Gardens Of The Pious #517

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AI: Summary © The Hadith explains that protecting one's property and reputation is crucial in protecting their reputation and family, as it is a reflection of the Prophet's actions. The speakers discuss the history of Islam, including the use of the word "bringing" and the importance of protecting one's identity and reputation. They also touch on the origins of Islam's teachings and its impact on people's beliefs, including a person who died while protecting his wife and family. The transcript includes a discussion of praying recitation, deeds, money, and the importance of forgiveness in Islam.
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glory to Him. People want me to be the best. Give his best religion to Allah Our God is the greatest, the one and only Glory to him on any illness to be the best, and give his best religion to

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Salam o Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh Smilla Rahmanir Rahim Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam, ALA and Avi, most of our back, mighty viewers. Welcome to another Live edition of Guardians of the pious and today's episode is number 517 in the bliss series of Reatta Salahaddin by Imam nawawi. May Allah have mercy on him. And it will be the second episode in chapter number 235, which deals with the explanation of who are the martyrs besides those who die on the battlefield. And the difference between the martyrdom of those who die

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on the battlefield, and they are considered shahada, and those who die in other fields and they're also considered martyrs. So in the previous episode, we tackled some of the Hadith in which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam explained that a person I believe or who dies with a plague or with abdominal sickness by cancer,

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kidney failure, liver cirrhosis, and a person who is burned to death, and a person who falls out of a high place then he dies. And a woman while giving birth, she dies she is they're all martyrs yet in the dunya. In the dunya, we wash the bodies, and we wrapped him in Shroud them in the coffin, and we offer the funeral prayer for them, while a Shaheed who dies on the battlefield

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is on top of the list yet in the dunya his body is not to be washed, and they will be read in their clothes in which they died. And we don't offer the funeral pray for them. They don't need it. Okay, so the first Hadith in today's episode is number 13 155.

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In this hadith, which is a sound Hadith agreed upon its authenticity, and I'm going to tackle the next couple a hadith all together, then in sha Allah will explain them all together as well

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and are delayed now I'm read the last Radi Allahu Anhu ma con kala Rasulullah sallallahu Ania selama min kotula Duna Li Hua Shaheed and this hadith is agreed upon its authenticity.

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He says Peace be upon him, that a person who dies

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while defending his property, he is a martyr. He is a Shahid

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and the following Hadith

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and say he didn't say he didn't normally be unified. Or the Allahu

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Elma Shula home Bill Jana, Karla semi auto rasool Allah He sold Allahu alayhi wa salam ala Paul.

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Man Poty LaDonna O'Malley Eva who are shaheed women Cote de la luna Demi Eva who are shaheed women kotula dunya de fer Hua Shaheed woman ko Tila Duna Li, for her Shahid

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so sorry, if desired, ignore them ignore fi one of the 10 Heaven bound companions, may Allah be pleased with him,

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said I heard the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him saying

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he will die as while defending his property is a martyr. And he who dies in defense of his own life, is indeed a martyr. And he who dies on defense of his faith is a martyr, and he who dies in defense of his family is a martyr. The third hadith

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is a seven Hadith collected by Imam Muslim narrated Abu Hurayrah. May Allah if he is with him, that the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him said

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when a man came to him, Jaya Raju ala Rasulillah he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Martha call

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Do ya rasool Allah are either in jail or Julian you read them early are either in cartel to who Carla who have enough power who Muslim.

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A man came to the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him and said Oh prophet of Allah, what shall I do if someone comes to me with the intention of taking away my property, my wealth? And then he asked again? What if he killed me? What if I killed him? So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has said that he will be an hellfire, the three a hadith, which are also the remaining three a hadith, in the chapter, the explanation who have who is considered a martyr, even though he didn't die on the battlefield, we addressed some of those categories in the previous episode. And in this episode, the A three a hadith, they refer to the fact that a Muslim should be courageous and brave, and does

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not simply given a Muslim shouldn't be a coward. A Muslim should not hand over his worth at the first pickup or threat. So when somebody is pointing the muzzle of his gun to his brains and says, You give me your money, here, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says, partin who don't give him your money? Is this a command? Or does it undergo the situation? I mean, like, you know, is my life worth?

