Thematic Study of the Quran – Surah Nisaa – Ep.03

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Because you obviously, you would make the judgment of where that entire pseudo or the vast majority of the verses are revealed from and that's where the ruling comes from. Anyhow, point is at the end of the day, it starts like a Mickey.

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Mickey soda is generally Allah calls you out. Either you people have Amen, or all of mankind calls you out. Now in this case, Allah said, Oh, Van kind. So now we're going to start to slowly dissect and delve into this particular sort of, okay. Sort of suddenly, sir, is as we mentioned to you the fourth chapter of the quarter and one very quick point. It is called Sudeten Nisa, what does Nisa mean? Women, of course, but it's specifically, linguistically, the word Nisa is actually talking about mature women. So if you talk about kids, or men or women that have not reached the age of maturity, they carry different names. So this like we say, nissa is for the mature, a region for the

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mature and these are plural orajel and nisswa.

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a mature man, why is this sort of called aneesa? Now make sure you you note this, why is this sort of given this title?

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It doesn't talk about women, and that's it.

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Which a lot of people say, I couldn't I couldn't tell you the amount of literature that's online, the amount of talks online that I found that a lot of these speakers or whoever they were, they literally said, this is called Sudeten nissa, because it's all about the women sits there sorta. That's technically not true. This sutra is given its name, actually because of one subject that appeared in that sort of that never appeared in any others. Does anybody know what that subject is?

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Allah said this in sort of 10 they said, well, Lin, Nisa, you know, seap and women get inheritance, they get a portion.

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That was a revolution that happened in the oma never, ever, ever, in the history

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of this oma, and even pre Islam. Did women actually have the right to inherit, as a matter of fact, so women and even children as well, as a matter of fact,

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women themselves were the product of inheritance. Right? So if a father had a daughter, you raise that daughter,

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if he knew that, okay, you know, she's she's getting older, and he's getting weaker, he's about to die, he puts in as well. Not that, you know, he's left X amount of children. When it comes to his daughter, it is really terrible practice back in those days, he would actually write, I have a daughter, this is her age, this is when she was born. And I put a value on her that she is worth this amount of dollars. So that when he dies, this daughter could be sold off and the money that is received goes to the family that's left behind. So they were the product of inheritance themselves, really awful practices, it goes even deeper than that. So this particular surah, literally

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eradicated all of those practices. Now, the women, not only did they get rights to inherit, they also had rights in other areas, as well in relationships and communities and marriages and so on. We're going to come to insha Allah huhtala, the verse about the Mahatma, I think it's the second or the or the third verse. So when we get to that, we're going to pause there for a bit and talk a little bit about what exactly this motor is and why it's so important in this particular surah. Okay, so let's move on.

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If you were to summarize all of the subjects and themes of this surah it's the last sentence at the bottom there. Social morals and ethics, society principles in Islam. It's all about how to build or reform a community.

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You know, I always say that this Sora

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is the kind of Sora that you should not be able to be part of an administration that serves a community, except that you go through the sort of first. That's, that's for you to qualify that, okay, you're part of the admin. You need to go through this entire sort of, this sort of has all the ingredients to build a strong community. So we're going to see that right now in the very first verse. Let's go into the verse now.

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Ally so Joel says, Yeah, you hiddenness

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So we obviously know that Allah is talking to Muslim and non Muslim, right?

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That's really important.

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Because that tells you, whatever is in this passage of the Hor n is not just for the believer, you can take this passage now, and you can share it, and you can teach it and you can implement it for the entire world, everyone to see, and everyone to learn. So if you ever are one of those people that spends a lot of time talking and having conversations with people and colleagues and students and so on, make a note, this is one verse, you want to be part of that conversation. Okay? Here's the thing. Look at the first order or Command that's given to us, or to mankind, Allah says all mankind, yeah, Uranus, by the way, ness is the plural ins. What does that mean? Humans, people.

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NASA, also comes from the word nesea. Which, which means to, to forget. Why are we called that? We are called the creation that forgets.

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Because that's exactly what we do. We forget everything, every day of our lives. That's why we need alarm clocks. We need to write things down. We need people to remind us believe it or not, it happens to me all the time. Even this class, sometimes I forget, I have to be here.

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Because you know, every day you're with something that Oh, wait, I have class this week. And you get yourself ready. So we need reminders all the time.

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How core and helps you and I with that. So although we are the creation, that by default, we are the creation that forgets and we constantly forget, Allah gave us a secret ingredient to counter that.

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Does anybody know what that is?

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So we are a nation we are a creation that is built and designed to forget.

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Then Allah tells us the way that you can counter that meaning. You can live a very intelligent, you know, you can become an academic you can be somebody that is, you know, has strong memory, you can memorize the quarter n, you can memorize your deen the way to counter this is Do what? Just one thing in the entire forum? Does anybody know what that what that is? You all know what it is?

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Vicar of Allah.

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It's the remembrance of Allah.

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You constantly engage with anything that reminds you of Allah, you'll notice that you will forget that you are in soon, you'll forget that.

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And Allah will help you develop a stronger memory in anything. You know, some of the students high school students just finished up with their exams. So a lot of them before their exam started. Were asking like, could you give us some advice? how we could do well in our exams? It's a fair question. So after all, the studying and all of that prep stuff is done. I told him to do one thing. I said, Don't do anything else. Just do this one thing. And so college and uni students, same goes for you. One thing insha Allah insha Allah, after you've done all the studying and prep, you will do well

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just say Bismillah Before you begin, say to yourself,

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because the Prophet Ali in salatu salam told us

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that keep your tongue moist with the remembrance of Allah. And then another Hadith starts adding to that, that every footstep you take Bismillah follows you say Bismillah before you begin anything, the process I said I'm didn't say, oh, by the way, it's just for Islamic stuff.

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You say Bismillah for anything and everything you do in your life. So when you're really sitting in that exam room, and you're just about to begin, just go for it.

