Istisharah Consulting the Right People

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smilla rahmanir rahim

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al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen

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wa Salatu was Salam O Allah say Dino habibollah Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi edgeline

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all prayers due to loss of Hannah, Darla and peace be upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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or testify that there's no god except a law and or testify that Muhammad is the problem the Messenger of Allah, my brothers and my sisters in Islam. Thank Allah subhana wa tada once again, for bringing us together for making us from amongst does he get together for the sake of a lot to remember a lot to learn more about lots of hands on and last week we start talking about staccato

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which is seeking guidance from Allah subhanaw taala, which is a very important topic not only when you want to get married, as we mentioned last week, but foil F is for all your efforts as the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says that if you are concerned about any particular matter, then go and pray. The tiragarde is taharah which are seeking the guidance of Allah subhanaw taala for that specific matter, and ask Allah subhana wa Taala to guide you and show you the path.

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Tonight inshallah I want to talk about something which is similar to it, but it's the hora is the Hara

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is a prayer that you pray to Allah subhanaw taala seeking Allah subhanaw taala has gardens of a particular matter.

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Then you've got something called is Tisha

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is the Shara which is seeking guidance or opinion from the creation of Allah subhanaw taala. So it's the hora is seeking Allah subhanaw taala guidance, who is the creator and st Shara is seeking the opinion of the creation of Allah subhanaw taala over a specific or general matter.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala praise the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the Koran again because he's to consult his people. Not only that he's to consult his people but lots of errata commanded him to consult his people What shall we at home for our bomb Mohammed?

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seek the advice of your people consultant.

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when you really think about it, why is the loss of errata Allah commanding the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to seek the opinion of his people,

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or the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam has to do is just the loss of Pendleton and Allah subhanho wa Taala away wasn't the problem Hamas hasn't even asked

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the rest of the Sahaba is their opinion better than what wasn't handled? I was gonna say

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why did the laws of Hamilton until the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to go and seek the advice and consult is and people watch. Mohammed

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ask and consult your people. When the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is the problem the Messenger of Allah always gonna do just ask Allah Subhana Allah knows and not only that, he'll show him the way, the best way. So now that you will be better than what Allah subhanaw taala would guide the Prophet Muhammad SAW said Oh, by my brothers or my sisters, the Shura

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seeking people's opinion. It's not only just for the purpose of getting the advice over something, but also brings people together.

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And the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam is responsible in bringing people together, that he's responsible responsibility to bring people together to unite the people do not the onma and one of the ways and methods and platforms in bringing people together and uniting people is to consultant. You know, sometimes it's good that you consult someone, even though you already know the right way. But it's good to consult someone for the purpose of just captivating this person and getting this person closer to

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Allah Subhana Allah commanded the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to consultants, people not because of just getting the opinion it's not like in every Salazar doesn't care, but their opinion and the opinion means absolutely nothing. That's not right. But their opinion means something but at the same time, bringing this a habit of the last item together and uniting the hearts and getting them closer to the Prophet alayhi salatu was getting closer to the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa Salaam himself, also is a very important aspect of the prophecy,

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in which the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has that responsibility in bringing people closer to him. And one of the ways of bringing people closer to you is for you to consult them. That's why it's nice from time to time for you to consult your family even though you know the answer, consultant. Speak to your wife.

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You want to speak to your husband speak to your children. What do you think of this even though you already know the answer?

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But it's good that you bring people closer to you. Three consultation,

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three consultation, you could bring people to you. You could get them closer to you consult them. Three consultation, you could get the heart closer to it. And that's all lots of panatela also praises. There's a habit of the alota Anima Khurana Karim

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Shura baina, whom Allah subhanho wa Taala is praising the Sahaba de la de la neutralizer speaks about them and allies and says, What room should they use to consult each other? That's a character of the cyber of the lotano

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which is a character of a true believer at the end of the day. And we all want to be true believers, every single one of us wants to achieve and to become a true believer in the soul of Allah subhanaw taala I want to become a true believer and you want to become a true believer. And that's one of the primary reasons they eat tonight. Because you want to be a true believer, you want to show lots of adult Allah, that you're a true believer. You want to be recorded in the records of Allah subhanaw taala they a true believer. So one of the signs of a true believer that he or she consult their fellow brothers and sisters, consult one another, not always just you know, whatever is on my mind,

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I'm just gonna do and dictate.

