Gardens Of The Pious #698 Prohibition Of Sitting On The Graves

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AI: Summary © The "Grave Speaker" program aims to encourage people to respect their relatives and avoid being recognized as non-M-thirsty or Christian. The importance of reading the Hadith for understanding the Hadith is emphasized, as it is a direct quote from the Prophet salallahu. The history of Islam is discussed, including the legalization of burying oneself and the use of shia-ived messages to encourage strong and strong behavior. The importance of fulfilling certain qualities and surrounding walls is emphasized, as it is crucial for healthy functioning. The speaker provides information on the meaning of "The" in the title of a book and provides insight into the importance of fasting during pregnancy.
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give his best religion to allah God is the Greatest. The one and only glory to Him.

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Illness to be the best, give his best religion to

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a Salaam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh and welcome back to another live edition of gardens of the price is Mila Rahman Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa ala Keba to lil Mata Qin. While out when in olive oil Amin wa Salatu was Salam ala se Edie our Lena al akhirin Anabaena Muhammad wa ala early he was so happy as you may.

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In today's episode brothers and sisters who are going to tackle a new chapter, this is episode number 698. In the series of real Salaheddin, bye Imam Yahia even short of an hour we may Allah have mercy on him. This marvelous collection which is known as the eldest Salah Hain or guardians of the pious is essential for every Muslim house to have not to keep it in the bookcase. But to keep it in the hearts and minds. The collection of real Salaheddin by Imam nawawi it is simply an idea and Hadith And Alhamdulillah for the past

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almost 700 episodes 698 two more episodes and it will be 700 this is a great blessing. By the grace of Allah, it is to me, unbelievable. I mean, when we started this off years ago, I could never imagine that one day, we'll be covering 100 episodes, or two or three or four. We're approaching 700 episodes, Live episodes.

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In explaining the marvelous collection of Guardians of the pious by Imam Yahya initiative and NaVi may Allah have mercy on him. We've benefited a great deal, I myself have benefited a great deal Alhamdulillah and in many occasions, I've shared whatever I've benefited with my family members Alhamdulillah Ashoka Allah and I pray that have benefited you as well. My dear viewers, it will be very beautiful if you can share with us whether watching Guardians of the pious was useful or not, how often do you watch it? And you know your thoughts of what we when we finish in sha Allah real solid Hey, what would you like us to do afterward? As you know that the eldest Salah Hain program or

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guardians of the pious is normally aired live on Mondays and Thursdays of every week? And during Ramadan we pause, because every day we only answer your questions and we cater for your questions and concerns during ask for the live. So, in today's episode, still in the book of the prohibited actions, today's prohibition is quite interesting because the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him addresses the importance of respecting the graves, not only the living, but also the graves of someone's the bodies of the dead people.

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And, by the way, whether the dead people were there Muslims or non Muslims, if you read the history and you come across the Battle of bed, we see that the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him, buried the chieftains of Makkah, who targeted him and his companions for 13 years, and who came all the way hundreds of miles in order to eliminate Islam and Muslims. When Abu janela and the rest of the chieftains of Mecca were killed on the battle of bed, the prophets Allah Salim could have left their bodies in the open for the wild animals to devour them, but he buried them in the clip of that.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam stood up when a funeral passed by and when he was told, it is not for a Muslim it's a Jew who passed away he said Alyssa Neff son is in a zone. It is out of respect for Allah who created the soul whether it's a Muslim or non Muslim, and he forbade the mutilation of the bodies of the dead people, even the non believers on the battlefield. This is Islam, brothers and sisters. So in chapter number 347 Babauta hurry module Lucia Allah Kudrin, the prohibition of sitting on the graves.

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Holy hell have one Hadith Hadith number 17 166 It's a sound Hadith Narrated by Abu Hurayrah Radi Allahu Han and called

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Directed by Imam Muslim Carla Connor Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam n years Lisa had to come Anna John Martin Fetta harissa Garcia who Phatak Llosa, Isla de de highroller who mean and yes Lisa Anna Cabrera.

