymiyah. he in fact what and he discussed several points which proved that a woman may even do tawaf in her head if her circumstances do not allow her to stay in Makkah.
Because if she goes without performing tawaf, then her hedges invalid,
invalid completely, and had to something that's not easily affordable. Not just today, but even back then, if one has no option, she cannot stay at all. And it doesn't seem possible that she will return. Like financially she doesn't think it's going to be possible. Or realistically given her situation in her life. She may be old, it may not seem possible, then in that situation, we see that scholars did make an exception
and the discussion I'm not going to go into over here but understanding you for your knowledge, okay, that if you hear something like this, and it's mentioned somewhere, then you'd be open to it.
Thirdly, we seen this Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam slaughtered a cow on behalf of
His wife so we see that slaughtering a cow is also permissible. Okay, it is also Muslim you can say, because sometimes we think that only has to be a sheep only has to be a camel No, it can also do a cow and a cow. How many shares does it have? Seven.
So, why did Mr. mcquarry mentioned this Heidi's to prove that a woman in menstruation will do everything that she normally does.
Because what's the bad
and been no fossa either No. pfitzner. So what the Hadees proving that a woman will do everything that she normally does, except for those things that have been prohibited. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, do all the rituals of Hutch except for lower. So a woman who has menstruating will do everything that she normally does, except for those things which are forbidden. And this means that with regards to the matters of you can say rabada even she will do everything that she does, but except for those that are prohibited. Likewise, when it comes to day to day matters, she will do everything that she does her routine things except for those that are prohibited. When it comes to
intimacy, she can do everything except for that which is prohibited when it comes to visiting places touching things you can do everything except for that which is prohibited.
So this is the general rule about halal, everything permissible except for that which is prohibited
back less than half. Leila says oh gee ha, what are g Li lessly washing a lot of the menstruating woman washing what rocks are the head of zodia her husband What are really and combing his hair, meaning a menstruating woman may wash the hair, the head of her husband, and she may even comb it. There is absolutely no harm in this. So basically we see that this is a clarification of fortezza luminesce effin mahube that stay away from the women during menstruation. To what extent does it mean that a man or woman cannot even touch one another doesn't mean that a woman cannot do the routine daily things that she does for her husband? She can this is permissible, everything is
permissible except for that which is prohibited. What's the evidence?
Had this an hour of delay of no use of potterhead death in Amharic on hishammuddin Europa on a big on a shuttle pilot she said go to I used to do I would call them sir Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the head of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam what and
while I would be menstruating, so even though she was menstruating, she would she would comb his hair, she would touch his head. Why? Because her body is not impure. In the LogMeIn lair, Ian just
had the Santa Ibrahim Abu Musab call it a sham abusive, unnatural agent of Kabbalah whom Allah He said Bharani Sham he said that he Sham informed me on what I know so he let that he was asked at the do Mooney can do Mooney she served me who allowed her demonstrating woman. So someone asked who
or what on earth whether I know who Selena Okay, so otherwise narrating to a sham that he was asked that Allah was asked once that meaning someone asked him that can a menstruating woman serve me? Oh, no money, or draw close to me? Can she be near me? Can she be in the same space? Can she serve me? And in serving me that means she will touch me. She will bring me food. She will touch my clothes. She will line my clothes. She will wash my clothes. Can she do that? Outside Romanian Morocco? Or can a woman draw close to me what he had learned while she is in the state of Geneva? So he asked about two things. menstruating woman and woman in the state of Geneva? Can she serve me? Can she
draw close to me for color over to Sir over replied,
Malika. All of this is i layyah on me Hi Yin. Very simple, meaning this is not something that bothers me. This is something that's very simple. For me. What does it mean very light. This is not something this is not a big deal. All of this is not a big deal at all. Well, Malika and all of that meaning a menstruating woman as well as a woman in the state of Geneva does do Mooney may serve me well as our hidden fee Delica. And there is not on anyone concerning this matter, any harming there's no restriction on any person in this matter. Meaning whether the man is fasting, or he is in Islam, or he is at home. It's in the middle of the night during the day. It doesn't matter a
menstruating woman or the woman the state of Geneva. ganda, Jim obviously has to be my home of botany and he mentioned as evidence that she informed me who
that under her cabinet that she used to do, she would come darney she meant Luxor Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the head of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and she would come, were here while she was menstruating. What a Salalah Hassan Allahu alayhi wa sallam hanaa even at that time, Mugello, Milan fille, Masjid Medina with one stain in the masjid, meaning he would be in Arabic If he would be in erotica. And I shall deliver on how would comb his hair. How you don't need a hair he would lower for her. So who his head what here while she would be for her dirty hair in her apartment, because you know that the apartments were directly connected with the masjid. You
can say the doors open to the masjid.
