Channel: Navaid Aziz
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one of the toughest jobs in show business, in particular. And even more specific than that, as a comedian is that being a comedian, you often come up after other comedians. And at times, you'll be placed in front of comedians who are better than you and funnier than you. And they're just much more entertaining. And such as the art of speaking. And in our times, a lot of it is just about the entertainment sector. And relating this to what's our situation and event today. You know, we just heard a marvelous talk, a beautiful reminder by our beloved chef from some of the cities, houses in the LA area. And I was thinking to myself, you know, I don't know how much more I could say to keep
the crowd entertained, they've already had 40 minutes, they haven't moved. They're getting restless, they're getting tired. And I recorded another situation, that as I was growing up, I was really into basketball, basketball was one of my favorite sports. And even up until this day, I try to follow it whenever I can, more specifically during the finals. And you remember in the year 2000, before I went to Medina,
this quarter was the up and coming superstar of that era, you know, his ability to dunk and get high up in the air was his big talents. And if you go back to his most famous dunks, they all come from that slam dunk competition in the year 2000. When he did that 360 dunk, he started off behind the backboard and came out in front. Now, everyone remembers Vince Carter. But does anyone remember who came after Vince Carter. Now, the person who came after Vince Carter could have done just as good of a job. And he could have done done switcher even better, but the height was surrounding this quarter. And just for those of you who don't know, exactly, Jerry Stackhouse, he came after Vince
Carter. And you know, he tried to the best of his ability, but everyone remembers Vince Carter. So this is a small, I guess, comparison, you could say, with show business. And even in the arts speaking, that it's usually the person who has the most hype that is remembered. And this is an attitude, which I think a lot of people need to change. Now, with all due respect to all of our speakers, we should not be coming to lectures for the sake of entertainment, but rather there should be Islamic motives behind them from this motive is to increase our demand from this motive is to gather in the world in the houses of Allah subhanaw, taala, and decrease in our worship. So these
should be some of the motives and entertainment should not be one of them. So those are just a quick couple of words, I wanted to share with everyone here today. That having been said, the topic, as was mentioned, was love stories from the public for the love of the life of departments, and the love it was sent him or in other words, was the pocket from the love, it was so romantic.
Now, as I was researching this topic, if you look at the word romance in the dictionary, you will come up with four different definitions from those 12 definitions that you will see, the vast majority of them deal with emotions of the heart, and emotions of the heart to such a degree that the mind plays little or no role in them. And now if you look back into Western civilization, or history, there was a period in time, which they call it romanticism. Now, what could possibly be what could possibly be the relationship between this period in time and the term and word romance? If you look at the historical context of this time period, when did this period of romanticism take
place? It was after the Enlightenment in western civilization. And this period of enlightenment, enlightenment led to the Industrial Revolution. And during this timeframe, everything was about science. Everything was about using your mind. Everything was about proving everything with your mind, and empirical evidence. So people were getting fed up of this, especially the artists and the people who were specialized individual. You can't be a good literalist, you can't be a good artist, if you're just using your mind, but rather, it requires passion. It requires emotions from the heart. So then, Araya arose this group of people who said that we're going to do things no longer
from our hearts, no long from our minds, but rather from our hearts. And as you see in history as a whole, every time there's a reaction, and this is one of the laws of physics. Every time there's an action, it results in an equal or greater reaction. And this is what happened and justice
trading time came to be known as the trade of the limiters, because the refuse to use the intellect and just persisted on using the hearts. So now, when we say was the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a romantic to say that he was one who didn't use his intellect is insulting and degrading to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So this would be an incorrect terminology, but to say was the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam loving towards his wife? Did he show affection and mercy? And did he show kindness to them? Then indeed, as Allah subhanho wa Taala says himself, that in the Messenger of Allah, you have a great example. Now, who is this great example for? Is it for the
Muslim only? Is it for the people who come to the masjid? Is it for the people who seclude themselves? Or is it for all of mankind? Allah subhanaw taala described him as a mercy for all of mankind. But in this particular ayah, Allah subhanho wa Taala says that he is a great example of love towards Allah goes on to say, for he who hopes in meeting Allah subhanho wa Taala. And he who hopes in the last day, and remembers Allah subhanho wa Taala much. This is how Allah subhanho wa Taala ends of the ayah was the Corolla hottie. Now, as we mentioned, as our Brother Mohammed, Steve mentioned, the story of Abu Dhabi, Allahu taala, knew that he was a companion of the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who is persistent and consistent in his worship of Allah subhanho wa Taala, sometimes to such a degree, that he would leave off the rights of his family. And the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam was an example not only for him, but for all of us here as well, that there is a time for worship, there's a time for your Salah, there's a time for fasting. And at the same time, there's a time where you spend with your family, where you take them out, you take them out to enjoy nature, you take them out on experience filling trips, and you just spent quality time with them. And this is what we see from the center of the prophets, Allah lohardagan center. So this
having been said, our discussion revolves around the love stories, or the stories of kindness, or the stories of affection that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam partook in towards his wife. So in hearing the stories, not only should we be marveled at how the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is a great example for us in worship, and in character. But at the same time, is a great example of a person who takes care and looks after his family, and his very loving as well. So if you want to learn how to be affectionate towards your wife, and your families, and you want to learn how to love, then you need to look no further than the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So
for those of you who may be married, this will serve as a reminder and a way, or a means to increase the love amongst you and your spouse, and for those of us old, and for those of you who are not married, then this was served as a way to prepare yourself as to what you should expect.
