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08 – The position of woman in the house

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Faaik Gamieldien

Channel: Faaik Gamieldien

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15 June 2012 – The position of woman in the house

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hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah ohana steinhorn, a Sufi Rue and we will be here on a taco la when we learn him in shuru and fusina, amin cftr Marina Maja de la la ilaha illa Allah, Allah when a Chateau La la la la la la la sharika Cara

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Mohammed Abu

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Salah Watanabe, he was Salam O Allah he was he was happy. Woman da da what he learned about beloved brothers and sisters in Islam. Assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah wa Taala Baraka wabarakatu

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We are always grateful to allow Colorado dollar

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for giving us the hedaya to be in his house on theta yo menthol at V shops on the best day to the sun ever rises, which is a day of drama.

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And of course, we know in Islam we have three aids Angel,

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a lotta in a loose way. Yo Juma. They have Juma SL, yo, our current weekly aid

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and has no bus has no battery. The great scholar of Basra was asked one day sir, what is read for you? What does it mean for you? And he said, Could Leo mean

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La Silla huffy for Hawaii. He said, every day that I do not, they are not disobedient to all lies my eat. I celebrate the read every day. When on that day, I have not been disobedient to our laws,

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which means that the Muslims whole life can be read, which means that the Muslims every day can be read to every day we should look at the day that Allah gives us as I said in the last lecture, we have a day given to us every single day today we've been given to us and

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today is also a specious because the day the world will not come to an end on a Friday. So on Friday mornings you can get up nicely mature and think Basha today is going to be a day inshallah the world's not gonna end fast today, but be that as it may.

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inshallah, today we are going to speak about

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the beauty of the day I just wanted to remind myself and yourself about the great blessing which allows Chantal as bestowed upon us

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today I want to speak about

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it's about the ladies today to speak about the ladies, Charla

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Islam conquered Egypt

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20 years after the Hydra, which means

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the hegira took place

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after the hegira took place in Ibiza Salam was in Medina for how long

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for 10 years. So if this if Egypt was conquered

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20 years after the hegira in how how long after the death of an Ibiza Salaam was there

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10 years

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which was very close to the time with an IV sola sola

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and the first

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Amira, Nino halifa, which was appointed by honorable hakab at the time, because Egypt was conquered.

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In the time of honorable hottub was a man by the name of amor de los amor, in the loss of the electron.

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There is a very interesting story about anonymity loss, which I thought I will share with you, which is not part of the lecture, but I thought, I'll share it with you.

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And I'm a liberal arts of course, as many of the Sahaba were, they were not Muslim. They became Muslim at the time of the coming of Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam. So many of them were converts, for as we say today reverts to Islam. They accepted Islam at the hand of the Navy sal Allahu Allah. So suddenly I'm living laughs Can you imagine a man from a convert status becomes the amine of a whole country Subhan Allah. So in Islam, then there is no discrimination between those who are born Muslim and those who became Muslim, no discrimination in Islam at all. In fact, the people who became Muslim make greater contributions to Islam than those who were born Muslim.

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So I believe last interesting little Chris about him. Him and a man by the name of today for me, Liam and Rob do

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both have an episode. It has

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On the night, on the last night of the battle which did not take place, namely the Battle of the handle the Battle of the trench, as you know the Battle of the trench, Abu sufian came with 10,000 men, some sick 12,000 men surrounded the city of Medina. That is awesome. Made a trench. And for many, many days, there was a standoff between American law between Abu soufiane and the Nabi Salalah. Salam holed up in the smallness Javed that we know as much as nabawi. Inside Medina

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was when other cities in the middle of winter hundreds of you know Medina knows that Medina gets extremely cold. Second gets so cold in the water sometimes freezes in the, in the in the pipes in Medina so cold it gets. So it was in the middle of winter and extremely cold, freezing cold. And they were these are harbor sitting in the mudgett not only were they called they also had no food that they ran out of food. They were concerned that you know, this keeps on much longer.