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Islam is about consultation. Islam is about shorter, it's about Islam is about you know, what, what do you think of this? And you find that very explicit, very apparent in the character of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam, always consulting this Alberto de alota.

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always speak into the habit of the lotano always getting this ability allows for something called True raw sugar, which is a form of consultation, a form of consultation, let us get together and talk about this. What do you think? Okay, brothers sit down together and talk. What do you suggest we should do? How can we build this machine? Which way should we build it? And that's what the prophet Muhammad SAW has to do with this. I have it on the lot on me, just on small matters, on big matters and small matters, is to bring them together. Okay, what do you suggest? What do you think? Maybe the problem Amazon already decided what to do? Maybe that's one of the things the problem

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Amazon had already decided what you want to do. But it's good to involve people in the decision making.

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And that's part of a true character of a leader. That's part of leadership. Part of leadership is that you consult people not dictate people, Arabs, not religious ones, of course, Arabs, to them leadership is to dictate dictate people

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tell people what to do. And that's why it hamdulillah the Arab all bunch of dictators

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that's not leadership. Leadership is no luck. What are all everyone just the base? What I asked everyone listens. That's dictatorship. In the basal alario setup, if he says something, no one's gonna say anything to him, because he's the problem that messenger of Allah, and if he are surrounded, or if you are around the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the Prophet Allah is awesome tells you one thing he commands you to do anything. The first thing that you've got in your mind that this is a revelation from Allah subhanaw taala. And there's no way you will challenge Allah Subhana Allah say, and the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had the

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authority.

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If he commands a role obey, if it says everyone will listen.

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top of all this in a bizarre Sermo constantly consultants, people.

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What do you suggest?

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What do you suggest that we do?

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What do you suggest that we go?

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What do you suggest I'll do with him? What do you suggest or do with them?

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That's leadership. That's true leadership.

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Because at the end of the day, a leader is someone that brings people together not divides them.

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One of the primary goals of a leader is to unite people to bring people together not to divide them how you gonna you know, people dictate on them

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How do you gonna attract people towards you, and get people to respect you if a dictator

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and Allah says the Prophet the Messenger of Allah is the one that receives a revelation from a Muslim Anil tada is, this is done the cyber What do you suggest? What's your opinion on this?

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After the battle, I bet the Navy Sasselov sat down with him before the barometer even though the Mona Lisa marched out of Medina to fight against the people of rice. He never saw some said there were 313 companions and he said, What do you suggest? Should we farm or not? When the news reached the problem amazon seller that the people have marched with one of the soldiers 1000 of the fighters coming to find the problem hammered sauce

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Melissa Medallia 330

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and now Navistar Salim is going to be facing is going to be fighting triple the number of his army and not only the are triple the number of Amazon sellers army now a lot more prepared than the Prophet Mohammed Salah Salah more prepared than what the problem Amazon has prepared.

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So maybe saw some got together the Sahaba Shira yohannes What do you suggest? What's your opinion? Let me hear from you. It's not like, I'm the Prophet, I'm the messenger emulator. I'm your general, I'm your master what I say goes, you know, it's true.

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And at the end of it, realistically, what he says is gonna go. But at the end of the day, he never saw Salah has the responsibility of bringing the Sahaba or the alota item together. What do you suggest? A Shinto Allah yohannes What do you suggest, tell me? Should we fight or not? Should we move forward or not?

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And after the

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alarm as the cyber of the law, no, they were victorious in a better better they won against the people of Croatia against the non believers. And the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam had ever 70 prisoners of war captives. So the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, that's the first time the prophet

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or the Muslims during that time encounter captivity, or they have people in their

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in their responsibility as captives. They have captives in their hands.

