Mufti Menk – Ramadan 2013 – Pearls of Peace – 20 of 27

Mufti Menk
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of dressing up during sex and not rushing too slowly. They stress the need to build the next generation before they die and stress the importance of setting boundaries and expressing love and respect. They also emphasize the need to practice walking with moderation and not rush to too much. The importance of learning to be confident and not give up on personalities and words. The speakers stress the need to be intelligent and not let the world convince one to be a jewel, and emphasize the importance of finding comfort in one's life and finding peace and happiness.
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salaam aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam O Allah Muhammad Al amin Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi Jemaine

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butterbean omental BMB accenting Elijah Medina we're back. We commence by praising Allah subhanho wa Taala sending blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his entire household and all his companions. And we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to bless every single one of us and to grant us goodness.

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Brothers and sisters, we have a few more days left for this beautiful month of Ramadan. The question is What have we benefited or what have we gained from this month? And if we have not yet gained We ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make us from those who can make use of the last few days. And we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make us such that we become serious the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam during the last 10 nights of Ramadan used to be much more serious in acts of worship, not to say he was not before that but he took it to a different level. It's important for us to do the same. May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us and May this Ramadan be a means of change in our lives

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that will be positive that will draw us closer to our maker. Brothers and sisters surak look man named after a very wise man Allah subhanho wa Taala peace and blessings be upon him and every one of us. In this surah Allah makes mention of the advice of this man to his son.

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And some of the narrations make mention of the fact that he was from Africa and Nova which is the Sudanese region we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to bless us. This would mean that Allah is making mention of a worshipper of his who said something that was full of wisdom, he was granted wisdom by Allah. So what are these pieces of wisdom? You will find in them repetition of the laws of Allah subhanho wa Taala but mentioned in a beautiful way. Allah says, What if Carla Lupo man only Benny mentioned or remember when Luqman said to his son, now he made mention of many things from amongst them. He says in verse number 13 of the surah yada yada to Sheikh Milla Yamuna. Yeah. Do you know

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what that means? It does not mean Oh my son. It means my Oh my dear, beloved little child, my little son, a beautiful way of calling your child. From this we can draw a beautiful pearl. How do you address your children?

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Do you use words of love and respect? And at the same time, affection that draws them close to you? Are you a person who doesn't even like to address your child screaming and yelling, swearing and shouting the whole day? If that's the case, we have learned nothing from the Quran. here Allah is saying this wise man knew how to talk to his child. Yeah, Buddha Yeah. Oh, my beloved son. Oh, my beloved little son. Amazing. Analyze making mention of that word here Boonen May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us from those who take the matter of addressing our children seriously. We need to show maximum love and affection. And that is when they will understand and realize that what we are

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saying is good for them. It's better for them. But if you yell from one side of the house, expecting them on the other side of the house, to understand that you are the boss, it's not going to happen. Believe me, it no longer works that way. We need to control ourselves, my mothers and sisters, my brothers and fathers who are here this evening and who will be listening to this. Remember, fight your knifes fight yourself, fight the evil in yourself to come across as best as you can, especially to your children. That is your test. You need to build the next generation before you die by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala This is the text. What's the point of us enjoying life disobeying

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Allah instruction when our children will disobey or not in a bigger way, unless Allah has mercy on them. May Allah have mercy on us as well as an offspring. So he says, Oh, my beloved little son, do not associate partners with Allah for Indeed, the Association of partnership with Allah is the biggest form of oppression, it is called loom in the Arabic language. It has a very deep translation, it would actually mean to put something where it does not belong. It's known as Lulu to play something where it does not belong. So the biggest misplacement of something would be if a person was to worship anyone or anything besides his own creator and maker. So then he continues to

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say, and oh, my beloved Son, remember that Allah subhanho wa Taala has enjoined upon us to be kind to our parents and hear the voices take a pause and the divert to the rights of the parents, especially the mother hammer

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Once you saw

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me alone makes mention of how the period of gestation was so difficult upon the mother, and how the mother

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breastfed the child or fed the child at that initial stage. And this is why my beloved mother's, it's not going to be easy. It's not going to be easy during the period of gestation during the pregnancy, number one, number two is, childbirth is not just going to be a walk over, it will be challenging some habits slightly easier than others. May Allah make it easy upon you. And looking after the child thereafter, is part and parcel of the opening of your door into paradise. Some will be calling, your door will open even quick for as long as you treat them correctly. There's no point in getting upset and smacking up a little child who's only two months old. If that's the case, what

