Omar Suleiman – Ramadan Late Night Khatira 07 14 2015
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The speakers discuss the importance of forgiveness as a means of apologizing for past mistakes and avoiding negative behavior. They stress the need for individuals to set goals and accept boundaries to avoid sin. The conversation also touches on the negative impact of insisting on major concessions, such as causing people to do things they shouldn't or feel embarrassed by others.
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seminar Rahman Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah Karim Allah Ernie he will be a trained so mashallah since we have a much bigger crowd tonight so let's recap quickly yesterday we did about Oksana through the different categories of sensible recovering the chapter of Toba in Malta Salman hudgell Cassadine buddy Mammon Kodama Rahim Allah Tada, which is a summary of a summary of theatrical Modine by the members of the HEMA Allah to Allah. So we did the categories of sins who can tell me there were four categories of sins, what was the first category of sense?
Raise your hands, sister. Yep.
The overbearing sense which our room will be, as the nobe room will be the sense that overcome a person and so we said that those are, you know, things like what, what are some examples of that quality? pride, arrogance showing off things that overtake you and you're not paying attention? Right? You're just not even paying attention then next thing you know, you develop these qualities and basically Shavon is able to spoil your good deeds to turn things that are inherently good and to evil things where you don't and mousseline a loving home Ancelotti himself one fell out off Oh ALLAH for Su cola de la la hache la tubal Tito saw Ducati common money will other things that are good
prayer is rendered evil was a car charity is rendered evil hedges rendered evil fasting is rendered evil if the if the things that that overtake them, spoil them. Okay, so there there are sins that are of the overbearing quality then there was a second type what were the
satanic as the norm or shape or near satanic sins and what are Satanic sins?
Somebody gives me an example.
You want to bring somebody down because you think
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over their sister.
What are they?
I can't hear. Burden. Murder, no.
Envy, trickery, deceit.
Okay, envy, trickery, deceit, hypocrisy. All of these fall into satanic qualities. Then we said there's a third category and what's that third category?
As an old Albania things that are animalistic. So what are some animalistic sins or what are some animal animalistic qualities? You know, lust, desire, adultery, those types of things. Those are things that are animalistic in their nature. And then we said, finally, the fourth one,
vicious qualities, such as, you know, physical violence, hatred, murder, when you inflict misery upon other people, okay, where you actually become angry, and your anger gets the best of you and you actually start to harm other people. We said that within each of these qualities, there's graduation within these qualities. So it might start off, you might have a little anger problem, but it might become a great anger problem, your desire might, might get the best of you in a small quantity. But then next thing you know, you know, you go from, from, from watching something to doing something, for example, right? You go from, you know, from from, from attending something, and
there's an implicit part of that sin to actually going and looking for that sin. For example, there are graduation, with there's graduation within these qualities themselves, then we said that you go from one quality to the next quality. Okay, so it starts off with animalistic desires, right? Then when your desires get the best of you, you become satanic. And then you become overcome by these these different things like pride and so on, so forth, and you become wicked, and you start to hurt people and so on so forth, in order to pursue that sense. So he said, some of these sins are in the heart, some of them are in the mind, some of them are with the hands and so on, so forth. And the
way that this chapter started was the importance of constantly being in a state of Toba. Now, let's move on to the second part of this, which is where he talks about Oxfam is the norm he talks about the different categories of sins he says, and the sins are also of two kinds there are a minor sins and there are major sins okay. There are minor sins and there are major sins and he says that you know, the people the scholars differed over what constitutes a major sin so there are different Hadith one of them the prophets lie Selim mentioned a seven the seven sins a Saba and movie called The Seven destructive sense, seven destructive sense. This is a Hadith from above, right all of the
A lot of times anyone Bukhari and Muslim, the Prophet slicin I'm set to avoid the seven destructive sins. And the people said, yeah rasool Allah, what are they? He said to associate others in worship with a lump so basically should to practice sorcery.
Okay, to kill a life that Allah Subhana Allah to Allah or to take a life that Allah has forbidden you to take so murder
The fourth one is echoed labor to engage in usury or rebar interest. The fifth one is to appropriate and orphans wealth to take an orphans wealth. The sixth one is to flee from the battlefield in the time of fighting, you're in the middle of the battlefield, you're in a battle and you flee at that time. And the seventh one is to slander a pure believing woman.
You know, with the slander of adultery, a woman that doesn't deserve to be slandered you slander her. And you know you accuse her in regards to her purity and her chastity there's another Hadith from Ibn Mr. Udo the Allahu Anhu where he said I asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, what is the greatest sin in the sight of Allah Subhana Allah to Allah Akbar to them, what's the worst of them all? Well, Salah sai Salam says that you associate a partner with Allah subhana wa Tada though he created you. So a Shem could be love. It's the greatest sin in the sight of Allah subhanaw taala. Why because the other sins, you know, you might be doing them but at least there's an acknowledgment
that you're messing up. At least there's an acknowledgement that you know what Allah deserves better for me. But when you're not even going to acknowledge your Creator and you're not even going to acknowledge his oneness, then what's left for you in regards to hope so the greatest sin of the sight of Allah is shipped. And you know, some of you might have seen I talked about this in the people of Quran series. When Allah Subhana Allah, Allah says in surah, Medina, okay, that you know that the word of schicke that the word of shidduch is enough to split the entire skies and shatter the mountains. Right? I mean, the skies are holding themselves, the mountains are holding themselves
and they will run anywhere. There are people there associate a partner with Allah subhanho wa Taala it's the greatest sin in the sight of Allah subhanho wa taala. He said, Then I asked the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, what's next?