So the Prophet said a lot of them would be doing here at the caf in the masjid. And because in earthcraft people should not go to their homes. And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam wanted his hair combed, his wife would be at home. So what would he do? He would just lie down, lower his head into the house into the apartment, and I shed a little on how would comb his hair make his ear, you'd need to have several Where have you heard it here, photo jello, and then she would calm it while you're while she would be menstruating. So we see that it doesn't matter what state the man is in.
He could be in erotica. He could be fasting, he could be at Hajj, a menstruating woman can touch him, can serve him can comb his hair.
The Hadees shows other lessons too, we see that
a husband and wife can have physical contact while a woman is menstruating. So for those who does not mean stay away completely, because we see that the hood at the time of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, they would completely stay away from the menstruating women there was complete separation.
But we see that this was something not practiced by the prophet Coronavirus Allah, rather physical contact with something permissible, very natural needed. And it may happen even when the woman is menstruating.
Secondly, we see the close relationship that existed between the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and his wife, Mary showed that she is combing his hair.
She washed his hair, she combed his hair. And we have learned early that she would also put perfume on him on his head on his body, that she would wash his clothes even. So we see that this is something that brings the spouses closer.
And we also see that a wife consider her husband and what is convention what is culturally accepted. I mean, this is something that may not be practiced today. But if it is something, you know, normal in other cultures, there's absolutely no harm in this.
One more thing we learn over here is the importance of combing the hair,
that it is necessary that a person regularly washes their hair, combed their hair, you know, puts fragrance as well, that's something that the profits of a lot of them did. And also parting the hair at the profit side of all this and I'm also part of the hair from the middle of the head. And when a person has thick hair, then he should pay more attention. And if a person is not able to do it himself, then he should seek help he or she should seek help. So if you're unable to keep your hair in a good condition yourself on regular basis, then definitely you should go for, you know, a wash and cotton, whatever, you should do that. And this is only in the province of allisonville he had
his wife, make his hair for him. So you can also have someone else make your hair for you if you're not able to do it yourself because you know it's good for the hair. You have to take care of the body. And then we see that it has an effect on you on how you perceive yourself. It can boost your confidence if it can make you feel good about yourself. So it is necessary to take care of your hair too.
Because you know unfortunately this feeling exists within Muslims or during menstruation stay away completely. You know, because it's either sexual intercourse or nothing. And nothing means not even touching not even, you know, being a little romantic, nothing at all. But we see that the son of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam proves otherwise that there has to be such a relationship so that husband and wife Stay close together. There is closeness between the two they don't grow apart from one another.
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a recitation, meaning obviously recitation of the Quran, by who by a module by a man where fee hedgetrimmer it in the lab of his wife when he has it while she is menstruating. Meaning a woman is menstruating, and her husband has his head in her lap. And while they're talking, then he ends up reciting some Quran. Is that permissible?
Yes, this is permissible.
Now we see that someone who is engaged in the recitation of the Quran, meaning they're actually reciting. They should not touch something that is impure at the same time.
Why? Because their mouth is engaged in the act of worship, so they should not be touching something that is unclean. So if it is permissible for a man to have his head in the lap of a woman who was menstruating while reciting the Quran, that means that the body of the menstruating woman is clean.
What kind of above were alien and above while he is a temporary, the confinement of women was rooted in our famous library. He used to use Hulu, he would send hajima who his servant, where he hired and the word hadham applies to male and female. So he would send her while she would be menstruating either Avira, Xen do Abdulaziz who was also a diary for that D, then she would come back to him with must have with the must have Phantom SQL, and she will be holding it very left but he by its strap
is the strap with which it was bound, meaning the sheets the pages were held together.
