Nadim Bashir – Family and Moderation – 40 Hadith of Aisha (RA)

Nadim Bashir
AI: Summary © The operator discusses the importance of the title The 40 Hadith of the Isha, which is the last book of the series The 40 Hadith of the Isha, and emphasizes the significance of teaching children the importance of respect and respect in learning the Quran. The speaker also discusses the importance of moderation and showing respect to others, as well as the need for balance in deemings and healthy spending. The conversation also touches on a collection of a Hadith collection and a book called "The Hand on the Wedding" that provides insight into the holy grail of Islam.
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Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh I hope everyone is doing well today. In sha Allah today we are starting a new series The 40 Hadith of the Isha or the Allah Tala on how the reason I chose this is because, first of all, there is no person who knows us better than our own family members. If you want to know who a person truly is, simply ask the family members or ask those people who are the most closest to them, or the who spends the most amount of time with them. And I shall have the allotted on how first of all out of the women there is no one who has narrated the most a hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, as we find in many books of a hadith, she has narrated more

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than 20 to 100, a Hadith from Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Not only that, but many other Hadith that we see narrated by hijo the yellow Kanaan ha. They comprise of many different aspects of the life of the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam ranging from Aki the to a HELOC to add up and so forth. This is why we study our mother ie shadow the Allahu Taala and inshallah one. One thing I want to let everyone know in this series is that if you do have any questions, please do send them in sha Allah. And we will have we will have someone to get those questions to me in sha Allah either our answer those questions at the end of the session, or inshallah we'll answer those questions in

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the upcoming session.

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Today in sha Allah I have chosen to a to hadith of I shall be allowed to run half. Both of them are Asahi, both of them are mentioned in our major books of a hadith as you all know that there are six major books of Hadith. And these are a hadith, mostly from those books. The very first Hadith that I want to share with you today is a Hadith from Sunon. Abu Dawood and this is in the chapter of Kitab will add up Kitab will other by the way is the last chapter or the last book. So one thing is that I want to let all of you know that when you read a actual book of Hadith, I'm not talking about like, you know, these kind of like books of Hadith that we see the small versions, or the small books of

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Hadith, I'm talking about when you read a proper book of Hadees when I'm saying like Behati or Muslim, or Timothy or Abu Dawood and so forth. There's something called kitab. So, for example, when Allah when, when the book starts, it says Kitab kohara, this is the book of the hara, then you have different chapters within that, for example, you have the, the chapter of which water you can use and which water you cannot use. So then that comes under the word bab. The word Bob is called a chapter. So here in certain Abu Dhabi, you have an entire Kitab meaning the entire book dedicated to a dub, and there is something important I do what I mentioned about other not in this Kitab of other

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there is a chapter called standing up to receive someone and within this chapter this is a Hadith narrated by you shall the EULA to the and how she says

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well I'm in one on one what we need I should there are the yellow to the on her and her call it

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Mara a to harden. Can ashba has some time. We're Hadean we're done. We'll call Hassan Hadith, and we're Kalam and while I'm yet Quran, Hassan Asana, Asana, Assumpta well Hadiya what the law be Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in fall the MATA Karim Allahu wa Jaha cannot either the Hala Tala, he called me Ilya for AHA, the BIA they were called Bella were agile as I have imagined they see he what kind of either the holla Allah, Comet la for AHA that be a de Fatah cop ballot for the Kabbalah to agenda set who imagined this Ehab. This is a Hadith narrated by Aisha Villalta on her, she says, I never saw anyone more like I never saw anyone more like the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam in respect of gravity, a calm demeanor and a pleasant attitude. And according to another version of Hassan, and in that version, there is no mention of gravity in calm demeanor and pleasant attitude. But he says but what I shared with the Ultra has saying that I've never seen anyone in terms of gravity, calm demeanor and pleasant