And he said, to kill your son, lest he should share your, your food with you. And what that means is to kill your child actually, it's not necessarily your son, some people would kill their children out of poverty. Okay, they were killed their children out of poverty out of fear of poverty. Then I said what's next? And he said, to commit Zina with the wife of your neighbor, or with the spouse of your neighbor, that's actually something even within the 10 commandments right. So if you notice here, these are graduated, these are graduated degrees within the sinful qualities within these things we that we already know our major sin so murder is bad enough, but to kill your own child,
right? Who your so Allah subhanaw taala entrusted you with Allah azza wa jal gave you that child as an Amana and you get to the point where you kill your own child. Right? Number three was, you know, committing, Zina is a major sin and of itself. Adultery is a major sin in and of itself. But when you're going to commit adultery with your neighbor, and you know, back then neighbors are we're different than they are now and they are individualistic society now, you know, the way that we live now, you know, you might live in an apartment complex and you've got someone right across from you and you never talked to that person. Right back then. Neighbors were communities. And that's why you
find this heavy emphasis on neighbors, and the neighbor has great rights upon you. For sola sola Harney was salam says that Gibreel and his salaam County also even just had to have one and two Anna who say you worry for debris, it kept coming to me and telling me go treat your neighbor well go do this for your neighbor, go do this for your neighbor until the Prophet slicin and thought that Gibreel running his salon was going to assign a share of inheritance to his neighbor. So the neighbors have incredible rights upon you. Right and the books of fish are full of these huge chapters on how to treat your neighbor and what constitutes your neighbor. Many of the elements they
said seven houses to the right seven houses to the left seven houses in front of you seven houses behind you. They use the seven I mean think about it like we can barely have a nice conversation with the person that lives right next door to us. But your neighbors have rights upon you so when the profit slice and I'm says that a person would commit Zina even with the spouse of his neighbor, it means that you've gone to the knock you know you've betrayed the trust of that neighbor to the extent that you've brought Zina into their home. Okay? So it's not that Zina is not is not a bad enough quality in and of itself but this is the most graduated form of that quality it'd be no
matter the law and who said that the profit slice and I'm says that the major sins and this isn't so he had Buhari or two
and tertiary Kabila he shows that you associate a partner with a loss of Hannah Montana and that you disobey your parents.
So the prophets lie Selim said there are two major sins and another Hadith from Annecy, automatic Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, Shall I tell you what the worst of sins are? an NSL the law and who says what it is? What is it in the profit slice I'm Sasha had at the zoo false testimony.
And we're working on the law and who said that one time the profit slice I'm kept standing he kept saying er commercial, zoo beware.
of giving false testimony. And the prophets lie some kept saying it until we thought he would say it all night long until the morning meaning we thought that he'd never stopped saying it. The prophets lie some was warning us about false testimony. Now, why is what's false testimony here? All right, there are different forms of false testimony Shahad at the zoo, you're in a courtroom. When your testimony is a lie, which would result in you know, someone else having their rights taken away from them. It's bad enough that that person had Volland committed against them that that person had injustice committed against them, but for you to come in, and to not even allow for the rights to be
restored. Because we know that there are some things you can never bring back like when you go to a courtroom because you've lost your child or because someone killed someone in your family. No matter what happens at the end, you're still going to be sad, you've you've suffered voting regardless, nothing can can can compensate for that. But at least seeing justice serve is some form of concentration. So when you obstruct that justice, when you stand in the way between you know a person's rights being fulfilled, then you put yourself in very unfavorable standing with ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada because Allah and Allah Who head will mcstuffin Allah loves those who establish and
uphold justice. You know, when Allah tells you that he loves someone, it means that he hates the opposite of that. Allah loves that Allah Subhana Allah Allah loves those who uphold justice. Wala who lay your head Beauvoir in it. And Allah hates those who are pressing those who transgress. So when you stand in the way when you give false testimony, and it could be by the way, it doesn't necessarily have to be in a courtroom. It could be you know, in regards to just someone being slandered or something happening in a community or to two brothers, two sisters quarreling over money and you come in and you give a false testimony. The prophets lie some one really heavily about
that, In another Hadith from Abu Bakr, Radi Allahu Allah and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned that the biggest of major sins are to join others in worship to Allah to disobey the parents. And the prophets lie Selim, he stood up and he said, and I warn you against shahada to Zeus. And he kept repeating that against false testimony. Now, why am I mentioning all of this the Redeemer? The scholars, they they really, they disputed about what the exact number of major sins are? Right? What are the major sins? How many major sins are there?
You know, they disagreed whether they're the seven sins that the prophets lie some talked about, or they're more than that. You know, some of the scholars like even Mr. Doolittle, the low tide and who he said they were for, it been almost said they were seven, even above so the low tide and who said that? There are 70 not just 770 major sins. Even on Basel, the law on who says anything that requires a head in this world, a prescribed punishment in this world is a major sin. So if you look at all the crimes in Islam that require a HUD require a punishment, it's considered a major sin. Even Miss Rudolph the longtime, who he said, scrutiny sat verse 31, to 33 those are the major sins,
say the potential Badal the louder I'm who he said anything in the Quran that Allah promises specifically hellfire, for it is a major sin. So for lots associates the punishment of help specifically with a sin in the Quran, that it makes it a major sin.
Finally, you have our parliament McKee, or the a lot of other analysts who enumerated them, he said, there's 17 major sins. So he mentioned four in the heart, one of them which is Shik associating a partner with a law the second one which is insisting on a sin, whether it's minor or major is fraud, and I'll see to insist on a sin number three to despair of Allah's Mercy is a major sin. Well, Miyamoto Rahmatullah those who despair of the mercy of Allah subhanaw taala is a major sin number four to feel secure against Allah's plan as a major sin, the opposite of despair. Okay, a Timoney is a major sin. So he said those are major sins of the heart. He said then there are four with the Tunc
and he said it's false witness Sahara desert. He said slandering a poor woman. He's, that's number two. He said, false swearing taking a false oath. Okay, what is false swearing? What's the difference between shahada disorder and a false oath?
Well lie
and it's not true.
It's a major sin.
Okay to swear by the name of Allah to take an oath, even if it's not in a courtroom, and even if it's for something silly to take a false oath. And the fourth one he said is sorcery. Then he said there are three of the stomach. So he mentioned drinking coma. He mentioned taking an orphans wealth or a poor person's wealth wrongfully. And he said absolutely, by eating from that which is through interest and he said there are two associated with the private parts and he said they're adult
Poetry and homosexuality. And he said there are two that are in the hand and he said, their murder and their theft. Then he said, There's one in the feet, which is fleeing from the battlefield. So he enumerates them as 17. Now, what's the point of going through all of this? Oh, and then he says at the end of it, sorry, he said, and there's one that is a crime that takes care of the entire body. That involves the whole body, which is disobeying one's parents.
