What Is True Love
Channel: Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari
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the subject that I want to talk and discuss with you in brief few moments in Sharla Hodeida.
is about love.
Why are we talking about love?
The title is what is love?
Maybe lots of people have loved love programs in February. Yeah, what's the date today?
Do you know what the date is?
13th of February. Tomorrow is 14th of February 2016.
what's what's 14 to February?
not for Muslims. I'm saying generally Valentine's Day. I don't want to talk about
the ruling or the discussion and the Islamic perspective on
but what I want to do is talk about the subject of love.
I hope you shall love people understand this in Arabic love
is termed us. Do you know Does anybody know what love is considered as in Arabic lovers
What is it muhabba
OLFA is Love My habit is love.
I want to explain to you and discuss the definition what is love?
My hub muhabba OLFA also lowered the nother word in Arabic describing love Mohammed
the Quran talks about
love between husband and wife wa Jalla Bina Kumala Don't worry
ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada placed between the husband and wife, my word love Laura and mercy
but if I ask myself and you and just generally pose this question, what is love? That's the title of today's talk. What is love? And I'm not singing a song. What is love?
If I ask somebody what is love?
Anybody want on chain to volunteering to answer the question what is love?
Brother mashallah, what is love
bond between two people well it's part of it slightly.
Anyone else wants to say anything else? What is love?
Does love means
you care for that person.
Does love me like for husband and wife spouses, you will be being you will be intimate with one another. does love me that
this care for someone
because there's different types of love. It's not only husband wife love you have husband wife love. You have brother sister family love love for parents is different love for children is different. Love for other human beings and friends is different. What is the definition what is love? You know when people say I love this person or I have love for my parents? Is it like you like you? You care for that person or you will help that person you will be in the help and assistance of that individual?
Or is it that it's someone you will give your life for
your own son daughter is drowning and you've saved their life but kill yourself debt should not kill yourself but get yourself killed. You sacrifice your yourself for them is
That what love is
because it's very it's an abstract word love.
You want you will use does love mean that if they need help, financial help assistance you will give them help and assistance. If all of these things are there, then in reality, if we say these things are love,
do we see today a brother helping financially another brother, real blood brother may do but then we find today in the world that these two brothers real life blood brothers, who are fighting over money
over inheritance, people are shooting one another killing family members over inheritance. Husband wives spouses.
They say we love one another until death do us part.
They love one another.
You know, when people get married and some of the young people I don't know if you're married or you just married in the beginning when marriage is taking place.
Or he just before even marriage, I will give my life I will die for you. The same people after 12 years are going through a bitter battle in the court of divorce. fighting over money fighting over children who's got custody? The same people in the first week of marriage. I can't live without you. I'm going to die. You know, would you give your life for me? Of course I'll give my life for you. Would you die for me? Of course I'll die for you. Now you killing the other person.
Is that love?
That's not That's not love. Because love is something that can never decrease when somebody has love real love.
Then you could never quarrel with that person. You could never fight with that person if it's real. You could never argue with that person. You can never have disputes and court battles and enmity.
Parents are being oppressive over the children.
With friends one moment, there's extreme friendship and love there's a hadith of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam actually said I should be happy Bucha Hold'em. I certainly Hakuna believe Oklahoma love. When you love your beloved love in moderation, take it easy. Because one day he will become a she will become your enemy. What will give a believer Kahuna when you don't have a close relationship with someone.
Take it easy, don't be extremely new, your enmity or don't be extreme in your disassociation. Because as you're gonna Habiba one day that person might become your Your Beloved, when you're friends with someone, you're so close, you tell them all the secrets everything and then a day might come, you might become enemies. So moderation.
Therefore, what is love?
In actual fact, real love is not found in this world with the creation with a fluke of Allah subhanaw taala
real love, even love for parents, love for children, love for your wife, love for your husband, not for your spouse, love for your family members, uncles, aunts, your teachers, your friends, your associates, your community members, your friends circle, there is no real love for the loop for the creation of Allah zpanel
This heart cannot have real love the real love not possible. Allah has given us this one heart. And this heart can only can solely can only have the love for the creator of the heart for Allah subhanaw taala that's only that's the only real love we can have in the heart. However, we as human beings do have feelings, and do have we do care for other people we do and wish not just we do but we are supposed to care for our parents and for our spouses for our children, for our husband for a wife we are but because the real love is only for Allah subhanaw taala therefore, all of these friendships, all of this so called Love secondary love for your husband, wife, parents, children.
This love is based on the love of Allah is dependent on the love of Allah, it's subservient to the love of Allah subhanaw taala
every love so called love in this world is based on the love of Allah. The connection bond has to be firmly with Allah. That's why you can't have real love in this dunya real friendship does not exist.
real friendship brother doesn't
not exist in this world
who is the closest to the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam from amongst the companions.
