Shadee Elmasry – Livestream on the Etiquettes of Marriage
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Doing our
live stream today. But
reason being was that I just
actually, you know what I don't want to get into that I just had
some altercation with some guy trying to convince me that we have
to edit with his leader, midazolam, Muhammad, or I should
say minister without Qadiani. But we're not going to get into that.
But when it comes to matters and a Deb, you don't have manners and
ADAD with people who are openly insulting the Prophet peace be
upon him, or indirectly insulting the Prophet peace be upon him the
last time someone called himself a prophet in the presence of the
messenger peace be upon him, was was saying them, okay them, and
we'll say them and kill them. We know what the prophets himself
called him, the messenger himself called him the liar. Alright, and
we'll say that the liar. So knowing that this group of people
out there, the cut Ianis
are out there and they're trying to make themselves into a
legitimate, accepted religion or accepted method inside of Edison
wedgemount, we should have, I guess,
we should have some policy towards them and understanding of what our
position is regarding these folks. And namely, that our position is
that there are certain things that are broad bate major lines, and a
ads that are mocking a mess, there are certain ads that are called
mahkum, meaning there's no discussion in them. That is mock
them there is no discussion, there is no room for discussion, there
is no acceptable difference of opinion regarding the mock emetic
ads mocking match when no one will Kitab whoa, hold on, whichever
heads Allah subhanaw taala tells us some ads are the month
foundations of the book, can you have a doubt in your foundation?
Can you have a difference of opinion? Imagine someone's
building a house and he says, well, the foundation's done. And
then other engineers says, Well, I don't know if it's done. So
there's a difference of opinion whether the foundation is ready or
not? Are you going to go the house on it? So the mahkum versus
there's no discussion note why is because the language use is so
clear, the Hadith, and other verses come and support it. So the
concept is crystal clear. There's absolutely no discussion, no
tolerance of any difference of opinion regarding it. And
ultimately, the whole point of foundational verses is that
they're so clear, you don't need to discuss them. That's the whole
point of foundational verses in the Quran. So when someone comes
with the claim that well, it's a difference of opinion, maybe there
could be a prophet after the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu, it
was Saddam, then we have strayed really, so far, from any sense of
understanding that it's really almost laughable and ridiculous.
And it should make your blood boil. Because this is here, your
beloved Dean and religion, and the foundations are being chopped
away. Now, let me just tell you what's going to happen, what's
going to happen is that they're going to get academic, and they're
gonna get political, and then someone's going to try to convince
some major Muslim organizations to accept them, and just historicize
the opinion about them. And instead of saying, No, this is
cool photo, and whoever believes it is, can't be a Muslim believes
that there's a prophet after the problem. Um, and so I said, No,
but rather, what people are going to do is they're going to say, you
know, what,
some scholars or a majority of scholars or many scholars, okay, I
have deemed that this is disbelief and kofler. And so they're going
to try to put it like historicize it, and we're not saying that, but
some have said it. And this type of wishy washy notice, regarding
Boronia to Dean is something that you should really be careful of,
and never allow for this type of softness on a major issue. I mean,
we're not saying here's the people, the guy, I was talking to
a guy, I just made the point, simply that the government matters
as their leader, he died a death that the the Allah showing us the
falsehood of that he died on the toilet, and not even the toilet.
They used to have a house. They used to have the floor here. You
go to the bathroom and a little hole, it goes into a bottom hole.
Well, he fell into it and died there. Right? It's a sign for the
people. There's no way Allah will allow profit or will lead to die
in feces. Okay, so he said, Oh, you have to have Adam, you're not
having edit. You're being rude. And this is misplace Edo, who What
did the Prophet do when was say to him, the liar will say them and
condemn. He called him a liar. He called him directly a liar, right?
And
this type of approach towards things and don't allow yourself to
be sort of lured into this
false edit, there's adapt, we have adapt, we have gentleness, we have
all the things that we're talking about, but
In these types of matters, I mean, come on SubhanAllah. The next
thing we're supposed to do next thing they're going to tell us is
you have to have a dev with the idols.
In any event, onto this subject, which is a beautiful topic, which
is what I wanted to do when everything was in a good mood
until this Qadiani is came after me. Right? And they want us to
call US equities, and I refuse to call them companies and refuse to
respect their leader. I'm sorry, I can't do it. Right. They just,
it's my policy. Okay, I cannot respect and try to soften the
issue of a man who comes and calls himself a prophet after the
Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi salam, and then also says that
he's the man the montado. And then he also says he's the prophet, a
sub and Madame like incarnated or some nonsense, okay, whatever it
is, it's all a bunch of nonsense. So we have one we're goaded into
respecting these things, okay.
It's just not going to happen. There's not going to have I can't
respect this other person. I might, I'm not going to insult a
Qadiani person, but I'm not going to respect him, nor call him
Achmed. Because that's
an insult. You can't be insulting someone in the name yourself
after. In any event. Our subject today is
the domestic life between husband and wife, by Imam Al Ghazali. The
great Imam Hodgetts in Islam, he holds that the duties of a husband
towards his wife are 12. Number one,
he has to provide for her a beautiful wedding feasts. Number
two, he has to provide good companionship, which means that he
has to be a companion for her every single day. Right every day,
he needs to be companionship in with her if he's available.