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attitude like alfalfa or the along Tala on her. When she came to visit the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, he got up to welcome her, took her by her hand, kissed her, and made her sit, where he was sitting. And when he went to go visit her, she got up to welcome him, took him by the hand, kissed him, and made him sit where she was sitting. Now this is the hadith of Aisha Rhodiola unhappy. So in essence, what I shared with the Allah Donna is saying is, first of all, when we learn about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and his attitude and his demeanor, we all know that he had a very calm demeanor, his attitude was very pleasant. And as I have shared in many a hadith

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before, when it comes to the lock of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam, that he was always the kind of person that the way he would behave was such that it was more inviting than making people run away or dispelling other people. So that's why it's very important that number one, we have this attitude, overall whether we are at home, whether we are amongst other strangers, and especially what we learned from this hadith is that our Isha is the one who's mentioning this, which means that this was the nature of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam see our true colors, they come they become apparent at home, if a person is truly aggressive, then when they are at home, they will

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become aggressive, they may not become aggressive outside or in front of other people. But when they get home, most certainly they will become aggressive. The fact that our E shadow the yellow that on how our mother is saying that this is who also lost the Allahu Allah He was sent on was, is very telling, is telling us that this was his true colors. He was always a person of calm demeanor, and so forth. The second thing that I should have mentioned here in this hadith is that if there was anyone in there in terms of their attitude, in terms of being calm, in terms of their, you know, their pleasant, their pleasant attitude overall, there was no one who was more similar to the

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam than his own daughter, Fatima are the Allahu Taala on her. And then Aisha is saying that when she would come to visit her father, the father, the father of the Prophet, sallAllahu sallam, he would get up from his place, and he would go, and he would kiss her and hold her hand and bring her and make her sit in his place. And then later on, when the Prophet would go to faultiness house, she would do the same exact, she would get up, she would entertain and welcome the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, her own father, and then after that, she would kiss the hands of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and bring him and let him sit in her place. So

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this is what the hadith of Aisha Radi Allahu Allah, Allah is saying, and this hadith by the way, there's a lot of things I do want to mention. So the very first thing is that this hadith in many books of other Hadith it has been mentioned not in this chapter of standing up for someone, but has been mentioned when we talk about the monarchy and the furball ale and the virtues and the position of Fatima Rhodiola Quran Ha, this is a Hadith that many people have used to show that how Fatima was so beloved to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and this is something that we see very often that many different times. The, you know, the love that the Prophet sallallahu some he showed to

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Fatima or the ultra unhappy. In fact, we all know that when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he passed away, the only living child that was left behind was faulty MA or the Allahu Taala on her. And not only that, but we all know and we have come across a story to a very beautiful story, that when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was passing away, he called foul to model the Allah to Allah and he uttered something in her ear and I shot is watching this. Now you can just imagine that you're imagine two people talking and someone is smiling and then someone who's crying. The very first thing is that your curiosity is sparked that what exactly is the prophet telling Fatima that

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she has a smile on her face like I want to know what is going on. And and not only that, but he said something that Fatima is now she has a sad face, and she wants to know exactly what is going on. So this hadith in itself also tells us and shows that how much the Prophet some he loved. Fall tomorrow.

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Do Walter are unhappy. The second thing is that what we learned from this hadith is that this hadith has been mentioned as I said earlier in the Kitab of adapt, the Kitab adopt is the last chapter mentioned incident of Buddhahood. Now, why is it that there is a chapter of up, first of all is that in all the books of the major books of a hadith, we will always find a key tab or a chapter known as a dub. Why? Because other is so important brothers and sisters, and other was so important to the extent that I understand that many times as parents we were taught adult, okay, when we were growing up our parents before we even learn Quran before we learned anything, before we even went to the