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You know, being sacrificed for my watch? For my phone? For my laptop? For my car? You know? Is it a price? Should it be considered a price for defending any worldly material? Well, the answer is for LDLs. Yeah, honey, if you decide not to give him your money, it is permissible. And it is your right. Even if you end up fighting, and if you kill him, he's going to have fire. And if he kills you, you're not. And if you kill him, there is no redemption, there is no process equality and punishment, there is no even blood money, you walk out of it. Clean. Why because he is the perpetrator.

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So in Islam,

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it teaches Muslims to be brave.

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And not to give an easily

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this is having said so with, with regards to the wealth, highway robbery, somebody is breaking into your house, or somebody is taking you up with a knife or the gun with a pistol in the train. So in this case, it is absolutely your right to say, I'm not giving you anything. So it says Okay, forget about your watch, just give me 20 bucks not giving you even 20 bucks. So what are you gonna do? Oh, I'm gonna kill you. So you fight. If you fight, that is permissible, if you choose to fight. So the judgment of the situation was would be entirely up to you. But the case is different. When this guy is attacking you

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because he wants to hurt your family, your wife, your daughter, your sister, like you know in case of rape, in case of sexual molestation, you defend your honor, at some must or may get killed. Even if you get killed.

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Then a person who dies while defending his family while defending his wife, his daughter, his sister, his mother, if he gets killed in the shade, and he kills the perpetrator, the attacker, the rapist, okay, then the person who is a perpetrator and he got killed the prophets, Allah Salam said, who have been not, he will be sent to hellfire, he will be doomed to hell, because he's a perpetrator. The honor of everyone should be respected. The words of everyone is sacred. Same like his life exactly. They're more who I am and who I adore. In the Hadith and in the farewell speech, the Messenger of Allah peace upon Him, who do mostly me Allah and Muslim haram. Everything about a

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believer is sacred and why we're so he's worth his honor.

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And his life is sacred. You should not address a believer with anything that may hurt him verbally or physically. You know, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam forbade pointing to a brother or to somebody with a piece of metal, not just a knife had either

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a piece of metal

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What a sharp object or anything that may hurt. Do not point with your hand like that. Because he said shaitan may push your hand.

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You poke his eye, or you injure him. And when you say it was an accident, I didn't mean it. Why did he take the initiative? What do you why did you point the weapon towards them? So you're pointing the gun, the muzzle is pointed to his head, and your finger is on the trigger. You say, I don't know how I pull the trigger. You think you'll be innocent? Now you'll be executed a capital punishment because you addressed

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a safe and an innocent person with aggression. You're an aggressor.

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So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is still in us a person who's defending his family. He's defending his honor is defending his Deen his religion is defending his land and property, his country, his people, or his worth. Then he dies as a result. He is a Shaheed as well. But if he had a chance to take down the perpetrator, the one who is posing the threat that he is not blameworthy. You're asleep

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and somebody breaks into your house, okay.

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In the states who keep the shotgun next to us.

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So you hear a noise if you shoot the person in your house, he broke into your house, he certainly your life,

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jeopardizing your safety and the safety of your kids. He is

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of no price. You're not blame worthy, because he's the one he's a transducer is the perpetrator he broke into your house. But if somebody tried to defend, he reacted, and he did not allow the person to you know, aggress against his wife or his family or his children, or take his property, then he paid the price for that his life. Then according to those sound, a hadith the Prophet sallallahu sallam said, This person is a martyr or a shaheed. So those are three beautiful Hadith. Explain, in case somebody died while defending himself his property is wealth or his family. He is also a Martin

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We have one sister here,

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who says Maria Christina,

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who says that my dad died of liver cirrhosis. I'm relieved that this suffering is considered in the list of the martyrs. Yes, indeed. As I mentioned, while mob tone or shade above is the abdomen and what it contains. So a believer who's afflicted with cancer, and he induced that patiently.

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He saw remedy.