So Subhanallah he said that sin that crime is great enough for the whole body. It involves a disregard from every single part of you, your heart, your mind, everything that Allah subhanaw taala gave to you now in this whole discussion, because I just went through a bunch of narrations and now I just kind of want to explain this, this this whole concept, in this whole discussion, in essence, Allah Subhana Allah to Allah did not reveal to us a certain number of major sense. One of the most famous books is The Book of humanity, Rahim Allah to Allah where he goes through all the major sins. Okay, al Qaeda, by the mammoth Zabi Rahim, Allah, the book of major sins goes through all of the
ones that there's some evidence for, right? There's so many a hadith that talk about major sins, and that demonstrate the gravity. One conclusion that you can draw is that when the prophets lie, Selim was talking to a personal soul was my son was conscious of who that person was in front of him. Meaning what what might be a major sin for you won't be as major for someone else. Let me give you an example.
If someone has parents, that are good to them, that have treated them with love and respect and honor, and that have raised them correctly. And they disobey them, are they equal to someone who disobey his parents that are that wrong? Their children?
Yes or no?
No, they're not equal. They're not equal. Sure, you should still have forbearance with your parents to a degree to a degree unless the whole thing becomes, you know, to a point, you know, and that's not a black and white topic unless it becomes to a point where you have to respond. Right? And you have to defend yourself or, or, you know, you have to disobey them at times, right? If they're commanding you to do something against the religion for example, but for the most but but just in general, when you have a parent that is loving and caring and that has done well by you, the sin upon you when you disobey that parent will be much greater.
Okay? Likewise, when it comes to occlude Riba, for example, devouring interest and usury, there's a difference between a person that had some level of need and they went into Riba and a person who just wanted something really fancy and really nice. They really didn't need to get involved in interest or usury. It wasn't even the Hajj. It wasn't even inconvenient for them to not be involved in Riba, meaning they could have lived their lives quite comfortably, without getting involved in Riba. But they still went and indulged in it. And they just they indulged it in every single way possible. Right? That person is at a greater level of negligence than the other person. When it
comes to false testimony, obviously, you know, the implications of your testimony are taken into consideration when it comes to the way that you disobey your parents, you know, off is this, you know, Oath is not necessarily just not saying Off,
off is like rolling your eyes at your parents, not Akula Houma often don't say to them off, it's like going.
It's not necessarily the word of Allah saying, don't even do that. So within the disobedience to the parents, there are different levels of how bad it may be. Okay. And so the point is here that within these sins, once again, there are graduated levels of them that make them more and more major. Now, the one that I want to focus on, is this concept of insisting on a minor sin.
We said yesterday that, you know, you go from this, this place in your life, where your desires just get the best of you. And you sin uncontrollably, to a point that you start to justify your sense. And when you start to justify your sins, you become satanic. That's the worst situation you can be in with Allah Subhanallah sad, right? Making excuses because you know what, you can justify them. And this you know, in this world, you can argue with people and you can find your progressive interpretations of everything and you can find some shit that that gives you what you want or not even a chef sometimes some some academic or some weirdo that's not even a Muslim that gave you a
filthy opinion, right that you wanted or alter the Quran in some way. You can do all that. But when you stand in front of Allah subhana and watch out on the Day of Judgment, are you going to say what will Allah there's another interpretation?
You're gonna be able to do that to ALLAH SubhanA.
Allah will call you out on your foolishness.
Don't Don't think you can fool Allah subhanho wa Taala you're not gonna fool Allah Subhana
Allah will call you
Not on your foolishness, oh really another opinion, masha Allah, Allah is gonna call you out on your foolishness, right? This religion is guarded, and its interpretation as well. There is room for debate on some issues. But let's face it when your desires get the best of you, then you're going to go and start justifying things that are simply unjustifiable that have been unjustifiable for 1400 years. Why? Because you want to do it. Right? Allah azza wa jal will call you out on that. You're not going to be able to come to Allah subhanaw taala on the day of judgment and say she was like my sister.
Good luck with that. He's like a brother to me, Allah. Good luck with that. It's not going to work on the Day of Judgment. You're not going to be able to come to Allah subhanho wa Taala on the day of judgment and say, He's just a friend. She's just a friend. Allah azza wa jal
doesn't want to hear those excuses. Allah told you know, hello, don't be alone with people Allah told you not to not to do the things while I talk rubbish. Zina Don't come close to adultery. It's not about your feelings. It's about what you're doing. Allah told you not to do something and you're doing it, you're in violation of that. You cannot come on the day of judgment and say, Oh, Allah, it was just 5% Alcohol.
Allah told you not to drink it, not in small quantities or large quantities, you're not going to be able to make these excuses to Allah Subhana Allah to add on the day of judgment. And you know what, you know, email, Allah to Allah, he said, and a person wouldn't dare to. Because when you know, you know, even with a human being when you you know, when you know that the person in front of you is capable of calling you out on your nonsense, you're going to be too embarrassed to do it. So you're not even going to try it on the Day of Judgment. You know exactly how it goes on the day of judgment. And when a person comes, comes forth and says, I don't accept these witnesses. What does
Allah subhanho wa Taala do? Allah azza wa jal allows your limbs to come and testify against you. If Quran Kitab ik Kapha BNF SIECLE Yama Anika Hasib Allah says go ahead and read your book. You're enough of a judge against your own self, you're enough of a witness against your own self. I don't even need to take account of you. You know, you already know. So insisting upon minor sins is of two types. One type is that you keep on doing the minor sin with an act of disregard for ALLAH SubhanA hotel, and that is worse to Allah subhana wa it's out of than a person who falls in a major sin once or twice. That's way worse to Allah subhanho wa Taala why because the disregard that you show when
you do that minor sin is a lot different Allah Allah subhana wa Tada Yehudah Vinoba Jamia, Allah forgives all sins, the biggest sin in the world with one moment of is the far between you and Allah Subhana Allah to Allah sincere Toba to Allah subhanaw taala Allah azza wa jal let's go completely.