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masjid and started learning how to read the Quran, and we do anything else. We were taught adults, okay, we were taught how to be respectful. And what saddening is that in this day and age that we are living in, we don't see so much of that. Our focus has become so much that when our children are growing up, we are so focused on teach them the stories of the Quran, or teach them how to read the Quran, and teach them, you know, making them memorize sutras. But what's important is that other has to be taught and this is the very first thing I wish is something very beautiful with everyone here. Go back to the hadith of Gibreel Alayhis Salam, according to many Allah ma, the hadith of Gibreel,

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where he comes to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he asked many questions. This is a Hadith known as omole, a hadith according to many Allah ma, this is the mother of all the Hadith. And before even Gibreel allihies Salam asked, What is Islam before he even asked what is Iman, before he even asked, What is your son? Look closely, what did Omar ibn hubub highlight in that hadith? He talked about the respect that that you bring during his time he showed to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. First of all, when we talk about respect, especially when it comes to knowledge, a person should wear clean clothes. This is why a lot of times when Imam Malik Muhammad

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Allah, Allah Subhanallah, so beautiful, and how much respect he had for Hadith, when a times when people would come to him, and they will say, Oh, Imam teach us a hadith, then he will say that, first of all, let me go, he will change his clothes, he will wear something very nice and beautiful. He will apply perfume and author, and then he will sit down. And then he will teach the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. When someone asked that, why would you do this? He says that if I'm going to take the words of the best man ever to step foot on this earth, then it should be done with a certain level of respect. This is called a dub in the Hadith, algebra, Italic Islam,

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what did he say? He says that he came jumping in it comes in the form of a human being, for us now the rock but he Iraq, but he will walk by Cafe Alpha TV, he comes in, he sits like we were journey sit into childhood. And he puts his knees with the knees of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And he puts his hands on his thighs. And this is a big laugh amongst him who had the thing that he put his hands on his own thighs, or did he put his hands on the thighs of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And it makes more sense that he put his thighs, he put his hands on his own thighs. And just think about sitting in the shadows, putting your hands on your own thighs, and

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learning from another person. This is called a dub. And before Islam and before Iman, and before all this, the Hadith highlights a dub. And this is so important because if a person does not have a dub, there's not much you can learn. You know, in order we say, but other Barnsey bear the benefit is something very common that many of us have heard. If we grew up in the subcontinent, that if a person has adult in their life, there's very much that they will receive and they will learn in life. And they will be given a lot by Allah. But a person who is bad of a person who has a lack of manners and lack of respect, then they will be deprived of many good things in their life. So this

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is the very first thing that I really want to highlight is that we really need to teach our kids the importance of adults have in front of parents or who have grandparents, either when it comes to talking either when it comes to living inside the house, or that when you talk when you go to your teacher and learn from your teacher, especially nowadays. I mean our kids are sitting online learning Quran Allah because of this pandemic, and they should learn that is part of other that when they sit in front then they should be sitting in a nice place. They should wear something nice because we are reading the word

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Words of Allah subhanho wa taala. This is adapt. Another thing that we learn in this hadith is that, once again, here, the children are here, the father model, the Allah, Allah is like Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And the lesson in this is that just like the parents just how they are just like the parents are going to be. And just as the parents are going to behave, likewise, the children will behave a similar way. And subhanAllah I've seen this happening so many times in my own life, that when you see a husband and a wife, whoever, very calm demeanor, they're very soft spoken Subhanallah, their own children become the same exact way. They're also very soft spoken, they're

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very calm in their nature. And when you have a person who's very aggressive, who's always showing their anger, and so forth, then eventually the kids they learn in this way, you know, I'm going on a tangent here for a second here, but even when you talk about, like, for example, domestic violence, why is it that our our men in many cases, they they commit or they do or they are, you know, they do commit domestic violence? Why is it that they're violent is because a lot of times they will never taught this necessarily. They probably saw their own father doing the same thing to their own mother. Children learn very much from the parents. This is why Imam Ghazali Rahmatullah it he always