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I love Arabic. And I love not just to read the Quran, but also read the Hadith. And I check out the, the grammar of each and every Hadith before I read it in order to make certain that the subject has the vowel dama and the direct object has the vowel

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pay Fatah zabar whatever is required in the case of doer in the case of fluor and so, so once again Rasulullah sallallahu sallam said in Arabic le n years Lisa Dooku Mala Jiang Ratan

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feta, earthy yerba who fell to earth yerba who Fetta Hello sai Isla Gil de hierro level min en e as Lisa Allah cub.

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Years Lisa Hadoken allergen brought in to hurry by who? The Tuscaloosa Isla de de hierro LA who mean and yes Lisa had a cup.

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The meaning of this hadith the Messenger of Allah peace upon him said it is definitely much better for a person to sit on a live burning coal

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which will end up burning his clothes and going through his clothes to his skin than sitting on a grieve.

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This is out of respect for the dead person. So the Prophet salallahu Salam forbade walking on top of the graves, he forbade sitting on the graves, he forbade stepping and standing on the graves. And he definitely forbade praying towards the graves. Even if we mess the funeral prior and you go to the graveyard, you stand before the grave but you face the Qibla so you may end up you may end up not facing the Dave itself if you have to face the Qibla for a nightmare to a loofa thumbnailed hula, but you do not face the grief. It may happen to be between you and the Qibla. So it's okay because you're aiming at the Qibla you're not aiming at facing the grave.

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So it is not permissible to sit on the grave. And when interviewer Salah Salem gives an example in order to make it clear in the mind of the audience like last episode was started. If one of you happen to keep standing for 4040 days for the week for the month or 40 years is a lot better than crossing before somebody who is praying.

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Here the Prophet sallallahu sallam said it will be better for one of you to sit on a burning coal which would burn his clothes then end up burning himself.

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Then sit in on the grave you understand that don't sit on the grave.

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And another useful Allah Allah selama sin in the Hadith Hermeto Muslim he may Tanka or Marathi he hired

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a cassava out of me he made and custody of me Haiyan

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the sacredness of a believer after dying is the same as if he's still alive. And breaking a bone of a dead person is as bad as breaking his or her bone after they die, or breaking his bone after he is dead, is as bad and as forbidden as breaking his bone if he's still alive, not because he's dead. We mutilate the bodies and feel free to mess with the bodies. No, that is not permissible. So maybe you Salalah Salam teaches us how to deal with the living and how to deal with the dead. How to deal with respect with Muslims and with non Muslims as well.

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The following chapter, as I said, this chapter was only one

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And the following chapter deals with also the for, you know, the prohibition of sitting on the graves or standing on the graves. And it tells us about the construction of the graves and the graveyard or the cemetery in general.

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I want to be very honest with you.

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In in the West, like if you go to the States, all the different states

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he'd go to Canada, you find a cemetery is surrounded the fence and when you walk in, all the graves are under the ground.

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And every grave has a stone.

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Only one single person in this grave.

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So you don't see like constructions or lofty buildings and no.

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And unfortunately this is happening in many Muslim countries. They have many excuses, but the Messenger of Allah Pilate, after the conquest of Mecca, to level all the graves, he said, Do not leave any grave erected on top of the Earth, but to level it

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and in a statue, but to break it. So the Sunnah is to bury the dead people underground, not on top of the ground,

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not on top of the ground, and not to build those huge domes and tombs and make them like a places of worship. This is not permissible. All Have you ever read the Allahu anha have mentioned to the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him, what you've seen in Abbey Senia, as you know that you have migrated in the beginning with her husband before he died

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to be seen yet she have seen many of these violations help Christians whenever one of their priests or religious leaders die, so they will bury him in a church or bury him they build a church on top of him and a huge building and construction and Dobermans on so the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him say those who do like this. Yeah, honey, they bury the righteous people in their places of worship. All the build places of worship on top of the righteous people are the worst of people before Allah on the Day of Judgment. Sure all health care in the law. He yarmulke Anna, this is serious. And subhanAllah the wives of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam wrote this up before him before

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he died, when he was seriously sick, out of fear that you know, some of the companions because of the troll after the Prophet Salah Salem, they might think that it is better to treat him like one of those kings.

