Nadim Bashir – Elite Followers #04 Umm Salamah RA

Nadim Bashir
AI: Summary © The segment discusses the history and loss of women in Islam, as well as the loss of women in the political world. The speaker also touches on the return of the Prophet sallama Alayshi wa Sallam to Afghanistan and the return of the Prophet sallama Alayshi wa Sallam to Afghanistan. The segment also touches on the history of the idea of a wedding, including the idea of a proposal made by the Prophet sallal Ali commanding the woman to marry him. The speaker concludes by praying for the success of the Prophet sall Drive and hoping that it will allow them to act upon what has been said in their behavior.
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Bismillah R Rahman Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah he Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi edge mine was sitting with a three one cathedral cathedral my boss Ohana kala asthma and I love I love Tara. In the Kantarjian Hakeem rubbishy Saturday we are silly Emily was one of the melissani Kohli. Inshallah, today we continue with our series, which is the Sahaba Rhodiola. Design Home elite followers. But before that, just want to mention before all of you, there's a dua there's a request for dua, brother Munna Woodman Davia, he's a community member of ours, his mom and mother has she has been admitted into the hospital and ALLAH SubhanA give her

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she fight in sha Allah, Allah so behind make everything easy for her inshallah and for her family members.

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So the the wife of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that I would like to mention today is someone that has been discussed, and has been highlighted in great detail in the books of the cielo was was a Allahu alayhi wa sallam. If you want to learn that how Allah subhanho wa Taala Isla sometimes may take his time in accepting your two hours that you need to say the live out you need to say the life of this wife out of Lhasa Allahu alayhi wa sallam. If you want to learn about a woman who went through a great deal of sacrifice, you need to say the life of this wife of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, there is a dua of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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that Allahumma Junie fie musi, but he worked lovely Hi Ron minha that when a person is afflicted with any type of calamity, then they should read this dua which means that Oh Allah, a Junie female see what he helped me in this situation of mine. This difficult matter of mine work lovely, Hi, Ron minha and replace it with something better. This was also mentioned and said by the same wife of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and this is Omar selama Radi Allahu Taala on how Mr Marathi Allah Tala on her going back into the early days of Makkah, she was the one of the very first women to accept Islam, her and her husband, and they are recognized as Ole Miss sedima Her husband was

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recognized as a boo sedima Because Allah subhanaw taala granted them a son by the name of selama. Otherwise, if you study her her and her life, we come to know that her name was actually Hynde. And her father's name was her father had a nickname by the name of Zagal, rockin Zed a rock. In other words, Zed means provisions. The one Rocky is the one who's generally traveling or the one who's in the state of moving. And the reason why he was given this names as a rocket, is because he would generally first of all because of his generosity, but number two was that anyone who would travel with the father of OMA sedima or hand, they never would have to bring anything along with them on

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the journey, her father would provide all the provisions of the journey for anyone who would travel with them. So he would choose his people. And he would tell them that I don't want you to bring anything of yours, your food, your accommodation, your provisions, everything is on me. And this is slowly and gradually, he was given this names that are rockin now because once again, as I mentioned before, that whatever traits the parents have, usually the children adopt the same trace and the same behavior since the father of OMA selama was a man who was very generous, likewise or Muslim or are you Allah Tala Anna as growing up as a woman, even before she became the wife of the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam she became to know or she came, she was known as a generous woman, and she would give out a lot of sadaqa. Now going, you know, once again, you know, strictly reflecting on the story and the times and Monica, as you all know, that in the early days of MCCA, you know, Muslims in general, were going through a difficult time, and so much so that mostly for Muslims living in Mecca, it became absolutely difficult. They couldn't go anywhere. They couldn't meet anyone, not something similar to a situation that some of us may feel nowadays, because because of all Islamophobia that is spreading. Many of us will not like to go in the public. Sometimes it is

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our women folk and our sisters of our family that they wish not to go out in public.

