Nadim Bashir – Excessive Arguments – Signs of Weak Faith

Nadim Bashir
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of measuring individual signs of weakness and finding the right idea in one's mind. They stress the need to avoid cross-lines of disrespect, avoid giving advice that is not in the right direction, and stay present when others aren't present. The success of conversations is dependent on one's ego and avoiding disagreements.
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For the last several weeks, we've been talking about the signs of weak Iman. And once again, the reason why we're talking about this uncovering these signs is so that we can gauge our iman where we stand as a person, at the end of the day, you and I, we all have time before Allah subhanho wa taala. And we might feel like we have Iman, and we're following all the tenants of faith. But there's a very big possibility that there's a lot of aspects of our life, a lot of aspects of who we are as a person that contradict the signs of iman. And so that is why it is absolutely important that we gauge ourselves every single day. And all these things that we have been talking about for

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the last several weeks, we ask ourselves that, is this something that I find in my life or not? If I don't find it Alhamdulillah if I find it, then that is where we need to sort of bring some rectification in our life and try to fix some aspects of our life. Today in sha Allah the sign of a weak faith that we're talking about today is constant argumentation. There are some people that no matter what they always engage in argumentation and without looking at the bigger purpose. So let's go inshallah into some details. First of all, is that Allah subhana wa Tada he says in the Quran is so the calf will up for the summer off now if he had an early nassm in Colima cell, what kind of

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insane Aqsa rochet in Jeddah, it is part of the nature of who we are as a person that I always like to be right is part of who we are as a person that I don't like to ever be proven wrong. And because being wrong is just something that we don't like to do, we don't like to be but be put in that position. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says that it is part of who we are as a person, and as human beings that we always like to engage in argumentation, especially when it comes to our own dignity when it comes to what we believe in as a person. However, there are times when argumentation is good, and there are times when argumentation is wrong. So for example, the times of argumentation

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when arguments going back and forth is good is when it comes to eliminating doubts eliminating wrong beliefs. For example, we find in the time of God Allah one, as we know that in a time, you know, the Allah wine, the Hawaii fridge, were gaining a lot of momentum all over the Muslim land. So at that time, he had disputed or he I mean, he had dispatched, I believe in Abbasali Allah on Houma to go and, you know, engage in this in this conversation, it's not the best conversation, but you have to go back and forth with them in this dispute, to find out so that they can learn what's right and what's what they're doing is wrong. And is mentioned that while he and some others, they tried to

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explain to the cottage, the things that they were doing were wrong, and some of the things that in what they were believing is wrong, what they were doing is wrong. Many of them they turned back and they came back to Sunni Islam. And they began to follow the teachings of the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet SAW Salem. However, of course, history does teach us that there are many of them who just decided to stay that path. And of course, many of them, you know, is mentioned in the books of history, that they were even amongst those who killed, not necessary the Sahaba that the children of the sahaba. And they did a lot of things thinking what they thought was right, acquainted to the

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Quran, but they're going against the mainstream Islamic ideology. So nonetheless, the point is that if it comes down to eliminating someone's doubt, and you're going back and forth, that's absolutely fine. Another place where it is absolutely fine is when you want to learn something, but at the same time, when we when it comes down to learning about something and you're engaging in a back and forth, as long as we don't cross the lines of disrespect. Now I tell you honestly, if you go and study all the great Imam of the past, remember Hanifa Imam Shafi, Imam, Malik Muhammad, a great scholars of the past, they all have students, and they all had back and forth with their students,

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but their students never will cross the line. There were so many times that you have a Khalifa is on one side, and his two grade students, Imam will use of an Imam Mohammed they were known as the Saudi bein. They were known as Sahaba. And these are the two students I remember Hanifa how many opinions you go and open, the books are fake, they disagreed with their own teacher, and that is fine, they always went back and forth, but they will never cross the limits of this, they will never cross the limits of respect. In fact, there were so many big great, great ornament of the past who had disagreements with each other, but they will never cross the limits of this respect. So that's why