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door to paradise. This is why people used to say, you know, heaven lies under the feet of your mother. People have also spoken about the authenticity of that narration. But now the question is if that mother herself is not going to heaven than what heaven is under her feet, Allah protect us. This is why make sure that you have heavenly qualities you will guide your child now Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us and grant us goodness. So this verse or these verses continue to make mention of something powerful. If your parent one or both of them happens to be a disbeliever still, you owe them respect, still you owe them kindness and still you have to obey that instruction on condition

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that they do not order you to do that which is bad, which is against the instruction of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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So this is made quite clear in verse number 15 and thereafter, verse number 16, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Yamuna in

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fill out on the TV.

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Oh my beloved middle son, you need to know that even if it is a weight of a mustard seed worth of a deed or of anything, even if it is a little mustard seed, anywhere in the skies on the earth or within a rock, not underneath the rock inside the rock, Allah will bring it forth that deed is going to be seen that item is known by Allah He knows it definitely Allah. His knowledge encompasses absolutely everything. So my son, this would obviously you cannot hide from Allah. Nothing you do can be hidden from Allah subhanho wa Taala you need to know he knows about it and he knows very well about it. And he is waiting and he gives you a moment and you need to turn to him before your final

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time comes up May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us and grant us a turning point.

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Then he continues something very important yagoona opinion salata what movie model

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was berala I saw back four items mentioned in that verse number 17. Oh, my beloved child, establish your prayers. Now the other day when I said establish your prayers, someone sent me a message saying, How can the previous prophets have said establish your Salah when Salah was a gift to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in Morocco before that there was no Salah. My brothers and sisters do not be fooled. Every nation has a different type of a Salah it's a prayer. Their prayer was slightly different. But the prayer we have today and we've engaged in we believe is a specific Salah for the soma. That does not mean the others did not engage in Salah Salah was there from the

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beginning from the time of May Allah subhanho wa Taala has peace and blessings be upon all the messengers, but the way they established it was slightly different. We have the Roku and the sujood in a specific order. We have to read and say specific words and so on. This is the blessing of Allah. So this man is telling his child Oh my beloved little child, establish your prayer. Develop your connection with Allah, even if it means your inching day. But don't ever go back on your achievement. We ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to bless us. How many of us are ready and prepared to develop our link with our maker and to solidify the bond such that tomorrow will be better than

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today, and today is definitely better than yesterday. I mean,

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that to us, we can inch forward in Sharla and we can move forward, you know, inching forward is obviously better than not moving forward at all. But if a person is serious, they don't need to inch forward. They can move in leaps and bounds by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So he says, Oh my beloved child, establish your prayer and enjoying that which is good, instruct people to do good. We should all be doing this and shall tell people do good. You know, tell people encourage them to do something that is

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Good you'll achieve a reward and discourage them from bad when they stop you achieve a reward. Imagine if you took someone stopped drinking in a nice way. And if they stopped by the will of Allah you achieve a reward because of their abstention. Amazing, amazing. These are the gifts of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Then he says, Oh my son, bear patience regarding that which has reached you in terms of destiny, sometimes, you know, calamity strikes, difficulty strikes, everyone is tested. This man is telling his son Oh, my son is big allama sabak Bear patients regarding that which has struck you or which got to every one of us needs to learn this lesson. You want happiness, you want

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peace, you want serenity, patience, Allah is going to test you and you need to know that Allah subhanho wa Taala tests will come more to those whom he loves even more in Allah either Abdullah Abdullah, the Hadith says when Allah loves someone, when Allah loves someone, he trusts that person, and he trusts them even more. May Allah subhanho wa Taala, bless us and grant us goodness. So these are the four points mentioned in that verse, the next verse, he says, verse number 18, to his son,

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while at the same

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time she fell out of the mouth. Don't turn your cheek to people. And this is an Arabic statement that would mean do not show haughtiness and arrogance to people, you know, you turn your face in that arrogance, and don't walk on the earth with haughtiness. We've mentioned this before, this is being repeated. And Allah has repeated this in the Quran because it is a difficulty that if we don't search ourselves properly, we might not even pick up that we actually come across very arrogant. If you don't study yourself hard, you might not tell that I'm a person who everybody really thinks I'm tough to get along with and I'm arrogant. But if you study and you check hard, you know, then

