Nadim Bashir – Mental Health Awareness
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The history of Islam is discussed, including the use of the "ham" and the importance of peace in society. The community emphasizes the need for peace and a community of peace, as well as the importance of finding resources and support for mental health and family members, including domestic violence and domestic violence. The speakers also discuss statistics and issues related to the COVID-19 pandemic, including the prevalence of sexual violence and the need for privacy measures for family members. attendees are encouraged to donate and attend events.
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I began by praising Allah subhanho wa Taala and thanking Allah subhanho wa Taala for all the near misses and all the blessings He has given us whether we are aware of it, or unaware of it. And I begin by I began by sending our salaams and RPS upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I asked Allah subhana wa Taala that he keeps us in our upcoming generations. Steadfast upon the Drina Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam upon the teachings of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I asked Allah subhanho wa Taala to grant us the companionship with the Prophet salallahu Salam in on the day of judgment and in Jannah ameen. robola alameen. Brothers and sisters, if the question has
ever been posed to us the what is the objective of our life?
It is very is very clear in the Quran, Allah subhanho wa Taala says well, Maha Patil Jinnah Well, in learning Abu Dune, the purpose of our creation is to worship Allah subhanho wa taala. And as best on the Allah on he mentioned that he explains this, he says, Well, my halacha tool ginawa insert allele Abu doon Yanni Leon ephone, that the purpose of our creation is to recognize who Allah subhana wa Taala is. See if you recognize somebody and you value something that you'll give everything you have for that one thing, we have value for our jobs, we'll we'll put everything we have, and we will exert all of our energy to maintain that job. If I have a family, I'll put everything in I'll do
everything I can to maintain that family because I value what I have.
And if the question is ever posed, the what is the objective of Muslims in the community, that what does the Muslim community represent? Then we have to go back into the seed of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe salam to truly understand the what is our objective and our purpose in any society. It does not matter what country we are in. It does not matter what language we speak. But when a person says La Ilaha illa Allah, Muhammad Rasul Allah, and they submit themselves to Allah subhanho wa taala. And there is a community together, a group of people living together, then they have a higher objective, they have a higher purpose. So let's go back into the sealed province of Salem, and I
want to do I want to explain this before I get to my main subject.
The problem is that Allahu Allah He was selling them. When if you look if you look at the word Islam in itself, it comes to the word seen lamb and mean we
Which are the three route letters are using the word Salama, which means peace. When I come and I meet a person I say a salam Wa alaykum, may peace be upon you. We always tell people who are we always tell Islamophobes we tell non Muslims that Islam is always about peace. So what does that actually mean? It means that a person's demeanor is a peaceful demeanor. When a person he walks inside the measures, people know that this person is so at peace, that wherever he comes, he spreads that peace. His demeanor and his attitude rubs off on other people. When you talk about a Muslim, their existence is about peace. They always are advocating peace, you're always trying to make sure
that the place where they are is a place of peace. When the problem is that Allahu Allah He was salam came to Medina, what's the very first thing that he instructed people to do? He says, I'm sure Salam spread the peace. And while the owner might have said that this means that making Salam aleykum but there are many other orlimar who believe that if you take this in a very broad perspective, this is the beginning the inception of an Islamic state in Medina, Islam is about to flourish in Medina, and the Prophet saw some is telling us that you will see many things in your society, your job is to advocate and spread peace. And then not only that, at the end of the Hadith,
he says, was so Looby, Layli, oneness on Yom that the whole agenda to be salaam, the place of Jannah is a place of peace and content. On the other hand, the opposite of peace is corruption. It is chaos. That means that if a Muslim is not working hard enough to spread peace, to advocate peace, then corruption and chaos will spread, whether we have a hand in it or not, corruption will spread. If I am not doing enough to spread the hug, the bottle will automatically spread everywhere.
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when he came into this when he was sent as a prophet, he noticed many volumes are taking place in society. He noticed many wrongs wrongdoings are taking place in society. And one by one he eradicated those practices. There were there were times where women were abusing the in the community. He got rid of that he saw the girls were being buried alive. He got rid of that he saw the how the teams in the orphans were treated. He got rid of that. And he advocated for peace. He probably he taught that how everyone has rights so that when everyone's rights are fulfilled, when the husband's rights are fulfilled, when the wife's rights are
fulfilled, when a children's rights are fulfilled, when their relatives rights are fulfilled, when they get team and their rights are fulfilled, the need people in the community and the people who are in the state of refuge, when their rights are fulfilled, and everyone gets their rights, then you will see that that community will flourish. And that community will be a community of peace.