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mentioned that when it comes to teaching children always do in from the other children. If it comes to praise the Lord, try to pray your Salah, especially what we find in the Sunnah of the Prophet SAW Sanlam that he will praise sunnah at home. So Imam Hassan is saying that when it comes to praise the Lord, praise sloth affirm your children, because this is the best way to teach them. So this is something that we learn from from this Hadith also of Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when the other beautiful things that we find this hadith is that the Prophet Allahu Allah He was sent them overall, what's most beautiful about the Prophet alayhi salam is that he was considered as an

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all rounder, like, not only was he a prophet, but he was also like, in one way, like the counselor of his community, he will always counsel Sahaba he was always he was not just a, he was not a prophet, but he was a leader. And subhanAllah you know, if you ever studied leadership, like leadership, 101 and you have studied the Sierra of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam at the same time, you can draw so many similarities between the Laws of Leadership and the character of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And you know, somehow this shows that what an amazing leader the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was, at the same time, where we also learned is a what an

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amazing teacher, Yes, Teacher, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was, see when it comes to teaching, there's so many different methods of teaching. See, one is to teach where a person just comes in, they just sit there and just give a lecture. That is one way of teaching. But when you talk about teaching, like you're going in a school, there's a proper, or there's a professional teacher, that they're teaching kids or they're teaching students every single day, then there are many different styles of teaching. And one of the most effective ways of teaching your students or in this case, even your own children, is through demonstration. And because when you demonstrate

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something you show and you are educating that this is how this is done. Now, what the Prophet SAW Allah while your son did here, is that he never sat down. And he never He never just signed his place and said to Fatima, come here, and you know how you know he never taught her respect to this way or love this way. He actually got up and this is him demonstrating that What does love mean? Going all the way to a fall out of the allotted on ha and the Hadith actually says all my ELA Ha, that he's not standing for her because the Hadith could have said, Kamala Ha he stood up for her. But the Hadith says Alma la ha, he stood up towards her mean that the Prophet exam is getting up and

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he's going to Fatima. Brother yella OnHub, and he's kissing her. And he's showing the Rama in the chef car to follow them out or the yellow that on her. And this is him demonstrating that how do you show love? How do you show respect? So first of all, is that we learn when amazing teacher the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was But what makes a prophet some unknown on another level, amazing teacher, is that a teacher always understands the weaknesses and the strengths of their own students. Likewise, parents if you are an amazing teacher, you know the strengths and the weaknesses of your own children. So when you know the strengths or weaknesses of your own child or your

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on students, you're able to instruct them in a way that you can focus on their strengths and not focus on the weaknesses. Now, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam, the reason why he was also considered as an amazing teacher, is because he understands that if I get up, and I try to teach Fatima, the concept of love, the concept of respect, she may or she may not understand. But I do know that if I stand up, and I go to her, and I show her this, and I demonstrate it, most certainly she will learn it. And that's exactly what the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam did. He never saw it sat there and taught her the concept of respect. Because a lot of times today, as parents, that's

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exactly what we do. We try to sit there, and we try to teach our children that this is where respect is. And you know, we talk to our children, sometimes for like, 1520 minutes, half an hour about respect, respect, respect, and the theory of respect. And after five minutes later, or shouldn't are the same exact way, they'll make the same mistake. And as a parent, you're thinking to yourself that I just gave my child a half an hour talk about what respect is, and they don't understand anything. Here's the answer. A lot of times, you may have to demonstrate it in order to teach your children because that is probably that is one of the most effective ways of teaching. And this is what we

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learned from Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Something else that has also been discussed when we talk about this hadith of standing up, this is what the hadith is, and this is the chapter incident of Buddhahood, the chakra of standing up for other people. So the question is that what does Islam say about standing up for other people? Because there are some people who have debated this matter, because there are some a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam they have said, that do not stand up for other people. So the question is that is standing up for someone allowed? Is it permissible or is it impermissible? And there's a lot of confusion in this area. So I

