Channel: Mufti Menk
Motivational Evening, Manchester 22 Feb 2020
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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah He was Javier Jemaine we praise Allah subhanho wa Jalla we send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his household, his companions. May Allah subhanahu wa taala bless them, bless every one of us and grant us all goodness. I mean, say I mean,
my brothers and sisters, the recitation that we heard was absolutely superb. The half of the sorry, the recite started off with a verse that I'd like to mention later on in my talk, but I want to speak tonight about something very powerful. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was given a gift many gifts One of them was he says for apy to Java, me al Kelly me, I have been given something known as Java metal kelim. So kelim is the plural of kelemen kalama means a word. So Kelly means words jawanda is the plural meaning blue, more many. So Java concise that which is packed with meaning, a few words that have amazing deep meaning. So sometimes the Prophet sallallaahu salam said
one thing and it was made up of two or three words and those words could fill an entire encyclopedia with meaning.
One of them is when he says up to woo chateauroux de man
he says to who?
Which means bahara those of you who speak or do perhaps those of you who know Arabic perhaps those of you who speak a language where the term by hair is used taharah is used, those of you whose names might be pa here or pa Hara, right? Anyone here tonight by bahara Mashallah, well we all are inshallah. So,
you would know that it means cleanliness, some form of cleanliness right to be clean cleanliness. So, cleanliness is half of a lemon shuffle means a portion that is made up of half shelter. You know, if you divide something into two, you get the two shots of that particular thing. So, divided into two. So cleanliness is half of your Eman, your faith, your faith. If you were to look at that,
what would you understand from it?
cleanliness is half of your faith. Can you tell me just say it loudly because I don't want to pick on people because I see people there. I might just pick on someone say yes you and then you won't know you know? So rather than embarrassing you just say it out loud. So panela if I were to say up to Hulu chatroom man cleanliness is half of your face. What's the first thing that comes to your mind?
We'll do excellent. Someone else
was beautiful, my brother You deserve an award. May Allah bless you say I mean that was your award by the way. Trust me, you don't know the power of those to us. I've tasted some of these and I promise you one two is better than the Mercedes Benz Mashallah. May Allah bless you.
May Allah bless you. Now give me your Mercedes outside. And I'm just joking, guys. Okay, we just you know, Wes this brother, he was bragging and boasting in London, you know, the London crowds are very dry, right? So he was saying, sorry, they're not here. So it's Reba right is massive Heba. Okay. But anyway, I tell you something, they were dry, meaning they must have been worried about something. You see, I'm covering my back. Yeah.
They must have been worried about something maybe the wind, maybe they were greeted by Dennis on the way in or out or whatever. I tell you what happened. You know, Dennis says, He greeted me when I arrived. My plane had to circle for one hour before I could even come in. Because Dennis was saying hello. So my brothers and sisters, he was saying, I know when we go to Manchester, they're alive. I want to return him show me just now when he said jQuery, nobody hardly said hello. And I wanted to look at him say talk about handlers. These guys are worse. So kinda No, but you proved You were right. You know, just like Man United you need practice, practice, right? It's after a while that
things happen. Right? May Allah grant you is and by the way, I just support the winning team all the time. So I'm St. Mashallah. My brothers and sisters.
When someone says What do I do?
It seriously will law who you don't know just say I mean, you never know when is a moment of acceptance of law. There are some strange moments that the angels begin to say. I mean, I mean, I mean to anything that comes out of your mouth any and what do we say I give you an example, when something goes wrong and you have an accident you fall you tripped, you patched into someone, a glass broke, the angels are saying, I mean to what comes out of your mouth and what comes out of your mouth?
s Ah, what else?
You know what comes out of your mouth, right? It's either an F or a B or an or or a she or whatever it is, right? You know what I'm saying? I'm being honest. Don't change your life. Just say something good. Okay, say something good. The minute you bash into something, just say Oh, love Forgive me bow. Imagine angels are saying I mean, I mean, so how are you getting it? Right? You're getting the hang of it. Get used to it, it will come because one day if you are going to May Allah give us all a good day. Say I mean again.
Okay, I'm not gonna keep reminding you guys. You're not that bad.
One day, look, one day we're gonna die. We ask Allah for a good death, the day we die.
It might be a crash, it could be in hundreds of 1000s of people have died in crashes. May Allah protect us, but may he take us away when he is pleased with us?