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They were going to lose Medina because the Sahaba were losing the strength they were losing the the commitment and so forth and so on. But Alphonse was texting them. So this was the night and you know, sometimes a batteries one by the resilience not so much by the strength, but by the resilience of the soldiers in the battle. They don't give up, they will fight to the last man. So eventually in the in the magic only 300 men remain on that particular night or hamanasi cone because the money woreda the Jews were at the back of the Nagisa salah and the enemy the Quran was in front of the enemies of Allah and the courageous waiting for the the Jews of the new warriors. They were waiting

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for the

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courage to attack from the front and they would kill the wives and the children of the Sahaba. Allah him Salatu was a

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very precarious situation.

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dangerous situation.

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Today, Emily Amman is a very special man.

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They are extremely special man.

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He was the man he was called saw his serum. And

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he was called the keeper of the secrets of the NaVi Salas. In

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other words, he was the confidant to be the confidence of a prophet is no mean achievement.

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If somebody would, um, sometimes you don't even trust your wife. I mean, can you validate? Because if I tell her

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I mean, you Yeah, maybe maintain myself included? If I say this word will explode. So you know, something that even even to your children, you don't? Sometimes you have to keep it to yourself, because nobody you can think you know that you can check

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every proper data confidant, and he was from a family man, he was the keeper of the secret. He knew the names of all the monarchs.

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And he never told anybody because I didn't want anybody to know because it would create war internally amongst the hub.

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So they read describes this particular night, he says, Can I be saucer I'm stood up in the mud, it was so cold. He says that, you know, I'm sure you've come across a situation which was so cold that the only way you could keep warm was not to move. You're just in a position where you just keep like this and you said, extremely stoked, you don't move. And whoever said they were sitting in the room, and everybody was didn't move because he said he had a blanket of his wife who didn't even reach to his knees.

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And then he stood up in the masjid and said, who will

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go over the trench into the camp of the enemy and bring back for me the news as to what the condition is of the enemy. Because if we know the condition is of the enemy, then maybe we could devise a strategy to overcome the enemy.

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So today, if I say nobody said a word, and we said anybody prepared to go over the trench,

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they never said alright, the person who causes the trench, he will get Janda

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no take us over.

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Imagine just to imagine the state of the Sahaba state of anger in the state of cold turkey there was no attractions for them no matter what you're going to offer them you're not going to move

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then the Navy susteren said, Whoa cross and enter the camp of the enemy and he will be with me in Jana.

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What do you think what happened?

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Notice once

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zero

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What does it tell us? It tells that the Sahaba Adams of Salaam they were men like us they were just ordinary people.

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They were just ordinary who believed in Allah

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who believed in Mahabharata Salah.

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So the Prophet is and and however says nobody was shy because it was so dark you couldn't see you and in front of you, so you couldn't see nobody. You've just heard the Prophet voice and no answer and nobody move nobody stood. Then the prophets are in walking amongst him. He said, tender Prophet came to him. The Prophet put his hand on his shoulder, and he knew that was it.

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Positive however,

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I want you to go over, because profit tested him you see every man was chosen for particular property, you go over there, find what's happening in the camp of apostrophe and come back and tell me what is going on.

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They've murmured a little bit and they say your direct instruction from him, he got up, he said, he went over the edge. Now they also say to you don't do anything. Just go and observe and bring back your observations goes out. And

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it's so dark, because remember that there was a wind blowing, very fierce wind blowing through the skull, the tense of the courageous all down, the pots were all thrown out by the wind and just Sandy and dusty and he was sitting. So close, it looks like them. It looks like them. It looks like the nobody saw anything suspicious.

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And then also fiance, Abu sufian, got into his cabin of the city and said

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he had an army of 10,000 to the army of 10,000 men. He said, I'm going home. I'm leaving.

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Anybody want to leave with me, they free to leave with me.

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But we cannot carry on like this, you know, we are hungry, we are tired and so forth and so on. But he says I don't want this message

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to reach the ears of Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam I don't want him to know until we completely gone. So ask the man next year what is his name to confirm that there's no enemies amongst you?

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That's why

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so first thing

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he got the guy on his right hand side by the end and he said, What's your name?