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Like what the people do in the Roman Empire in the Persian Empire is a no, no, no, like everyone else, dig and marry me. And if that was the case of the greatest man ever walked the earth, then it is not permissible for us as Muslims to fulfill the request of any person who says My worst idea is to bury me in this place or to make room in the machine to bury me and none of that is permissible. None of that is permissible. And what we see across the Muslim world, particularly in the Arabic countries, is absolutely false,

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is absolutely forbidden. And it comes in clear contradiction with the guidance of this dean. And with the explicit a hadith in watching the video, Salah Salem forbade this practice

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to bury somebody in the masjid or to build a dome on the grave of somebody or to erect the building of the grave, or to be extravagant in the funeral. And in the grave construction

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or after war to honor this person to build a place of worship around it all of that is false. And an abuser Salah Salem cursed, cursed those who do that. So why do Muslims do this? It's like everything that the Prophet SAW Selim forbade or Allah has forbidden and some Muslims insist on doing its opposite.

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You see in many Muslim countries, they sell Alcon freely without age verification. Like in the states on non Muslim countries, you have to show a proof of verification of age you're 21 years old. In order to buy tobacco in order to buy wine in many Muslim countries. It's actually buy the phone.

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You pick up the phone, and guess what sometimes the place which sells alcohol is adjacent to the masjid.

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And the other day in one of the Muslim countries, an alcohol shop in the morning you know, have Muslims they have the tradition of play in the Quran in order to bring the customers and include provision. So an alcohol shop which says only alcoholic beer and ALC was playing the Quran.

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Total disconnection from reality. This is where Islam becomes some sort of cultural traditions, not practice.

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not belief and practice, not halal and haram. So in the views of Allah Allah selama describe those who otherwise as Shira rule hulky, the worst of the creation of Allah on the day of judgment you wanna be among them? Of course not.

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So let's tackle the first Hadith. In the chapter, the prohibition of blessing and building over the graves chapter number 348 Hadith number 17 167.

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Who's in Eritrea Shia javeri Now Abdullah Radi Allahu Anhu

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we know his father Abdullah Hebron Hara may Allah be pleased with him he was martyred on the battle for Angelina Abdullah Hello the Allahu Anhu makan na Rasul Allah He sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and you just saw Sol kabru l yo cada alayhi wa anumana la he are our who Muslim.

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The Messenger of Allah peace be upon him for day the graves should be

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made into a permanent structure, like you're building a building

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and sitting on the graves or building over them Subhan Allah. This is exactly what many Muslims do. I used to pray in a masjid and attend halka for a particular shape. They said he's a is a holy person. This is what they say when I was young.

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And when he died, they said that he wrote in his was here to be buried in the mosh I said oh my god Subhan Allah. Isn't this exactly what the Prophet sallallahu Sallam forbade? Isn't this exactly what he warned against? Yes.

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Now I remember why Abdullah have named Mr. Wood.

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May Allah be pleased with him, said manca and Amok Teddy and Mata Sen failure to SME man met failure to sob us having Nabil Salah Salem for inom Apollo NASA kuruva. Yeah, I mean, if you really would like to take people as your role model and follow them, step by step, then they should be the messengers of Allah. Companions, the companions of the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him and may Allah be pleased with him, because you were very meticulous about fulfilling the commandment of Allah and His Messenger Salalah salah, a Sahaba a tambourine and obviously as a messenger of Allah peace be upon him said, there'll be a tab in after word. tribulations were widespread fit and have

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become very common.