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Because of all the Islamophobia that is spreading, likewise, during the time of the Sahaba of the Allah that I'm home, they face something very similar. They cannot go outside because they were recognized as the ones who turned on to the religion of their forefathers, they turned away from the religion of their forefathers. And so slowly and gradually, because of all this negative sentiment that was growing in the community, they came to us last a long while it was something they said, Yes, hula, we can take this anymore. Give us permission to go somewhere. They were given permission to go to Abyssinia. So almost set them or the Allah Azza wa sallam or the allotted line. They were

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both given permission to go to Abby senior and when they were amongst the first people to go to Abyssinia and something that, you know, some of us may or may know some of us may not know that they will not only just there was not only one migration that took place to be senior, but in fact, there were two migrations that took place to Abyssinia in the first one. It was a small group of brothers and sisters. And the second group, it was a much bigger group of brothers and sisters. And they stayed in there for a quite some time in Abyssinia until they were given permission by US law. So Allahu alayhi wa sallam after the conquest after

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that now they can come back to now they can come back to nothing come to Medina and settle with the Muslims in Medina. Now, at that time when we said about the Allah Tala and how she went, she went with her husband, but deep down in their heart, even though they were now in a place of a man in a place of safety and security. Yet their heart was left in Makkah. Any time or any opportunity they found to come back to Makkah, they would yearn to come back to Makkah. And on the selama in Abu selama, were not the exception. They felt the same way. And so when they heard now, first of all, they you know, they heard some rumors, and they came back they heard that, you know, everything has

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been going has gone back to normal. There is no more persecution that is taking place in Makkah. So some people came back. Likewise, they heard the story they heard that on one of the alotta on Hamza, or the Allah Tala, and they both have accepted Islam. And since these were two people who are highly influential, they were powerful as individuals. So they felt like you know what, we can come back, and we can stay in Makkah, even though the persecution did exist in Makkah, but it was sort of toned back after the Islam of Hamza in honor of your local and Houma. They came back now almost Salman Abu selama. They were living there. Until now Allah subhanho wa taala. As you know, if you say the cedar

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of the Prophet alayhi salam, you had two pledges that took place right before the migration of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you had the first pledge which was Baotou the aka to Lula and then you had the second one which was be added Akbar to Thani and the second one was the more important one because the Sahaba came the Sahaba were already there with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you had the unsought. Some of the people from ozen huzzah Raj, who now accepted Islam, they came to Makkah, and they all met, they all met in a valley during the days of Hajj. Now remember, this is not the Hajj that we performed, but there was a annual Hajj that will take place,

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and there was a small valley near the Valley of Mina, where they met and after the Met, they all decided that something needs to be done. They invited the Prophet sallallahu Sallam to come to Medina and after some time, ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala sent the message to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam then now he and the Sahaba came migrate to Medina, OMA selama or the Allah Tala and he was one of the very first people to migrate to Medina along with her husband, abou Selma, but something else happens here. First, first of all, we understand that she had to leave her home or her hometown, she had to leave the place where she has she had recognized as home which was muckety muck

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Rama after coming back and staying there. Now she has to leave that place to go to Medina. But this trip and this journey was not an easy one. It was one that was filled with difficulty on the cinema and Abu salah, Marathi, Allah Allah Allah, they left for Medina before the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam because the Prophet would send everyone else he will he came to all the Sahaba he told all the Sahaba you migrate to Medina. I'm going to migrate to Medina later on. Yet there was some Sahaba who were left behind in Mecca by the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam migrated after majority of Sahaba migrate to Medina. Omar Silva says that I was traveling to Medina with my husband and my son

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And we came across a tribe of we came across a tribe of the abou cinema. And what happened was that while we were leaving, they found out the police found out. And my tribe, they've also found out that I was leaving. So while they were on their way, they said that, first of all, what did they do? They the tribe of Abu selama, took my child. My tribe people came and said that this woman belongs to our tribes that you're not going to take her to Medina. So they told us I was cinema. And they then the tribal abou Selma, Sarah, if you want to go on in your journey, you can, but your family, your wife is going to be taken by her tribe, and your son is going to stay with us. So almost cinema

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says, almost cinema says that for one entire year. I don't want you to think about this.