That's how merciful Allah subhanaw taala is, you know, a man came to Abu Bakr or the low tide and when he told me to go back to the low tide and I committed Zina.
I committed adultery, Abubakar or the low tide and who said did you tell anybody? He said no. He said then go seek forgiveness from Allah subhanaw taala Halas go seek forgiveness from Allah. Go sincerely seek forgiveness from Allah subhanho wa taala. There doesn't need to be any stoning, any lashing. It's guilt inside of you. Just go seek forgiveness from Allah. Then he goes and he tells I'm going to follow the law of Thailand who I committed Zina.
And I'm going to the law of Thailand who says have you told anybody he said I told him go back it'll be a lot. And he said in what I'm about to tell you, he said don't tell anybody and go seek forgiveness from Allah subhanho wa taala. So I modeled the Allah Tada and who said okay, why are you telling me then go seek forgiveness from Allah subhanaw taala says, Go, Go seek forgiveness from Allah, it's over, put it behind you. But the man's guilty conscience got the best of until he went to the profit slice them and insisted on the punishment right? So the point is here, my F and Allah will be our that'd be cool. What is Allah azza wa jal want with your punishment, if you're believers
and you're grateful and you're seeking His forgiveness, Allah doesn't need to punish you to forgive you. That's actually, you know, a Christian concept, that the only way that God could possibly forgive you was to take his son put them on a cross, mutilate him and then put them in Hellfire for three days.
And then rise along, raise them on Sunday. That's a Christian concept. That's not a Muslim concept. That's that's exactly what we argue against that Allah is merciful enough to forgive you without killing anybody. And without physically doing anything. Allah is merciful enough to merciful enough to forgive you just by using a stuffed Fetullah and that's why even I bustle the law of town and one time he was sitting, and a man came to him and said, I killed somebody, or I'm sorry, he said, If I kill somebody, well, Allah subhanaw taala forgive me. And he told him,
yes, another person came to him and said, If I kill somebody
I seek forgiveness from Allah will Allah forgive me? He said no.
So they asked him in a bustling little town and why did you give a different answer to the same question he said, the first guy killed somebody, and is wondering if he has any chance with ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada, meaning he's in the phase of regret now. He's in a phase of remorse. Now. He said, The second guy, on the other hand, he's thinking about killing somebody. And he's coming and trying to get a license to kill, like, make me feel better about this terrible thing that I'm about to do. It's like when someone comes to you and says, Chef, is it haram? If I do this, this this enough?
Right, but the way that they asked you if it's haram tells you whether they're in the guilt phase, or whether they're in the priests in face? Why? Because as they're asking you the question, they're already giving you the answer.
Is it how long to use remember, when I absolutely have to, and my children are going to die if we don't use the data, and we're going to be evicted. And we're going to live in the street. And we're going to, like the way they ask the question is like, there's no way you could tell them, it's how about
whereas some people, they just come in, they ask you the question, they're in the guilt, they're in the they're in the guilt phase. How do I how do I get out of this? What do I do now? Right? Shift, is it how long? If I have a girlfriend if my parents are refusing to let me get married, and I've been trying to get married for 10 years, and they've never let me do this. They've never let me do that. And it's like, calm down. You ask the question. The answer is yes. Now work on yourself. Right? Stop trying to find loopholes. Don't be this don't show an attitude of disregard to Allah subhana wa Tada. That's what offends Allah subhanaw taala most. So when you insist on a minor sin,
and you keep on insisting on it on regrettably, not showing any form of remorse for what you do, you are worse in the sight of Allah subhanho wa Taala than a person that messes up really bad once or twice, or even three, four times. And they really come back to Allah Subhana Allah, I sincerely cry, that's much worse to Allah subhana wa chat, right? Just think about a parent with their child, you know, your child, if they come home Subhanallah it's the Mercy of Allah subhanaw taala out of that he's put within the hearts of the parents towards their children.
You know, parents are very forgiving to their children, for the most part,
very forgiving towards their children. You know, they might show you some anger in the beginning, whenever you come home, and you've showed them that you've done something really bad, but they're showing you that anger, hoping that you can go and mess your life up. It's still about you. It's not about them.
Right. But at least when you come home and you seek forgiveness, you could have done something awful, but at least you came home to your parents and you said Mom, Dad, I'm sorry. It's Paola, how quickly the mom will forgive how quickly the mom will forgive. It's amazing. You know, you've been disrespectful to her for 10 years. And you say, Mom, I love you. I'm sorry, you kiss her hands, I'm never going to disrespect you again. It's as if 10 years didn't happen.
That's the forgiveness. And Allah is more a last pantiles more merciful to you than that woman. Right. But when your mom tells you, for example, don't do this. When your mom tells you for, you know, when your mom tells you, I don't want you talking to, to so and so to this to this girl or to this guy, I want you to quit dating for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala, I want you to return to Allah subhanaw taala you pull out a phone and you call her in front of her.
Right? And let's take it to a more minor face. Your child, your young kid, you know, you tell them if they drop a glass, and they break that glass, then, and let's say it's a really expensive glass.
And they say sorry, you know, you might yell at them for a little bit and tell them it'd be more careful and they but they say sorry, you clean it up and cause it's forgotten.
But if that child comes and breaks and drops the glass,
and you yell at them, and you say clean it up, and they just look at you.
Even though the glass is worth much more than cleaning up the mess, the disregard that they showed when you told them to clean up the mess angered you more didn't it.
It made you a lot more angry. It's the same thing. Because to ALLAH SubhanA which added the size of the sin is absolutely irrelevant.
Because Allah's Mercy is greater than the sins of billions and billions of people all at the same time. Allah azza wa jal is so merciful, that he allows millions of people to sinned against him all at the same time. And Allah subhanaw taala still calls them to his Lama. And a person who has committed all the major sins in the world not left the single major sin out of the book after 80 years just says the stuff that Allah and comes back to Allah. Allah says, Don't worry about it.