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And people's interpretation of the text was very weird and strange, but it was accepted by many people. So that's why a Nabil Salah Salem has wound and said the only way for salvation, and the only way to be saved, and the description of the saved sect or group or party is by following what ever I and my followers are following today. That's it. Whether you're a group of people, whether you are one single person in you and your family doesn't matter.

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Quantity doesn't really matter. What matters is fulfilling certain qualities. So now Hanabusa salatu salam annual just saw Sol kabru.

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Some people whom ALLAH blessed or tested with wealth, we know that his grave have caused 1 million or couple million I know some people in the graves they put central air condition they did or they Muslims Wallah you know non Muslims do not do that.

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non Muslims do not do that. When you walk in, in an unknown Muslim graveyard, it is pretty much similar to Nokia except for the fact that the burial processes different casket is required. They are buried in their clothes without those non Muslims and the marble or the piece of

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is very expensive. It's very expensive, but it's all leveled and greenery around it grass all around it.

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The best graveyard is what you see in Albuquerque or

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berry or people like in Alba Kia

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and do not erect the graves above the earth and do not be extravagant in spending on the stones or

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Are the graves and do not know when I go to visit my late father may Allah admission when I pass by some of those signs some of those stones on the buildings and I see what reads as follows.

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Professor Dr. Ministers general, so and so the angels are not going to call you by any of these titles under ground and in your grave, you're no one also and so you will be called upon by the name and the name of your father and the title that you like most if you're a believer,

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if the person was working, they will call him with the wars name that he hated to be called with in the here in the dunya indicated that this is what you really deserve.

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So, the burial process should be under the ground, we should not build the graves on top of the ground and domes on top of them.

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In many countries again, we have to build a surrounding wall in order to protect the dead from theft.

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And this is happening and this is haram

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in the medical school, and before the plastic skeletons and the for the you could have purchased a body of a whole human being Muslim person who recently died and the God of the graveyard will sit at you for Lyza 100 bucks.

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So you and your friends can study anatomy on a real body. This is not permissible. Of course, this is not permissible. So if the prophet Salah Salem forbade mere sitting, the grave, forbade disrespecting the dead in what some people take it lightly.

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You know, an abuse Allah Allah Salam, one a serious warning, a severe warning against the bashful Kubo the person who digs a grave in order to steep the coffin, while not stealing the body itself, for whatever reason,

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for whatever reason, so respect for the people is in his name, similar to respect of the same people whenever they were alive. We're a new cardiology or a new winner, Allah may Allah subhanaw taala guide us to what is best we need to take a short break and we'll be back in sha Allah for some more. This series of the other Salah Hain is very rich, very informed, informative, and shallow. We'll be back in a few minutes please stay tuned

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Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh and welcome back. My dear viewers, our phone numbers will appear right now on your screen. If you have any questions in the segment, go ahead and give us a call on any of the following numbers. The first two numbers are WhatsApp numbers, and therefore calls only the following two numbers are for local calls.

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The chapter that we're about to begin right now is chapter number 350 Babauta Hareem shefa it filho dude. And this is a very serious chapter brothers and sisters, the prohibition of interceding concerning the law and order in Islam.

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First of all, what does the word hoodoo means? The last vocabulary in the name of the chapter, who do is plural have had and had means limit or boundary, Jonnie if you transgress against any of the prohibitions of Allah then the punishment is required. That's called hunt. We'll learn more about that inshallah. After this calls As salam o alaikum.

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Matar from Nigeria Welcome to Hoda TV

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Mortara Salaam Alaikum

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mistake city from Germany and try again matar please city.

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So I'll share how are you?

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matola here we're a capital city how are you?

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I'm fine. hamdulillah yak Allah.

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Chef Mike have two questions. The first question is if someone's praying and you know the family, there's someone who's making

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something that what clowns do and he's about to

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left but holding himself, but because he's holding himself they come this pressure in his body. And he's like as if think slightly. So with this pressure, this feeling a breakthrough prayer, your inner city before answering the How come and your cushion, I'd like to tell whatever happens is a measure of

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whatever this person has done of deliberately trying to make a person who's praying laugh or distract him or her from their prayers, that's a major sin.