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So the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam sat down with the sovereign and said, Okay, what do you suggest we do with them? Who got 70 captives from the non believers? What do you suggest? That's the first time I ever do this? That's the first time we go out. Allah Oh, and hamdulillah we want and hamdulillah we have 70 non believers, non believing captives? What do you suggest that we do with them? So this habit of the allow themselves to suggest different opinions, from one extreme to the other extreme.

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I've said O Messenger of Allah kilimo. Who

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said, O Messenger of Allah, all these people, if not all of them, three quarters of them, and families, and people, and progeny. And mothers and fathers and brothers and sisters and people like that most of us are below the low. Or a big number of this habit of the law.

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From the Mahajan said originally from the people of Christ in which they have families, they've got family members and some of those family members were captives. Some of them were the fathers of some of

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the brothers of some of those habits of the lotano.

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savani suggested I said Tomek I said just a phenomena, or is it just one one from one extreme that said kill them, and not only kill them?

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didn't just say kill them? He said no, no, no.

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Identify each non-believing captive, and find that with his family amongst us and get his family to kill him.

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So I get this non Muslim,

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captive and found that was his brother was his father was his son, and get his brother to kill his own brother from the non believers. And here, whether you want to call the extreme or not, but that's his opinion. And Abu Bakr on the low Donna said, O Messenger of Allah families. Some of these people have brothers or fathers and nephews or sons to us, freedom for the sake of Allah.

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Look at the contrast

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of the opinions. One, that's one extreme or the other one is going extreme left. In my point of view, of course Yanni. I'm just saying it this way, but it's an opinion attend of De

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La Salle, messenger of Allah.

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Rebecca de la sango messenger of Allah freedom. And then one of the, one of the companions of the low tide suggested and said, O Messenger of Allah, best thing is renting them, raising them in a way that, okay, whoever's got money, whoever has wealth, whoever can rent them themselves and pay themselves out, get them to pay themselves out, and whoever doesn't have money and as I read and write, get them to teach 10 of the Muslims how to read and write and then free them.

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So now because I'm agreed with that, for them to play themselves out, for them to ransom themselves,

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and never saw someone with the opinion until Allah subhanaw taala revealed a verse in the Quran again what exactly to do when it comes to captives and prisoners of war.

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So this is the situation of the Prophet Mohammed Salim is the character of the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam always consulting the Sahaba of the law, even when it comes to religious affairs.

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Why should the proper messenger even ask his people all he's got to do just ask Allah subhanaw taala but Allah wants to teach a problem Amazon Salah the importance of consultation, consulting this habit of the alota

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aluminum and attracting this habit of the alota animal getting close to the Prophet Muhammad says I'm so panela it's mankind's nature, human beings nature Subhana Allah and someone comes up to tells you what do you think you should do with the even though you've got no knowledge, you must know it but you appreciate all of this girl really cares about my opinion.

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So next time when you say this person just want to get close to him.

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And that's exactly what this is one of the law that's very close to the problem promises is to consult on what do you think? What do you suggest? And the problem homosassa might have

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had the answer. NASA already knows what he needs to do. Maybe Allah subhanaw taala told them what to do, by NASA just wants to consult the Sahaba just to make them feel that are part of the decision making.

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And when you give people the ownership, people feel part of

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the entity, the organization, the movement, and that's one of the major contributors

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to keep in this habit of the low to Adam close to the problem homosassa low to the profile, a sorcerer. That's one of the contributors.

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And as part of

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the leadership characteristics, leadership,

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personality is that for you always to try and identify different platforms for you to keep your people around you. How can I keep these people close to me? How can I keep this people loyal to me? How can I keep these people listening to me? One of them Sure. As Allah subhanaw taala says and describes this habit of the alota rowhome, Shura binome.

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So Allah subhanaw taala praise the Lord, for always conducting sure amongst each other, or Shura to another. When the problem Hamilton Lhasa davia.