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it is absolutely fine if you engage in back and forth, but making sure that it is not crossing the lines of respect now, the Quran also tells us that when the intention is wrong, when the right idea is not in mind when the right goal is not in mind. Then at that time argumentation could be evil. For example, Allah subhanho wa Taala he says, What inertia Athena lay you who not only him, that Tisha yapping, of course

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We know that the shaitan does not care about the interest of the human being his mission in life is to destroy the human being. Even if he gives you a good advice, which is sometimes mentioned in the in the books of history, even when he has gone to some people and give them good advice. It's not with the right intention. So what we learn from this is that shaytaan the Quran says that he advises he inspires his Olia mean that his followers, his close followers to do what li Yuja de LUCAM go and engage in constant argumentation. This is the nature of shaytaan we also find in the Quran, when the Quran will go back and forth with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and ask about which Rob is

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better to worship or who he had to now hide on um, who ma Babu who like Elijah Della. This argument, of course, is baseless. Of course we know that Allah subhanho wa Taala worshipping Allah makes complete more sense than worshiping so many other idols and deities. So what would the Quran is telling us is that these people, they will just engage in arguments that they had no basis of their arguments and the Quran is telling us that when you come to a situation like this, you rather just stay away from it. We also find in the Quran that Allah says Wamena NASCI main you Jazeera Villa he behind the ailment whether who then will be money, you'll find a lot of people this is the Quran

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telling us you will find people who do what made you judge little fella he behind the arraignment they they engage in argumentation regarding Allah subhanho wa Taala but Allah says behind their ailment, they have no knowledge wala who then they have no guidance wala Kitabi Mooney, and they have no source of guidance that is leading them to the right path. And then Allah says these people are such arrogant people, Thani or atrophy. They twist their necks, you know when someone's talking to you, and you want to completely disregard their opinion.

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You twist your neck, you give them that cheek? Allah subhanho wa Taala saying that twisting of the neck is a sign of arrogance, Fannie or etouffee Liudmyla answer be the law. Why are they doing this? They're trying to deviate people from Allah subhanho wa Taala has passed. Now who fit dunya his urine when who the WHO Yamanaka Yamato says that for these people there will be disgraced in this dunya and after they have a very painful punishment for them in the Hereafter. And finally, I will share regarding this matter that the Prophet sallallahu ala he was sending them talks about who is the most hated person to Allah subhanho wa taala. And I want us to think about this hadith, if

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anything, remember this hadith the Prophet says someone says the most hated person to Allah subhanho wa Taala is the most quarrelsome person is the person who always engages in argumentation and so forth, who always feels the need, I am right and no one else is right. I am the smartest no one else is the smartest and so forth. So, that is why we always have to keep in mind if I am engaging in a dialogue or an argument and my intention is correct, then no problem. But these are few things that we have to keep in mind when it comes to argumentation number one is the intention has to be correct. Why am I engaging in this? Is there something good that will come out of this or not?

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Number two is check your ego Subhanallah it all started with ego when it came to shape on he was going back and forth think about this. Isn't this not a type of argumentation when Allah subhanho wa Taala is telling shaytaan that why did you not worship Why did you not do such that when I ordered you to do says that? A person who truly believes in Allah, a person who actually desires to to believe in Allah and to obey Allah subhanho wa Taala they don't have an answer after this, that when they know that Allah one of them to make sense that they will make sense out right away. What does shaytaan do? He never understood he engaged in this argument between him and Allah subhanho wa Taala

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that why did you not do this and a hydro men. Now this is him going back and forth with Allah and a height of men halacha Nieminen halacha woman thing is as if he's trying to prove a point to Allah subhanho wa taala. And so this is why this is called ego. And Allah subhanho wa Taala says my shaytaan Abba was stuck burrow Academy caffeine. So a lot of times you engage in argument, you engage in a dialogue, and you feel like that there is no one who is more smarter than me. That is when you have to check your ego. And few more things that which I would like to share is number one. When it comes to an argument, you have to always be respectful. You can never cross the limits of