So now some stories from the time of the Prophet Sall allamani was sent them
or actually destroy some of the time with the function of aloha to send them where he showed affection towards his wives are many. And I think before we actually get into this, we need to actually define what the word love is, if you look in philosophy, you'll see that two questions often arose the most the philosophies, what is the purpose of life? And how do you define love? These were two things that were commonly asked. Now, again, you know, a lot of people may think I'm bringing a lot of secular science into this, but secular scientists can help us understand Islam, and likewise, Islam perfects our secular sciences, as well. So, when you study conflict resolution,
or when you study advanced mathematics, there's something called Occam's razor, meaning a philosophy or a theory that says that the best answer is the simplest. So then, here we have the philosophers trying to define love. They'll give you paragraphs and essays and doctoral thesis on what love actually is. But you need to look no further as the greatest lovers, the prophets of Allah while you send them into simple words, love is to be thoughtful and considering and you will see that even though there are different levels of love, and different types of love, they all have around the they all revolve around these two key characteristics, being thoughtful and considerate. So you look
at a child and the mother. The mother cares for the child and tries to protect and provide for this child to the best of her ability. Then you look at the husband towards his wife, as our brother Muhammad mentioned that you
The wife and being considerate and showing his love. He often offers to wash the dishes and take out the garbage and take care over other needs and necessities. These are ways that we show our love. And this love is something that is mutually reciprocated. So that having been said, let us take an example from the life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, where he sewed and expressed his love.
Now, one of the most clear starting funding from the life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is, as we all know, when we love something, we always refer to it. And we always talk about this. We love Islam, this, we implement it, and we are not ashamed to show it and we're not ashamed to talk about it. This is everything else. When you're really proud of something when you really love something, you'll always be talking about it. So take one example from the CEO of the Prophet sallallahu. And he said them was the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam selected Amara de la, the illustrious and noble companions of the Allahu anhu, to be the leader of one of the expeditions. Now
to be a commander, chosen by the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is indeed to be amongst the elite. So I'm going to last a long time and who he thought that he has reached this great level in the eyes of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. So what are the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is sitting? During the time of the expedition? He comes up to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and says Dr. sola, inform me. Who is the one who is most beloved to you? Or who do you love the most? To wish the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, You know, I shouted Allahu Tanana. She is the most beloved to me. So I'm glad that he gets a bit distorted in his thinking or Californication, maybe
towards the center will say my name now. So he says, The asuma is not the type of love I was referring to, but rather Tony, who is the most beloved of the men. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, her father, meaning avacado della hotelplanner. Now it would have been very easy and simple for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, to see that it is a booklet, but rather to show the magnitude and the great love that He has for ourselves. Allahu tanana, he said her father, meaning the father of the Allahu Tanana. So this was one of the ways that deposit sallallahu alayhi wa sallam showed his love, for I shall have the Allahu Tanana. And as we know, she was the most
beloved of wives to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam that she was always a topic of discussion. And every, everything that she thought of revolved around her to such a degree that if he was asked, only love the most amongst the men, rather than seeing a book, his name, he said, the father of my beloved. So this is one small example.
Another example. And this is where we get into the discussion of being considerate and thoughtful that one of the ways that is truly established is to reflect upon how often do you actually think of your wife? How often do you actually think about your spouse? And this applies both to the brothers and the sisters, the brothers when they are at work? How difficult is it to send an email saying, honey, I love you. And for the sisters, when they're at home, when they're baking, how difficult is it to bake a cake or to bake them up in essence, I love you on top. It's not very difficult at all. But our love is being so busy and being diverted from the plot of Satan. And from the whispers of
our enough, we don't take the time. And we don't have that will to put forth that extra step of showing affection towards our spouses. So, let us take take a look at some other examples. From the love of the prophets, Allah lohani will send them towards his wife.