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And that should be avoided. And the person who was involved in that this is not funny. This is something really major you know what it means that somebody is involved in his a bad and somebody is acting funny in front of him or cracking a joke or like a colon in order to make him laugh, or make her laugh in the prayer. That's a major sin.

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we'll come to your question. If somebody for reason or another have seen something, while praying, that's why we said in the previous episodes, you pray towards the soda sutra. And you look at the spot Have you scheduled in order not to get distracted and to maintain for sure. And you pray as if this is going to be your last prayer. So you're disconnected from the outside world?

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You hear none. But what you're reciting what you're glorifying Allah Almighty with all if you're praying in JAMA what the Imam is reciting. But what if things happen? And you will not the attentive and you heard something that makes you laugh? If you laugh that nullifies the prayer, if you suppress, you laugh, and it's just a smile. This is this light and your prayer is valid. Baraka love you come city from Germany, Salah Monica.

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So, hi, from Canada, welcome to her TV, so hype

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that nobody can work with.

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So my question is, in the I heard that there's a hadith that says that Allah ADAMA, homestyle Islam says that Allah doesn't forgive the one who exposes his sins publicly proudly. No.

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Yeah, and I also know that like you because I started memorizing Quran and also know that in Surah Nisa, it says that in the law hilarious I use like abt whenever you're ready, can you meet yesha?

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So the problem is like when he says he forgives everything else. What does that actually mean that like when that contradicts the the Hadith that says that Allah doesn't forgive the one who exposes himself?

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Yeah, that's a good question. Not so high. Boonie read the Quran.

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You have to link the if and connect them together in order to comprehend them all together in the light of explaining the Quran by the Quran.

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When Allah Almighty says what who will Allah He demyan a mineral unlocking totally whole.

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So the Quran is asking the believers who have committed sins to repent

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in Surah Atelier Moran when Allah Almighty says while Latina is if alpha Hachette and overall mo enforcer Hamza Corolla festhalle farolito No be more Mayor Feroz Uber illa Allah wa salam Yeosu ILM follow me Allah moon, so Allah will forgive them their sins, and admit them to gardens as wide as the heavens and earth because of what the Catahoula have Estelle farolito, NaVi Mala Musa, this feel bad about committing the sin? They repented. They sought forgiveness, but somebody who likes a sin

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to the extent that he brags about it, he says

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yesterday I drink a whole bottle of champagne.

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Do you think

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this person eligible for forgiveness? He doesn't want to he doesn't want to repent? He's not even seeking forgiveness. So he's not asking for forgiveness. Allah subhanaw taala says in Surah to Zuma Alia Eva dear lady in Surah for Allah and for see him later Kunal Kumar Rahmatullah in Allah Fuzu by Jamia Indeed, Allah forgives all sins without asking for forgiveness without feeling remorse that you're drinking or you've committed fornication or you committed theft.

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You need to repent in order to be forgiven. Got it. That's why in the Hadith

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Is what you refer to and inquired about in the beginning. The Prophet sallallahu selama said Kulu multimo halfa billion Mujahideen. All my own men will be pardoned except those who brag about the sense, the brag about the sins, that means they have not repented. And they do feel bad about it, and they are continuously doing it. And at the earliest opportunity, they will not mind doing it again, so they are not eligible for forgiveness. Got it. Baraka Luffy salamati

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Maya from the Netherland Welcome to Heather TV, Maya

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sister Maya, can you hear me?

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Yeah, go ahead. You're live on Hodor. TV.

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Oh, hi, this is Maya, how are you? I'm doing great. How about yourself?

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So I have a question for you. It's about

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my family, me and my husband.

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Um, so for a month, my husband was in a big depression. He was in a big stress.

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We got in a fight me and he he also with his family, with his brothers with his mother with his father.