Now, the reason I said all this is because as a Muslim, it is my responsibility to notice the problems in society and to tackle those problems. Just like with wa sallam, he tackled the problems of a society. And if you and I, we stick a step back, and we say that this is not my problem. This is not my problem, then eventually, one day it will become your problem. Today, there is so much racism that is taking place in America. We as Muslims, we complain, but have you looked at what is taking place with the African American society, the racism is very clear. And today, if I don't fight that racism is going to creep into the Muslim community.
But then sisters, a month, a month and a half ago, there was some unfortunate incident that took place in Dallas. And these are incidents that take place only in Dallas. They are spreading within all Muslim communities around the US.
Unfortunately, no one talked about in the hotbar. I want to take the time today to talk about this. And not only that, but since October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. I want to take this opportunity just to address this. I know we've heard about this, but our Dean teaches us that we have to be reminded about these things. First of all, is a month, a month and a half ago, there were there were two people that we came to know about who committed suicide
and unfortunately
What happens after suicide? First of all, the suicide in itself is very sad. Number two is it happens in our Muslim community. But what's more sad is that after the suicide takes place, instead of holding ourselves accountable, because brothers and sisters, Allah will ask us on the Day of Judgment that these things were taking place in your society. What did you do about it? Because see, for such a long time, we know that suicide has been an issue in our society, people do commit suicide. But as like every other Muslim community, we push it aside and say, You know what, it's not my problem. It's not my problem. And we only care when the problem appears on our doorstep. When it
comes in, it becomes part of our society, and may never be a part of our family. I mean, man may never happen to our family members.
But when it comes to the Muslim community, then we wake up. Why are we not waking up before that? Why are we not even thinking about what we need to do as a Muslim community to make sure that this never ever happens? Again? Instead of asking ourselves that, where did we go wrong as a community? The questions that people are asking is that are we allowed to pray janazah upon them or not? These are the issues that we're worried about, can we bring the body inside the masjid or not? Those are not the things that we need to think about brothers and sisters, what we need to think about is that how do we get here as a Muslim community? And why is this happening in our community to
first of all, is when we talk about mental health.
This is a serious issue.
And let me make this very, very clear,
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this has nothing to do.
I mean, in some capacity, you may, but as many people they believe that if you have a mental health issue, this has to do with your faith. This has to do with your iman, if you have low, Iman, you're going to have suicidal tendencies, you're gonna have suicidal thoughts, and your mind is high, then you're gonna, then you're not going to have those thoughts. That's absolutely wrong. Just like today, when I have any kind of, when I have any health complications, I go to the doctor, and I seek help brothers and sisters, mental health is no different.
Mental health is no different. We have this going on in society. To long time ago, only adults would have depression would have stress anxiety. But today we are living through such times that even children are developing anxiety, children are developing depression.
And what we do as a Muslim community, unfortunately, is that first of all, is that we have not opened this idea of to our family members, we still consider this as a taboo in our society. If someone comes and says that I have depression, the first thing that we say is you're not praying your Salaat or you're not doing your zikr or you're not doing your Quran Tilawat. That is the thing that we say, first of all is this is, as I said, a very serious issue. Children, think about this children, they are going through this, because have you ever thought about what a child has to go through in this day and age, you have to keep your parents happy. You got to keep your grades up,
you go to a school and you hear Islamophobic rants, Islamophobic slurs, racial slurs, you got to take care of yourself, you got to worry about what people think about you rely if you sit down with our children, in many cases, they're going through serious problems.
But how many times have we sat down with our children? Do we have that open concept in our family? Have we made that very clear to our kids,
that you can come to me, I sit down with these youngsters I know what they go through. On one end, they're trying to please their parents. On one end, they're trying to fit into their culture. On one hand, they're trying to please their religion on one and they're trying to fit into society. And they're scattered everywhere.
They're scattered everywhere. There was a research that was done there from 2008 to 2015. The number of kids between the ages of eight and 15 the kids who had suicidal thoughts doubled. This is 2018 Do you really think that our kids don't think about this? The kids are sick or kids do think about this? When our kids have they had they cannot pay attention in class. We always we always say that there are a bad kid, a really terrible kid. Have you ever thought that they may have some psychological issues taking place and such and having a psychological issue is not an eye
that it is not a punishment from Allah subhanho wa taala. It is part of what we are going through in our society.