President say no matter how Bob said he should not leave his wife
for more than four months if he has to, for example, if he's part
of the Army, or for some other reason, four months maximum can be
his trip that he has to come back then he can go back.
The medical scholars I don't know about the chef A and the Neff hold
that if a Muslim husband ignores his wife for a day, she has the
right to seek a divorce for one day.
Number three, he says dalliance dalliance is pampering, that he
should actually pamper, and filmmaker, and dolger. And he's
going to use the word indulge here, I guess the translation
for his wife indulge her in what she loves, and make fill her heart
with happiness is actually a duty.
He also must exercise authority around the house to make sure that
the kids have manners, that the neighbors aren't bothering the
family, that all these things he has to be that authority that
police figure to make sure the house is stable. It's on him to
make sure that the house isn't being invaded,
okay, or
have kids are having bad manners or anything like this, he has to
have that authority.
Number five, he has to have jealousy. And he's going to note
here that the jealousy has to be balanced, neither suffocating
jealousy nor no jealousy at all. So he has to have some kind of
jealousy that he shouldn't be happier, he should not feel great
when there are other men looking at his wife, at cetera, chit
chatting, trying to chat it up and do these types of things. All
right, he should be having some VIERA.
Number six maintenance, he's got to cover all the costs. Number
seven, amongst the causes education, he's responsible that
you'd be educated, particularly in the foot out of the dean. Number
eight distribution of time number nine, which we'll get to that
teaching matters. So if she doesn't know Islamic matters, that
he should teach her that Okay.
Number 10 sexual * that he can't be a hermit that he owes
her at least once every four days.
Number 11. Children if he wants children, it's part of the duties
of marriage and the purpose of marriage to produce children if he
wants children.
And then 12 separation through gradual stages and with maruf okay
with model the in a the right way if he's going to divorce her then
to divorce her in the right way. Okay, so let's get to the first
part. The wedding feast is the first good customer to observe. It
is recommended practice in Addis it's recommended meaning here it's
a sunnah it's a highly recommended sunnah Santa Anas ematic said
Allah's messengers of Allah when he was seven once saw a trace of
yellow, like some yellow powder on the face of abrupt man and mouth.
He said, What is this? He replies I've married a woman. Get it just
got married. The province I said have said good now have a wedding.
So basically
Like there was some powder that she had on that came on to him.
Right and the Prophet saw it maybe on his beard or something. And he
said, what happened? He said, I got married and said Good. Now the
feast, even if it is just with the sheep, in other words, feed people
something, even if just with the sheep on his marriage to Sofia,
messengers of Allah when he was Saddam himself established a
wedding feast consisting of dates and so we, he said, providing this
the food is a duty on the first day. On the second it is
recommended practice sunnah on the third it is to get one self talked
about, if anyone wants to be heard of Allah will let everybody know
about him on the Day of Resurrection. So what he's saying
here in this hadith is providing the wedding feast that lasts one
day. One day of feast is good. A second day is also good so that
you feed people. And it used to be back in the time of the Prophet
peace be upon him like a public feast. So you slaughter and you
just call to the people and everyone comes.
On the second day, it's good, you also get rewarded on the third day
now you're showing off. It's just to talk to be talked about and
here is a little implication. And a little point here. That showing
off is oftentimes the goal and oftentimes what is actually
happening in weddings. So Buffy Biden warned about showing off and
using weddings as a form of showing off.
He said here's the edge of Abdullah. He used to do this
Mohamed from Kufa he used to have his wedding day over two days
spanning over two days.
It is also recommended that everyone goes in congratulates the
husbands
and on entering one should say to the bridegroom, Allah's blessing
for you on upon you, and may He unite you in goodness vertic Hola
Hola, como Baraka de Kuma with Gemma de nakoma. Okay, so this is
the famous dua of the wedding and when you someone's having a
wedding this is what you say Bartok. Hola, hola. Come up with
Baraka, la cama where Gemma dynaco Mafia higher Abu Huraira, the
Allahu Anhu related the prophets of Allah who it was so nice to
always do this used to say this, always, it is further recommended
that the marriage be made public the whole point of marriage is
that we know that this is not some kind of
Zina that's going on, this is not something bad that's going on.
This is something good. And if it's good, it should be open and
public. Okay? Anything secret is always a problem. So usually a
problem. So in this case, the Sunnah of the walima. The purpose
of it is to make it public to make the wedding public and to make the
marriage public. And to let everyone know that when you see
these two together, you should not have a doubt. And the Prophet
peace be upon him says, Beware of MLOK at dawn, the places where you
could get accused, so don't put yourself in a situation where
you're going to be accused, where someone could say, oh, he's
walking with a woman there, or that woman's walking with zones,
so it should be made known in public that a person is getting
married.