So you do know Bakr Siddiq Radi Allahu Anhu. So close. Someone who sacrificed when I said in the beginning what is love? Is it loving? Is it caring for someone who is it financially helping, he did all of this. The first person to embrace Islam. He said Armand was a doctor. That's why he was termed as a deep. He couldn't, he affirmed or the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came with first person to believe. And not just that he believed he stayed on that belief. He stayed on that belief all his life. He sacrificed he was tested. But he sacrificed for the messenger Salallahu Alaihe Salam,
all his life he financially helped him, physically cared for him.
He defended him. We know the stories. What's happened in Rothko, you know, when they were
migrating from Mecca to Medina, they went, have you been to the cave of Toad on the mountain, he went in first, and he closed all the holes, blocked them. And there was one hole left he put his foot
first he took some sheets and pieces of cloth and tried to fill all the gaps. And when there was no sheet and cloth left with his foot, he closed the hole. And then we know the story.
A snake or scorpion, what was it? bit him snake bit him.
Allah talks about that in the Quran is the holy saw heavy.
Allah talks about when they were in the cave, that when the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was saying to his companion, not his friend, his companion letter has an Innova hermana Oh Booker is the director of the Allahu Anhu would have given his life he financially helped everything you could do for a friend. The greatest example of friendship and love.
Once you do know because of the Accra, the Allahu Anhu he says that on the same
journey of hijra, he said the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was extremely hungry and thirsty. Many days, he had no nothing to eat. So I went and got some milk.
I went and got some milk, I found some milk,
only enough for him to drink and a worker so deep into the Allahu Anhu himself was extremely hungry and thirsty, hasn't eaten anything for many, many days.
But he gave this milk to his beloved to the messenger SallAllahu sallam.
He gave it to the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa salam. And he said when I saw him drink that milk, I became filled. What does that mean?
him drinking is like me drinking. You know, some people say you drink life. It's me drinking you eat, I eat.
This is how he said I saw him drink and I felt satiated, like fill filled.
This was the extreme connection he had with the messenger SallAllahu sallam. Yet the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says in a hadith lo Hoon Tomodachi, then hollyland have to Abubaker in kalila.
If I was to make anyone a friend
in this world,
I would have made a burqa my friend or the Allahu
luckiness saw him you heard it. But I am the friend of Allah. This is what he said.
If I was to make anyone a friend, a worker would be my friend.
But in this world, real friendship cannot be for anybody.
This is why when there's a test, when there's a challenge,
this is why love has to be love which is based on the love of Allah. How do we know it's based on the love of Allah? If there's a conflict between Allah's command and pleasing ones below, so called Beloved?
Then what do we do? Allah's command comes before the
the happiness of the Beloved.
If your spouse, say something wants you to do something, and you are disobeying Allah subhanaw taala, then of course, Allah's pleasure comes before this is the meaning of love based on the love of Allah. And this is what Islam teaches brothers and sisters, this is what Islam teaches. We have to try to make our heart fully, totally completely deep into the love of Allah subhanaw taala and then every love is based on that love. Every love is based on that love
messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says in a hadith men have been in law he will uphold the law he will, for the
woman or the proper this document that the man who whoever loves for Allah, dislikes for Allah Gibbs, for the sake of Allah with holes for the sake of Allah. He has indeed completed his faith.
Loving for the sake of Allah, that's what you call real love. We love the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, because we are loving, because we love our love. And in reality, love of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his love for Allah. But all the other forms of love
is love. For the sake of Allah, you love your wife, for the sake of Allah, you love your husband, for the sake of Allah, you love your parents, because of Allah, you love your children because of them. You love other Muslims and family members and relatives for the sake of Allah, whoever you are loving, it's only and solely for the sake of Allah. It's all based on the love of Allah, it's based on the commands of Allah, it's based on dependent on the, on the commands of Allah, the love of Allah, the connection of Allah, the deep, deep sort of relationship and connection and strong connection we have with Allah. I'm going to explain this to you. But how do we do that? But this is
what this hadith is saying. Every love has to be based on the love of Allah. And you know what, when this happens in our life, then you will see that the friendship of the world, the love, secondary type of love of the world will actually last
a husband and wife who are married, if they love one another because of Allah, not because they it's for themselves, because I said What is love? In the beginning? I asked Is it because it's love, like you said, bond, or you care for someone, or you want to financially help them or there's one other thing I forgot sometimes love is you're trying to please your own self. Like there's a need in your heart. There's a there's a desire, there's a there's something missing in your heart that you want to feel that you're loving someone is for your own stuff. It's not for them. It's like, the heart needs to love something. So, you know, I'm feeling lonely, I'm feeling empty.
You know, a lot of people say I feel lonely, I need to be in a relationship because there's some emptiness vacuum in my heart. So that is really for yourself.