So he would send her to a friend of his and she would return with the most have holding advice trap. Because at that time, there was no book. Okay, you could imagine sheets of parchment that were big, and that were bound together, you know, the kind of must haves that we enjoy? It's really a luxury. And imagine he had to send the servants somewhere else to bring almost half
we didn't have a copy himself.
How many do we have?
And how much do we read, we have more than we can take care of.
But how much do we read.
So anyway, we see over here that the servant girl would be menstruating and she would bring the most half holding it by its strap. So this proves that it is permissible for a woman who is menstruating to carry the Quran.
Now, some scholars they are allowed only carrying the Quran.
So, that means like if you have to put it from one place to the other, you have to take it from one place to the other
and not touching.
So they differentiated between Hamill and must
hammerless to carry from one place to the other must is that you are holding it you are opening it you are reading it. You are studying it. You're reflecting on it by holding it for some differentiated between Hamelin must Some said homilist permissible must is not others that there is no difference if you can carry it, you can touch it, because you when you are carrying it, you are touching it. Some scholars allowed only the touching of the cover, or the strap and others extended the permission to the touching of the text even based on the same principle that the body is not unclean. So when the body is not unclean, if you can touch the strap, you can touch the rest.
Because if the body was unclean, then nothing of it should be permissible.
Had the finalburn Raman and fog loop New Canaan semi arzoo Hayden and monsoon evening Sophie yetta and Omar who had the settle and now he had the letter and an obeah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam can attack you that the prophet SAW a lot is that um, he would recline for Hijri in my lap one and a half. And I would remonstrating at that time, who's narrating this? All right, shut up the door. And so Michael Cohen, and then he would recite the Quran. So when a person is reciting the Quran, he can touch a menstruating woman. Even when a person is spraying sada his clothes can actually touch a menstruating woman, there are these settlers that I shall the lower end her she narrates that the
Prophet said a lot. So that would be praying in the night, and she would be lying down. And you know, the hurdle was small. So she would be lying down. And when he would go to suit or something, then his clothes would actually, that's her. So there's absolutely no harm in touching a menstruating woman. And there's also another lesson that we learned here, which is the profits that a lot of women would recycle on his head would be in his wife's lap. Because
the one who remembers a lone member is a law in every state, he doesn't forget about anywhere. So just because we are, you know, with the family, or, you know, with someone or we're having some fun, doesn't mean that we cannot remember a lot the weekend. And in fact, it's good. And it just shows how relaxed they were. And we see that he was lying down, he would be lying down. Obviously, if you have to put your head in someone's lap, you are in a reclining position. And even in that position, he is reciting the Quran. And you know, that feeling of guilt and that I'm sinful and I'm dirty, and I am wrong. And I'm a woman, you know, negative feelings that come into the heart. So we see that
the when this permission is there, you know, a man may touch his menstruating wife, he may put his head in her lap. It just shows that it's very normal.
The Dean is very easy. It's very simple, it's practical, that negative thoughts a time when a woman is already going through emotional imbalance is something that's very, you know, bad for her. So we see that when she can maintain physical contact with her husband, you know, when she can be close to her husband do her normal things, then chicken stay positive.
That when you're down emotionally then listening to the whole on, you know, sitting next to someone who's reciting the Quran being so close. Imagine what a positive impact it would have on a person. Even I've seen there's a place in Pakistan, Chitral, it's towards the north and close to that as an area, Kalash where people, they actually have a different religion even. And they have separate houses that are made for women who are menstruating their children actually outside, the doors are closed. Their children are outside I saw with my own eyes, they're outside the house, little babies. Some of them are sitting on the floor, they're crying, they're just looking through the, you know,
through the cracks, or through the space between the door and the wall, and they're just outside, they're not allowed in, and the women are just inside. But little children, they were outside. I didn't see any infants. But I did see like two three year old kids, five year old kids in life is a sin.
One more thing we see in this hadith says that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was romantic with his wife. I mean, the word you might not like it, but it is a true description of how he was with his wives, that putting your head in the lap of the wife is something that a very loving husband can do. A husband who expresses his love, his admiration of the wife, the level of comfort that he has with his wife. And there's nothing wrong in this. In fact, there's something that's very healthy for a good relationship. And it's something that is encouraged. It grows the love and attraction that exists between the husband and the wife. So this is something that the husband should do as well as
the wife should do.