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So basically, my house was like, in fire. Everybody was telling him that he's acting like crazy.

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His body was here, but his mind wasn't here. Auto Key didn't take care of our kids. Not even for me, was not sleeping, not eating. Nothing feels actually like a crazy person. And one day his brother came to our house. They got in a big fight.

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Almost five or six hours, they were screaming each other. And then his brother asked me something, then I reply,

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then my husband face was like,

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totally back. He was

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not in his mind. And then he in this anger, he devotes me.

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And I want to know if the divorce is real or not.

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Thank you speak to Sister Maya, I actually could have predicted

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near the conclusion. And

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without you telling me what happened by the end, it's easy to predict that. But to give you the answer is if your husband confirms that when I divorced you I was out of my mind. And I didn't know what I was saying. Then this divorce doesn't count. He is the only person who was going to determine in which condition he was in. He's having a problem with his family. He's fighting with his brother. Five, six hours. That's a lot of time. You know? But if he said that I was out of my mind, and I didn't even know what I said. And I regretted so that divorce doesn't count. But if you said I was really upset with my wife, because she took side with my brother or whatever, and I divorced her and

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I was fully aware that I'm divorcing my wife, then this divorce does count. Thank you, Maya. I feel sorry for what happened to you and May Allah bring peace to your house you and your family, as salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa Catherine.

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Marine from the UK.

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As long as aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato Santa rahmatullah wa barakato. Marian, how are you? I'm good. Alhamdulillah and you don't wonderful hamdulillah thank you for asking. hamdulillah chef, my question is in regards to making making up fast so I've been Hamdulillah I fasted all my life. And when I got married, and then I became pregnant, I didn't fast because I was unable to

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then I breastfed my children

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for two years and I have three children so Mashallah.

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So I was unable to fast for like 10 years.

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And because I've had children I became pregnant or breastfed for

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Who you is each children? So my question is so I and I didn't know that I had to make a fuss until someone recently told me that I have to make the map when I'm healthy. But even when I'm breastfeeding, I find it I tried too fast, but I used to become sick. So I was unable to fast.

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So my question is that do I have to make up for all the faster I missed all those years? Now your question, Sister Mary, his answer

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in case of pregnancy, and breastfeeding, a woman is not automatically exempt from fasting. Only if pregnancy

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is causing her not to be able to fast she's very weak. Or the specialist The doctor said Marine, you've got to drink lots of water you've got to take nutritions and you cannot fast okay, I'm not gonna fast I give birth. Breastfeeding does not give you the permission or the concession automatically to skip fasting but if as you say that when I was breastfeeding, I felt dizzy and sometimes I'm gonna faint and I was drained I was not able to have enough milk to okay go ahead and break your fast so this is not a general ruling every woman who's pregnant go ahead and break your fast every woman who's breastfeeding go ahead and break your fast know some women during the

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pregnancy that are very weak especially first time and the first one is Mr. Some women during pregnancy they get dehydrated No go ahead and drink and eat and may Allah bless you then after words, once you're capable too fast you need to make up those days saying that I didn't know that before this is not a very execuse it's exactly like somebody who didn't pray Maghrib and two days there was talking to somebody about you know I woke up and I chose Asia prime so I prediction i What about metal? I didn't pray because I didn't know that I'm supposed to make it up. What do you need to do make it up. So you need to make up the mess days and every Muslim

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Salah fasting Hajj, and the payment of the care if you're eligible. If you have money to pay the care, you have no execuse or benefit of ignorance or not being aware because these are Mississippi matters for every Muslim to know about as a Muslim. I cannot just pray without Tahara rudo for years and say, Oh my God, I didn't know. You think this is a benefit of doubt or given the execution of ignorance? No. When you say a shadow Allah Allah Illallah shadow anna Muhammad Rasool Allah required to learn what is necessary and what is inevitable in your deen to learn everything about salah and make up the missed prayers, the requirements and the prerequisites of the prayers, fasting Hajj, and

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the care if you're one of those obeys. May Allah make it easy for you to start making up by fasting Mondays or Thursdays or as much as you can? Thank you Salam Alaikum

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memoirs from the United Arab Emirates to Santa Monica manoosh Salam aleikum. How are you? I'm doing just fine hamdulillah Thank you sister, Mahesh. How can I help?