Whatever it's for other reasons, for personal gratification. Whenever the connection bond love is for personal gratification, or for other reasons other than the love of Allah then most likely there's going to be problems in this love, there is not going to last. That's why people's marriages end that's why divorce takes place. Because the loved one link marriage connection relationship was not built on the connection and relationship with Allah subhanaw taala. That's why divorces take place. And this is why many of the early scholars said that look, have taqwa in your life, build a connection with a ma consider marriage to a bada if husband wives both have fear of Allah and they
are connected to Allah, they are close to Allah they they worship Allah their whole lives based on their connection with the Lord then that marriage will be prosper that marriage will remain forever because they are doing things for the sake of Allah.
And that's why there's so many Hadith the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said in one Hadith, that the people who love for the sake of Allah Lumina bill me know, on the Day of Judgment, I have carpets made out of light, the love puppets, you have a bit of whom will not be human, our shahada, the prophets and the marches will will you know, be envious of them? There's a hadith that puts you at the mercy of Allah subhanaw taala says that allows you to have Boonah free journey
the people watch you but have Bertie. Sorry, this is another Hadith vergeben Huberty lysimeter have been a fee my love Allah is saying My love
is for those people who love one another for my sake. While moto jealousy interfere they sit for my sake. While Mutasa, very interfere, they visit for my sake. In other words, loving sitting, meeting greeting, going for a janazah prayer, visiting, going to a wedding, attending the wedding.
attending the wedding. Why, for the sake of Allah, while you're going to visit someone for the sake of Allah, you go into the hospital to some to see someone why for the sake of Allah, not because oh you know what? He will say why? People will say why didn't you come?
You know, we have all these wrong intentions. We give her the gift.
gift, the Hadith of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the hurdle to how Bucha exchange gifts you will increase in love.
Now this will only happen increase in love if there's a right intention, giving up the gift is for the sole reason sake of pleasing Allah with a glass with sincerity even given gift. Nowadays what happens? Why do people give gifts? People will be exchanging gifts tomorrow, giving gifts. Why? People wedding times why did they give gifts? Sometimes the reason is of giving gifts is because if we don't give gifts will have a bad name. bad reputation. People will take you bad what will people say? It's just for showing off. It's for ostentation is for years for showing off. Wedding time you came without no gift, like how can you not give a gift. There is no reward there's actually sins.
This gift is an act of sin.
Anyone who gives a gift to show off anyone who gives a gift so that you know the other you know people don't talk bad about them negatively. That's a sin. It's haram to give that gift. Another bad intention is happens in marriages.
You give a gift and this is even worse.
You give a gift to the intention that when our time comes they'll give us a gift. This is actually mentioned the Quran Allah term non destructive and solitary muda don't do favors on others don't give things to others with intention that they will give you more afterwards. Another surah Allah considered this he actually gave it the name Reba. What is Riba? Interest? Yeah, we know interest banking interest, but the Quran says this is also river Wilma it to min river layerable Rafi Ahmadi Nassif Allah Iago and GABA, don't give gifts to people with the intention that when your turn time comes, they'll give you more people make list that you know this person gave us this gift this
person gave us this gift this person gave it now it's our time. Okay, we have to give them it's payback. It's all paper. This is transaction. This is not a gift. This is a business deeding interest based at my wedding time you give me this gift 300 pounds. So we need to give you 305 This is interest that was part of those that Heba that was alone.
These are all haram unlawful customary culture, customary ways of giving a gift.
Islam says look,
this is what we this is what the whole thing is about ni NIA has to be correct. The gift has to be for the sake of Allah what is the intention? When you love someone what is the intention? This is the Hadith Taha though to have boo.
When you give somebody a gift, the intention should be the fall as follows. Express your love for that person.
And obtain the love for of the other for the sake of Allah.
This is the intention.
When you give a gift to someone, only and solely for the sake of Allah, to express your love for the other person and to achieve and obtain and gain the love of the other person for yourself. That's the intention.
But it has to be for the sake of Allah. Sometimes give a gift the person doesn't need to know go to a wedding sometimes and put an envelope without your name one Muslim brother, one Muslim sister, your friend. Nobody knows for the sake you know and Allah knows. They don't need to know they don't even need to know who's given that gift. You don't have to write on the envelope from Mr. And Mrs.
Wherever you don't need nobody needs to know. It's for the sake of Allah reward is an ocular. This is why we have so many problems in our life. Family problems, relationship problems, divorce problems, marriage problems, husband wife problems, parents, children problems, brother sister problems everywhere, there's fights, quarrels, disputes, you know what the main reason is, people have forgotten Eclass and sincerity and correct intention. Every relationship is based on some other reason. The husband and the wife relationship. Islam says love for the sake of Allah What does that mean love for the sake of Allah, love for the sake of Allah is your caring for the other person
because Allah has told you to care for that person.
if my wife is good to me, then I'll be good to people do transactions. You know, I have so many brothers and sisters when they call me they say, you know, I do I do this this this for my husband and I'm good and I do this and I do this and it but he doesn't do anything in return. So so watch
Do you do you? Are you doing it? Is this a transaction like okay, you know, you, you scratch my back and I'll scratch your back can you do the you give me two pounds? I'll give you two pounds, you know, you cook food for me and then I'll be nice too. Is this a transaction? This is this is not a transaction between husband wife.