Another example of which departed so love our new Selim showed his love openly. And you know, love is not something that we need to be embarrassed of. It is something we should openly least speak about. You know, in a lot of coaches in a lot of societies. The concept of love is taboo. Meaning it's something that you only discuss in your houses or in very discreet places. But in Islam, that form of love which Allah subhanaw taala has made permissible, it is open and easy for us to talk about. And this is one of the wisdoms behind the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam marrying many wives. You know, a lot of people may come and they will ask, why is it that he posits a Lala while
he was selling when he died, was married to nine wives. You know, what is that he was talking to a lot of what he was selling was filled with desire, or what was the reasoning behind this. If you studied the seal of the prophets of Allah while he was selling them, easily, you can come up with 10 different solutions. But at the top of the solutions, or at the top of the the reasoning is that in order to preserve how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was with his wife, you need
There's a lot of witnesses to it. If you had one wife, how much could you possibly married about this man, she could speak, but she will eventually forget. So this Allah subhana wa tada in his divine wisdom, and in his, in his infinite wisdom, granted the prophets of Allah wanting some permission to marry these women, so that we 1400 years later, we'll know how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam cared for his wife and loved his wife, and took care of them. So getting back to the issue at hand, hiding love, this is not something we have to do. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam openly showed his affection for his wife. Now, how did he do this? Not by hugging them and
chasing them in public, nor mentioning lewd things about them. But rather, when he mentioned the praises of people, he would praise his wife. And when he mentioned good characteristics, he would mention the good characteristics of his wife. And when he was asked, Who was the most beloved to him, he did not shy away and say, you know, the most vulgar to me is my mother, or my father, but rather he was bold and proud, and he said that it is my wife. So this is something to keep in mind. Now, this having been said, the companions of the Allahu taala and home, they always wanted to be on the good side of the peninsula, to send them and always get the favor of the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wasallam. So one of the ways they would do this, is that he would constantly give gifts to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam from them was nice from them with milk and dates and other forms of gifts. Now everyone knew that the most beloved wife to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was Isla de la Bhutan. So what did they do? They thought that, you know, the most beloved wife is Isla de la hotel. So when we give him gifts, while he's older, this will increase his joy, and it will increase his happiness. So this is what the companions of the Allahu tanenbaum did, that the night that we focus on a low Hollywood cinema hide with ourselves alongside this is when they would give
their gifts hoping that departments will allow it was set up would prefer this companion over the other due to the amount of the gifts or due to the expenses or gifts, or anything other than that, I for some people, it was just due to the fact that when you relate something with something good, it will of itself become something good. So the I the night when I have a doula who thought I was suddenly beloved to the prophets, Allah lahardee was send them. So they thought that if we give it to him on this night, he'll love it even more, and he will show his appreciation even more. So the companions are the Allahu taala when they did this, the other wives complained of injustice, saying
that they are a solar law. That why is it that during Isola della hutan has nights, you get so many gifts, but during our nights we get nothing. So they sent Fatima, the daughter of deposits on the love audio center, and Fatima First of all, the complaint of the wife towards the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that indeed She is my beloved, do not say anything over meaning that I shall have the lowdown on her has a very special place in my heart. So don't you dare criticize her or say anything that is not befitting of her. So this Fatima Giovanna, heard this and conveyed it to the other wife, then almost selama rhodiola husana came with her complaints. And as the scenario goes,
almost an AMA complained to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was when I said that's very deep.
So now I shall go along with on on how to use this complaint. And it is natural for any woman or any human being. That when you hear a complaint being said about you, you will have this word to respond. But I said of the Allahu Tanana being the wife and being the mature for her age, she would help herself and let the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam deal with the situation. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam stayed silent and gave I shall have the Allahu Tanana look to from which he understood that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam wanted her to defend herself. So I shall have the Allahu taala and defended herself. And after she was done, she described the scenario. She
said, I spoke back to almost cinema in such a way that we saw the dryness from her mouth, meaning that she was in a state of all she was in a state of shock, and her jaw just dropped and dried off. So I sell at the lousiana was able to defend herself. So this is another example from the level of deposit fell in love on himself that he openly sold it and did not hide it. Now from the examples of the type, again describing the love of the province of aloha new center for eyeshadow gialos Ananda is the example of Maslow. Maslow was a famous image of Hades and when he was married,
he would say from meaning
From the mother of the believers, I shoved into the diva that I shot the daughter of a Cydia, Visa, deca and Mussina, the one who preserved her chastity upon the pure. This is how we would speak about Isla de la without Ana. Now the description just didn't end over here. But rather he went on to say, Habiba, Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, that almost all the good characteristics, the final place he would mention is that she was the Beloved of the prophets of Allah and he was sent him. So again, the love of the Prophet sallallahu send them for I shall have the lowdown on Ananda was something which was very, very well known. Now one last example about ISO of the law who died. And that is the