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He was treated and he died as a result. That person is a believer, and he died while suffering. Allah Almighty tests the believers in order to raise the ranks and heaven. And then he is perceived as a Shaheed provided the person is a believer, but obviously, every faith, every faith without exception, even the different denominations within the same faith. They believe that we're the only right faith, the only right ideology, and we are the only believers on earth, then others are non believers. I don't blame them.

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I don't blame them. Because you can never believe in something and it's opposite. Can you

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you can never believe in a particular face. And meanwhile you believe in another faith. Watch great sighs is it? You can never believe that Prophet Mohammed is Allah's Messenger. And meanwhile you believe that according to Guardian is there was a messenger after Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam believe begins with negation.

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What do you say? La ilaha negation of the presence of any deity of any God, then a confirmation, not the other way around. You don't begin by confirming, then you negate no rather you begin by negation that's called a clear I don't believe in any god except one God. So a person who believes in Allah and he is patient, and he has been afflicted with a calamity died in a car accident lost his son, or his daughter or whatever. Then he endured the patiently in Islam

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In Islam, the Almighty Allah addresses those who believe in Him and in the Quran, and in the message of Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam that merges with IBD in a hospital Sophia who dunya IlJin.

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So whenever Allah says whenever I test my servant, by taking away his most beloved, and he endures that patiently, then his reward is nothing less than paradise. Why? Because he anticipated the reward from Allah. But wait a minute, no, no, no, he wasn't a Muslim, he sought this word from somebody else, from a statue that he worships from an image from a picture from a human being from other than God, even if his name is a Muslim. That doesn't count the Almighty Allah says and Elena Shoraka Yanni shirt, man ashore can be shaken Tarak to Hua, Shaka, it's as simple as that. May Allah guide all of us what is best?

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Now the following chapter is really, really interesting.

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Chapter number 236 DS with the merits of freeing the slaves

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emancipation of the slaves

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and as usual, mmm never we may Allah have mercy on him, begins the chapters with some verses of the Quran if there is any, that serves the purpose of the chapter. so fabulous. Is there anything in the Quran which addresses the merits of free in the slaves? Oh, yes, there is plenty.

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And that was revealed more than 14 140 years ago. Okay. This is when the whole world you know, slavery was the norms. And slaves had zero rights whatsoever. It was only recently, when, after the Civil War in the States, they started talking about giving the colored people some of the rights and they're struggling until today to gain some of the rights. But Islam

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almost 1500 years ago, have established that in the middle of the desert, and we knew whether you're Muslim or non Muslim, when you hear to the end of the story, you will be so impressed. You will realize without a shadow of a doubt that definitely these revelations are nothing but the word of Allah.

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He must have come down from the Almighty Allah subhanaw taala. And it is the most fascinating revelation. And it is indeed the only religion that the Almighty Allah wanted his servants to sow servitude to him through. So he began by quoting the verse are a couple of verses of SWAT

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Ballard Surah Al Bella is chapter number 90. And in

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the following is a number 1112 and 13. Allah Almighty says

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from 11 to 13. In chapter number nine, fella Porter hammer Allah covered

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the rock and Lacava third quarter acaba

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de verses go on and on. But here I wanted to refer to the meaning of these few verses first, Allah subhanaw taala, in the beginning of the Surah, which we studied in the Tafseer, in the program of conduct your citation, his were to the sacred city of Mecca. And the subject of the author said that indeed, we've created insane or mankind in into hardship, into struggle in the life of this world. Then he says, Those men think that no one is

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capable to overcome him.

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And then he says,

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does man think that no one will ever overcome him? So he says, that I have spent wealth in abundance? Does he think that no one has seen him the reference to the attitude of the non believers, whom whenever a person is given some wealth or power he assumes and he thinks that he is above God, and no one can account him and no one can overcome him. Then the Almighty Allah says in the following is eight nine and 10 He says, Have We not made for him to eyes it is Allah who made you able to see it is Allah who give you a tongue and two lips. We had a now who knows Dane, and it is Allah who have shown us the two ways

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See the good and the bad? Then there comes the reference beginning for error number 11 fella quarter hammer Lacava but he has not broken through L acaba. What is the word acaba means?