He said, publicize the marriage, celebrate it in the mosques, and
sound the tambourines to mark it. So use tambourines to let it know
let people know that there's a wedding happening here there that
these two people got married. And I actually went saw this in the
city of Fez, I had no clue what's going on, it was actually
startling, because you had all these banging tambourines and cans
and, and temporaries, and all these things. And then I saw, we
ran out of me and the other students, we ran out, and we're
like, what is going on here? And it turned out, then there was a
white horse with the groom and a white horse with the bride. And
they're walking and people were singing and making noise, and they
just took a lap around the old city of Fez. And that is actually
the way that they used to publicize wedding so they take a
lot, and they had dates and they had drinks and they had a man
serving, rosewater and all these
all these types of things so that everyone knows that these two
people when you see them together, now they're married. So that's how
they used to do it in the olden days. And they used to take a lap
around the city and market and publicize the wedding in that
fashion.
Obey daughter of Mr. Withers report as saying Allah's Messenger
sallallahu alayhi wa salam called upon me in the morning after my
marriage was consummated. So this man got married consummated the
marriage. He sat on my bed while some servants were beating drums
and singing, okay, some little girls were singing some songs and
beating drums. Then one of them said, in our midst, there's a
prophet, and you're singing in beating drums.
But the prophets I said him said do not speak like that. Go on. And
he told the girls go on and sing the song that you were singing. So
beating the drums and you're doing these things is permitted and
shouldn't be any shame or embarrassment in any type of
feeling like oh my gosh, we're so
Hello brings haram that will be a type of access and a Hulu when the
dean, I'm not a fan of Hulu when the Dean yesterday, everyone's
watching the game. I mean, most people watch the Super Bowl, and
there was
almost with a man, he did have this great idea. And apparently
was shaved because you know his idea to put some kind of a
halftime show that Muslims could watch instead of music and dancing
and nakedness. And I put that up there and someone asked the
question, well, don't you always talk about watering down the deen?
And isn't this watering down the deen? The answer is no. I'm not
against entertainment. If it's how that why should we be right? We
have I will go to this hobby. And even afterwards, from the ladder
scholars mmm and had done all of them said that a person should
unwind himself every once in a while to re strengthen himself for
a better afterwards. So that you could go back strongly into a bad
debt, it's only going to happen if if you actually can relax yourself
in between. Otherwise, you're going to be too stressed out and
you overwork yourself. So that's not watering down what we talked
about when we talked about watering down, the Dean has to do
with that what I just talked about earlier, these major red lines and
these bloodwood he adds of Dean, these critical things like these
issues of perennialism Qadiani, ism, reform deform and regression,
okay, that are altering the fundamental landmarks and etching
away at the foundations of the religion. Honestly, if it wasn't
for those things, these are the major issues. Beyond that I have
no problem with automat having disagreements, I might have my own
opinion, but it's not worth fighting over. It's not worth
breaking relationships over. And I would have no problem if all the
stuff was taken care of, to just sit in the back and let other
people handle everything. I have no problem with those issues. But
the foundational problem, foundational issues have to right,
you have to have attention to it, you have to know that there are
certain things that will never be should never be accepted. And the
avenue that they're getting into is well Trump is coming after
Muslims. And Trump doesn't distinguish between a deform
Muslim and a Sunni Muslim at a Shia, a Muslim and a Qadiani. And
whoever else, okay, well, and so we shouldn't, so we should all
unify politically, and that's the avenue that they're coming in. And
I have to say, I disagree with that. I disagree with that.
Completely, there is no way that we should be secularizing our
religion and making you know, I'm suddenly private, making it
private. And this is our belief in private, but publicly, we should
just be recognizing this big tent of Islam when when the scarlet
went when this idea of the big 10 involves the form of hubs, right?
It doesn't involve these sects. Okay, so that's, that's what I
think is should be highlighted as something that should be made a
big deal about, but as for having some fun, and doing something
that's how to,
I actually have no problem with that.
Number two, good treatment of wives. So he says here, if a woman
bothers her husband and annoys her, and by the way, he's gonna
get to the wife, and if the husband bothers the wife, so don't
get upset,
then he should
have somebody with her put up with it and have compassion for her.
Okay, so Allah subhanaw taala says, Be compassionate with them,
stressing their rights, he says, They have taken from us solemn
covenant.
And the prophesy sentiments always reminded, remember what they gave
you, which is something very precious, which is okay, their
bodies, right. And so therefore, be compassionate with them in
return and have supper with them when they get angry in return. One
of the Sahaba I believe, was I would go to debt, said that
whenever my wife gets angry, I become patient. Whenever she gets
angry, that or whenever I get angry, she gets patient a madman
said the same thing. He said, there's never been an argument in
our house.