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What's your name? So the man said my name Emery last

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question. Okay, fine. So you're not from the bootcamp of Mohammed left and again you asked him as much as everybody around me cuz nobody asked him.

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So in back to the nervous system gave the message.

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But what I was gonna say to you is this same Amityville as we never used to meet her, they, they used to have a big joke about this. Remember the time of Sophia when you're on the other side of the things and I came to you? And you didn't know it? Just me. So they always had a little bit of a joke about this. So the same man of living in a house was now Muslim. Alhamdulillah. Now the governor of Egypt, it is now 20 years after the hegira and he Islam is ruling Egypt.

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On the first

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day, first month, he was the received a delegation of cops.

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Christian coptics Christian cops,

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not police. What cops no cops, cops with a tea.

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They came to him the governor said to him, sir,

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the Nile as a habit.

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If it is not satisfied,

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it does not flow.

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So I'm going to ask is What do you mean a habit if it's not satisfied, it will flow. They said on the 12th night of owner, which is Rhonda by the 20th of June every year.

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We get a virgin girl was a permission of appearance, we dress in soak and the best clothes available, and then we throw her into the now.

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And when we do that, then now starts flowing again.

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So now that you have a governor, we want to ask you whether we should continue this practice because this practice has been continuing for 1000s of years.

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There is forms of amaryllis was to this bizarre request.

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This cannot happen in Islam. He said Islam destroyed all superstitions,

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and all insurances that preceded it.

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He started going to establish a new order, new spiritual order, new religious order, a new civil order, new political order.

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So he stops and he said no, no, no, no. No more girls, Virgin girls to be thrown into the nano. This has not come to an end.

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So days went by, weeks went by.

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Three months went by the river refused to flow. The Nile just stopped in its tracks, no water.

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So people decided to emigrate, people started leaving Egypt, because no water crops or die. Water was in the running.

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So, even as he was now concerned, he was worried. I mean, you know, should we now re Institute this old practice of what do we do? So he wrote a letter to armor

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in Medina.

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So, I'm

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amarilla You did the right thing, that what you did was absolutely right. Islam came to destroy whatever was before it in terms of pagan customs and traditions.

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And I'm sending you a notices Omar says I'm sending you this note, drop it into the now.

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The note was a letter with a top row to them. What is the date? What is the latest say it said, min Abdullah Ahmed Musa top it said from the seventh of a law, honor.

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Rajaratnam da Illa. Neil,

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Neil, to the to the revenue. And it said, Oliver, if you are flowing out of your own accord, then there's nothing we can do.

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But if it is Allah,

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Almighty Who makes you flow, then we pray to Allah, that you flow according to the orders of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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And so it happened

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that the governor made him laugh.

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And the next morning then I rose 16 cubits which is 24 feet in one night.

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Now what is this got to do with the liberation of women in Islam?

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There was denial

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1000s of years they sacrificed the virgin girl so the girl could flow,

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Islam Game Stop

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this pay good customer tradition

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and put their trust in Allah subhanho wa Taala. Put the trust in allows

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and what happened? Allah removed the bed and Allah remove the difficulty from them.

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It reminds me in higher rated this last week when I made Juma

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of another Sahaba. Buddha.

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Very famous.

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Now there was a there is a there was a lake called the Muslim lake.

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Not called the Muslim Lake anymore. It's now called the Mediterranean Sea. It was once called the Muslim like, and why was it called the Muslim lake? because Islam

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and conquered the islands in the Mediterranean Sea. Can you imagine a time when we control the whole Mediterranean Can you believe southern part of Spain southern part of France, that Southern southern part of Italy, the whole of North Africa of the Middle East was in the control while we're the first Muslim ruler to build a whole navy

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and they conquered Sicily in Cyprus and

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Crete and all those islands work

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captured by the Muslim army. So we were great.

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When a great Navy

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before great Congress, and when they conquered after they conquered this hobby, a Buddha he sat and he cried.

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He cried, he cried bitterly.

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And they can't even listen to. What is this?