It's not about what others do for us.
My parents don't treat me well, so I don't need to listen to them.
All my children are not listening to me. So why should I be nice to them? Every relationship has become a transaction, a buyer and a seller.
That's what's become every relationship.
That's why Islam says do not look at what the other person is fulfilling because you're not doing it. In order to gain anything in return. Your love for the person your friendship, you're caring for the person you're looking after. For the other person you're fulfilling the horoscope for the sake of Allah, what you want in return. When you are good to your wife, what do you want in return? You don't want
her cooking food for you. You're not being good because she's gonna cook for you. A nice fish biryani No, you're not cooking. You're not being nice to your wife, because she will cross your feet for you.
Or she'll, you know clean the house for you. You're not being nice to your husband because we'll give you some money or he will take you out somewhere.
You're not showing love because they will do something for you. No, you are showing love because the Quran has told you because the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has instructed us the reason why we are showing love and being caring and nice and gentle because we love Allah. It's Allah has told us the moment Allah says, Don't love we won't love.
We love the moment Allah says, don't listen to your spouse. You won't listen. If your spouse says, you know, don't offer Fajr Salah sorry, I can't. Allah's love comes before your love, your whole love, my love for you is all based on the love of Allah. It's all connected to Allah. The whole relationship is based on the love of Allah.
Every relationship has to be based on the relationship of Allah connection with Allah. And this is why we see that there is a big difference between you know, everyone loves, between our love for our parents, our children, our friends, brothers, siblings, our husband, wives, and the people of Allah. Allah of Allah, the people of Taqwa
we love for the other reasons. Maybe most of us we have this love because it feels good we fulfilling our own desire to an extent but what they love for or they show friendship and relationship
is because of fulfilling the WHO about Allah the rights that Allah has put on that Allah has said to them. The Quran says Why should Rwanda Wilma Ruth, Cheech, a women honorably, they feel this now taco, they have extreme love for Allah. And because of the extreme love of Allah, they, they what they take care of the spouses is those who been Nissa T Hira, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says I advise you to look after your women honorably.
They are according to our communities are the best amongst you are the best to the wives. And about the women. I'll merge with our solid comes to how Osama Shahara Allah azza wa jal gender Mina yeah Bobby shirt. A woman who prays her five time offers prayers and fasts, Ramadan obeys her husband serves the husband shall enter Jana fish from whichever dose she wants.
So many Hadith. This is the reason why a pious individual a believer, a Muslim connected to Allah this is the reason main reason why you are good to your husband, you are good to your wife, the one who is not connected to Allah, the disbelievers the one who doesn't believe in Allah. It's all for personal relationship, but then that can't remain. That's why marriages get boring. How many people stay in a marriage? You go outside and do a survey?
Okay, just go outside on this. What is it called Hackney Road? Going to a survey for our YouTube channel. Okay. Take them take. What do you call it?
Mike, and go around ask
how many people have stayed in one single relationship all their life?
I don't think you will find nobody. Talk to anyone. 60 year old 65 year olds since the beginning when you first in your teenage years. Speak to a 65 year old man.
Till today, how many relationships have you been in?
1012 1530 4050 Allahu Allah.
Rarely, you will find somebody who's been in one relationship.
Very rarely impossible.
Look at all the Scylla
But he's a look at anyone outside everyone to get married. Then they go through a massive divorce or the wastage of money. She just given it to us we could have built a must. I don't know where that money, but all the wastage of money.
Ask, see how many people
go and refuse to go into a survey. See how many people stay in a single relationship. I'm not even talking about marriage in a single relationship.
Very rare. And the same thing is happening to Muslims.
Ask Muslim young people, if you ask the older people mashallah our grandparents and maybe
one, you know, marriage, they've never that man has not seen another girl in his life. And he married her when he was 20. And she was 19. And they have 85 and 84. Now, nothing's competent them.
Why because they live the life of Taqwa the only way this is possible. To stay in a single relationship is when you have fear of Allah. You have Taco Bell, you will hop on Nakamura be
otherwise the marriage is going to end marriage cannot be prosperous. Without connection with Allah. This is because we get boring How can you stay like 16 year old same person? It's boring.
It is difficult it's boring. Sometimes you get bored after five years both okay divorce move on. The other woman looks better now. The same woman after five years she gets boring and then a third woman looks at some people say I want to get a second wife and I want to get a third wife but you know what the second one will be like the first one after two years. And the third one will be like the second one and the fourth one will be like the third one.