When someone asks him, how do you how to two people live together
and never argue? He says that when she gets angry, I say nothing. I
don't talk. And when I get angry, she doesn't talk. So therefore you
need two people to quarrel. And there's just no quarrel in the
house. And he lets it go and the prophets of Allah and he said
there was one time disobeyed directly disobeyed directly by say
that he was waking up in the middle of the night. He went out,
he told me that I should stay here and don't leave. Because he was
going to do something in an area where it wouldn't be right for her
to go. He went to the graveyard visited the Sahaba who had passed
away in the Battle of a hut and on his way back, found that say that
a shot on your Levana had come out and had actually fallen asleep in
the road. Now imagine you come out and you find yourself. Yeah, and
he finds his wife fall asleep in the road. Like prophesized
I'm sad don't come out. But yet she's now in a really vulnerable
situation. And the Prophet peace be upon him for an instant. He
said, Didn't I say don't leave the house. In other words, don't
follow because it's the middle of the night, like you something bad
could have happened to you. And say that Isha, she said something,
she gave an excuse in the province, I said, I'll just let it
go. Right. And the example of the messenger PSP bottom for us is to
just let things like that go. And if someone answers back also to
let it go, Prophet peace be upon him. We also have the other
example where the wives at one point, some worldliness had
entered in they wanted some some of the wealth that they saw other
women having, and they were raising their voice to the
messenger peace be upon him, and he was sitting and not saying
anything at all, until Allah subhana wa, tada sent Almighty
will come up, and he has the right to come in because Hafsa his
daughter was in the house. So it's the heart, it's the right of a
father to visit his daughter, even if it's obviously it's another
man's house, but it's the right of a father or mother to visit their
daughter in their house. So he went into the house, and he
started scolding. Hafsa How could you be raising your voice at the
Messenger of Allah, and then all of the wives of the Prophet peace
be upon him, Mothers of the Believers remain silent, they all
became silent suddenly. And then he looked at and he said, All of
you are silent, because when I come in, but in front of the
messenger, you raise your voice and yelling at him. And the one of
them spoke out and said, That's because you're hard hearted and
rough, and he's soft hearted, unkind, and then the Prophet peace
be upon him smiled, and he said, she spoken the truth. Right? So
the sunnah to be with a one spouse is that someone should be
forbearing. And as the Prophet peace be upon him, gave the
example that Elijah and outside the house and a lamp inside that
this was the example that Saida Aisha told them a story one time,
and it's a very long story. And from this, one of our teachers
from Sudan, from London said, this is the Hadith that teaches us that
anytime, at least one session a day, if your wife wants to talk to
you, you should never tell her you're busy, you should just
listen to everything that she has to say, okay, and listen and
become interested. And if your heart's not interested, make
yourself interested. Okay? Even if it's a matter of level, right,
because this say that he was telling the Messenger of Allah, he
is the messenger of Allah, he has a religion to establish. He has a
habit to teach. He's ahead of a city, there are people attacking
them. There are tribes all around like wolves. And yet she wants to
tell them the story of not one woman, not two women 11 Women from
pre Islamic days. It's a tale. It's like a fable, right 11 Women
and their situation with their husband. So what does it sound
like? It's almost like a like a drama almost like a fairy tale, a
fable, something that's not real about women and their husbands
that the women used to tell. And Aisha had heard it from someone,
and she started to tell the story to the Prophet. So fiction, it's a
story of fiction. It's not something hot. It's not truth.
It's not commanding writing for bidding wrong. And yet the
prophesy centum sat and listened to the story of 11 women and their
husbands. And this hadith is a famous Hadith called Hadith, OMA
Zahra, because the one that the Prophet peace be upon him said is
the best was was the husband of omega and omega. That was the
woman who said that my husband is the best. He's outside like a
lion. And inside like a lamb, however, he divorced her, he
divorced on his own, and the prophets I said, I'm said, I'm
like,
the husband. Oh, mazel tov to you, except that I will not divorce
you. Alright, so this was the prophet peace upon him summit and
a living example a model, a demonstration on listening.
indulging the story and if you're not interested, make yourself
interested. Like, if you hear a verse of hellfire, right, we
mustn't, we get very good at making our heart move. If you hear
a verse of hellfire, and it doesn't bother you. Then the
prophesy said make it bother you write it you should make it money.
And likewise, if you don't feel compassion towards another Muslim,
towards another person towards an animal, then make yourself feel
compassion we know that the Prophet peace be upon him said a
woman who trapped her cat inside the house. She prays all night and
she fast all day. And yet the Prophet peace be upon him said
she's in the fire, because she's being cruel to a cat. So if you
find yourself merciless, make yourself merciful, okay.
So in this case, if you're not interested in what they have to
say, then make yourself interested as a prophet made himself
interested in the story of Omaha. Okay, and the nausea that I
received from a sheikh Abu Bakr soo Danny, was that at least once
a day, you should sit and allow your wife to doc to dictate what
to talk about and talk about what she wants to talk about. Following
this example that the Prophet used to visit whoever his date was, and
he used to do this, he didn't dictate the discussion. He didn't
dictate what's happening and he very
they just ate and listened and basically unwind for the rest of
the day. Okay for the end of the day, okay? The last instruction
the prophets of Allah Salam gave was about three things
which he went on speaking till his tongue stem and his words became,
he became tired basically said, the ritual prayer, the ritual
prayer, okay? And he said, your slaves and servants do not impose
upon them what they cannot bear. And he said, Allah, Allah remember
him where your women are concerned, for they are like
captives in your hands. In other words, in the most cases, the
women are stuck, right? In most cases in human history, they're
stuck with the husband, they may not be happy. So he said, Allah
Allah. In other words, I beseech you, by Allah, and I warn you and
remind you of ALLAH SubhanA, which I remember him, okay? When it
regards your women, for they are, like captives in your hands. All
right, I want and in other words, not captives, like real slaves,
but they're trapped. And most cases, oh, as soon as a woman has
one child or two child and three children, and maybe she doesn't
have the ability to have earning power to support us to provide for
them, and maybe she didn't have a dad and maybe to take care of her.