It's the Mercy of Allah Subhana Allah to Allah. But when you are when you lose that shame, that HYAH with yours
then that's where the greater issue comes, when you will keep doing it over and over and over again. And then when you start to justify it, then you're excluding yourself from the Mercy of Allah subhanaw taala, then you're putting yourself in shape ons level. When you start to justify you want you went from being a sinner to being a disbeliever. Because to deny one verse of the Quran, or one thing authentic from the Prophet slice Allah is a form of disbelief is to place your opinion over what Allah and the messenger slice on have said. So you put yourself in the most dangerous category possible when you insist to the point that you actually start to justify. So where does that leave
us? Look, we came into Ramadan seriously, we came into Ramadan, and we've all gotten these flaws, and we've got the sense. Don't accept these sins as part of your life and just say hello sits over.
You know, this is just something I just can't do away with. You know, I just happened to do this. Right? It couldn't be worse. I couldn't be like the guy that goes and commits adultery. But you know what that man that goes and commits adultery, might seek forgiveness from Allah subhanaw taala. You on the other hand, don't seek forgiveness from Allah Subhana Allah for watching adultery, or for watching Zina, though the Zina of the eyes is of less gravity than the actual Zina than the actual adultery. Your insistence on the Zina of the eyes, is more disrespectful to ALLAH SubhanA which are than that person that struggled with majors in a but came to Allah and cried his heart out and set a
stop.
Because you're insisting
though the IRS you know, subhanAllah look, I'm not I'm not trying to sound ultra conservative here. But I have to say Ramadan is the 27th night. We're really talking about minor sins.
You know what you can and can't listen to?
Alright, I wouldn't say this at a convention. I'm saying this to people that are at Eric decaf. On the 27th night. You know what you should not be listening to
stop coming up with baseless opinions to justify it's disrespectful to Allah subhanaw taala instead, first step acknowledge you know what, I need to listen to Quran and listen to the things that lost parents I made hella
right, I need to do a better job of Ramadan, I was able to abstain from it during the day, inshallah to Allah, I will abstain from format from now on, I'm going to really make an effort to not listen to the stuff anymore. You know what, in the grand scheme of sins, it's minor, but I'm talking to people that are doing charity caf on the 27th night. It's major to you, if you're insisting upon
it shameful. It's shameful. You're coming. And you're standing in front of Allah subhanaw taala and saying, Allahu Akbar.
But the disregard that you're showing to Allah subhanaw taala with insisting on these sets, your tongue, your backbiting. Someone tries to stop you and say, you know, I don't think you should be talking that way. And you just keep going and going and going and going. And as we said, the first night in this chapter, the most grievous sins are the ones that involve other people.
Because Allah azza wa jal might forgive you, but those people don't forgive you. Right? But you keep going and going and going and going. You insist upon these sins and you keep going. So seek forgiveness from Allah subhanaw taala. The first step is acknowledgement. The second step is to farm the third step is actually taking a practical step in the right direction. Right when Lilina either alfalfa hay Shelton or volumn, one foster home, those who when they commit ashamed, you know, an act of shamelessness. Are they wrong themselves that Catahoula they remember ALLAH, acknowledgement Firstar farolito and obey Him and they seek forgiveness for those sins. What many of you don't know
about Illallah Subhan Allah Allah inserts this here and who forgives your sins other than Allah? Why does Allah insert that here? Because when the believer seeks forgiveness from Allah subhanho wa Taala they don't say Oh Allah, forgive me if you want to, Oh Allah, I'm a terrible person. I don't know why you would forgive me. You know, I'm this horrible sinner, but please forgive me because we said despairs, Despair is actually a major sin.
That talks about Salman Rahmatullah. That's a major sin. So the believer when he acknowledges Allah and then he seeks forgiveness from Allah, He seeks forgiveness from Allah knowing that Allah will forgive him if he's sincere. A stuff that Allah and your worth seeking forgiveness from because you are in love for rain. We're in a castle went to hebbal Alpha Firefly. You love to forgive anyway. Oh Allah I'm turning to and forgiveness one thing after the Nova Illallah who's gonna forgive you other than Allah? Well, um you saw Rwanda anartha Allah homea Allah mon and they don't insist upon that which they are doing. Well homeotic them on knowingly the profit slice and I'm says, er como Maha
karate. Beware of belittling your sense. He said it's like a good
group of people that go to the desert to start a fire. And so they keep throwing in these little branches into that fire until the fire becomes so big that it consumes all of them. The Prophet Immanuel desire, Rahim Allah to Allah, he said that even the strongest stone, a stone, if you take water and you drip it on the same spots over and over and over again, eventually it will erode it.
Eventually it will penetrate and it will erode it. So don't be dis regarding towards your Lord Subhana what's AD
and AS Imam Shafi Rahim Allah to Allah says, don't look at the size of the Masia don't look at the size of the sin, how big it is, or how small it is. Well, that can over in an athlete's LKB a lovely, look at the one that you disobeyed. It makes it so much worse. You know, something when,
when you're when you're disobedient, or when you when you show disregard, to some person in the street, again, the gravity of the sins, let's say that you're walking, and you go to the mall, and you know, you open the door.
And you don't you don't bother to hold the door for the person behind you. It's disrespectful. It's not Islamic, especially by the way if it's your wife, and please stop having your wives walk behind you in public. It's embarrassing. Okay, but you know, whenever you you just close the door in their face.
Right? You don't bother Subhanallah you watch Muslims in public and you're like, man, they're like in another world. So aloof, like not paying attention to what's going on in the world, right. Subhan Allah of the common courtesies. It's disrespectful. But when you don't bother to hold the door for your 80 year old father, it's a lot worse.
Right? It's a lot worse. When someone is generous with the you know, backbiting. Subhanallah you know, one of my teachers, he said that he that he said something that really resonated with me one time. He said that, you know, Allah Subhana Allah to Allah has forbidden you to backbite the worst human being, like someone who's awful, a Muslim who's done nothing for even a non Muslim, someone that's done nothing for you in life. Someone that has given you nothing in life, Allah has forbidden you from backbiting that person and Allah Subhana Allah Allah said, or your head wa had to come and yeah could have left McAfee Mater with one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother. And
Allah Subhana Allah Allah said that regardless of the person's level of faith or piety, okay, but when you backed by someone who's done much more for you,
right you backed by someone who's invited you into their home, someone that served you food, someone that's been kind to you someone that that lend that loaned you money in the past someone that came to your aid in the past someone that cheered you up on a day, someone that that has done stuff for you, it makes it so much worse. How dare you?