And then all of them will be the new just get rid of all four of them go somebody actually did this he got married once and took a second 1/3 and fourth and even headache got so bad that he just divorced all four in one go I've had enough for headaches.
Because the relationship is does not mean Allah if someone has this deep connection with Allah.
connection with Allah marriage is based on tequila. This is why a lot of people don't know this whole a lot of people may or may know this, but they don't think about it. You know when you get married Nikka the hook about the Imam recites is called football to Hajah. In there the Sunnah is to recite three verses of taqwa,
the messenger sallallahu alayhi salam when he would conduct marriages
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Have you ever attended any class harmony? Yes. So you must have heard of these if people don't know that is not another problem. You don't know the Arabic You don't know the rest? Nobody knows what's going on. What is the crap? What's happening? Why is the EMA reading this? Nobody knows anything?
Yeah, yeah, even the Rena Amman Tapachula have Puttaparthi Well,
mostly Moon surah
and then yeah, even tabula Wakulla Golden City sadita Kumar Maria, Camilla, Roberto, OMA, Uganda, Hora Sula, Hova, hos and ottima. All verses of taqwa, like in the Sunnah the message and in the Sunnah of the
messenger SallAllahu. Ellison could have chosen any other either to do with Yuka marriage.
But he didn't do that. He chose three verses that have the word, fear Allah in them. Why
Nikka time, we're not talking about Nikka. But we could have, he could have recited a verse, get married.
Or, you know, it could be something about Nikka and marriage.
I want somebody asked me, we want to talk about marriage.
So I went there and gave a talk on taco. Afterwards, they said, We thought you know, the talk was about marriage. I said when marriages.
That's what marriage is, this. This is why three verses the fear of Allah why these three verses are being recited now to remind the bride and the groom, the husband, wife, that if you want this marriage to survive, there's only one way that will happen. Which is fear of Allah at every moment.
The moment you want to speak to your wife
into yourself, what is the point you think to soften? The way I speak? The words are used the toner use Allah when asked me Allah subhanaw taala and asked me on the day of piano, Why do you shout at your wife?
Likewise the woman, Allah and ask the woman, why did you swear at your husband? You
Why did you talk to her in this way? Why do you know the way we cheat our parents, children, everyone, all this relationship. This is what acquires. There's one chef
from the subcontinent. He once said to his students, in his old age, that in 55 years of marriage, I have not raised my voice over the voice of my wife.
Imagine 55 years I've been married, have not raised my voice over the voice of my wife.
This is not possible unless you have extreme taqwa and love. Nobody, no romantic person can do this.
You know, all these people being romantic on Valentine's Day? Yes, it's easy to be you know, like, give a flower and I love you. And you know, all of that. And then what after about one week, you probably be swearing on the street or somewhere.
Or at home, you've just woken up and probably you swore at one another. Because you went to get, you know, something went wrong at home and, you know, argument,
gave a rose. And then two weeks later does that argument?
This is why and look at this shirt is saying 55 years I've been married, I have not raised my voice. haven't said, Hey,
nothing like that. raise my voice. Just imagine.
I've mentioned this many times in the talks. And it's when you think of it more and more. It's just sometimes we think it's humanely impossible. Imagine this is not just I haven't even I can say to Brother, I've never shouted at you in my life. I've never raised my voice. First time I've seen you. It's easy.
I can say to any brother here like I've never gotten angry at you. I never saw that easy. Imagine saying that about your wife. You sleep in the same bed you sleep in the same room. You eat the same food you use. You eat together, you sleep together, you live in the same house. You do things together, you discuss you raise children together, you raise your sons together and raise a daughter together. You think about everything about life together. Imagine 55 That's five, five years, you live day and night with someone and you don't let alone swear and shout. You don't even raise your voice.
While do them insulting. The Quran says when you talk to someone lower the tone of your speech in Ankara. ASWAT, the assault on hmil Because donkeys shout, this is what the Quran says. Not human beings, they don't scream and shout.
Imagine this is his wife. Five 555 years is never easy this time. This can only happen. This can only happen if when this person this chef was connected to Allah. He loved his wife for the sake of Allah. It's this fear in the heart that I need to fulfill
her hook rights for the sake of Allah. And this is why the DUA says Allah how much for burqa I have been assured in a year will not make your love the most beloved to me.
And that's why the Hadith again, now you may know how to competitor you have
oh, by the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that now you don't have to Hakuna had Bailey human Nuptse he will murder you already one message mine you call me a complete believer until I don't become more beloved to even then your own self, your children, your wealth and your whole of mankind. Even then you own sauce. In other words, we have to love Allah and His Messenger salAllahu alayhi salam more than even our own selves. You know someone when we say what is love?
Again back to the original question, what is love? What is love? original question.
Can you love yourself? You when you say love is like you know you give your life then of course the most love will have for your answer.