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And most of the students who do this, I try my best to follow up with some of them, and they all have great stories about it. You know, again, we are the ones as a Muslim culture. We don't know how to use this stuff. You know, you have to spend your whole life engrossed into this knowledge to really understand how to make it work for you.

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So yeah, a oneness all of mankind.

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It takota back home. So here's the second point. Now, we're going to spend some time on this verse because this one verse is the introduction to the whole surah

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this one verse has got a little bit of everything you need to step into every subject of the story.

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So this is the most important verse in all of sorbitan Nisa. So make sure you understand this sort of really well. Okay? Allah says have Taqwa of your master it took hold up back. All right?

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When a lot talks about creation from one single person, it's usually has implications on society when Allah says, Oh my unkind have tough love of your master. Here's the first ingredient in building a successful community.

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have tough love your master, it shows that mankind's first connection is with Allah. So your first point, the one thing that brings all of us together as a community

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is what is taqwa?

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Now, how does that translate when you're dealing with people outside of Islam?

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does that translate?

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It's really simple. And you're all doing it already.

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Everybody here, we we have kind of like a general understanding and level of etiquettes that we deal with people are kinda Good morning, thank you. Go ahead, uh, hold the door for you. You know, we do these little things, that at the end of the day, we don't cause any trouble. We don't create any animosity or hate. We don't do any of that. We just follow the rules. We follow the laws and we mind our business, but we're kind to people. All of that is called taqwa.

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This is one of the most comprehensive subjects of the entire core en telkwa. It's, it's talked about over 500 times in the Quran, in different ways.

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So this one here and this particular surah. That's the attitude that Allah wants us to start off with. Okay, so the attitude that we start off with, is we have consciousness of Allah. So everybody's on the same page of what taqwa means, comes from the word with higher tune with higher tune means that you are constantly thinking and remembering Allah, everything you do in your day and night in your entire life with anyone. You're doing it with this level of consciousness that Allah is watching you seeing you monitoring you knows what you're doing, you know, if you had a lemon, you know, if we all as Muslims live that way, do you know how many problems we would solve without even

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saying a word?

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A lot of problems will just disappear and solve themselves. Because we would learn how to forgive and forget.

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And even if we didn't want to forget, forget, we'd learn how to forgive.

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And even if we didn't know how to forgive or didn't want to forgive, we'd find a common understanding

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how to move on, because why each of us have a little bit of tequila in us. Now, put it in context. Can you imagine people who are in charge of communities and serve communities, if each of them remember that this was the driving principle for them to do their jobs? Can you imagine how all of our massages would look like, all of our Institute's all of our schools, all of our company, everything would run to a standard that is more or less, just right, it's fair and just for everyone. So first ingredient to building a strong community is what everybody has to have a connection with Allah, that they are conscious of him. He's always there, okay? We move on. It took

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hold up back home, Allah, the halaqa, communists in wahida. So here's the second ingredient, how to build a strong community.

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Now, by the way, if you're not part of any, if you're not part of any leadership program, and you don't actually serve a community, that's not true.

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Because maybe your community is your family, your home, that's your community. So you have to be, you know, aware of that. And that's a massive responsibility. A community is only as strong as the families that build that community. Right. So you do have a responsibility to ensure that taqwa is preserved and protected in the family. I love the hierarchical meanness in wahida. Okay.

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Here's the second point. Let's just say you. You don't think about taqwa.

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Or you forget it, or you don't really understand what it is.

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Then what do you do?

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You remind yourself that at the end of the day, we all have one Father.

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We all come from the same person.

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That's this. The first checkmark there. One or the second one, one of the first things Islam came and destroyed was racist.

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And it's one of the biggest problems here, mentioned in this verse, it's one of the first things eradicated. You know, this is a tough pill to swallow, I argue till this day,

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till this date. And, by the way, I'm only talking within Muslims in general, this is one of the toughest pills to swallow. You know, we are really good at acknowledging all of the problems outside of our own lab, but internally,

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you know, we have our share of issues. You know, we have our share of cultural dilemmas and problems where we probably don't verbally say it, but we act like it. Again, when I say we know one in particular, just generally speaking, I want you to think about a place that you walked into a Masjid or an institute or something, where the majority of that people belong to a different race or culture. And you are not part of that race or culture. How did you feel when you walked into it?

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Think for a moment.

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As a matter of fact, ask yourself, when was the last time you ever did anything like that? Why?

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Ask yourself when you go into a place and you hear the announcements done in a different language?

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How encouraging is it for you to go back there again? Because why you've been indirectly or culturally just singled out or shift to a corner. That's not what Muslims are supposed to do. So internally, we have our share of issues on the under the subject. Now let's reverse very quickly. How did the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa Salaam deal with this? Well,

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do you notice that in the core n,

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there are hardly any verses talking about racism?

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You can probably count them on one hand, just a few. And a couple of them might be in one sorta like certain hoogenraad. Is her problem in common? And your Coronavirus minimum? Right?

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You know, it'll be alluded to or indirectly talked about, just it's scattered a few places here and there. That's it. There's a wisdom behind that. There's a wisdom. You know, sometimes, when you stop talking about something enough, what ends up happening? People forget about it.

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People forget about it.

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You know, and there was this one select celebrity. I remember seeing this video online A long time ago. He was an African American gentleman, and the interviewer was asking him he was like, What do you how do you feel about Black History Month? He said I hate it hated with a passion.

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So the trigger was shocked is like Why? It's like, what, what religion are you? Or you're you're white? Do you want a white history month?

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And then the interviewer said, No, I definitely don't want that to mean either.

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So then the interviewer asked him, Well, how do we stop racism?

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His answer was so simple and so profound. You decide what it means. All he said was, stop talking about it.

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Stop referring to people based on their color. And you'll see what happens. And I thought to myself, you know, when I watched that,

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and then I gave a few talks in the past on the subject, and I had a real difficult time finding verses that addressed it. And it's that and I thought to myself, maybe there was some truth in that man's answer.