But Manson manifesta has been the one who somehow he named meaning he called NFS, the NFS halen high meaning he used the word manifests for menstruation, and vice versa, who use the word habe for NFS, meaning both these terms are interchangeable.
And we see that the prophets are a lot of time he asked, I shall deliver on her a new fisty. For did you begin your help? He used the word NFS.
And what's the reason behind this? The reason is that haled and NFS are similar in the sense that the rulings are almost identical. With the exception of only five rulings that differ, what are they?
Would you like to know? First of all, I just thought, you know, if you don't want to know the details, and I can skip it. First of all, the difference is that if nefesh returns within 40 days, meaning a woman gives birth, and then she is bleeding before 40 days and her bleeding stops. So let's say after 20 days, her bleeding stops, which happens, her bleeding stops. She's clean for five days, and then her bleeding starts again.
Now this bleeding, it could be fast, it could be as to Hello.
Okay, it is mush cook. And how will a woman decide what it is based on the characteristics and the nature, it could be in a fast it could be as to how the meaning just because it returns within the 40 day period does not mean that it isn't fast.
Whereas hive on the other hand, if it returns within the period, then it is considered as halal. So for example, a woman regularly menstruating for eight days.
One month she started her period she bled for four days. And then she was clean, no sign of any blood whatsoever.
Then what is she supposed to take a bath, she took a bath. And after one day, she starts bleeding again.
It's within the eight days, those eight days are not over.
So she starts bleeding again when she will start bleeding again that will be considered as hailed and not as helpful.
As an example, that she regularly has a period for eight days. she bled for four days once became clean completely took a bath started praying after one day she started bleeding again. Now on the sixth day from when her beard started. She's bleeding again, that bleeding will be considered as Hey, not is to help her. Okay, but nefarious. What's the difference? That if it comes back within the 14 days, then it's not necessary that it's fast it could also be used to help you have to check the characteristics of the blood.
Secondly, another differences in the case of ILA what is ILA when a man swears an oath that he will stay away from his wife,
Linda Dena Luna minister em, Tara boo or Bertha. Shall
What's the waiting period? For months, okay?
Now, if a woman menstruating in those four months, typically How many times will she menstruate four times? Now those days of her menstruation are counted within the waiting period.
But if she has any fast, let's say after one month of the waiting period, she delivers her baby.
And now she's going to have to fast for let's say, 40 days, those 40 days are not counted as part of the four month waiting period. Okay, they will be excluded.
Meaning she will have any fast, let's say 36 days,
and then the waiting period will resume
after those four months are over. So basically, we see that and then from that point onwards, she has to complete the 40 days. Okay, from 100 fast ends, she has to resume counting the four months. So her waiting period from the day that her husband's sworn oath, could be four months and 40 days, four months and 36 days, four months and 24 days, depending on how long the break was. Okay, so the fast days are like a break in the middle.
But have days are a part of the waiting period manifests is like a break in the middle second gap in the middle.
But hey, this part of the waiting period, this is the case of what in the case of ILA. So there is a difference between how hate will be treated and how fast will be treated. The third case, isn't it though, there is a difference in how an offense is treated without divorce, how fast is treated and how high the treated.
We see that if a woman begins her health in her into her it will continue.
Right? Because how much is it so that's a clue.
But if she starts really fast, if she gives birth that her the has finished, even if she starts really fast after one day of the husband pronouncing divorce, you understand there's a difference between how high the street did and the fastest treated in the reader after divorce.
If she starts hailed, it's part of the reader. If she starts NFS, read the finished.
The fourth case is that when a woman is having her NFS it is permissible to give divorce to her.
During the past, it is allowed for the husband to give her divorce. But during haled it is not permissible for him to give divorce. So in the past, a woman can receive divorce and help she should not be given divorce, this is the difference.
A fifth difference which is according to some scholars, not majority, but some scholars is that a high yield does not do tawaf
but in Africa may do tawaf because the prophets are a lot of them forbade her from doing the work I should have
when she was having her period, but he did not forbid, the woman who was having a fast to from during the life he did not forbid her. So according to some scholars, a woman who is in the state of Nevada may do the life of the house, but other scholars disagree. So we see that four differences are definitely there, the fifth is disputed.