In Islam, we have to have love for Allah and His Messenger Salallahu Alaihe Salam more than even we love our own service.
If we take this in our life,
everything revolves around the love of Allah subhanho wa Taala everything revolves around love for deed and Islam and the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, this heart cannot have more than two loves.
We have to be what
we have to be. What's that word I'm looking for.
Not dedicated, but we have to be loyal.
This hot, you can't you can't cheat. Can't have other loves.
Love is only for Allah. Everyone else is based on that love.
If Allah says love
that person Yes. You know when someone has a beloved, that even their friends become beloved.
This is why there's a hadith that says that 100 Korea Allah, humble Holika in Allah human asset yada yada yadi the whole of creation is a family of Allah. That's what Allah loves those people who are good to his family, which means the creation
so, even being good to the creation of Allah is based on the love of Allah
which includes everyone in any way. Now the question is and I want to just talk about this and then inshallah Some people ask this question it's a genuine question.
We always hear talks about love for love people talk about it love the last panel, Darla, everything should be for the sake of Allah build a connection with Allah.
But how is that possible? How can we do that? We can't see Allah.
Have you seen Allah Bella? No, I haven't. Can you see Allah? No. Is your Muna Allah you know, you may know and I will hide.
It's about the and see if you have your father, your mother, your parents, your wife, your husband, the in front of you this tangible?
This is a lot of people don't address this question.
Many people do not address this question. The messenger just said Allah Allah who said they don't. The Sahaba had loved they saw Him they would sit with him they would meet him. We don't see him a
lot of people because there's so many talks on this. Build a connection with Allah have love for Allah have love for Allah. But this is a logical question. Okay, have it but tell us how?
How is it possible to have love for Allah subhanaw taala
it's very important.
Because your wife, your husband, your children, you see them in front of you. Everything has to be now look, one brother, she asked me this.
He said to me that yes, okay. My love for my wife has to be based on the love of Allah. So here, if there's a contradiction, this is what this means based on the love of Allah. If there's a contradiction between the love of Allah and the love for my wife, then of course, love of Allah should come first. So if she, for example, wants me to do something which is
which is disobeying Allah that I will not do it. That's where the hadith is part of him of loop envy marsupial Holic, no obedience to the creation which takes which results in disobedience to the Creator. So of course I do this. But sometimes it's difficult because Allah you know, my wife is right in front of me. I can see her getting angry, I can see her crying, I can see you're getting upset
with Allah, I don't see Allah.
My son, six years old, when I teach him, he asked me, why can't we see Allah? When are we going to see Allah? So don't worry soon inshallah. Don't worry, we will see Allah. But this is a genuine question.
This is the test of the dunya we don't see Allah in this one. But everything around us was equally shaped in the area to introduce
everything around us as a sign that there's one and only God everything and the Quran is actually filled. We don't look at the Quran. This is what the Quran tells us. That think reflect think build a connection with Allah How do you do that?
Is every minute of our life we can build a connection with Allah but the problem is we are so busy in our lives are so fixated in our lives that we don't really know you know, things are so common like we wake up, wake up in the morning. Okay, bathroom, toilet, quick work, bus, underground tube, network, train, workplace, computer, laptop, iPad, this work factory, or this place or shop or this office or post email. Everything just like a robotic life. Morning comes doo doo doo doo doo food drink toilet. Like one chef said that half alive revolves around eating and half the life revolves around exiting.
Earning money have the life is to eat and have the life is to release. Everything is a robotic life.
Robotic life we don't have time to think about Allah. This is why this we can't build a connection. The whole of Quran gives us this invitation.
Everything you know seriously, this is how we build a Quran says in your heart to some wealthy well out of the wealthy laughing lady would not have
indeed, in the creation of the heavens and the earth.
In the creation of the sky and the earth, the heavens and the earth. What Tina we lelee When the HA the interchanging or the or the changing
The day and the night when the night ends the day comes when day ends the night comes
the audit and there are signs for the people up near the Quran tells us use a colored brain this is what we don't do so many verses in the Quran if you want to build a connection and love for Allah use something that Allah has given in here you know when we don't use this
then this is when problems occur. That's what the Quran did. They call me out of a crew and they call me I
sometimes take all your phones and iPads and everything just go and think you know what this means.
Look at look at how the days ending and the nights coming.
One of the ways
this is where we live you know you go in London you guys you just see buses and cars I mean this is what's causing the problems.
Go look at real disorder artificial lights. Everything's artificial around us. The Quran says walked him you know what what a lovely lady wouldn't know what is what's what's the laughing lady will not
maybe one day maybe if you married your husband and wife going to catch a sunset
spend like every few days a Muslim should look try to look at the bow near the greatness of the creation of Allah Ma was ALLAH looking going I mean we don't have to we don't have sunny Rizzo but go this is the Quran says zero fill our shovel in the earth on guru reflect see a fella young brunette EBk for Korea, but don't you see how the camels are created? Wait a Samadhi pay photofit? Do you see how the sky and the heavens are raised? Well elgiva Look at the mountains make a special journey to the mountains you don't see mountains here. We just above the hills.