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That Allah does not talk about colors and race much in the Quran.

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To indirectly teach you an eye that when we see each other and when we interact with each other, we don't see color. We just see each other. That's it. Yeah. yohannes It took a lot of backroom. You have a problem with that, or we struggle with that. Okay, I love the hakomi knifes and wahida. He created you from the same anyway. Move on.

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wahala Carmen has Oh jaha we're Beth mean, Huma.

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And he drew out from that many men. So in other words, we multiplied and women again, half tuck off, Beth I mean, homodiegetic and Kathy are on one, he said, What? takala so how many times were reordered to have taco here twice, right? This is not as common as you think that Allah gives you the same order twice or more in one area. That's rare in Portland, but it does happen in other places. Can anyone tell me what is the wisdom in that? I mean, we just read half taqwa. We're concluding the verse. What tequila

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what's the wisdom behind the

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is everybody here?

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Are you looking at?

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Okay, so in case you missed a reminder at first, why did the law say what took a law? And he didn't say what taco would have become a second time? Why did he add his name in the second?

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You see that right?

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shows more mercy. Okay, anything else?

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Think about this. If a parent tells their kid

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make sure you go to bed at 9pm

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okay 9pm rolls around. He's still on Nintendo are still watching TV.

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Then the parent comes back the second time.

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Only this time. First it was dad. But now mom came in.

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Didn't daddy tell you to go to bed at night?

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Same command or same instruction. But only this time. The mom added Who? The name of the fathers that didn't daddy say so didn't that I saw daddy came in he told you this.

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It just sounds a bit more profound. It sounds like I don't want to say it sounds a bit more frightening. Because that's not the intent of the verse. So you're right when you say if in case you missed it the first time but there's more to it than that. It's not just about the command anymore. Hey, if you forgot telco in the beginning of this a while I'm going to tell you tequila again. But also, I'm going to put my name because when you remember me if you forget tequila, then just don't forget me.

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The source of it all. See how beautiful that is? This is what I like to call this the psychology of course. Like if you sit there and you really reflect and monitor the wording of verses, Allah He you will never pass that verse unless you find something incredibly amazing.

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So Allah adds his name to the second order. So that okay, you're already forgetting this stuff. Don't forget me. My name is here now with tequila alethea Tessa, Ilona, B he will or ham.

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This is really interesting. Then Allah says, with what you ask for and our ham. Why is this verse restricted to people who ask?

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They're asking him though.

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Okay, so to remind each other about accountability that when you ask of and you talk about a lot, so in context, during the time of our Prophet Alayhi, Salatu was Salam. There were many people, especially in Medina, many different tribes that used to come and insult him. And used to talk about this Allah figure that he believed in that he worship. And this

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was a introductory response to that, that if you did not know how to debate your issues, or you weren't fluent in the subject at hand, which we're going to see in a moment, the store is going to get really specific about certain things. If you're not accustomed to it or you don't know the background of that stuff. This a is also saying whatever it is that they're asking you about, if you don't have the answer, at least respond to them. Like Home Depot, quote, comb. Walia, gene. Hey, you know, at the end of the day, look, you got your way, but this is my deal. At the end of the day. Yeah, it might be complicated. You probably don't understand it. Actually. I don't understand it as

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well. But I submit to it, because a lot tells me Samir, now,

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well, Alterna, you see some things don't get into it. Even if you know

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what this first verse is teaching you and it is there are foundational principles that have to be intact, before you start building a community. And before you start building relationships, friendships, there has to be an SS. We call it an Arabic, you've got to have some common understanding. So the common understanding in this verse is make sure that you're all at least connected to him in some way. So I love the Tessa Luna v. One or ham, this I was really surprised about where this come from. So we're talking about everything, everything in general, all of mankind, all people, then we're talking about the people who come and question you about your deen,

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then all of a sudden, and family, relatives and make sure that that's all intact as well. Whoa. So here you are talking to the Muslim or talking to the world about your deen and about Allah. Then all of a sudden Hey also your family your

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aunts and uncles. Those really annoying ones that all of us have in our families. Yeah, make sure you keep a good relationship with everybody.

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Where'd this come from?

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What's the wisdom here?

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What do you see when you see that? wall or ham? solo Torah, him keeping close ties and good family relationships.

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Where does that fit? Like? How does that fit in everything that we've just looked at?

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If you can understand this, then you'll be able to respond to many critics of the end that say things like

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por n is just a lot of your your verses are just mumble jumble. So random talk. I mean, here we're talking about this is a family's who was talking about that we're talking to all of mankind why bringing families Why make it so personal?

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What's the wisdom behind that?

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telco levita sir. aluna be here. What are him in the Lucha cannoli community with the wisdom brothers and sisters, students is that

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you will have a difficult time

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trying to relate taqwa to people.

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And if you do,

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you also struggle. The same thing with family.

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You know, there are lots of Muslim families out there that are practicing families. They adhere to their Deen they take it seriously. Except that one son.

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He just he went to Mars somewhere.

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Except that one cousin. I don't want my kids near that one cousin, bad influence on my kids. Except that one uncle that just never knows how to do any business transaction in a highlighted way.

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We all have one of those.

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And so this verse is telling you, if you fail at everything out there,

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it brings you back to what? Your family don't fail here. Don't lose sight of that.

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All too often, people get engrossed Muslims getting gross and giving Dawa to everyone else. Except to.

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Sometimes the family is like at the bottom of that list.

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You're sitting you're spending your time teaching the world to deem

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a lesson in another sorta what's your analogy? mattina imama.