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wanted to clarify this. First of all, is, there is nothing wrong in standing up for someone out of respect. So imagine if you're sitting and your parents walk in, stand up for respect, Imagine you're sitting and there is an elderly man, okay, that has walked in. Or if you are a sister and an elderly sister walks in, like it could be your mother or, I mean, someone who is older than you. It could be your mother, elderly such as your grandmother and so forth. They will walk in, there is nothing wrong in standing up for respect. When the funeral of a Jewish man was passing by Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he stood up when someone asks you so this is a Jewish man, why are you

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standing up? He says at least enough sun, like was he not a human being? Indeed he was a human being. When Saddam law or the law the unknown was coming. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said to the other Sahaba to either say you they come standard for your leader, because sod been wild or the yellow Dawn was the leader of the unsought. So here the prophet is telling the other Sahaba that out of respect stand up for him. So there's nothing wrong in doing that. At the same time, there is a Hadith narrated by Anissa Malika the yawata on, which is found in telemovie, where the unassuming Malik said, Let me acquit shocks on a hub lay him in Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam, there was no one more beloved to the Companions, then Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam what can we either oh who lamb your Kumu Lima ya allah Munna min karate he, Cara Hiya, te Dalek, undisciplined, mallex says then that as much as they love the Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when they saw him coming, they will not stand up because they knew that he disliked. The fact that people will stand up for us was ALLAH Hardy was salam. Now, even though this hadith may seem that it is not allowed, or it is mcru, to stand up for someone, the explanation given by the Obama and mahadi thing is that the concept behind this hadith is that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam

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does not want the Sahaba to venerate him and to, you know, show him so much respect that where it becomes exaggeration, because long time ago, that's exactly what what happened. People will stand up for other people, and because it was feeding the other person's ego. And there was so much exaggerate in the respect and the honor that the person who's being shown respect and honor and dignity, they take advantage of that. So the problem is, or someone is not saying that do not show up, do not stand up. But he's also trying to teach the Sahaba there has to be a level of moderation when you stand up for someone wanting to stand up for someone. But then sometimes there are some

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certain things that we do when standing up that can exaggerate in their ego and so forth. So the problem is, is I'm saying do not do that. In fact, another Hadith narrated by a

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My motto of the year water on the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says, led to Punahou come out the Kuhmo. Jim, you have the new Ba ba ba ba on the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says,

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that do not stand up, do not sign up like foreigners do. And because what they do is that they exaggerate one another, they, they they do so much, and feeding that ego to the other person. So the ultimate have said that there is nothing wrong in standing up for other people. But at the same time, if you know that this person's ego is going to be more fed, or if you know that people are exaggerating and standing up for a person, because this is you know, a person who stands up at times can sometimes almost come off as the other person is thinking to themselves that I am so much superior than everyone else. So this is why it's very important that the person's ego should not be

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fed and is they should not get the impression that they are somewhat divine or they should have you know, they have they are more superior than everyone else. But they should show be shown respect and there's nothing wrong and standing up overall. The last thing I do want to share about this hadith before I get to the next hadith is the importance of showing love to our children. You know Subhanallah you know, many parents have asked me is that what can we do to bring our children closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala and I always tell them one thing, first of all is as the parent, you should be close to Allah subhanho wa taala. Number two is, if you show love, and respect and dignity

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to your own children, eventually we'll come close to Allah subhanho wa Taala sitting down and teaching children about the importance or a brother Allah time, they may not understand that. But the one thing that they do understand the one thing that they can feel all the time is the love of their parents. If you really want your child to come close to Allah, then show them first of all, how much Allah is loving. And not only that, but you can even tell your own children that do you think that Mommy and Daddy loves you? And they say Yes, mommy daddy, they love us, they love us very much. And then you can say that Allah subhanaw taala loves you more than Mommy and Daddy loves you,