And maybe she would have a brother to take care of her. At that
point, she becomes almost trapped, okay? In this marriage, so so be
careful of that. And be mindful of that and make sure that you don't
go to a law and Yamo piano
where with a having died and left a wife that wants to take you as a
defendant and she is going to be the plaintiff, okay? Because
that's not going to be good. Okay, you have taken them as a truss
from Allah and have treated their and their private area has become
lawful for you. So all the privacy of a woman which is her body has
become lawful for you. So be mindful of this every time that
you feel anger is coming up, and you want to talk back, okay? So
remember that what is private from the from the woman has become
lawful for you, they have allowed this for you, right? So remember
this when you become angry. Of course, this is advice for our
sfor you know, this is tough advice to give because you have to
act upon it and practice it.
He also said some Allah when he was selling whoever endures his
wife's bad character, let's say if a woman has bad character, if he
endures it, that Allah will re give, reward him with the reward
of a youth or a salon for his tribulation, which was his seventh
year of sickness. Walter one who endures the bad character of her
husband, okay, the bad character of her husband, she will be given
the reward like unto the reward of ESEA, the wife of our own SEM,
Raja for our own, right, and she prayed for a house in paradise to
free her from the house that she was in. So she was enduring of the
abuse and the evil of Fanon, and his actions. And she was tormented
seeing that her husband that she asked to live in the same house
with him, right and near his wife is tormenting the people and the
prophet that she believes in. And the young boy that she loved to,
which was her adopted son, Satan, the moose out as Anna, as he was
his foster mother. So you can't remember it. You can't forget that
not only it was an issue of Eman and Cofer, but also an issue of a
foster mom and her, her foster son, her adopted son that she took
care of that she raised. And it was said that the Egyptian women
at the time, they would not cohabit with their husbands, so
that the royalty of a woman if a woman was considered royal, like
them bracha as is in the time of use of that such women that they
would not have sexual relations with their husband, and they would
not have kids with their husband. That was the role of a wife was
not for * and producing children. But rather, it was
almost like a different position, so that she didn't have her own
children that say to ask, you didn't have children, and she had
her maternal instinct was coming up, and she really wanted a child.
And that's where she received Musa de Sena. And Allah gave her heart
the prophet Musa whom she loved and raised up to manhood, and saw
him become a great man until at the age of 40, he had to are at
the age of 30, he had to leave. And he had his situation with the
Egyptians, and he killed the Egyptian man. And he had
discovered that he's actually from
the bene incident aid. And he started his heart started to turn
towards the end of Surah, eight, until he saw a dispute between an
Egyptian and a man for ministry, and the Egyptian was putting down
the Hebrew. So Musa punched him or pushed him so hard that he died.
And then that's basically murder. So Hebrew killed an Egyptian, and
that's capital punishment. So at that point, Mossad s&m fled, he
crossed the desert went into the Arabian Desert, into Midian. And
Bear learn the ways of prophecy. He spent 10 years with just the
animals, hurting the sheep and living with a few people in the
tribe.
We are in the little family of Evo minion. And some people say it was
the prophet show I, some people say that the person that prophet
was to spend time with was the other Naveen show I had a son, who
had finished his mission with his people and was now living in
retirement, worshiping Allah and being with his family alone. And
so that Musa Alison and lived with him. And what the great scholar
I've been covering Jane, Annie says is that it shows that when a
person is in the midst of worldly affairs, and he's busy, and his
mind is always occupied with worldly affairs, that before Musa
received the way from Allah subhanaw taala, he needed 10 years
of silence away from the creation, so that he could forget all of
that he used to be busy with and create a new type of life, whereas
life was very simple. And then he could receive the why from Allah
subhanho wa taala. And the what he's teaching us is that if you
want to draw near to Allah, you have to sort of detox first a
little bit. And of course, no one's going anywhere for 10 years,
right, but rather for periods of time, and we talked about this and
virtues of seclusion is that before we even can start doing it,
but that's and draw, start bringing food into our heart, we
have to let the other stuff go. The other stuff has to go, the
worldly thoughts, the worldly memories that we have in our
hearts, the entertainment that's in our minds, the news, all these
things, it's got to go. Right and therefore, one of the Syrian
scholars, there's a casita. And he says, when a person sits down for
the first third of the vicar is
the first quarter of the vicar is just erasing the the short term
memories and the things that have been on our mind. The second
quarter of the vicar is removing the sins. The third quarter of the
vicar is getting engaged with Allah azza wa jal, and the fourth
quarter, the final portion of the ticket is where you're no longer
even conscious that you're doing because you're sort of in the
mode, right? You're locked in. And he said, That's the phases of the
ticket. And that's why it takes a while to benefit from the effects
of the ticket and that it's much better to do all your thinking in
one shot in one long session than to parse it into many little
sessions. Okay, well loads. But that's what he said. And that's a
little aside on the Prophet Musa days.
All right, I think that
okay, well, we'll wrap up this section, and then we'll stop it
for the day and anyone has any comments or questions? Feel free?