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It's a door that believers are making, especially here in this context. In this particular verse in Switzerland called upon, it's actually the husbands that are saying this make me of the Mattel p that is an Imam. And Mmm, where it's one of the names of husbands in the horror and by the way, a lot calls them Mmm, where, when it's time for them to preserve and protect taqwa in the family. It's the man's job. When I say it's the man's job, he takes the leading role in ensuring that Islam is preserved and protected in his in his home, he takes that leading role when he gets weak he needs to figure a way out to get himself strong again.

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We're gonna come to that as well we hopefully will get to today where we have a section about we're going to get into a little bit of marriage

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and what you're going to see about the suta it may shock you so with that being said last point we move on then uh luck includes any says Indeed, Allah has always has had his hand on your neck.

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What does that mean? comes from the word Araki in the law can I lay Kumar Atiba Allah has always had his hand around your neck, or LP from Maracaibo

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it means to grab like a sheep or a goat by the neck and you force it to go where you want it to go. You ever see some people they do that, like if you watch any videos or anything, sometimes the farmer grabs the sheep by the neck and steers it. We are all under that control with Allah. He has that level of control over his creation. And as a matter of fact, I edited their amendment quoted to be goes into a whole discussion about a law one of his names is he is a rock keep the old watchful how does that translate as one of his names? When a les says that he is abrupt he think of it as like, there are 24 there is 24 hour a day surveillance in the sky.

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And it's not just he's watching over you.

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He's a very watchful it's the it's the surveillance system that never turns off. Never needs a break.

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Watching you when you're sleeping.

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And he's monitoring and calculating everything that you do, everything is being put together on a scale, nothing is left out.

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I'll repeat what it does at the end of the day. So here's the the benefit that I hope you can receive from this. On the one hand, you know, especially young people, they get really terrified when they hear stuff like that.

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But on the other hand, I always like to think that this is actually one of the greatest blessings I could ever ask for. That I have a creator that never ever takes his eyes off of me. So always mindful of what I do. So when people forget me, then I know he doesn't forget me. When people stop helping me, I know he he won't stop helping me he will always be there. mm chef Rahim Allah said one of the most beautiful statements I've ever heard in my life of any scholar. So if you want to, to note that, it's really, really absolutely beautiful. I quoted a lot. So some of you might have heard it before. He said that when people abandon you in times of need, in times of hardship,

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you said count that as a blessing, because it's a LA's way of showing you that he will solve your problems all by himself.

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Let me say it again. When people leave you, in times of need, they abandon you. That's a LA's way of teaching you and saying to you, I will take care of you myself.

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It almost creates like this beautiful, private relationship between you and Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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That's what you get from a royalty. So it's actually supposed to draw you in closer to him.

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Keeping strong ties with family is considered to be one of the top five, greatest and most blessed ways of guaranteeing yourself Jenna.

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If there ever was a way there was ever something that you could do. And if you did it well, the end is nothing but Jenna, this would be one of them, is keeping family ties. Now that's easier said than done. Right? It's easier said than done. Even if your family isn't Muslim, I still have an obligation to keep at least good ties, a good relationship overall. Like my in laws, none of them are Muslim, we have a great relationship.

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And we have a great understanding.

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So you know, it can be done. How you do that? And what are some of the strategies that you can use to achieve that it varies with family to family, right? So you have to when you look at this verse, note immediately, that keeping Family Ties is probably just as important or maybe even more important than giving Dawa to the entire world.

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Before you call others to the right path, you call your family and encourage them. That's really hard. Like, I'm not gonna butter this up in any way, it's an extremely difficult thing, especially in this time and age that we live in. A lot of the morals and ethics and, and mannerisms that we all grew up with, in terms of how families live and interact with each other. A lot of it is lost. All those simple things that we all used to do back home.

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When you were kids,

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it's gone.

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You would live and die for your brother, no matter how annoying he is. You know, maybe you get into a fight here and there, but you'd work things out.

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You know, your parents, they never had to repeat themselves to you.

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All of this stuff is almost impossible to find.

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Now, it's the hardest thing to teach young people.

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You know your mom, dad? Yeah, I know they don't speak English, but you got to just stay quiet and figure them out.

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You can't call them names. Just because you have a degree. You don't get to act like you're better. You have to bring yourself to their level or even below. So laws words by the way. Law Fifth Level imagina has the mean of Russia. Lower your wings of humility to them out of mercy towards them. They've never went to school and you have like 12 degrees. It means nothing. Allah says put yourself at their level or even below. Stop using big words with them. To show that you know stuff speaks in simpler languages. You know how I learnt this is I watched some of the orlimar do this with their mothers. You know the great scholar who's still alive today ship orthotics and PT happy Lola. He's

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one of the foci of Medina teach

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In both the Herman Medina and Mecca, right, and he has one of the biggest lecture sessions probably in the world, if you go to one of his lectures,

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there are at least maybe two or 3000 people sitting there every day.

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So one day he was giving a story about his mum, who passed away. And he said that one day he was talking to students and students, when they come and see him, they kiss him, and they hug him. And they're just, literally, this is the man, if you get one sentence out of him, it could guide you for the rest of your life. Like that's how profound profound his knowledge is. And his mom was there. So he stood up and he started answering some questions. And his mom interrupted and said, Ah, straighten your back.

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Because the chick was just like, this is a shrinking back.

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The students are the ones that really wrote about this. And they said, the chef did not even look at his mom. He just obeyed her straighten his back. Then he continued, about an hour went by mom is still there. Okay, okay, yucky. Enough, stop. Now.

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He looked at all that time, there was probably about 100 students around him. Salaam Alaikum. I have to bow down, grabbed his mom's hand. Every time he tells the story, by the way, he never he never finishes it. He starts weeping in front of everyone. He could never finish this.

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And every time he talks about parent, his mom, his his his father as well.

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It's It's so overwhelming with emotion, that it's quite extraordinary to see that and witness that.

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These are the things you probably don't hear about anymore. Now we struggle just to have our kids listen to us when we tell them. Could you please take out the garbage? Could you please Okay, I mean, I just want one cup of tea. You don't even have to put the tea bag you just boil boil some water I'll finish the rest. Please I beg you.