Mothers and fathers are going through their own depression in their own stress. Fathers are going through their own stress work with a stress social related stress, family raised stress, you know, going to work and dealing with at times dealing with their the situation I work in may not be a very favorable situation, but they're going through that why so that they can provide food on the table for their family. And we don't think about that. The sisters are going through their own stress. They're going through their own depression, their own anxiety. And we need to realize that when we are going through this, we need to seek help. Just because we see someone happy does not mean that
they're not going through trouble as that sister in the community who committed suicide. She was everywhere. She was a community activist, she was talking to people, yes, I understand if a person took their life, and they had seclude themselves and did not talk to anyone, and they disconnected themselves from the entire society. And after a while they did this, it is still somewhat understood. But a person who is part of the community in society, they do this, it is mind boggling. Think about what they went through. Think about what they went through their depression and their stress had reached such a level, such a level that they were so destroyed inside, that taking the
life was easy upon them. Do you know how much you know how much strength you need to do something like that. But yet they went through that.
Brothers and sisters
Rasulullah sallallahu, alayhi wasallam.
When he saw people like that in his society, there was a woman who in a society who existed like that, and there were others too. And this woman, she would first of all refer to the province of Salaam, and she will not recall she will not reach out to the province Salem the way other people they would call out to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, and then she would tell about some come here, I want to talk to you and so forth. rustless salam, he always dealt with her very gently, not once did I saw some say that you are in this state because of your lack of faith, the person realized that this is a serious, serious issue in our community. So what do we do? What do we need
to do as a community? First of all, is, we have to treat this like any other problem. And we have to recognize that it is a problem, the very first step in solving any problem is to realize that there's a problem. And while if we keep on living in this denial, if we keep on living in this denial, that this is not an issue in our community, then it will then it will remain as a denial till the time comes that it happens with someone closer to us.
Before that time comes, we have to address this, we have to create this mindset that just like any other sickness, this requires attention, and we need to go and see someone don't go is the Imam of this organization. I'm telling you that if you have a mental health issue, you don't go to Imams, don't go to religious leaders, because they don't have the training. I don't have the training. When people come to me and they say, I have some serious issues, I will sit down and I will listen to them. But the minute I know that this is not, this is not my this is not, this is not my responsibility. This is not something that I can help this person with. I always refer to them as
someone else. Brothers and sisters, if you think that by keeping people like that at home, and the the problem will go away, it will not go away. You're gonna have to spend some money. Just like today we spend money to for healthcare purposes, we're gonna have to spend money. If there is a person in our family who is going through this, we need to provide that help. And we need to open our we need to open our pockets to help that person. If there's a person who is going, if there is a couple that is going through problems in their marriage. I always talk to people about this. I know this, this happens our Muslim community, people don't go and they seek help. They want to sit at
home and try to solve the problems. And don't you realize and don't we all realize that if we have spent 1000s and 1000s of dollars upon a marriage, why is it so difficult to spend hundreds of dollars to fix your marriage and to maintain your marriage? It's a no brainer, but yet we don't want to spend money will go in to spend money on other things, but we won't spend money when it comes to our health, our mental health and our family.
Last thing is
getting to know your resources, getting to know your resources. When I have a serious problem, I rushed to the emergency room. We know that this is
there, but when I have a mental health break down, when I have serious depression, then I need to know what are the resources in my community, do the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, they will come to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, they're probably some will refer to them at other places. But this is something that we need to know. A lot of times we don't know these things, and that's why we have other issues. Having said that, the next thing I want to get to before I have to conclude the hotbar is domestic violence. Domestic Violence brothers and sisters is a serious, serious issue within our communities. And I've said this before, too, that I'm not
talking about people who don't come to the masjid, I'm talking about people who come to the masjid. See domestic violence when it comes to physical abuse, in most cases is the man who is physically abusing his wife. That is, that is a fact. But when you talk about other types of abuses, psychological abuse, emotional abuse than both men and women are victims. And when we have to realize is that first of all the province that Allahu alayhi wa sallam, he is our role model number one to begin with, and not once did he ever emotionally psychologically, or even physically abused his wife's eye instead of the alotta Yalta on her says, Never once did Ross Ross on Salem, he laid
his hands upon me, Zaid, even the Hadith I chose to stay with the province of Salem. Despite being a slave, he would rather be a slave in the company of Ross lawless Allah, just because the way the problem treated him think about the o'clock of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when you and I we call ourselves the followers of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and then we treat our families this way. Then I want to remind myself and I want to remind yourself to that there is a Hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, that hadith I shared a few days ago, on Tuesday night, that the problem is that Allah while he was sending saw a boo Massoud hitting his slave,
abusing his slave. And the problem is our son did not say why are you doing this? The person got upset with him. When people abuse each other, you'll always have an explanation. I'm abusing her are abusing him because they did something to me. That is not going to be acceptable by Allah subhanaw taala on the Day of Judgment, did the Prophet ask Why are you hitting your slave? The person did not ask that the person got upset that day you are hitting your slave and you should not be doing something like this. In our families. There is so much Zumba is taking place. Allah subhanho wa Taala says Bootsy Yeah, a baddie in the haram to Valhalla enough see what you're allowed to be in a
coma haram and flat of all mo I have made volume haram upon myself. It is prohibited upon Allah subhanaw taala to commit. He says I made Lim haram even amongst ourselves. And as hustle and bustle with Allah, Allah He mentions the words type of volume is when you do upon someone who cannot defend themselves. And today in our family, that's exactly what's happening. And many cases we know that where is my child gonna go? I've had youngsters who have come to me and have told told me how they are being emotionally and psychologically abused by their parents.