You should know that treating them well means more than just keeping
them from pain, treating them well. It's not just keeping them
under a house and having food and then saying, Well, what do you
have, we have a roof over your head and food on the table. He
says it means good, Southern, putting up with their moods, okay,
putting up with their anger, okay. And having somebody with it. The
prophets wives used to contradict him, and one of them one time,
talk to him about seeking some certain things all the way from
the morning to the night one day that he records here that one day,
the prophesy centum that one of his wives kept talking to him and
she had issues and she was upset from morning to night. He never
left the house, just to pray and come back and she kept talking and
he was
having trouble with that. Furthermore, he relates that once
I'm saying I'm Isha about the Allah TADHANA okay, that she had a
dispute and she called the judge. So here you have the messenger of
allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he's the Judge of all humanity.
And she's saying bring us a bring me a judge the prophesy. centum
said fine. Who are you going to bring abacus a dip. So she brought
Abu Bakr Sandeep and Abu Bakr Siddiq says, what is it? She said,
Judge between us? And Abu Bakar looked at the prophets I said, How
can I judge the Prophet of Allah, and the Prophet said, He nodded
his head. And then she and then the Prophet said, who should speak
first.
And to say that she said, You speak first but don't speak except
the truth. At that same time saying I'm lucky to be king he
like got so angry, he pulled out a stick, okay? And and say nice or
ran behind the Prophet peace be upon him. And that was end of the
dispute. So
So when even when say that Isha wanted to bring a judge on the
Prophet, he accepted it. So a lot of southern on a lot of
forbearance, and I'm telling you, if a person has some roughness in
his heart, what he should do is study this chapter. If he gets
married, then that roughness in his heart will go away, the suburb
will come and you'll be make sacrifices that are necessary
sometimes, and it's good for your soul to have this kind of southern
with with people. So the best practice is to practice right in
your own home. Right. And that's why I honestly don't understand
how people can give me giving advice, right, when they're not
When they're when they're not married, I'm talking specifically
about priests, right? How are they going to lead people when they
don't know how they're living day in and day out? Okay.
With no disrespect to the Catholic religion, but it's just I'm just
wondering how is it that he knows what's going on in your house?
Okay, what kind of ups and down of moods people have, okay.
So another one
the venerable Alma, if no Kata
was contradicted his wife contradicted him say normally
would have thought. He said something his wife said no. And he
says, Are you going to contradict me? And she said, the wives are
the messengers of Allah while he was setting them have contradicted
him with more and he's better than you. Right? He's the Prophet peace
be upon all right.
And he became so upset, he said, have some better not contradict
the Messenger of Allah. Okay. And then he said to have some and he
went to have some, okay and he went to and he said, I heard that
you will contradict the Prophet peace be upon him and talk back to
him. He said you better not contrary to talk back to him and
he said don't think that you're like Isha, okay with Isha is the
darling of the Messenger of Allah and He will tolerate anything from
her. Right? So this was said to Omar wanting his family to be
upright and polite, and as any Muslim child should be any Muslim
should be period with the messenger of allah sallallahu it
was okay. And you could link this back up to what we said earlier
about those doctrines, which insult the Prophet peace be upon
him by
even either making his belief in Him not obligatory for a Muslim or
believing that this finality is not final, his prophethood is not
final. Okay, so, every Muslim household the Prophet, peace be
upon him said raise them on the recitation of the Quran, the love
of the Prophet, and the love of his family. And Sam mccannon, may
Allah subhana wa Tada give him Shiva and give him something and
give his whole family someone who's now sick with ALS. He said
something one time that really just hit me, and I brought it up
man is joining us here and he was there, I bet I think was there it
was at NYU, some while back, kind of Latif had put together an
event. And Osama said to the degree that Muslims understand,
love and respect the Prophet peace be upon him, then they love
respect and understand Islam. It was beautiful, is beautiful
because you can know the Quran inside out but not have any touch
of the messenger Peace be upon. But a person could know everything
about the Prophet peace be upon him and he'll know Islam perfectly
even if he's gehad on the matters of the Quran
which of course does not decrease the rank of the Quran of course,
but Islam is from the Prophet peace be upon him and there was no
group of people more who emphasizes more than called the
Ayyad and the scholars of the Maliki method and his book is
Shiva and hope and most of us have Allah when he was on which is
basically the summary of Edison OMG math all revolves around
giving the Prophet his rights because if you do, then your
update will be sound your fifth will be sound everything will be
sound, and your heart will be sound, your dad will be sound and
the community will be sound etcetera.
The prophet is the living example of the Quran. So knowing the
prophet is like having the Tafseer of the Quran Okay, whereas having
the Quran alone does not necessitate your understand the
Quran, so you can if you don't understand the Prophet peace be
upon him. Right? If you understand if you do understand the Prophet
peace be upon him you have understood the Quran, but vice
versa is not as possible you could possibly have the Quran study at
all your life and if you don't study the Prophet peace be upon
him then you can easily misunderstand the Quran it can be
led misguided by it. Okay.
It is related that one of the wives of the prophets of Allah
when he was Saddam, okay, it was one time
pointing to the Prophet and putting him on his chest. Okay.