How you go is not so relevant. But the fact that you go while Allah is pleased with you is more relevant. Right? So imagine if you were to, you know, a cow was to bash or something was to happen. accident was to happen. And you have the term nyla halala on your tongue? What would happen? last words before you left? What were they? Lyla, Allah, you get my point? Meaning you said the good words, you said something good. So get used to saying good words, a lot of us have a disease where we say bad words. So now going back to this Hadith, the statement of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him. He says half of your faith is all about cleanliness, the brother mentioned will do for
those who might not know what we'll do is it is washing yourself with water before you pray. in a certain way, everyone has to do it. If you cannot use water because you're not well, or because there's no water there. What can you do?
to Mom, you can just use some dust. It's more of, you know, ceremonial, it's some it's an act of worship, but it makes you arrive at the level of purity, that water would also get you to
the issue of teen mom is very beneficial to those with OCD.
Did you ever know that? Why do I say that? It proves that Allah doesn't need you to use water
to be clean. Did you hear what I just said? Remember this? So those who are obsessed May Allah grant us all goodness and cure. And may Allah make us from those who can have the right amount of you know, concern about these things? neither too much nor too little.
Sometimes we get obsessed a is this clean? Is it really clean? I tell you what, if you watched it once, twice, maximum thrice, leave it stop there and move on. Because even if you didn't use the water, you'd have still been clean. The cleanliness is achieved by the fact that you in your mind did something for the pleasure of the Almighty. And you know what? You did it the way he taught you, you are clean, even if it may not appear that the bacteria is off, I always fail. Maybe some of you who know a little bit more can tell me teach me I failed to understand how
that little liquid that we get called a hand sanitizer that they so you know, they promote so well. I fail to understand how exactly it removes dirt. I mean, if I have dirt, my hands, right say stop for a lot. And I do change the nappy of my kids. Okay. So say I've got a bit of dirt in my hand. Right? And I use a hand sanitizer. Where did that go?
Where did it go? Didn't I just rub it into my head? Do you get what I'm saying? It's gone somewhere. You can't tell me it's clean. Think about it. Think about it. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant disease. I've got everyone so worried especially with this Coronavirus thing going on. What did you do? You just you know put it on. It might take kills the bacteria perhaps it does. It does. I'm not saying don't use it use it but I need to still understand it.
Let's say all of us are very fortunate. We don't come from my country Zimbabwe where the taps do not have water. We didn't have water for almost two years. Do you believe me? And even now it comes and it goes. We don't have electricity every day for approximately 18 hours. It comes and it goes it comes for four hours a day five to seven
Six hours a day and that to a 2am sometimes 1am whole day no electricity, no water. What else? We still love the place. It's still Africa guys. We have a generator, we have a little bit of solar power. We have our little boreholes that happen to work the water tables going down somehow Allah, the government started charging for your balls because they said even though you're extracting the water from down there, it's our water.
It's a natural resource. Even if it's in your property, it's ours. Wow. So you've got to pay for your own board to take out the water. Mashallah. And waiting for the day you're going to pay for the sun to shine because you know what? You're standing and I always say the day we're doing this the day we are charged to breathe Subhanallah don't imagine I have breathe less. We'll have these beautiful art of living breathing. You know?
One wonders What's going on here? I don't have I've only got five p for today. Allah subhanho wa Taala. Grant us ease. It's happening. It's coming. It's coming. Maybe not in our lifetime. But it's heading we're heading there. Clean Air is really a gift of Allah.
So the Hadith says cleanliness is half of faith. You mentioned water, he mentioned water. We as Muslims in Subhana. Allah, we're very, very fortunate to have lots of rules and regulations governing how we use the water and what happens. You don't use too much. You don't use too little. When you pass, you should do this. And you should do that and so on and so forth. That's all there. But do you really think the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him his words would just mean cleanliness is half of your faith. I mean, if I watched myself, what's what is so half of faith, about Hulu, as important as it is the ablution that you you know, you're washing yourself with water.
It goes beyond that way beyond that, that's what I want to talk about today. Way beyond that.