You know,
a man has an embassy Rahim Allah to Allah says Allah and Allah whom and alpha beta he
may Allah Subhana Allah to Allah curse, a person who enters into the house of whose brother, kill him and for me, he ate him from his fruit until he was filth. And then he left his house. And he spoke about that person until he got thirsty.
His tongue kept going about that person until he got thirsty like Allah azza wa jal gave you that person and that person was kind to you just ate in his house and now you're disrespecting him and backbiting it becomes much worse, right? When you again you disobey your parents who have been incredible parents do it becomes much worse. Who has done more for you in life than ALLAH SubhanA? What's
the one who gave you your existence?
It doesn't get greater than that.
And not only that, he gave you a purpose to exist. He gave you your existence and he gave you a purpose to exist and he provided for you. And you still disobey Him. And you still insist upon since that's disrespect. That's disrespectful to Allah subhanaw taala. So yes, Allah forgives all sins, and seriously Subhan Allah on this night, this 27th Night, which, you know, according to a great number of the Sahaba and a great number of their written that is later to publish every single year according to a great number of scholars. What's a veteran night to turn to Allah subhanaw taala let's say a stockbroker today. Oh Allah, I'm seeking your forgiveness. Oh Allah. I know I messed up.
Oh Allah, I know I have issues. Oh Allah, I'm seeking your forgiveness and I know that you love to forgive anyway, what's a better night to turn to Allah subhanaw taala with that, and how disrespectful is it to Allah subhana wa to Adam, when you go right after at Pella, you don't even wait. You don't even wait for the Acela to finish to start disobeying Allah again.
You're back at it right away. Your aids party which is supposed to be a celebration of Ramadan is haram
Like,
how did that happen? Right? It's like your eve party is a welcome actually fond party. We've missed you. You know, welcome back to our lives.
Think about that, think about what you're saying, right? So no, you can't just resort back to these things as soon as Ramadan finishes and say, and hamdulillah it's all over I fasted for a month.
So yeah, Tara Melfa either to be reverted the shahada and Camila it's back to her the older teen in this location as the Imam Shafi Rahim Allah said, what's the purpose of a month of righteousness and a bad if you follow it up with bad manners with Allah subhanaw taala getting you you bring back the bad manners into your lives. So don't insist get help for your sins. You know, look, I know there are a lot of people in here that are feeling really, really, really guilty for things that they've done. And that's good, we should have another we should have guilt. Right? And it's like, we feel trapped in the sins that we commit at times. It's like, yeah, it's all great. I want to repent to
Allah subhanaw taala I want to seek his forgiveness, but I'm trapped. I know that when I get back home, and I'm in front of that computer screen again, and I'm all alone, I know that I'm gonna go right back to my habits. Even though I don't want to I feel trapped.
Get help, acknowledge it, get help put barriers between you and that sin.
Don't justify it. Number one. You know, sometimes there are two levels of justification. There's justifying from a shattering perspective like to say the Quran and the Sunnah. don't really say this is haram. Or you know what the other level of justification is? You know, I know it's haram, but my circumstances come on.
That's the second level of justification. The first one is cool for the second one is disrespectful to Allah subhana wa tan. So he asked philosophy to try to protect us from our sins, the major ones, the minor ones, the hidden ones, the public ones, we ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah not to allow us to continue on this path of sins. We ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, that though we will never be perfect that he puts in us the motivation to always strive for perfection that Allah Subhana Allah, Allah allows us to be amongst those that always acknowledged his perfection, and that Allah Subhana Allah to Allah makes us amongst those that always fear His punishment, yet never despair of
His mercy. And that Allah Subhana Allah to Allah makes us amongst those that understand how loving and forgiving and merciful of a god he is. But still Don't take advantage of those attributes. We ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, to be merciful with us not on the Day of Judgment, we meet his mercy. Instead of his justice, we ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, that Allah Subhana Allah, Allah gives us hearts that long for him, and that Allah Subhana Allah to Allah gives us hearts that desire him. And Allah Subhana Allah to Allah gives us new foods gives ourselves that desire His pleasure more than their own pleasure. And we ask Allah Subhana Allah Allah to forgive us when we're when we
when we please ourselves at the expense of his displeasure, and we ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, never to allow us to be a people that justify their sins, and never to allow us to fall into satanic qualities and we ask Allah Subhana Allah to take us from being animal like cells to angelic cells that find their pleasure and their and their purpose in the worship of Allah subhanho wa taala. And we ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, that the sins that we brought with us to this Ramadan, that we don't return to those sins and that the anger that he had that Allah azza wa jal might have had towards us when we came into Ramadan, that Allah Subhana Allah, Allah is no longer angry with us and
we ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, that Allah that we'd be amongst those that Allah subhanho wa Taala loves and that Allah azza wa jal places in our hearts, the love of those that he loves, and that Allah subhanho wa Taala places in our hearts the love of every action that brings about his love in our lives. Allahumma Amin Xochimilco hyaluron questions
for them sisters first than brothers Yes.
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how can we
how can we want
to hear
this? How can we forgive easier?
So there are a few things that would make you forgive another person. One of them is that that person has done enough good towards you that you're able to overlook their back, you're able to say, You know what, yes, they messed up, but still, they've done a lot of good for me. That's one way. Another way to forgive is to say I did to someone else exactly what that person did to me.
Right? So I have a, I have a crime in my life, or an offense in my life. That's similar to the offense that was committed towards me. So just like I want to be forgiven by the other person. I need to forgive this person that have
Under mere that did something towards me. And the third one which is the ultimate one is the one that Allah mentioned is the sort of nor are the actual will your spouse Ella to have born and after Allah Allah forgive and pardon? Don't you want Allah subhanaw taala to forgive you, which is that there is absolutely no justification for what that person did to me. And I'm not forgiving you because you deserve to be forgiven. I'm forgiving you because I want the forgiveness from Allah subhanaw taala.