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you know, saying something like this to show them that Allah subhanaw taala is very loving. And not only that, but you as a parent if you show that love and respect, then inshallah This will bring them closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala so this is the very first hadith of eyeshadow the yellow Tonhalle the second hadith of Aisha I want to share with you today is a Hadith from Buhari and this is from the chapter of Kitab Eman the book of iman. And in this book there is a chapter known as Bob a hardwood Dini eat Allah He or the woman who that this is the chapter that Dean and the worship Allah subhanho wa Taala that is the most beloved to Allah is One day is done on a regular basis. So

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let's go to the Hadith the hadith is one of the ultra Unha and in the biggest sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the HA HA HA HA HA HA Imran Allah Madhavi Paulette Fila Anna does Kuruman Salah T ha ka ma ra Combi Marathi own for Hola Hola Mundo la haute, Emmylou? What can I have Bodine? Elaine? He my damn it, he saw people who there's a hadith narrated by Aisha that once the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came while a woman was sitting with me. So this is Aisha saying, a woman was sitting with me. He said, Who is she? I replied, she is so and so. And then I told him, this is Aisha saying that I told the Prophet salallahu, Assam, about her excessive salaat that she used to praise a lot a lot.

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He said Allahu Allah, he was salam disapprovingly said that do good deeds, which is within your capacity and means as Allah does not get tired of giving rewards, but surely you will get tired and the best deed or the best worship in the sight of Allah is that one that is done on a regular basis. Now here this is a very beautiful Hadith that teaches us moderation and the Prophet alayhi salam is highlighting the emphasis of moderation. Here even 100 mentions that in the explanation of Sahadi, he mentioned that there is a another di wire and there are other devices that we find in other places, something very similar to this. And they and they mentioned that like for example, in most

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of the AMA there's another reason why I mentioned that where I wish I could is coming to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is telling and telling him about the excessive worship of another woman. And it is mentioned and that is that that hadith is regarding tahajjud and that hadith is regarding that how much Salah she will pray at night. And it's important to understand that this this there's a lot of validity to this opinion. Why? Because we find also in body under the under the kit.

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Have or the chapter of tahajjud that once was who also Allahu Allah he was sending them he came out. And this Hadith also narrated by unassertive Malik that he saw that there were ropes tied up in the masjid and two rows tie between two pillars. And he asked that what is this rope here doing? And then people said that this is the rope for Xena. What are the a lot that on Ha, and that whenever she feels tired whenever she's first hired from performing Salaat then she would use that to hold herself up. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he ordered the tote the ropes to be untied and so forth. And then he says you should pray as long as you feel active. And when you get tired,

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he will say he says Sit down. And so this is why it when we talk about salatu salam ala is the five time days a lot. Of course we have to do those. But in terms of the additional prayers, like at night, sometimes people they want to and they have the love for standing up and night and praying to Allah subhana wa Tada. But at the same time the Prophet SAW was some was also teaching us that there is a level of moderation, like when you want to do it, that's fine. But if you start to feel tired, and you start to feel fatigue, then take some rest. So even 100 mentions that this is in reference to praying a night and this is this is also what called the idea that I'm with Allah Allah he

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mentioned, however, there are some other orlimar who mentioned that no, this hadith actually teaches us moderation and all aspects of our life. Another thing is that where we find this hadith of the Prophet sallallahu ala he was sending them narrated by Isha is that there's a discussion even amongst your Alma that did our Isha tell, the Prophet SAW Selim about this woman in front of her or in her absence? And those you know, some of you might have even said that, no, it was not done in front of her. And some said, No, it was done in front of her. But the whole point of making this on the root of bringing this up is that there is also something in our deen about praising other

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people. See, there is nothing wrong in praising someone else. When it comes to our children, we should praise them when they do something good. You know, this is why when it comes to children and the growth of children, our psychologist and our you know, people who are experts of understanding children development, they always say that when a child does something, provide reinforcement, and you know, recognize what good that they have done. So there's nothing wrong in praising someone. But if you know that praising someone is going to increase in their kibble, appraising someone is going to increase in their origin of origin means that they feel so much about themselves, that they began