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There was no Facebook. There was no Twitter. There was no emails at that time to find out what is the status today, people who have been disconnected, they connect through Facebook, they quit, they connect through Twitter, they have connected through emails and through the usage of the internet. At that time, there was no internet or miss cinema or the Allah Tala. And how can you imagine what a woman is going through? That she says that for one entire year? I, my husband and my child, we were separated.

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I did not know where my son was. I not know what is the state of my son. I mean, you know, think about a mother who doesn't know the state of affairs of her own child.

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She will become insane. This didn't happen for one day. Now, one week, one year.

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Can you imagine what a mother is going through? The father is in Medina. He's all alone there. He has no idea about the whereabouts. Oma selama she says that every day, every day, I would wake up, I would go to a small mountain and close by to where my tribe was residing. I will go there every single day. And I would cry from morning to evening.

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Where is my family? What's happening with my son?

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She made dua to Allah subhanho wa Taala every single day. And this is why in the very beginning I said they feel if you really want to learn and know how Allah subhanho wa Taala may take some time in accepting to us study the life of a Muslim are you allowed to lie now? One year, today we make dua, we want to instill results. I make dua right now, tomorrow, I want that thing to happen. Can you imagine what almost Saddam was going through? Can you imagine what Abu Salah is going through. And even though there are some books of history that are dimensioned, that they were separated for one month only, but majority the books of history and majority of books of Ceylon mentioned that

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they were not separated only for one month they were separated for one year, one year. Then it says that one day,

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one day

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the there was a there was a man who came with my mental ha Rhodiola. And now at that time, he was a Muslim. He was a non Muslim. He came and he saw the state of affairs of OMA cinema. And he went to the tribal Roma cinema and said that what kind of people are you? Here? A woman is crying. She doesn't know about the whereabouts of her child. And you want to keep her here for what? What are you gaining from her? She's sitting over here. She's a miserable woman. What are you gaining from this? Do you want to inflict pain upon her? Well, you've already done so leave her alone. Let her go back.

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They they had some pity in their heart. They said okay, you know what? You can go you can go. Now of course how does almost cinema get to Medina? Neither. Neither does she have a right. First of all, she needs to get her child. Then she needs to go in and get to Medina. She doesn't have anything. Asked mom and tell her. He agreed to provide the service to Ole Miss no matter the Allah Tala Aha, he bought his camel. He lowered he lowered his camel. She got on to the camel. They went first God her child picked up her child. And then also I'm going to tell her he led this camel all the way to Medina.

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He led this camera all the way to Medina. And it goes to show us something that they are just like we find today. Just like we find today that no matter how much Islamophobia that is

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Reading, there are still some non Muslims who who showed their support to Muslims. Likewise during the time of OMA selama you heard of this person who showed their support to this Muslim woman, even though he disagreed, even though he was a non Muslim, he was a mystic at that time, he was unsavoury or the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but because he had a place in his heart, he had an element of human compassion. That's why he provided the service for OMA Sanoma he took he took this camel all the way let us come all the way And subhanAllah even after reaching Medina, he did not take a single form or amount of money for the service that he provided. He did it only and only for

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the sake of Allah. Now of course, once again, he doesn't believe in that he doesn't believe in Allah but he did it out of good heart. He did have good heart. And not only that, but later on. It said that he even accepted Islam and he became one of the Sahaba of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Now, I want to talk about abou selama. Briefly inshallah we're talking about Abu Salah in great detail later on because the life of a Muslim is also very fascinating, but this is something I want to share with you. is mentioned that one time Abu salah,

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Abu Salma, he came to his wife almost sentimental Yolanda Lionheart, and said that I heard the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saying that no one is afflicted by a calamity and then they make it sterile Jaya, this meeting is still just means saying in that Allahu alayhi Raja own and then they make the DUA. Allahumma Adjani FIM we'll see but he work lovely hate on minha. They make this dua to Allah subhanahu wata Allah then provides for him something better than he had.