This is what the Quran is telling us. Seriously, we should make a journey to go and just look at the mountains that Allah has created us created before.
Look at sunset look at the sun look how is it going down? How is sun? You know rising? How is it setting? How does the night come to an end? How does the day come?
You know I've been to Norway many times when nine times I think Norway you know a Norway's Norway is next to Denmark. Denmark is next to Sweden, Sweden next to Finland. Been to Norway, Denmark, Sweden. Not Finland yet but
he once was there in one of my journeys in Norway.
But, but the other journey he didn't come to that journey. But one of the other journeys that I went to.
There were some other brothers with us. We actually went to the northern part of Norway where the sun doesn't go we went in the sun summer, we took a two hour flight from Oslo. And then we traveled 10 hours like to the north. This is called northcap the end part of the world
Sun doesn't go like some places son mother it was at 11 o'clock at night. But then some places so 1112 o'clock at night is white sky outside midnight. We bring our mother Fisher midnight, one o'clock Fudger is Sundays instead it gets a bit dim person doesn't descend.
And in winter date is uncommon. It's just three months four months five months just night some just day
especially when there I said I want to go there we spent five days in those parts of just just to look at the amazing you know, the sun is an amazing creation of Allah We don't have time to think to study about the sun above about the different stars and planets. The Quran tells us that even when you have milk
we will drink milk conflict cereal milk Aymara or whatever What did you do? We don't even remember we drank milk or water we drink every day. Things just you know passes by our lives just go like in a robotic fashion. This is why there's no connection with Allah. Quran says when you drink a cup of milk, a cup of milk
don't drink it like straightaway how they look at it. Think then Bailey further thing whether I'm in Lebanon, Holly Sansa Eva Nisha ravine
where did this milk come from? Allah telling us in the Quran, think. Don't just drink it. Look at it. Think close your eyes. This is building connection with Allah came from an animal that's not white. It's a dark, different color animal. The cow mean by any further theme, whether the place where the milk is coming from is between blood which is red, and fourth, which is filled. It's the dung of the animal dirt, right from the middle of that it's going wrong.
From there, it's coming in by any further thing when I'm in Lebanon Hardison, pill milk white milk, sir is a nice shirt to be extremely tasteful and pleasant for the people who drink. Amazingly I'm awful like it just comes. You don't think about it.
Every Name of Allah rain There's so much I mean this is a topic on its own. There's so much to think about when it rains, Allah senses rain. How does this rain come? Water is a great name of allah how does the water come the name of Allah? There's so many these are everyday ways and methods. This is why the Quran says Alladhina yeah the Quran Allah
Allah juubi him waiter for Corona for your country somehow it will
you know, it's a thicker thicker this is what it means tougher code thinking pondering and then bringing that thought in our I bada Salah which
nobody can build a connection with with Allah without having to shoot in Salah when you pray Surah thinking about Allah thinking about what you are doing.
You know what you offer salave'a Allah Akbar, you're studying before Allah like we're thinking, Okay, I'm standing before him. Ah, this is what this is not like this. Because we do it every day. We're not you know, we're doing so you're still standing before
me, which means all praise for Allah the Lord of the words. I mean, so he's created Mars, and Jupiter and Venus and the moon and the sun and the stars and every creation. This is Allah Valley como la hora buco, this is your load everything.
Harley kukuli shake. This will either be not just this universe, the whole cosmos system, everything. This is what we need to think in Salah Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen are Rahmanir Rahim and this is why it's actually
some of them are say it's more crude to recite Surah Fatiha in one go. When we recite Surah Fatiha, we should make a pause hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen stop. Because the Hadith says when the servant recites Surah Fatiha when he says Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen Allah response. Allah says Hamadani Abdi Majid, any of the Athena Alia ag-d, after every verse, after Rahman Rahim, there's a response from Allah. So we need to think
when we say hamdulillah Ramadan Rahmani Raheem, think Allah is telling me that.
And there was one imam in the olden times who said that I humbly love God to a level that I could actually hear a sound. Every time I would read a Rukmani Rahim, I would hear the response. And I would not move until I don't hear the response. Malik Yomi D. Hear that response? A sound is coming from somewhere, which is in the Hadith.
We need to know the meanings to be able to get that
need to know the meanings.
Then record why we're doing record. We're bowing down Subhana Rabhi Azim what does that mean? Why are we saying that? Who are we saying it to? What's the meaning of that? Send me Allah Who even Hamidah for banana can Hamed then again Subhana Allah, why are we saying it? What does it mean? What are the deep meanings of this, of these statements? Even before that, this is called for sure even before that we'll do why are we washing our hands
the mind has to be focused and you know what the more we do this the less we do, we will talk as
the person who talks too much doesn't use the brain.
