Season 3 Ep 26

You're listening to the productive Muslim podcast season three, Episode 26.

Welcome to the productive Muslim podcast season three SMRT comm I'm your host, Dean of Howdy, and welcome to day 26 of the productive Muslim Ramadan hot detox challenge. So, for today, your article is on how to be a productive mediator. Now, this is really important because sometimes you find yourself in the middle of an argument between two people. And you're the one who is trying to try to keep the peace trying to get people together. One of the things that generally tends to happen here is when someone comes to you with a problem, you might be very horrified. You're like, Oh, my God, let me tell you about what I heard about their problem is absolutely awful. But you've not heard the

other side. And then when you hear the other side, you're like, oh, okay, maybe that first person wasn't as honest as I thought they were. Because maybe it might not even be that they were being dishonest. But when you have a perspective of how you perceive something, you might not be able to articulate all the sides to the story. And so before you pass a judgment on any dispute, you need to make sure that you've had all of the sides. Okay, the next thing that you need to do is you need to be searching for wisdom from the Father and Son. So sometimes, because we get, you know, in situations where somebody has been violated, where somebody has not been given the right, somebody

has been oppressed, it's very easy for us to become angry at them and give an emotional judgement. But unless parents Allah has ordered that we give just judgments, okay? That unless panel dialog orders, justice, and good conduct, so even though we might sympathize with someone, we might find the actions of someone that borrowed, we might feel like, you know, they deserve to be punished. But you have to make sure that whatever judgment you're passing is in line with a last panel data and the Sharia. You also need to make forgiveness, your aim, forgiveness is something that is very, very crucial. And it's not something that is going to come quickly. You know, within a lot of disputes,

there might be people who are really suffering. And forgiveness isn't about keeping their feelings bottled up, you know, you shouldn't leave anything unspoken inside a person's heart. But forgiveness here is that where the process and them said, it is not lawful for a Muslim to desert, and not speak to his brother Muslim for more than three days, while meeting, one turns his face to one side. And the other times face to the other side, the better of the two is the one who starts greeting each other. Now, obviously, there are people who've suffered quite a lot. And this for them is going to be something very difficult, there might be someone that they don't want to speak to. And you know,

the pain that they've been through, we cannot understand it. But we need to remember at this point that unless pantalla will recompense them in a way that they're not going to even imagine, because whoever pardons and makes reconciliation, his reward is due from Allah subhanaw taala.

The other thing, there are two key points within this article that I thought were actually quite beneficial in that the first one is obviously to keep the problem to yourself. If someone has come and they are trusting you with their personal problem and their personal secrets, it is not for you to divulge any of these details to anyone, you know, imagine as well, like sometimes you feel you're, you're settling a dispute between two people and other family members have gotten involved. And you feel like you're going to share some of the information with those family members. Imagine how much worse it end up becoming if the two people originally involved? And like why are you

telling somebody else about things that I have told you personally, relationships, and reputations are at stake. And if there are children involved, there's a lot more at risk, and you need to be very aware of this. The last point within this last point is very crucial is that women need to know their rights in Islam. So the person who wrote this article is somebody who has done counseling for Muslim families before. And he said that one of the things that broke his heart was seeing the amount of women that would come that were unjustly oppressed, because they did not know what their rights were as a Muslim and their ignorance left them vulnerable to be exploited. As a woman before

you entered into any sort of relationship with a Muslim, whether it's you're getting married or Muslim, or your mother or something, make sure you know the rights that Islam has given you. Allah subhanaw taala is just less power to Allah is fair, and has given us rights in Islam that we are entitled to. So you need to make sure that you're aware of this. If you're not somebody who has any disputes with people or is never involved in settling any disputes. At least you have these tips in mind. Should that opportunity ever arise and you have the opportunity to gain some reward by being adjusted fair mediator, the rest of your task for the day, you're going to get your family members

together and cook in your recipe for dinner. I recognize this might be quite hard if you have family members who will just say no, but I want you guys to insist to them. I want you to try your best

Maybe ends up being that you just get one family member and you cook something interesting cook something new that you haven't cooked before and always have a backup option just in case your cooking turns out really bad and you want to stick with stuff that you already know. And then your last task is to do a drink or an recitation with your family of adjust from

so bring your family together you know if you're reciting together it will only take about 20 minutes 2025 minutes maximum you know maybe you can alter each other if you're reading advantages ama you can each decide to read a sorta each if you're reading another just from the Quran. You can each say a half a page and you rotate around each other. These are your thoughts for the day. I hope you guys are having a wonderful day not Ramadan. We've only got a few days left less than five days left. inshallah and I hope May Allah reward you and bless you guys and give you guys strength and patience through these days as salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.