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inshallah we will be able to resolve the matter or deal with it, at least something came to my mind, there was a man who told his son, Listen, my son, if I come across arrogant, let me know the most arrogant person but he used to beat up the child. So the chances Dad, you the best day, the best day well, I don't want to be beaten obviously. So the moral of it is when you are asking people to help you be ready to listen to the nastiest things, because believe me, we might be the some of the nastiest people, but people are too frightened because we are wealthy or because we have position or because we are just so violent, that people are so frightened to tell us that you know what your

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attitude stinks. May Allah protect us. May Allah subhanho wa Taala not make us from those. So this is something we learn. Then he says wako CTV machico

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powerful verse. When you walk, you need to walk moderately, don't rush that you trip, and don't even walk so slowly that people think you're loitering. It happens sometimes, you need to study you need to make sure that you are moderate in your walk, don't stamp your feet again, teaching us how to walk in the Quran in more than one place. Imagine how many of us have studied the way we work? And we look at it amazing. The Quran is made mention of it in many places, not just one. And then Allah says that he told his son

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What will

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lower your voice Lower your voice? So this is something we need to learn you want respect? Speak with a low voice? Not that you whisper when you need to address 1000 people No. But when you want to come across to people speak in the correct volume. Because you need to know if you yell You sound like a donkey. That's what this verse says. And the verse actually says in

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Swati la sala hammy indeed the most detested of all sounds and all sounds is that of a brain donkey. The brain donkeys you know when donkeys bred What do you hear? You hear a sound you don't know what they say. But you know, there's something happening here. Either they're in pain, or they're giving you a message or they don't want to go or they want to go, you don't have a clue. So when we yell and scream, whether it's at home, whether it's at the workplace, whether it's on the road, no matter where it is, you know, the road rage of today, people swear, I know when I visited Egypt, once mela Grantham goodness and ease as we are speaking, there is a lot of turmoil there. Now Allah subhanho

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wa Taala, bless them and those across the globe. And the driver we were sitting with, bumped into the car in front, and the two of them came out and started yelling at each other so loud, they were screaming at each other. And I thought somebody's going to beat somebody up and the one was screaming louder than the other. So the other one said, okay, it's okay, fine. And he walked into his car and they both went away. I told him what happened. He said, you're in Egypt when you knock somebody and it's a minor issue. The one who screams louder is the one who was right.

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So to be honest, if that's the case, it means nothing. You come out and you yell and yell. If that's the case. We can all have competitions out to scream. May Allah protect us.

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It doesn't make you right or wrong. Remember, fight your nerves to lower the volume of your voice. You earned a lot of respect. I remember once I entered the classroom, and they were making a loud noise, and when I went in, I started speaking very softly. And I started with this lesson. And in no time everyone was silent. I didn't even say keep quiet, because they wanted to listen what's going on. But I was so low in volume, but intentionally that they would only be able to hear me if they were all silent, so they had to drop silent. So this is a tactic it's a way of doing things. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us and grandma's goodness and ease and may He open our doors. So

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brothers and sisters inshallah we all ready to work on our volume by the will of Allah. Allah He will solve a lot of your problems in your houses and everywhere he resolved so many matters. If you stay away from vulgar language, stop swearing, even joking me. You know, there are words that just blurting out of our mouths big big swear words, we don't realize they * away our goodness, they chase away the angels of mercy, really they do? And what happens then we start screaming and yelling. What if we eradicate this in our lives? I promise you your home will be a happier home. You will have peace in your home just because dad no longer sways. And you know what, ma'am? No longer

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yards from the other corner. Sometimes the moms have a bad habit from the room three rooms down there screaming and yelling, either calling the maid or calling the daughter or someone else and then they come out they emerge. They walk all the way to this. I've been calling you for half an hour you didn't hear me? Well, ma'am, why didn't you walk to me half an hour ago I would have heard you

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yelling from that side. You know, there is no loud hailer that we can hear sometimes people cannot hear you and you think we ignoring you? No, ma'am. Nobody's ignoring you. You need to be intelligent enough. Here's the advice of Luqman go and look at it. walk all the way there and then you will have to whisper and I will still hear you. Believe me. May Allah grant us is this is really a jewel because it's in the Quran. Allah cannot put it here unless it is beneficial for us. Subhana Allah, then Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us towards the end of that Surah Surah Look, man, do not let this world deceive you. It is only for a short period of time. And don't let the devil deceive you. Yeah.