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We are supposed to be honest, we're supposed to be celebrating.

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We're the rulers of the Muslim League. The Mediterranean Sea we've conquered allows travelers given us all these lands.

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Why are you crying? And he said, I'm crying because I fear the day. He said Why? Well that will give us victory over these people.

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Gave us victory over these people because they disobeyed Allah.

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And I fear the day when we will disobey Allah Allah will remove our power.

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When we will disobey Allah, and Allah will remove whatever power we have.

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So the powerful in this world must be careful what they do another exercise the power.

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Because justice Allah gives you power and destroys your power, no matter who you are Muslim or non Muslim.

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If you start depending on yourself and pushing yourself and putting your trust in yourself and saying, I'm the man,

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I'm the organization, I am the body, I am this.

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And sometimes we allow these things to carry on.

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From this republic, we allow people to do this.

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We allow people to speak on our behalf, we allow people to do things on our behalf.

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They abuse us,

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to the back end. And we say we're

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the system.

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What do we do about this?

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And that comes down on all of us.

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Under the direction of

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stop this tyranny, this terrible pagan practice.

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When few examples, the Maldives, sinking under the under the ocean,

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was also once a Hindu kingdom.

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They also had a

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practice pagan practice of sacrifice.

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And travel came through even battuta tells us that a man by the name of America

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came there. And he saw that they also every month is to throw a girl into the sea. No, no, you still lock up in a temple next to the sea. And the next morning needs to come she was violated and she was killed.

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So he can use hartzell Quran he said, I was sitting at Temple.

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And the next morning when they came and he read the Quran, the owner the next morning when they came there, he was still reading the Quran, nothing happened to him. The whole island became Muslim in one month

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when we leave our pagan practices alone,

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I'm not saying we're practicing pagan practices

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from pagan pagan practices, no, I didn't say that. I say when we leave whatever practices we have, Alice follows the gap with Baraka.

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Christianity,

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Christianity, endorse also the basic idea of human sacrifice. Why? Because they say, Well, Jesus was sacrificed. They say, Well, you know, the first sacrifice was made was God Himself, He sacrificed his own son. So the whole history of the Roman Church, Roman Catholic Church is a waste of human sacrifice. They threw them to the lions. They burned them at the stake, did all kinds of things to human beings.

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And we find that these customs came from a history of the abuse of women.

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If we look at for example, Christmas,

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Christmas, was first celebrated under the Romans as a festival called Saturnalia,

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which happened around Christmas time. So what they used to do is, they used to sacrifice women. At this time, young virgin girls, kill them and sacrifice them.

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As presents for each other,

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I can sacrifice a more political and a more practical and more practical and Christmas gifts. exchange gifts on Christmas took the place of the human sacrifice. Same with Halloween, Halloween, you know in a big pumpkin, the light in the middle. That was all Druid custom where they also would go around. They believe once a day to chase the ghosts away.

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spoken in Jena and

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have to chase all these things away. So they made a big bonfire and he would go around the neighborhood knock on the doors and today they would call Trick or treat you know the treadle athletes in those days. They would ask for the youngest member of the girl girl in the family to sacrifice in the fire.

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Of course today that's more typical treats is more sweets and stuff that they get. But most of these symbols survive today. Halloween survives today. Christmas survives today and reminds us that the post Christian Western civilization

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remains at heart the pagan civilization

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of course more polished Christmas now become you know in the malls it looks pretty and beautiful and lights in Edley Street and Muslims participate in but the essence of the celebration was it was a pagan celebration.

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Although majestic rituals and myths has been replaced by the idea of the crooked ideas, grind it survives today. What are the ideas behind this? What was the ideas behind

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sacrificing young ladies, because why not young men? Why only women sacrificed?

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What was the big idea, for example, in throwing a young girl into the Nile and drowning her?

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What Why, why do they do this?

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Why is it that it was a woman were to give her life for the economic

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prosperity and progress of society? sect exactly what it was that this young guy had to be thrown to the now. So the water could flow to the crops could grow, so that there would be prosperity in the society.