And the mother of that of that of that woman of that white wife was
there and she knocked her hand down is it don't do that to the
Messenger of Allah and the prophesy says that leave them be
they do sometimes do worse than that. Okay, so just to show you if
the messenger is having this summer, right then who are we to
be walking like for Allen in the house?
Sometimes you think really, sometimes you don't want your wife
to read these chapters, you're going to be in trouble. So you're
going to start quoting stuff and altercation once broke out between
the prophet and say that issue and they brought it as referee. We
just talked about that. Another time. She said to him, You call
yourself Allah's Prophet indeed Subhan Allah And Allah's Messenger
smiles and left, okay.
The Prophet oftentimes said to her, I can tell when you're angry
and when you're happy when you're angry. You swear by every prophet
except me, right?
Do
you swear by the god of every prophet but me and when you're
happy, then you swear by me, the garden my by by the Lord of
Muhammad.
It is said that the first love in Islam was that of the prophets of
Allah when he was setting them and say that Isha he used to say your
I Am unto you like I was up I was to own zero, except that I shall
never divorce you. And he used to say to his other wives do not
torment me about Ayesha by Allah the revelation came down to me
while I was in her bed was while I was in nobody else's bed but hers
okay? And it's also the what he is what married the property issue he
didn't think of it himself but rather the way he came with the
marriage of our issue of the prophets. I seldom saw a dream in
which St. Jude need brought him a silk garment and and then when he
opened it he found that a doula on and so at the low Anna said Allah
is busted messenger was the most compassion of men towards women
and towards children. So here you have it and the Sunnah overrides
and abrogates completely anyone who imagines that he can hit his
wife and we said earlier and we talked about this before that
anytime that striking the wife comes is not striking them like
batting around but rather physically removing them from what
harms them and what harms their family. Okay, such as a woman do
exam if you oh man comes in and finds his wife doing Zina then he
can physically remove her. Okay, from that area. If a woman is on
drugs or she drinks he can physically restrain her from
drinks and drugs. Okay, and those types of situations that is the
tough seat and the correct understanding of the area which
they call 434 All right, one three Wuhan Okay. In which some people
imagine that this is a man going around smacking his wife around
whenever he's not happy with her that this is good that this is
okay. Such a person I'm telling you you have to study the Prophet
peace be bombed don't try to do a tough SEE YOU OKAY of yourself
because we were taught by shift Sadek. He says Al Quran right
Tafseer to whom Allah the Quran trying to understand it with
yourself right ism Ebola metabo you're gonna get lost, you can
even go astray not only can get lost you can go astray right. So
what you have to do is understand is understand the Sierra and the
Shema and the Savannah and the Prophet peace be upon him then
will truly understand Islam. Alright, so let's stop here and
take any of your questions or comments.
Let's see what do we have? Do we have any in depth book on Seder
Isha?
If anyone has any such book please mention it because I myself
personally don't know of any in depth book biography on a say that
you should have the low
Gibreel even if it says Leila and Allah Muhammad Rasul Allah, what's
the second part of the Kadima for, if not to distinguish the prophets
of Allah who it was salam and Eliana, calendula Candido? He's
right. And this issue is at the root of the issue. And what we're
talking about is the fatty Ania. And I mentioned the Qadiani
earlier in the stream, because I said that I'm telling you what's
what's on what's coming forward as a as a forecast, right? As a
forecast, and Allah only knows what's going to happen. But as a
forecast, this group, the Qadiani, is they're going to try to get
academic, they're going to try to get political, and they're going
to try to weasel their way into mainstream Muslim organizations.
And what they're going to try to do is, make it such that you can't
basically say that this ideology is kofler. And whoever follows it
as co founder, Qadiani, they're not Muslim, that they're going to
try to go that route. And what I'm saying is, personally speaking, I
don't have any plans to really respect,
origin to mince words on the doctrine of the Qadiani. He's
right, and that it's direct Cofer, and there's no wiggling around it.
And there's no to go after the prophets of Allah. It was whatever
they want to wiggle in and say dreams came and the prophets I
said, I'm saying 146, the prophecy remains in you. That doesn't mean
someone can be called in to be right. It has nothing to do with
that. Right? And that the prophets I send him said Mohammed foon,
right, that those were inspired, and all these types of things that
they try to wiggle.
Totally not interested.
Totally not interested with, into mincing words on that subject. I'm
not insulting any of them. But I'm saying that I don't really have
any respect for midazolam the liar, and nor do I have Frithjof
Chawan or any of these other liars were basically trying to invent
they're basically inventing new religions.
So had swayed by that says slime is just a regular series. When do
you plan to continue I do plan to do a stream every Monday and the
series on marriage, some of them are live stream and some of them
you're going to have to get them from teachables which is Safina
dash online.teachable.com When it goes up and so there are a lot of
videos on the marriage topic that are not streamed, but we do I'm
trying to do a stream every Monday. Maria says I don't
understand the part about revelation coming when the
prophets of Allah when he was sending was without Isha. What he
meant was the prophet peace be upon him was
was
when he when he was laying down in bed, he would never receive
revelation with exception to when he was lying down next to isha in
the bed. He received revelation while laying down in bed next to
Seda Isha. And this never happened to any of the other wife of the
Prophet peace be upon him. And I had to Wilson says, What do you
recommend as a primer on the Sierra? There are a couple, Karen
Armstrong number one, even though she's not a Muslim, I wish you to
become a Muslim. She's, she's she's done so much in support of
Islam and in support of the Prophet peace be upon him. And
she's done so much. I just wished that although I pray that Allah
azza wa jal guide her, she has a great book on the Sierra tonic
Ramadan, whom the accusations against him to me are nonsense.