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Acaba means in the Arabic dictionary a high place. You know when you go for Hajj in MENA we say Pramila Jaya Murat from Al Jamara throne the stones were to throw the stones around Gemorah tilaka al Cobra, Ulster, as Surah will say Acaba, aka Balcatta. With throw the stones at Aloka. What does it mean? In the past, there was an elevated health

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there, it was removed. So we throw the stones at this hell, because this is what the shaytaan appeared to Ibrahim Ali Salam, in order to intercept him and to, you know, prevent him from complying with the command of God through the fulfillment of the dream of sacrificing his son. In any case. So Alaska is an elevated Hill. Allah Almighty says, Man has not broken through the difficult paths did not do much in order to show that he's eligible to enter paradise. You will enter Paradise, it's uphill. You have to make an effort. Why going to hellfire, it's downhill, you just stroll down, you go with the flow, you follow your desire, you go to hell. If all you lost, you

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go to hell. You follow? You go with the flow you follow the vast majority of people

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you wasted you have gone but in order to enter Paradise, you got to make an effort to climb

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It's hard. So this alpha which you need to pass or break through are the following practices or any form factor hammerlock Baba and one other Baca malapa. What will make you know about Alibaba and what it is then the Almighty Allah started accepting in Alaska or breaking through this high pass in order to enter paradise fat Cora Cava Raha means the neck, third quarter Acaba, Yanni to free an end to free a slave. This is almost 1500 years ago, freeing the slaves what will make you eligible to enter Paradise, certain deeds number one falcoda. Our poem on film in the Mesaba feed and on a day of severe hunger Yachty Amanda macabre, an orphan of near relationship, Al miskeen, and Zanna

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throbber are a needy person in misery. Such people are us how old may mana those who breaks through this high pass, and he fulfilled the previous recommendations, they will be on the right hand, and he will be sentenced to paradise and you will make it safely to heaven. Now we understand that in order to enter agenda, you may interrupt through any of the previous recommendations all of them. On top of the list is fact Cora cover. So Allah Almighty highly recommends freeing the slaves. And this is just the beginning. And then we go through

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the following references. And I'd like to spend some time explaining to you the mechanism of eliminating slavery from the Muslim society, way before the United Nations or resolution and the Geneva Convention, which is not even practiced by the countries which agree to what they have nowadays, what is even worse than slavery in the past.

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But I was told it's time to take a short break. So in sha Allah, in a couple of minutes we'll return in order to discuss the Hadith and the history behind the elimination of slavery in Islam with the beginning of the revelation of the Quran. So brothers and sisters will be back in sha Allah in a couple of minutes please stay tuned.

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Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh and welcome back.

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Our phone numbers will appear on the bottom of the screen for your reference and will live on the Facebook page and Salah officiant as well as the YouTube channel which is Dr. Mohamed salah.

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A salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Fatima from Pakistan a Salam Alikum sister Fatima

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lolicon. Salam

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Go ahead.

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Yes, go ahead.

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Yes, my question is that I have confusion regarding is taharah. Like when should we do when a person is unable to resell for a decision? It is then should he make istikhara or once he has decided that he is going to do this after that you should make a staccato for example, there is a student who is unable to decide where he should go for medical university or not.

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This confusion like he's unable to make decision for this he should make his Takara or should he make the hara Afghan having decided that I am going for medical nanny will pay istikhara I am confused between two things. Thank you Fatima. May Allah bless you and your family and get your success as salaam alaikum.

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Brother Mohammed from the KSA I've aligned with legacy Horio Salam rahmatullah wa catwa. Mohammed Welcome to the program. Say I have two questions. One is does the heart attack is a heart attack you know that happening is that the counter does because it is I don't know whether it is coming in the abdomen does it count as a heat? And second question say I seen a hadith which is phase or whatever lifetime Ilan immunoassays on your body three times a year plus, if you recite the surah harsher I every day, you will be Dieter Shahid is that correct? Che these are my two costumes by with Agassiz second question, never heard of that. I'm not sure the about the authenticity of the reference that

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you quoted.