But otherwise, all the rulings, okay, are identical.
Meaning you will not pray you will not fast you will make up the fasts, but you will not make up the prayers. Likewise, a woman cannot have sexual intercourse in her head in her manifests. All the rulings are the same, how the blood is to be treated in the sense that it is not just the blood of manifests and the blood of both are not just
so the rest of the rulings are identical. There's only a few exceptions. And this is the reason why the word NFS is used for hailed NFS and the word halos used for both Highlander. These terms are interchangeable.
Right? They are interchangeable.
Had the tenon McKee you know Ibrahim Allah had destination and you have a b d and Abby selama and Xena dnata ami Salama had the title and the masala Mata had the SATA palate baina and Mr. Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam promoted Ratan who's narrating this home Salah, the wife of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam she said that by now while I was with the Prophet salallahu Salam Mataji earthen line down Phil Samia sletten in infamy. So what is camisa? It is a square shaped blanket you can see black in color, and it's made of wool. So a blanket, they were in a blanket, and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said there is our little homies
there is our little homies, meaning destroyed is the slave of the homies. Meaning the one who is greedy for
quilts and do lists and blankets and linens that are the slave of meaning the only desire is to get as many linens and do the covers and blankets as possible.
And worrying about, you know, this one has faded and this one has been destroyed.
And this one needs to be ironed. And this one, you know, the kid, the child threw food on it.
It's been a year I need to change and shopping for hours and hours. Anyway, something that we women need to reflect on. So this is what the word homies means. So they were in a commune, so it had to when I began menstruation, so she was lying down with profits or losses, and I'm under the covers, and she she realized that she started her period. fencer that too, so I slipped meaning I went quietly without disturbing the Prophet sallallahu Sallam without making a big deal for a hospital and then I took the other haloti the clothes for my help, meaning the pad, Allah He said, unviersity did you start your period too narrow? I said yes for the army. So he called me for pajara tomorrow,
then I lie down with him again for Camila in the Camila the word Camila has been used. Okay, first camisa and then Camila. Camila is also a blanket, which is our rough surface. Okay, meaning it's not that soft and plush. It's It's rough, you know, you can feel the fibers. So it's similar. This is why the word is interchangeable and dislike that halen effects are similar. This is why the word is interchangeable. The profit or loss in a master annuity. Did you start NFS but whereas in reality, it started hailed so both words are used interchangeably. There's no harm in that.
Bad mubasher Attila,
fondling a menstruating woman, what is no Bashar Bashar is muscle Bashar Bashar what is Bashar the human skin? So muscle Bashar Bashar the touching of the human skin with the other person's skin. So it is basically to have physical contact to lovingly caress or stroke one another. And this includes kissing and touching and so on and so forth. So is this permissible with a woman who has menstruating? Definitely it is
had doesn't have kabisa to Carla had done. So Fiona and Massoud and Ibrahim and it is whether or not you shadow Carla, she said go to LTC Lu. I used to take a bath and I want to be useful Allahu alayhi wa sallam, I am the Prophet sallallahu Sallam in in in my head from the same vessel kelana Juno both of us would be in the state of Geneva, what kind of Moroni and he would order me for at the zoo, and I would wrap my waist wrapper, it's from the word is out what is the lower garment, the one that is worn around the waist? So she said he would tell me to wear it and I would put that on for you Basha Rooney, and he would follow me meaning we would have physical contact well, Anna, and I would be
menstruating what kind of creature and he would take out his head eladia to me, well who are more Ducky phone while he would be in erotica for oxy Lu, and then I would wash it will unhide it while I would be menstruating meaning in the state of menstruation, he would have physical contact with me and I would even wash his head and comb his hair. So this is something that is permissible to do with a menstruating woman
and other Hadees had this nice Marylou Haleakala Horner it up moosehead Barnabas health who was Shivani and of the mandible as well and a be here on our asiata pilot she said Canada Dinah, one of us would either Canada when she would be done menstruating for other Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and you betcha her and the Prophet sallallahu wasallam would intend to have a physical contact with her meaning fondle her, then Amala ha he would order her and that the zero that she would put on her waist rapper fee fall at hayleigh t hat in the midst of her menstruation.