You know, when you have a perverted mind, you can tell the women can tell almost instantly this guy's mind something's wrong with him. You know why? The way and guys don't know this sometimes the way you look already sells you. It gives you a way. May Allah grant us ease. Okay? The way you look, where do you focus, you know,
a face, Mashallah, I might have just looked, then I look down or whatever I did. But the way you look, say something, what do they say? If you didn't know? Or you were not respectful in the way you looked at someone? What do they say? They use the word.
The opposite of clean,
skies. Look, this look, look at this.
It's a dirty look. Don't they use the word
cleanliness, the process, Adam says cleanliness is off of your face, clean the way you look at things. You follow this clean the way you look at things. When you look, give it a genuine look. Pay the almighty in mind.
You know, people say we're looking is free, I promise you it's not. It's not looking is free. It's not between you and the Almighty, be responsible, be responsible. Judaism, Christianity, Islam teaches us about how the gaze is something very, very important. When you have control over it to a degree, then you will definitely be a person who has control over much more.
And this is why when it comes to materialistic things, almost always, when you see something, when you see something or you know about something later than what you have, you no longer value what you have, because you saw it or you knew about it, had you not seen it or known about it, you would still value what you have, can I give you an example. Your watch your phone, your car, your handbag, your perfume, okay? If someone were to tell you and you're a wealthy person that you know, this is the latest and it's the best and they explain to you and so on and so forth. The S 20 the one terabyte the whatever ever else, and you were to purchase it, you would be so excited showing people
the features and getting excited. I look at my phone and check this and check check my car. It's got the latest this and this and that and everyone's looking at the minute meaning you're so excited, right? You're so happy. The moment you driving and you see a car exactly like yours down, you're gonna see Oh, he's got a car as well just like mine. So the first thing that happened is now you've realized that others have also arrived at your level. Okay. Secondly, the minute you know that there's an S 30. By the way, I have a feeling
I don't work for Samsung, okay.
But I am Android Sorry, sorry, you know, it's just like football. Same thing you either this way or that way, I'm no way but phones, I have to be some way, Android because it has a, it has a space of one terabyte. So I don't mind that I don't need to add my little SD cards it has one TB space beat and then we can talk about Apple. So to be honest with you,
you have a phone, I was saying that perhaps they will move from you know what?
They went from 1-234-567-8910, right? From 10, they jumped straight to
you all apples,
they jumped straight to 20. When they jumped to 20 I have a feeling they're gonna go to 30 and 40 and 50. And one day, they'll get 200. And from 100, they're gonna jump to perhaps straight to 200 instead of 101 102, whatever, whatever. Anyway, that's besides the point. But the minute you hear there's an S 30 your phone is if you're a person who follows the trends, and most people do. And if you're a person who's proud about what you have, in terms of the latest, you're going to start saying Well, no, I need the next one. Do you really need it? No, you don't. What happened? You heard about it, or you saw it for as long as you didn't see, or you didn't hear yours was the best. For as
long as you didn't see or hear yours was the best. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease and goodness that can carry on and on that topic can go all the way to spouses, and so on and so forth. Okay. That's why we say when you know how to control yourself, you will be able to control many other aspects of your life.
This Hadith continues beyond mere or beyond just washing with water. You clean the way you look at things, then we have others, you say something and they misinterpret it in a bad way. In a rude way. What do we say? The guy has a what mind?
What do we say? dirty mind? Why? Because Come on, we didn't even think of that. Look where your mind went 30 mind right up to hooroo chateauroux. A man the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him says you know what that cleanliness is half of your face. Clean your mind. Think clean. Think good. Think positive. That's a clean mind. It's part of your faith. It will help you it will empower you. It will give meaning to your life. It will make you want to live when someone does something bad. A true believer initially should be thinking positive. You don't quickly think of the worst thing ever. When you greet a person and they haven't greeted back. If your mind is clean and you're
thinking clean. The first thing that will cross your mind is perhaps they didn't hear me, right. But if you have a mind that still requires cleanliness, the first thing that's going to cross your mind is look at the arrogance. I created her and she didn't even creep back Subhana Allah, right? Look at the difference. And we make these mistakes. We need help in our faith. Here's the Prophet peace be upon him telling us just make sure your thinking is always clean, always positive, as best as you can. You are a human, I am a human, we're all human beings, we will falter. We will actually dwindle sometimes here and there. We might, you know, lose the path slightly, some a little bit long because
we're human. But it's reminders of this nature that will empower us once again, to say no, let me go back to my positive thoughts. It's not all negative.