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In our

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verse number 33 of Surah cookman Allah says, Oh people, you should know that the promise of Allah to you is the truth. So do not let this dunya deceive you, this worldly life deceive you, you should know who you are, where you are, how you are developing and the fact that you are going to be answerable to Allah for everything and you are going to get to him very very soon. And he says Allah says and don't let the big deceiver deceive you. Who is the big deceiver shaitan Allah protect us the next Surah Surah is such that named after the frustration that is in that particular surah and immediately after the frustration Allah is describing, Allah is describing those who believe and

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they fall prostrate for Allah. What are some of the qualities I only want to mention one that are Jaffa Jo Ma, Ma Ma Ji

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verse number 16.

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Allah describes them Allah make us from amongst them. Do you know what he says? He says those people they are the ones who sides forsake their beginnings at night and they stand up for Allah subhanho wa Taala. They pray to Allah they call out to Allah hoping in Allah subhanho wa Taala His mercy theory is often his punishment, and they spend that which he has given them. So at night, like we've said a few days ago, my brothers and sisters, it is not hard to set your clock once a month, once a week. Okay once in a while, and you get up at night when everyone is asleep solely for the sake of Allah so that at least my name and yours can be written even once from amongst these who spend the

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night calling out to Allah.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us with that even in the month of Ramadan. Sometimes we are awake and ready we are ready to go to sleep just at the time when we are not supposed to sleep. And this is why you find a lot of the young people and I'm sure I'm correct. They will tell you, they sit up until two three o'clock then they say look, let's just have something to eat now and we will sleep we won't get up for support because it's already late. Rather that means you're going to sleep through 5g that means you're fast you're damaging if you're shooting through the fast, mela protect us. No. Get up again for sure. Even if it means just

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A little bit because what is even more important is the fact that that is such a blessing moment. If you were to call out to Allah, even by mistake, perhaps that I will be answered.

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Allah, it's a reality, that time when people may you know where it might come out of your mouth, that you know Allah, bless me. And you might be blessed Allahu Akbar, Allah. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the ability to understand the importance of this. So these are some of the qualities, then we have suited to the surah Allah subhanho wa Taala right at the beginning makes mention of the importance of lineage. And the fact that you cannot deny your lineage. There is a narration which says anyone who calls themselves with a name besides that lineage of their fathers will not smell the scent of paradise.

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So remember this, that means you are Son of so and so that must come out. You don't deny that you need to make it clear. The minute you are trying to hide that you are playing with your paradise my brothers and sisters, you're playing with your paradise, we don't do that. If it is done in a deceptive way, then you are definitely playing with your paradise. May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us and grant us ease. This is why Muhammad sallallahu alayhi salam was looking after they didn't have your law. And he was known commonly as a demon Mohammed Zayed the son of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So Allah revealed verses to say, Don't call him say the son of Muhammad

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Sallallahu wasallam call him his own father's name.

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Him who

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called him by the names of their fathers, that is just that is the most just that is what justice is in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Now Allah bless us and grant a strength.

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Let's press the red button.

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In our societies once a divorce happens, you know what mom does, sometimes she goes back and takes out dad's name. So no one must know what's happening this child called by my name so what happened? You are removing every every little leak that the child had with the dad because you hate the child's father. That does not make you want to now come and compete with Allah. Allah decided that that's going to be the father love him or hate him. He could have turned out to be a drunkard or a drug addict. He is the father the name needs to stay calm what made this is the best. Pick up the Quran and read Surah Al Azhar and your eyes will open it's not too late to change things my brothers

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and sisters, you can hate your dad to the tee that is another issue that you have, you will have to deal with that you will have to have this hate management and management. But you need to know no matter how terrible he is, even if he's a murderer, and even if he is jailed and executed, you are still his son. Come what may? Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us, this is Islam and on the Day of Judgment for your information you are called so and so the son of so and so with your father's name. May Allah bless us and I'm not making a mistake here. Some people say no you called by your mother's name, you are called by your father's name straight it's done. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us

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and grant us ease. A lot of people get agitated and upset when we talk about these things because we are guilty my brothers and sisters it is affecting society. May Allah bless us.