So it's not about you, it's about me. Right? You know what Allah does with you, that's fine. But you know, what I want a lot as an adult to be mercy was merciful with me. So I don't need if I'm in that place, I don't even need to find a reason to forgive that person. I already have, even if that person has shown no remorse for what they've done, I already have it Hamas. Go. I'm not gonna wait, I'm not going to have to examine that person to find something. Now certainly when a person has shown some level of remorse, and they've been good to you in the past or something like that. It's easier, even if you're doing it for a loss of hundreds. But it's amazing when you really didn't have
that. And that's used to finding his salon. When you saw his brothers Look, his brothers didn't just pick on him when he was little and take his toys. His brothers tried to kill him.
And they put him into slavery, prison abandonment for 21 years, his entire life he lived in an abandonment and in confusion and and trying to find you know and just rotating circumstances all because of his brothers at the end of the day. He didn't wait for his brothers to beg for his forgiveness to forgive
because he knew that his reward would be less from allies was that if he did
you understand he didn't even wait for it he knew it was coming. It was the next it was the next part of the conversation naturally because you know even if they didn't really need it, I'm in power and I can execute these fools right? But he didn't even wait for it instead use of it his salon before they can even start giving him the excuses and say you know what? We didn't mean to throw you in that well we were just putting you on top of it and then you just fell in there and we couldn't find you and we went to get some help but by the time we came back they came in you know they took you and you know we've been looking for before they can even make excuses or seek his forgiveness.
That's the three Riley communium look Don't even worry about it. Yes it Allahu Allah may Allah forgive you. And he said Sheikh bomb was the one who put this between us.
And Allah, what a heart. Seriously, what a heart. What a heart that use of honey salaam had what a heart that the prophets license. What a heart of gold. What a heart of gold that the man that the man, the man, the woman that gave the order to kill his uncle Hemsedal the allot of time
and mutilate him and the man who actually did it were both forgiven by the prophet slice of
what a heart. What a heart that when he came back into Mecca, Subhan Allah and everything that these people have done to him abandonment, murder of his family members, slander. I mean, usually we have a hard time forgiving because of a small version of any of those things. The prophets lie some face the most extreme version of all of those things. And also last lesson, I'm forgave them.
That's a heart of gold. So it's about our hearts at the end of the day. Don't fill your heart with hatred, because the more hatred you put in your heart, the less capacity it has to love Allah subhanaw taala you're not going to enjoy your Salah. You know, so how do I remember, you know, I remember and really, this is this really happened to me know, someone did something so terrible to me. And he was a really close friend, and it was serious betrayal, like it was some really messed up stuff. And I found myself making dua against them all the time.
And I stopped enjoying my salah because I was always making dry against them.
Like I stopped asking for good things in life, because I was making you're against this person and it was justified. Then I thought to myself, like I'm missing out on my own happiness by focusing on his misery. Even though the drought was justified, I am I missing out on my own happiness in this world. What about the next world? If I can't even enjoy Allah in this world because of how angry I'm with this person and I'm focusing everything towards that person. Then what about the next world so clear your heart make room for ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada even if that person needs deserves nothing you know what there are going to be times in life many many many times in life that Allah will forgive
you and you don't deserve it at all.
No, either the Allahu Allah subhana wa t you are the healer who vitals on him and they've been Mr. Little the law on him said if allow us to punish each and every single one of us.
Each and every single one of us. You know, Allah some allottee we're out of the even the ones in the heavens. If Allah was to punish us all, he would punish us and he would not be unjustified.
So there are times that we're going to be we're going to need Allah's forgiveness and many times for things that we didn't even recognize and we didn't acknowledge. And we really didn't deserve that forgiveness. So just like I don't deserve Allah's forgiveness, but I beg him for it.
I'm not going to wait for that person to deserve my forgiveness to forgive him or forgive her. Because I want the forgiveness of Allah Subhan
Allah Allah
next question
no brothers than any sisters
No.
Yeah.
How do you like keep away from you outside?
That's an awesome question. How do you keep shaitan away from you outside of Ramadan?
Have you guys felt more religious and Ramadan?
is safe on here?
Yes, he is.
The profit slice that um, says that the only Shayateen that are put away are metadata sheltering in Ramadan. The major devils mean there are still little Shayateen around and you were still able to be religious, you were still able to come to Salam, you were still able to come close to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, meaning you were able to beat the influence of shaitan
Okay, so how do you keep their say far away outside of Ramadan, the same way you kept them away inside of Ramadan. Okay, by replacing your free time with a bad because many of the sins that we commit we commit because we have too much free time on our hands. So replacing that free time with positive action, you know, doing more good deeds, like focusing on reading, focusing on doing good things, focusing on volunteering, you know, Subhan Allah like, it's amazing. When when a person connects himself to a cause in life, dedicates himself you know, even even at your age Subhanallah dedicates himself to a cause dedicates himself to helping others dedicate himself to bettering the
world. That's even aside from the religious peace they find less time to ruin themselves.
So you just busy yourself with good things. That's what you do in Ramadan.
You don't have time to commit the sins that you usually commit.
Right? That's good. occupy yourself with good inshallah to Allah free time is a weapon of shape on free time is a serious weapon of shape on when you've got too much free time. And that's, that goes to, you know, that speaks to your character and it speaks to, for example, the lack of goals that you set for yourself in life, your spiritual goals, your religious goals, even your secular goals, even your secular goals. Look, even if I engaged in a certain haram activity. If I've got an exam in the morning, I'm going to skip it today. Not because I love a lot, but because I want to pass my exam. Even your secular goals in life, your dunya goals, your worldly goals in life, they're good to
prevent you from sin sometimes so the greater goals are the ones that are in regards to the hereafter like look, I'm going to finish this lecture series for example, you know, masala Tabata kala seriously? How many of you guys have watched some form of Ramadan programming online this year? Some form of Ramadan? Almost everybody right? Isn't it awesome?
Isn't it amazing? Well, I It's amazing. And by the way, that's something we have here. Believe it or not in the Muslim world they don't necessarily have
those of you that are from the Arab world at least you know, that the dramas and those types of things. The specials come out in Ramadan.