Let me look at it in a good light. I take it further.
Cleanliness when it comes to your dealings. When it comes to your dealings. A person who cheats in business, we say for example this person is they don't have the ethics. They are not ethical or they're a cheat dirty in their dealings. Be careful. We should not be from among those. And we should remind one another remind people you are close to sit to say, let your dealings be good. You don't need to lie to sell a product. The Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him says there are three types of people whom the almighty won't even look at on the Day of Judgment. One of them and obviously this is a way of just saying that, you know, this is a serious serious matter.
It's a very serious matter. One of the three is a person who takes
false oath in order to sell his product. He says I swear by God that I bought this for 50 pounds and he's sending it to you for 51 pounds and he knows he purchased it for 30
What happened? He denied? Why did he lie? When he needs to clean his act? That's what it is. Look at the word cleanliness being used. He needs to have clean business deals. You can't lie don't lie just say look my brother it's well you can say what law he will lie in meaning I swear by Allah it's terminology that Muslims use when law he my brother, it's the best I can do. He didn't lie to say what law he you know what it's tough on me because of my cost price. But don't lie about the cost price. You know, you have a vehicle and you know, it was knocked but because you change the part, you come and say, never been damaged, never been touched, not tow, I promise you. And sometimes in
our countries, what happens is, people unfortunately do something so illegal in order to sell the vehicle. They trim the mileage. Wow, they tune the mileage. I wonder if they do it here, do they? Do they?
Only some of the men are saying yes, I wonder why. How do you know? Allah grant us is anyway. But my the point I'm making is obviously there to say if people do something illegal and you cheating a person, no matter who they are Muslim, non Muslim, whoever they may be. You don't cheat. You don't deceive others. That's your brother or your sister in humanity. Do you think you're going to get the blessings of the Almighty when you've cheated? When you've deceived someone you sold them something? Do you really think there is going to be blessing in that wealth that you've accumulated as a result of that type of a sale? That type of a deal? Not at all.
The Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him says when you deal with people deal with them in the way that when they depart, they pray for you. They say wow, today I struck a deal. May Allah bless that person. It was so beautiful. You sold a car five years later while they come back. That was such a beautiful car. You were honest. Or they come back and say it was such a good deal. Good deal. Rahim Allah homely in some hand. Inaba. osimhen ilish Tara, Allah has mercy upon the being the human being who is considerate of the buyer when selling and considerate of the seller when buying Whoa, whoa, whoa, what words of the messenger peace be upon him? Allah has mercy on you be considerate of
someone when you're selling your product be considerate of someone when buying What do you mean consideration when buying Say for example, I am I want to purchase a product and it is being sold for
let me use Durham's. Okay, it's being sold for 100 theorems. And you come in and you say,
in fact, I'm changing the currency. Okay, let me use real real is used in Saudi Arabia, okay, there's a reason I'm using it and I'm going to get to that. So they tell you, this is 100 real. Okay. What do you do? Please tell me you want to buy something and they say this is 100 real? What's the first thing you do?
Say please? Okay, I hear the sister say that say it again. Please, sister. You're right. It's a sooner to bargain. My brother's remember, it's up, it is really encouraged to bargain. And this is why in the Middle East it works differently from other countries because that was their norm. If you don't bargain they'll be excited they'll sell you knowing that this person didn't mind paying the price. I didn't cheat them. But they normally in a lot of businesses, especially the informal ones. When they tell you the first price they don't expect you to pay it. They don't they really want to I remember when I went to India, I was in New Delhi with my wife and they told me Be careful don't go
alone and I'm a person I've even driven here alone from London by the way, I don't like whole entourage and people and I don't mind make your mistake or two but be your man yourself. You don't have to actually be you know,
I see brother ishfaq is smiling because he's always told me if ever you want to go somewhere you know what and Mashallah, we have gone to a few places together. And it's always been Mashallah pleasure. But no offense, I still enjoy driving on my own. So Pamela. So I was there with my wife, and we're walking down and I noticed a very nice briefcase. I did not want it by the way. I just noticed it. And I told her look at this, look at how cute it is. It's small, it's nice. So, the guy says he took it down, he says looking what was the crime?