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It's It's It's It's this transition.

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Point is at the end of the day, our Prophet Alia site or sound told us about this right? Some of these things will start to disappear. And when this happens, realize that the Day of Judgment is right around the corner. So all of this is captured through this one verse. That's our attitude going into sort of in the center, okay. In the law had karnali Kumara peba a login force you to where he wishes you to be. So in turn, we have control over nothing, even ourselves. Okay.

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Now it's going to start getting into some of the other subjects.

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What, and then Allah says, what actually uttama and why the home wallet about the Aloha visa bill,

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wallet kulu and wild Ella and wild eco. Now who can Hoban Kabira. Okay.

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And give to the orphans.

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We all know what orphans are right?

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Has anyone seen or been around orphans? at all?

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Anyone here has interacted or been around orphans?

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was it here in Canada or elsewhere?

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The only interaction I've ever had was I visited an orphanage in Medina. That was a I've never met any orphans here or anywhere else.

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I want you to just observe how Allah talks about orphans in this in this sorta there are probably over just over a dozen verses that address this subject.

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Allah says first and foremost, look at the attitude we were in in verse one, what Look what Allah is taking to taking us to next and give to the orphans, their property, their money.

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So we went from the whole world, to the closest people near you. Who are we talking about now? children without parents.

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So our next obligation

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towards society towards community is we look out for the overall well being of home.

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In this context, it's orphans. just

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general life generalize that word for a minute. We're looking at for whom? children.

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Children, got the second verse of this surah it's going to continue.

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Not you know, the leaders, not the scholars, not teachers, kids. And on top of that,

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kids would know parents, you know, back in the days and actually even still some

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cultures today do this. It's really sad. But they treat orphans, like subhuman,

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that they're sort of kind of humans. They're not really. They're just whatever. Society didn't know what to do with it. They're kind of leftovers from families that nobody wants to just shove them into a building, and we'll figure it out. We're start collecting donations, somebody will start a campaign in a program and pay attention to them. Yeah, there are cultures that do this today.

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Allah says, Now, give them their properties. So obviously, when their parents have passed, there is some money or wealth that's left behind. What happened back in those days, is that you can see the first check mark, this verse was revealed, speaking to the guardians and protectors of the orphans, so those who were in charge of them. So what they would do back in the days when this sword was being revealed, is tribes and even leaders of those tribes will have a certain amount X amount of orphans. But they would not use their pocket pocket money to raise them and care for them, they would eventually get access to some of their property, some of the wealth that was left behind,

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What they used to do, however, is you'll see later on in the same verse in a minute, that they used to take their own money and property that probably wasn't as good wasn't as rich or valuable, and exchange it.

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So in other words, if they came with, you know, some some beautiful clothing, real good quality clothing, you don't need that. Here, take this piece of cloth and just wrap yourself with it. It's good.

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And they'll keep the valuable stuff. That's what Ally's talking about when he says,

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Give the orphans their properties, and do not substitute the defective for the good.

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So what is the law doing here?

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He's looking out for children. And he's also protecting what have children

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their rights?

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Tell me when was the last time you ever heard a sentence like that? We have to stand up and protect the rights of all children.

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Think about when was the last time you heard a sentence like that?

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Especially again, in the Muslim world.

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Let's make sure that we don't forget what it looks like today. Today,

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young people in general,

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if they're lucky, they might make it on the list of priorities for a particular organization or Institute or what have you. They might make it there. And if they do, it kind of looks like this. Yes, yes. We need the youth to come to our Masjid. You You're here, there's a vacuum.

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There's a broom. We need volunteers to sweep up, sweep up my office or something, you know, just take care of this and that. We need the youth we need the youth. Okay, fine. Forget the chores. We need to use to be part of the community our future. We need somebody to teach them a program. Let's hire so and so Okay, come on, you're hired.

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Your salary is going to be five bucks an hour. We want you to teach for seven hours a day.

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I know there's prep time. So whatever, 15 hours a day, whatever you need. But this is the community's money is blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Go ahead, teach them. And poor teachers now stuck with maybe 45 young people, students that no one even knows exists. Because I was the last interaction that they've ever had with anyone else.

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They've always been shoved to the corner.

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And I did a survey not once a few times. You know, I teach high school students, right. Right now, I teach about. I think it's 175. Right?

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For one year, split up in three places. All together. It's about 100. No, actually, it's more than that. It's just oh, I think it's probably over 200 now, right? Because one of the classes alone I have is 106.

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So I did this, I tried something and I do this every year. I tell the students I said tell me three things that you want to see when you walk in to a Masjid. What's the three things that are most important to you when you walk in there?

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No matter what it was that like some of them said things like oh my god, I just want food. You know, the other was like, I just want a gym. But all of them said we just want a little bit of appreciation.

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Bit of respect, that's all.

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And that really, really hit me hard.

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Look how Allah respects young people. He not only respects them, he stands up for them and protects their rights if something belonged to them. He didn't even say, okay, you know, all those who are in charge when you get some time or if you run out of your own wealth, make sure that you're fair. He jumped straight to the order straight to the Mo, and said, make sure what's theirs is theirs. Then on top of that, don't try to play any games with them. Because just because they're young, and have no one to stand up for them. In the law, again, early Kumar Optiva. Remember the last sentence Allah left before he got into this area? I'm right behind you and I can hold you by your neck. So don't

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mess around, then it continues.

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If you see this second check mark. This is one narration mentioned in emammal code to be Stef seal. There was a rich man who gained some wealth from his brother's nephew who cared for an orphan right. And the orphan matured.

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The son had asked this particular orphan for money.

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And his uncle said don't so this kid his dad said, No, don't do that. Because when the prophecy Silva heard of this incident, that particular verse was revealed. And the uncle then said, I seek refuge from Allah, our although billahi min huben Kabira who have been Kabira everything that is forbidden intensely and if you do it, then you deserve to be scolded. There's always been something that is detestable. So in other words, the thought of taking something from orphans that did not belong to you, a lot did not say it's wrong.