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So what is the idea behind all this? It is that we will not be sacrificed

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for the economic prosperity of a society.

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In in, in the age of the Industrial Revolution, in England, when it started, you know, the age of the factories and the age of the working girl emancipation of women. What does it do to women, it took them out of their homes.

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It hurt them into factories and offices.

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Again, in an industrial setting, the women had to sacrifice their lives for the economic prosperity of the nation.

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They get exposed to the advances of strange men.

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If they get sexually assaulted in the workplace,

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if they lose their femininity in the workplace,

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if they have to dress like the Kufa dresses in the workplace, so be it.

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The Goddess of economic progress, the mouse, then we sacrifice our women, and chased him out of the home. So I know I can't direct you to how you should live your life.

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I cannot say to keep your wife at home, I can force you to do that. We can only look at the results

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of the unnatural state that we live in.

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And it's an example which we've taken from the west.

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Today, women have been uprooted from their home, separated from their families violated, left to fend for themselves.

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And expected

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to be grateful for what is called

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emancipation of women.

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I deal with the results of that every day of my life.

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Every day.

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I come across the results of this kind of pagan custom. We sacrifice our women at the altar of economic prosperity.

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It is God so worse, that people send their wives to go and work 1000s of miles away from home alone

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in a strange and foreign place.

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So that they can maintain their standard of living.

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And when the wife finds a friend, then everybody's shocked or the husband finds a frame everybody shocked.

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But what did you expect that suddenly a wiser become an angelic personality. It was now in the form of nude, and your husband will become an angelic person, person made of nude, and he will fly and float into a holodeck.

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So what we've done is we've changed the natural order. I'm not saying sometimes it's necessary. But I think we need to think about this. Know first in the old Roman times I say or one of the Navajo Romans believed that the Romans believed that women that never saw

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by the waist perfected the idea of what a woman really is, and what do they say? They say a woman is just a body.

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Just a body.

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We know this.

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And this is the idea sometimes

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that we unconsciously flawed in our young girls.

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In our children, the way we bring them up

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the way we dress them

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The lipstick we put on for them with the age of one and two and 15 months and 12 months

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allows Romulus in the Cornwall Lavina kuzhambu area Tina sanderstead rejuven mean hightlight Allah. Allah says in Surah Surah seven surah verse 182 those who reject our signs we will lead them step by step

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to ruin while they do not do it. They will destroy themselves if we change the natural order that allows founders implanted. Then what can we expect now visa Salam Alaikum debate, fine now Jihad

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visa, some say in Muslim, Ahmed. The Prophet told us

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that women

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should look after the homes.

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Fine, No Why?

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Because that is the Jihad of the human.

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The main jihad is that he goes to the battlefield and fight becomes a martyr. It is the humans job to look after the home. Then every since

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a woman who stays at home and takes care of the children, she will be with me in general.

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And that is why the salon salon salon said that her children's Gen get her feet.

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This is the cycle that we're breaking. We're destroying the cycle.

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And maybe there's maybe there's a middle way that we can find

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you know the worst thing for the child to come home to a dark and empty house

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that I father should avoid.

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I've told you this before you see it. I've seen I see it every day young girls 12 years old. They come from school. They stand on the corner with an old man maybe a 40 or 30.

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Deep in embrace and look at this. This is a child. This looks like a Muslim child. It looks like a Muslim girl. Maybe she's too old. Maybe she's 13 maybe she's 14

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with the mother and the father, lovely beautiful conceited Muslim farmers from bakudo.

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Angie comes on.

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I call them microwave children

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or latchkey children.

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No food in the fridge put in the microwave eaten?

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And can you imagine what I mean? That is why you forget why they say Was it 40% of girls between the age of 12 and 18 in this country

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for pregnant 40%. That's her. That's it, you

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know,

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the statistics tells you that it's across color lines.

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And the statistics will tell you if you examine it properly. That's because we have changed the natural order which allows for humans from us, because we chase after dreams that tends to likeness.

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young parents today chase after dreams that eventually turn into nightmares.