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The reason the Prophet sallallahu sallam said Alma rune and Mattoon al Verico l had moved because of the suffering and the painful death, the experience and that can give you a glimpse over who may be under the same category. A person who experienced a sudden death and didn't have any suffering is not included. Because we're talking about you know, a word which is in proportion with the amount or the volume of suffering and salam alaikum

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Rumi from the USA

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Assalamu alaykum Sheikh when it comes to Allah heal Baraka toga had such a roomy I have two questions. First one is eating with a family what is the importance of eating with family? Is there any relation with rizek or eating with the family? Okay, this is my first question. And my second question about the Raja Raja month is coming. So I would like to know what kind of deeds we can do in this Rajab month so if you can let us know that Sure. Well, the ghosts are second

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Salam Tala katsu

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since the Omo consume As salam o alaikum from the UK,

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or like Mr. Lamba.

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Should I have two questions? Yes. FS one is about in our prayer days first. Now before the fight. I want to know the forefoot is do do I have to do two pi two or I can look forward

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by two Yeah.

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Two by two this is what the Prophet sallallahu sallam said i How about that I have the acid asserts to not be likewise.

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Same. Yeah, yes.

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And then you told before you told about 12 empathic sunnah. How about this or not? Isn't that the same sunnah? Well the 12 emphatic Sooners are four before those two by two after the two family two after Asia and two before federal okay. So so can I do it? Can I do this 12 after Isha as a matter of fact, there is one Hadith in which the Prophet sallallahu sallam said that if you pray them anytime during the day or the night so if somebody didn't have a chance to pray those emphatic 12 rockers so mighty pray 12 rockers that will do it Inshallah, okay.

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Okay, so And do you know how much is the money to give people for for Vidya? Or if you make about which video even somebody don't feel the miskeen how much is the money you have to pay which video For what sin

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for if you give for Ramadan or any other reason if you want to feed the Miskin for how much is money five pound or like this

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How much effort

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there is on I asked which video because there is fear for having to shave your head or workload and hedge. So the video in this case for failure to

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solder cotton

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and there is a failure, failure to skin for the skip in fasting during Ramadan, one meal per person. You should be familiar he or she. Okay.

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Salam Alikum um, how much is it? One meal per person. So for each day you sleep it's fasting during Ramadan if you're not capable to fast period, and for good, then once you skip fasting if you'd want to skin for each day one. That's okay. I'm Kevin. I'm Ali Khan, salaam alaikum.

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Amara Salam aleikum.

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What even good evening and I want to ask a question about

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just what is the question

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it's permissible for one person if Sigma was the issue.

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Okay, is this more means to use the Xiomara or the stones to remove the impurities in his ninja in case you don't have water, in case you don't have tissues? Use the stones. Okay, the dry stones. So that's called stage Mark until you make certain that you've removed the impurities after answering the call of nature. When you have tissues that will serve the purpose fine. You have water that is the best of the best. Okay? Baraka Luffy como Salam Alikum

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sister Khadija from Canada As Salam aleikum.

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wa Salam on her brother I have two questions. Yes, go ahead. I have the Adam clock in my house. So when in advance can I say after?

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Like usually I do when I go to the rescue. And the second one is and I make the farmer my house when I pray my by myself, okay.

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In other questions?

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No, brother, thank you, sister Khadija.

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The prophets Allah Allah Allah cinema said either send me or to model more as Xena suppo Muslim area code when you hear the caller to the prayer, So repeat after him. Then recite the Hadith. Allah humara had a doubt a terma was solid karma to the end and whoever the so and send the peace and salutation upon Prophet Muhammad Salah Salem will be eligible for the intercession of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him on the day of judgment that is the Hadith. Now the digital Adhan in the states who can hear that, okay, even if you live in nearby the machine, they won't allow the speakers outside the machine.