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He called it in no can Hoban caveolae, the end of this verse, that is ever a great sin.

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Do you see how if those of you who don't know Arabic, look at the translation? And then look at how Houben kibito really is how much of what you saw at the bottom you got from that last sentence?

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Do you see what translation is?

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Just one or 2% of what the verse is really saying? Because it just looks like oh, it's a big sin. Okay. Don't do that. No, actually, if you do take from their wealth unjustly and unfairly to Allah, you deserve to be put on the spot. You deserve to be to get some kind of punishment be reprimanded in some way and even scolded why. Because that's when hooven Kibera is a lie. Didn't say just hoba he added the word Kabira. Even if you know a little bit of Arabic, what's Kabira?

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Something that's great, that's massive. That's huge. You can't see the end of it.

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You know, it almost sounds like if you were ever allowed to hold a grudge on someone, this is probably one of those wait places. That person there. Yeah, he used to steal from kids. Watch out for him.

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It's almost it almost reaches that level. That person has become known Hoban, Kabira, it's a big deal to a lot. Okay. This is just the introduction. Now, the wealth of orphans can be used in two scenarios. So remember, core to be talks a little bit about fifth, we're not going to go into all of it. But just to give you some appreciation of what the subject is like. Because most most of us in this part of the world probably won't study this stuff, just because we're not exposed to orphans as often as probably others in other parts of the world. So orphans can generally be used to their wealth can be used in two scenarios.

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Number one, is to maintain the needs of the basic necessities, food, clothing and everything else. If here's the condition, that's why I put it in bright yellow, this is the condition if the Guardian is unable to do this for him or herself, see that condition? So in other words, they have to be doing this on their own first.

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Does anybody know why?

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Because the kids when they inherited this money from their parents, unless if it's stated in a will. That's not actually what the money is used for. It's not used for the basic necessities. The guardians are the ones that are responsible for them because why they're

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their kids. You don't tell kids Hey, listen, I need to start paying rent. I know you're five

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but um, that's what you need to do. You should go to the store and pick up your own clothing yourself as well.

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So that's why you do that. So that's why he he or she becomes responsible. If they're struggling Of course, and look, look at the other condition and use only what is necessary.

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So you can say, Okay, well, you know, we've got two orphans in the house. I've got one kid. So now it's five of us. I'm gonna, I'm gonna need a van. As a matter of fact, I'm gonna need a bus. And it's not gonna be any bus. So I'm gonna buy like a Mercedes.

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Can't do that.

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So only what is necessary? You know, these might these might these examples might sound a bit far fetched, but if you really think about them,

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oh, you need a phone. Okay. Let's just wait until the iPhone 20 comes out. And that's yours. Let me You know what, let me see if I can get it today. Just gotta pay a little extra. We'll use all of your inheritance, but we'll get it for you. You don't get to do that.

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strict rules for orphans and how you spend their wealth in court. And

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this is not just about responsibility, it goes back to the same a and this is a law protecting the wealth of people who can't protect anything, because they're just kids. Okay? Or give all the wealth to the orphan once they've matured enough and become responsible. Eva hanifa Rahim Allah,

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He is of the opinion that you become responsible. You can have money of your own when you hit around 25 years, then you can Okay. Have your own bank account and do your own thing. That's even mobile. hanifa Rahim Allah.

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This is why in these days, like if you go to open an account, if a kid is below a certain age, what do they need someone to cosign, they need a guardian. So some of these principles are actually implemented in our system. Today, we're going to talk about more about kids and money. In the next verse. Before Islam, no inheritance was given to women and children, still, the Meccans took large sons of inheritance, how they traded whatever they had for something better or more valuable, which we've talked about, they believed a head for a head, meaning you're an orphan, and so was I, they cared nothing about the justice in the transaction. So in other words, when they had an orphan in

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front of them, he's a tribal leader. He said to that orphan, well, when I was your age, I was also an orphan. So you get the same treatment that I get, when I was your age, I ate only bread.

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That's it, you're gonna get that. So when you're done, you can join us at the table there when we're slaughtering gold or something, and we're having a nice feast. You don't get to do that.

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This was actually a silly as crazy as that. So that was actually the practice back in those days. And I wouldn't be surprised if that still happens today.

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So it's not just about money anymore. What is this really about?

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traditions, culture,

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heritage, all of these things have to synchronize in a principle of just unfairness for both the orphan and the family, or the people that are under that care for them. Really, really important. Okay.

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Before we get to this, I showed her the lohana an orphan so there was a lady and she had this little young girl with her. And they came at the door of Iowa, without the love on the prophecy. Seven had left. He wasn't home at that time. So they were beggars. And you know how beggars are right.

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At least in that part of the world, as long as they can find a kid, even if it's not their own. Look, I got a kid

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starts crying, please cry. Look, he's crying. So I showed the aligner What did she do?

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She went and she got the last piece of date that they had in the home.

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She broke it in half, and she gave it to them. She also found a piece of bread, and she gave that away as well. Now the house has nothing. They were happy and they left.

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The office I sell them eventually comes home.

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He's asking, what are the lavorando?

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Do we have anything? So he asked her? Do we have anything in the oven?

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Okay, so in those pits where they used to cook things, Do we have anything in there? She said no yada sola, as a matter of fact, I gave away the last of what we had to this, these two that came to our home.

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And then the prophets I seldom said, and he quoted this particular verse that

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when you have children in the picture, who may or may not have parents, even if the guardians are there, that's enough. He said, in other words, he's saying to her, you gave it to him. That's fine. You will see the result of that investment in your assets. He actually praised the shadow The love I have for doing that. Why? Because there was a kid in the picture and look like this.