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I hope you remember me. We spoke some days ago. You know, as you grow older, you have a short memory. So I would appreciate if you can remind me

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just I spoke with you regarding some payment which I wanted to dispose off because I think it is haram. Oh, the agent, the real estate agent, correct? Exactly. Yes. Okay, I

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have two questions. Number one.

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I have so much issue with what was

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too much.

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Before I was thinking that it is my disease. Even I go to psychiatrist and they told me that I have anxiety disorder. And I tried my best to cure it or whatever, but I reach to the point where I

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where I know like, but this is not disease.

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This is worthless. And hamdulillah I'm praying five times and I'm reading Quran Alhamdulillah and it's really really, you know, my life changed because of it. And as soon as I'm you know, I'm getting the more information about deen and Quran I I'm seeing that this was not my disease. This was was was and I was not able to control at that time.

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So sometimes you know,

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I have very good connection with Allah when I pray, I pray like with full feelings and I know with whom I am talking and all that. Sometimes, you know, this was facade. They came and it stuck in my mind. What should I do?

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System mouthwash. I want you to frequently recite la How will our La Quwata illa biLlah. Hill Avi. This phrase of deck is a very precious one. And it came from a treasure beneath the throne of the Most Beneficent and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam recommended this form of zyk alot. And it means law how Allah Yeah, and you know, changing from one condition to another except by the love of Allah. So inclusively are asking Allah to change your condition to the bearer to the best. So this one thing you say too many times now. Hola. Hola, Quwata illa biLlah Nagar met every time you have this anxiety La hawla wala Quwata illa Billahi la vie, La hawla wala Quwata illa biLlah love

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him and number two, every time you have the anxiety since you say that, you know this is from shaitan that we will allow him to shift or not regime or oh, they will let his semiology in him in a SharePoint regime. Although belies the Milady Mina shaytani R rajim. Men have the admin Hamza you wanna you want to recite the crusade, you know what happens? You know what happens when you put salt on water and you stir it or you put sugar in your cup of tea and you stir it it dissolves, it disappears, Satan will disappear like that like salted water.

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The Almighty Allah promised in the Quran every time that Satan whispers to you seek refuge with Allah He disappears because Allah is with you. He's all here are is old knowing.

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And in addition to that supplementary advice, give sadaqa in a charity with the intention of warden of the anxiety it does help a lot. May Allah bless you and don't forget your morning of car and evening as car you only after you prefetch there is a list of supplications recite them with the same number that the Prophet sallallahu SlMs said especially alone in your audio becoming an Hemi what hasn't. When RGZ Wilkerson will do renewal books are also becoming relegated day one region

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two yeah how you yaka you are the one who's ever living the sustainer Bella medical histories. I see help and mercy in your mercy.

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Valletta kidney Ilana Scioto Fattah I mean, do not let me rely on myself not even for a blink of an eye. Let me rely on you. Yeah, how you are colombara medica esterase Asli Alicia and Nicola who sit right all my affairs and do not make me rely on myself not even for a blink of an eye. May Allah make it easy for you, sister, Mahesh? I think

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okay, we'll take we'll take the last two callers even though we run out of time, but quickly, please. Salah Moloko sister amatola from the UK.

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Yes, why come? Ali Khan Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh go ahead and not Allah.