False means rush in haste. were to come in Foley him Heather, that the enemy comes to you in their haste, you know in the rush immediately coming to attack you you know in war we have read this in the Quran. So fully haloti her means in the middle of the menstruation, meaning when the blood flow is is untied is on its peak at the beginning. For some women it's very limited towards the end again it fades, but in the middle, it is at its peak. So she would be in the midst of a menstruation and somebody bashing the bleeding would be quite a lot but still he would follow her so many Basha on it she said what are you calm and which of you yummly coo. He possesses meaning he has power over elbow
his desire come out can abuse Allah when he was alone as a prophet of Allah Sanam would young liquid era who he would have control over his desire? Deborah Holodomor Duryodhan, Arnie Shiva, me
She said that none of you can control their desire the way the prophets of the Lord is.
There a number of things that we learn over here. First of all, we see that fondling a menstruating woman is perfectly fine regardless of what stage of period it is. Meaning it could be the beginning, it could be the middle, it could be the end, any stage, it doesn't matter. The only condition is that the area of menstruation is beyond excess meaning it is covered, because this is what the prophet sallallahu Sallam told his wives that they should wear the waist Trapper in order to cover that area. Why What's the reason there are a number of benefits First of all, the blood does not spread. Secondly, the blood is not seen by the husband because if it is seen that it will lead to
Cora like dislike, he will be repulsed, this is not something that's natural. And while he is, you know, engaged in fondling her it's not something you know, that he would want to see. And the status is a lesson that a person should avoid seeing and learning about the faults of others. You know, keep your eyes away from any place where you think you might end up seeing someone's odor, or someone's fault or someone's deficiency. You know, Allah says in the Quran, lotta justice. So we should avoid looking at such places such things by which other people's faults may be exposed to us. So don't think too much Keep your eye away during your eye away. And the third benefit of covering
is that having sexual intercourse is prevented. And we see that if the man is strong and desire and strength and is weak in controlling his desire, then he should avoid such contact.
Okay, which is why I showed the lower end how she said that which of you is as strong as him in controlling their desire. Meaning when the profits all of a sudden followed his wives, it didn't mean that it led to sexual intercourse he was able to control himself. But if a person feels that he's not able to control then he should avoid it.
Had the center button or menu or had the center of the warehouse or had the finish shibani or had the center of delay admission that are submitted to maimunah can also realize that a lot already you send them either or other and you should attend? My Muna will deliver I know she narrated that when the Prophet told a lot isn't intended to fondle. In return a woman minister he from his wives Amaro he would order her for dessert and she would wear her waist wrapper while you're hired while she remonstrating while I was a piano on a bunny. So, again, this hadith proves the same thing that this is something permissible and it is something that should not be considered wrong meaning husband and
wife may engage in this because like it was discussed earlier that during menstruation or during the past husband and wife grew apart from one another and this leads to problems in the relationship even because what keeps both them together close to one another understanding of each other is the physical relationship that they have. So just because sexual intercourse is not permissible, it does not mean that both should completely avoid one another. This is something that is not natural, it is not healthy for relationship. on the same topic, there is a fatwa, Sheikh Saleh al Majid, he responded to the question, that is masturbation how long between men and wife meaning if husband and
wife do it for one another? He replied, It is not how long rather it is permissible because it is a part of the enjoyment which Allah has allowed. Allah says in the Quran, those who guard their chastity except from their wives or from what their right hands possess, for them, they are free from blame. So even if it leads up to this meaning a husband and wife they are engaged in, in fondling one another to the extent that one releases money, meaning ejaculate, then Is that wrong? It is not wrong. It is something that is permissible. Okay, meaning, such foreplay can even lead to ejaculation, meaning a person can even become gentle. And there's nothing sinful about this as long
as far as it is that a filmer healed as long as the vagina is avoided, like we discussed earlier.
Sorry for being so explicit. I know this is very uncomfortable material, but this is the dean and there's something that's important for us to know.
So practical long will be handy condition to La ilaha illa Anta Mr Khurana to be like, Assalamu alaikum