What was my crime? I looked at it. So he took it down. He says he you know now in order to view in Hindi, whatever, he was saying chassell rupee, rupee and I'm like, gosh, I didn't ask you what it was you know, chalsa rupee means 400 rupees, right. He says Chancellor rupee. So, I looked at him and I thought this guy, I need to teach him a lesson stopzilla I lied to him. What did I say to him? I told him
what how to sort of imitate it.
You know what that means?
I pointed to the back. I said, Well, someone there further back was about to give it to me for 100. Guess what he says? Jelena. Do
you know what that means? He says, Okay, give me 90, it's fine. What? You dropped from 400, right to 90 in like three seconds. Whoa, whoa, that's the opposite of the Mercedes. Zero to 60. In one second three seconds. This was like three 400 all the way to 290. I said, No, he dropped it further and further. The man came down to 60. And I told my wife, some handler, we got to take it. Guess what, I bought it.
I bought it. But the point I'm raising here is you have to the first thing you do is you haggle. Right? And stuff like that day, I lied. I won't lie to you. But the reason I wanted to put him off, I said, hey, look there, they were saying 90. I didn't say what they were saying. 94. But
that's just my own way of trying to trying to justify the lie.
But anyway, what happened is I ended up getting it but I wasn't too happy still I have it. It's a souvenir at my home. And I know every time I look at it reminds me of this. The first thing you do is you haggle. So people believe that when you go to Medina, you don't haggle. Have you ever come across those people? They said if you go to Medina, you must just pay the price. It's the it's the city of the messenger salada, which is true, the pleasant city of Medina, they say if they say 100 give them 100. That's not true. The Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him tells you to Hegel is as soon as it's my way, you know, it's okay. You can tell them no 50. And you can handle ridiculously where
do I get that from my own personal experience? Imagine the guy says this is 100 quotes in Nam and give me give me for 100. And he says, okay, he said, I'm getting it for 100. Give me 90, would you ever dream of that in the UK? No chance Subhanallah unless the same gentleman from down there comes to live here.
But my brothers and sisters, the second thing you do is
you expect the deal to go through and the product given to you, right? When you're haggling, you're not supposed to squeeze the man to the degree that you know, he's not going to make a reasonable profit. So for example, the guy drops and drops and comes down to 200. Okay, and then he tells you look, I can't manage I really can't you say no, give me 100. Then you tell him, right? I'm taking 20 give me this is a poor man trying to live he's making a living, he has kids, he has family. The Prophet Muhammad says give him that amount so that at least you will earn a reward for having helped him and his family. Don't squeeze him to the degree that he can't even make the 50 p on the product
that he really wants. He's not going to and you know who asks for discounts more.
Thank you, they said it I didn't. The rich. When Allah gives you millions, you're the guy who will not always trust me, there are some lovely people. But we somehow come in with poor a poor person on the side of the street selling peanuts. And he's selling them for a certain amount. And we'll say no, this and we'll make sure we can clean all your stock give us everything we give you x and you know, you dropped him so so low. You were supposed to have told him keep your peanuts keep everything this is an amount go and feed your family. Goodbye. That's what you're supposed to do and was blessed you with so much. But rather than that you didn't deal with him. You squeezed him so
much when he goes home. He's gonna say today, there was a deal, but a man it was terrible. He will think about it. Is there is their blessings in your deal. You might go home and say I struck a deal. bargain. Who did you get that bargain from? And how much did you bargain? Yes. If it was easy, and you told him no, come on, do me something better.
And he did do something a little bit better and have the legs permissible. It's okay, like I told you it's asuna. But when you squeezed him the Prophet says and these are the words I mentioned earlier. Allah has a special mercy upon those who are considered of the buyer when selling and considerate of the seller when buying. I'm buying I'm considerate of the seller who is he? If he is a massive wealthy man, then I can squeeze I can tell him know that half a p means a lot to me, I'm buying 500 of this and I need a discount and so on. But if you if he is a person struggling and you're not, please
enter the business not a few weeks ago somewhere in Johannesburg.
And these people recognized me they were Muslims.