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So if I have a digital ad, and I hear it, can I repeat after it? I don't have personal itch to head in this mess Alibaba, I'm going to quote what the scholars say they say this is not an accident. So you don't do it. Because you will be only rewarded if you repeat after the more than but Allah knows best I believe if you still repeat after the more than after the digital event, it is better than keeping quite Wallah with Allah Allah. As far as calling a comma if you're praying at home by yourself, know for the sisters, you don't call your karma. Okay? Baraka law FICO

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says those Tara from the USA Salam Alikum. Sister, Sara. Sara Monica, how are you, sir? I'm doing just fine. Alhamdulillah thank you for asking sister Sarah, go ahead. And haven't done it yet. I just have a question. I got married a few years back and I lived with my husband for two years. He was in New York, we lived in Colorado. And we stayed about two years but he's from Pakistan, and I'm from you know, a different country. I grew up here and he just came from Pakistan few years. So we separated and we meet like every, you know, like, three, four months for maybe a week. But I am asking I have to see for like if I want to do holder or something because we cannot find a solution

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to come back together. And I am afraid I you know, I may have even cheated, not physically, but you know, I may have cheated and so I don't know I don't want to expose my son. I don't want to him. So I don't know what to do if I should just do hada I

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mean, you're separated physically, but you're still officially married. Yes. Okay. And he's living in a remote area and you guys why do we meet every couple of months?

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Um, so we separated because he didn't like the way that we were together. You know, he didn't. He kind of felt stuck, like, he didn't know what to do you know? So he said, maybe if we separate him in New York and me and Colorado, maybe somehow it's going to fix itself. But I don't know, I didn't really know. And have you asked him for divorce?

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I have, he doesn't want to do it. He's talking with a chef also to see for something better. But I've been waiting for over like, let me just ask him, do you have any chance or possibility of reconciling of marriage counseling of going back to him?

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Yeah, I don't mind going back to him. But like I said, When I tell him, you know, I require that we should be together because it's not like any reason for money or something like that, that we're separate. It's just because he doesn't like the way I am. Because I grew up in the US and he's from Pakistan, is different just asked you to take a hike, as

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well. He just kind of told me you don't respect me, you know, I don't feel I have authority with you. So in that sense, I'm like, well, since you left, you should have just left or you know, stay with me, and we can work it out. But he feels stuck. And this whole stack thing has caused me to cheat on him. I didn't tell him because I didn't want to hurt him. I'll tell you what I just told everyone now, not just him.

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Probably yes.

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Yes, so but I am making Taliban, I don't know what to do. I should continue with the hoorah I am going to do like marriage counseling. But I didn't know what to do, because Sasaki won't provide me with the solution. So Sasara, a couple of months ago, we finished filming a program, which is called Feck of love. I would really recommend for you to watch it, it is 26 episodes, 25 minutes each. And it's a lot of fun. It's not like a regular class. The program is called Flip of love, and you will find it you'll find all the 2626 episodes on our website, on our YouTube channel. And for free Alhamdulillah watch them, they are very helpful. And they will deliver just the right answer to all

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your questions in this respect and in brief. Now, if a husband doesn't want the wife to live with him, nor does he provide for her mother as shelter, nor financially, then my Salama say salaam give her a divorce. But to say you're still my wife, I don't want to live with you take a hike, go to your parents house and live there until when? Well, I want to make my life. I want to I mean, he sends me money we visit like every three months. But there's no really point because we don't talk about when are we going to live together?

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What is the purpose of visiting every couple of months? What do you guys do? You just chat? You reassess the situation just like visit each other? And, you know, whatever spend time together? I mean, that's kind of where I'm at. Like, I don't see what's the point of meeting if we don't have a solution to come back or separate. Like we're stuck in between. He doesn't want to leave me because he feels like he's responsible in a way.

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Very, very responsible. What about your dad, you have a guardian. I do. But my dad actually. So I was married before and I divorced four years back and then I got married again. So this time when I got married, he's from a different culture. My dad was

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president, but he's okay with our marriage. And I just don't he never met my dad. So there's no way of bringing him in. Oh, how did you marry without your dad's consent?