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So when he said this,

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now there's a person by the name of Xavier money young he narrated for OMA selama that this is that almost cinema dancer to abou cinema, that I heard that if the husband of a woman dies, if the husband of a woman dies, and he is one of the inhabitants of Paradise, and his wife does not marry, marry after him, Allah will join them together in paradise. The same thing applies to a man, the same thing applies to a man, then Abu selama then said to his wife, I'm making a pledge to you that I will not remarry. I will not marry again after you and you shall also make the plays that you will not marry after me.

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At that time, when he said this that Abu Salim was saying this to me Salama, he then asked her that will you agree with me on this? Oh, my Selma Rhodiola. Tehran has she said that if I did not want to obey you, I would have not even consulted with you. I wouldn't even had this discussion with you at that time. And not only that, but then he also he even said that this dua that you're teaching me, that's what this is all about. At that time, almost abou salamati Allah Tala and he said that if I do, then if I do die, I want you to remarry, then I want you to remarry, because you deserve something really good. And then he said, Oh Allah provide for OMA Salama, after me, a man who is

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better than me, and who will not disgrace her or harm her. Now I'm in Selma, she says that when a booster made his dua, I'm thinking to myself, that there is no better man than a blue selama. I cannot think of any other man that I can marry, who is begging Abu selama however, when Abu Salah did pass away, and her time and her time passed, which is their ID that when that had passed, is said that a proposal came from Minnesota law said a long wedding was salam. Nessa II mentioned that when this proposal came, she even send a message back to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that you know I have I have children.

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You know, I'm a woman that has jealousy. Why would you want to marry me and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that as far as your jealousy is concerned, I will make dua to Allah subhanho wa Taala that he removed the jealousy. As far as your children are concerned. I wish to take care of your children. No problem about that. And likewise, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he married OMA selama Radi Allahu Taala on her now, one thing that is very important to understand is that only Santa Maria Latina on her after coming into the family of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, she was a very intelligent woman. She was a very beautiful woman. And not only that, but she

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had the capacity to resolve situations. She had the ability to resolve problems and conflicts within the family of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and this behavior in this attitude was clear.

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li highlighted in the story of the incident of Arabia, without going great into great detail about the story of Davia the Prophet saw some sees a dream that he's going to Makkah and performing tawaf which is a sign that you are performing Umrah. The promises someone gets he arrives to a place called Abia, right outside of Makkah. The the courage they send for emissaries to negotiate with the province Allahu alayhi wa sallam. Now after that a, a an agreement was put together between the Pradesh and between the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that first of all this year you will not perform any throw off or ombre. This year you will go back to Medina. Number two is that this from

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here on out from here onward. If anyone comes to Mecca from Medina, we will keep them in Mecca. If anyone comes to Medina from Mecca, you will have to return them back to Makkah. Once again, it's unfair, while the Sahaba Rhodiola donoughmore are witnessing all this, their prophet Allah has some is agreeing to all these terms. The Sahaba are getting upset that year as well. Why not only that, then you have the story of Abu agender or the Allah Tala and who has flee the persecution of the of the Kufa and have the courage he has come all the way to the Muslims. He is telling the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the years ago, please save me, please save me, the province that Allahu

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alayhi wa sallam. He asked, and here's here's the here's, here's the tricky part. The father of Abu Jandal

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is the same person who is negotiating the terms between the Quraysh and the Muslims. And Ross was a law while he was alone.

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So the problem says, He tells that person his name was so he says, he No, this is your son, this is your son, let him go, let him come stay with us. And he said to the problems, tell them that you just agreed. You just agreed on these terms that if someone comes to you, that you will return them back to us. Now you have to stick to the terms. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in front of the Sahaba in front of the Sahaba, the Sahaba are crying right from the sahaba. He had to tell the place that you can take Abu Jandal back he had to give up his own Sahabi in front of his other Sahaba and you have to give him back to the Polish. This was extremely difficult for the Prophet.