example of almost selama rhodiola turned on her. She was another wife of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And another one who taught the successes on the companions about how the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was in his house. So we have a hadith for myself, the Allahu Tanana that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would kiss her in Ramadan. So when the companions and successors came to almost send them out of town, and they said, and they asked, Did this officer Lavanya smcc Ramadan, and two weeks she says, No, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam kissed and preferred, I said, of the Allahu taala on her alone, mean that she was the only one that was kissed from the
wives of the pockets of the law while you were indeed, he could not resist himself from her. So even the other wives, as jealous as they were, as jealous as they were, recognize the love of the prophets of Allah Juanjo Center and the favor that he gave, I shall have the Allahu Tanana and with these last couple of minutes, let us reflect upon how the Prophet sallallahu Sallam actually dealt with I shall have the lowdown on her. Now, these examples, they may not be directly applicable to our lives today, but make analogy upon them and you will find many ways to sow kindness and love towards your wife and busy life and I will try to take a few examples before we end off. So now take
the example of how did your mum become legislated for us to your mum, as we know, is a form or a way of purification that we do when we do not have water. How did it come about? And in its wisdom itself is another love story. One day I saw the Allahu Tanana was with the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he himself some Allah on him cinemas presence, and then returning back from one of the expeditions. And during this journey, I shall have the Allahu Tanana last one of the necklaces that she has. And as we all know, jewelry something beloved to every woman, Allah subhanho wa Taala nationally created this love for ornaments and beauty and a woman and thus we love
them even more when they have these ornaments and forms of beautification on them. So I shall Allahu Tanana when she lost this necklace, she said to you deposit some law honey instead of Yasuda law, I've lost this necklace, and I have misplaced it. Now, this is the first point that we can stop at and drive elicit from most men. And, you know, this includes all of us are very harsh and very rigid towards their women and towards people in general. When they put their minds to it, they're set that they have to live up to the schedule that you have set. So when we go on journeys, you know, the wife's like, I want to use the bathroom, you're like, you can wait a bit longer. And you at home,
you're hungry, your wife has to eat as well. But you're like, Honey, I'm hungry, feed me now you can eat later. We don't have patience towards them. We don't have this gentleness. Now take the example of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he's witnessed companions coming back from an expedition. Everyone is hungry, everyone is thirsty. Everyone is in a state where they don't feel natural, you know, you're away from home. It's not like our June study where they're quick, and we have all these luxuries, but rather you ride riding through the desert. Now in this very scenario, they were in a place where there was no washer. So they were in a time of difficulty. So I showed
the lungs and I knew that Abu Bakar her father would come and represent her and she would get very angry. So my time came, and I shall have the lowdown on her was visited by a father and a book a parameter and got very, very upset, saying how could you prevent the companions of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam from traveling back to their homes after this great expedition for the sake of an echo.
I too wish I shall have the long side and just remain quiet. ain't heard what's your father has to say. So now as you mentioned, there was the washer over here. They didn't
know what to do when the time was so lucky. And then Allah subhana wa tada revealed to the IRS of
so behind the reasoning of revelation behind this noble and beautiful Ayah was another love story that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was generous and kind towards Ayesha that he knew that she loved this necklace. So he stopped his horse care event, his whole expedition to search with this necklace of Isla de la husana. salon team, there is no water and just Allah subhanho wa Taala reveals the ayah pertaining to tm. So this is just one example. Now, as we mentioned, such examples may not be applicable to all of our lives. But the lesson that is to be derived is the concept and wisdom behind kindness, love, mercy, and being considerate. So now How hard is it for us as men to
open the doors for our wife? How hard is it for us men, that before we go home after a long day of work, that we focus ourselves with something, and we use the miswak, especially our breasts, and we come over here, and we look nice? How hard is it to do these things, when the only take a couple of seconds. And likewise, for our sisters, if you want to increase the love in your marriage, then know that it is a two way road. The what you give is surely what you will get. So put love into your marriage and find unique ways and dynamic ways of expressing your love. Now I times you may be surprised with putting on perfume and putting on makeup and dressing nicely. But at times, you need
to find other ways to please your husbands. As we know we live in modern times. times are changing the ways that the women used to please their husbands in the past may not be enough anymore in submerges. So you always have to be creative. Always be researching on ways to keep that love and to keep that spark in your marriage. Be considerate of the feelings of your spouse and Bismillahi sada Allah subhanho wa Taala will place that consideration and will place that love in the mind and heart of your spouse as well. That having been said, we asked Allah subhanho wa Taala to increase this in our love for our spouses and increases our love for Allah subhana wa tada and His messenger who not
only was an example for us, and a better and more my life, but also as an example for us in how to treat our women and as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that the best of you are those who are best to their wife acordo Cody had the worst of Roma Holly welcome Anissa isms they mean. China's a lot more will be handed a shadow under either.
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