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Well, I went to a chef here in you know, Colorado, and he told me because I was divorced, it would be fine. As long as I had the witness. So I brought like two witnesses. And also the chef did the marriage for me. Okay, I can assure you what you did was haram from the beginning. Because even if you've been married before, whether a divorcee or a widow, Allah the Almighty have already decided in Surah Al Baqarah, that a woman should not get herself in marriage without the consent of her guardian and here's a typical situation where your guardian should be the person speaking on your behalf and give your husband or semi husband the ultimatum. So my friend either you resolve to

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marriage counseling you reconcile or find a solution will come to an agreement or if you're not interested, say for him Sercombe Emma are often out of city home BSN. You give her divorce kindly. Okay with respect, this is what the Quran says. But if he doesn't, and he is neither accepting you back, nor accepting to go for marriage counseling,

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nor accepting to give you a divorce, then of course you ask for Hola. All the viewers are watching me now.

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Whether you're Hanafi, or the Shafi or madaket, we all follow the messenger of Allah peace be upon happ Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam assayed lanica in the Walia in Russia, he they had when the Imam said you have to bring two witnesses why because if you marry without the two witnesses, the marriage is invalid, and the relationship is adultery. Likewise, the marriage without the consent of the will ie the consent of the Guardian, how could my father be living No, just marry on my own without consulting him and he is giving me a nudge to this person and saying that I already have my daughter is that much and you have to respect her and n n n. So in case that you've already done it,

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the Imam said it's okay according to one of the opinions of Hanafi madhhab or for whatever reason, you're not blameworthy, but the situation has to be filed and has to be fixed. Because this is like you know, a limbo situation. So given the ultimatum, or the amount the sheer who will give you a knowledge who is representing you now with as this person, but you know, some people are asking about the citizenship. Did he get his papers yet?

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Yes, but he never asked me for it. Um, he was here like on a business visa. So I didn't do it for him. Yes, but okay. I don't feel that so sister and I don't want to say the name. You know, may Allah

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protect uncover all of us, and may Allah accept your Toba and your repentance, just give him a call or as the sheriff to give him a call. The ultimatum is either to have a marriage counseling session or sessions to come to an agreement or decide separation, or I'm going to fight for cola and the imam who marries you now he's an eyewitness to that if the husband refuses all solutions he can simply give you hola

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you know, Sister Rooney from the USA sister don't forget to watch the program please. And all the girls who are about to get married. The program is very useful. hamdulillah sister roomie from the USA,

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how significant it is to eat with the family. You know, some people came to the Prophet Salah Salem and said we eat but we're still hungry. He said it's Temuera paramiko.

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Gather around the food eat in group in Jamaica. You know, there is nothing like eating with the family. He breaks the ice. It resolves all your problems. It brings us together and there is plenty of Baraka in the food. I know that nowadays even people get to eat family members eating and everyone is on the social media, managing their social media. So they're eating and they're not talking this is wrong. We're eating, disconnect your phones keep them distant from you enjoy the meal together with the family. Raja insha Allah will be discussed in tomorrow's episode as CUDA.

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It's very interesting that the first question which came from

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Fatima about is the hara from Pakistan was going to medical school. Look, my respected sister, may Allah grant you success. If you have not decided yet, this is the right time to preach the Hara. Whether you want to be a physician, a pharmacist, a dentist, a lawyer, whatever. So pray the Torah cause and you recite the DUA. But when you submitted your papers and you got accepted you enrolled in a school you say Allahu Akbar, praying is the Hara. That is of no use, because we've already decided the Prophet sallallahu sallam said either hand, hydrocodone Bill Emery whenever you're about to do something now after you've done it, and when you go through the procedures and you apply and

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you're accepted, you've done it already. Okay? Baraka Luffy calm, I didn't answer your questions. And I'm glad we didn't start the Hadith, because it needs a whole episode to speak about the concept of slavery in Islam versus other religions and versus the Geneva Convention of

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our war time.

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Until next episode, brothers and sisters, I leave you all in the care of Hola. Hola. Hola. That was tough Rolla Ali welcome SallAllahu ala Sayidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa Salam wa salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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