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This was extremely difficult for the Sahaba to bear in witness. And that is when the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam he went and he began to wonder the what should I do? What do I do now? The Sahaba or they're confused. They're not there are upset. They're not upset and mad at the problems or Sanlam. The Sahaba will never be a matter of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but they're upset at this whole situation.

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What is the problem so long? It was seldom do he came to his wife. He came to his wife. At that time. The wife who accompany the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on that journey was almost Salam or the Allah Tala Anna, and he asked her that what do I do? And subhanAllah almost no matter the Allah, Allah, Allah Allah with her due to her wisdom, due to her intellect, due to her knowledge. Look at the beautiful advice that she gives to the Prophet saw something she says that Oh, my husband, Jaso Allah, you do, don't worry about your Sahaba Don't worry about your Sahaba How will you tell the Sahaba don't worry about them. You do and they will follow you. You go outside,

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you sacrifice your animal, you shave your head, you get out of Iran and the Sahaba they will follow you. And the Prophet SAW Selim he did exactly as almost cinema or your Lord Allah and advise him to do

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which what do we learn from this? It is absolutely okay to take advices from your wife.

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It is absolutely okay to take advice from your wife. And they will tell you let me say something, you know, I've traveled overseas, okay. When I was a very young child, I traveled overseas to memorize Quran and Hamdulillah. I'm very familiar with the American culture. And I'm very familiar with it with the the overseas culture. And I have seen the differences when you go and you see how, how households, how families function is very different than how families function here.

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And I will say this, the general notion and sentiment overseas is that the husband is the only one who makes the decisions. And if he were to take the opinion of his wife

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that he is losing his status as being the alpha in the family.

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Told me am I

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Wrong. Am I right or wrong?

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Am I wrong?

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It is the general sentiment that our husband It is beyond him. It is not befitting him

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that he takes advice from his wife, who we're talking about here.

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The Prophet of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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he comes to his wife and he takes advice from his wife.

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What do I do? She told him.

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Now, you know, sometimes you go to your wife and you take advice for them and you say, okay, you know what? Now I know not to do now I know what not to do. This is what you said, Okay. I'm sure I'm not going to do this. Now. The person who never did that, he's okay. You know what, if you said this, I trust you, I'm going to do that. And so the hydrilla the person went out and he did that. And the Sahaba did exactly that. Subhan Allah, He began to sacrifice the animal, he cut he shaved begin to shave his head, and the Sahaba without even saying a single word, without even the Prophet having to say a single word to them, they did accordingly. And this is who almost sent him out of

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the Allah Tala. And how was she was a she was a woman who played a very important role in the life of Allah, Allahu Allah. He was setting them, of course, later on after the death of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Of course, after some years in the time,

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she died during the time of automatically Allah to nine. And once again, she she was a great woman. There's so many things that we can learn from her and so many other wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I pray to Allah subhanho wa Taala that he brings within us, these great characteristics and these great traits that these women they embodied, just because they're women. We cannot say that you know what their women were men. That's it? No, we don't, you know, we don't have to know. These were these were our mothers. These women are our mothers. They are the Mothers of the Believers, that were given this title, that they are Omaha I mean, they are the Mothers of

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the Believers. And once again, of all the women that could have been the wife of the prophets of Salaam, these were hand selected people, by Allah subhanho wa taala. So we pray to Allah once again, that whatever, whatever great character, these women had all the women of the all the wives of the province of Salem, all the women that existed during the time of the Prophet SAW Salem or the men who did exist, I pray to Allah subhanaw taala that he can give us these great characteristics. May Allah Subhan give us ability to act upon what's been said in her document Okay, inshallah. Next we will continue with the otherwise the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Subhan Allah wa Hamdi

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Subhana Allah who will be hunting nationally we're now you know, in our antenna stuff, Luca wanted to be exactly my height. So I want to come

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