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to put other people down, then that becomes problematic. So there's nothing wrong and praising someone else, as long as it's done in moderation, and making sure that the other person is not, you know, is not taking the praises in a wrong way. Another thing that we learned in this hadith overall is the importance of doing everything in moderation. As I said earlier, that means that when we talk about the life of the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, there was moderation across the board. When it came to giving Dawa. Remember, the Prophet SAW Selim was a profit center in the entire mankind, he had a great responsibility. Yet, every single day, there was a time and a place for

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every single thing. He never exaggerated and giving time to his family, where he will neglect the sahaba. He never exaggerated and giving time to the Sahaba to the Sahaba, that his family will be neglected. There was never a situation where his kids were neglected. There was never a situation where no matter how many Sahaba they were there, that he would show more love to one over the other. The province Salam when it came to Dawa when it came to loving other people, he had a certain level of moderation. And now I understand this difficult to do, because when we talk about moderation, another thing that gets discussed is that what about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam talking

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about how much he loved Hi Isha. So love is something by the way, and this is something that you Mombasa young girl has also mentioned, that love is something that it's uncontrollable, and it can never be measured. But at the same time, when it comes to treating other people like the person the way he would treat the Sahaba, he would treat all the Sahaba equally, like it was not as if there's some Sahaba felt that the person never gives me attention or the person never loves me. In fact, every Happy Father's person loves them the most. So this is called moderation, moderation in terms of giving charity. Of course, we should give charity as much as we can. But at the same time, you

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have to look after your own family. Now a person says I'm going to keep on giving charity and you're putting your own self in difficulty, to the extent that now you're going and you're taking loans from other people, just because you're giving so much charity, your family's being neglected. Our dean teaches us that this is not should be this should not

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Don't be the case. Also what we find is we should apply moderation when it comes to spending our time outside the house. There are people that they believe that we have to spend so much time outside the house doing good and participating here and participate participating there, and such activities and humanitarian activities and so forth, or even in the name of Dawa, that a lot of times their families get neglected. When it comes to knowledge, there has to be moderation. A man came to America with the Ultron and he was asking him about a an idea of social work that is related to Jana and Ahmed, a new hatha yoga and he said that we were forbidden from excessiveness and

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exaggeration. Now, let's think about that a man comes and he asks a question. And aluminum Bob is saying that, that we have been forbidden from exaggerating what exactly is I want to hop up saying here, what he's trying to say is that when it comes to even your knowledge, you know, there is some knowledge that is irrelevant and there is knowledge that is relevant. knowledge that is relevant is learning how to read the Quran knows that is relevant is learning about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to make ourselves a better human being knowledge that is relevant is knowing how to pray slot correctly. knowledge that is relevant is knowing how to do things in rice and prop and you

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know, in certain circumstances, that is called relevant knowledge. Irrelevant knowledge would be at times is that your sort of Fatiha and your basics and your everything your basic Dean is lacking, but you're worried about the what is the history and why is a Lefort in this way. Like there are people that sometimes that the so they focus so much on the other things that they are lacking in their own basics our deen has taught us that there are basics and we have to show respect to those basics first. And once we have conquered and once we have achieved those basics, then we can focus on some of the other things and this is what we learned from our power the Allah Quran. We also

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learn about those three men who came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and they actually thought that by us showing excessiveness in our deen, we will come closer to Allah subhana wa taala. And this is what a lot of people do. And this is what these three men they did. And what did they say? I will fast every single day. One man said I will pray every single night all night. And then the third person said I will never get married again. And the Prophet SAW Allah while you were someone he heard about this, he came across those three men. And he says, Are you those three people who says such and such? And they said yes. And then the Prophet saw some teaching them a very