I know them and not closely, but I know him. And I don't believe
anything that's being said until they prove it. Right. The man is
innocent until proven guilty. But he has a good book on the Sierra.
And my favorite is Martin lings. His book on the Sierra with the
exception of the one line that he has, in which he puts in his
perennial list idea, which is basically that these two streams
Islam and Christianity came together as if they're both true.
And we know that Christianity is meant to abrogated and we know
that they have also
altered their books, so their book is not reliable to follow in the
first place. None of their sources are reliable to the fall in the
first place. But he does insert that idea, and he has like a
couple of other minor errors and you could look at Djibouti had
dead GF had dead. He puts his critique of Martin Lynch's book,
but personally speaking, that tug goes straight to my heart, the
style of his writing, everything about it goes straight into my
heart. Martin Ling's his book on the series called Muhammad is life
based on the earliest sources, which is basically a translation
of ignition, okay, is happening in his heart, which is a summary of
that mission.
Sorry, even Hashem is a summary of his illness have lived in the time
of emetic, it may Hashem is a student who basically took his
syrup, polished it off. Okay, and that's the main Syrah that's one
of the best ones we have. And Martin lenses book is, is more or
less a translation of that. And he has other things.
He also takes from admins out as well.
And as admins, Akhmad says RAM which works of Tafseer in English
language, would you recommend the best work of tafsir in the English
language? Is that of the I always forget the name of it?
It's the work of Mufti Mohammad Shafi, who is the current Mufti of
Pakistan, his father, and I always forget the actual name of the
book. It's like eight volumes. I don't even know how you're gonna
buy it. Maybe it's a PDF. Okay, but that's, I don't even know that
many tough CEOs in the English language as for translations, I my
what my recommendation on that is Muhammad Halima Muhammad Abdul
Saleem's Oxford publication of the translation of the Quran
except as well on the word Islam. He also translated as submission I
guess he has to be politically correct. Verily, the religion in
the sight of Allah is Islam or
the only religion acceptable is Islam. And he translate that as
submission which is a political translation. I guess he had to do
that but he knows it's not right.
Junaid sada had said Zack love was
provoking podcasts please don't worry, I will show that we'll do
we'll try to do one every Monday.
For Fozia says what is meant by marrying fulfills half of the deen
specifically what is gained in the deen your character and your good
deeds, your character good deeds and understanding of the divine
attributes because your character when you have to have solid, your
character when you have to be giving your character when you
have to defend your even understanding of Islam changes
when you're married and you have little Rugrats running around and
you have dependents and you live in a community, your understanding
of the deen becomes more sharp more clear and you push away the
stuff that's more just extracurricular or unnecessary,
okay. And your good deeds increase because every day you go out to
work and you bring back food and you bring back a house right or
you put a roof over these little kids his head and you take care of
your spouse, etcetera. All these are good deeds that could not
possibly happen outside of marriage or an outside of having a
family and likewise your understanding of the divine
attributes grows and increases from the aspect that to understand
the nature of somebody to understand the nature of
generosity to understand the nature of him to understand the
nature of people and they how they change to understand the nature of
a lot of different attributes of Allah attributes of character
which makes you understand those divine attributes which you
wouldn't understand otherwise, okay, so only by existing with
people and in close quarters.
Can you truly understand these attributes and when you understand
attributes, and then you realize that Allah describes himself with
those attributes, then your understanding of ally himself
increases and becomes more amplified.
Now He literally says that I'm sharing on the subject of striking
the wave please could you explain how do we justify the incident the
profit a you PSP vaanam striking his wife albeit lightly, thanks.
Well, he had sworn it, right. So he instead of fasting three days,
that Allah said, Take 100 pieces of wheat and tamper with it. So
just to to,
to fulfill his oath because in a moment of rage, he because he said
to her, in a moment of anger, I should say, he said to her, Well,
I'm gonna give you 100 lashes. And the phrase 100 lashes is like, was
like a phrase, right? But he, he needed to fulfill it. It's not
like he wanted to do that. Right? But he came stuck. He didn't want
to do it, he became stuck. So Allah subhanaw taala gave him an
outlet for it, which was take 100 things of wheat and tamper with
it. And that's it. So he he said it as an idiom. Right? And we say
this all the time. Right? Go you know, you schooled your kids. You
said I will I'm gonna hit you. If you don't do this, right. And for
us in our city. If you say an oath like that, it doesn't count. It's
called love. No one Hadith, right? And it's an oath that doesn't
count by mercy and Asha, but for the Prophet a youth he said it and
now he had to actually fulfill it. So instead of having to fast three
days, and having broken his oath, because he's a prophet, he can't
break his oath. So then Allah gave him an outlet and it was a
harmless basically just a tap. Okay.
Hope that answers the question
all right, if there are no other questions, we'll just give it a
second. And if there are no other questions, we'll log off.
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