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respect. Another thing that's also very important when it comes to

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a disagreement and so forth, or an argument is that if you're you have to always once again, if you're doing it for the right purpose, no problem. But if you

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Ever feel and listen very carefully. If you ever feel that there's no way you're gonna get across to the next person, there's no way you're gonna get the point across to the next person, because the other person does not care about what's right and what's wrong. Then at that point, you sever and you disconnect yourself from that conversation. You don't lose. See, there are some people who feel I need to go back and forth, back and forth, back and forth. You know why? That's your ego speaking. You cannot you feel like I will lose this battle and lose this conversation. If I don't respond. Wallahi you don't you're not. You don't lose that conversation or that battle. When you walk away,

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you actually win. Because you hold your dignity in your hand. You know how often there's a place where this happens. This happens often. That place is called WhatsApp.

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Okay, that place is called WhatsApp. How often do you find on WhatsApp? People going back and forth and there's always going to be those kinds of people, no matter what, they're always right. No matter what I have the Quran you give them. They're always right. No matter what Hadith you give them. They're always right. And the minute you try to even take a step back, they will provoke you. They will provoke you to go come back and engage in argumentation, those kinds of people, you let them go because there are not smart people. They are Jai Hill people and the Quran tells us why bad Rama and illenium Should I owe the Honan ye the heart of a humble Jahai Luna Aalu Salama, you say a

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Salam aleikum, you exit that group and that's how you live. Okay. That's how you deal with Jahad people. And that's why Imam Shafi says he was a person who would always you know, he would always engage them back and forth. And he would always say, when it came to a an argument, I will always win that argument. But if there was one argument, I would never win. It was an argument with a giant person. You don't ever win that battle with Allah, He you go around the world when it comes to the most intellectual people, the most smartest people, the most brightest people, when they come across ignorant people, they know that there is no point of arguing with them. They just take a step back,

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because they know they understand what Allah says in the Quran called polyester. We live in a Ala Moana, we're living in a lie element. Those who know and those who don't know they're not equal, the one who understands, understands and the one who knows understands, there's no point of me engaging in this argument. So they just stay quiet and they walk away. And that's absolutely fine. You don't lose that battle. You that's not going to hurt your ego. You walking away it's a sign of your dignity and your respect. So that is why we learn from these. And not only that, but the Quran says odo Isla Sebelius Rebecca Ben Hekmati. Well, Mo a little Hasina, WA Jai the humidity, yes. And when

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it comes to think about engaging in a conversation with a non Muslim, you're going back and forth, back and forth as long as once again, you don't put down their religion this is part of you know, the idea of conversation. The Quran tells us lattice Cebu Lavinia their own Amin dune Allah for Cymbala do it right. You say something extremely negative about someone else's religion and you attack the religion. They will attack Allah and His Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. This is what the Quran does mention the Quran mentions. The Quran also tells us when it comes to giving Dawa Bill Hekmati. Well Maori Allah with good advice with good Hikmah when it comes to an argument in

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your own family, gauge the situation before you engage in any kind of confrontation, when it comes to between you and your spouse, pick the right time of the day to engage in a conversation. There might be disagreements, always there's gonna be disagreements, but there's a right way to handle this. And, you know, I've conducted many marriages. I say this often in my marriages, and I'll say this right now, the problem is that we don't have problems. The problem is, we don't know how to solve our problems. Okay, we don't know how to solve our problems. As long as we live in this dunya there's always going to be problems. But the problem is we don't know how to solve our problems. How

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do we know? If we know and we have their knowledge how to solve our problems, will allow a majority of our disputes would not become major disputes. I ask Allah subhanaw taala to keep our hearts clean. May Allah subhanho wa Taala keep us from amongst those who are constantly engaged in argumentation immunoblotted Amin is that common law hate Islam article ontological Academy in

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