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important lesson. I have more tequila than you had ever say in a degrading way. But he was just simply making a fact that when it comes to tequila, and of course you emulate me you emulate the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And then on top of that, you're saying that you will fast everyday and you will pray all night long that you will never get married? This is not what our deen is. There is a balance in our deen. And that is where a lot of times if you go and you study, why is there so many issues within our families in the Muslim community overall, is because there's a lack of balance. There's a serious lack of balance, lack of balance in terms of the lack of balance in

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terms of spending time with family lack of balance when it comes to treating our family lack of balance when it comes to, you know, how much attention do we give to one over the other? This is why this hadith teaches us and the Prophet some he said very disapprovingly that I would rather and what's more important is that the deed is done on a regular basis. If you pray a lot, and you pray like 50 cars, and then the next day you get tired and you don't ever do that, again. Allah subhanho wa Taala would rather prefer that you do to a four or six or eight guys, but you do that more consistently. Allah Subhan Allah likes that more. So that's why it is more important that we keep

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something ongoing, rather than doing it once and letting it go. You rather take out $1 of subpar every single day or $2 or subpar every single day, rather than just giving one time $100 And that is it. So that's why in everything that we do, number one moderation. Number two is that when it comes to one number one is moderation. The other thing is making sure that when we do everything, everything is balanced and making sure that everything is done in such a way that we can do it long term and not just one time. So these are the two a hadith of ISIL Do you love that and of course they teach and if in a nutshell, if you put both of them together, it teaches us the importance of

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family and moderation. I will conclude here inshallah. Having said that, I believe there are some questions that have come up.

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Let's try to look at them

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the one question that comes up that has been asked is that, how can I get a copy of the 40 Hadith? So first of all, is that I'm not actually going necessarily through a certain 40 Hadith of ISO villafana. There is I will say that there is one that I am using right now for some a hadith of Aisha and I may well, Ohio, I may just stick to that. But it was 40 Hadith compiled by a sister in the United States by the name of noodle de night. So this is her collection of Hadith, of Aisha of YOLO that I'm here and once again, many Hadith are from Behati or Samar, from Abu Dawood and from other books of Hadith. So today, I've chosen to Hadith from her book, and we may just even stick to

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her book. Another one is that

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regarding this, as I was just curious of how I wish I would narrate them to the Companions. So I'm trying to understand the question here is that it does this actually like is this question here mean that

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like, how would I Shep mentioned these things for the companions? First of all, we all know that, when when I wish after the death of the Prophet sallallahu today, he was sending them everything was asked from behind the veal behind a like a hijab. And so the Sahara would come and they will inquire from it shall the Ultron Ha, because once again, I Isha and earring first of all, the most a hadith out of all the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam, and women in general. And not only that, but she was so close to Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that there were times that were the prophets, I asked some of the other wives that if they could give their nice to I show the EULA

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on how so we do, we do find this. So that's why I shall knows about the life of the prophet saw Salam. And there are even some a hadith that we're going to cover probably next week in sha Allah about ye. And the Prophet SAW Allah while he was on receiving ye and so forth. The Aisha talks about that extensively, but going back to the question, How would she narrate them to companions, once again, she will just teach them generally they will come to Ayesha's house, because once again, understand that I wish his house was adjacent to the masjid. So when people are coming to the masjid, they're coming to the door of it Allah that Aha, and they're simply asking the question to

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our mother and our mother, she had that knowledge and she would provide that, that knowledge to the Companions. So inshallah we'll finish on this and if you have any other questions, Inshallah, please do, let me know Inshallah, if you have any questions after this, you can put them in the comments inshallah of this of this video, and hopefully, inshallah next week, then I will get to those questions. I ask Allah subhanaw taala to give all of us ability to give time to our family to show respect to our family, and ask Allah subhanaw taala to give us and grant us moderation because more than anything else, we are an OMA of or Martin Wasaga we are neither we're neither excessive on

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either two ways, but we are a very balanced on my so ask Allah subhanaw taala to grant us balance and moderation and everything that we do I mean, overall, I mean, this akmola hate Soleimani Kumar de la he'll brachetto

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