And naturally they wanted to give me a discount
and I said system please
Don't ever give me anything for free. Or at a discounted rate, it is an honor to pay the price. If I were to walk into pick and pay, that's a shop like tescos. Right? If I were to walk into shoprite, or pick and pay or checkers, those are the shops, they're back in South Africa. I would never ask them for a discount. Why should I walk into your business that is small and struggling, may not maybe not struggling, but smart, smaller, and expect? I don't even want it. It's an honor. It's a pleasure. I will give you by all means and don't if you do, I'm not going to come back to your business. I don't want a freebie. I entered the restaurant. And by the way, some handler we do have
friends, but sometimes, you know, you don't really know the people too well, but they know you and they want to give you a discount. It's fair. You understand, okay? They might want to say, don't you we don't want to charge you. But I promise you, if there is no close friendship, you don't have to do that. I consider it something that
I wouldn't really take. I don't want it. I remember entering restaurant, and the brother would know who he is. But he's not here. He says
my bill because I have Mashallah large family. My bill was 160 pounds.
And they chopped it to 80 pounds. Guess what I did? I was so happy to accola Hey, brother, thank you so much, my brother. And Allah bless you and where it's where you have to tip the people who work around you I put 80 pounds, I still paid the 160 done. You know why? Because sometimes it will be more blessing for you to have paid that than not to have paid it at times SubhanAllah. And a guy like me, there is another factor. Maybe I can let you in on it. Do you want to know
we have the dean to protect. We have Islam to look after. We have the option to look after we have the sooner to look after. I can't sell it for 60 equipment. To get my point.
People look at the scholars and they turn away quickly because why? There's been a notion that well, we underpaid him anyway, it's been a notion that you know what these guys are looking for discounts. I walked into a hardware some years ago, and one of the workers told me if you go to the owner, he'll give you 10% I tell him brother, I think he needs it more than I do. He was shocked. He says What did you say? I said how paid it's okay to three reasons one is give it I don't want to go and beg someone for something. number one number two is you know how cheap that makes a person sometimes.
When I walk when I come to you, I want to see a smile on your face. You must be excited the man has not taken a penny from me. The man has not definitely not asked me for any favors. That's when you feel like you know, Mashallah there's a bit of respect there.
May Allah grant us ease anyway, I went off slightly, but the main point i'm saying is, you don't squeeze a person when buying from them just in the same way that
you wouldn't like to
sell a product yourself at below your cost or at something you don't consider a good profit margin.
My brothers and sisters, this topic of cleanliness moves even beyond your dealings.
And there is still a lot that we could say about dealings, but let me continue. Okay.
Do you know one of the biggest issues regarding cleanliness
is to lead a clean social life,
your communications, your living, those you live with, how's your life
with them? If you make people's lives difficult, those who work with you, those who live with you, those who interact with you, if you make their life difficult, you need help. Regarding cleaning your act, you need to clean your character. We live in extended families in a lot of cases. It's possible only if everyone is selfless.
Otherwise it's impossible. Impossible. They will come days when you have to do things you don't really want to do but for the sake of your kids for the sake of your spouse. I do think sometimes.
sorry to admit that I don't want to do but I have to because you know what? I'll do it with a smile. I'll pretend like I'm so excited about for the sake of my kids and my family, little kids. So Pamela there good to see you excited, but I didn't really want to do it. But I'm going to because you know what? It's the character of a person. You owe it to them. You are the Father. Come on. How much time have you spent there, put your phone aside, clean your act.
So if you don't know how to use your phone, you're not clean enough or you can do better than that.
Those of us living in an extended family you have in laws and outlaws and all of those right? You know what? You've got to make life easy. Mothers in law sometimes are superb human beings. Only if they continuously Think of how can I make my daughter in law's life easy? Then they are superb.
They exist they do.
And another thing when we impose things on others, we need help. This is an independent human being, I always get questioned on the day of eat. It is the happy day right?
Where should we go whose house can we go to? My mom lives down the road, my husband's meaning my in laws are just down the other road. What should we do? What's the right answer? Who knows? Please tell me on the day of read.
wife's mom lives down the road and mother in law lives the other side of the road. Where should she go? Please let me know.
both why not is the day of he Mashallah go there for lunch in there for supper? Go there for supper there for lunch? Subhana. Allah, what's the big deal? No, you can't just because husband wants to show you know what? I'm going to tag along with everybody else. And I'm going to show them the man here.
You're not the man. I've said it before. And I repeat it again. A real man is he who can stand up for his wife. I promise you You're a real man. And stand up in a beautiful way. say Listen, you know what? I love your mom. I've done it. Me. I'm gulping. I've done it. You tell your mom, lovely person. absolutely superb human being.