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Let's move on. Then Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you know the best of creation was sent to us. And like we've been saying, in such a way that if we were to

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look for peace, and if we were to look for salvation, and if we were to look for goodness, we would only find it if we tried to emulate every single aspect of his life. sallallahu alayhi wasallam so Allah says in verse number 21, lapada can Allah confy rasulillah he was Mattoon Hashanah to Lima, john

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McAfee, indeed, in Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, for you. There is a beautiful example to be emulated and followed for those who are looking forward to the meeting with Allah and those who are looking forward to the last day they believe in it, and they are preparing for it. So if I want a beautiful last day, which means the Day of Judgment I want to have resurrection was Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I need to become more serious about following him. If I want to be resurrected with anyone else, I need to be more serious about following them. Because the audience is Alomar. Oh, man, a person will be resurrected with whomsoever He loves. So it depends if you're,

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you know, pop stars of today happen to be those whom you're trying to emulate. Like I seen people cut their hair like a little monkey because they said there's a footballer who does that.

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When all those little monkeys will be resurrected, we don't want to be there. So what you do cut your hair properly one size and say

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Hamas Allah Sallam told me I'm not allowed to love my hair more than Allah, Allah. Allah comes first, then my hair comes second. So if I'm supposed to cover it, I will cover it because as beautiful as my hair is my Allah comes first.

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May Allah bless us. You can even shave your head if that's what it means. Allah subhanho wa Taala does goodness, not for the sisters, by the way.

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So this is the example we are supposed to be emulating everything. Look at the way he spoke, look at the way study his life without studying his life, will you be able to know what he did? The answer is no. This is why we say study the life of Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam study he soon try your best. And remember one thing, and I'm going to say this because we are guilty, how many sooner? Are they perhaps hundreds of 1000s we in our lives will not be able to engage in more than 1020 if you're lucky, maybe 30. And the man next door will be engaging in perhaps 30 or 40. And because they are 100,000, he's 30 or 40 might be totally different from the 30 or 40 that I am engaging in. But

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because he doesn't have a few things that I have. I look at him and say this guy's a bad Muslim, not realizing he has qualities in him that I don't have amazing. You know, I might be swearing my mother and he doesn't he looks after his mother. Like she's the queen of Queens Allahu Akbar.

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And he speaks to his spouse with such utmost respect. Perhaps he might have a weakness he doesn't have a wristwatch in his pocket. But you have a miswak Mashallah. And you think you know what, I have arrived at paradise on my back there is a Samson Jana. Let's see. Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us all. When you grant us goodness, never think that my brothers and sisters,

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we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to open our doors, grandest ease and goodness listen to what Allah says addressing the wives of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam but obviously the lesson is for all our women folk. Verse number 33 wacana v mo da da da da da da.

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Giannini at

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Akina. salata, Tina zakka de

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la, la La says, remain indoors. Now, this would mean obviously, there's a hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam which says, Lisa bayto, your home must be spacious for you, you must not each one to walk out every time, then you won't be happy, you must be happy at home. In the sense, this is also for the menfolk, were unnecessarily you don't need to just find yourself out, spend your time with your children and so on, you will find a lot of peace and comfort. But if you are outside all the time, those whom you are meant to be with. Really, where are they going to get their guidance from? Who will they achieve their comfort from? So spend more time at home for the men for the

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women? You don't come out unless obviously you have to come out. But some people they cannot stay indoors? Not at all. They are irritated within the house. May Allah protect us and grant us goodness and ease. We are supposed to feel the comfort of our homes. And we are supposed to spend much more time there. Yes, if you have to emerge, you may emerge. It's not wrong to come out of the house. No, not at all. But remember, unnecessarily to have this bad habit of wanting to go out every little while. It's great to put pressure on your marriage, perhaps you end up in a divorce, you know, so that, that someone sent me a little WhatsApp message. But Allah protect us. May Allah safeguard us,

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you know, he calls his his new bride, Angel, Angel every little while he says Angel Angel Angel. me like wow, quite impressed very sweet of him. So a year later, he meets him and he says how's your angel? He says she turned out to be the angel of death.

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Allah protect us.