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I deal with these things I deal with parents who themselves want to commit suicide because they choked on drugs. I deal with parents coming to me with a girl who's 12 years old and pregnant. And the time is shaken as abortion is allowed in Islam.

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It's not

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not one person, many people.

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I come across people who come to me

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and say they want an HIV test. They're going for Hodge.

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They've done something you don't want to infect their wives.

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This doesn't begin when you're 60 years old, or 40 years old or 50 years old. No This begins in the home. This begins in a home where there's an absence of love and trust and care. Alone someone has given us His children as an Amana. Listen a man we have to sacrifice.

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I mean my mother was a dog every single day. I had to go to school without shoes.

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Me and my brother used to go in the winter to school with one coat.

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And

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that was the second world war causes big army coats I use under 100

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and then turns out was the favorite food was potato breed.

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And you got your lunch in the brown paper bag that was so the sugar of yesterday it's inside the bag if you take your lunch out you take a break out that's it's a coffee break.

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And sometimes really there was nothing to put on the bread except sugar and water.

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Oh contains milk was liquor

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today's can stand in front of you

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and speak to you about these things.

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We have to

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when you have children

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think about tomorrow.

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Think about when they're going to be 20 and 21 and 22.

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Maybe Sam said

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look at the look of Islam elevated to human because the sun elevated

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and we saw something a woman who's pregnant

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or a woman was breastfeeding

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what is the waist tell us just a natural occurrence You know?

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So she's sick.

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She can expect the right amount take it out in the bottle put it in the fridge

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the visa surgeon said a woman who's pregnant and a woman who's been a was was feeding a child

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is like a soldier on duty

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is like a soldier on duty in the path of jihad.

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Look at how long imagine we think of you know the Mujahideen allows founder promise in general they engine

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while aku Lima yo kataifi Sabina

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Allah says you know the Mata is promised.

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Hassan says your wife was pregnant.

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If she dies in that state, she goes say to Jenna.

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If she dies in the state rented base with a child, she goes to jail. That is why we should cry and breastfeed the children for the mother must insist on this because for two years she becomes she's a Mujahid

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he basically for two years, 24 months, as is inserted in the Koran. She's imagery for two years.

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Look at the elevation suparna love that Islam and the status Islam was given to him.

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So my last one that I've given Charla

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that we change the mindset of our children, when they are small,

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that we make those sacrifices our parents made for us, we make those sacrifices,

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we say to the wife, okay, you want to work, you can work only from that time to that time.

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From that time to that and he was better. Otherwise,

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we have to scale down.

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And once a week, we can scale up again.

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But we are building a society, we are building community. And my greatest contribution to the oma will be to give to the old man stable and well balanced children.

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I mean, many people come to me with and say,

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you know, we don't want to send our children to UCT.

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If you know what's happening at UCT, they drink in the month of Ramadan. They do all kinds of things, you know, up in UCT. These are Muslim children who do this.

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But that's not the point. What are you going to do is and keep each other? Oh,

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no. The answer is that you must instill in your child the values and principles of Islam

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and the person to do that is your wife and you said and useful then you can send them into the jungle don't have to worry.

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It is their job to convert

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onto the path wherever they go, then

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what do you expect to go to use you can find a lot of people there with Mashallah all the women waiting for Carson obey for Salah is anyone.

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Your child has become a majority debt, his job and alone.

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Not so that we can all have institutions and what about the non Muslims of Islamic universities, Islamic schools Islamic primary schools when our children going to give the message and the beautiful character Mohammed Hassan to the non Muslims.

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We have to learn amongst them

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With your example to the American laws, as I said, came to Egypt, conquered Egypt.

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And when the Sahaba wanted to go leave the army came to go and give Dawa. He said no.

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He said,

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You will show them by your example who you are,

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you will live amongst them, and show them by your example, by your manners by the way you treat them by the way you greet them, by the way you share your things with them, that this is Islam.

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So when a child goes off to UCT, and you give him a lecture, he goes, he said, My child, this is what you're going to meet.

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And this these are the defenses that you have to have with yourself.