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When the Prophet Mohammed Salam

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set out from Medina to Mecca traveled from Medina to Mecca with the purpose of performing Amara and the Prophet Mohammed Salim had mentioned to the Sahaba of the Lord Rama his dream and his dream was that he saw him so performing online that was about seven years after the arrival of the local police also had been disconnected from the Kaaba from Mecca. Center bisazza marched from Medina to Mecca with the purpose of performing ombre we all know the sorrow happened with the Prophet Mohammed Salah Moses stopped, and then the problem Hamas has agreed to sign a treaty between him and the people of Christ. And one of the items and one of the agreements of the problem Amazon summon

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conditions that he had agreed to is for the survival of the Lord along with the problem Amazon to return back this year and to come back the following year. So that was hard. That was a bit hard on the Sahaba de la for them to grasp at the very beginning. They've marched and traveled from Medina to Mecca and not in five star buses, air conditioned buses were Mashallah everything's in their local handler the last two years not only the air conditioned, the air conditioned toilets and there's even news reports you've got USB ports, nano buses, everything's there Mashallah release.

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Now that is to travel on full and they used to walk right in the middle of the hot desert under the hot sun for days and weeks, if not months.

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And I was so motivated and inspired, though so looking forward to seeing the Goblin forming the love and performing hombre and then they were blocked. That was stopped.

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And the problem homosassa my grip to that and I agreed to go back and come back the following year. It was very hard for the cyber of the law to grasp send me some time to to come back home. There's no camera for us. Or messenger bah bah bah he told us this and he told us in your dream and he told us we're going to perform this and that is it Yes. It's a dream and I didn't see myself performing Ramadan da da da ba never told you when it could be this you could be next year you could be the family. I never promised you I never indicated when I just told you Yes. And inshallah we will and it didn't happen.

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It was very hard for the Sahaba of the alota Adam to grasp and comprehend the fact that after the Prophet Muhammad Hassan told them and they left Medina came all the way to Mecca The only few kilometers away from the cab of the carnival,

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Celebi sauce and I'm told the mecca literary term back in order for you to come out of an army aftershave and slaughter your lamb or shape or a sacrificial animal that you bring with as heady which is a slaughter.

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The Sahaba found it to be very hard for them to comprehend this other data immediately.

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About the problem homosassa them others say they disobey the problem homosassa they didn't rush into the dinner heist themselves are expected for them to rush straightaway. That's okay. Though a high paying maybe a loss of handle reveal a business item homina Don't worry about it just march into my candidacy.

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Send me something said I want everyone right now to take off the hilum shave your hair, slaughter your

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sacrificial animal and they are back home.

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Majority of the Sahaba did not obey the Prophet Muhammad SAW Salah or maybe I'll take that with back majority of the Sahaba did not

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immediately about the Prophet Muhammad SAW Salah.

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So the problem homosassa when is 10 will almost Salama da da da da da da his wife. She was in that 10 and then we saw some walked in said angry and upset. And he said, How about Allah Subhana Allah give success to a nation that disobeyed the Prophet.

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So almost Salama said the Prophet Muhammad SAW saltado messenger of Allah come down. As you could imagine, the Sahaba are very motivated or they were very motivated than them traveling from Medina to Mecca to come from Amara right now that just hit and they are struck with this news that they have to get back with Amara just let them grasp it. Just relax. Maybe they're waiting for lots of adult Aleksandra Eva verse, Allah to reveal a verse upon the Amazon upon you, for you to turn back and go and enter Mecca forcefully. Eternal, eternal is going through the mind of the Sahaba that just be upset. They were looking forward to this moment they're going to be roaming around right now

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that has to go back and return back home. So she told me about missing Java law. However, I suggest apone you get out of this 10 you shave your hair, you slaughter a sacrificial slaughter. And see what does Apple do after Senator bisazza took on board the advice of almost cinema he's a Muslim, she's she's a female, she's a woman. Any other problem homosassa still listen to her. So regardless whether it's a man or a woman, you should be consulting people. So the problem homosassa exited this term. And then he called the barber he came he shaved his head and then maybe saw some winners enhance that to slaughter the sacrificial slaughter when the rest of the zappitell de la thought I

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know so that was an awesome What did they do? Everyone followed suit.