The people who have intelligence use less of this use more of the brain, the people who are not intelligent, they use too much of this the less of this
a sign of the intelligence of a person is that he speaks less the quiet ones they think the brain is talking
with each other we talk everyone just talks, talks, talks talks like how are we talking so much for mankind human level human after failure will hire an audio smooth one believes in Allah let him say that which is good was a quiet this is why one of the you know mercyhealth Look not the WISE was to stay quiet and and also the Hadith many Hadith of the messenger SallAllahu said, even when we do thinking, I'm washing the hands. This is the first thing Sunnah the messenger sallallahu alayhi salam would wash his hands and his wrist. This is you know, just really to check the water. I mean, whether it's pure, you know, there's three qualities of the water. What are the three qualities of
the water, taste,
smell and color. So you just checking the color really?
It's not right
doesn't have blood in it. It's clean water, then mother
tasting there's no one adjusting it all fine. Then it's 10 sharp smelling notice and taste smell like alcohol. There's nothing haram in it. It's clean water. Checked the three things. Now let's do our first followed. Wash the face. That's the Hikmah when and the Hadith says every organ that you wash, Harajuku LuBu the sins are forgiven. So when you're washing your arm all the sins have been forgiven. Think we need to think you know I have my son was six years old when I make him doodle. I should tell him I said what's your arm? Think yesterday you were naughty? Look that naughty. That water is naughtiness going away. And that note is that that was when you were being angry. That's
that all that all the sins are forgiven. So wash it think hamdulillah please yes forgive my sins it's all coming off. Wash. I said send the Hadith This is the thought every will do we do that
every will do
and then read the to our love image and the minute the well being which animal no matter how your mind is focused every will do every salah
the here to LilLah what does it mean? We need to understand the meanings. The here to Lillah wa salatu
salam ala Johanna we all have it and then after Salah why are we doing Salam this way and who we are intending and why are we making Salam this way? Who are we intending all of this? And then every dua wake up in the morning we do our what's the meeting? Why would it into our hamdulillah into the Iron Man center waiting to shoot wala Hall please for you all thanks for Allah who gave us life after death we were dead. Death sleep is death. That's why we say Allahumma isthmic moved to a move to every dua you go into the toilet.
Allahu Mihnea older the governor who booty will hover is
all I ask you to protect me from male and female shape and
you know my son I make him since four years over make him not just an Arabic but I make him learn the meanings. So when he goes to the toilet, it's okay time to go toilet. Okay, left foot. Before I do that, Allah Khomeini I will be coming to the hobo they will have it all up please tell all the dirty naughty shaytaan men, women shaytaan all the Jews and bad ones to go away and don't come in my toilet when I'm in the toilet. That's his translation. You need to understand the meaning. After we come out hope for all and hungry learning that the other the other are funny. What does it mean?
What does that mean that
we seek forgiveness? Why are we seeking forgiveness? Oh Ferghana? Why did you drink up on in the toilet? Did you do some sin?
There's a reason. What's the reason we need to know that reason only then we can have the intention of Ronak
Alhamdulillah hinder the other the other funny all Praise to Allah who removed dirt from my stomach gave me Alfia if I wouldn't be if I hadn't gone to the toilet and the dirt wouldn't have come out.
Then it would cause illness and sickness I would die. This going into the being able to go to the washroom and the toilet and to be able to relieve oneself is an act of murder is is an act of health. And it's you know, it's something that being able to go is a narrow from Allah subhanaw taala. So that's why that's why we think about these things.
Every moment of life. This is what's meant by what building connection
and there's much more I just summarized it. All of this and much more is worth building a connection with Allah having love for Allah building a strong connection. Once that happens in the beginning we have to just try like, we start from today like from 6:45pm today.
Now in Chava first who do we do? First Salah we do every day might take about six months or a year or two. But then the connection will be so solid with Allah like you live you breathe, you sleep, you drink, you eat, everything is just to do with Allah. Then your wife is dead. You've been good to me because of Allah, your husband because of Allah your relationship is because of Allah. Your fulfilling rights is because of Allah you smile at someone is because of Allah his Messenger sallallahu alayhi salam, he be kind to someone because Allah and His messenger said Allah is because of the you're smiling. You're being kind you're being considerate, you're caring, you're loving,
you're fulfilling of rights, you're giving of money, you're financially helping assisting anything good to anyone in the dunya it's all based on this connection.
Under the law,
this is how then a human being becomes a believer becomes.
So this is the real meaning of love what is love? What is love? Love is loving Allah subhanaw taala and when in connection with him and then based on my love having love for others, that's December's. Now our current is tofield Moholoholo Hana was captured a moment and unlocked cinema let's see them $100 audios have been sending me Salaam Alaikum