It's so weird. It's bizarre. It's like if anything like you know, can you guys put yourselves away for the month of Ramadan? And can you be replaced with some good programming on TV? instead? It's like the most dramatic episode before Ramadan and then something comes across the screen with a crescent Ramadan kitty.
Find out what happened when she caught him cheating on her whatever it is about my mom Kadeem to be aired on the first day of Ramadan and you're like
are you serious? This is what we're gonna watch and hold on and people are like really really like concerned with getting home after total we you know, there's a famous There's a famous series in the Arab world called Double Allah, I don't know how famous it is anymore. Or you guys haven't those of you that have satellites here. Literally, like people would complain to the Imams that their total week was too long because we're missing out on that and holla
so there's actually an email in Palestine Philistine this actually happened one of the big messes in Palestine people like were complaining and he said, Be quiet I'm gonna resort to the bucket I'm gonna make all of you guys Miss Brown and
everybody got quiet
everything worked itself out right now NASA lots about a lot here. You know, like you go online like I'm amazed I it really really makes me happy. It really makes me happy that masala like, this year like for example, you know, you had all these different you had Mufti mink series you it also called the series
You had an unmanned series you had all of these different series coming on on online about you know particular Oban programming and mashallah people are watching them and so on so forth. That's amazing. That's good you replaced something you know maybe if it wasn't Ramadan you would have sat there and rotted in front of a computer screen and watch stuff that wasn't gonna benefit you in any way but you said hey, it's someone let me watch something good do it outside our home alone too. There's still enough material inshallah Tada, but you set goals for yourself like I'm going to finish this lecture series. You know, I have to watch one episode of Sierra every day. I have to
read one sort of Quran forget about one just a day for now. One sort of Khurana day right I have to practice this for 30 minutes I have to do this set goals for yourself, set goals for yourself inshallah I'll keep you busy and distracted. Busy yourself with Allah so that Shavon doesn't busy yourself with yourself.
Okay, Allah on any last question, and that'll be the last one Yes sister.
How do you know that Allah has accepted your deeds of love no model the Allah Allah and who said that if I knew that Allah subhanho wa Taala accepted one of my good deeds, let him need to note I would wish that Allah would kill me that I would die.
He said because Allah says in the nyata Kabul Allahu Minami chuckling Allah accepts only from an MacDuffie from people of piety. The point is that uncertainty is good.
You don't know. Nothing's going to come from the sky to tell you that your deeds were accepted. There are indications sometimes that Allah gives to you, which is good at hamdulillah but they shouldn't make you complacent, you know, sometimes Subhanallah just you feel it. You just feel it.
Sometimes you feel it. And you feel like it's Tofig from Allah subhanaw taala that you felt it right. Like it's a lot, you know, gave you that that blessing to feel it. And it's wonderful, right? But even then, you should you should still think to yourself, maybe Allah didn't accept it. The point is, you spend your entire life doing these deeds, not knowing which of them Allah is going to accept and you know that Allah is so merciful that he's not going to reject all of them. Allah will find something of inshallah to Allah and He will accept it. And sometimes it's the day that you didn't give much thought to you came to the masjid. You saw someone in distress and you went you
talk to them and made them feel better? You
I'm not gonna say this. Alright?
You came to the masjid and you made someone feel better you serve someone a date.
All right, you serve someone a thought. You pick something harmful from the road. Allah accepted it from you, guess what, you're good enough. But Allah is not going to tell you that in this world because then you'd stop like imagine, you know, the man chef Yasser was talking about this the other day the man that removed something harmful from the road. Imagine if Allah sent an angel to that man when he removed something harmful from the road and told them guess what Allah is gonna let you stroll in Jannah because of that. He would say Hamdulillah he might you know I don't really need to go to the Muslim well I'll just do my five salawat and just get by now because Allah is gonna let me
stroll in Jana the uncertainty is beautiful. Just know that Allah is merciful. That's all you need to know. Know Allah is merciful and that you can always do better and keep trying to do better inshallah yeah
are you
in your dream
Wait, I'm confused. I'm sorry.
Can you say that again? Not sure
Oh, okay. I thought you meant you saw it in your dream and you know, when I'm in my dream that's incredible control of your dreams Mashallah.
You know, look such that is legislated at all times right such that you can do searches for anything such as a shortcode you could do a search the shortcode for having that good dream from Allah subhanaw taala but no are you mandated to do a such that if you if you heard and if such that in your dream? No, you're not mandated. But that's a pretty cool dream. And I ask Allah that it's a good sign in sha Allah Tada for us and then Allah accepts it. Alright, this is the last last last question only because you look like you really want to ask the question so yes.
There's no way for you to find out
what you do that depends on your personality.
Some people like like, look, look at the Sahaba of the prophets lie Selim, the ones in the Battle of budget, the prophets lie Selim informed them that Allah has forgiven them for everything they've done in the past and everything that they will do. But what did they do for the rest of their lives? They stayed in sacrifice for Allah's Cause. But let's face it, many people, I'm not going to say you, I'll talk about me. I'll project it on myself. If an angel came to me and said, Guess what you caught later to have gotten to the last five years, not just one year your normal Bond was awesome. Allah has accepted it from you. You're gonna live for another 20 years and then Shabbat Tada, you'll
go to Jana. I know I'm going to start slacking off.
I know it right? It's just me. I'm not saying you it's me. I would start to slack off okay, I definitely wouldn't do it calf next year.
I sleep at home in my comfortable bed and I'd enjoy my father Oh and you know my bathroom at home.
But it hamdulillah the uncertainty is beautiful. Allah Allah may Allah accept you guys as a bad May Allah subhanaw taala mashallah, you know, there's a lot of Sakina in this gathering every single night but there's a special level of tranquility so we ask Allah Subhana Allah that Allah accepts from us all this night a very bad and all of our 10 nights and Allah accepts our Ramadan and that Allah gives us the the reward of Laila to Qatar and that Allah allows us to continue strong after Ramadan. Lama Amin Kazakh Mala Hainan Subhana Allah Muhammad said to Allah, stuff croaker to Lake Santa Monica Moroccan to wine ricotta