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Everyone followed ship, every single one of them followed the problem hammer saucer and follow the footsteps of Raphael. So sevens have realized the determination of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam

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ever followed the footsteps of the problem? homosassa No one held back. That's it. That's it, the new This is a determination This is the fate. So all this a habit of the alota on that, without an exception of any of them. Every single one of them follow the footsteps of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam shave the hair and slaughter, the sacrificial slaughter.

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So the point is, have a problem Hamilton Lawson consultant on cinema, he consulted on Santa Maria.

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The words of the Prophet Muhammad Allah even described the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa Salaam of being that person that's always consulting them.

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That's the character of a true leader. That's part of leadership. Not one line. Whatever I say guys can remember to become 10.

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In Arabic, my word will never be towards my orders. Because I'm the man.

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I'm the dictator. I'm the leader. So Pamela, people mix between dictatorship and leadership. You're wrong. A true leader of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam he's the one that is to consult the Sahaba.

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And he's David consult the young ones. And he's to consult men and women is to listen to him.

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That's the character of the problem homosassa them when a woman came to the Prophet alayhi salatu salam sent him a messenger of Allah we as women

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we saw amongst each other. Now we realize they're always given all that attention to the men and we don't even have one specific session or gathering for us. Maybe something else from next week. That's it. on that specific time that specific day, we'll be getting together for a special lesson for the sisters

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slot like who need to come and tell me what to do. Who you know the attitude. It's always me me me. My word why dictatorship now that's not part of leadership. A leader is someone that knows how to take his people, his followers from one destination to another destination to an objective to a goal was watch he's got all his followers supporting him to that goal. These days, you've got a lot of leaders that take people to a goal but without support. People are cursing these people they're just following them because they have to follow him because the rule with an iron fist

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Yes, because they're all with an iron fist.

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It's not up to you You just got to do out so it

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never saw Sam was a true leader.

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And part of the litter quality the Prophet Muhammad SAW Salim had that loss of handled Allah wants us to follow

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the leadership of the problem. homosassa is Shura consultation.

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And obviously when you consult someone you can consult someone who specialized in a specific specific area, just because

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Someone who's a chef and then gonna ask him about plumbing.

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Because like, once I remember someone called me,

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sorry, go chef, I go solo.

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And I've got a house. And I'm listening. Okay. Although it wants to ask me about a question, you know, but Reba, I've got a house, I want to sell it, I want to put it on the market. I said here, I said, you know, because you know, the process this and this, and that it's not to give me this introduction report. I told him, yeah.

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He called me What do you want from me? Now? I don't talk to him whatsoever. You know, I just want to know exactly what do you want? He said, You know, I'm just asking you, what's the best way for me to sell my house? I'll tell them into the record share, what did you call Registered Agent.

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When he called me Thomas, a cola, the guy called me and he tells me about what's the best way for him to sell his house.

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doesn't just because I'm a chef doesn't mean I know everything doesn't mean because also, you know everything.

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When you want to go and consult someone, go and consult a specialist, and the expert in the area. So for example, if it didn't get picked up,

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if it's about selling your house, gas meter Registered Agent, if it's about engineering girls with an engineer, if it's about medicine, girls, be a pharmacist, if it's about this guy, speak to this person consult. Site consultation doesn't mean all I just consult everyone for everything. That's not right.

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you consult the right people for the right job. And if it's something general within the family, consult the family.

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If it's something general within the community, consult the community. And obviously, it's not possible for you to go and consult every single person. That's why we've got something in the in Hollywood Act, the people that thought

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the people that try things and loosen things, that's the literal translation, what I just mentioned to you right now, which means that people have the influence of making decisions, the shakers and the makers. We have that we have that term in Arabic, and are usually the leaders of the tribes, the leaders of the community, the Imams or Messiah, like well over 1 million Muslims. In the Muslim, you can solve the heads.