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So I I've been living in London for seven years now. With my son just both of us, my son,

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my, his gift to me

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when he was like less than two years old, and sadly, like none of his, his family was was just pushing him to end the marriage. Because of all the things related to

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his other son from a previous relationship, his mom died and she took her own life and so they pushed him to just they weren't to be quite happy with the marriage anyway and his ex wife as well. And so it was a big problem but my family my dad, my you know, he didn't try to intervene and you know, just talk to him or it was it was

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a it was a tough divorce. And in the meantime like I was just trying to be before the marriage

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the the my family's attitude with me because I was late to marry I was 28 years old and still the family home. So my brother just shattered all of a sudden said you needed to travel and work and just don't stay with us anymore. And my dad supported him in that

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so basically I'm even after my divorce like during my divorce and after my divorce my dad didn't really like he just they just helps me financially whenever I need to. So he just gave me some money. He said like just go back to the UK and

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I get the divorce don't live there, reduce your your child up and just come to visit us like every once or twice a year.

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So since then I've been like

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just like totally on my own with my son and

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I just I just sometimes feel like they still want to get in touch like my family and

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they've been in touch but I sometimes member what happens and I feel like I just don't want to talk to no one.

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I feel like I didn't want to end up this way.

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I didn't want to be on my own, you know?

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That is because of all that happened. I

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I just stayed on my own in the end. And I feel like How old is your son? amatola.

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He is. He is eight years old. A huge

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number to where your family is living now.

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What is your family? My pronouns are in Egypt. My sister is in the US and my brother is in Dubai. Okay, um,

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You guys are Egyptian Correct.

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Sorry, you guys are Egyptian originally?

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Egyptian Yeah. But I was I was in Egypt when my

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ex said we should we should divorce we should end the marriage. And I didn't want to come back to the UK. But my dad said

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I should go back because my son is British and he thinks that's the best place friend. Let me let me I got your message. And I think I comprehended your condition. And I'm really deeply sorry to hear what you've gone through. And from the bottom of my heart, Allahu amatola. I'm praying for you and for your welfare. May Allah bless you. May Allah put you in a better condition and easier way. I think if if I'm giving you a brotherly advice, okay. If you're my

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blood sister, I would say you need to get married. And you need to move on. And what causes devastation to the person most no remorse is looking back. Look into the past, regretting what happened in the past. Don't live in the past. And plan for the future. It is in your hand to make it by it and beautiful. If you walk in and able to provide for you and your son Alhamdulillah. But one day your son will grow and soon he's eight now but soon after high school, you will go to school, maybe he will go to another. If you're living in London, he will go to Cardiff or Leicester and colorless, it's over. You need to plan for what is next.

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If you're really serious and thinking about marriage, you will find the right suitor. Okay. And also low selling didn't say that for a divorced woman to stay and sit and live forever for is in the children know, the Sahaba would look for a woman who's been divorced a woman who's been widowed, and they will marry such women in order to protect her and her family and the children. Look what the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam has said to almost LML Salam was an old woman with bunch of kids. And he said Your kids will be my kids. So hopefully Allah will guide you and guide someone to you, to marry you or look after you and your son. I think that is a solution. In my humble opinion, from my

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long experience in counseling and helping people and from a religious perspective, what you need to do is seriously start looking for a suitor to get married, whether you go back and live in Egypt, or your husband is in the UK and he's living with you or somebody who would travel and live with you there. This is what you need to do your parents may Allah bless them for helping you financially as you say, but by the end they are not living forever, and your son will move out one day and then what is going to happen to you need to seriously start thinking about connecting to somebody who is a good person with good manners, who would help you to be an obedient servant to Allah and also I

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condition to help you raising your son properly. This is my advice, Emmet Allah. I am deeply sorry to hear that and may Allah make it easy for you and unfortunately, I will not be able to take any further calls because we went way over time, and the next time it views a whole holy header

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or as the whole lady welcome masala ala Sayidina Muhammad

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Wanna early he wants to have your Salam. Wa Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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It is

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to be

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his best religion to them. So why did they know that forgetting all about an empire those were shipping columns fire and stones, sending the rest with the cheapest?

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forgetting all about how bad guys were shipping cars, fire red stones, selling their best