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And a person is never too good to become bad, never too bad to become good. So that's either gone for our for good example.

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So now last one are giving Charla that we.

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When we look at our own society.

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When we look at the things happening in our own society,

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we must always think

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about allows for

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any things go wrong in our homes, or in our lives? Or in our jobs or income? Always ask yourself the question, What have I done, or what have I not done?

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Should I not change and do the thing which allows me to take my soccer properly.

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Because my profits have gone down to this cut down on

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Dire Straits, because that is a test of a true moment. That it gives you an immediate bow, it's easy to give when you have a lot isn't it? If you got 10 million

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for 500, grand cheesy, there is no problem. But if you are

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asking for 1000 is difficult to give for the general foreman for very difficult. That is a test.

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So we always ask allows, always

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you use our commitment to Allah as the yardstick may allow us on a given Sharla that we make our homes Muslim homes.

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And those difficulties are fighting to fight with and we fight with a TV and fight with the internet and the computers and

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it's a struggle.

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But remember, your children are not your friends.

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Follow the energy, oh my goodness, my friends

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are not your friends. They begin greater than your friends. They are your children.

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That's an Amana, which Allah has given to us. And while I swear to you, they can't do anything.

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And that is the time when you have to inculcate

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the values into them. And if you can keep your wife a dog with him of any possible, the sooner you can do that. You'll have a more loving home, more caring home.

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A more loving wife a more caring wife.

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Because I'm so sorry to see you know, people, young people, they get married.

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The animals No one is allowed to every week.

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I look at this this you know, with the marriage, what happened to the institution of marriage?

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Today, you go to a wedding and you see the couple sitting on the stage and you think

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Allah smiling

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sometimes the ones who say no, I don't want to do you know, they sit

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and I'm wondering what's going through their minds and how they think about their money back at work on Monday.

00:44:32--> 00:44:36

The carpet, they put the kitchen cupboards in properly at the house where they were.

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They forget to put the curtains on the rails

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because there's no there's no there's no worrying about, you know, its autonomy from the outside and every penny shy. And I haven't made a law yet. You know, maybe they worried about that. Hopefully that is the worry, you know

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You know, I'm

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sitting here with his big dress on you know, my husband is gone for the water he's gone for a salad he's come from Bali or Hello supper service Alicia. I'm gonna come around and be tired

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nobody's concerned everybody's concerned about a strain COVID on the right side you know? Is he getting the food for a body that she requires? You know? But nobody says I don't know break for the Brayton I never heard the father say make

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this Yoda kamasi for all of us

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how many how many fathers in mechanical take you know what the maxilla

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woman sitting on the stage all the other women

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now if we consciously start our lives like that

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can what do we expect will happen?

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What kind of happiness but you see we don't think

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we never think like this we don't think oh well they don't know. Only the biggest concern about bachata music artists feel as uncomfortable

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terrible music I mean, no words that you don't want people children to hear you know, children Close your eyes to that you know, but making love and all this nonsense You know, this is a kind of this is how we usher in a new life. This is how we are seeing a new companionship and when people get divorced we want to Oh

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no, but we ask ourselves the question What about Allah was on the happiness

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and you know process speaking to like this

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because these are simple things that we can change

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but you can't change it on the day you have to do it before you have to say to your chairman

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of Genesis monitoreo this is how you were going to do it this is what's going to happen and that's what's gonna happen Alec has begun customs the automatic way you

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know, we have to first bring Allah in and automatically the other things work because if you say to your daughter McConnell you must make salon that day because

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she looks like a Hollywood actress

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It's so sad but if she were told by a father mccunn are notice you

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know job readiness for Salah

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because this defense around comando had announced them with a new man out to accompany stage and us make must make salah and he was remind but this comes from school you know you have to

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and you have to put in the husband's hate and in you and so these are the things in Charlotte that we need to change

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I know that oh waiting theme is a pagan custom

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as all British royalty most flower girls and page boys you know and we can't change it overnight. But at least what we can do is to bring more Islam into the ceremony. So now last handle inshallah God Allah tala salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.