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People who make things and break things, the shakers and the makers, the ones who have influence, he consult them. So don't get too drastic. Don't get too extreme. Like I'm gonna go and consult every single person maybe we're gonna go and consult my five year old son ever How can I build my house?

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Which cashola boy maybe could consult him that we're gonna buy a car what color just to bring him close? What kind of model what does he know what model

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what do you what is if you just consult people according to their monster, according to their mental capability, according to their understanding, according to their experience, and that's one of the things that the Sharia encourages us to do. First Allah Allah degree in quantum law talamona lots of errata says God as the people have knowledge the people have experienced if you don't know if you can ask

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and you know, what I'm asking is not an embarrassing thing is not a shameful thing. You know, people up themselves, you know, I'm not gonna ask, you know, because I know it all. Mr. Navarro, then everything that's wrong.

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Or even says the law says that half of the knowledge is asking. Ask either not ask. It's not gonna lower your status. If you're gonna ask someone what do you think of this? What is the gist of the ask?

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Put yourself at the forefront and God asked, inquire.

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First,

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Solomon, Allah subhanaw taala makes mention of the vision of Quranic getting twice as the people of knowledge and experience of Eden, ask, it's good they engage and as more than one source, get a better understanding why you want to do

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so my brothers or my sisters, the Sharia encourages something called Shura, which is consulting, consulting the people with experienced consultant, the people with expertise,

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consultant, people with knowledge and understanding, consulting the specialists. And not only because you want to get an answer, also, it brings people together. It's nice as a leader, especially when you're a community leader, to bring people from your constituency to bring people from your followers to bring people from your community for you to them consultant, even though you already know the answer. But what do you think?

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What do you think? And you know, what, why people appreciate it that you've asked them and you went against their opinion. But as long as that you've asked them, then you know, ask them all, even though what you've done

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is a lot of what they would have probably suggested bother probably being upset.

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If you ask someone, anyone, I guess what that suggests to you. They'll be more

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happier than you go and doing something, which is a lot of what they wanted, but because it didn't ask them, they'll be a lot more upset.

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So Pamela, it's mankind's nature, that's our loss of handle data structure does, we like to be given attention. And part of being given someone attention is to consult them. And one of the people they shouldn't, they should keep in mind that for you to consult is your spouse, especially as brothers, as husbands, consult your wife's consultant, even on things that, you know, you've got more experienced than them, but keep them close. That's part of that relationship they establish with them. And so Pamela, a lot of the breakdowns

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of communication and the brakes, breakups of relationships is because of not consultation. There's a breakdown of communication,

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not consultation. And that's why they end up breaking up never talks to me, never consulted me goes and does whatever he wants. It's not nice, especially that you've got your wife you've got your husband consultant, even though you already know the answer, but just consult

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that avenue of course, every day one of the ones gonna call the husband What do you want me to cook? What do you want to call us? Okay, from time to time? How's that going? But every single day, especially now 11 o'clock before before lunch?

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She's calling What is your calling for calls? What do you want me to cook for you today in house Mashallah, let's see, okay, do that from time to time but every single day becomes annoying. Anything that gets over the limit? because it tends the opposite, you know, like you know, something gets very cold, it starts to burn. So you have to have a balance when it comes to dealing with as matters so when the husband consults his wife, okay, consulta, but keep that balance too. When the wife was a consult her husband consulting but keep that balance. Now love it does a little bit taller every time you know what do you think I should borrow one finger from the guy what do you

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think these are these what do you what do you think that's why you know, the two liter milk or three little milk

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boy

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Some people say they will dissolve the Java but not to the extent

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you gotta consult extending and walking away from each other. I'm trying to keep it together not to turn you away from each other. You have to keep that balance

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so consultation is it's highly commendable recommended and Sharia this area recommended they constantly consult husband or wife consult each other but keep that balance

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is a boundary they shouldn't ever keep that balance inshallah to keep that heart closed inshallah Allah subhanaw taala makers from amongst those who listen and he act upon

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every Muslim dreams to be

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Jenna, Jenna.

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Versus destiny. Jenna, Jenna, Jenna Jenna.