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Because the men don't spend time at home. And sometimes the angel don't want to spend time at home either. So what happens? You get into the place where Angel supposed to be there's no angel, you come out, you start screaming and yelling. And you know what a month down the line marriage is broken? May Allah protect us. Really, we need to be happy with one another so that we can both be called angels because we have angelic qualities. I mean, I mean, so brothers and sisters, it's important for us to understand that Allah subhanho wa Taala then says do not beautify and adorn yourself like the period of ignorance, like the first period of ignorance. You know? Who are you

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supposed to try and impress? Well, a young girl will tell you my future hasn't been okay. You know, it's a little bit dangerous because sometimes you just might like the makeup on your face and that's it. And two years down the line the factory has stopped making that makeup that suits your face. So then what happens? No More people are into Mac in such a big way that believe me Mac might go bust next year then what will happen? You have to shift and then husband mind says you're no longer looking like the way I like to you know, so my brothers and sisters, be careful when you want to beautify yourself, ask yourself, you beautify yourself for your spouse. Yes, indeed. Today is the

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other way around. When we leaving home, beautify ourselves properly. When you go to the mall, Allahu Akbar to the mall. And husband says okay, I'm busy watching TV here. So husband's looking at other women on the screen and his woman is being used

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by other men at the mall law, this is what's happening. So Allah subhanho wa Taala warns us, you're supposed to be blessing for your spouse, even the menfolk. It's not just for women. The man comes home and says, You're never dressing for me. Well, do you dress for her? Question? It's a very important question. May Allah protect us. One uncle tells me you know my wife. Every time I give her a hug, she's smelling oil and

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whatever. So I told him, I said, uncle, stop eating that.

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You are blaming your spouse you wanted to cook. And at the same time you you wanted not to smell of the food that she's cooking. either get to cook and sort the problem out or stop eating them start eating something that will not be smelling. May Allah protect us. These are serious issues in society. We have issues people are not dressing up for one another because they don't realize they don't understand that you know what it takes two to tango, as they say believe needs to reality. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us and open our doors. So this is why my brothers and sisters remember that. Yes. Dressing up for others, especially the spouse dressing up for others. That is something

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that is frowned upon in the Sharia, we need to make sure that we mend that and this is why Allah subhanho wa Taala says while at about what Gina Babu Jinja helia to Allah and on top of that, he says establish your prayer and give out from the arms and the charities May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us and grant us goodness. I'd like to make mention of one more verse which is very, very close in meaning to the one we just spoke about. Allah instructs us messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was number 59 of the same

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It's a beautiful long verse, the gist of it. Allah says, Oh Nabi sallallahu, alayhi wa salam, O Messenger of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Allah says, tell your wives, and your daughter's and believing women to dress with an outer garment to dress with an outer garment. And this is when leaving the home, when in the presence perhaps or passing by a non Maha, an outer garment. Amazing. A dual Bab is something that is worn on top of your ordinary clothing. So this would make two things wrong to walk out without the outer garment would not be the ideal Islamic way. And remember, when we say it's not the ideal Islamic way, there will be negatives as a result, you might think, or you might

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not think it, but you will face it at some stage in either in the future, or sometimes even immediately. But the second thing is people wear a cloak, sometimes underneath they've got absolutely nothing. So it's even worse sometimes. So we need to address both these issues where the outer garment means you've got some clothing inside and then you throw on something as you leave the home. This is the respect the for answers you will be recognized as a chaste woman. People will not harm you they know that this person here is a believer so my mothers and sisters Look, this is a beautiful instruction. So beautiful ally with Allah. The Creator is so lovingly telling his

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messenger Oh Nabi sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam, tell your wives, tell your daughters and tell the believing women out there to have this overclock. May Allah bless us, are we ready to listen to this? insha Allah, Allah if we are we will achieve a lot of peace. And even if the whole world thinks if you become a nun, believe me it's better to be a happy person who's dressed properly in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala than a person who does not dress appropriately wanting to please every Tom, Dick and Harry and at the same time, we are supposed to be pleasing Allah subhanho wa Taala. So we ask Allah to grant us peace. Today, the decisions of marriage that are being made in a

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lot of cases are wrong. It's more like a lucky duck where you've made a decision unica has done and you just waiting you know what will happen you don't know because what law he the way we've operated the way we've dressed the way we've interacted the way sometimes we've got to meet one another is sometimes through the channels that are not heavenly channels. They are not spiritual channels, they are not decent channels, but highly indecent May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us and protect us may grant us goodness and ease inshallah we meet again tomorrow until then, was all Allahu wa salam o Baraka Nabina Muhammad Subhana, Allah Subhana Allah homovanillic Masha Allah, Allah Allah

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