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kid did not have parents with her. So that was okay. It's a long Hadeeth. It's narrated in Bahati. It's a very famous Hadith. The point is, is when it came to orphans promises, some never asked any questions, even if he was down to his last bit. So, last thing is huben refers to a camel hum, it is one of the names of sins. Why?

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One of the names of sins in the poor end? hooba. Why? Because that's what sins do. If you don't address them, what do they end up doing? They end up becoming a huge and massive burden in your life. You know, it kind of looks like man. I said the word again. Oh, my God. I looked at the same thing again. I did the same thing again. So before, it might have been okay, it's just once or twice, but now it's become a habit. And it's really bugging you. It's really affecting the way you deal with people. The way you deal with yourself and your family. That's called hooba. So these are like the after effects of sins, if they're not addressed, prophecies seldom used to make dua to

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Allah lo Mo Farah, hello Betty.

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Please the ask Allah azza wa jal to forgive him of this kind of sin, the kind of sin that goes unnoticed, and it continues to pile and pile and pile. You ever noticed that? You know, somebody might come and tell you Listen, man, you got like a real attitude. And you look at them and you're like, Are you serious? Me? I had never thought yeah, you have an attitude since the day I met you.

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What's the attitude? You're stubborn? Boy, I'm not get out of here. See?

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Sometimes we have habits. Others need to call it out to us. Because if it's let go, it ends up looking like this.

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Does anybody know or at least tell me why this is a problem.

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Why don't you want? What's the problem if the sins pile up because forgiveness is always there. As long as you're here. You ask a lot to repent for repentance and forgiveness then surely should be okay. So what's the big deal? Why why specify this particular problem with Siddons that they pile?

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What's the wisdom behind us knowing that?

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Think of it this way.

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If you took a handful of dirt

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and threw it on your driveway

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every day,

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what will eventually happen to that pile of dirt.

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It'll get so big that it'll start to do what it'll start to create a problem with your car getting in and out. People walking in and out.

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When you choke

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I tried

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let me know

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have you seen my first book? I was doing

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my kids

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that you're never

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coming up those stairs

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It doesn't matter how much you work how those stairs they

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they really

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put you through a lot. Okay.

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Okay, I mean, Milan hamdu Lillah wa Salatu, salam, ala rasulillah were buried. Okay, so very quick question, especially for our new students. Would you think about the brief recap that we've had before the seller?

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Can we continue in the same manner? Or should we summarize it in a different way? What do you think simplify it go into more detail? What do you think?

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Yeah. Okay. And actually, it's kind of one of my intentions, why I'm doing this so that when you look at the PowerPoints, it'll make more sense that Okay, yeah, he mentioned this, and he mentioned that, okay. Okay. So let's go into part two, which will eventually take us to where we need to be with this particular program. And by the way, one of you asked us, so it's important that I mentioned this as well, the goal be is Neela is to finish this sorta, this semester, in some time before December inshallah. And I'm not really sure what I want to do after that. So we're going to talk I do have some options, inshallah. So I'm going to throw those options to you. And then we take

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it from there. Okay.

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Alrighty. So,

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first section done with part two is a bit lengthy in terms of what we've just covered. And Part two is a lot of discussion and content with consequence of those who break, or those who break the commitments their promises, and basically do what they can to continue to further their injustices with orphans, marriages, and things like that. So part two now brought in some new content, new themes as well. One of those themes is marrying someone in particular, here marrying women who had lost husbands, they lost husbands, either through sickness through war and battle. And they were kind of left behind a single moms, most if not all of them had children, and they just did not have

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the means to support and provide for these kids. So what is the what is the poor end solution, or at least a guide to that? So the conversation of permissibility of marrying women like this, in order to care and give them all of the things that they need? That is mentioned in this surah, but there was an additional conversation, particularly for those women. And that was, and this was really important, especially back in those days. Now, I intentionally introduced it the way I just did to paint an image for you. These women are single moms, their have their husbands are gone. There are they're left with all this responsibility, they got no income, no job, nothing. So they're on the

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verge of being homeless, and some of them are already homeless on the streets. So a wealthy man, you know, sees and hears about a particular mother and her kids, etc, right. And he wants to marry or at least wants to care for her. And he says that I'll marry you or I will marry within this family. with the intention of looking after you I can be the stability that you're looking for. I'm going to pause here and ask you, what do you think about that? How does that sound to you so far? Does that sound just unfair?

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just restricted to what I've just told you.

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I want to or he wants to marry this person, so that he could provide the stability, the financial means and so on, but she needs to survive. Does that sound? Does that sound right? Here? I'll ask the question in a different way. Does that sound complete?

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No. What's missing?

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What's missing?

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I heard it.

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The love the care her rights.

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You don't get to just marry somebody and just be handing paychecks every month.

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That was a practice back then. Unfortunately, one maybe in this world today still exists. You don't get to marry somebody just to take care of them.

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In this surah it not only reintroduced but it literally confirmed in a very harsh way

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that when you marry these kinds of women in in under these circumstances, the students in the last semester Do you remember we set things like that?

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You got to go and make sure you meet her family. And they have to be part of that conversation.

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So Allah says, let's see if we can get to the verse

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that you will marry her, you can marry them. But you also need to seek counsel from her family. So she, if she's got any relatives, even friends that she considers her only family, maybe all of our family either belong to a different faith or something or abandoned her, what have you, there's a reason why she's got nowhere to turn to maybe all of her relatives left her and abandoned her, right.