Ma'am, you know what?
Yes. I love you. I respect you. I never say or do something disrespectful. I might say or do things that may be slightly hurtful to you, not because I was wrong or disrespectful. But because you needed help interpret or process what was just happening here. You cannot use religious blackmail to oppress this person from the right that is owed to her. You can't. That's not religion. That's not fair at all. You're not clean, man. Your dealings with your wife is not clean. Your dealings with your folks are not clean, clean your act by standing up for justice in a good way. In a good way. You don't have to make an issue out of it. It's not a court case.
Hello, I've explained to you guys in the past
that I finally understood where the term in law comes from.
You know it right?
Everything is a court case, you got to have the lawyers involved, right? Everything is law, law in law. Why in law, what is law got to do with marriage? Come on, man. SubhanAllah. It's another thing I I hadn't understood. But now I know. You heard me say, if you have a mother, she becomes a mother in law. You heard me say that one, right. It's quite a popular one. If you have a father, he becomes a father in law. If you have a son, what does he become son in law? You have a daughter, she becomes a daughter in law.
What is your wife become?
She's the law. Mashallah, you get that isn't it? It's quite a common one. I think it's done its rounds. Actually, that's one of the most viral sort of little clips that I've seen in a while of mine.
But my brothers and sisters, it's a fact you need to clean your act of a man primarily, this hadith is definitely referring to the blue and the water. We cannot deny that primarily it's referring to that. But by extension, it's referring to cleaning everything. clean yourself, clean your system, clean the way you live, don't just try and please people, sometimes a little discomfort will actually have long term benefit. You might have to stand the ground and explain you know what, we're not going to be able to do this. There's another way of doing the eat one eat here one a day and make sure it happens that way. Mashallah. Don't say, we haven't eat here next time they and then the
next time you say, Well, you know one more time here. That's what people do. They just buy time. What Allah knows your heart.
And it extends way beyond that. The issue of cleanliness goes also into the intentions we have. When we do things the sincerity we have the genuineness we have the love we have for one another, and the love we have for the creatures of the Almighty. That to me is one of the most impressive things. It's absolutely amazing. You take a look at that, that the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him statements
where he speaks about how you won't achieve mercy unless you have mercy on other human beings.
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Love doesn't have mercy on those who don't have mercy on human beings. Why?
not only human beings it extends to animals extends to everything else. There is integration that proves that those who are kind to a dog or a cat achieved forgiveness and paradise narrations.
Allah says, I didn't judge them based on their sin. I judge them based on their repentance based on the mercy that was in their hearts.
Do you know there's an aeration of
a woman who sinned so much? And one day?
She was kind to a cat.
She earned forgiveness.
People must be thinking, why? How come she just earned forgiveness by being kind to a cat? I want to end off by telling you why.
In fact, there's one more thing that I end up so this is the second last thing.
Who created you, Allah? The Almighty created you? Right? Are you the only one he created? No. He's created everyone else.
Right? Are we the only species he made? No. He's created birds and whatever else and animals and fish and everything in whatever even the ecosystem and the environment and all of this the creature of the Almighty, if I really want to impress my maker, I need to make sure that everything that he made is very, very special to me. Why that's when I'm going to be a VIP in his eyes. When you love someone, everything connected to them, is beloved to you. You won't even harm it. Imagine, you want to marry someone and you want to prove to them I'm talking about marriage, right? You want to prove to them that you love them. You know what? I give you one example. So halala there is a
there is a book that makes mention of a guy who was crazy. Okay, in Arabic, it's known, right? Much known and laner. Right? So much known is a guy who's crazy for this woman known as Laila. So one day they were people were praying. And this much knew this guy who was crazy about his Laila. He saw laners dog.
And he started running behind the dog. The idea was, Hey, you know what, even if I kiss the dog of this woman, at least, you know, I can prove that I love her. You see, he's running behind the dog and the people who are praying.
They told him
Why didn't you join our prayer? You are running behind planers dog, right?
Do you know what he says? Amazing.
He says, if your concentration in your prayer was equivalent to my concentration behind the dog, you wouldn't have noticed me. So kinda love you soon. So who loved who more here, man? Come on. If the love that that man had of the dog was transferred to those who were praying, meaning they had that love of Allah, they were concentrating, he would have been seen. But they're busy paying lip service to the premise and I'm standing and I'm checking this guy's being with a dog. This guy's running over here on that side into the street. Imagine I wonder what type of a mosque that was in the first place. That's what we do in prayer is awkward and you're worried about everybody else concentrates
clean your acts of Allah. May Allah grant us concentration.