I've had husbands who have come to me and complain about this wives who have come to me and sisters that have come to me and complain about this. And I share it I remind you what was lost. I'm told I've almost ruined and he says the Allahu Akbar Daru alayka Minka Elaine. When you abuse someone, you are exerting your power over that person, you know that this person doesn't have any power, you know that this person is not going to go anywhere. Because that is that is something that is existed existed within many of our families.
I know they will not go anywhere. They are dependent upon me, the abuse and the abuse and families.
And when that happens, remember that just like today you are using your power and your strength upon someone else. Allah has more strength upon you. Today you are doing this with someone else. Tomorrow Allah will use his power against you. Not in the same way. But Allah will provide justice at that time you will realize that how does it feel when you abuse other people, brothers and sisters, if I know if I am an abuser in my family, I need to start this today. Not because this hoga but because I realized that just like I'm abusing someone today and I'm pushing my power over someone else today, Allah is going to show me his power upon me on the day of judgment, out of fear of Allah subhanho wa
Taala treat others with dignity and respect. If there is abuse taking place in our family, we need to stop it today. It is not allowed and how many people they use this idea and
Fortunately over and over again to justify your actions. The idea from Susan Lisa, where Allah subhana uses the word world reboot Hoonah have never even though this word was reborn as mentioned, we don't realize that the word word reboot Hoonah. In the Quran, the word Bulava has been used in so many different ways. Yeah Your Highness booty mama saloon first time you're hola here it does not mean that they did not have the meaning of hitting that of Allah. Masala Linda de Luca from water No one wrote a lot here Bella does not mean to hit the lava does not only mean that it does not only mean to hit there are so many other meanings of Baba. And if you really want to, as we all know,
there is the teachings of the Quran. And it has been demonstrated by this rasa Allahu alayhi wa sallam had hitting your wife and physically abusing her, or, or emotionally abusing anyone in the family was allowed. Allah the Prophet SAW Selim would have done that. But what did the Prophet saw Sam do when he got upset at his wife, he disconnected himself for a while. He stayed away from his wives for a while. And one of the meanings of Baba is to disconnect and separate and to travel. And what that means is that it's okay to separate yourself for a bit. Because separation provides perspective to both husband and wife. And that's fine. But never do we find a slow Sanlam hitting or
abusing his spouse. And if I call myself a follower of Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam that I will stop this today. I don't care what we see in our culture. Many of us many people who abused their spouse, they saw their fathers doing that to their mothers, and they thought that it was normal. They felt that this is part of family. I can do this whatever I want. I can abuse I can do whatever I want. But that is not what we learned. We don't learn our deen from our culture. We don't learn our deen from society. We learn our deen from Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and never did us wa salam he abused anyone. So that's why if this is happening, first of all, we got to make sincere Toba to
Allah subhanho wa Taala and if this is happening, we need to stop ourselves. Because if not today, tomorrow, there will be accountability. Ask Allah subhanaw taala to give us the ability to act what's been sent her Bartok hola hola Anna, welcome Philippa. I know when I find out when you are coming out to Hakeem and stuff that Allah honey welcome What is it Mr. manifesto Pharaoh in the hula? hula hula right
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That's a staggering amount. And once again, don't think that this is their problem. It's creeping into our Muslim community too. If you don't know about it, it doesn't mean that it does not exist as the Imam as a community leader. We always find out about this, we will always find out about this I will say about your community leaders and all the misogyny we find out about these things. So these are, these are serious problems. Not only that, another statistic I want to share with you is that every single day, three to four women die because of domestic violence. This is happening in our society. Last thing is that please talk to your family members, talk to your children, open up a
company open up have an open concept in your family. Have this understanding and tell your family that if anyone has any issues or some people at times they feel like they have an issue, take them get them checked. There's nothing wrong with that. And if it comes clear, 100 comes clear. But if there is ever a problem in our in our family, and our family members are scared of of sharing that with others, that we have a serious problem within our families. That's why if there's anything please share with your families, if you feel like that your family is not open to this idea. Then go and get help and get help from someone who is a professional not any mom go and get it. Go get
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