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So the a is saying, If she's got anybody left that she is dependent on, or she's related to, you need to go and speak to them as well. What is Allah really saying, you need to treat them

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and treat that situation like a real marriage, you don't get to take advantage of or abuse this situation ever. Unfortunately, again, in the world that we live in, this is just one of many circumstances when it comes to marriages, Islamic marriages where it becomes a very emotionally and mentally abusive situation, you know, where as long as you're paying the bills, you think you fulfilled everything that needs to in that marriage, I don't have to sit with her. I don't have to compliment her. I mean, we don't even have to sleep in the same bed. But as long as Look, I put a roof on your head, didn't I, about your car deny I took care of your bells didn't deny these yet are

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saying you have not completed the responsibilities of marriage by restricting it to just your duties. Does that make sense? The number one primary right of a woman of a wife is that she is loved and cared for. That is the number one primary right that she has. So if she ever at any point feels that she's not getting that, and all

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wives in general, will always say,

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as long as you love me and you take care of me meaning, your love, I see that and I feel that and experienced that with you. I don't care how poor we are. I don't care where we live. Don't is not the case. So Allah is calling that out. That's the same attitude, you've got to go with these women who've lost everything. Okay. So, again, do you see that principle that concept of just being thrown around again, treat them just as just just as fairly as you would any other wife, right? Okay. Again, no details, no details are mentioned how? Because that varies. Again,

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keep this in mind marriage in the entire poor end is only talked about like, vaguely,

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there's not one detailed passage or surah of marriage in the title right. Everything is just about principles and basic foundation of a marriage. So Allah will say, you know, the famous side we always talk about what tjaarda VEDA Kuma webtitan, Rama, we placed between you are in that marriage, love and mercy. Now we say that all the time. doesn't love, mean something special and unique to every single individual.

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That's why it's so hard to define it. Even experts today there is never ever one single definition of love. Because of how complex and how different each couple experiences that the Quran is the same way. A legend says I put deep passionate love between the two of you never describes what it is or how it's done.

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Allah says if you have

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if you have problems with one another, we're in Eclipse to ship alpha beta Hema furbearer I thought hackerman min earlier, we're hacking min min early. So we're gonna come to it next. This sorta is also tackling when you have issues in a relationship. What do you do? Go and find if you can't resolve it yourself? What do you have to do? Go find somebody who is just and fair and honest to come and intervene. And you can have somebody on your side and he can have or she can have somebody other side. And both of you come together and work those problems out.

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Again, justice, you know, he doesn't get to just bring his mom and his dad and be like, yeah, leave your your mom and dad at home. We don't need to tell my mom dad is here to talk to you. You don't get to do that. As a matter of fact, I argue that even in a situation like that, where it's bias and you're trying to resolve issues, it could potentially be haram as well. Forbidden, sinful. Okay. So, protecting these the sacredness of what a marriage

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should be an all of its right rights and so on. All of that is captured this particular area.

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So the attendee cell also discusses for us the categories of people that are forbidden or how long for you to marry. And I'm just want to get to it.

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It mentions things like

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do not marry your mom, your dad, your son, your daughter, and that sort of thing. can ask you, especially the students who are new, Isn't that obvious?

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Who ever think of doing something like that?

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on the outer shell, yes, but there are some exceptions to it. Okay. And I usually encourage people that if you're ever in that kind of predicament that you seek proper counsel before you make those kinds of decisions, because there are some exceptions to it. Some scholars still disliked it. But for the most part, it is permitted. It's not even mentioned in this particular verse. So, again, to my question,

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isn't it obvious that you shouldn't like even think this way about your own parents and children?

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So why would Why would we have an area like this in the Quran?

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Is it still possible?

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There are crazy people in this world aren't there?

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As a matter of fact,

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we know that this has happened,

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hasn't it?

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So this area, and the next one, we're that I'm going to show you

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soda techniques. Also, and this is one of the themes about the soda that makes it very unique from others. It tackles some of the most extreme circumstances in a society. And this is one of them. Somebody who practices this, I guess, if you call it incest, or even more than that,

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it deals with those kinds of situations as well, the most extreme that the thing that 99% of the population would never even think about, but there was this one guy, or there was one person that crossed that line, sort of denisa is going to deal with them as well. Alright, so again, justice.

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Oh, yeah.

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We don't get to say, Oh, it's just one couple, just just get him out of here and let them go. We don't need him. Let's just try to expel them out of here out of our community. That's not the that's not the way to solve problems, right. So this particular sort of captures a lot of those extreme situations. And here's the thing. This is the verse that I wanted to bring you I'm not going to go through it, of course, but at least you all know that it's here and why it's here. Another subject of this particular song, or at least in its introduction, is one of the most controversial verses of the entire end. Everybody knows what that is, right? What is it?

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What is this verse called? The verse of what?

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This is a it's a bottle, or at least that's what people think, the idea that permits someone to hit, especially there, in this case, their wife.

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Right, and we went through in great detail how this was a complete misunderstanding of the verse. And unfortunately, unfortunately, especially islamophobes, critics of the Quran, even some modernists of the Koran, have actually called for verse for this particular verse, to be erased and removed from the Quran. Just remove it in its entirety.

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Can somebody especially I mean, anybody really shed some light of what this verse is really about? First of all, let's ask the billion dollar question.

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Is a man allowed to hit his wife

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has been allowed to hit his wife? No.

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What's this verse all about? Look

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what it says.

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Therefore, the righteous women are devotedly obedient, gutter husbands. Okay, so here's the part. As to those women whose part they fear disloyalty and Ill conduct admonish them first. Next review refuse to share their beds and last commit Bodrum lightly. BB literally means

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And it says likely does that does that make a difference?

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Because maybe physically, there's no pain, but emotionally,

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for her emotionally,

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it's worse than it's worse than a punch.

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The fact that you would even think of me that way, fact that you would even dare to want to do something like that. I don't, I don't think I could live my mind the rest of my life with you. There's an emotional scar at least attached to this, that could probably never be healed.

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Okay, we just said we're not allowed to do this. This is, at least it seems like when you read it, that it's open the door to permit this to an extent.

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Just so nobody says we're trying to interpret the Quran on our own. The promises seldom ever hit any of his wives. Never. As a matter of fact, he never hit a human being except in war.

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He never put his hand on anyone. Okay. He's the walking poor and he's the greatest example of this book. And he never did it.