So the last thing I wanted to say was, you know, the verse of the Quran that was read.
The Quran says
it fella who was sure I'm sorry.
That's what he started with. It says, Whoever comes with a good deed, that good deed shall be multiplied by 10, he will be given a reward tenfold. Now listen to the verse, what does it mean when you do a good deed? It will be multiplied, when will it be multiplied, it will only be multiplied on the Day of Judgment.
If you come with the deed, on the day of judgment, then we will multiply it.
What is meant by coming with a deed? You know, when you do a good deed, it's easy. I can pray, I can give a charity, I can be kind. I can, you know, help here and help there. That's quite easy. It's quite simple to do that. But what's more difficult is to clean my act in a way that I can carry that deed without losing it throughout my life and getting to the day of judgment and I still have it in my hand and I'm giving it across and I say I brought this deed. So Allah says whoever brings a deed whoever comes with the deed, then they deserve that it be multiplied by 10
wouldn't lose the deed. When you backbite about someone when you deceive someone, when you harm someone, when you swallow someone, when you abuse someone, when you belittle someone, no matter who they are, you lose your good deeds. So when you come in the day of judgment and you're looking for your prayer, the reward of that prayer is gone to the person who abused you no longer find your prayer. Hence, it cannot be multiplied. You lost it, some of us pray before we get off that mat we've already given and donated that prayer to someone else. Why? Because we start backbiting we start talking, we start deceiving, we start cheating, we start belittling, don't belittle those whom
you disagree with, I always say that, this evening, as I was driving up, I decided you a thought came to my mind. And I said, I need to say this. So I turned on Instagram, and I did a little live session. Some of you might have seen it right. And I said, there you know what, we will differ, we must differ, we can differ. We are human beings, I can differ with you. And I differ, I may differ strongly, there's no harm. And I will also make mention of the fact that you know, the Christians may believe that we will not have entry into heaven. And the Jews may believe that both the Christians and the Muslims may not have entry into paradise. And we may believe that they may not
have Do you know what? Everyone has a right to their belief. It doesn't hurt me when people say, I don't think you're going to paradise. It doesn't hurt me because my belief is something else. But all I deserve is for someone to differ with me respectfully they can tell me Look, I don't think you guys are right. I think you know, you guys are wrong. I I really think you've lost heaven. I've been told that right? by some of the people I get along with some of my friends. I had a friend when I was at school, he told me you're such a nice guy. The only thing lacking in your life is Jesus.
And he didn't know that I was about to tell him when I have Jesus in my life
may have lost peace and blessings be upon him.
But anyway, that was a discussion but I didn't feel bad. I wasn't offended. It's his right to believe that we cannot synchronize the minds of anyone and everyone to who love each other completely will still think differently. I mean, we are going to be served a scrumptious meal by my Lahore, you know, there might be a few things there. And some may prefer one thing over another big deal so long as you've eaten before you went It's okay.
So my brothers and sisters, protect your deeds. When you do a good deed protected by doing what Be kind to others. treat people well don't cheat, steal, deceive, abuse, belittle belittling someone, don't belittle them, you have the right to disagree, but you don't have the right to belittle. Why should I belittle you? Why should I make you feel so small, we call each other dirty names and so on. And we expect to get our good deeds to come with us on the Day of Judgment. So Allah says if you become conscious of this, and if you looked after your deeds, surely you deserve that that deed multiply be multiplied for you by 10. Because to look after the deed is 10 times more difficult than
to actually do the deed Mashallah, this is one of the longest that I've spoken
at these motivational evenings but Mashallah the crowds been quite good. hamdulillah thank you so much everyone for coming this evening. I really pray that the almighty bless every one of you and every one of humankind, and all his creatures May Allah subhanho wa Taala alleviate the suffering of all those who are struggling across the globe no matter who they are. I take a moment to pray for all those affected by Coronavirus. No matter what faith they belong to what nationality they are, what color they are, where they're from their humankind. We pray that the almighty grant and cure and the almighty protect every one of us say me and may the almighty have mercy upon those who
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